How millionaires run their family

as a CEO and business owner you should be running your family better than 99% of normal people out there there's three things you're doing in your business that if you applied it to your family would turn it from frustration and disappointment to one of motivation and truly feeling supported and in the end would help you in your business even more when my wife and I decided to have kids we essentially went from just being two in love cuddle bugs to getting pregnant with our first child starting two new companies 3 months after giving birth we

found out we were pregnant on the second one we decided to move twice in a 2year period to say that our life was hectic would be an understatement one of the big things that we had to come to a realization around is that we needed to synchronize we needed to talk so now every week we get together we have a very structured meeting that I want to share with you that allows us to feel in sync here's how it works so I'm going to break this into two parts the first part is who you should

be meeting with every week and the second part is what's the agenda the five core areas that I use in in my mind when I'm talking to make sure I cover all points so the who is first off your partner in life second if you have kids you should probably meet with your kids my other favorite area is brothers or sisters and then also your family members and your parents and your friends think about the folks that matter a lot to you and make sure that you have at minimum a 15-minute conversation or even better

maybe an hour meeting like I do with my wife now here are the five agenda items we go over every time we meet number one is we talk about our wins I want to know where she's winning at I want to share my win I want to set the tone of this meeting so three wins is the first place we start the second is we rate our role see I think most relationships end up not working out because at some point there is a fracture over time that fracture gets bigger and bigger and bigger and

by the time they realize they're as wi as the Grand Canyon standing on the edges of the cliff wondering what the other person is thinking and doing so if every week I ask my wife how am I doing for you as a husband rate me as a husband it's out of 10 maybe I'll get a four or five maybe I just did something that really upset her I've got to be on the receiving end of that feedback I listen I hear I ask could you provide any more information could you explain that but the cool

part is the only response that's appropriate is thank you that's it and then she asked me that same question it's something we look forward to because we have an opportunity to express ourselves in a way that doesn't feel like we're attacking each other and we're genuinely curious on how we can become better for the other person number three is calendar review will always review the next 6 weeks of Our Lives what's going on for my wife what's going on for me trips travel workshops events client meetings people flying in to meet with us just as

an opportunity for us to review and see if there's things we can do to make that experience better the most important thing to figure out in that part of our meeting is what's going on on the weekend if we're in a rush we always do at least the weekend then at least 2 weeks but preferably 6 weeks out so we're never feeling like we're responding to information that we weren't aware of too busy people things can get a little crazy we need to synchronize and make that happen number four is our scorecard first off we

measure our financial I'm a big fan of teaching my wife how I manage all the Investments I want to make sure that she's always in the loop with what we're doing and she never feels like she doesn't know where anything's going on the other area is our core values so as a family we have core values and we use those to guide us so we always measure ourselves on a weekly basis how we showing up in society how are we communicating that with our kids we score ourselves and then finally we look at the core

goals that we've set for ourselves each quarter so scorecard is really a way for us to stop measure get a quantitative feedback loop on how we're doing in regards to the way we want to measure and show up number five is discussions whatever areas to discuss and have conversations around we always just list those in both my wife and I have access to a Google doc and we'll go in and add items to that there might be stuff around screen time but also the projects that are going on in our lives we're buying real estate

there's all these bigger type of activities that we use as kind of a catchall to bring the other person up to speed that is how we do it if you want the link to the week agenda just click the link below Go download your copy that's my gift to all of you that's how you keep a pulse on your relationship but the next section is the Rhythm that you need to follow and that is where the real magic happens number two is quarterly Retreats we run three quarterly planning sessions every year and then the last

one is annual planning for the next year back in the day just got really hard trying to both be driven entrepreneurs have little babies and be there for each other and eventually I thought to myself why don't we run the same quarterly planning that I do in my businesses for our lives and that quarterly planning Rhythm getting a line has changed everything for us so here's the format for those Retreats I break it into four key areas the first one is we review we look at the previous quarter and we ask ourselves did we enjoy

that would we do it again did we feel over scheduled did we feel like there wasn't enough stuff the first thing we always do is reflect on the previous period review that time to take those learnings into the next next section number two is we set goals for the quarter or for the year and this is personally my favorite because it gives us a chance to like sit down and dream a little bit what's possible what could we create around our health our relationship our business all different areas and it's really fun because we look

at both professional our businesses our careers what do we want to do and then also personal the relationship we want to have with our boys are there other people in our lives we want to get to know better do we have enough time to recharge for ourselves and we put both of those categories together we spend individual time planning and then we come together and we share it with the other person and see if there's opportunities to support number three is the schedule that this template that I teach people that has the whole year on

one page and we can take all of the different things that we're planning to do and we plug it in using color coding to denote different things that are personal or family stuff we put it all in there we start to plan the calendar and then the last part is complex I'm trying to see if there's any dates that overlap commitments we've made to other people and I'm always asking myself would I regret not doing this so that if this was the last year of my life and that's all I had I would feel really

good with that time spent so I'm always looking at the calendar and I'm negotiating and I'm collaborating with my wife and we're literally co-creating a regret minimization strategy around our personal and professional goals now that you have the plan you need this next step to make sure this whole thing works in a weekly Cadence about a dozen years ago my wife and I went to Montreal for a coup's event went there cuz I wanted to learn how I could be a better partner for my wife Etc and what I discovered is there was a fear

a real fear that I may go on this journey of self-improvement and growth and leave my wife behind here's what I learned and it changed everything for me is often times when we're climbing the mountain we have this desire to reach down and pull people up if anything we want it for them more than they want it for themselves but you got understand the person that's on that Journey they're looking up at you going I don't know if I can keep up and I feel like you're going to grow so far that you're going to

wake up one day and not want to be with me anymore what we want to do is we want to hold space for our partners we try to pull them up the mountain essentially in that constrained form there's no light there's no nothing to get inside instead do this hold the space for your partner and that changed everything for us and it allowed us to understand how to create alignment specifically using the mvv framework that I want to share with you guys now so the MVB framework starts with Mission it's very important that we have

a North star we have a direction that the whole team or your family is aiming towards because what I learned a long time ago is we don't get the life we want we get the life that we focus on and if we don't have a clear mission for where we're going then it's easy for us to feel confused and not really be intentional so every family should sit down and be deliberate around the mission statement for their family here's the one for Renee and I as a family we want to inspire other families to pursue

a lifelong journey of exploration personal development or growth and accountability in order to better serve their community and family having that mission statement allows us to show up and play full out aligned with our bigger purpose the second part to the MVB framework is vision and that's all about the destination where are you trying to end up the intentionality of it deciding I want to be personally an epic husband for my wife independent of how she shows up see most people say well my partner needs to beat me 50/50 that makes zero sense it's not

50/50 it's 100% % you show up at 100% 100% of the time all the time not requiring anything you will see your whole relationship transformed so here's my personal relationship vision for my wife to live in a place of love and gratitude compassion and adventure for my lady to make her needs mine and give unconditionally to feel her Radiance and Beauty at every moment I'm just going to encourage you to sit down and just think about it what would you want to Aspire to for your relationship write that down make a commitment to live that

as much as you can every day the third element of the mvv framework is value see in business I hire and I fire against our values the difference is in our family we use it as one opportunity to catch people doing great things what I call bright spots when my children are doing things that are aligned with our values we recognize that we want to catch people doing awesome stuff and we want to use it to correct them so here are core values in the Martell family we prioritize essentially we put first we appreciate we

love and support each other we talk we communicate in positive ways we Bond we have fun together quite a bit of fun we believe we love God ourselves and each other we impact we love and serve others we overcome we do hard things and we move we are healthy and active use these for inspiration but better yet sit down with your family and ask them how do we want to show up what do we believe in what are the values that we would die for and come up with a hand ful that maybe you already

have you just got to formalize them but take the time to be intentional about your values so that's how you run your family like a business now if you want to learn more about how I schedule my day as a multi-million dollar CEO then be sure to click the link on screen and I'll see you on the other side