all right good people so this video doesn't have any particular structures just some things I just want to talk about when it comes to dealing with all these things but one of the main issues I want to cover or really is just all TI and to one but it's just mindset the mindset that keeps you in the place that you're in the mindset that is putting you down the mindset that has you struggling but you got to be kind to yourself I'm not going to say nice because nice people get ran over be kind to yourself don't be too sweet don't be too soft on yourself when you're on this journey but you don't want to be too hard on yourself you don't want to beat yourself up you got to give yourself some more credit we just don't have things figured out if you watching this I suspect you to be around the age in between 15 to 25 if you're older still doesn't matter um but we don't have life figured out you know what I'm saying my 70y old grandparents they still figuring out life they tell every day we figuring it out baby you know what I'm saying but you never figure it out and anybody who says they haven't figured out they are dead they lying they lying to you they lying to themselves and that's just what it is but bottom line we not worried about nobody else we're worried about ourselves you have to fix you you're working on you truly there's nothing wrong with you but there's something about your life that you're upset with so realistically we have to fix those things but don't compare yourself to other people just because somebody else is doing something and you are not doing it that doesn't mean anything you could do whatever you want if you put your mind to it if you have control over it you can do it you can achieve it anything outside of your control you can't worry about that what people think about you that does not matter the way people feel about you it doesn't matter unless you care for that opinion now with that being said if the reason why they feel negatively about you is for a reason that you have no control over of course it's going to hurt but there's nothing you can do about that if somebody hates you for you being real or somebody hates you they feel ill about you and you did nothing wrong to them of course it hurts if you care about them but there's nothing you can do all you can do is control the things that you can control and be better every day when you're on this journey don't look at it you know 10 years from now or one year from now take it one day at a time every day conquer yourself every day win that battle every day write out a list of all the things that you like about yourself write out a list about all the things you don't like about yourself all the things you want to change every day you should be making decisions that get you closer to that best version of yourself that's why it's important to set goals it's important to have a Target in mind because how could you say you were a good shooter you know or you were shooting basketball how could you say you're a good shooter if there was no goal to shoot the ball into there was no hoop for the ball to fall into you would just be shooting in the air and there's nothing to kind of you know what I'm saying Mark your uh progress there's nothing to claim um there's nothing for you to there's no reason for you to claim to to be accurate if there's no target so at the same time there's no reason for you to beat up on yourself if you don't have a Target you need to establish a Target you need to have some goals and they need to be good goals they need to be realistic goals they need to be things that you can achieve in a short period of time an intermediate period of time and a long period of time like I said the biggest one for me was starting off with um just winning every day you know simply every day because that's all we have we don't have tomorrow and we don't have yesterday we experience everything as today so why not only worry about today prepare for your future embrace your future uh learn from your past you know what I'm saying embrace your past and be thankful for those experiences good bad and ugly because they all teach you something but it's all about taking everything one day at a time I do this little silly exercise and you could do this too if you ever get into the situation where you feel like you're being controlled by your urges if you feel like you know you're being you're feeling depressed or you anxious about something literally announce your footsteps I could be driving I'll announce my hand taps or you know I move my fingers but I move left right left right left right left right left right I might even go left left right right but I'm announcing what's going on in the present moment I'm not thinking uh 25 Steps From Now is it going to be right uh 25 steps back was it left or right I'm not thinking about none of that I'm right here right now I'm dealing with everything stop giving yourself problems that you don't have and stop worrying about things that that you cannot control of course it's hard you're human and you have a brain that is so strong that is weak of course you're going to have issues of course you're going to go through things of course you're going to struggle but if you want it if you want to achieve something you got to go through the fire you got to walk through the fire you have to go back into the fire and see you know what's fueling that fire was it some type of trauma was it you know the lack of a relationship is it because you feel lonely is it because you're stressed out you need to find out what it is in your life that's making you feel the way you feel and you know making you choose the things that you do in your life where are your decisions being influenced from and when you go back into that fire it's going to burn it's going to hurt there's going to be a lot of smoke in there you're not really going to be able to see very clearly sometimes we know exactly why um that fire is being fueled and sometimes we don't want to go back into that fire because we tried so hard to run away from it but what you don't realize is when you're running away from your fire when you're running away from your trauma there's a gas lean trail that you're leaving behind that fire just keeps on running keeps on running and when you lay down at night it comes to get you when you stress out it comes to get you when you go through situations that remind you of those situations it comes to get you when you go through situations and people challenge you your traumas and all that comes to get you but when you turn around and you go back and you go to extinguish that fire you become the firefighter of course you're going to get burnt but there's certain protections there's things you can wear to help you in the aid of fighting this fire but you have to extinguish it nobody else can they can give you the supplies they can help you blow out a few Flames but the flame is inside of you nobody can reach inside of you if you don't allow them to but the main thing is you allowing it to you need to allow you know people to help you you need to be vulnerable so that people can help you but most importantly so you can help yourself cuz when you push these things down when you push these traumas down and you run away from your problems they just snowball and the bigger they get the the harder they're going to crush you the worse it's going to be when it actually hurts you so it's important for you to face your demons it's important for you to sit in that room alone it's important for you to sit in that room and be bored learn how to embrace border you know sit there and not scroll on your phone sit there and get away from the things that trigger you whether that be people places or activities things you hear see whatever whatever experiences trigger you or trigger a negative reaction out of you you need to identify those things analyze them and stay away from them but at the same time at some point you're going to have to walk close to that fire and build the resilience not to be burned you know what I'm saying if if you don't want to be around negative people or toxic people yes remove yourself from those situations but also learn how to navigate through those people learn how to not give those people your attention and your energy the same way with bad habits and things like that yes you abstain from them you get away from them but learn how to sit in the room with them learn how to not feed into that learn how to not give those things your energy because once your energy is consumed there's this NeverEnding Loop that keeps keeps on going keeps on going even when you don't think about it and everything you do it leaves an imprint on you believe it or not from the smallest minute things is always going to leave an imprint on you you are a canvas and you will forever be painted that's just the way life is but bottom line no matter what you going through no matter what your goal is you always have to remind yourself of why you're doing something it is important to have a why your why is not going to last every second of the day you're not going to think about your why every second of the day but it's a Target to get you back on track just like I said earlier how could you say you're a good shooter if you never had a hoop to put the ball in how could you say that your rifle is on site if you're not aiming at anything you have no reference point that's why it's important to have your why if you go around through life and you don't have a reason to do things whenever your your um you know your motivation runs out or whenever times get tough and you don't feel like doing something you have no reference point you have nothing to motivate you to do anything you're not tracking your progress so you don't see what's going going on but if you had children if you had a wife if you had a family or somebody depending on you that would make you get up and go imagine if you worked the nastiest job or you did the nastiest thing and it was just terrible for your mental health but if you didn't go do that your kids would star your wife would star your family would die out I believe you know with better judgment I believe you would go work that job and you would be miserable now am I saying that's the healthiest thing ever absolutely not but it proves a point that you're willing to do things that you don't want to do that literally make you miserable for the people you love and one of those people most importantly in your life is yourself so when it's something that you want to do and it's something that you want to achieve you have to have that same mentality treat your dreams your Visions yourself that love as a child protect the child your inner child never let that child die you are your family first your family comes from you you meet your wife you meet your partner if you're a lady you meet your husband you choose your partner and then y'all build a family whatever y'all create you had to be a part of building that so look at yourself as your future as your legacy you have to protect that Legacy so no matter what it is that you're going through no matter no matter what it is that you want to achieve remind yourself of your why my legacy I'm protecting my legacy I'm protecting my child I'm protecting everything that I stand for and every decision I make has to lead me closer to this because if we spin it the other way if there's something I don't want to be but every decision I make is bringing me closer to that you going away from your purpose you're going away from who you are and it's all about establishing that love and compassion for yourself and a lot of people who are going through things feel like they don't love themselves a lot of people who are traumatized by things feel like they don't love themselves but if you're watching this video you had to love yourself you cared enough to check on yourself you cared enough to try to improve yourself if you searching up a video on how to love yourself or how to fix this or how to fix that that's selflove because CU if you didn't care about yourself you wouldn't be watch watching this if you didn't care about yourself you wouldn't be seeking a certain feeling or a certain love or a certain understanding because you would not care you're not neglecting yourself though you love yourself you probably don't understand love where you probably don't have a uh IDE idea of Love or you may be searching for the identity of Love or what that means to you now just talk to people you know figure out what it is that they believe it is and through talking to people and learning and listening to other people's experiences it kind of helps you develop your own things it's like if you didn't know what job you wanted to work and you ask a bunch of people say hey man what you do for work he like man I'm a plum I make good money but I hate it and then you talk to another dude it's like bro I'm a car salesman I make a lot of money but the hours are crazy but I love my job and I love cars and then another dude he works in a restaurant he's like man the restaurant is pretty busy I do get good tips but you know what I'm saying it's just crazy and then you see another dude he works at a grocery store and he's content but he doesn't make enough money and when you're listening to all these things you're like I could do that I could do that but I don't want to do that I like this and this and that but I like this and this and that and all these things are going to start to cling to you and through hearing other people's experiences and seeing the differences in people's lives you going to see the things that resonate with you and that's how you find your identity outside of you doing things for yourself outside of you trying things for yourself you're just getting different perspectives you're hearing different things those are experiences that is wisdom you gaining because you listening you retaining that knowledge you're being a sponge you got to soak up what's around you good bad and ugly that's why it's important for you to have a good environment if you want to be the best version of yourself you need to surround yourself around people and things that are going to push you you have to be open-minded and open and receptive to the things around you that's why it's important to have a great environment you want to be a sponge and not a rick a sponge would absorb much more water in a sink than a brick would in the ocean so if you are open and receptive it doesn't matter if you get this much information or this much information you will take that in and you'll be able to use that but I don't care if somebody gave you a whole library that was the size of the Earth if you are a brick you're not going to observe that water you're just going to sink to the bottom and crumble eventually be a sponge soak up your environment surround yourself around good people and one of those people that you need to surround yourself around that is very good for you is yourself nobody know knows you better than you nobody knows what makes you tick like you do Nobody Knows the thoughts that creep into your mind at 3:00 a. m. and you can't expect people to you can't expect people to understand you because sometimes you don't even understand you so why would you be upset that some people don't understand you when you don't understand yourself sometimes and that's fine but I tell you one thing that makes us confused about who we are is the fact that we don't separate the levels of our brain a lot of us think that we are one part it's just us and brain you know it's our body and brain or two parts have you want to put it but your brain is so complex you don't even realize it most people think that they are their thoughts they are their desires and all this and that but that's not true because you perceive those things I've mentioned this before if you close your eyes and think about your next thought you feel it's like this light bulb almost shining on your brain like where's the next thought that's because you aren't your thoughts you aren't your desires your thoughts and desires come into your brain based off the things you've been through that's why they influence a certain way that's why they feel a certain way that's why when you break up with your girlfriend and you see those flowers you think about it but you aren't those thoughts they are a part of you some of it is not some of it is just stuff you didn't heard in the background all those times you passed by the TV and there was things playing in the background all those things go into here go into your brain and you know get marked on a subconscious but that's why it's important for you to understand that you are the overseer of everything you are the captain of your soul you get to choose how things go I cannot control what goes into my head in my brain I cannot control what bird flies over my head but I can control whether it lays a nest or not same thing with life you are in control even when you feel like you are in control even when you're not in control you are in control because if you're not in control you have given up control and that is control you are in control of way more than you think now what really tricks trips people out is that they feel like they're not in control because something is being held over their head I can't quit my job because I have bills true enough I can't do this because of this true enough but the thing is you could if you really wanted to but you're not willing to deal with the consequences now I'm not going to sit here and say that I would quit my job if it was my own only form of income and I wanted to lose my house of course I did but if I really didn't want to work that job I could quit and go live on the streets I'm not saying that's the best idea but I'm just giving you ideas of how much control you actually have in this world if you to drive your car off a bridge you could do that if you wanted to climb a tree and then cut it down and then eat it you could is that the best idea absolutely not but I'm just letting you know how much control you have so when you understand that you really sit there with yourself and realize what consequences are you willing to deal with are you willing to maybe risk you know losing something or somebody or are you willing to risk your sanity your peace your frame of mind that goes with your decision too when you falling into those traps of consuming that cheap dopamine and letting that cheap dopamine influence you and motivate you to do things that you're not proud of is it more important to you to get a little Comfort to get a little convenience or is it more important to you to become the best version of yourself is it more important for you to put miles in between you and the part of you that you don't want to be while accepting who you are and what you are and what you do embracing it too but also understanding that that's that's not all you are and that's not what you want to be and that's not what you want to do and while doing those things it may not be something that you are uh happy with or you know it's it's it's something that you're not happy with but that doesn't mean you're less than anybody we all make mistakes we all do things that we not proud of but we still got people that love us and if you feel like there's nobody that love you you love you you know what I'm saying and you're going to find somebody that love you if you're willing to if you're willing to work on yourself if you're willing to go out and meet people and talk to people and reach out and shake hands and reach out and give hugs and share yourself with people it's a lot of lonely people out here that just want somebody to talk to they want to feel relatable and you are one of those people I'm one of those people I feel crazy a lot of the times because people don't understand me and that's cool because I don't understand a lot of people I try to but I don't understand I don't understand how somebody can work a job and be miserable their whole life and complain about it I know why but I don't understand it I don't feel that connection to it would I do it if I had to you know if I had people depending on me of course I would but I would always be trying to put eggs in my basket and making sure that I can get away from that because freedom is my big thing at the core of who I am I am a free bird I'm a free bird I can have the biggest cage in the world but just because I know that it's a cage that makes me sick that's why I can't work the normal job I can't do certain things that make me feel impr prisoned it's not true to who I am and it's abrasive to my soul so learn who you are learn what's important to you every decision you make remind yourself of those things remind yourself of the people that love you remind yourself of your legacy and keep going consistency is key in anything you want to do you have to keep going you got to push through you're going to have highs you're going to have lows you're going to be motivated one day everything is going to be good it's 3:00 a.
m. you want to do a th push-ups and you want to hang off your ceiling everybody wants to do that and then when the morning comes you're going to be unmotivated you're not going to want to get out of your bed your mind is going to tell you things you're going to keep procrastinating but you got to push through you got to remind yourself every day you got to lie to yourself you got to be delusional you love yourself you care about yourself you have good habits you are on the path to being exactly what you want to be you are what you want to be life just got to catch up you got to tell yourself those things you got to be that Beacon of Hope for yourself because nobody else is nobody understands you like you nobody is up at 3:00 a. m.
