[Music] [Music] our guest today is a specialist in neuroc communication and education dedicated to helping parents and educators better understand the behavior of teenagers and young people has applied neuroscience to promote healthy relationships and emotional development of teenagers we will discuss topics such as the importance of neuroscience in education the demystification of TDH family communication among others with you William [Music] borget Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of pod people a place where we meet to see and hear people People who It happens People that happen, people who inspire our interviewee today are neuroscientist educator
William Borget himself, everything is good, my dear, I am very happy with you, very good, thank you very much for accepting our invitation, an immense joy, I have to tell you as soon as you I was going to bring everyone who asked me Tell them I want a hug F record a video with Ana Beatriz we would spend about 10 hours here just making videos you guys are so good I've never seen anything like this you know normally we go to each other places people ask for Ah ask for a video but like this it
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This guy speaks well, he says things that are logical that have coherence and I saw that you are an educator who went into neuroscience and specialized a lot, like with teenagers and the relationship between young teenagers and parents, I wanted you to tell us a little about your journey. How did you make this diversion from education to continue within education but now with more resources with resources from legal neuroscience, when I, for a long time in my life, I undertook so I always had no higher education because when I finished high school He said, I'm
going to undertake, I'm going to do it and so on, and then I was an entrepreneur for a long time, but in totally different areas, in another area, in service areas, right, I had service companies, so you leave high school, which today is high school and go straight to undertake exactly that it was the high school that was the high school of our time in my time it was already high school because I was a 20 year old boy Look, I'm going to say that in mine it was scientific Look then no one no one
b me first scientific when I finished high school, Right now in high school I have always been entrepreneurial and in entrepreneurship I was able to try both extremes, like that entrepreneurship that went very well and the entrepreneurship that went very wrong, that very wrong one of cutting off the electricity in the house. bailiff block things Wow, it was so crazy, can we have an episode about entrepreneurship like what not to do when you're starting a business, don't do it, I can give you all the guidance on what not to do, eh, and then after a
while I got what all entrepreneur seeks profitable company growing company with many employees I opened a company from scratch providing outsourced services we had 402 employees, right? Very successful in what I was doing, but then that thing comes in that I have the money, I have the growth, giving everything right, but I wake up and I know that I have to go to that place, it hurts me, I don't like doing that, that is hurting me and then I started to realize that within the company I always worked in the Training areas there with people
already with people, right? It was always me, people attracted you uhum and then I I always thought like this, I Need to work with this And then there was a situation in the company that bothered me a lot, which was the following professionals who worked with me there, my employees, you I said it like this, man, I have a project here, the guy would enter the Excel computer and that's it, here there was an engineer who worked at the company that sometimes we would clean up, so for example, I would take him to a building
like this one, he would come in, look, look, he would say so many liters of this so many brooms so much I don't know what incredible he said Wow this guy is really good then when I was going to sell it to the customer The customer told me like this oh what is the weight of the broom then I said no wait wait there's a guy that I'm going to bring here and he got there he just couldn't get there with the client, he got stuck, he got stuck like that, he knew everything but he
couldn't perform because of that and that really bothered me when he became the center of attention and when the person there he had what a client who was an authority F he couldn't not say Like, I brought the specialist here, he was the specialist, right? I don't know, I go to your office, I hear incredible things, so I say, tell this person everything you said Then you get stuck and the person says, I think these professionals are not very good . Come on, I'm going to talk about Master Chacrinha , who is the one who
doesn't communicate, if he cheats this and that, it bothered me a lot and then I started to realize that somehow I managed to evolve those people without any technique, that thing, like the guy goes there and talks to girl there from HR who knew the law off the top of her head and said get there and say the client is what they want you to perform the most uhum because if you perform the client can't perform either because no one is rooting against him they're not against you that's it And then I started In this
area, there is a very well-known university in São Paulo, the Instituto ma de Tecnologia, one of the largest engineering universities in Brazil, right, and I received an invitation there to give a class on the issue of fear of speaking in public for students. engineering students, which is a student who has a Profile that is never the same as closed, more reserved in the beginning, right, that's it, the Instituto Mauá there, they teach there to this day and it's really cool there because you know those classes that we have at the university that There are hours
that you do, you attend a lecture, one hour you do extra hours, extracurricular activities that the Institute does, which is very cool, they have a complete course while you have to spend a lot of lectures there that you only do to have time for yourself. take a full course during the semester and then they took my training that I was there was a professor there at the company who was a friend and all of this intuitively you didn't follow any kind of intuitively so what happened was when I said well I have to study because
wait then I'm messing with people's behavior and so on and so I went do a postgraduate course in neuroscience at PUC Uh, so I went there and did the after And then that there I said, wow, it opened up now I know why the butterflies in my stomach, right, and neuroscience, it shows the behind the scenes behind the curtain, right? So this thing that we are seeing it from behind, so it's very incredible, I started doing a lot of things and then I saw that it was A huge success there with that student who was
exactly that brilliant profile in the project but who had difficulty speaking, I always give the example of a student who She was creating a project that was as follows: she took human skin that from a bariatric patient who had bariatric surgery had leftover skin, she took that skin, applied an xpto there, something chemical that I don't know, that skin multiplied and she was able to test cosmetics and products of cleansing on this skin so as not to have to test on animals that's wonderful, the nobel is the nobel prize, it's not true, but then in
the presentation there's the bariatric and the animal, then the cosmetic product and the animal and the bariatric, man, I'm not going to put 1 million real in this project person who keeps talking bariatric animal skin animal bar something that doesn't have an understanding couldn't make a script a connection there In short Maua, maa's marketing had a very incredible idea which was instead of me staying there taking flyers to schools from high school Ah, come take the entrance exam here, marketing did the following, she took classes from higher education teachers and took them to schools and
I was invited To do this project to teach a class that I taught there for higher education in schools in schools and there I discovered such an incredible world because because that's where we can do it, it's much easier to fix teenagers inspire or inspire teenagers that I think teenagers have to be inspired because then they understand all this neuroscience thing, the brain is in training he is much more susceptible to change for good or for bad so this inspiration can change everything's trajectory and then It was incredible you are saying something Willan which is
very very interesting and I have been doing it for many years and he is doing very well today but I and then I started to realize that in the area of law, those who are more shy are more involved in the development of the piece, and those who are more talkative go straight to the hearing and he came to see me for treatment precisely because he was developing a lot. well, but he was very good at defending, so much so that the judges came to talk to him and said, you were the one who developed
this whole piece, he said yes, and why can't you develop there, he blocked in such a way That it was embarrassing for him so he sometimes had CONSEG aar him fe he was the one who made the piece pass due to incompetence then came the incompetence And then he often had to look for someone to do his part in the face-to-face because sometimes the judges questioned whether it was He actually did that play and when we think of a successful lawyer, the one from the movie It's Never That Way, he sat at the computer and
made a defense, always that lawyer up front who thinks that the guy is just there. there is the very end of a process because what opens a process is exactly that piece example job interview pass the job interview whoever speaks best is not the most qualified professional not necessarily the most qualified exactly not necessarily because he gets there he he knows how to show sometimes he has knowledge four but he knows how to use that knowledge the other one with knowledge 89 stays there Stammering he doesn't know much explaining, right the other one arrives and
with three little pieces or he says one thing maybe he sees well because an insecurity of making mistakes right And Then the person says but here it can't be, maybe look well, right? There's going to be a report there. Look, maybe who knows, right? Uh, so this happened a lot And then I started looking for science and it teaches us a lot finding patterns, right? The brain is a pattern seeker. a pattern seeker exactly And then I started to realize the following is hardly zero but it is very rare people say they develop a fear
of speaking in public insecurity adult trauma uhum after adulthood very absurd things that happen but in a normal life the person is like that no She talks to everyone, she goes, she was a child who talked to everyone and expressed herself, she was a teenager who presented work, she never had any social problems, and then at the age of 40, one day she stopped doing this, it's very rare. I personally have never seen it, but the we learn not to talk 100%, right, so I personally never saw it and then I started talking like this,
man, if I want to contribute to the adult, I have to go back to the history of this one, how this child was formed, how this teenager was formed, and then in our services for these adults Who already have problems with speaking in public, I eat, you would realize that when we spoke like that, there comes a day when you feel very sorry, right, it comes back to the day when you learned to be afraid to speak, but how come I learned to be I'm afraid, I say, a newborn baby is not afraid of speaking
in public, he wants to cry, he's hungry, he screams Oh, but he's in a restaurant, he screams just like in church, in worship, in everything exactly So there's a day on the plane, on the plane, there's always we are a little baby on a plane And then there's a moment when this baby grows up and he realizes that expressing himself is wrong and doing all this work and then I started working with this adolescent audience with neuroc communication, that is, with this connection between neuroscience and communication and reaching out to this teenager and talking to
him, for example, a term that is technical, we transform the same thing easily, right, but there is a term called alexithymia, which is the person's inability to express what they are feeling And then I start to bring ideas to them like, man, if you go to the doctor you have pain in the elbow pain in the elbow is not just a pain in the Old arm pain in the elbow It may look like something else pain in the arm then the doctor says that's ok Well no Then you say I'm in pain then he says
where is the pain you say pain you know pain F I know but where is the pain how does it hurt then you say it's not really pain that's a bit absurd to say physically but how many Sometimes you don't receive people who don't know how to hurry Oh I just know that I suffer but I don't know the name I don't know where it comes from and then when these teenagers started to learn to express what they were feeling to express themselves knowledge to achieve a connection with parents, which is by far the most
conflictual relationship in human communication, it is between adults and teenagers, right, Parents and Children there or intimate caregivers, the most conflictual, it is very much like that and things worked so well that parents started to come looking for school because the children would sometimes arrive with a lot of concepts, I don't know, imagine if you knew that cocaine increases dopamine and then you shouldn't use it because then the father says where this child is learning this and came to look for the teacher and then I talked to the parents and sometimes, you know, my first
video that was released On the internet that was popular was a mother, the mother of a student, said to me like this, Willam, my son is 14 years old, right, your student and so on and he doesn't want to take a shower, so I said, okay, what about what else, like she said no bath I said but who said you have to take a shower then she said but you have to take it I said but who said what I think you have to take it too but I think it works for me so I
I told her what if he felt What is it like not taking a bath there I never thought about it I just said that's what it's like to have a rule you're going to wear the same clothes you're going to use the same bed linen you're going to test what it 's like to go without a bath for a teenager 14 years old, two days without taking a shower without changing clothes, it turns into one, right ? needing to ask for hygiene, which looks like it's a pleasure and then I say the phrase, right, teenagers
don't listen to teenagers feel, so if they don't have our experience, they'll keep saying no, you can't, you can't, you can't, if that worked, no teenager in the world would use drugs because everyone world speaks to Don't use drugs, the television says the school says the priest says the pastor says the influencer says everyone says don't use drugs drugs I'm against it and they keep using it so wait, how much of this is effective, right? so it was in this format that I arrived and So, when I became a teenager, I said, this is where
I'm going to find myself, right? And then today I'm doing it . region and there I am doing research work exactly on how this adolescent communication, the more he can make it common, right, which is the etymology of communication, the more he can make what he thinks common, he improves his quality of life, he improves his relationship with your parents and all this stuff, you then left Entrepreneur and then you said, when you're just trying to rescue me, here you are more focused than me in this timeline, then you were an entrepreneur, you had all
this when you started taking the class to be able to inspire teenagers which was a wonderful tactic from the Mauá Mauá college, fantastic because I Believe in this, there's no point in talking, you're going to take the course, the person doesn't even know exactly what they're going to hear on the other side, and because it's very technical as an area, Mauá Today there are several courses but engineering is the main focus by far and so I know that the guy who leaves Mauá or Poli at USP, this guy knows how to calculate, knows how to
do a project, this guy is ready, I don't have a problem with that, we you just don't know if it will have the social battery and the emotional communication then you, after you had this experience, you said well, I discovered that there is another place that I can get ready to work and make a difference, that's exactly it And then you left the company, that's it. ok and it went to the education area because it was an interesting thing that was like I had two partners in the company Uhum And when I closed the class
The class was at 2 o'clock in the afternoon business hours so somehow I didn't I could be in the company, right, and teach, so I thought, it's so gratifying to do that, hey, it's when we think of something like that, wow, someone even pays me to do something so cool, right? It's just that, in a way, It wasn't fair to my partners like look after the company while I go there to solve a private project so it was at that moment that I reached the decision my partners they are my friends To this day incredible
guys But they are 15 years older than me ahem And then they said to me face to face We arrived here 15 years older than you, it took us 15 years longer to reach the same level You're really leaving to be a teacher and then the teacher already carries this thing about I don't know what I said, look or I'm going to do it that or one day you'll give me good life insurance so that at least when I have a stroke I'll leave something for whoever stays because this is killing me and it's not
you because that way the legal partner The company gives profit and the employee works but what is it then it's that thing about you, no, no, no, no, there's no meaning, there's no purpose, it doesn't increase my dopamine, so going to work was something that was complex And then we worked like this with the concierge, cleaning, there was case like this December 24th 10 o'clock at night or at the table he received a customer guy said the doorman left Uhum And then find a doorman 10 at the Fest L so a stress that stress any
profession will have but it was a stress that I wasn't willing to face it and then when there was this class that started at 2 o'clock in the afternoon she kind of said now it's time for decision it's the point of no return here or you come and teach and then I negotiated my exit with my partners so they didn't They believed me, they said, I'm going to take a vacation, I'm going to take a sabbatical, I stayed at the company for a month to spend all my work there for the team and on the
day it ended, it ended like this and we did it there, I hugged everyone, one of my partners took me in the cafe and said are you sure I said man do you think I was going to say that now it wasn't a joke Cancel the farewell party farewell So it was a decision like that and it was an absurdly good decision because he brought me here to me Give me this relationship No, I don't get tired of teaching a class is not a Wow, I have to teach a class to those teenagers, it's very
much like that, it's very rewarding And you start Because as this has been happening for a while now, there are already students who have already graduated from college Uhum And we can do it see the roster , right ? which, right, all schools have to take into account that they are classes that are parallel to the school grade, so there is a Portuguese teacher, mathematics, geography, I'm not that teacher, endi, do you do this extracurricular, extracurricular And why is that, right, ah, the extracurricular gives me the freedom to, for example bring these things more broader
things, you don't need to be stuck there within that specific content, defending our fellow teachers here, our fellow teachers, they have an agenda there that is so tied up in plaster that it cannot open up creativity to develop things, I will give an example that it happened yesterday to see how things happen every day I arrived at class and in the second year class so there students were 16 years old 15 16 years old and they were playing a game called city sleeps city sleeps I knew it too, I didn't know it and It's a
game that basically everyone closes their eyes And a leader chooses who will be the killer, who will be the Angel and who will be the detective Look how cool, so everyone has their heads down with their eyes closed, he plays then, look, if I play you know that you are the killer and that you are the Angel Uhum And then it rings murderers wake up there The Assassins only the murderers wake up And he says who do you want to murder then that one now go down everyone now angel get up open your eyes Who
do you want to save? If the angel saves the one who was nominated, he's a joke in this sense of social roles, so I was in the middle of the game. I entered the room, I was in the middle of the game. Teacher, can we use 10 minutes of class for ourselves? just end here Of course uhum because I am I say this to you guys who like me because when I have to push I take all my credit yes and let it go smoothly let's go let's go but then I sat down and analyzed
the behavior, I let it go, I let it go, those 10 minutes turned into 50, which is the time of the class Uh, when it ended, I participated, I played there, it was one of the participants And then people were like, Oh, the class is over, teacher, and the class, right, then it's over, it was played here. The class is over, I said, Don't worry, the next class is what you learned behaviorally about this dynamic that we learned. So I have the ability to transform real things in the daily lives of those teenagers, bring a
discussion and then I come with a scientific article then I come with quotes from authors I come with books I come there I put that into something that he already lives that sometimes the math teacher there and as much as he wants to he can't he's stuck He has a lot of content to give a lot and a lot of half an hour that he takes there to listen to that student he lost in content and then he will be charged when we find biology boring, history boring, mathematics boring and then one day you say
like this Wow, how incredible to discover the pi the perfect number the calculation the neuron and everything has mathematics everything has biology everything has history, right, these are incredible things that happen. I also like to tell one of mine, I have a 14-year-old stepdaughter who I joke about that she is mine, in fact, she is very yours. fan How good Larissa I'm going to ask for some kisses Like this Larissa Larissa a kiss because look, it's the time I said I came I didn't bring her to Rio because she's in exam week, oh next time
she started the exams the first ones because And then she and Larissa are like that, she's an excellent arguer, she talks like that, we joke that it's like there's a dwarf inside her, there's an adult living inside her, giving the orders, an old woman because man, it's like when when the father da Cláudia passed away we arrived like this from the ceremony atmosphere of the death ceremony And then everyone in the room fits low she got up and started no because death she can represent and no we don't need to stay like that because grandpa
would like I don't know what and we like this girl got this that Sant downloading She's incredible she's incredible it's a teenager with teenage problems but she's incredible but with this spring vision she's the school she's the student who passes uhum doesn't get 10's in everything she's not that student and one thing we always talk about we don't want her to be that student be it and once we went to Parati, here, right, on the coast of Rio, and we arrived at the house, There was a book on top of the house. on the table
in the living room and she picked up a book that was a book by An Frank a his hist da but it was a comic book made for teenagers this girl picked up that book We stayed in Parati for three days she went to the beach with a book She went to the market with a book, she lay down with the book, she read the book about the story of Danny Frank, returning home, we were there in the car, and in a little while, that Silence in the car, returning from the trip, she said, because
there was Nazism, yes, one Yes, she asks, out of the blue, then I took a 3-hour trip, I explained to her all the bad things that happened, all the bad things, why Germany was in the first war, and the feeling of nationalism, then they let the crazy person rise to power, exactly Austrian, and that one thing, and So I talked to her for 3 hours about the Second World War, about Nazism, about everything, explaining to her how harmful it was to the history of humanity, everything, and then when we stopped at the door of the
house, I said, I spent 3 hours Talking, talking to you about history that same story you say history is boring Mesopotamia I have to know there I don't know what so it's cool but the system makes it difficult, right for And then the teacher who is at the forefront there he doesn't have as much autonomy to use this kind of maneuver, right? And then we see the results that our education has, so I always say nothing is more engaged than a teenager, not a teenager, he says what, how to say this, how to approach how
to capture the limbic system of teenagers, ex because the prefrontal is there in formation exactly so there is a fervor happening there And then I talk to the parents, right, the teenager, he is not sad, he is depressed, he is not happy, he is euphoric, he is not afraid, he is Panic, things are very exaggerated and then when we go there we say dad, sit here oh This here is a prefrontal cortex this here nibe behavior you know at how old it is ready the part of the sky says oh Yes, I say 25 so
that 14-year-old teenager who you think isn't there's more to do, there's calm, there's time, look, if there was nothing, there's time, I'm afraid that L is favorable, so when you get to that point, Time is in your favor, half of these problems Biology will solve for you alone, but then you there needs to be the right stimulus, love, understanding, that kind of content, right, so that he can choose when he does the wrong thing, it's a time to educate instead of sitting there preaching why not you, then I say, you didn't hear a lot of
a sermon from your mother from your father when you were a child I heard that nothing helped the teenager, the teenager, he will say stay at home, you won't be, he says, okay, mom, I'll stay at home, or I'm wrong or I'll change that My conduct with the teenager gives an example, you gave a wonderful example of Larissa, but it was an extremely positive thing, uhm, right, she spontaneously asked for the reading, she was interested in the subject, now let's say that Larissa did something that wasn't so, that's really cool. But it was something, I
don't know, a tantrum or a student, how would you deal with it or pass it on to these parents? The best way to approach it? in another S where I Taught, there was a fight, there was a fight, it ended up in my hand, suspension ended up principal, suspension and so on, so I got it, I went there to the principal, right, I come from my city there, it's a city in Periferia, it's a city neighboring the capital, the same This is Nova Iguaçu Duque de Caxias, right, surrounding cities Yes and I studied at a
very poor public school, that problem, so many fights, drugs died, people, that was an experience thing . what I do and work in public schools completely on a voluntary basis I go to the principal and I say I can give a talk about drugs to the students here and so on as a volunteer, so my work is always a private school and a private school that can afford a high-level private school, right, both students fought and got out of hand and that whole thing and And then the principal is no longer go, go there and
suspension for five days and I don't know what, so I said, principal, I'm going to get involved in something that I didn't have to do because I didn't owe anything to my class has nothing to do with it but I can get involved in something, Knowing a teenager and being a teenager, you know, being a kid, a kid who fights and such a woman, but she has a broader view of life, when she wants to cause a problem, she thinks more and says no. Don't worry, kid, he's a bit of a fool, it's already out
of hand and you know what's going to happen in five days, they're going to come back, they're going to fight again and they're going to fight angrier, you know why, because in addition to having had problems with this one, with each other, having at home, there's a mother who fought, there's a father who hit, there's the director who's going to come, it's still accumulated, so, no, we shouldn't let the wrong attitudes be ignored, but it's an opportunity to educate yourself, so I sat them both down and said, you 're not going fight, right, because the
director said, go there and talk to them, let's see, then I put them both in and said, you're not going to fight, right, because the size you are, I can't even get into mine, I'm going to let you kill yourself, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. OK, so I said, well, next thing, you guys have a suspension on your back, do you know what that means? It's in your report, you 're misbehaving, you're going to get home, your mother is going to get into trouble, everything, father, that's The thing, I'm negotiating with the
director to change this so that you don't get suspended, but here's the thing: if you fight again, you'll burn your name and mine, and if you burn my name, we'll have a much bigger problem then. So, it's possible. You don't need to be friends, give your hand, you don't need to, because when R does this hypocrisy to me, I'm dismissing this falsehood and the treatment as an adult. which is the following, if you guys fight again I'm going to have a problem and then they didn't fight again, right? And then I went to the director
and said like this, they have a kind of one and so wow, I was heard, I was understood that what was going on happening I explained to him why they shouldn't do that I said, do you think that punching someone else solves something, it doesn't solve your problem, so when you arrive and put them on an equal footing, that changes the game a lot, Larissa herself, We had a case where she did something that we shouldn't say publicly , right? Take care, right ? She went there and prayed to the booklet for her, so I
took it and told Larissa the following, I said Larissa, do you know why you're there? So I went there and told her, do you know why you're not leaving because you didn't generate trust in advance because it's very easy when we want to talk like that, we want people to trust us before our attitudes. This doesn't work in the real world we need credit, it's just like the bank, I'm late on the invoice, I don't pay the bill, I get there, lend 1 million, no, he'll lend it to those who have a history there, so
what are you going to do, you're going to earn credits, you're going to do things Play with teenagers, deceive their parents, today they schedule at 10, they arrive at 9, no, your father said that the reversal of expectations is exactly what is happening, when you finish your expectations, you pick up the dishes, wash them and don't say anything and go up there the day you want to stay a little longer late you use the plate you washed you use Of all the history of trust that you have And then she started doing it, she demonstrated
it, so sometimes there were things like that, she was there, then she started leaving, then a situation arrived like this Ah mom, it's a bit strange here, you send me an Uber so I can go although because I already don't want to be in this place because something is happening here that I don't think is cool trust trust trust then a few weekends ago she was with some friends playing and that happy thing and then Cláudia sent me a photo and said, look how happy she is Look what a cool joke then I said I'm
going to activate my gossip mode now I took the print I sent it to Larissa I said look how happy your mother is to trust you here this wasn't your mother who gave it to you, it was her who built it, you built it She's just giving you approval for something you did so I always say build the credit and then what's cool the student I say this a lot in the classroom I said Teacher, you don't know my parents let me travel my parents let me go to parties my parents let me do I
don't know what your parents are just validating a behavior that you Had validation there like you are the one who is changing them that's the power of da gives him the power to have better parents perfect and the child, somehow we manage to close it down She stays quiet there, it doesn't end the teenager he has a very similar behavior but he's already grown up he's already social then the involvement begins sex drink drugs the world goes to the world so it's a person who lives in the adult world with all the risks of the
adult world but with a head that isn't ready for that exactly And then this conversation about sexuality this conversation I talk to PR kids like listen let's talk about condoms if you don't use this plague of condoms, you know what's going to happen, open Google, then syphilis, write it on Google Images, then the kids, look, say, what's this, I say, do you think we're going to go through this thing without condoms, and that's fine, then they start to get I'm desperate, I'm going to say a lot of names about diseases, a lot of things, they're
going to come here saying Wow, I'm going to say the following, I'm not going to tell you, don't do what I want to deceive, I was once a teenager, But be careful, don't be careful. Be stupid, talk, look for a water balloon, take care of it for a week so you can see a balloon, you'll see how difficult it is, imagine taking care of a child your age Uh, it's going to get in the way It's going to delay your things and the child is born It's the best thing you can do Problems are less
of a problem because very bad things can happen and then I play with them and if you don't use a condom when you hug it's warm I'll come to your mind like this, oh Where's the condom And then it goes, it goes down, you stay makes the obsessive thought I'm going to stay you be an intrusive thought in your head so I'm going to talk and that's so cool that when we start doing it we say wow How is this going to be, right? Absorbed and parents who have already come to talk willam I don't
know how to say this and but he understood the way you said it Uhum So here's the thing, I can treat you in Kids mode, little child, infantilize, take hold of your uncle's hand, we'll go together or I'll give you confidence of trust because trust is something that we Achieve I always tell teenagers, parents can give you a rope But it's you who will know if you're going to get caught up in the rope or if you're going to stretch it and live a perfect life, you can do anything as long as you have and
give them the confidence that you can, you're saying this, I remember a little patient I had who is now graduating in medicine, she's excellent, she's a great surgeon and she was a teenager, very tomboyish, you know, so she always she tried to put her mother behind, then the day before the exam she decided to call a friend who had a book of sympathies and she had lit some candles and Caboco was going to help her and then her mother will call me one day, Bia, you told her without Dev, the candle, I I said I'm
not, she's here saying no but Bia said I'm This here will guide me I said give me the cell phone let me tell you something love where I'm not Bia because I don't study and my friend said she's friendly I I said you're going to put it fire in the house, that's what you'll achieve with your kindness and I just know that she was going and then there was a time when her mother left school without any permission, no one knew where she was, everyone thought that the girl had been kidnapped and she had it
at her crush's house, Then her mother takes everything away and takes it to the office, she arrives like this, right? That teenage way ? I said, who took it? I said my mother, I said who took your cell phone, my mother said, let's not go there again, you don't understand if you hadn't done that, that, that, I actually went out on the street, bypassing school security without telling you, you weren't there. without a cell phone it was you who put yourself in this position be more intelligent you rolled on the rope much more intelligent I
thought you were intelligent I'm shocked that I have an admiration for your intelligence which is fake and you fell for it, right you I just know that she was So, after that, one day she gets there, I'm going to do medicine, then the whole family is crazy, she's going to do medicine, okay, I said, if she's saying she will, I trust her, I just know that everyone said that you don't have to study, you have to, I don't know what There I said Are you sure, right? Come on, you know what it is. I know,
I already studied, I know she is. Are you willing ? Found it, you know, that thing like that, I'm going to do it, oh great, I said it. Then she, I don't know if I'm going to continue, I said it, but that's ok. It's already a challenge . a teenager feels motivated I always say this, watch the demonstration video where the Riot Police come in to beat uhum you can look at who's getting slapped in front It's always a young man because the young man for an idea Oh I believe in the protest about x
him Go there and get slapped by the police you hardly see a little White head there P getting beaten L say go there young man Let's go there for our protest, go there, right? So when this teenager buys into this idea of going there and doing something that I always think is sensational sometimes parents come to talk to me about the contents of my class uhum ah I know you talked about this I know you talked about that I know you talked about dopamine I don't know what F a sign that the students are talking
about just learning they are spreading How are they taking it forward, right? Hey, I have a community of parents and I work there with a method called love, limit and encouragement, Because many times when we talk about talk, you know, oh, so you have to let go of the teenager and do everything, parents say it like this. so it just means the following he sends this so the following is with love it's with the limit he has to know like this my guy so far you go don't go beyond here no but the pre-determined limit
for him to know why can come later the rule It has to come first, it's the game, right ? I care more about mothers Because they are closer to the creation, a grown man who doesn't know how to wash clothes doesn't know how to make rice doesn't know anything and I joke with them I say hey, when we work with science we work a lot with animals there mainly primate mammals to understand behavior I'm sure you can teach a monkey to wash clothes and he learns I'm sure it's because it's not possible to put the
clothes on, set the water level, press the button and add soap, which you can't teach me a monkey to do. What do you mean To tell me that your 14-year-old son can't do it? But here's the thing, as long as the clothes are washed somewhere, there's no such thing as super protection, here comes the mother's story From the father, I don't want to become someone expendable I always want to have some bond like you need me in something, yes, but need is not love Exactly it is control Let's think about the story of the psychopaths
in the movie, I always need to have a bond because I can't give them total freedom, right? see that there has to be a rebelliousness in the conversation, it has to be a slightly crazy conversation but it needs to be something that they understand that is from the experience. I had an affair once, I taught at a full school and he left for lunch only to for him to leave school for lunch there is a cafeteria at the school so for him to go out the parents have to give permission on the app otherwise they
have to eat inside the school and stay there five students, his friends told him to leave I don't know where four of them had permission, one didn't, and one of them left, he showed it to the doorman, he showed it to the doorman, he showed it to the doorman, and the fifth one didn't have it and he was a big guy, So the doorman said no, you can't leave, he said, yes I can and he pushed the doorman. yes and he left and the doorman no, I don't know what, he's not going But the doorman
guy said, the boy pays five bucks in installments here, I get 1500, I'm not going to go in, and I could really, impulsively, attack you, you know, that's the beauty, those things. Sometimes they happen, it's when I arrive, right, they came back from lunch, my class was close by, the next coordinator was already fussing because of that, and when I arrived at the reception, the receptionist said, oh, the coordinator wants to talk to you, you said, BO already. I never said, Congratulations, it's joy, then the boy went, I don't know what, and came out and
attacked the doorman, he pushed the doorman, right? Then I arrived and said, I went into the room and the boys were there and I said, oh, how are you, bro? How much does this cost here, I don't know that my father, I'm from the United States, costs 4000 for this Nike, there are few people who have this, Damn, bro, iPhone 15. How much does this cell phone cost ? very well dressed So I said so, do you know how much a doorman Earns per month, silence, do you have any idea how much a doorman earns,
oh 4,000 plus a little bit, do you know the references, yes, there is no reference for the doorman, if he earns well he earns R00 well I'm giving it a I'm considering that he does something cool there and earns R$ 500 the sneakers you wear pays for this guy's family for 3S months so it's very easy for you student you have your father right Well well You have a company The powerful Father you arrive there and gives a guy a blowjob who earns 15 and knows what he's going to do to you, nothing because he's
afraid of being sent away so M do you want to beb H that the route the route in São Paulo is the same B, right? the elite police, when the route is passing, throw a stone at the car you're not brave you're not big-hearted So you go there and do this so we can see now doing this to a person who can't defend themselves what is this ? I said, do you know the doorman's name, don't you know cowardice? How many years have you been studying at this school? You're in high school, you've been studying
since nursery school . minimum the minimum to start that can be done Go down there now and talk to him apologize for what you did because he wasn't the one who set the rule about not leaving school, he's just doing his job Someone told him the student who leaves you Present a business, so go there, if it's the director, go there, do that, push the director, sit down and exchange ideas, that's exactly if you say, I'm going to leave, go there, say, you were cute, because I would say like that, don't talk about the route,
no, I would say like that, take the boss of traffic in a community, go there, you 're not a bully, you're not brave, go there, bullying, when you talk about bullying at school, which is something that, unfortunately, is a very big problem. Others I'm in favor of, but the next one is always someone bigger than you, always someone who wants to participate, sometimes there are students who are making fun of each other, you know, nodding, I don't know what I'm saying like that. You like that he makes fun of you, I like it, I think
it's cool, you like that he makes fun of you like he made fun of you with each other why are you going to make fun of those who don't want to participate and those who can't defend themselves, right once a student arrived from da she arrived from Bahia Uhum And then the time she went was arrived there New student okay then she said an accent And then the room started laughing at her accent that in São Paulo there's a lot not a lot in São Paulo already Dev learned it because it receives people from all
over the world receive from the whole world for the love of God this is the spice of São Paulo then I laughed at the girl then I took it and said like this then they told me about the event I told him like this man what is the merit me then I joked, right I I'm rooting for São Paulo if São Paulo goes there and scores 5-0 at Grêmio Mauaense in my city, that's no merit to São Paulo, no one will say wow Congratulations, São Paulo, for having to put B in Barcelona in Real Madrid,
so if If you want to make fun of someone, make fun of someone who can defend themselves, who is bigger than you, who has all the possibilities, because again, no, bullying, I'm against it, it won't solve the student right away, they have to think like that, man, I'm being an asshole socially if I make fun of with a person who can't defend themselves, then I started talking to her and the girl and said where did you live, where did she say, oh, you lived there on the beach and there was what you did in the
afternoon, I said what are you? doing it here in São Paulo, boy, you lived in Paraíso, she's the one who has to make fun of us, she has to make fun of us, you know, so, but it's one, you get surfing on the asphalt, she gets it in the sea. Clean, exactly, but it's something that if we have the side of why the student gets there, I've had a student who, for example, said to me, you can ask my mother to take me to the ophthalmologist, I said what did she say because I've asked a
lot of times and she doesn't take me So if the teacher say I have a determination to go to the tape this student if I break the discipline because he causes problems at school he causes problems because of this now if I catch him and press No it won't solve this you have to accept Come here let's do it I'm with you and no I know what these things are, for example. Then I'm going to send you a hug to the school students, they're going to be crazy about it, but I find it so interesting,
Willam, so I've always had a chat with teenagers, not just as equals, and I I warned the parents, I said, I'm going to say a lot of bad words, I'm warning them right away that they're going to get home and they're going to say something like this, they said this and it's true, okay, because I'm not going to treat teenagers as if they were innocent little boys and girls, they 're exploding, so I'm going to talk to them. His language is fine, Mom, it's there, then Mom came to check in after three months of treatment,
I said, I want to see your opinion, except for the bad words, everything is great, I said the bad words, we have them all our lives, so that later he grows up and says, look, look. at work this won't go down well when you're going to give a talk this won't go down well but now we have to put out the fire that's burning, the electricity that's out of control and I've always believed that you can't do this to children or teenagers of incapable if you take the hierarchy that I command because I command you
are under my roof because you forget you are creating an enemy that is getting stronger and in the long run will give you a big blow in the back There is no JE and another one we have to be is us We have to be respected in our absence, but of course I always say that every prisoner has to have a prison guard watching over him. If you keep arresting your son, you'll be in prison too because you have to stay there watching him and he won't do what you're telling him to do. ex ex
now like this, you have all the things, for example, right? I arrived here and was Very well received, everyone offered me a lot of things, there is no law for that, people are welcoming me because people want to welcome me well, they are not obliged so when there is a context in which a teenage situation will happen you will come across, you will come across drugs, those of us who live in big cities are Ah, it's a Worldwide problem and what's the big problem when you use it, you feel good. Cool, yes, I've never seen
anyone become addicted to ground carp in the sun, otherwise, if it weren't something that in principle promotes well-being, it wouldn't be a case of public health, that's what I say to students, if you don't try it, then I'll go there and dopamine And that's it , the whole concept behind it I say, don't prove it and if you prove it, if you don't hear me prove it and feel good, let a red alert go off in your head. He said it would feel good because you can never lie, I when F you will taste drugs
It will be wonderful but it has an expiration date It's going to take a while like passion passion you look at that boy he's wonderful He's hot he's wonderful Then months later you start not so wonderful Then you start to look at Another side which is more wonderful then you don't know anymore what to do with that and that there are things that in the first 15 minutes a very aesthetically beautiful person will not necessarily be a person in your life because in those 15 minutes of approaching the very cool physical attraction now coexists with
beauty these things no longer come into play exactly or else you can't stand it, right, until you open your mouth, right? It's that thing like that, until you open your mouth, everything was fine, I was there, as my city of Periferia said, right, My city You have some illustrious people like that, for example Batoré, remember Batoré Baté boré from my city, right, he recently passed away from my city, he's Baianinho from Mauá, people on the internet know that he's the Sininho player from Baianinho de Mauá, the guy is a nassuca beast, he's very gigantic and
we have a resident like that I have love for her she is incredible you will definitely remember a mother who had an autistic and blind son who she narrated the Palmeiras games remember this mother who won the FIFA award for the biggest fan in the world ol repia talk about the story I remember Silvia Prim, she's from my city, a friend of my mother 's childhood, she's from my city and my city is a very Peripheral city, the whole city of Periferia, but inside the city there's the outskirts of the city, right Periferia from the
Periphery And then I arrived at a school there once and I talked to the principal and said, oh, I'm working with neuroscience, with this with teenagers and so on, I can come here voluntarily to do some work and talk about drugs and so on. Ah, cool, thanks, old man, they put one there. auditorium one in the courtyard they put the chairs there were about 300 teenagers there beautiful I got there and I'm looking for a microphone I'm there setting up my things to start talking a boy came and said like this Hey Teacher, how are
you guys there, those four there they just finished use drugs outside uhum Thank you for the information and such beauty and then I'm there and in the language I say do you want drugs for me, put them all in a glass and drink them all together I have nothing to do Uhum if I'm there the guy offered you a little joint I'll drop you by the foot run away I won't let you Uhum but I'm not going who's going to be there your conscience that will have to make the decision and I'm here like this
and dopamine and I don't know what addiction is and the person seeks the taste the first time And using all the crazy technical apparatus there to capture attention but in a way that they objectively understand it The neurotic Ah neur the dopamine neuron So she goes crazy and she releases a lot of dopamine and so on when I close the presentation in my presentations every time I do the following three people to tell me What did you learn today you left here Oh you were there in William's talk on William's podcast so what you learned
and what I saw in your head didn't I need the name of the neurotransmitter, I don't need any of that, I just want it like this, oh, I learned that something, one said, another said, one of those four boys raised their hands, I said, what's coming, right? And I already had the privileged information there, and this boy said a phrase that I will never forget in my life he said like this, everyone tells us not to use drugs but no one says why Why are you so good Why uhum because the guy who makes the
drugs he makes the drugs so that it will be the feeling is good, very good and the feeling is getting bigger because unloading cement trucks in the sun will never make anyone addicted because it's not good, Right? Pornography, gambling, alcohol, drugs, all of this is done to make people feel good, the biggest neuroscientist contractor in the world it's the Big tch Of course for us to talk like this I never I ah I need mine from my social network uhum and I, for example, I'm not against cell phones we're here because of social networks people
are watching us all over the world because because of social networks social networks have a lot of good things, I don't think so that we are living in a period where it is obvious that the big digital companies came out ahead, they understood that digital marketing needed to have an in-depth study of perfect human behavior Without any problem, they are right because their business is wrong, we know that we will be manipulated by knowledge that is accessible to anyone and we will passively let them use the tricks when it stops being a trick if I
know exactly then I know exactly, I joke that when I wrote the consumer mind I said, I was going to give a talk at schools, I gave a lot of talks at schools, I said, what do you think About Neymar advertising underwear, then everyone was like, me, then the boys, girls, I said, is there a girl, what do you think? I think he plays football well, I said exactly, he plays football well, but his underwear is not the best guy I wanted to see in underwear and at the time Jesus Luz was hitting, I said
Jesus Luz was Well, right, it's not Bia, much better, okay, boys, let's go Neymar, if he were to announce the ball, Wow, it's a cool boot, we want Neymar's boot and it was on the audio now, underwear You wear the underwear that Neymar advertises, no, why, because he doesn't have the market now Here's what it doesn't matter, so I'm going to clog you, seduce you because of what he does wonderfully well and you 're going to buy everything from the brand, no, Neymar didn't even have a beard at the time, he advertised for razors, so
I told people to stop and think what's that? I said GIS liin did the wonderful shampoos do you think that if you buy that shampoo your hair will come with gel MIT it must take I don't know how many hours to wash it to brush it and then do the baby L to then do the baby L no, not even she is doing it It's a team with exactly nothing against I think she's absolutely sure she's doing all this To look more beautiful Now you think you think the shampoo will come with all this I'm
aware of the rules of the game all of this one day I was I na na there in the sacred heart I teach on Tuesday and Wednesday, right then on Wednesday I'm only going to teach on Tuesday Uh, I told them so I'm going to give you a piece of work that you'll have to do from Wednesday until Tuesday introduce me in the week that V week means almost a week but I'm not mine, my profile like passing car lessons, these things because I say man, at your house, go rest here, I want your focus,
I want your participation, right, but rest then they thought it was strange and so on, you're going to do the following you're going to have to use a social network Prank Prank Prank oh teacher on the network it's on the social network but here's the thing we're going to do two things You're going to need to write it down in your head I want you to get Here and tell me I want your learning you will pay attention to the sponsored ones What kind of advertising is coming to you and you will pay attention to
something called soft porn that soft porn which is soft porn you will say oh the most pornographic site of 18 blocked and everything is as follows that person showing themselves on Instagram sensualizing the guy in Gominho's swim trunks the girl in a bikini the girl in Decor white swim trunks the goms in white swim trunks BR, right PR so that's why I went there, I explained for them desensitization because man , imagine if we go back in time to 1920 showing someone in a bikini Ah, it was a scandal, right ? Oh, this guy is
a little slow, he comes in and stays just a little bit What is her tactic, let's send someone naked Send someone sensualizing Send someone with cleavage, what are you going to have to do at work only when it hits you, Aler, inha Call and talk, look they're trying to capture me they're trying to capture me propaganda will you pay attention Because you're making an advertisement then I started to play with them an advertisement for Corega has already appeared on your website on your social network Ah Never Of course you're a teenager so what's Corega going
to do? invest in advertising for you Ask your grandmother if it doesn't appear on her social network and then I started and then they started to bring things like that and sometimes things, for example, they didn't understand, they didn't understand, it's Subtle And then they started telling me the following Wow, an event that can't be underage or I don't know what and the social network just tells me how to arrive all the time and the guys did a beautiful thing because in the past Faustão used to say man, complain from Plim Plim from now on,
the advertising comes in uhum yes right then we don't know we were going to have a water break from the game today, not ours Ana Beatriz Look what a cool video, Alex there pim advertising is And then one Sometimes the advertising is really cool so In the midst of what you've already heard, the influencer is fun, he's there playing, you don't even know it's advertising exactly, so I told them when it appears, it's either advertising or soft porn, you're just going to pay attention, you have to deliver the work, you don't have to deliver anything
I want You to learn PR your life you realize and look how interesting it is when you give this knowledge to bring it to light and when you give this knowledge you awaken in it like wait a minute you say falsely manipulated I may even want to I always said ISO you may want what was advertised Ok but no because they will send so much that you will arrive at some point Oh I'm going to buy something you didn't like you start to like it otherwise you lose your personality Then you screwed up darling then
you sold your soul because Thank you to the algorithm for understanding my needs and sending me things that I go there and buy. Certainly now I understand how things are working now when I'm there because it's That Old Story, right, if you don't pay, the product is you Why I go there and research, I use social networks, all for free, as these companies are not EAD, right, you went to the commercial, okay, you have the right to look at something interesting, then you go in, click there, when you close the cart, there comes one option
along with a more affordable combo that you do and and if you go to that one too and another one comes and when you see it you're there you don't understand there's this character I Went because of that So you're buying That's the same as you buy a plane ticket, it's coming a business you don't want to choose you don't want the place You don't want you don't want the hotel you don't want connecting everything J car car that then Exactly that's okay if you say yes I want a tour and Hotel look for as
long as you say I I'm aware I'm aware you know when we enter the website we write like this I'm aware I want to continue there you click and enter awareness now this awareness can only be given if we give knowledge that neuroscience for a long time was the exclusive preserve of the greats is of the big marketing companies what is not wrong they went and studied their part they did Okay they are right now we are the ones who are wrong in not giving information to young people in the future consumer market or in
the present consumer market so that they can have a choice because otherwise it's not a perfect choice. One time I was giving training, this story came to mind and then I said something like this, guys, it's very important that we put content on the internet because when I put up a video I say like this, this video here flopou gave 10,000 views to 10,000 views it's a large gym filled to the brim with 10,000 people and sometimes they say 1 million 5 million, you know, but 10,000 is a lot but then we desensitize Exactly because
every time 10,000 come and put them there. I put a video saying ha I'm here with the 10,000 mug I don't like doing life, I don't like exposing myself and so on, I said, okay, there's no way, I don't want to do it, I just say it 's important. So I said what are you doing, she said, I'm a Physical Education teacher, I said, cool, have you ever seen anyone? talking nonsense on the internet about physical education she n Of course we say this, there are people who say that the muscle, I don't know what
the Activity Then I said it because it's not one, it's some nonsense like that who's to blame, she said, it's these people right, come on, there's no responsibility, it's your fault. Do you know why it's your fault? Because I don't understand anything about Physical education muscles, nothing, zero. lose weight I say ok if I watch your video talking about losing weight there's no point in me saying oops wait there are two opportunities because I'm a layman now there's only him there's only him too right There's no point in complaining you have to go there and
make a good version and science , right, for many years, our science , universities, all of this has that kind of Olympus thing, right? of science and there's someone there trying to commit suicide that's not coming, everything we're studying is to show each other, so one thing I always do, and so on, there are people at the University who will talk like this, oh, here it goes on the podcast, oh person who goes on the podcast No, it's not serious, so you have to go, you have to talk, you have to talk, keep hitting everyone
every day, if one day a father says, lift a slipper and think like that, because Willam said that's not good, then download it now. my mission is not, I think, on the contrary, I think that Universities should Have a podcast, take their students, make their students inspire, this is not less, it is more, it is generosity with knowledge, of course, and here it is coming, I think that big hospitals had to have a podcast that if the Andrei wonderful Andrei is a guy with a PhD in everything who understands a lot Wow and he's the
guy who disseminates science, he doesn't need to know how to read. You watch him and you understand what exactly and it's one thing for big hospitals to take your teaching staff and put qualified doctors to talk about inspiring new doctors information where we had this that worked So right pandemic exactly pandemic Every time there was a doctor a scientist someone talking about why Because there was a movement coming that the vaccine I don't know what so let's put people who know so it balances the person who didn't take the vaccine that she decided she can't
say she wasn't informed No she can't she made the decision she said ok I saw everything she was responsible for the risks because It was extensively explained so everyone knows what's happening but that's what I'm saying when you have the knowledge you have the power to choose if you don't have the knowledge it's not a choice So Why do you You only have one option you only have one option now if you have to open up you have to understand So eee when dealing with teenagers Sometimes some barbarity comes like that and I say I
like it uhum argue for me tell me for example and enemies at school GPT chat uhum enemy Surely we use it if we can buy the four there we buy it we use it all but here's the thing I want to see you argue for me because at the right time in your life you won't have a GPT chat, you won't have a notebook, you won't have a cell phone, you won't have anything, you'll only have one thing, which is your brain. So you have to understand what what you're saying and for you to understand
you have to live it you have to listen to it yesterday I'm remembering yesterday's stories because they're so fresh. I have some students, those students who are the most abused, you know, like joking, one day I was teaching there oo Caíque I'm even going to say his name because I said Jap mom So it's public, Cai said to me like this, teacher says Cai The guy is a big guy like that and he said you're very beautiful and I was like I didn't know I didn't really know what to say Right, you said, you're a
lot just to say that you're very handsome and Your girlfriend sits in the front chair, I said a guy that size with his girlfriend You're not ashamed to say something like that, kid, but I'll thank you, thank you, and get out right away there. You 're not waiting there Get out, when your mother was leaving to pick you up, then he's getting in the car, I stopped on the side, ma'am, it's his mother, Caí's mother, he's his teacher, so everyone is, go, ma'am, did you know that the your son keeps saying that the teacher is
handsome and that I don't know what I said to his girlfriend El he didn't say it then Lara didn't say it she said it's true and so on Oh I 'm going to talk to him at home so that's a joke, this family is ok connected with me for sure the day something arrives as soon as the mother says wait a minute William said so there must be something we are in connection I understood then yesterday the same students they said like this teacher did you know from one of a theory we created a theory
here Oh yeah There are some students who say that their father doesn't love uhum they say like this ah I can't say I love you to my father so we created a theory all the fathers who say they don't love they are bald I loved Caíque let's go now there is evidence What is The evidence the ball dripping in front of me to talk about exact science about science Where is the evidence Where is the evidence where did you see this oh because so-and-so and so-and-so said no, no, the mother And then another student, João,
said, but wait a minute, define baldness, look if it looks beautiful, what is Baldheaded ? shaved shaved his head then he's bald Oh so beauty so she can't be bald only natural it can also be second that style is Geraldo alkem only the side ah and also the bald So beauty we defined then they took it and said three so I said then the what are you going to do now we are going to do a scientific method you are going to increase the population you are going to contrast whether this is true and we
are going to have a percentage then one of the girls raised her hand and said I have the same problem but mine father is hairy, they said, you see, there is already a theory, so the theory is already there, so we can work on this case with probability Sometimes we can reach the number of 99% But We can already see that it is not 100% because sometimes this thing that teenagers say is absurd and the bald father doesn't say I love you here, it has nothing to do with it but you have to ask but
he became bald when he could say that, he could say it at a time when when you were little you don't remember and he is this I'm going to take this to them so yeah Sometimes we hear the absurd in my community where I have several parents sometimes I say like this your son arrived home imagine the scenario your son came home and said something like this, mother, father, I went to a party and there were drugs and it was a lot of drugs and it was going to end, it was over, it was no
longer heard, what was it, what was it, drug, It's over, so I know it 's uncomfortable, I know, my students have told me like that, ah I tried marijuana uhum sa talking stupid don't do that SAC banks dopamine your brain but then I think Look what an opportunity he's trusting me to tell him exactly that and it did And then how did it go oh it was good it was cool it was a breeze Yeah did you know that it is made to give you a breeze did you know that I don't know what there
did you know that people who have schizophrenia They have an excess of dopamine and that is why sometimes They hallucinate and if you have a predisposition you can marijuana can be a trigger and increase, did you know? Wow, I didn't say marijuana won't cause schizophrenia, but if you have it, what's your DNA, do you have schizophrenia? test it, right? And then put the neuron in your head . It's building yours. I like to use it with teenagers. A child is very wet clay, if I do it like this , it's hard for you to do
anything, right ? cut into this clay vase I have to put a tool, you can't do it with your hands anymore, right? So your brain is in formation so you talk like this Ah, so you 're in information, there's an excess of dopamine in it, so you're susceptible, no, marijuana, no. It is made for teenagers to use There are studies that already show that it even works in the elderly. There was Neurogenesis, it was legal, so when you are 90 you use it and you are free, depending on not necessarily medicinal cannabis with small doses
of THC, which is totally different from the cannabis it is sold. that we don't even know that there is so much Or of or of I already told him do you know what is pressed Oh you know what the marijuana that is sold there you know what marijuana is marijuana marijuana is a flower and such You know that little flower, that little leaf, that's not what smokes, it's the flower, so you teach it like that, I say it like this, then the guy picks it up, there's a flower there he cuts it he makes it's
a craft he takes it there and rolls it up and smokes it cool this guy smoked or some marijuana you know what it's pressed pressed it's the following you see a tractor you see a tractor pulling out everything twig beetle dung and marijuana J Fungo Fungo he rolls it up there and sells it, have you ever seen when he goes to daena where he picked up the load, the load is packed in a compressed processed block, everything is processed there, it's like, you know, that food industry is of the worst quality, that's what happens So
then I ask you, are you smoking everything except marijuana, the Vape thing that has caused a lot of problems in schools too? With teenagers, the question I ask is too much, what's in there? I 'm not going to scare my audience nicotine is very good let's imagine now here that we are a businessman who makes vapes Ok what is the most expensive vape raw material that we have to have ah nicotine Ah so come on, do it a square of nicotine costs this it costs that but here's the thing, there's a regulation uhum the worst
cigarette ever that existed that worst cigarette Uhum you can be sure there's nicotine there, tar and I don't know what and everything that's on the paper why Oh man love, thank you, his is with you, ours is with Cowboy, I want to get to that, thank you guys, I stopped the soda, I can drink it today. Calm down, it's a degree of spirituality, an evolution, I already drink sugar-free lemon juice, but Hey, it's still there. try evolution then here's the thing, let's go, the cigarette has to have it, so the gift, the cigarette brand, it
can't talk like that, oh, put something in there because there is a regulation, someone Take that cigarette, Open an account, do everything, then the vape, no one regulates it, it's prohibited You're using something prohibited, there's no way you can be regulated as a vape businessman, you were going to put pure nicotine, say, watch the narcos movie from the pbio Escobar, the guys put gis in cocaine, put it in, Ivory, put bicarbonate, the guy is going to put a pure thing so if no one regulates What are you smoking, then we don't know Well, you have
the courage to put something in your body that you don't even know what it is if the guy puts rat poison in there, I don't know, you You he will continue smoking then but it always starts from the moment the teenager thinks about what he thinks, right ? Yes, I say that I bought ohod everything in capital letters with the Premium package, right, so for example Ah, you can't touch your cell phone, you can't, I don't know what there are a lot of people say like that, you want to touch your cell phone, it's for
you, this isn't good I'm not going to make myself available, do you want to leave the room? There's another problem you have at school. You go to the bathroom And don't come back. You don't live there in the bathroom . and not coming back it seems like he does it because he can't, right Uhm And we were once teenagers, we just know that it's the following conversation, I can't, I can't, if I'm talking in parallel and someone starts talking in parallel, I have a defect, it's mine, take your focus but I cannot I'm not able
to work but here's the thing, we have a problem, it's not me, I have to teach my class and you have to learn, we have a problem, how can we solve it, then no one talks, no one talks, I told you and now I have a problem here, a student got up and said, Teacher, you know what it is, sometimes we are anxious to talk and then we want to talk to a friend, something that we came up with, I said very well, and how do you Guide me to do it because like this? While
I'm talking, if you talk to a friend it gets in the way, I have no problem with you talking to your friend, I think it's cool socially, but during class it's not possible, I need a solution, so he said, the class lasts 50 minutes, if we did it 20 10 for a break, like an exchange of ideas and 20 I said 10 you are abused five but look at something I said I never thought about it a break in conversation to depressurize us we don't take breaks and this is even one of the tactics with
children who has TDH, you start, you do tasks and establish small breaks, small breaks so that he can recapture his attention, as he is very small, we use play, you can go to Joãozinho's room to get more gi, a pill for me, Don't put him in the spotlight and those who are more teenagers, exactly, we arrive, friend, you can go there. It's the student, for example, who is problematic, right, most of the time he just needs to have a stage, he needs to be seen, it's that student who is causing it. he wants to be
seen because he goes and does his homework, he does it, I don't know what, no one Pays attention to him then one day he throws stones at the glass and then his father appears and says wow, that's how I pay attention, right? I had an affair once I would carry a little horn, those little air horns like that and I would carry it in my backpack and I would talk. So when the conversation starts so I don't feel awkward, I just give it a blast, but then again, you know, how do I think, I analyze
I see who's talking, blow the horn, eight commands don't work for me, I'm a single-tasker, declared classic, so I said, I'm going to choose The Guardian of the horn in the room, okay, that naughty boy said, I want it, I'll stay there, I said, You stay, he's going to play this all the time, so Salin said no, teacher, don't let him, he's going to play it, I don't know what, I called him outside, I'm talking to the child or I'm talking to a man, you have a beard on your face, are you me? giving you
your word and, until today, I haven't found anything more effective with teenagers than putting them in adult decisions. I'm giving you my trust, this little horn represents that I know you won't use it, you're representing me in situations specifics that I can You can See that no one trusts you no one in there Said give it to him and so on I'm trusting I can't Professor Of course it's possible I don't know what Beauty my came into the room it looked like from BOPE I had the horn here That's it and then no one says
if I pick up the horn and give it to the thing, I hear someone say oh but I don't know if I should, the thing doesn't work, it has to have another function and that's the beauty of being able to understand the different personalities of each and every one has the best to give, right? I met one, I gave her to a Catholic institution and there was a sister who took care of her, sister Selma, who was one of the most incredible human beings I've ever met in my life, herm Selma said that to me
When I lived there in Aloa, the guys would jump on my farm and I would shoot them Manu was perfect, Iran Don't say that to us, she said, do you think a sister is a mummy, ahem, and she did I have blood, she had a master's degree, she was our incredible, but look at me I think that neuroscience and the possibility that it gives and what you do today Willan to bring these connections is something that you use neuroscience you use brain functioning and you use love that's behavioral You know behavioral And then you brought
me some It's a story like this that it's really worth bringing up questions like don't use marijuana and you gave a very cerebral example of that and hey , Professor, I always arrive and say I want to sleep at my friend's house, why am I going, why am I? I have to let you know that I'm at my friend's house, there are always these stories and I also worked at a Catholic school and this example came to light like this, there were two situations with the same thing with the twins, right, they were twins, ahem,
one went to the school teacher. history and offered a little bit of money for the low grade and the other one went to the math teacher and that offered a little bit of money a little bit of money to pay literally literally gave that literal money there bribe I did this one was educated and that went around the school, right and the other one he offered what G history and the other was a teacher mate and I think that at home they had that connection and each one took it was close and then we got
in touch with the family and so on and scheduled a meeting because that It happened at school, right? Everyone found out and of course the teachers also told them and Then it arrived on Monday morning, neither the twins nor the parents showed up to talk . no one showed up and then at break time they went to my room and said, Alex, did you know what happened, I said, no, what happened, a smaller city, right ? the police broke into the house and discovered that they were involved with gambling and so on, I don't know
what and then there was all that confusion at school and then in the afternoon I got together, I always got together with a group. In high school I always got together in groups. with them in conversation and I used this example I used it like this the character comes from home if they had this behavior here it didn't come from them they just saw it happen in some way and but now I want to remember you know that little thing you say like that because that my father won't let me go to so-and-so's house because
he knows so-and-so but he doesn't know so-and-so's parents. Imagine a friend in this house who doesn't know his parents, he only knows so-and-so and something like that happens, so that's why we have to get to know our Parents, our friends and I want to leave that here because it's always that question that comes up today, I'm almost 20 years old since I left the Education field as a direct job and it's something that we You always see teenagers come up and say what a shame Alex, my father doesn't want to let me go to so-and-so's
house, I said, but do your parents know so-and-so's parents, do you, no, I don't know so-and-so, so-and-so's father works, I don't know, I said. Then I always bring up this example. as history and this makes a big difference because I think teenagers really need this creativity of visual history that you today, in particular, can generate together with neuroscience, this connection of love, this connection of taking Knowledge and Making it reflect, I never arrive as You too, I see this in your videos, in your audios, of never arriving, eh IMP, you can't do that, bringing a
teenager to consciousness is much better than punishing him and not explaining why, right? And you are very to be congratulated with this, it's really cool, this thing of equals for equals, right? That's it, that's the basic rule to be with children and with teenagers, with teenagers, it's Necessary with children, it's favorable, it's creative with children, we go creative there, once, once I took a course and I forgot the guy's name, he is one of the creators of NLP [ __ ] I forgot his name now I was telling the story he was a psychiatrist Uhum
And he was treating a boy who had schizophrenia And here's what he saw, remember, I knew him as Presuntinho, I don't know if he knew Lanon's name, that little Daffy Duck, he had a gun, he ran after Daffy, right? So what did he do, he left the television? and he ran after this person, this patient, he saw it like this and everyone like that, there's no ex, I don't know what a problem with the guy and the guy, but the guy was running in an area where he was hospitalized, he got hurt, he hit himself,
right? There must have been countless cases like this And then in the training I remember this story where they said that he went to try another approach with this patient and came up with how it is. Then the guy came out and started he entered the world Of course and went to the world world then everything else then He took his hand out of his pocket and gave him an eraser he said he's not a drawing uhum If you use the eraser it's the weapon against the drawing That's it, the guy stopped having crises, exactly.
So it's like that if I don't enter that world and I don't understand and I don't understand that I have to shout the one who gets into trouble and the one who stays quiet until concluding about Sister Selma's sister, Sister Selma said this For me, you see, these kids are angry, so run, shout, salt, these boys, we don't worry, we just have to leave them on the trail, but like this, if we put him, but like this, if we put them in the right place, this energy It's going to take them very far because she
said the school, these schools are normally Catholic. They're many years old, right? 30 years ago Today he's a CEO Today he's I don't know what Today he's a businessman and so on She said the problem is the little guy knows why the little guy passes through the social filters proves he does work he makes you ask his mother what nothing happens, he comes, he gets home, he eats, he sleeps, he folds clothes, he's not perfect, he doesn't start fights, he doesn't do anything, I don't know what, but he's Developing anxiety, depression, a problem, no one
notices, invisible, invisible to others student is sometimes absent, the teacher says but he was absent, I don't know if he was absent, I don't know. No one noticed it had been three days since the student came to school and No one noticed while the naughty guy the day he went Madinho everyone that what happened happens true so if we don't understand this, when I give public speaking training, for example, you have to go up front, the first rule of the class is not mandatory, uhum, if you don't want to go up front, you won't be
punished, you won't lose your grade. It's okay, don't go and then on the first day few people go it's like no no half go half go and half don't go oh no need it's all obligatory and that's it in a little while Say Oh cool it's just that I say it's not obligatory but it's important because here's the thing, I'm giving you this option in the job interview, you won't have one day you'll have to present your TCC so it's not better here than here You make a mistake Uhum And the sentence that the student
who is watching there Go on, say it like that, wow, I can't bear to hear that phrase but I 'm going to say it once again, you're not here to get it right, you're here to learn, if you don't make mistakes, in fact, I'm unemployed, right? So you make a lot of mistakes, the teacher has work and I play with This fal continues to cause problems because then it guarantees my profession, if you are all angels, we are also sure it won't work, we're going to go now, eh, Bru Let's go to pipinho, pipinho reporter
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friends with my son he's going to insult me then I say but what kind of friendship is this Uhmm that person curses themselves so first let's do an analysis of what it is friend, right, so, there is no one in this Plan better than the father, mother or caregiver of that child of that teenager to be her friend uhum there is no other problem that teenager he will look for him that's how he goes after someone for information whatever someone he trusts, in this case his father and mother, who will give him guidance or he
can look for another adult who will take him to a bad side or he can do something that is very common, which is he accidentally makes a mistake, right? that's how he asks another Teenager who also doesn't have the same thing Well, so I always say like this, it's very important to be a friend, it's very important But you have to know that authority, I don't need to shout to be an authority, I don't need to show it like that, eh, that one history right who and eh I don't need it if you need to
say that you are a leader you are not leading I am the leader this thing it happens so authority it needs to happen in all segments when you are with a patient there and he caused it you don't need to scream and curse him but you're going to put it look so far you can go from here on out so I say like this oh be the best friend, right be the best be it like this oh every time you have one problem not to be afraid to talk exactly to know that you are available
I always like to tell and my father was a bricklayer my whole life my mother was a seamstress later when we were older my mother was a public school teacher and everything was missing In our training, we lacked money, we lacked all the financial problems you can imagine, they were lacking in our childhood, right, wow, what do I say, I have a younger sister, in fact, my Sister is an airplane pilot on the biggest plane in the Pass, and she piloted it now, she's my sister . a genius like you, incredible like you, thank you,
thank you very much, Alex, but one thing we always heard at home was that it was like this, just go face it and if it goes wrong, the bed is here, the shower is here, ex, so the food plate is not here there will always be a lack of affection and affection, there will always be a lack of it, even when we hit the beam as a teenager it was like And that's what you want, this is the path you're following I'm here with you I remember we lived in a house There was a ravine
like that, the garage was underneath, right? My father had a Corcel, I don't know, a really crazy car at the time, color, and then I was underage, I told him, Dad, I want to put the car in the garage, then he He said you can't do it because this garage is difficult to put in , but I want to, so I said, he said, I can't do it, but I want it with your key. pay, I said, I don't want to, he said, yes, yes, go there and put the car in the garage. Then I
said, no, I don't want it, do you want to, go There and put the car in the garage? See with love, I never caught anything, but now you go there and put it in. Then I remember that I called a friend's house and asked him to come over so he could guide me, turn left, turn to Abner, a hug for Abner, my friend, so he can help me put the car inside uhum, one other thing, my father, one time he was working on a construction site he took me to work on the construction site and
he opened it he told me to open a trench in the ground with the pickaxe and I'm there and the sun is on my back, right I'm not very big anymore Imagine me at 14 I was half my size I was so thin and I was hitting him, opening that hole, I finished, he picked up the good lunch box and said, let's have lunch, had lunch, then came back from lunch, he said to me, cover, I said, but you don't make any sense, cover, and it was a time when there wasn't much conversation, right? He
said, cover it, so I went there, angry and land, here's the thing, you take it off and put it on, it doesn't work anymore, it doesn't fit anymore, then everything was stuck there, then I said, oh, but why did you do that, he said, you know why I did that for you? get angry about this here and study because this isn't a life for anyone, don't keep digging I said it's Under the sun So go study there in anger like the medicine girl I said because I'm going to study, I'm going to prove that I'm
not going so that's it my friend Uhum, it's about friendship, it's about it, it's about everything, I know, I'm sure that if I call my father now, as an adult, my mother and talk to my mother, I'm here in Barra da Tijuca, I have a problem, my mother comes on foot to here uhum true she 's been walking in Dutra So far I'm sure of this so you need to be a friend you need to be the one who doesn't take away authority I'm a teacher friend I put it in mine this week, okay, so
far, then we can even send it to our editor Do you want to see, oh, I'm in the hallway playing tricks, I'm sitting here playing tricks with the students What's not there at the time of the conversation, I say like this Ah, when I 'm there playing tricks, the teacher is cool, now you're going to get married, no, no No, no, and me being a friend gives me even more authority when it comes to demanding authority and makes them have that feeling of Wow, I'm not going to waver with him, that's for sure, that's definitely
the thing about the bathroom, the thing about the bathroom, it's always like that I arrive on the first day, people like this, the bathroom is Next, it's biological, we need to go to the bathroom, do you feel like going to the bathroom, get up and go, you need it say, oh, but I don't know what's going on, one day I was raising someone who already has a history of not coming back, the one who goes and doesn't come back, teacher, here's the thing, it's really cool what you're doing, but like that, the boy who you,
he won't come back, I said, do you want to bet with me that in 5 minutes he'll be here and he's back and he's back, it's trust exactly, so, I'm going to assume that you're a grown-up guy, that I can trust you now, if then I I'm the friendly teacher who always has time to sit down and talk, sit down and now we're going to exchange ideas, it's confusing, right? It has to be, there's no other way . how this father was treated my father I always talk about the example of my parents like this
my father went to give him a hug he was 15 years old my father was an excellent father best in the world rating 1000 for my father But this thing like this son comes here I love you Give me an ab never Uhum I hugged my father he was like that he didn't know how to speak mother doesn't love me doesn't hug me doesn't say I Love you so I went to research his life Chicão who is my grandfather his father used to beat him Enchanted, imagine catching a child being beaten with stuffed, my grandfather
killed G, my grandpa left me there, he abandoned his family, he knew what it was, right, what it was like, he just learned that I don't like this guy, just the fact that he didn't hit me with stuffed, he's already evolved evihe but he hasn't learned what a father can do and I don't know what we have, he still doesn't have a grandson, he's my sister, we don't have children, but that's what I say, this one is going to be the stupidest grandpa in the world because this is going to be the one who goes
like this eh, do everything you couldn't do , but when we understand the story, then I'm in the community with the parents, when I meet with the parents, I say, it won't be resolved from today to tomorrow, that's exactly it, we also have to make it very clear Oh, I did That didn't work, do it 10 times then you measure it and then we have to have a toolbox I got here there are pliers so I said oh but you have to tighten a screw okay I'll come here and get my screwdriver right now if
I only have a pair of pliers in my life to solve all the problems, man, you're going to suffer a lot, I say, there are days when I Apply all my knowledge with the student, there are days when I apply it with Larissa and it just doesn't work and everything is fine, don't give up, then I'll go there in my toolbox ex what can I do differently so to respond to respond like this friendship always does not exist too much love does not exist for the child to be sure that he is loved that he
is welcomed and that even when he If I make a mistake, there will be a place to go back and when I need to go there and apply authority, what I can't do is I wipe it down when it has to be tightened and I tighten it up when it needs to be wiped down, and you have to learn, if you don't know how to do it, you have to seek help to learn, go learn, you're feeling cold, Cláudio, ah, it raises the temperature that men don't feel sensitive, set it to 25. How much 25
will it get better Cláudio I'm thinking of you I have female sorority you understand that these men don't have it, let's go now that I remember that Cláudia is there, right ? It's a TDH and TDH sometimes speaks with impulse, at first you were excited, she talked about her, but now in the impulsiveness he put himself in a conflict, he stuttered and said, I forgot, but it wasn't from the beginning, he said, right, Cláudia, Cláudia , I always tell her that you have to help with the training of people who work with TDH, she is
a banker, she is from Oct. To say something, I'll go to Will and say this, love, you can peel a potato and we like to cook together. Peel the potato . cutting it in the water exactly I say like this I want the potato to come home to me do you want me to cut the neck like this F like this F like this Ass for us , no, but you have to leave it, but you have to leave it Wrong, leave it the way you leave it on the potato, which cooks faster, the onion,
right? So this here is all it does, it doesn't drift, it doesn't Drift, it starts giving millions of information, you know what's really crazy, there are those memes on the internet, you know, when someone asks, for example, the guy says, 'I'm coming home drunk, right? Then the first image. the person arrives, opens the door , enters, you know, the stairs and lies down, it's imagined, right? while I cut the onion I could put water to boil while I do it and then I could And then I'm all this is very organized but in real life
Who's watching I'm spinning round and round and it doesn't do anything it's running then I'll come back She says just the onion you have to do it exactly or you have to do a script do that then do that then do ISS for example food make food quickly I can't order it on the app it's not possible if you have to sit all day that he receiving at home is all day long we eat it we arrive at 18 the onion then I'm there it's a podcast Zinho there a class has to be a ritual
if you put three TR an onion it's almost an hour, right Cláudia next time Bru you hello I understand That my son has entered the withdrawal phase everything I propose to do with him that he used to love, now he finds it boring he doesn't open up anymore and just wants to know about friends and screens this is normal what to do answering the first question absolutely normal Congratulations, depending on your age, everything was fine if you're a teenager, but just for the sake of it, you know, friends just want to know about your friends,
because you're a teenager, there's a first point, so there's a moment in our lives when our parents or our caregivers, they are the the biggest reference of right and wrong that exists, right? So you arrive like this, for example, the child is at school. False, say big-headed, then mom, they said I'm a son, you're not big-headed, you have a beautiful little head there. Hug mommy, okay, it's resolved right away, why ? Because the reference of right and wrong is saying that it's not true, so I'm feeling good when it gets there, about 7 to 9
years old, which is a preparation for adolescence, I'm going to use some technical things, but I know that people of all professions, watch, I'll try to be very light in the explanation, there's a process called neural pruning, right Uh, neural pruning, that's Right, so what happens with neural pruning, it's like pruning a tree. So I think like this, I better have a lot of twig or is it better if I have few Twigs but strong so I go there and cut those little flowers that are kind of they are sucking the sap but they won't
lead to anything I cut them so that those that are already strengthened become stronger so the brain maintains much more neurons in childhood and he loses in this neural pruning the brain says like this Oh this one he uses this one he uses what he uses let's leave this one strong that one over there doesn't use it loses a way of seeing this very easily which is very cool and we learn speaking until the age of 7, those children like mogly, some cases in science where I never saw a human being until the age of
7, then they no longer learn to speak. Close the window, so for example, we learn the Portuguese language, we learn the phonemes when the we are going to learn English as adults, there is The we are incapable of pronouncing and listening because ooo someone who speaks English is talking like this and says so, then you speak. Then he says no. I'm Saying the same thing, so neural pruning will eliminate the other neurons of the other phonemes. Why do I just speak? I only use these ones here when we need to learn Chinese, we speak flango
and you say fr, he says it, he doesn't hear it exactly, so what? what his brain says oh I have this fem I'm going to throw it to someone who is closer and what does this have to do with this response one of the connections that are most lost are the dopamine connections a child is normally a healthy child she is very motivated you say like this let's see the dog she says uh dog come on let's go to the window Wow let's go to the window she is very motivated dopamine is this motivation neurotransmitter
when I lose these dopamine connections that the brain is rearranging itself to preparing for adolescence I lose these connections And then the opposite of motivation is boredom then you say let's see the dog Oh I saw the dog why Because biologically those connections that motivate them are in a transition phase and as we said in the at the beginning, half of this is just nature alone, it will resolve the issue, right, and at grandma's house you tell a child, let's go to Grandma's house, wow, go out and collect things, young teenager Let's go to the
house again, grandma, right, so He gets bored, it's absolutely normal So this dopamine connection problem decreases So what will increase this dopamine drug alcohol risk behavior there is a study that talks about deaths of young people and adults the comparison first death of a young violent death second suicide third car accident fourth and respiratory problems and fifth drowning apart from the respiratory problems you realize that there are four impulsive deaths violent death is an impulsive death I even think that the respiratory one too because if he takes a vape It is maybe caused This is
true nowadays it is good Exactly but you realize that violent death comes out a fight there was a stab if the person stopped to think about the car accident suicide in drowning no one drowns in the 1.5 pool no one drowns drowns because Oh I'm going to jump into the middle of the sea I don't know how much when you pass by adult death the first 10 are cancer , heart attack, I don't know what diseases, the eighth and a car accident, so you can see that just by moving The prefrontal cortex alone, it's ready
and inhibits many behaviors, just by nature doing this alone, it already reduces exposure to risk. So for teenagers it's very common and red line goes here in Rio say I 'll give 200 on the red line if I say that let's get in a car now a bureaucratic thought by this prefrontal cortex saying man if you're crazy give 200 but for the teenager for the social Even more so if he is validated the one who turns the bottle and everyone oh so beautiful that's it validated a behavior so it's absolutely normal when she says it
here that he no longer opens up and just wants to know about his friend because in his head there is a process on both sides, right, but it's a process like mourning, so the father and the mother, she says, where is that docile child that was here? that we liked to go to mom's house that I was the reference for everything that everything I said was cool now there is a tenant in the house with a beard a woman menstruating in the house that whoever put that tenant in, where is that Docile and What mourning
is is a feeling that I will never have that person that I loved so much again and there really won't be because that's what passing is like, but unlike the conventional mourning of Death that the person passed away, there is a being there complex human transformation into transformation And that's not going to change because everyone talks like that oh but he's 14 now I say that I'm old with a beard and a white beard my mother still calls me asking if I closed the window before coming here she asked Did you manage to go, it's
ok, you're in Rio, it's clear, right, mother, like every other time and she still asks, so it's just that the teenager also has this grief because he talks like this, now I'm at a stage where no one understands me, I discovered that my mother and father are not perfect and don't know everything my mother cries What do you mean my father has anxiety my father doesn't know the answers and nowadays he still has a cell phone the difference is in the classroom we see this a lot so if a teacher came to the classroom and
spoke like this, the capital of Rio Grande do Sul is João Pessoa, you say ok, teacher, you say, ok, today you say 78.35, You say, Professor, I see here on Google that it is 77, then you say, ok do you have What is the source The source is UN legal Thanks for contributing Bring him in so he starts socially understand what What my friends say is more important than what my parents say so again PR I think a mother is everything It's ok And the withdrawal phase is absolutely normal because now he is testing new
possibilities and if I I have a friend and if I do this and if I and this is that time to arrive and listen And then how was your day because he starts to get into the habit of saying he's coming and what to do so when we arrive for example a classic the teenager got into an argument and went out and knocked on the door ah He knocked on the door and cursed this shit at this house and I don't know what and locked himself in his room and then we took him to the
staff and said something like this ah inside my house, he doesn't wash the dishes, I'm the one who pays I pay for the school, I go there, then he goes there and knocks down the door and lectures the teenager and that's what normally happens and then you think, I have to do this every time because it doesn't work, it's just like adults, right? Here Um, this comment is going to happen here in Our speech, which is how I got it and I'm alive, oh, now I got it, there's one that I really like, which is
how my father used to look at it once and I didn't do it anymore, so I say it's really cool, that's yours. Dad then did this once in his life and then you never gave him any trouble again, no, he did it all the time, but if he had to look at it every day, it's not functional, it's not that efficient, the tactic And the other thing he had to do is it's there Uh, that's the what I say, the Prisoner has to have a jailer looking after him, so if you only respect the person
because they are present, that's not respect , it's not fun, right? know so many, it's a doubt And then sometimes that thing comes in and here without the judgment of the parents, but I want to say, pay attention to this, the mother of the 12-year-old son thinks he's eight, the mother of the 16-year-old son thinks he's She's 12 , the mother of her 20-year-old son thinks that the mother of her son, who's almost 40, thinks he's 15, right, you're the type, you've arrived at the appointment. parents' meeting The teacher said, oh , you know what,
one time I was watching an article about that drug that starts with cu uhum and I said Drug that starts with cocaine el Oh yeah, but there are some teenagers, I said, do you think the teenager I didn't know much else, you go to the teenager and say, we need to talk about sex, the teenager says, you can ask what you want to know exactly what you need, so if I treat that teenager as less than their age, then he says it's stupid my father doesn't know b he knows exactly now in class it's always
like this my brother do you think I wasn't a teenager do you think I don't skip class without I don't know what it's like to skip class what it's like I didn't come what it's like to trick the teacher I know everything now it's up to you to make that decision, there's definitely a phrase that we hear a lot from Rota's São Paulo police that we think, the guy from Rota arrives shouting, hitting, slapping, on the contrary, he's so silent, he arrives and Tell me how do you want to be treated morally if you have
a gun with drugs I'll get a clamp at the police station it's resolved there's no shouting What screams is sometimes the smallest rank he has to put there the thing That is strong so Bob goes This is how it's done now, ah, I decided to go for confrontation, my friend , you made a terrible decision this time. So when we arrive and tell him, look, that's what I was talking about, knocking the door, everything, then I say, oh, leave it. lower the energy Ah, but then you have to let it go and slam the door
screaming no no no no no let the energy lower today tomorrow sit down and exchange ideas you say like this have you ever seen someone in this house knock on the door have you ever seen someone in this house screaming Have you ever saw someone in this house cursing when they lose their temper but then comes the reflection Does this not happen at home because does corruption not happen at home and the boy says oh that's how it is the mirror is the mirror once in a At the school where I taught, a student also
came in with a knife in his backpack and he was being bullied, right? Then he opened his backpack and showed it to the people, he didn't do anything with the knife, he showed it And then the teacher saw that he took Aqua and was at that time of the attacks there was confusion then I said it again I have nothing to do with that but let's go where did he learn that from then he went to get his father up the neighbor said S loudly EA with the knife I don't know what there Was going
with the knife the other one was going with the knife, he said like this Ah, okay, that's how I defend it, right? So what this mother can do is listen a lot to what he has to say, tell him like this, oh, you want to stay in the room, I respect you, but I would like to understand I don't want to disturb you, I'm here to help you and break down this little bit, slowly and it's not in a conversation, it's we had a week in our community There was a mother who came to talk
like this, it's a community of parents in which the parents They help, right, and I come with the technical support, the technical equipment, the technical equipment, there saying, Look, this happens here in biology and she said, my son, he takes the food and takes it to the room and it's just her and her son who lives, so I eat dinner alone all the time. day because he picks up the food and takes it to the room then I then she said I don't know why he does that I said have you ever asked him this
question you're asking him here to a bunch of strange people Have you ever asked him this but So, go with him, you can go with him and eat with him there with affection without judgment without reaching out, why don't you go, what do you have against Me? for him, then he went and spoke to him like this and said something like this oh because like, I like listening to music like that, she said, but everything puts music there, there's no problem And then she talked like that, the other day she said And then I told
her, don't force it, yeah dripping dripping, it just doesn't bother you, now your head leaks all day, every day, you talk like that, son, I wanted to have dinner with you, but I can go to your room, everything's fine, every day. Then she said that one day he arrived and sat down He put his cell phone away, he didn't keep his cell phone, he put on some music, then he put on a rap song and she said, oh, he put on his song, a rap song, then he arrived and started having dinner with me, we
started talking and said, Mom, do you want to choose the song for Those who weren't coming already started to choose the dinner song and then she said no, daughter, that's cool, I want to learn the song and what did she do, what was the magic I heard, I opened the communication channel and when you look at this class here It's the class that causes the most tears in the classroom with teenagers, it's what communication is like with their parents Wow, then you need to listen because We start from that adult-centrism that I know everything, I
know all the answers, I know everything we have to do We were yesterday making a video call with Larissa, she had a problem to solve, she came to ask for advice but she only comes to ask for advice because her mother says so bro, if you do anything absurd I'm here for you for sure and she came and told me and I told her do you want our opinion Or have you already made a decision that you want to be validated which is also okay Sometimes you have already made the decision And you just want
ok with us and so on, if you make a decision then what if you make the decision B it's us but the choice is yours we are together we go with you we will always be with you so sometimes it's there at al that I say love limit stimulus is to go up to al because the tripod only works with the three feet on the ground, if one is weak, it falls over here, there's no way to have a tripod missing a leg, so am I giving little stimulation Am I giving little love, am I
giving these legs a little limit? because if you're missing a tripod with Two legs, it won't stand up exun next Bru, it's me, it's William, I was super protected as a child and now as an adult I face some challenges such as insecurity and I perceive an emotional dependence, this could be absolutely related, yes I usually say that there is two things Sometimes we have defects that we understand are defects, William, I am, I am a disorganized person, for example, if you look around me, here, here, the glasses, the mug, the pet, the glass, the
glass is disorganized. Yours here is cool, mine is disorganized, I'm a person, my house is disorganized, Me, I live like this, it's difficult, role, do you know where everything is? So, if you give me a piece of paper and a contract, I'll send it to you by email and I'll write down the phone number in that contract. It's beautiful to be disorganized, so for example, what do I do? I set a time, I arrive an hour early. Because I know that my nature is a person who is late, late, oh my dear, I did that,
you know what I was doing, my clock was one o'clock and I Believed in my watch, everyone, your watch is wrong, it's not right for me, so much so that I make me a punctual and organized person ISO, so much so that I talked to Gustavo, who had a conversation with us, and then Gustavo said So, you don't need to arrive early, I think he saw me saying that somewhere, he even told me you can arrive at a leisurely time, right? Because I arrive very early, I was downstairs at the reception, there were 15 minutes
to go, I was sweating Clara. He said, do yours and come up, I said no, I'm working here because it's the fear of being late because I know I'm late and I understand perfectly well, defrosting meat is on my phone's agenda, taking out the trash, Alexa me. Let me know that you have to take out the trash because otherwise I'll accumulate trash at home, you create your organization rituals, that's why I started with this idea, super protection and perfectionism, there's a cone that looks cool, oh, I do everything for myself. Son, I'm going there, I
protect everything I protect, I don't let him go out on the street because there are robbers on the street, the street is so cute, you know, when we look at it like that, for Example, there, what is it, what is the missing leg? that for those who have super protection, the encouragement uhm my lady, otherwise he won't learn any 14 year old boy, girl, knows how to make rice, knows how to wash clothes, now if you don't stimulate, you'll get the rice right the first time Of course not, then we'll just make rice together Then
get the family together, cute, cut it, then when he's going to sauté the garlic, it burns Ah, but he can't do anything either, so let me make food, let me make food, so it's difficult, we have a problem at the table, right, when a person you take this test It's very interesting, someone who is pregnant or is planning to have a child, you sit down with that person and talk like this and then when you're thinking about your child, she will say 90% of the things, child, uhm, oh, I'm going to teach him how to
do it. someone sing a song, I'm going to teach him to cheer for a team, I'm going to teach him, I'm going to teach him, I'm going to teach anyone, like, prepare for a teenager and when he enters adolescence, it's zero, the game has changed the phase and now, man, everything you did that worked 90% doesn't. It's going to work, Right ? that someone who was super protected Thinks that this is the way, right? So this is a process that we can even call therapeutic that has to be like this, let go, to let go,
give it to him, the resolution says, oh, I'm going to let you go there in Brás in São Paulo and you have to go back home because it's a little traumatizing, uh, the action is slow, so what doesn't my son do and I don't let him do anything like that oh I don't let him go out on the street so OK, so you're going to leave him in the garage alone to play in the garage alone. There's a gate, it's protecting everything. In a little while, you'll open it, slowly enlarging it, because otherwise it'll traumatize
And then, in this process, something could happen in this process that's something negative, oh, there it is. That's why it has to be, um, that's what I always say, when you want him to go to school, you'll probably have to leave him in front and a little further back, so he knows he has a reference but you're not going there. stay at the school door, eh, man, give Mom a kiss, don't go there, son, I'm here, go there, because again, when you, the child leaves school and sees you in front of all her classmates, she
comes over and gives you a big hug because she I'm very happy to see you Wow, you're coming to get me Because children have that thing like if you you Say, I'm going to leave you there, the child Say, bro, screw me, I can't stay here, I don't know how to do anything, so she'll answer you If you say that to a teenager F metaphor, I'm glad she's not, you're going to abandon me, mother, wow, what joy, but this is a shell of bravery because inside she needs affection, she needs it like this, I'm with
you, do what you need to do, so because she was super protected, it's normal for her to have these insecurities and this dependency, but the The most beautiful thing I believe is that I don't have children, but Larissa does, you have several, Lissa represents all the others that you have every day, but look at something like this that I always say is that there is nothing better than that those students who go to school who have already graduated and go there to see me Yes, I say go and find something to Do that you see
but the teacher came here because I entered college because I so he doesn't depend more of me so when to a father to a mother who talks like that my son is moving on with his life and he no longer depends on me but even though he doesn't he will see you he likes you which is love in essence it's exactly that It's the one that you, unquestionably, it's not a necessity, it's a choice. Exactly, I choose, it's here, I choose to continue with the relationship, if we can take it PR, love relationships, friendship relationships,
but in the relationship with the teenager, he needs guidance and Oh, I know, I know I know everything, okay, okay, you know, and we know that we don't know because when we were teenagers, the idea goes back to that of the mother, if I'm a friend, right, if I should be a friend, he'll ask someone, someone, he'll ask now that be it for someone who is trustworthy, exactly close Bru, my daughter suffers a lot from the rigidity and demands of her parents, she is always trying hard to meet their expectations and when she succeeds, she
is not always valued What is the importance of parents praising their children, come on, affection limits And stimuli love limit stimulus but affection fits am love is because love is the greatest dosa affections is love limit stimulus so I always say like this oh I had an affair once at school he wasn't my student he was a younger student because I love him for high school so he was a student but I heard about the case there that it was the following, his father thought that his daughter had to get a 9.75 at least, good
P was obsessive, a serious problem, 9 75 is your limit and then you think like that Well, six is the average to pass, why do you have to get a 975? It's cool if you get it, let's praise it, let's do it, but he forced it This obsession and then when we go deeper into it there's always a Ah, but what am I going to tell my relatives Ah so you're not even considering that there's a child in pain there, you're thinking about what you have to say, right, cases that I had in the community,
for example, Ah, my son said he's gay, what am I going to tell my relatives, I said, talking, using the words in the Portuguese language everyone will understand and that's it and they don't have anything to do with it , right? Thing, so that was exactly it, but I always say that life is a game, so you take four areas of your life that you have 10 points, so I don't know, dating, work, you have that you can get 10 points at home, you it could be a 10 but instead of having 40 points you
have 30 uhum it won't be possible to get a 10 in everything, impossible everything so like that, oh and I'll tell you the girl I'm telling the story about she got 975 and 10 poor thing but the question was where is she getting it from somewhere and she was getting it from there she didn't have a social life she didn't go out she never went on a school trip she never went on a trip she didn't go to her friend's house to study study study study and then bring the reflection to her father because There's
also something that, for example, she's talking about the affiliate is So there are other parents and then if you come and say like that, no, but wait, then you have to do it quickly Ah, but it's my son, what are you bothering about in the meetings? parents, I say this, the child is yours, treat him, raise him the way you want, but I I'm going to give you some technical guidance here. He'll stop there and I'll tell him now if you Think that resolving it by fist-pumping is the way to solve it for you, no,
I don't have anything to do, if I have it there at your house, I'll separate it, I won't let it If you attack me but I won't be there, so be careful when you speak and there's a problem when this child or this teenager normally reaches this requirement, he hears no more often than not, what an obligation Of course, he doesn't study, he doesn't work, he doesn't do anything, he just studies, he got 10 anyway because he did what he had to do even worse, right, because not even when he is he is he gets
what was expected he receives a compliment he still receives one eh, one thing I always talk about praise is like this, praise is an incredible, fantastic tool for all the relationships of all the models but the compliment it needs to have something that is very simple but sometimes we forget it has to be from the heart it has to be true because when I arrive and say like that, hey, I don't know, your blouse is red I'm going to say everything like this oh I will, my body will speak to your red blouse now if
I say this blouse is blue Wow, I'm definitely saying this so when Sometimes we have something that you say like this, hey I really Liked it here, it's in there and I say that, your body speaks along with your tone of voice, there's no insecurity, right, yesterday in the conversation with Larissa I said Larissa, yes, there's no mistake, you like your mother, yes, I said it, you said it. Let me see, let me think, it's not like this and like this, so when you give that compliment with, if you believe in that, you'll be able
to, uh, do something there that the person will believe, there's a compliment that I always tell parents to take care of. Saying that this is how it is is praising something that a child or teenager may think is a gift that appeared from beyond the grave, a very common example of intelligence Uhum So, for example, a student, not the one I told the story about, a normal student, goes there and gets a 10. You say congratulations, that's cool, you're very intelligent, we know that he won't get 10 forever and when he arrives in life he's
going to take a great test there, he's in a great institution and he's going to get seven sixes in college if he's a 10, we listen to the phrase, right, if it's a 10, let's pass, he'll get a six, what's the association he's going to make, I lost that power of intelligence that I have Ah, so I shouldn't praise, yes, praise, you know What the effort is, you know why you got a 10 because you You spent the whole week studying because you paid attention in class because you cleared your doubts and then go back
to what you said at that time it wasn't your mother who gave it to you, you achieved it and you know why this 10 on the test had all this here this number 10 is a symbol of a process that you did if you hadn't studied if you hadn't watched if you hadn't paid attention no intelligence would do that for you there's a lot of intelligent people in the world doing things they're not happy with and being thrown into the water subuti Exactly It's underutilized, right? So when I say, look, Congratulations on the construction of
this, it's the same when you arrive and say, Ah, you're beautiful, uhm, beautiful, it's a subjective thing and it seems like this. some pimples are in that transitional phase of adolescence Then she says I lost the power I had of beauty intelligence Beauty now she talks like this man you are a person who if you are very friendly you are always with me you always talk about this then you will grow up you will always be there with you and the day that This student, this person, you know, an adult, he has a problem where
he doesn't get a grade, he'll say something like, wait, I'm a hard-working person. Maybe I have to try harder to do that at this point, in this place, you know, It's okay not to beat other qualities, hey, we had a na na after the pandemic when classes started again, we had a lot of problems with Larissa's grades, a lot of problems with her grades, and like I said, she was never like that, the student 10 10 10 10 10 their skills are different that the school still doesn't value much, right? Because she had changed schools
after the pandemic She changed and the teenager who arrives in the middle of the group, the group It's been 10 years, a lot more energy to adapt And then this year, 2023, she had a great year, we didn't have anything that was said about school, you know, and then at school, at school, I did the work, I took the test, I did everything, I did everything. what I had to do was cool, she passed the year last year, she had that shave, she had to make a recovery this year, it was beautiful, everything went well,
then we were at the beach at the end of the year, so I asked her what's the difference, it's the same school It's from one grade to another, It's not our thing, a subject came in. She said because I was feeling comfortable at school, she adapted, she adapted, because now I have friends, I know her, she no longer needs to spend energy to fit in, that's why what I say, I tell her that she is mine, my little laboratory mouse, I keep evaluating this. So in this case, it is very important to praise, praise the
attitudes, be a true compliment and as she says she is a goddaughter when approaching her parents, then the teenager may be the youngest Of the problems in this story, the problem lies with the parents, so think like this. I've already been very demanding parents, I've said this, if your child were, what would you want your child to be, ah, and do it right, that's the greatest right, ah, STF, if he were. the greatest STF minister in the world and were anxious and depressed would you change Oh no, of course not, so pay attention, right? I
've seen many, there are parents who try to strengthen, I think we have to strengthen this teenager a lot to see that he doesn't he needs more approval from his father and mother he is whole he is not half as much as his father and mother Many parents we have to give up and strengthen AD is to tell him look from here You won't achieve anything Let's go You're alive let's go there you will be your father you will be your mother you will be the best version of you this week I had a student
there this week I had a student who I will not reveal her name so as not to expose what she came to talk to me in private, right She She told me that she has a lot of difficulty focusing her attention, she's read a lot about DHD, she follows you, right, and everything, but her mother told her like that, I don't believe in psychologists, like her mother said, And then I told her like that Oh, eliminate this one, she won't take you, or you can get a public psychologist or you know someone and ask for
guidance, we'll have to find other tools because her mother was incisive in saying, I don't believe in psychologists, yes, and that's okay, she will. If you overcome this difficulty, you will create meos. There's something really cool about TDH: we work well with challenges because challenges release adrenaline, release dopamine, the harder we gain strength, muscle by muscle, so maybe that will make her a much better person. It's cool and it's really good, she'll know what you're talking about, She'll definitely hear it from you, it'll be really cool, definitely do it to counter it, let's do it
to show the good rebellion, it shows that you're capable, right? So, just be careful in your approach. with parents PR parents don't understand that it's a Ah I'm messing with your upbringing uhum next Bru how can I find a new purpose or meaning in life now that my children don't live with me anymore well I should have thought that my whole life It's a son isn't it purpose doesn't even give meaning to life , a child, it's not a Private Pension, right, the bank where you have a current account will make a much cooler private
pension. That's how I arrived from Mars, it's one thing you have a child, no, you can't have one. So you should also hear, it's me, I tried to have one, right ? but today I think that I had so many children, I don't need anything in the sense that something was left open because patients become children, even those who go and bring their grandchildren and bring them, my nephews are wonderful, so I am already a grandmother, aunt My nephews' grandmother, this love will not be kept, imagine how it's spilled, it's spilled, and so sometimes people
ask me and I say that no one person talks like that, oh, but who's going to take care of you, says wow, what a weight, right? Someone has to take care of me when I go I said another thing about social security, I can trust Social Security more than a child who knows because if that were the case, it wouldn't exist, eh, abandoned elderly people with living children, that wouldn't exist, it would be mathematics and behavior, you don't know that kind of thing, eh, I think that the here we even get out of the Teenager
thing because here we are no longer teenagers, the son has already left, we would have to have built it, right, certainly a relationship has already been built, we haven't built it But there is one thing about this, that is, we can build time, there is still time, we can reset the clock, right, and I think that since you have adult children, I think it's possible to have a very adult conversation, sit down with the wives, the husbands sit down and talk like this, I didn't participate, I didn't do it, you must know what you could
have done better and everything else, just that I want to have a new opportunity, this is very Common when the person becomes the grandmother, right, and the grandmother and everything can happen, right, because she wants to pay, maybe there, she's working, you have to take care, you have to take care, and the grandmother grandma is anything better than grandma my grandma died years ago she died at 94 my grandmother used to do Live with me I have several lives recorded with her that's one of the best things like that I'm glad I did it right
there's a record of her and she says let's go Hey, let's make a slab, she says, let's make a slab, make a slab, she was 94 years old and passed away and so she was a very disciplined mother and was a sweet grandmother after my grandfather died uhh look how cool this is, I don't have it sweet memory of my grandmother in my childhood, my grandmother was a boring old lady who punched the ball. These kids were kicking the ball around my plant and she had 23 grandchildren . My grandmother was always full, I don't
have the memory of my grandmother cooking uhum one talking like that, grandchildren Come here, my grandfather was like that, my grandfather used to make food, my grandfather used to give candy, my grandfather used to make a beam to play ball, swing, my grandfather was that cool little voice, Grandpa's on my mother's side, on my Father's side, no, uh, so this grandfather was very cool, but then I talk about him as a grandfather who was an 11, but as a husband, he wasn't an 11, he repressed min V, maybe 10, everything, he repressed my grandmother So
my grandmother had to play the role of the boring old woman when he died she started to blossom and release And then I 'm talking about a lady she died he my grandmother must have been like 80 years old when he died She's probably older than this person, this lady who sent it to us , so if she reinvented herself at 80, then she said, now it's time for new ones, taking care of her grandchildren, everything Marmo do Meu Jeitinho, one day I was on Live with her, she came in and that's how she answered
questions with Grandma Júlia, ahem, ask me, oh, I have a boyfriend, he doesn't answer my phone, my grandma says stop this pest, although I did, grandma, but no, you have to say it like this, the man orders me, you have to be a submissive woman, don't you? that 's how you were raised In Childhood she stopped like this and said like this, an angel, look well, no, it didn't take work, I was placed on a level, on a level, that and the others, everything was an angel. Everything was an angel . She did everything and
everything for us, everything is great and the affection is nice just like it's not because the child has grown up that now it's no longer possible but there needs to be a change in our behavior I'm sure I'll be waiting Oh I'll be waiting for the other one to get better so I can give it the first step, right, so we have to have Sometimes the humility to say something didn't go as we expected, right, but to retrace the route we always have to retrace the route when we make a mistake Street, say it exactly,
we have to learn doing this with life , right next Bru, ah, we arrived at a very special moment, pipinho pipinho is our mascot, the son of Ana Beatriz and Gabriel, who is my son at heart Gabriel fo, who is Ana's son at heart, he was created by Gabriel, right? and he was fed only with very good content That's why he has a huge brain and is Cotó on his legs and he really likes listening to Wonderful content like yours he lives with his Headphone up and to BX And then he makes some key words
that he throws to his mother and asks you and whatever comes into your mind you say over that word a ping is a back and forth a ping-pong in a single word or a phrase a word or a phrase whatever comes to mind first OK, hey he already sent it to me here let's go there one love necessary everything two communication I can say necessary It will be bad too, right, but it complements love Expresses love Expresses perfect love three life purpose must always be sought because a life without purpose loses all color truth four
challenge for TDH is a very good motivator, right, you want to motivate a TDH, he says, don't give a challenge, and teenagers too, right, teenagers, they love it when you challenge, I doubt it, and I'll give you a tip here, 5-year-old child, you say, I doubt you, get me some water, he says, go. There I go, I'm a super hero exactly So I think the challenge moves within a tolerance, right, because I challenge too much and challenge too little B challenge Good challenges challenges five Complete the sentence educating is love limit perfect stimulus there if
family interaction ours base seven a superhero Chapolin Colorado perfect perfect coherent because Chapolin Colorado he is one of the few superheroes that we know all the flaws all clumsy he was totally clumsy we really see myself if I could enter the time capsule at which moment would you choose to go back to the past or go to the future and because I can give two answers you can because I want two lines like this I wanted to go back to the past in the transition from homoerectus there for homo sapiens to understand what what what
he conceived, right Why did we get to this point? here and everything else and for the Future is that the future is the future it is eternal but let's talk about 100 years from now where this whole technology thing that we are in today uhum would arrive because I think like this if 100 Years ago we said to a person who was going to have a podcast, even a broadcast business, we were going to talk about it on the screen, it was something very no, No, it's never going to get to that, right ? for
100 years, right, I can say 100 200 that technology is going and you had a grandmother from 94 and today we have to last more or less on average 8 years to 10 years longer than the generation you can think about coming So, even now, now, in this life, you just need to stay healthy to have the brain to handle the hard times, because you need to have the brain to handle it, it's coming, because it's the case, we see many cases of athletes who are depressed and who at times Sometimes, you know, they focus
so much on this thing about the body and the performance, that they forget about the is and the and sometimes working out the mind, how many players like that, I really like football, so I don't know if my references are from someone who really likes it, it's not for everyone. but for example you get players like Rivaldo uhm I remember ah you have 100,000 cup finals hit man go put the ball go there and kick it as if he had kicked it in the PTE at home this guy is so mental, it's absurd, no, he
doesn't suffer Romário up front From the area Ah, but it's the game at the end, there's no problem, exactly, coldness can think, right, so when the emotion comes in, it messes this thing up like that, a nice body won't solve it, money won't solve it, right, otherwise rich people wouldn't have depression and this whole thing, perfect, um. soundtrack led zepplin led knew and finally happiness look this one will close with a flourish happiness is being with whoever you want doing what you want when you want freedom so I wanted to say that this moment we
spent here I was very happy because I was where I wanted with who I wanted, doing what I wanted, but also us because happiness is and I was the one who invented this beautiful phrase, right? I heard it from professor Cloves de Barros Filho uhum because sometimes we think something like that, oh when I buy a car I'll be happy when I get it I don't know what When I go on that podcast I'll be happy and happiness is a moment, right? In Italian there's a a word calls átimo the átimo is the is the
moment is the one I don't know if there's a word moment I don't know if it's exactly what you mean but that's the moment you're in so no one is happy, Right? We're happy if you not being happy in what you're doing, leaving here I'm in traffic, I'm not happy there, it's a moment that I have to go through, but it's okay, I can handle it because AB It depends if I put on a little song that I like, am I, I'll be happy the cause around us and we CDH we have this thing very
much so it's easy for us to be happy if we Focus on our hyperfocus no I'm I'm going I'm going to go even further so if nothing gets in the way there's no report there's no report We can live only by doing it so we can get there so I see that happiness is this moment that we don't want to end, maybe this is an eternalization, right, dear, I wanted to give you as a gift my book Happiness is already signed, mind you restless Nosa, I don't know why Alex is also giving you overcoming TDH,
which is work he did with neuro feedback in the treatment of TDH, okay, I'm like a classic TDH, I forgot a hug from a very important person who I need from you tell me that otherwise I'm going, I'm not going back to the house, you can talk, you can say a hug to Carol, who was the person Who introduced you to me one day ago, an Carol, what's your last name? my life that today we are doing this podcast which was really cool I can go home in peace because she said that a lot If
you don't send it I was the one who showed you her but of course that's why you're grateful thank you very much for your presence Thank you very much thank you Our chain here, dear ones, we are finishing another Pipe powder today it was with this wonderful guy William Borget, if you don't know him, I suggest you check out his social network, which I will be showing up here, which is Instagram, William P Borget, you will There, everything he has parallels will be there in the bio and you will get informed, get to know us,
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