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what's up boys it is your famous Italiano Americano and arkans Arkansas um my last weekend here so I have to go out and I've been working a full-time job as well as trying to you know run the business make videos pack for Thailand get everything ready so needless to say I don't really feel like going out but sometimes my best nights are when I don't feel like it because I'm a little bit less needy kind of go out I'm kind of like you know I'll say hi but listen I don't even want to be here

so you don't have to talk to I feel like and I I don't know if this is true or not cuz I'm not an expert but I feel like whenever I feel tired and I chug one of these sometimes it's cuz I just needed some hydration sometimes I feel like this gives me energy I don't want to drink caffeine this late um yeah guys going out at night is a skill I'm going to have to find like some day parties or something maybe in Thailand it's going to be easier but whatever hardest part about doing

all of this is just making it out here I think that's a big statement for a lot of life you know if you're trying to go out and approach the hardest part is just getting the out of the house and going so I've made it here hardest part is done now I just have to approach so in today's video we're talking about just that what do you do if you're terrifyingly afraid to approach I don't really know how it feels cuz it's been such a long time but I know at one point in my life

I was riddled with anxiety and I was not able to approach it was it was a huge thing for me so I'm thinking about my younger self and what I would say to him the five things that I know changed my life and made me more able to approach and got rid of my anxiety so that's what we're talking about today all [Music] right the first thing that I want to say is even now I still have a little bit of fear and anxiety before I approach like I feel it right now there's a little

knot in my stomach I'm a little bit nervous I'm about to Vlog in public I'm about to get out of my comfort zone just like a fighter or an actor a lot of actors really successful actors really good ones like throw up before their performance even though they've been doing it for years I know a lot of Fighters who fight they say they're afraid before each fight and they've had hundreds well maybe not hundreds but they have plenty of fights so the point I'm trying to make is this I don't want you to see fear

as a bad thing if you're afraid to approach you have anxiety towards approaching don't see it as a bad thing um see it as a not so bad thing hi ladies how are y'all yall look beautiful tonight you're welcome um so yeah just uh wow they were really cute um don't see it as a bad thing that you're afraid funny enough though what I've noticed in a lot of things whether it be fighting or approaching is it's usually very scary up until the moment you start and then when you start it's a lot less terrifying

so that's where I'm at right now just got to get started and uh [ __ ] what else is there to do sit around do nothing guys even after so many weeks of doing this I still have anxiety like I still see my voice get a little bit lower I I still see myself get a little bit nervous when going out it's totally normal to be afraid it is totally natural important thing to get rid of your social anxiety when you're terrified to approach and I'll tell you what changed my life the most that's this

something called inner game AKA taking care of your health I know very simple I know but listen if you have massive amounts of anxiety the thing is a lot of that is because of your diet and I can tell you right now the minute that I switch to a healthy diet lean meat no more processed foods I started working out consistently I started getting off my phone getting off of social media stop ruining my brain stop Doom scrolling that was the minute that I was able to actually Approach at least like have my anxiety to

a controllable level so before that I was riddled with anxiety I couldn't do any approaches it was completely impossible and when I finally took care of my health it changed everything all right guys so I'm actually really nervous right now I I don't know if I do a good job of hiding it I think I do but you know what's funny this is actually really interesting so everyone can tell you're okay there's a saying that I really like by a guy named Owen Cook and that's this the self is always shining through what does that

mean basically you're always communicating how you feel through your subc commmunications nonverbal and whenever I'm really nervous and I'm outside and I have my tripod set up nobody wants to be in the video like nobody wants to jump in nobody everyone kind of glances over and then when I glance over they look away they can see that I don't feel very comfortable cuz I'm tense my body language as you can see I'm a little bit like hunched now you can really see what I look like first things first got to loosen up and a lot

of anxiety and a lot of how you feel is physical it's it's you know if you work out more you're more loose if you stretch you do yoga you meditate you eat healthy a lot of your anxiety that you're feeling will go away or at least it will make it a lot easier when I was 18 the first I tried to approach I was watching the content and I just couldn't do it like literally my brain fog was so bad I couldn't even think of a sentence to say I was so Frozen with fear that

the approach it it was just impossible so that is Step number one guys if you're not taking care of your health you're you're really doing yourself a disservice that's number one it's really that simple boom there we go all right so describe your perfect man in a relationship like the perfect guy what is what does he have are you guys dating by the way are thir cool personality maybe status what he has money could be anything doesn't have to just be personality um I want a good respectful guy very tall okay and someone who loves

me for me um now the perfect man you found the perfect man he checks off every single box if he cheated would you leave him one time random girl this girl means nothing he slipped up he messed up matter of fact he even told you about if that was his first strike I don't know cuz I've been there and I did take him back but then I broke up with him because it got to me so yeah probably I'd leave him probably leave him just cuz you know it would get to you yeah okay that

was the question yeah wow inter it's just a little interesting interview topic I have for today oh this is perfect they got some cowboy hats on wa ladies y'all look like y'all would be perfect for my interview I don't do I'm asking a simple question kind of a fun question too I feel like a Salesman right now what's up guys would you like to buy my interview all righty guys number two bro find a wingman find or maybe not even a wingman he doesn't have to be into the approaching he doesn't have to be a

pickup artist or anything crazy just hang around people who are extroverted and you will learn through osmosis what does that mean you're going to take on the qualities of that person you when the first time that I lived with someone who was very positive very outgoing very socialable very just cool I started to become like that person anytime I've hung around someone who was very negative I started to become that person hello how are you good uh and uh yeah so the fastest way to grow as a person and become more social is to hang

around other social people now A step above that a level above that is to hang around somebody who is also learning and approaching now if you can hang and you can find a genuine wingman nothing will get you better I the one week that I spent with the fro this last weekend got LEL what's up Vlog me on Tik Tok quick question all right so you found the perfect man you found what's up you're a YouTuber you must okay follow me subscribe like she's like this is my show the F it is what you so

you found the perfect man you found the perfect man he's a 10 but 10 he's what's your type what does your perfect man look like I want to describe whatever God has got for me okay so okay he he's whatever God's PL I mean country would be nice country if he hunts my dad will like him he hunts family loves him uh everyone loves him good dad he has all the qualities you want to man makes money loves you to death you know he loves you but he cheats cheated one time that [ __ ]

at work no the like on me or I would have known that before we got married I would have seen the red flag I would have known he was he's not a perfect man but he is your perfect man if he is rep he is on his knees she she he's repenting to Jesus and he's on his knees and he shows change to God maybe he's got to maybe but I may how far into the Rel how far into the relationship did you cheat three years you guys are about to get married after oh we're

not married yet after 3 years if we're not married after one year no damn fair enough years what if he but what if he was like he babe don't even worry about it [ __ ] that [ __ ] don't even think about it like not B deal what's his excuse is he cussing at me now no no no no that's just how I talk I yeah okay his excuse I was you know was he drunk was he damn what is his excuse yeah I was horny I saw her she looked cute she means nothing

to me from excuse it better be I got a million dollars babe a million dollar for this it's for you that better be the excuse forgivable honestly you would forgivable million dollar and that would be very forg mean for a million dollars I'd be like I'd shake his hand to be like good business deal on Instagram go ahead subscribe like comment YouTube bye she should be on YouTube she should be on she go viral all right so she was hilarious I swear with every positive interaction that I get I'm a little bit less nervous and

that is such a major key and no matter how you feel the beginning of the night um by the end of it if you have some positive interactions you get some good viods going you're going to feel a lot more loose and a lot more happy so it's crazy to feel it time and time again every time I go out it's the same and I had one comment the other day that was like wow you go out you've been going out for years and you still get nervous that means there's no hope for me honestly

I disagree I think the beauty in doing this is you get to go through that full experience of getting out of your head over and over and over I think otherwise hey how's it going y'all look cool I saw yall through my camera I was like they look like they'll give me a good answer big man he's car atic funny witty interesting he makes a lot of money and um he's going to be a amazing dad he loves you to death genuinely you know it okay you get the point but he cheated once cheats no

if you did it once you're going to do it again he slipped up he's sorry about it sorry about it no done I mean like how do I know you're not going to do it like do it again you're sorry this time but you're going to be sorry next time too you when you did it so he's done for he's gone he's out the house you're taking the kids taking okay fair enough that was the question this has been interesting I actually for some reason I expected um the opposite like I thought girls were going

to be like all right I'll let it slide cuz it's so perfect no but no you have to have a high tolerance okay fair enough well sometimes if they seem seem too perfect that's why let's go ahead and do number three and this is something that really got me out of my shell and I think it does it very naturally and that's why I put this on the liist list and that's this solo travel that or travel with a friend but one friend and the reason why I think solo travel can be so impactful and

why everyone Raves about it and it's kind of like overhyped I think too much of traveling can be toxic it's like dude at a certain point you got to work and have a life right and be stable and some people take it too far I definitely took it too far but I think that solo traveling can be one of the best ways to really get out of your shell because when you're going to these new places you're being forced to interact with so many people especially if you're broke and staying at hostiles you're being forced

and these hostiles are literally designed to make you social um you're you're seeing new things you're traveling you're getting out of your head you you don't have y'all want to be in my video it's quick one it's easy one asking a simple question from my YouTube channel cool so I all right so I've gotten the same answer on this all right so describe the perfect man the perfect man for you perfect you're single yay all right so all right let me just make an example you found a man he's charismatic interesting witty has money he's

going to be a great dad he treats you with respect he loves you you know he loves you yeah but he cheats one time what what happens well that's a respect thing it was a slip up happened on accident and Che accident there bab there's no accident there he doesn't love her at all do you leave him the perfect man matter and take your chances with someone else who might not be as perfect or do you so cheat on you but he's keep in mind you trust him in every aspect you know he's grounded you

know he's a good dude but he messed up what would you do this is hard this is a hard one so wait okay so the perfect guy that you chase once once like you're either going to break up with him right or you're going to be like all right I'll let [ __ ] sting I probably would say yeah I mean it depends on the like situation on how he cheat okay if it was like a long like if it was like a whole like thing met her at the club when he was with his

boys bachelor party doesn't even know her name I mean I don't know all right I'm getting out of this okay fair enough fair enough that was pretty do you want to answer it I haven't asked any guys this question yet I can answer your question you said what I said I can answer your question same scenario here let's get in a little closer it's a it's a the girl you're dating she's perfect in every way beautiful great mom everything you could ever imagine what she cheats a woman cheating and a man cheating are two different

things explain know well it's scientifically proven a woman forms a bond with every man she makes love with I mean it's genetic yeah it's a genetic Bond they form I mean a man is genetically designed to reproduce and to procreate so him doing is not it's not the same because he can disconnect his feelings and take it out of the equation yeah whereas a woman is connected there has to be a connection there and that connection stays and anyone with more than five Partners is there's like I think it's a 38% chance less that she

have a successful marriage so really y i watch fresh and pit podcast you too wow good stuff man well if you know you know epic you know what I feel like and here's my general gist at the vibe that I'm getting from this question I feel like they they think they should say okay I'm just guessing but at least in this last one I feel like she really wanted to say no I would stay I would stay stay for him and even one of the girls was like yes you would stay because let's be real

how often do you find someone a partner especially if it's a guy who's respectful loves you great dad makes money is is a great guy but cheats once you know like so she didn't answer it but I feel like that's what she wanted to say I don't know I don't know I'm speaking for someone else which is not okay not usually what I do let's move on all righty guys so number four these are like quick more technical tips on how to start approaching when you're absolutely terrified and this is number one whenever I'm like

really scared to approach but I have I want to do something something with my my friend's saying is you want to just get your mouth moving if you can just get your mouth moving you can literally get out of your head faster so one huge thing you can do massive thing is a challenge what kind of challenge compliment challenge always excuse me y'all look beautiful tonight I just want to let you know so a compliment challenge literally give compliments give a 100 compliments in one day and see how it affects your brain you're going to

get out of your head way faster that way so if you could just hand out compliments get your mouth moving it's still I would still count it as an approach bro like seriously and then number two the 3 second rule whenever you feel any decisiveness at all like any indecision like you see the girl you want to approach happens to me all the time and I'm like [ __ ] I really want to approach but I'm nervous should I should I not literally as soon as you start being indecisive about it 3 seconds you must

go in immediately you must go in immediately give yourself 3 seconds even if it's just a compliment even if you're just saying hi even if you're like yo y cool I just have to say hi I want to be social you must say hi immediately that is the key so and all of these points I'm just speaking from personal experience and the last point I want to make is this do a career that gets you out of your head now I've picked the ultimate career that gets you out of your head it's literally to talk

to people and approach I teach people how to approach because I am addicted to doing this I love being out of my head I love being social one of the most important things in my life my country accent came out there in my life is to be charismatic and be social like I hate when I'm stuck inside all day 12 hours a day editing or something and I leave my house and I'm like [ __ ] I feel like an alien that doesn't know how to socialize anymore that to me is the worst feeling so

I want to create and I've always wanted to create a life where I'm actually socializing so I used to bartend I used to do videography event videography I used to um weigh tables these things like bartending got my my small talk so good it really forced me to socialize and it helped my social stamina so much bartending changed my life even though it's a very toxic job I would not recommend it but I do recommend if you are broke and you need money serving tables is a great way to learn how to deal with people

like you genuinely learn a lot so what's up guys and uh yeah notice how in the beginning of the night I was kind of like afraid and nobody was saying hi to my Vlog and now everyone's saying hi because they can feel the energy that I'm unstifled so guys that is pretty much it for today's video I hope you guys enjoyed thank you so much if you need more help join my school approach Mastery and I will see you on the other side peace guys