Tony Robbins - Personal Power Day 24

[Music] thank you day 24 the power of successful relationships you know I have a unique privilege on an ongoing basis of having people ask me gosh what makes your life work how come you're so successful and as I really look at that question deeply the answer that comes up for me over and over again is that quality of my life really is the quality of my relationships everything I can see that is great in my life has come out of my interactions with people I really care about you know right now it's two o'clock am

and I'm finishing up here in the studio these last few tapes and my messages to you and I just hung up the phone with the lady of my life Becky who really has transformed me you know she is the strength and the power in my life I I have to say that I've always been committed to success and I've always been an achiever and made things happen but the relationship that I've developed with my wife is probably the single most powerful thing that's molded me and created for me the level of joy that I really

experience in my life I had the success but being able to share it with somebody I really care about at the deepest level has created the depth of my life you know it's kind of like I can remember to give you a simple metaphor what it felt like when I used to go to a movie and I'd be at the movie and the movie was like so great and I turned and realized I was there by myself experiencing it and I know that you can enjoy a movie that way but to me it just doesn't

seem to be quite the same and I feel the same way in life that every one of us deserves to have that incredibly Rich experience of having the texture of Life called relationship and I don't know where you are in your life right now whether you be married or single or whether you have somebody special in your life or not but I thought we might just take a few minutes and chat about some of the things at least that have worked for me and the people that I've Had The Good Fortune to spend time with

who seem to have relationships that really work and I think I'd like to start by just saying this the biggest challenge that people have in relationships that keep them from having the level of intimacy and love that they really want is they're looking for a relationship to be the solution to their problems and the reality is if you're going to relationship to change your life to change who you are what you're experiencing you're using a relationship in a way that disempowers you and the person that you want to be closest to I think that if

you want a relationship to work there are some Cardinal rules that we really have to live by and there are some skills we have to follow through on and I think the Cardinal rules are number one that instead of going to relationship to get something out of it if you want a relationship that works you must approach relationship in a totally different way and that is you must think of a relationship as something that you come to to give something to rather than something you go to to take something out what I mean by that

is if you're always looking at the people in your life that you care about most and your thoughts are how can I give to this person I love how can I create more joy more pleasure more happiness more love for this person if your focus is consistently on that then in order to give you have to put yourself in that loving place if you're always coming from that frame then the person you're in a relationship with will always be trying to do the same with you you know what you put out does come back tenfold

and the greatest place to experience that is with someone that you're totally intimate with and by the way I want to remind you something else when it comes to the area of a relationship you must live by the philosophy of constant and never-ending Improvement the philosophy of Kanai capital z a n i if you aren't constantly improving your relationship it's getting worse you know because a lot of people say yeah but I got a great relationship the minute you hold your relationship in a fixed place in your head it stops getting greater because it's like

growing you've got to grow your relationship and every day it's got to grow or it starts to die it sounds like a lot of work to me trust me it's worth it and I'm sure you know it's worth it inside so don't let these tools be the only tools that you hear about use these but keep expanding your tools there's so many great teachers in the area of relationship in fact that's one of the reasons why on this personal power 2 program this special edition called the driving force that you have in your hands I've

done this special tape at the end the one where I interview these remarkable people and I pick three subjects as you recall one of those is how to make your body better and I got Dr Deepak Chopra there who I interviewed another one is how to do better in your career which we did with Stephen Covey and thirdly reminder you gotta listen that tape is relationships and for that I have two people for you I have Dr John Gray who wrote the Book Men Are from Mars women from Venus and I got a little sample

of my interview from Barbara DeAngelis who wrote the book making love all the time so the bottom line is you've got to expand those tools and again if you're part of power talk if you haven't done that and you're really enjoying what we're doing together sign up so we can stay together in this relationship over the next year for power talk and each month you'll get something new and relationship is obviously one of the themes we come back to again and again please don't just listen to this use these tools and constantly expand them and

you can have the richness the love the passion the connection you deserve and you can make it last so I'd like to talk about here is not only how to make relationships work but what are the two factors that cause most relationships to die because we've all had that initial ignition experience where all of a sudden there's this incredible excitement and attraction you remember that when you first met somebody you were totally attracted to and you thought you were in love maybe you were remember you met this person God the minute you're with them you

just felt so incredible you felt happy all the time for no reason you started seeing things you hadn't seen before you began to sing stupid songs in your car and stuff maybe in the middle of the night you thought of them and you called them up and said were you thinking to me and they said yes I was and you thought oh this is so great there was this incredible connection but then maybe through the years that changed maybe Through The Years what happened is the level of intensity was not as high or gradually began

to drop how come well there's a law in life that a lot of people fail to pay attention to and it really cost them major and the reason is it kind of creeps up on them and I call it the law of familiarity the law familiarity simply says this if you're around anything enough you take it just a little bit for granted and unfortunately I think that's one of the big killers of human intimacy you know we get caught up in the beginning there's these fireworks and everything is phenomenal and it's just absolutely incredible when

you think about the person constantly in everything they do is just absolutely wonderful and then it just gradually drops down not because you don't care not because you don't love the person anymore but because you didn't do the things you did in the beginning to make the relationship work you didn't maintain them you got caught up in your job in making a living and doing your business and studying something new I don't know what it was but it happens for most people something I want to make sure I certainly avoid in my relationship thus far

I've been successful in doing how do you make sure that you don't fall in this trap well one way is first of all just becoming aware that the Trap exists it's amazing what awareness can do awareness by itself can sometimes be Curative but in addition I have developed an incredible sensitivity for the impact of States on my relationship in other words you got to remember that anytime human beings are in tense feeling States the ending happens around them consistently while they're in that state gets linked up remember us talking about that during anchoring well specifically

what happens in relationships well people in the beginning everything is wonderful but then gradually they're around each other while they're in other states maybe states where they feel upset and has nothing to do with each other maybe one of the members of the relationship goes to a major Financial challenge for example or an emotional challenge with another family member a mom a dad someone passes away and the trauma and the pain and the frustration of those experiences unfortunately can be so intense that a person is feeling them all around their spouse boyfriend or girlfriend or

significant other until pretty soon those negative feelings literally get linked to the person they're in a relationship with to the point that when they finally get around that person they begin to feel those lousy feelings remember the brain uses the law of recency to make connections meaning anything that's happening around you while you're in intense State like that that happens within that recent period of time gets linked up right wrong or indifferent intelligent or not invariably negative anchors are what destroy relationships that's the number one killer again what do I mean by that well people

get together and they have an argument and they don't clear the argument up and they begin to link more pain to each other than pleasure when that happens at a deep enough level we eventually go through a state we call threshold threshold is when there's just much more pain in your mind than pleasure in the relationship and your brain says I have had it what do I mean by this well let's say a couple gets in an argument and it's a very intense argument and their feelings start to expand and you ever notice how when

you get into State sometimes that that intensity begins to grow in fact if you ever got an argument where you were so intensely involved in the argument you forgot what you're arguing for but you knew you had to win remember a time like that well the challenge with that kind of situation is as we get more and more into State we tend to feel stronger and stronger and pretty soon we may say things or do things that later on we'll regret the problem is the damage is already done and if we have strong enough intensity

people get angry enough while they see each other's face more Angry see each other's face really angry see each other's face pretty soon they begin to link negative neural associations major pain to being with this person now it doesn't usually happen overnight but through a series of years or experience after experience after experience people eventually build up enough pain that they go through a threshold State what that means is their brain finally gets Point says this is way too painful for a little bit of pleasure I'm getting back I have had it it is over

and that's how relationships primarily die how do you keep that from ever happening one you become incredibly aware of the power of your States you realize that whenever you're in an angry State whatever's happening around you whoever's around you is getting linked up so if you're upset and it's not about your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend or significant other make sure you're not focusing on looking at them while you're in these states otherwise whether you want to do it or not negative anchors are forming two also pay attention that if you're in an argument you

don't want to end that argument staying angry for any length of time otherwise what you're doing is strengthening the anchor of pain to the relationship so the best way to have an argument if you want to do one is make it a spirited debate but make it short make it intense make it short and stop it don't let it get out of control where you get into State and start saying and doing things that don't support you how can you get out of the loop if you're stuck there do what we talked about earlier use

pattern interrupts again my wife Becky and I when I first met her I said honey you know I absolutely love you and no matter how much two people love each other they're going to be times when they're gonna have a difference of opinion when they're going to look at things in a different way they may even share the same values but they may have different rules about how those values are going to be met and I said if you and I ever get caught up in a major argument where we're both getting crazy let's not

let it escalate one of the two of us has got to get sane and in that moment or two our job is to interrupt the other person's pattern and I said let's figure out something in advance that we could do that would be so outrageous that instantly it would change the other person's state and so that's what we did we sat down and we came up with some ways to do it and we came up with a couple phrases that if during an argument either one of us just for a moment realizes hey this isn't

working we can stop the argument immediately and the other person agrees to do so all we have to do is walk up the other person in the middle of the heated argument and Whisper the certain thing in that person's ear and I won't tell you what it is but just trust me if somebody wants to put this in your ear it would definitely change your state the bottom line is we used it over and over again in our relationship I told you when we talked about value systems for example the kinds of rules that created

challenges in my relationship with my wife initially we have these two different opinions about respect do you recall her idea of respect is you never raise your voice my idea respect was you never leave the room we made an agreement I won't yell she won't leave the room well I remember one time she did something and I got upset and sure enough I got upset at my voice raised so you probably got up left the room I yelled to her you said you wouldn't leave the room as I'm yelling at her breaking my own commitment

but what was interesting is I was so angry that I went to chase after her to find her and you know we have a pretty big home ten thousand square feet and we're home by ourselves and the lights were off in various parts of the house and I'm looking around trying to find her getting madder and matter because I can't find her finally I turn this corner down this dark hallway just as I head down the dark hallway all of a sudden behind this door comes and I jump about four feet and I turn around

there's my wife on the floor laughing hysterically going now you got a new seminar story three the bottom line is I had so much adrenaline flying through my body I couldn't be angry I had to start laughing as well if you want to make your relationship work learn how to interrupt each other's patterns learn how to interrupt the patterns that would make each other boring too see if you do something over and over and over again you involve the same exact way day after day boy you talk about a way of accelerating a relationship heading

its way out that's the quickest way have no spontaneity no newness to the relationship whatsoever but if constantly the two of you are interrupting each other's patterns looking at unique ways to surprise each other to play with each other to trigger excitement in the other person now your relationship has juice and power and Becky and I work at it and that's the only way a relationship happens you got to work at it not work on it work at it in other words be playful be focused make a major part of what your life's commitment is

is to care enough commit enough to communicate in a way to create a way of living with the person you care about that makes life an adventure that makes it fun now by the way what do most people do when they find that they've got problems in their relationships and by the way the problems in relationships always come down to one thing whenever they think of this person now they get angry they're frustrated with them they're angry with them they're not doing what they want they have all these negative associations to this person invariably if

somebody cheats on their husband or wife boyfriend or girlfriend it's because right now the states they used to get when the relationship were brand new those wonderful States they're not getting them anymore they're getting negative States and they go to somebody new who's got fresh anchors there's nothing negative Associated to them yet and so what a lot of people trying to do to solve their relationship challenges is just go from one to another that's like a person who changes jobs every time things don't work out the problem with the strategy is when you leave this

relationship you're in right now to go to a new one you're going to have a problem you're going to take you with you and when you take you with you some of the same challenges are going to come up you got to learn to resolve them within yourself and create a way of relating with somebody that enhances the level of intimacy on a daily basis that's the only way relationship will work no matter who you're relationship with the second thing that destroys relationships is failing to consistently meet the strategy of love and attraction that your

partner has what do I mean by that well what I mean is that every single person in this world has unique triggers or anchors that cause them to feel love and or attraction and in the beginning of a relationship we tend to do everything we can to please another human being so we tend to tap all these strategies we tend to do the things that cause them to feel attracted and loved by us but again as time goes on in a relationship when we're outside the what I call the courting stage you know that initial

stage where there's incredible intensity and power and you don't even seem to have to work at it at all but when you leave that initial stage you still love the person but do you still have the same intensity of focus on the relationship for most people the answer is no what happens I still love the person but they don't express it the same way in other words when you're courting what do you do you show the person you love them by taking them places buying them things looking at him with a starry-eyed look on your

face you also tell them how much you love them you tell them all kinds of ways as many different ways as you can and you touch them everywhere now those are three ways for someone to know that they're loved and what's interesting is my research in relationships has shown over and over again that human beings all of us have a specific set of triggers that cause us to feel deep feelings of love and it's different for all of us in other words some of us in life in order to feel deeply loved need to be

shown that we're loved we need people to bias things or take us places or look at us with a certain incredible loving look and there's nothing nothing in this world that creates a deeper feeling of love than that strategy let's say for other people you can show them all day long that you love them you can buy them things you can stare them in the face and give them these wonderful looks but that doesn't mean anything they'll say that's nice what they want to do is they want to hear it they need to hear you

say I love you with a certain tonality and a certain Tempo in a certain way and unless you say it it's not going to work for other people you can tell them you love them all day long yeah yeah that's nice you can show them but unless you touch them in a very specific way they'll never feel the deepest level of Love they may feel like you love them generally they may feel like you know you're real close to them but the deepest feeling of Love is triggered differently for every person you're going to meet

and by the way human beings are not unique in this area animals have triggers as well researchers have studied for years what triggers specific animals to have a loving response to each other to human beings Etc for example female turkeys are one of the most mothering animals in the animal kingdom they're more attentive and loving with their young than most species now what's interesting is researchers want to find out what triggers this loving response their assumption was it was seeing their baby turkey that would make them have this mothering Instinct but when they tested This

research they found out seeing the baby turkeys did not trigger it they next assumed what must be the touch of the baby turkey against its mother they found that was not true and they thought well it must be the smell again it wasn't the smell they found that what triggers a mother turkey to have this mothering response for its young is the sound that a baby turkey makes that simple little cheap cheap sound in fact this is such a powerful Trigger or anchor or strategy for the turkey that you can take a stuffed pole cat

now bear in mind in the wild a pole cat is a turkey's Arch Enemy but take a stuffed pole cat on a string pull it towards a turkey and a turkey will tear it to shreds if you take a stuffed pole cat however and you put inside of it a little taper quarter of the sound of a baby turkey saying cheap cheap the mother turkey will begin to Mother the stuffed polecat that is why they call them turkeys I'm just kidding the reality is though that they're not the only animals in the animal kingdom that

have this kind of response insects even have specific triggers that cause them to mate for example so it's not unique for human beings to have a specific trigger for love what is unique is for you to be aware of it and for you to utilize this to enhance your relationship let me ask you a question you remember we said in the beginning of a relationship in the stage called courting what did you do to let this person know you love them you did everything remember you showed them you told them you touched them everywhere but

as time went by you still love them but did you really still do it all and the answer for most people is no whose love strategy did you express your love to this person in in other words did you find out what makes them feel loved or did you assume that they feel loved the same way you do that it's triggered in the same way and the answer for most people is the latter so what happens well in the beginning relationship you do it all so you both make each other feel loved law of averages

says you covered all bases let's say for example you have a visual of strategy so how are you going to probably try and express love to the person you're in a relationship with you're going to want to show them the same way you get it right so you're going to probably buy them some nice things take them places you're looking them in a real loving way assuming this person feels totally loved by you one day this person's gonna turn to you and say you know honey I just got to tell you I just don't feel

deeply loved by you you're gonna say what what are you talking about I take every place look at that ring on your finger if that ain't love what is they're gonna say yeah but you never say you love me oh well big deal I show you yeah but I need to hear it fine I love of you I doubt seriously if that's going to be the perfect tonality that they need to hear in order to feel loved see they don't just even hear the words I got to hear the right tonality as well it's very

specific trigger and unique for everyone now let's think of the other option let's say you have an auditory love strategy and so you try and express to your lover boyfriend girlfriend significant other that you love them how you gonna do it you're going to tell them one day you're going to turn to them with the most loving tone of voice and say I love you so much what happens let's say this person has a visual love strategy and go yeah talks cheap why don't you buy me something take me someplace look at me don't go

look at me you're gonna go I am looking yeah but look at me the way it used to well how's that look well you know how you should know how it looks this is lack of rapport or how about if you get a situation where let's say you've got an auditory love strategy and the person you're with has a kinesthetic one you're gonna say I love you but that's not going to do it this person needs to be touched in a certain way or the most challenging love strategy combination of all for a relationship is

when you got for example a man who's very kinesthetic or feeling oriented what does he want he comes home what does he want to do he wants to hug hi honey and he wants to touch and hold you in a certain way and let's say you are a visual love strategy and you go leave me alone quit grabbing at me what do you think I'm a piece of meat take me someplace that's the kind of relationship that creates a major challenge the point is if you want your relationship to last you got to do two

things the first key then to succeeding here is knowing what the strategy is of the person your relationship with find out from this person what makes you feel most love don't ask them what they like they like everything they want to be shown they want to be told they want to be touched but say to the person ask the person your relationship with this question so can you remember a time when you felt most loved by me so really get them to search their memory for a time when they felt deeply loved by you and

then what your job is is to use the process of elimination and one by one to find out which one of these three is strongest for the person your relationship with and the way you do that is not ask them again do they want these three things they want all three well your job is once they're in state where they can remember a time when they felt really loved by you ask them in order for you to feel these deep feelings of love is it absolutely necessary that I show you I love you by buying

you things taking you places or looking a certain way notice the keywords here in order for you to feel these deep feelings of love is it absolutely necessary not is it important is it absolutely necessary that I show you that I love you in a certain way by buying you things taking it certain places or looking a certain way now the person goes well yeah that's clearly not it so say well remember that time when I you felt totally deeply loved and make sure they really get back in that same state of mind they go

yeah say in order for you to feel these deep feelings of love is it absolutely necessary that I tell you I love you in a certain way is that absolutely necessary for you to feel the deepest feelings of love and they say well yeah that sounds closer but it doesn't sound like it's it so then again put them back in state remember how you feel when you really feel deeply loved by me oh yeah great in order for you to feel those deep feelings of love is it absolutely necessary I touch you in a certain

way is that absolutely necessary for you to feel totally loud oh yeah by the change of tonality or the nod of the head or about a physical response you'll find out which one it is in this case it would be touch and then you find out the specific touch because is it possible that the person you're in a relationship with needs to be touched to feel loved in a certain way but you do it differently than what they need like for example maybe you reach out and grab them tight because you assume that makes them

feel loved when really what would make them feel more loved is a gentle touch of their right cheek or the touch on the back of their neck or a real light hug so you want to find out what the needs of your partner are hey if you want to succeed in a relationship you got to have deep caring which means you got to find out what does this person really want you've got to communicate every single day about what's really going on with each other and ways to support each other and you've got to commit

to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work strategies are part of that commitment and they're a lot of fun because once you know your partner's strategy it means you'll be able to trigger them to feel the deepest feeling of Love anytime you please that's pretty exciting you no longer have to hope you can get through to them you'll know their trigger you'll know how to reach them at the deepest emotional level how to trigger them to feel the love that they really deserve from you so these are the two things that destroy your

relationships negative anchors the failure to pay attention to the states that are getting linked to your relationship and or failure to continue to meet each other's strategies and by the way the standing is true of Attraction strategies maybe in the beginning of the relationship when you're really attracted to each other you're always dressed up or you went out for dates if you want this relationship to last you've got to continually do that you got to surprise each other you got to trigger those same Desires in each other an ongoing basis you got to stay out

of the law familiarity trap an offshoot of the law familiarity is the law of use whatever you fail to use you will lose and the bottom line is if you don't use your enthusiasm and your passion on a regular basis in your relationship you will lose it from the relationship itself and the solution will not be to go get a new one because you'll run the same cycle you'll have that initial enthusiasm and then you'll run right back into the same walls the solution is for you to develop a lifelong strategy on how to enhance

the quality of your relationships and it starts with these two places so what do you do I'll tell you what I do with my wife on a regular basis every day we constantly ask effective questions that make us love each other more we ask them out loud we look at each other and we say things like how did I get so lucky to get you I can't tell you how often we say that every single day several times a day when we're together no matter what's going around now think about that how did I get

so lucky to get you in my life the presupposition in there is I am incredibly fortunate to have you and I'm feeling those feelings while I see your face feeling those feelings while I see your face feeling those feelings while I see your face that makes them feel absolutely totally loved and that makes them love you even more in which case they reciprocate back and now you're on this incredible cycle of pure deep passionate exciting love and what it does is it builds you stack it day after day after day so you're feeling good seeing

each other feeling great seeing each other feeling great seeing each other pretty soon when you see each other you feel great that's how you make a relationship work you work at creating moments that's really been the secret to our relationship what I mean by that is I believe that by the end of our life we're not going to remember everything that happens in our lives but we'll certainly remember certain moments certain key times where there was incredible deep emotion and I know that both Becky and I consistently take time aside during a week and during

a month to do something special together that we anchor Just Between Us special moments things that are fun things as simple as for no reason just jumping up spontaneously and scrambling to the beach in the middle of the night to take a Moonlight walk those kinds of things you do when you're in love remember those why don't you just keep doing them so you stay in love I mean what a concept you know being spontaneous looking for ways to create moments is the way to make sure that you'll have this relationship lasting forever and lastly

to make your relationship work give what you most want to receive in that relationship if you want respect and give respect if you want love then give Tons of love if you want passion then give tons of passion don't say well they'd be passionate with me then I get excited about my relationship be passionate first if you're willing to come from the place that your job is to give that what you want you're going to find that you'll receive back in your relationship all the things that you want but stay out of a trap that

says well you do it first and then I'm willing to commit as well I guess that's the final thing I can say to you if there's anything that kills relationships it's this fear that it's going to end sometime and people looking at the end of the relationship instead of enjoying where they are in it right now you know that focus on well what if it doesn't work is usually the one Focus that creates fear in people and causes them to sabotage the relationship in the first place one thing Becky and I did right in the

beginning of our relationship is we noticed that we're going back and forth and we get close and then we kind of push apart a little bit because we were concerned well gosh will it last or what if it doesn't last God do we want to get this close and then what if it doesn't turn out and then all of a sudden we have all this pain isn't amazing what people do and that keeps them from getting close in the first place we finally sat down and realized we were doing this with each other and we

said look let's just act as if this relationship is going to last forever let's just decide that we're going to act as if that's true and we're going to totally enjoy today and let's make sure that we both agree that no matter how intense we ever get in an argument that no matter what happens we will never threaten the end of the relationship about that argument because see if you're willing to threaten the end of the relationship what you're doing is creating the possibility that it's over it's like putting your hand on the button of

a nuclear Arsenal you may just be using it as a threat but someday you may push the button by accident and it's all over Hey listen the quality of a relationship comes down to the quality of your commitment to making it work Nothing in life that has any value can be created without absolute commitment there's no way around it and a lot of people think well gosh if I commit to this relationship means I'm losing all my freedom listen if you're truly free then you're free to commit to a relationship that can last John zahodi

in his book The Secret of staying together wrote Mutual commitment is the identity of every lasting relationship no truer words were ever spoken if you want to make your relationships last number one realize how important they are to your lifelong happiness they are the essence of life no man or woman is an island the more you can share and the more deeply you can share with another human being you care about the greater the quality of life that you live so here's your assignment take out your success journal and have some fun do the following

one if you're not already in a relationship do yourself the favor of identifying exactly what you want in a relationship that's how I attracted my dream Lady it's how you can attract your dream lady or man as well I wrote five pages of exactly who this person was mentally emotionally socially spiritually intellectually even physically how she'd look everything about her and I described it in detail now a lot of people say don't do that you know don't create those limitations hey it could have changed but I got clear on what I wanted and I believe

that if you get absolutely clear you can attract what you want so if you're not already in a relationship identify what you want and what you don't want because I used to identify what I wanted and I got that but I got a package deal I got some things that I wasn't so thrilled about as well what I learned to do is add to my list I went back to it and said and here are things I don't want in a relationship as well I wanted more clarity in my brain that really helps a lot

and two if you're already in a relationship this might be useful what do you want your relationship to be about and what don't you want your relationship to be about in other words identify what this thing called relationship needs to be for you for you to be happy with yourself and for you to be able to contribute to the relationship in an effective way develop a list of unique things that you can do to enhance your relationship on an ongoing basis you know Becky and I have this thing we call date nights where we switch

off a couple times each month where we have a night out and the other person gets to decide where it is where we're going to go what we're going to do and it can be a total surprise the other person is just a willing and trusting Soul who shows up and it's fun we've done everything from going and seeing the cartoon The Lady and the to Jumping our helicopter and flying up the coast to Los Angeles so we can go see a play like Les Miserables there is absolute incredible power in spontaneity but again you

need to create it and that's half the fun creating a lifestyle so I want you today right now to generate a list of unique things you can do say create or experience together that will create positive states that you'll attach to each other and enhance the quality of your relationship please give yourself this gift of putting a great deal of focus on how to deepen the level of Love passion joy and excitement in your relationships till tomorrow live with passion [Music]