Here's What Happens When You Don't Make Excuses

what's good man yo what's going on bro how's everything I'm good bro what happened with your nose yo so basically I was born premature I was born with a cleff so I've had like two surgeries uh one when I was 6 months one when I was like 13 14 I still got one more coming up when I'm about well I can get it pretty much whenever I want um and I'm just debating whether to get it or not right now for work I'm actually a model so like I've worked with like Nike Adidas Vogue you

know like all the brands and stuff like that like I do work for them that's what I do so I'm like just debating whether I want to get this next one or not and I just kind of wanted to get your advice on just is it gonna is it gonna what is it what's the next surgery gonna do uh so basically they want to take like cartilage from like other parts of my body kind of take the point off reshape it a little bit um and just some other work that'll like help with my breathing

as long with like some cosmetic stuff like the scar the scar will be gone why why would you not why would you even be considering that why would you not want to do that all right so here's so part of it is because of work because I've been like work has been picking up so crazy like between okay slow down Justin what are you working for is it like are you are you are these Brands doing a photo shoot with you because of your condition or because you have something else I would say I would

say it's a little bit of of both I would say it's a little bit of both like I've booked jobs geared towards you know like people with disabilities or facial differences and stuff like that and I've booked jobs just off of the strength of just being a regular guy like it kind of just depends on on the company so what do you want as a man moving forward do you want to be looked at or be booked based on you having a disability or do you want to be do you want to be more than

that it's up to you bro and I feel like that's why you could give me some some a different perspective you know what I mean yeah so it sounds like it sounds like you're just kind of being exploited a little bit and if you can change that if you can make yourself if you can fix your nose and fix do the things that the the the doctors are recommending right it just will improve your appearance so you can you can just you can be you can come into your own fruition with the with the skills

that you have right and not just be booking stuff because people think that all because you look a certain way let's get him on a shoe word that's me I I I don't want somebody to be basically praying on my disability for their clicks yeah to make [ __ ] make their campaigns look good yeah I would try to make myself as as normal as possible so I can have a normal life and explore the the the possibilities of having a normal life yeah and I think I think my life is pretty normal um I

feel like pretty much every day like I get stairs I get questions I get like the double take with the look um but I can pretty much do every single thing any other you know what I'm saying human can do like I don't view myself as disabled I don't view myself as handicapp or any of those things and I think you could tell just by the way I talk like I'm human bro you know what I'm saying I'm normal I get it I get it and what I'm saying is because you have that mindset right

then why not get rid of something that maybe people are trying to use Advantage right because oh he looks a certain way he might he looks a certain way his disability will make our campaign look better yeah all right so that's just me bro no I feel you one one another question for you I feel like I feel like and I don't want to get too too too deep with it but I feel like I'd be living a double life bro like in my work life I I get nothing but admiration nothing but praise like

work work is overflowing like overly abundant you know what I'm saying like I've worked some pretty big time jobs some pretty big time companies but then when I kind of step outside of that world in that realm and I'm back in the real world is when I get like the most like just hate or like disain let me tell you why that is let me tell you what that is so this is it kind of goes back to why you're here why you're asking me what what what you should do the people at work have

an incent to act that way this doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you but you got to look at how Corporate America is being run like it's an open accepting environment if you're not accepting of everybody you look down upon human beings human beings naturally are not accepting right that's just not how we all hard WR right right so that's what I'm saying I don't want these brands or companies taking advantage of you and maybe giving you a false reality of where you currently stand right in terms of what the general population look at

you as right because they want to just make money and and make you look good so like at the end of the day I would say is this what I would say is this it comes down to you what do you want do you want to have a life where you are being treated normally everywhere yeah or you want to take advantage of the possibilities you can get from maybe being disabled and people trying to come on there trying to bring you on their campaigns just because of that yeah and it it's been interesting I

feel like I've I've accomplished some pretty dope [ __ ] but now I'm at a point where I kind of want some more like substance you know what I'm saying and I'm kind of you want to be treated normally yeah bro it's weird bro like I I do a lot of stuff online like like the influencing stuff and the model and stuff and that stuff is cool and all but it's like bro I can't even like post a normal video of me without it going viral and like getting mad attention or like even like commenting

here it's like all over my social media you know what I'm saying like I can't even that's what I'm saying bro and and listen this what I want you to understand but this is coming from the bottom of my heart human beings are not accepting human beings are very judgmental and I'm going tell you this as a man if you can enhance make yourself look better so you stop being treated as like uh some clicks right you don't want to be I don't want you [ __ ] to be using me as like some easy

clicks fact I want to have a life where I can just be my own person and and tap into the gifts that I have because I think you have gifts like there are things about you that are special and unique but you're letting like your disability is allowing people to label you as what's unique right you what I'm saying so if you want to give yourself that opportunity I would say get the surgery all right bro I gota get to other people I gotta my fault my fault I didn't mean to hold you up my

bad man my bad good the content bro appreciate you you got it bro be good Thomas yo man how's it going how's it going G yeah not too bad uh so pretty confident like uh yeah in the way that I'm pretty confident in my looks so I'm not on here to be like like one of these guys in the comments being like Oh what was me I've got a disability um okay physical uh just not having a lot of luck on dating apps so because of my disability I'm 55 so I'm pretty short um and

I think like when I put that up on a dating app like I use like a turnoff kind of thing and so I'm just looking for I'm starting uni uh or colleges you know in the states um in September and I'm just like I'm trying to work on my outfit to of how I'm looking how I'm presenting myself H I've got a like a wear like braces on my legs and so it's like a do I wear shorts and sort of be confident in showing them I wear jeans and you know sit in my sit

in my wheelchair is that a better way of doing it like yeah just what's your thoughts so can you can you walk I can walk um but I can't walk that far until I walk with a bit of a limp um I've got scoliosis in my back so it's a bit curved all that sort of thing I'm I'm a thick guy training in the gym twice a week I play wheelchair tennis I play five days a week like I travel a lot and turning pro next year so it's like I've got everything else going for

me but I'm just looking for like how to appear confident in my yeah my choice look so I first of first of all I want to congratulate you for not you know coming on here making you know you you're you're trying to be you you're trying to do what you can with what you can and and I commend that that's the best mindset to have so I would say if you can walk right but you can't walk that far right can you walk around on campus or would you prefer would you usually go with a

wheelchair I usually go with the wheelchair you know for the first couple of weeks um not sure how big the campus is like I can yeah when I say I can walk a bit like I can walk maybe maybe a mile uh and then I start you know like stumbling that sort of thing and okay A mile is pretty far A mile is pretty far you don't need to you don't need to be walking a mile every day that's pretty far so when you start school use the wheelchair to get comfortable figure out maybe what

your route is with with your classes or whatever and then when you feel comfortable with knowing the distance and what you can walk to right you can wear jeans so you can just feel better about yourself and not make this like a disempowering thing because you can walk for about a mile you don't have to necessarily walk a mile to class every [ __ ] day yeah so wherever you can walk feel empowered to be able to walk to the places that you can walk okay dating apps in itself bro are a struggle for most

men yeah so hear me out uh the fact that you're five5 there are plenty of men who are shorter all right so but don't be afraid to let it be known that you have a ability because if you hide it what's going to happen is if you do go out with a girl and she's like oh wait I didn't know that you would this then it's going to be be have it's G to make it's G to give you more of a problem then okay so put that you have a disability if if your girls

have a problem with it [ __ ] them oh no like I've like I've got videos of me playing and all that like on my app because I'm like yeah I want that to be known because I don't want to go on the date and she's like oh I didn't realiz that you're disabled and that was the other thing that I sort of wanted to talk about is like so I quite recently came out of a long-term relationship and starting to go on dates again now but it's like going for a drink is kind of

dull isn't it so what would you recommend like I'm 24 uh I was like 19 when I went into the relationship so it's a very different time yeah I'm just looking for some ideas of like what kind of things you suggest do yeah so drinking no um especially if you're gonna be around campus something like yogurt I would say yogurt or ice cream can be like the perfect first date okay quit the drinks you don't need to do all that yeah all right um like you said you're trying to get you're trying to you can

your fit can you work out much or is it like that's limited yes I'm working with a like a personal trainer um obviously because of my tennis I need to stay light uh I need to stay lean like I mean I've got a sixpack I'm working on my shoulders all that sort of thing um but so yeah like I'm doing two days a week uh core and shoulders okay um so I mean I look good I mean I'm 50 like 55 kg um not sure what that translate to in pounds yeah from skinny um but

yeah like I what I would what I would do is is your fashion and your style along with you being lean like it's something that I will focus on highlighting because you since you have to stay light because of tennis dress up really nice do a photo shoot okay have you ever done one of those uh no no not really well here you go you can do one of those you can dress up well right nice formal looking clothes so you can look presentable so even on a that gives you a medium to meet women

as well because you look you look you look more than average in terms of your style when it comes to dating apps do that right figure out where you need to walk through during the school year talk to girls have a conversation with them approach them don't hide the fact that that don't let don't let that [ __ ] bother you that much because you still have some things that you can do you can still walk for about a mile you can still do a photo shoot you can still talk to girls yeah all right

give yourself as much power as possible and it's going to make you feel better and you you're going to be able to meet a girl that appreciates that confidence and isn't GNA be bothered by because there are dudes bro who can't who have all the ability in the world and they don't have as much balls as you so don't don't don't sit up here and be worrying about don't don't worry about the things that you can't control worry about the things that you can control and maximize those and yeah just last thing as I mentioned

at the start short like I find them dead comfy like I mean it's summer here t-shirt is my like my goto but it shows off like my leg braces show them off is that a confident thing or you know try and try and listen what would you say if you wear if you wear shorts because you like them and they feel better experiment you can wear shorts sometimes you can wear pants sometimes okay all right but if if if you wna appear like you don't really give a [ __ ] then you can wear the

shorts okay but but I would suggest that you do both see how you feel wearing pants see how you feel wearing shorts eventually yeah you're gonna I'm telling you bro the more you give yourself the power by focusing on the things that you can control the less you're gonna be in your own head CL all right really appreciate it bro all right by G have a good one take care