I need you to hear me loud and clear I personally think being a female entrepreneur is one of the most amazing things you could do for your kids to every mom and dad out there don't you want your kids to live a life where they pursue something meaningful to them there's a huge difference between taking a leap of faith and making a decision to step in a business if you were to summarize all of these you know possible thousands of questions out there what would you say the secret is hey it's your friend Mel and
welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast ah I am so overwhelmed with emotion and gratitude today and I want to start by saying thank you they always say that you should pay very close attention to the people that you feel like you can share good news with like just stop and think about that when you have good news who do you go to there are those people you can turn to you know they're going to celebrate you you know there's going to be no weirdness you don't feel weird sharing it because you know like people are
rooting for you and then you've got those people in your life that when good things happen H interesting you don't share it with them well when I think about good news I think about you and so I wanted to start the episode today by sharing some extraordinary news with you you ready I found out about an hour ago that the Mel Robbins podcast is the fifth most followed podcast of 2023 on Apple globally number five I I I am literally I mean first of all that's my number the 5 second rule the high five habit
but number freaking five in the world and you know what that's not all one of our episodes was named the number six most shared episode in the world of all of 2023 on both Spotify and apple and I could not wait to tell you and I want to put this in perspective both for me and for you because this is insane first of all when you think about podcast episodes I looked this up there's 182 million individual podcast episodes that you could listen to and one of ours was the number sixth most shared episode in
the world it was the one on the let them Theory I'm sure you're not surprised because you're the one that made it one of the most shared episodes in the world so thank you thank you thank you and I looked up the number of podcasts that there are and there are at least 3.2 million podcasts that are published every single year according to statistica I can't even say that word but what I can say is thank you you made this small little show a big freaking deal because we are now top 10 in the entire
world and one other thing I want to say to you is that I think it's really important for you to hear something from me not a single one of the women on our all female team that creates produces publishes edits markets the Mel Robbins podcast not a single one of us has ever worked on a show like this ever in fact some of us have never done the jobs that we're doing right now before and yet you know what we're doing it and we're not only doing it we're killing it and that means something important
it means so can you so please I know that you tune in to the Mel Robbins podcast because you are spending time listening to something that can help you improve your life and I freaking love that please remind yourself that the Mel Robbins podcast is not only here to inspire and Empower you to change your life for the better but we are also an example that you can do the things that you dream about you can figure it out you can make a difference in the world it is worth working on and so thank you
for your support thank you for sharing the show if you don't follow the show already please please please subscribe and follow thank you for watching the podcast on YouTube and now let's just get to the episode all right so thank you for letting me share that with you today's episode is dedicated to you and I love how the world works you know I always say the portal is open there synchronicity everywhere if you're willing to look for it and so we had already decided that today we were going to record an episode about supporting you
in launching whatever you want to launch and so today's episode is dedicated to you to your dreams to your goals to the side hustle that you want to create to the books that you want to write to the podcasts that you want to record the YouTube videos that you want to post the songs that you want to sing and the nonprofits that you dream of launching that will change this world your friend Mel Robbins is here to tell you that whatever it is that you dream about I not only know that you can create it
and make it true I believe that you will that's why I keep showing up to keep you going forward and so today I have something super cool to share with you I'm going to share a conversation with you that I had a few weeks ago I was in Oklahoma City and I sat down with a guy by the name of Chris Allen at the entrepreneur studio and I answered all kinds of questions from their audience about the secrets to success and before we jump in and share that conversation with you I want to say get
a pen because I was on fire that day I have so many tactics so many hacks so many secrets to share with you and I also want to give a huge shout out to Chris their team and my awesome friends at Hartland for allowing us to share this insanely motivational coaching session with you the first question that you're going to hear is a question I get a lot Mel how did did you get where you are right now what is the secret to your success and the answer is I pick one thing every year that
I want to focus on mastering and then I have a particular mindset hack that makes me succeed let's go oh and by the way speaking of watching on YouTube the majority of people that watch our YouTube channel are not subscribers my goal is to get to at least 50% of the people that watch our channel are subscribers it is free you will be supporting me and this remarkable show and supporting my ability to show up and pour into you so take a second subscribe okay awesome thanks all right question one how did you successfully transition
from being one of the many voices on social media and podcasts discussing everyday life challenges to becoming a prominent figure in the self-help industry Katherine wants to know can you share your insights into the strategies that helped you Propel to this level yeah I think one of the biggest insights is um if everything is important nothing is I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to have a game plan for a year about what is going to be the singular Focus that you're going to really care about the most because you can't care about everything
and so if you think about my career there's a lot that's public and a lot that's private so the public face things in my career are what everybody sees it's the 10 million followers it's the you know hit podcast it's the books that I've published but that's not the heart and soul of my business I have been um leap frogging remember that game where you hop over the next person and they hop I've been leap frogging my way to the position that I'm in now it's been a toggle between things that I do publicly and
things that are happening in the background so a lot of people don't realize that I was for many years the most sought-after and booked female speaker on the corporate circuit I did nothing but go to stages around the world working with the world's biggest brands at these massive sales events or corporate Retreats speaking and teaching and sharing research and training people and that's where I gained all my expertise is the work I was doing privately that nobody knows about that's where I started to gain a huge following and a tremendous level of respect and all
of this sort of uh skill that was that was being built in the background and so what I want to really have you think about is what is the one thing that you would want to focus on mastering this year so about six or seven years ago for me the one thing I really wanted to master is I wanted to somehow figure out how to take the things going on in private and make it part of a social media strategy and so I did what I always do with anything I'm trying new that I want
to master I became a student of it before I executed it and so I studied people six years ago that were doing really cool things on social media like Gary vaynerchuk I started studying a lot of the viral companies that repackage and curate information like Upworthy I mean there's so many ogs I mean now everybody has like kind of these viral strategies but back in the day that was not what everybody did and so I was looking at Ellen tube I was looking at YouTube I was picking everything apart and I was becoming a student
of it and then I started to apply what I was learning when I got into the podcast business I had done audiobooks and audiobook productions for partners like audible but I had never launched a podcast and so I studied it for two years I watched meticulously what my buddy J shett was doing I watched meticulously what the number one female podcast host was doing who is Alex Cooper who is on Spotify she uh hosts a show called call her daddy but she's only on Spotify and so I just meticulously watched the people that I really
admired I watched Howard Stern I watched Aila on radio and I picked apart what they were doing I became a student of it and it took me two years two years of studying two years of managing a pivot in my business but it was the number one thing that I was focused on the thing that I'm focused on now is YouTube now that we launched our podcast and completely destroying it in terms of download numbers and success and reach and growth now I'm pivoting and I'm now tearing apart YouTube because I see that as the
single biggest way to reach more people and so every move that I've made has been a combination of either something that I've picked privately like I'm going to be the number one female speaker in the world that's what I'm going to do and then I became that I'm going to take all these private conversations and I'm going to figure out how to put those on social media because these conversations between me and somebody at a grocery store or on a sidewalk are way more compelling yeah than these things I'm saying on a stage and then
I'm like I I feel called to launch a podcast there are six million podcasts on Spotify alone how the hell am I going to do this how am I going to like figure this out how am I going to change my business most podcasts don't make any money if I stop speaking where's the money going to come from how am I going to pay for my team and so I became a student of it now it's about YouTube what is the kind of content we want to create what does it feel like what what what
the successful channels do I don't want it to look like that what do I and so pick something for the year that you want to master and become a student of it then execute that's my advice good advice Amy an entrepreneur from Chicago says there's so much Doom and Gloom in the news right now and sometimes it really gets to me how can I maintain the optimism needed to stay motivated in the face of so much bad news Amy stop watching the news now it sounds TR right but stop watching the news first of all
there's profound research around why uh Sean Anker who's a famous happiness researcher out of Harvard has found in his studies that simply watching a minute of news in the morning can have a negative impact on you for up to 6 to 8 hours all day and here's why this is critical the most important resource that you have as a business owner is your time your attention and your energy if you are giving your time your attention and your energy to either negative news or to social media you are shooting yourself and your business right in
the foot and so I want you to start to take your time your attention and your energy very very seriously because whatever it is that you allow as input profoundly impacts your output and one of the first things that you could do is remove watching the news or consuming news from your morning diet do not look at it it does not concern you I don't watch the news because what I know is that if there is something important going on everybody around me will be talking about it then I can choose to tune in or
not second thing you should do is you should immediately go to your social media accounts and I want you to get extremely just selfish is even the wrong word I want you to get strategic about the accounts that you follow this is all input you are voluntarily giving your attention time and energy to other accounts to Brands to influencers to people if that input is not lifting you up is not making you smarter is not helping you focus in business delete if you're scared about what Aunt Suzie Q is going to do when you unfollow
her you can just hit mute but you have to start taking the input that you are getting profoundly seriously because it does impact the output it's good stuff all right uh Alex e-commerce clothing store owner in La asks when there are laws and slow times in your small business how do you decide if it's time to a hang it up and close your business B pivot the direction of your business or C keep pushing through the slow sales period so I want you to use the four pie project process product and people and by the
project I want you to look at any slow period in your business as a research project that's how we're going to attack this okay and when there is a slow period in your business you are more than capable of figuring out either how to weather it or how to Pivot your business to make it work and so we're going to look at three things because part of the thing that happens when you go through a lull is you start to get emotional about it and you make it personal and you don't turn it into a
research project any lull in your business is an opportunity to upgrade you can use these periods as giving you the time back to be able to innovate your own business and so you're going to look at three things after you've turned this into a research project you got to look at process product and people because the Innovation and the challenges that you're facing are in one of those three categories so process is something about your systems it could be about about shipping if you're running an e-commerce business here's what I know this is a marketing
problem because e-commerce businesses are all about marketing they're all about sales funnels they're all about the photographs you're taking they're all about the keywords that you're using they're all about the campaigns that you're running they're all about the Integrations that you're using with social media and there is somewhere in the breakdown of your e-commerce business in one of those foundational processes and so that's number one number two product is there something about the product in your e-commerce business is it stale have you run through the trend on a certain thing this is really important for
you to look at so process number one product number two the third is people do you have too many do you have the wrong people is your sister still running your social media strategy do you need to upgrade to somebody who knows what they're doing or are you the people we're talking about and if it's you that means you're not connected to the why anymore like maybe you started this this business because you wanted to make some extra money it was a real quick win but now the hustle that's involved the margins that are evolved
you're just not in it as much so it's not really that there's a lull it's that you're not putting into it what you need to put into it so using those four Ps turn it into a research project take a look at your processes take a look at the product take a look at the people including yourself that's probably the place to start that is how you're going to figure out the answer to that question great answer number three this is Melanie also an entrepreneur in La launching a startup is hard and I find it
easy to get distracted by other projects and jobs we talked a little bit about this in the episode how can I keep my motivation and focus on my own business okay so what you're describing Melanie is the single biggest obstacle to your business and there is a form of what I call business procrastination where you are busy doing everything but your business right you are avoiding the things that feel hard because it's easier to wash the dishes it's easier to send out that email it's easier to fold your laundry it's easier to go to a
yoga class it's easier to fiddle around on Pinterest than to do the actual work to grow your business and here's the way that I um think about this number one first of all you have done the hardest part which is having the self-awareness that you're doing it so that's a really important thing because procrastination when it comes to things that you need to do or want to do it can become a habit and believe it or not procrastination when you look at the research it is triggered by stress and when you blow off things that
feel hard you're trying to get relief from your stress and so your business probably stresses you out that's why you're doing easier things and that's why you're avoiding it and so number one congratulations because you have the self-awareness to realize that you're doing it my philosophy about everything when I realize I've got a problem is how do I make this easier how do I make this easier on myself and so here's what I would recommend I would think a lot about where do you do your best work and for me I'm easily distracted too and
so if I have to get deep work done or I have to do things that I'm avoiding I get out of my house I get out of my office I'll go to a coffee shop there's something about the ambient noise that actually makes me Focus the single most effective place for me to work is an airplane seat why I am strapped in there's nowhere to go the Wi-Fi is usually crappy and so I can open up something that I really need to dig into and I can put my head down and get it done there's
also this concept that I want to explain that has been a game changer for me there are five zones of time in the day five zones of time I finally realized this this is something I've been researching I'm like oh my god there are five zones a time so Zone number one is when you wake up you own that time that is your time and so many of you just casually hand it over to the internet you look at your phone you check your emails and Zone one in my opinion is the only time that
you have that is yours and you have to fight for it zone two Begins the moment you check your email or your phone or you turn on your TV because you have turned your attention over to someone or something else zone three happens the second you start your workday because you have traded your time and attention for a paycheck or you have traded your time and attention to earn profits for your business that is not your time do not get mad at your job do not get mad at your business because you are exchanging time
and energy and attention in order to get money period Zone number four typically happens around 3:00 that's when most of us start tapping out in terms of our mindset but we're still sitting at our business we're still sitting at work and it's sort of that blurry zone of you're kind of not you're not going to get any great work done there and and in zone four by the way also expends into going home you're cooking dinner you're doing all it's sort of this gray zone of transitioning from work into the rest of your life zone
five happens when you turn off the TV at the end of the night that is also time that you could own but you are probably unless you're somebody that does your best work at night and you get that kind of night owl thing you will be better suited to think about how to get sleep which you need so that when you wake up tomorrow and you have Zone one you actually know what to do with it that's good and so the more that I have focused on Zone one and zone five in my life the
more productive I become the less stressed I become the more I understand kind of what time throughout the day is what expectations to have around it the less resentment I feel and it helps a lot it's really good all right Gia owner of the brush bar in Scottdale is asking uh impostor syndrome is real especially as you try new things and grow in your career once you push through and decide to make change or make a change what are some tangible things you can do in the short term to build your confidence so great question
the research around confidence is very clear confidence is not a feeling here's a new definition of confidence confidence is the willingness to try confidence is the willingness to try and the reason why this definition is critical is because the research shows that confidence as we talk about it like a feeling is gained from competency competency is a fancy word that basically means you know what you're doing and the only way to know what you're doing is to practice it over and over and over again and when you practice something you start to gain skills and
you lose your resistance and your fear around it and that's where the feeling of confidence comes in but in order to gain confidence which is why I like the definition you have to be willing to try something you've never done before and so you have confidence and you display confidence when you're willing to try something that's it and so you got to keep that definition in mind that's number one number two it really helps me when I'm learning a new skill to imagine a bridge I believe that all Transitions and all like learning curves are
just brid Bridges you start on one side and you have to cross a bridge and it's going to get you to the other side some bridges are like that one in San Francisco long it's covered in clouds you can't see the other side but you know eventually you're going to get there if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other you just keep trying another thing I want you to understand is that the single most confident thing that anybody could say is a three-word sentence most confident thing I don't know when somebody
is in a meeting and they're asked a question and you say I don't know but I can find out I don't know don't you immediately trust that person of course takes a lot of confidence to just say that in a room and so what I want you to understand is impostor syndrome only means you're on the bridge the way you cross the bridge is waking up every day and just trying just being willing to try you don't have to have all the answers you have to have the courage to say I don't know and when
you focus on just waking up every day and trying you build the skills which lowers the resistance and fear which makes you confident which then makes you catch up to feeling confident super helpful number six uh Gia has a follow-on question what advice would you give to someone as the thing that helped to propel you the fast was it mentorship joining communities hiring PR bringing on a partner what was the thing that changed the game well I'll tell you the thing that doesn't hiring PR I personally believe that's a waste of money your customers are
your single biggest PR and your social media get serious about that and nobody's going to do it as well as you do so that's number one number two mentorship is great if you have a mentor that has a time to be engaged otherwise mentorship can feel awesome in the beginning and then you start to feel like you're chasing somebody so I feel that the fastest things that have propelled me is number one joining communities see the mistake that we always make is we think that our competitors are against us there is so much success and
opportunity to go around the very people that you think you're competing with should be your closest allies because you can learn from them and if you're worried about the people that are in your kind of business around you get into an online community with other entrepreneurs because when you're in a community you share back and forth It's not a one-way situation that a mentor can be you need to be with other people that day in and day out are running a small retail business or running the kind of business that you're running and learn from
them what you will learn from them is going to pay back dividends that I can't even put money on because here's the thing your family has no idea what you're going through your friends have no idea what you're going through they don't run the business yeah but other people even if they're running a retail business or a service business that's different than what you're offering they freaking get it that's why you're listening to this podcast because we freaking get it and so the more you're around those communities the better second thing bringing on a partner
this is a mind field because we think a partner will solve all our problems let me tell you something the wrong partner will create more problems and you want to tread very carefully in this area because we way too quickly turn over authority to someone else and give people a stake in something that we've built because we're overwhelmed and because we have not taken the time to truly problem solve where the pain points are in the business and so do not make the mistake of thinking that a partner is going to solve all your problems
the right partner will but I say this because in building my business over the last 10 years I had a partner who was fantastic and then that partner was really horrible and that partner was also not happy and knew that it was not a good fit I would recommend that you try to grow and you hire in expertise and what ends up happening is that the right person as you are hiring an expertise will start to appear and act like a partner MH now that's for an existing business if you're starting a business it's it's
great to start with a partner because then it's not as lonely um but if you have an existing business and you think a partner is going to solve all your problems you're wrong I would hire an expertise and then if the person is partnership material based on how they're operating in the role that will become evident yeah yeah great stuff Tasha says as a business owner for a few years now I've continued my day job to provide for my family and let the business uh income balance is now been three years and I believe I'm
ready to run my business full-time but when do you truly know when it's time to take that leap of faith and how do you justify the pros and cons so there's a huge difference between taking a leap of faith and making a decision to step in a business going say that again there is a huge difference between taking a leap of faith and making a decision to step into a business one of those is just like let's go okay I'm tired of doing both the other is a calculated risk where you have looked a cash
flow you understand your budget and the uh income that you need in order to pay your bills you have cut back on your spending in order to give yourself a bigger Runway that is a calculated risk and that is the definition of stepping into a business that you've actually looked at the numers you understand the runway that you have and that you are comfortable tolerating the risk and the reason why this is important is because too many people make the leap instead of making the decision and when you make the leap too soon you put
unnecessary pressure on your business and when you start to feel the pressure financially you are not going to perform well as a business owner and I pulled some res resarch on this because I think this is really important because I do want to acknowledge you Tasha for keeping your day job while you let the business income balance that is a crazy smart decision and it's supported by the research so I'm going to read here that entrepreneurs who keep their day jobs are more successful a robust study of entrepreneurs from researchers at University of Wisconsin Madison
found that those who kept their day jobs at least at first were 33% less likely to fail in their new Venture Adam Grant the youngest tenured professor at Wharton University of Pennsylvania School of Business put it this way quitting your full-time job to start a company is like proposing marriage on the first date the most durable businesses are typically started by people who play it safe don't go in all guns blazing start it off as a hobby and see if it takes off that's exactly what you've done Tasha you're now three years into this it
is not a hobby it is taking off the business income has balanced that you are making a calculated decision based on the research 33% less likely to fail so you're a genius good stuff uh Laura who's an entrepreneur in Kansas City asks wellness and self-care are all over the place as a driven entrepreneur I have a hard time believing in anything but hard work and hitting goals and that's just so I can grow my business that said I'm tired and feel signs of burning out from time to time what self-care should I invest in I
don't have time for trips to the spa let alone a vacation so I need you to hear me loud and clear wellness and self-care is a business strategy this is so important because entrepreneurs in particular are horrible at life balance and you know I shouldn't even use that word life balance because there is really no balance like you're always going to be working because no one's going to care as much as your B about your business as you but here's what I want you to understand and this was a huge wakeup call for me when
you are constantly burning the candle at all ends you're frying your nervous system there is research from Dr Judith Willis out of UCLA who studies the connection between a stressed out nervous system and brain functioning when your nervous system is on edge because you're working all the time and everything's important because nothing is and you think busyness is success and you think everything has to be done today and you are up until the we hours and you have no life and you are constantly thinking and constantly on your phone you are not able to tap
into the full capacity of executive functioning your sympathetic nervous system which is your fight fight flea freeze overworking entrepreneurial nervous system impairs your prefrontal cortex so your speed of processing your working memory your Clarity your ability to engage in strategic thinking and decision-making impaired and I'm on a mission to get every entrepreneur and small business owner to understand that your nervous system regulation meaning being able to have moments where you can take a breath where you can drop into your body where you're not on your phone this isn't for wellness this is so that your
business is better and it makes sense can you drive a car 24 hours a day no you'll fry the engine you'll run out of gas you're doing the same thing to yourself and it is killing your business and one of the things that I've done in the last three years is when I read this research from Dr Judith Willis it was you know during the pandemic and I realized I have since 2014 been sprinting and working 100h hour weeks and calling it success and when I finally went wait a minute how could I possibly be
the best I could be in this business if I never take a break how could I possibly make good decisions if I'm running from this thing to this thing to this thing how could I possibly innovate or be smarter about what I'm doing if I am always on my phone and always in the middle of a fire the fact is you can't and so this is not about self-care this is about ritualizing in your daily routine the ability to take a pause to step away so that your freaking brain can help you because you're not
helping your brain if you're operating like this and the other thing that I can't stand is that we've sort of romance this hustle culture which might work for single guys but it does not work for anybody with a family it does not work for people that are taking care of kids it does not work for most women and if you're working all the time you're not working smart and so here's what I would say here's some things that I think you need to do and this is not about a spa it's not about a vacation
but if you think taking a vacation is a problem that's a problem because you do need to step away the research is also very clear that you'll come up with your best ideas when you are away from your business you will come up with your best ideas when you're taking Tak a bath you'll come up with your best ideas when you're outside taking a walk without your phone or without listening to anything in your ears and so here's some simple things that I do that I see as not only self-care and wellness and for my
health but I see this as essential pieces of my business so I wake up when the alarm rings and I roll out of bed the phone is not near me I do not look at my phone because this is Zone one of the five zones of time I walk into I make my bed I always make my bed first thing in the morning because there's this momentum to just having it done I walk into the bathroom I have 16 ounces of water I keep a mason jar right there and I just drink 16 ounces of
water I look in the mirror I high-five myself into the day and then I get outside and I take a minimum of a 10-minute walk and here's the thing about the walk I walk like I'm light and if I remember to I try to smile occasionally now the reason why I'm taking this walk I might have my phone and my fanny pack with my dog treats because I take my dog and I literally walk down the driveway and walk back up 10 minutes walking like you're late first of all add years on your life secondly
it's a way to boost your mood third you are getting exposure to Bright Light which resets your circadian rhythms which will help you with sleep hugely important okay um so 10 minutes walk like you're late outside that's my walk I haven't looked at my phone yet really really really important next thing I sit down and I just have a notebook and I just kind of free form dump my thoughts because I typically have all kinds of ideas that come while I'm outside and also you're not listening to anything you're not on the phone you're not
listening to a podcast you're not looking at social media when you're walking you are letting all five senses come alive there's always some kinds of ideas I write down all my ideas and then I pick the one thing that is my priority for the day the one thing that's it that's it because I know that my whole day is going to go to responding to things but there is one thing that I can inch forward the progress principle make 15 minutes of progress right then I um always send a quick text or video message to
friend or family member that's changed loneliness for me it's made me really proactive about friendships which has been a GameChanger and then I grab my hot 15 and when I grab my hot 15 hot 15 for me is 15 minutes making progress on something that matters and then I'm allowed to look at email and that's when zone two starts and the only other variation on this is after my walk if I do have time time that's when I'll get exercise in yeah that's it that's it that that right there is wellness it's protecting my mind
and the other thing that has made a huge difference for me is prioritizing sleep the more successful I get the older I get the earlier I go to bed because your sleep is not just about you resting it is profoundly important for me memory it is profoundly important for your brain health and it literally makes me better at the work that I do and it sure as hell makes me more money so you will make more money when you start to take your brain health and breaks from work and being smarter about time on and
time off way more seriously yeah I love the trade that you said earlier about trading some of your zone five for your Zone one which is which is your time really really awesome stuff self-care is a business strategy all right last question uh Laura's asking I have a business idea but I'm scared to execute because I don't know how I could possibly balance Life as a busy entrepreneur with being a wife and a mom being a woman entrepreneur seems impossible what tips do you have Mel um so this is a question about self-doubt that's all
that this is and I don't know what messaging Laura has gotten but I personally think being a female entrepreneur is one of the most amazing things you could do for your kids because you are modeling what it looks like to have something purposeful in your life that means something to you and waking up every morning and doing the work to chip away at it and you know to every mom and dad out there don't you want your kids to live a life where they pursue something meaningful to them well who's going to teach him that
you are and so that's number one number two is because this is about self-doubt you know maybe you didn't have female entrepreneurs in your life maybe you've been getting a lot of messaging about what your role is you got to change the story and um there is something that um we can provide to you or whatever but it's something that I use called the iceberg model it is a Design Systems thinking model where you take a look at how the story that you tell yourself ladders up to the actions that you're actually taking so the
story that you tell yourself which already we know is I can't balance life as an entrepreneur I can't be a business owner as a wife and a mom being a woman entrepreneur is impossible that's the story you're telling oh yeah so then that Lads up to this belief that it's going to be impossible for me to do this which then Lads up to the actions that you're taking which is you're not you're just thinking and just thinking that this is impossible yet still wanting to do it ladders up to the ultimate thing which is of
course you don't have any results of course you haven't done it why would you if the story that you're telling yourself is that how could I possibly balance this so we have to attack this at the story level and here's the thing that's missing Laura you have a business idea but I don't know why you want to do this just having a business idea isn't enough how many times have you been in a conversation and somebody's like I thought of uber before they did okay great so what here's a metal you didn't do anything about
it and this is where the rubber meets the road and so couple pieces of advice number one the idea is not enough I'd do some work on why why would you want to do this for yourself would it make you proud to do this would it make you feel awesome to create some extra income and be able to do some fun things for the family and for yourself is this idea something that feels like it might bring out a part of you your creativity uh service that has gone dormant because you've poured so much into
the role of being a wife and a mom which is an amazing thing to do but there's something about you individually that you haven't tended to is that what this is about so figure that out and then I would 1,00% try to model up from a different story that um being a female entrepreneur is one of the best things I could do for myself and my family and if you believe that you'll start to see actions that you could take and you'll start to see results happening and so I would start with the belief I
would start with why I would then start working at this story that you're telling yourself and change it because it's not impossible not at all MH there's millions and millions and millions of us and in fact there are more of us every single day and I think it's the single greatest thing that you could do as a woman and then the final thing is I would a th% take on the role of being a student of this look at your social media who are you following are you following celebrities and you're just gawking at their
lives or are you following female entrepreneurs that are every single day in your social media feed your board of directors and mentors that are pouring into you and inspiring you and showing you that you could do this and so I would spend a student I I would spend a year being a student and what'll happen is it's not going to take a year because if you were to get rid of all the influencers and start following women in business and consuming this content and allowing it to pour into you you're you're going to start to
realize oh my God it's not only possible all these people are doing it and it looks really fun and I think I could do this and I think it would be really cool and I think that something would come alive in me and all of a sudden you're going to want to do it and everything's going to flip well these questions they represent thousands uh of people um and you know we only picked a few what um if you were to summarize uh everything that you you sort of heard and you had one thing to
say in in summary to to all of these you know possible thousands of questions out there what would you say the single biggest obstacle that is in your way is the self-doubt and the the internal critic anytime you're going to try something new whether it is a new business strategy or a new product line or a new pricing model on a service or a new piece of technology or a new role that you're hiring for in your business every time you do it it's a risk you are stepping into the unknown it's true and in
those moments where you're about to try something new fear is always going to show up it's always going to be there you're always going to hesitate and the secret is expecting the fear and understanding that fear is literally just a sign that you're about to try something and even though you feel nervous or afraid or you start questioning it you can still lean into it you can still do it and I can give you an example of this because we all struggle with it what do you think the most famous tagline for any brand is
in the whole world just do it just do it right what is the most powerful word in that tagline do no okay just all right you want to know why tell me why think about Nike's tagline being do it is that that inspiring no just do it the just acknowledges this moment of hesitation that we can all relate to yeah yeah every athlete standing on the sideline hesitating about jumping in the game every person at the starting line hesitating as they're in the starting blocks there is that just moment in every decision that you make
and what I'm here to tell you is that we all feel it it's there every single day and that is where your whole life plays out are you going to stand on the sideline and think about it and talk yourself out of it and wait another day and another week and another year and then all of a sudden a decade goes by or are you going to feel that hesitation and just do it what did I tell you are you ready to just go do it I bet you are there was so much wisdom in
this but I want to remind you of one other really important thing knowing is not enough we got to take all this knowledge this inspiration all of these tactics and translate it into a skill and that means get your butt off of the sideline get out of the stands and go 5 4 3 2 1 do the thing you've been thinking about doing I promise you getting started is the hardest part you have everything that you need you have your friend Mel Robbins behind you and one more thing in case nobody else tells you I
want to tell you I love you and I believe in you and I believe in your ability to create a better life now 543 2 1 just do it and thank you so much for being here with me on YouTube thank you for sharing this if you got something out of it please please please subscribe and up next more coaching check this video out
