i just finished an eight-year relationship wife monkey branch and all that so I'm going through it for not betting the right person so it's like the living consequences of what could happen you know what I mean but but anyways trying to REM it and all that and trying to come back at it now I've been single for about four months she tried to come back I said man squash that I just moved on so I'm going through it now so anyways I wanted your advice now on how best to proceed forward get a little bit
of looks advice cuz I'm kind of like just starting all over again you know what I mean okay so in order for us to come up with a better plan for the future we need to we need to figure out what happened in the past so what happened exactly with the with the marriage well she she it ended that she monkey Branch with another dude so she basically towards the end like maybe like towards the the past like two months I was like man something's off you know and then I then she then she basically
say yo I'm seeing some dude and I'm like all right you know then stay with buy wait a minute wait a minute slow oh my Lord this is a lot to unpack so okay your wife of eight years when did when did you get married to her nah she was only um I was with her for eight years but married for one year so you were with her for seven years yeah and then you finally gave her that ring and then she decided to go cheat exactly man that was and man my gut feeling was
like yo don't do it you know mean and I just bought the house too like with the year so I was like yes you bought a house yeah yeah man I bought a house when I when I got married to her I'm like you know let's buy a house and um yeah how much the house well the house that was like 400k so you on a mortgage for a 400k house yeah man and I'm not even living in it now that's what I'm saying like it's it's advice for the fellas too you know I'm not
even living in it now she's living in it with the dude wait a minute hold up hold up arando no slow down you bought a house and she's living in it with the dude how the [ __ ] that work I can't do anything about it because she's legally in the deed so I can't kick her out so I gotta what does that mean hold up wait wait wait I'm confused what does that even mean since she's legally in the deed she's part owner of the house so my options are either I stay in the
house right or I just leave so bro hold up a house that you pay for it's your money yeah you're telling me if I have a house and I pay for a house and I have a wife she can keep the house because because she's in her name is is where where is it not keep the house but until the divorce is settled you can't kick her out my goodness bro so if she chooses to obviously I'm not going to stay in the house with her so I hit it so if she chooses to bring
whoever she wants to you know she could yeah that's crazy so she she gets to stay in the house with her new dude that you pay for yeah until the divorce when is the divorce going to be over you know how lawyers are I've been out it for four months already so they gonna try to drag it on for as long as possible well they they can I'm trying not to I'm doing the opposite but it's been already like about four months of me just you know paying while they living you know so wait wait
wait hold on hold on you're the one paying for the rent you're paying for the you're paying the monthly rent that they're living in yeah yeah [ __ ] it's crazy man that's why like man there's no way there's no way there's no way it's either that or like you just mess up your credit you know like I could I could go that route and just not pay for it at all but I mean I didn't even tell you the worst part [ __ ] I got a six-year old that's the reason why I continue
to pay for it like I got a six-year old with it you know what I mean so that thing is like you got a six-year old with her yeah yeah yeah yeah man this thing this thing was this thing was like a a storm fit like I was like you know I was coasting or I thought I was coasting but it's it's another thing too like you know once you start getting a little like I want to tell the guys when you start getting a little complacent you know with life and and you start focusing
just on your purpose and you start like not noticing some red flags and by the time you look up if you make the wrong moves like get married you start putting yourself in a position where you have more to lose so you invested a lot more than her so it's easy for her to just you know exactly so that's that's a very good point it's why guys they they like oh I'm just going to work on my purpose and then it's going to figure itself out no [ __ ] if you work on your purpose
you marri a wrong girl this is gonna happen to you you g you gonna have a house with the wrong tick and then she decides out of after seven years of marriage she could leave you in a year what's [ __ ] up to me is the part that you got to pay for this house I there's no way I would be okay with this I be trying to figure out how the [ __ ] to get rid of her from my house I am but the only the only way is through the divorce so
either selling the house or buying her out but it has to it has to finalize the divorce and then in the middle of that storm I still got to deal with the you know like damn this chick just I've never been rejected in my life I've never been cheated on in my life so this is like you know like a a first so so okay was was it a dude at her job or something no it was some dude at the gym you know oh God letting the girls go to the gym there we go
she was a stay at home she was a stay at home mom she was still going to the gy bro them girls that be staying at home they be cheating with the [ __ ] at the gym so I'll be telling y'all your girl can't have did you did you not have no boundaries with her you told her she can't have no male friends yeah of course I never I never of course I got she couldn't have no male friends like I always had my boundaries with her and the messed up part is like I
always I was always in control of the or I thought I was always in the power in the relationship in my mind so she would drop off my daughter at 7: a.m she would go to the gym from 7 to 9: and then when I wake up I would go to the gym with her again so she would go to the gym twice ah so she was going to the gym in the morning for a reason yeah yeah man that's insane bro I got bro no cap I got a girl right now that goes to
my gym that she I she lives in my building I know her dude because he lives with her she has I tell this girl has a dude that she chitchat with every single day this is crazy so guys you got to man I'm not a fan of picking the phones but this kind of [ __ ] it makes me want to hire a private investigator I'm not gonna lie bro because I feel like this is just too much this is too much risk that we take to you for you just to get [ __ ]
like that and like that's that's crazy you could be doing everything right yeah man and you just for her car pay for her car cash you know like like yeah like so for the next time if I mean I'll never get married again with with the state if I get married I'll get married to the church and definitely hire the pi bro because yeah kid based on what I'm seeing from from seeing what guys I'm hey man I would say before you get married High Pi like just to be safe or do it or do
it once a year year do it not only do it before the matter do it once a year so just so you know because there's no way in the world because this is what so you go you know you gonna have to give her Alam money right well not because because I only legally married with her for one year thank God I was with it for seven but I was with her legally I mean my lawyer already told me that that part I'm I'll be all right child support I can't escape that but I'm not
going to have to give it um alimony but but it's not even all that like the thing is like the drama that you go through you know what I mean like damn like you put in so much effort I'm already 35 36 you know what I mean like I I thought that that was a good person and then they just boom they flip it on you man so what what were the red flags that you ignored yeah so the last month you know changed the the cell phone but it was already too late like she
was already cheating it was already too late um the phone the the Cod the distancing you know the the arguments like because I never argue with women but then I started noticed she started picking arguments so basically she they try to make a an argument to a point where you break up with them so they don't feel like the guilty one so yeah when she didn't get to that point she was like you know what the hell with that I'm G just tell this guy I'm seeing someone else and and it it happened quick f
it happened quick like it happened quick for me she was planning it for months and months yeah that's what it is so see that's that's the thing they they man she mentally checked out God knows when and then she just played her role got her ducks in order made sure that this guy she was gonna monkey Branch to was actually gonna she she planned everything she planned everything so that's unfort go ahead support and support my daughter basically accept my daughter I mean this dude's a sucker I mean I would do that but you know
support my daughter and and take her also so you know not that I don't know that many men that would want to like you know grab that mission like I I don't know why why why would she leave you after what what what exactly you saying everything was great and then she just happened like what what that don't make no let me see your physique bro let me let me let let something that don't make this I'm confused I mean I thought everything was great she was she was saying that I was like real cold
towards the end but let me see where I can put this up man I don't know if you can see me bro man you in great shape how tall are you I'm 5'9 all right let me come come come you handsome you got you bring the phone you're in great shape you got nice hair um nice beard lean and she might she probably just got bored I don't know bro I don't know I don't know I don't even know what to tell you bro only I can tell you is I can tell you is don't
get married under no circumstance do not get married do not get married I don't give a damn how long I known a girl do not yeah you're not willing to be with me without us signing papers because that's that's crazy yeah that's crazy I mean she said like towards the end like that um she didn't feel hurt and understood that was the thing you know because I was so they can always make up [ __ ] bro they can make up whatever they yeah you don't feel heard and understood yeah I bought us a $400,000
house the money didn't [ __ ] fall out of the sky it's always some so yeah listen guys I'm gonna tell you guys this from the bottom of my heart hearing stories like this I I hear this a lot very often you got to do everything you can to protect yourself yeah like I'm glad what I'm what I am happy that you did was you did not let yourself go still in great shape you're still handsome you look good how you doing financially I mean I'm okay I make about I mean I'm not great uh
but I make about 130 a year now the good thing that's coming out out of this is I'm going back with my brother because I kind of like divided for my brother because she would like try to separate me from my family a lot I didn't notice that so now big red flag that was a huge red flag and now I'm going back with my brother and you know now I'm I'm planning to start a business with him and stuff like that just to just to get back on it and and trying to date again
now is like a little like like I didn't even want to date to be honest with you f i was so like mentally and and now I'm starting to date um I'm starting to see some girl and now I was absence for like three four months and I was like man I got to I gotta get back on it you know okay so I'm glad that you you got rid of that because you don't want to let a girl hurt you and then stop you from me a better girl that's what I think a lot
of us men do we go through some trauma with a girl and then we say you know what because of her I can't meet no other girls I'm going just take myself out of the game don't do that what city do you live in I'm in Miami yeah yeah I mean the house was in West Palm the house was in West Palm got a house in West Palm and she cheated that's a very nice neighborhood guys if y'all don't know goodness where did you meet her where did you meet her I met her to a
photographer and one of my because I because I make music so I met up with a photographer she was taking some photos about seven six years seven eight years ago and and I linked up through her to do that and you know yo she I mean she she played me like I know that's and that's what that's what we here to try to help men understand this is why listen booty and looks and all these things cannot be the number one thing on your list You Gotta Be You Gotta Be You got to be really
really analytical about how you go about dating you can't guess you can't [ __ ] around you can't let [ __ ] happen to chance you can't let no body pressure you into doing anything I'm not getting married like it or not I'm I'm GNA always protect myself because Cas casing Point again how many stories do I need to hear I'm not giving youall advice because I'm just making this [ __ ] up I hear these kind of stories all the time you do everything right don't cheat on the girl did you cheat on her
n that's the crazy part too you know don't cheat on the girl do everything right and then seven years in eight years in she gets bored me guy at the gym and everything you've ever invested goes out the window so am I crazy for telling guys hey bro don't get married it's a big risk with little return make sure you vet the girl make sure you do this like no so listen I'm glad that you stayed in good shape I'm glad that you maintained your looks but you don't want to let her stop you from
meeting other wom you got to go hard now right you got to get on date naps you got to start taking high quality photos you're only 36 bro set up this don't don't don't let that situation make you feel like yeah kind you know damn that's so much I'm already like in my in my mid late 30s I'm like list nah bro you just now hitting your Prime bro you got you you got the red pill a little too late but at least your life is not over you're a good-looking dude you're in good shape
you're making decent money now is the time bro that you go put yourself out there the right way vet women properly right establish your business don't don't ever make purpose blind you from red flags like you did they they to understand and pick the right girl okay thank you listen man you I think I think you gonna figure it out I think if listen if you ever need some help if you want some help from me I'm I'm G put a link for you man a book a call let me see if I can help
you out I'm G put it in the chat let me see if I can help you out but I think I think I think you can figure it out man I don't think your not as bad as it as you are making it I think you got a bright side coming after this all right thank you brother I appreciate it man all right my G have a good one God bless you all right peace
