all right ladies so today let's discuss nine things that women should never do for a man you see every month I get to coach some of you about dating relationships and self- Love and I always notice certain things that you do okay for someone that you care about as a way to prove your love to him but quite often what you end up doing is pushing him away being taken for granted and destroying the attraction between you two my name is Ismael Gomez I'm a coach writer and speaker and ladies I want you to stop
everything that you're doing right now okay no multitasking no checking your phone give me your full attention because I will give you some invaluable lessons that can change your love life completely if you want to become a woman who attracts rather than chases you need to recognize these behaviors that make men lose respect for you because always remember the moment a man loses respect for you he won't love you the same way okay I'm excited for this so let's begin number one don't become the female version of him I've seen so many women do this
even some of them that I've dated in the past after a few months of knowing me suddenly my favorite movies became her favorite movies you know she became a soccer fan like me she started eating the same foods that I ate and then when the relationship ended I saw the same girl with another guy and now she was the biggest basketball fan because that's the sport that he liked and also she was always watching the shows that he enjoyed and this is part of a people pleasing personality okay some of you just become a sponge
and you want to force compatibility because you think that you know that's the most effective way to build a wholesome relationship and even if you get to enjoy things that he likes don't give up on what makes you unique because being yourself is the only way that you can be Irreplaceable number two don't hide your intellect if a man ever feels threatened by your intelligence ladies that's a major sign of insecurity on his part dumbing yourself down for a partner is a recipe for resentment okay where you feel like you're settling for someone who doesn't
stimulate you intellectually and let me give you an example last week I was having this coaching session with a woman and she was around my age mid-30s so she asked me a question and I gave her a simple response you know like two or three sentences but I could totally see you know the hesitation in her eyes that she wanted to say something so I asked hey you know is there anything that you want to tell me don't hold back and then she went on for three whole minutes breaking down why she didn't agree with
the advice that I gave her and you know what it was actually a pretty brilliant response and the point is that she was downplaying her intellect so I was giving her simple responses but once that I saw her true capabilities we started engaging in a much deeper and more meaningful way number three don't become mom 2.0 I know that a lot of you know this one right playing mother to your partner can completely drain your energy constantly cleaning up after him you know watching over his finances pushing him to pursue his goals a grown man
should be capable of taking care of himself taking on the mother role can create an unhealthy Dynamic where your partner becomes overly demanding and you feel undervalued however let me say that this doesn't mean ladies that you never do anything nice for him you know like cooking him dinner or doing some other household tasks because I know that some of you take this to the extreme right and you refuse to do any thoughtful gestures for him fearing that you'll be taking advantage of it's all about finding a healthy balance you know where both of you
contribute and you feel appreciated number four Don't Put Your Dreams on hold compromise is key in any relationship right but there's a difference between compromise and sacrifice you shouldn't have to completely give up on your personal goals and aspirations just to be with someone and I see this problem a lot especially young women you know you put your personal goals on hold to support your partner's dreams and then you even relocate to another country because he's going to get a job that only benefits him the right man will be your biggest Cheer leader not an
obstacle to your success number five stop avoiding conflict here's a quote that I love that embodies this point if you hide your pain from your partner you may have peace in the relationship but you'll create a war in your mind I see so many of you afraid to disagree with your partner because you worry that it will leave lead to a fight and then him leaving and here's the thing healthy couples disagree sometimes okay like the important thing is to be able to express your opinions respectfully a healthy partner would value your voice and want
to hear what you have to say even if you don't always see eye to eye nevertheless if your partner is the type that breaks things down starts yelling at you when there's conflict that is not okay ladies all right don't put up with a [ __ ] behavior I'm sorry for my French but it really gets to me all right so let's keep moving on number six don't fully rely on him financially Financial Independence isn't just about having a lot of money beautiful okay it's about having control over your own life and feeling secure relying
solely on a man for financial support can create a power and balance in the relationship and a lot of men will do this in a sneaky way I've seen it over and over again they will tell you oh you don't have to work babe you know I'll take care of you why do you want to start a business just come work for me you know I'll teach you some stuff and later once your whole schedule revolves around him and you're accustomed to a lifestyle that he provided he may start using finances as a weapon to
control you number seven don't excuse his behavior for this one I'm just going to show you a real that I made on Instagram that illustrates this point Have You Ever Loved the man so much that you tried to excuse his behavior while he was hurting you oh no that's the way he is he's not a liar he was just just afraid to tell me the truth and you see this only happens when you value someone's love more than your self love you're more concerned about losing him than losing yourself number eight don't isolate yourself I
saw this pattern in one of my sisters like every time that she was dating a new guy she would just stop reaching out you know stop hanging out with her family until she learned her lesson and you see this is part of practicing Detachment where your life doesn't completely revolve around this person you know like his friends are your friends you even love his family more than yours and I know that a lot of you have a toxic environment back home you know when you grow up but always have friends or other connections with other
people that are not related to him number nine avoid uncomfortable intimacy you know it's really sad to see how some men Guilt Trip women into doing sexual activities that you're not comfortable with it's like they use all this manipulated tactics to make you feel bad if you don't go along with all of his experiments they will say things that make you feel like you're not a good partner if you don't do what they want in bed or they will down plate your feelings and make you doubt yourself and believe that you overreacting and sometimes ladies
you know it's not that these guys are necessarily evil right like I always explain this in all of my videos it's almost a societal problem where these dudes you know grew up watching a lot of porn and they have all these stereotypes that they believe what women are supposed to behave in intimacy and that is your duty to please all of his desires no matter how uncomfortable that makes you feel all right ladies that's it for today's nine things that a woman should never do for a man and you know what I'll give you a
quick extra one okay never send him naked selfies and this just came to mind because I was reading the comments last week in one of the videos and the way that technology is nowadays like you don't really want someone to have naked pictures of you on their phone trust me if he wants to see you again with your cloths off just tell him that you like it when he takes them off in person okay I'm just kidding anyways thanks so much for subscribing to my channel I'm glad that you chosen me to learn about love
dating and relationships because like I always say for your relationships to change you need to change have a beautiful day
