women experience you by reacting to you okay she cannot experience you if you are constantly reacting to her so the way that women fall in love with you the way that women gain sexual attraction for you is by experiencing you okay experiencing who you are when she is pinging off of you and you are not pinging off of her the problem is for most guys most guys are pinging off of the women right they're almost using the women to kind of like feed off of her right like a parasite for validation positive emotions because when
you feel a woman is above you as far as attractiveness goes she's above you you know as far as looks goes what you're normally able to get you just feel like she's she's out of your league that is when you will try to validate yourself for her and you will seek her validation you will seek like positive emotions from her you'll like literally sit there and wait for her to give you a sign you ever see these YouTube coaching videos oh these are the signs that she liked you right you're sitting there waiting for a
sign and when you do these things which is a common mistake that most guys without game without pick-up training do when you do these things you are denying the girl the ability to experience who you are to experience all of the great things that make you you right I mean you see a lot of guys right that kind of get friend-zoned by a girl or the girl just go sim right she just ghosts a guy and the guys like oh it's her loss I'm such a great guy she didn't get to know the real me
right it's totally her loss and you know what you're right it is her loss but you know what - it's your fault right it's your fault you didn't give the girl a chance to experience you why because when you talk to her you approach her or whatever you were filtering yourself you were having that very friendly polite like friend to friend conversation with her instead of that sexual attraction verbally sexually escalating type of conversation that I teach you to have with women that I teach my students to have where you're constantly raising the stakes as
you talk to her and you're having this very very raw bare-bones naked male to female conversation you're not trying to manage the impression of you have of you have of yourself to her you're not trying to present yourself to her you know in a way where you think that she might like I mean instead you are just presenting yourself as you are as I teach my students to do you are vomiting your personality on to the girl she's seeing everything there is to know about you like you're kind of wearing your heart on your sleeve
right and you're making social norms obvious to where the girls like oh [ __ ] this guy's actually pretty cool that way you know when she's talking to you and you see her getting excited a lot of girls like infield when when you get their emotions amped up you'll see them like their eyes light up you ever talk to a girl in like who starts to get really into you and then you see her eyes light up and she starts giving you the Bambi eyes we also call it the doggy dinner bowl look in the
pickup community it's like right she's just getting so excited over you why because she's experiencing you now right the girl is experiencing you on the flip side you know those girls who are like kind of like doing their nails or like just like looking kind of bored as they're talking to you those are the girls that are not experiencing you and that just want to walk away okay and again that's really that's your fault if you're talking to a girl and you're actually there and you're able to I mean at least hold her there where
she's not leaving she's standing around she's bored I mean really it's up to you to inject your manliness into her you know by basically like I said vomiting your personality on to her and letting her know who you are and what you're about and obviously you want to you know if you really want to get technical about this you want to follow my five stages to doing a proper pickup which is on my home page here on my channel which is the first you approach the girl second false time constraint right you let the girl
know like hey girl I can only stay for a couple of seconds but I did want to talk to you that way you put kind of like a time pressure on it and you make her feel you relieve her of the burden of feeling that she's gonna be stuck talking to you for the next hour right you tell her I got to go in a sec anyway so after falls time can straight third is you want to start building attraction right first thing is you want to do is build attraction we do that through primarily
through negs in the pickup community obviously the hotter the girl is the more negative in generally if the girl is a dime piece a perfect ten I will pepper in three negs in a row right not back-to-back but just three in a row like just kind of peppered in the very beginning of our conversation just to kind of bring her down a notch let her know I'm not taken in by a beautiful woman spell so that is the building attraction phase which is phase 3 the fourth is building comfort and rapport this is where you
kind of find commonalities that you have with the girl things you have in common you might like the same type of movies same type of music same type of restaurants food that's part four and then finally fifth is the closing stage where you get our number preferably you wanted to write take her out on an insta date right want to get in on an in-state but worst case scenario you can take our number more grab for social media assuming you've done a proper approach this girl will not flake on you okay assuming you've done a
solid approach she will not ghost you or suddenly disappear okay but that's how you do a proper approach and when you do a proper approach by the way as long as you're working solid gaming you're doing things right just as I teach you the girl will experience you by default she will be experiencing you by default all the way up from when you approach her and then you do your false time constraint the entire time the girl's gonna be like oh this guy why am I getting attracted to him as you know the more he
stands here talking to me why am i why do I find myself becoming more and more attracted to him it's because she is experiencing you right she is seeing who you are and even if you make a few mistakes that's okay because as long you're doing everything else right you can you can afford to make a few mistakes and the girl will even look at that it's a positive like okay you know he's not trying to come up here like he's perfect or anything like that or you know at least Rico suave instead he's coming
up here and you know he's like a real guy so even like you making mistakes during your approach it kind of like humanizes you to the girl it makes you seem human instead of like you know an approach robot like oh he's picking up girls all day I'm just no another one so the girl must experience you if you want her to actually fall for you if you want her to have like sexual attraction for you she must experience who you are because as long as the girl does not experience who you are and she
has no clue who you are that girl ain't having sex with you and she sure is not going to develop any feelings for you the girl has to know who you are I've always taught my pickup students over and over the faster the girl gets to know who you are the faster she is going to sleep with you the faster she's gonna become your girlfriend the faster she's gonna start liking you okay the more you kind of tried to pretend you're this other person you're this fake nice guy or you're this super polite guy that
could do no wrong as long as you pretend to do those things and you filter yourself you're just delaying the process and the longer you delay that process the more the girl starts to look at you as just a chump who that she needs to put under friendzone cuz she's for the girl she's thinking okay I've never really been into this guy so he yeah the longer you wait right and it's like even waiting a couple of weeks and trying to filter yourself you know I mean by then you could be out and and then
her girlfriend will be like oh what about that guy you met two weeks ago Paul so big Oh Paul yeah he's like a brother yeah he's kind of like a brother no no I know and their girlfriend will be like so you don't see anything romantic happening there's like Oh no no no no no hey you don't want her talking about you like that instead you wanna being like Oh Paul oh my god Paul is so hot you know I don't know what it is about Paul but he is so hot and oh my god
girl that's him texting right now hold on I got a text back you know she'll put things on hold for you she'll just she'll do the things that a girl who is sexually attracted to a guy will do right so it's very very important that the woman experience you versus you experience her and that is pretty much the the problem with most guys who lack game and pick up skills is they are too busy experiencing the woman to let her experience them they're too busy looking at the girl like oh my gosh I can't wait
to make her my girlfriend Oh what does she think of this shirt what does she think of my hair Oh am i good-looking enough fur am i tall enough her oh man I knew I should have worked out today oh my belly's sticking out oh you know they're too busy validating themselves to the girl to let her experience them and these chicks can feel that right even if you're not saying anything verbally and you're trying to stand there and not mess up these chicks can feel that there's something we teach called a law of state
transference in game what you feel she feels gay the law of state transference this is why we do a lot of inner game stuff with making sure that you feel good in your own body you're grounded in your own energy as a man and you are centered and feeling nonreactive your cortisol levels are in check you're not like having social anxiety that way when you walk up to these girls who are drop-dead gorgeous you will not flinch okay your eyes won't dilate when she looks you in the eyes checking for that congruence you won't flinch
and she will have the gift of experiencing who you are okay she will have the gift of that because women really they live for external stimulus right they live for fantasy not reality women live for fantasy I've told you got as you got that over and over they love external stimulus this is why women spend money like drunken sailors right they buy [ __ ] they don't need they go shopping they bring home all these clothes they didn't want they buy furniture they buy handbags they buy shoes they buy dresses they buy makeup they like
spend hundreds of dollars to do their hair they get pedicures every week it's because it makes them feel good because they live for that that external stimulus right so when she is able to experience you you are giving her that external stimulus that she is wired to to be sexually attracted to as a woman but when you take that away and you force her to sit there while you experience her then you're dragging her back down to reality which is not fun for her and it's not a place that she wants to be in too
many guys when they approach a girl that they're really attracted to they're so busy validating themselves to the girl and hoping that she says something or does something that gives them positive feedback right again they're waiting for those positive emotions from the girl like they're just trying to like sit there and wait for the girl to give them something instead of just taking action and self-amusing like I teach you guys taking action self-amusing not carrying what the girl thinks and acting through your own intentions right another thing I teach you guys act through your own
intentions because when you act through your own intentions the girl is able to experience who you are and you're not taking that away from her but when you don't act through your own intentions you are okay and she's not able to feel you out she's not able to see who you really are without wearing that polite mask that everybody else wears right instead you're being exactly who you are what you see is what you get you know I've done videos on being mysterious and you know and whatnot and obviously there's a lot of social cattle
operation here right so I'm not gonna get into that in this coaching video but I will say that you must allow the girl to experience who you are if you want her to become attracted to you and you don't want to be thrown into her friendzone like the rest of the chumps okay so hopefully this coaching video has made sense to you it's a little bit more intermediate than what some of you might be used to but it's a very valuable lesson and take it and apply it into your own dating life and with that
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