relationships can proceed in one of two directions one is towards deep presence raising your Consciousness being fully embodied finding a deep sense of radical wholeness within yourself or the other towards sleep unconsciousness old patterns essentially living in a Mindless way and of course you like the former rather than the latter the latter does not sound fulfilling deeply there's something deep inside you I mean recognizes that the former something about that something about that Vision actually is fulfilling I know that you can Intuit it this and for as long as we think that relationships are going
to just be some form of shelter that just protects us from the world and we're going to find like Everlasting Bliss in them for as long as we hold on to that narrative we're going to miss what's really going on in our relationships in this video I'm particularly talking about Intimate Relationships but a lot of these are going to apply to all relationships all human relationships but this is particularly potent in Intimate Relationships so when we use relationships only for comfort and security only to get our lower needs met for just Comfort connection sex status
things like this we actually miss out on the best parts of relationships we actually miss out on the best parts of being a human being when we're stuck in those kinds of patterns just getting our lower needs met this actually just reinforces a lot of fear inside of us because we're not raising our Consciousness we're just stuck at our animal level instincts we're not really deepening our Consciousness having a very deep connection to to ourselves to our intuition we're stuck purely just at the level of immediate gratification it's very shortterm all that stuff is very
short term there's no deeper connection to a more long-term satisfaction it's more so I'm getting what I want now and it's quite impulsive and if you don't get what you want then then you're mad about it so we need to actually have a better vision for relationships if we really want to make the most out of them it can't just be about getting things for me and my lower needs and that's it what I'm telling you in this video is that there's something more going on here that that old story isn't allowing you to see
so the other choice is to actually regard intimacy as a way to come more Fully Alive to fully embody yourself you use relationships to to actually bring forth your Natural Essence as a human being you use relationships to bring forth a deep sense of presence you use relationships to actually transcend the ego transcend the separate self rather than to just reinforce it so instead of looking to a relationship for shelter right just basic protection from like the Pains of life and then just grasping on to the pleasures that it gives you instead of doing that
you welcome its power to actually transform you you recognize this context this intimate relationship this particular context to be extremely powerful and potent for transforming you so you're using it more so as a way to gain a deeper contact with all the things inside of you that you avoid you're using it to actually show you where you're asleep in yourself the parts of you that you don't like about yourself you're using it to bring those parts up right so that you can actually fully love your partner of course but even just fully love yourself CU
When you have all these parts that you don't like your capacity to even love your partner is even it's going to be diminished and of course your capacity To Love Yourself is is going to be very diminished as well because you quite literally just have these parts that you don't like you don't want to acknowledge them you're asleep to their existence you're unconscious of them so this approach commits us to a movement or a change really towards deeper personal growth it shows you the direction you actually have to go to to have more integration and
wholeness it's pointing you in a particular direction that you have to Clue Into You have to sense into it like oh the reason why I'm getting so triggered or this is happening I'm running into the similar problems that I'm having the reason why this is happening is you have to integrate a particular part of you it's always resisting it's always avoiding it's always fighting it's always struggling some part of you needs your pure presence and attention some wounded inner child part you need you to actually come in and support it rather than being unconscious to
it those triggers are like it trying to come up into your awareness it's trying to actually get your attention so we learned to use difficulty in this sort of New Vision for relationships to con to connect more deeply not just with our partner but with all the parts of ourselves as well we're using these more difficult aspects of our life to actually come into a deeper sense of connection with self and by doing that you get into a deeper connection with every single thing and every single one around you so by contrast dreaming that love
is going to save you solve all your problems provide you a steady state of bliss and endless security which is basically just a you know wishful thinking it's a complete fantasy you realize that that whole worldview actually undermines the real Power of Love the real power of a relationship which is to transform you which is to actually change you which is to allow you to open up in the places where you're closed which is to allow you to be flexible where you're rigid you're using awareness check out one of my previous videos on awareness I
think the video may be right before this or or two videos ago you're essentially allowing your awareness to open you up you're allowing the relationship to be way that you deepen your Consciousness I will absolutely guarantee you if you integrate this let's say you integrate this fully in your life you will have the best relationships that are humanly possible and I know parts of you can Inuit it this cuz what's the opposite full reactive patterns old defensive patterns unconsciousness being half asleep living on autopilot it's like by the very definition of this path it's unfulfilling
and it's just I don't have to explain that one anymore so I know you can actually Intuit it if you're sincere enough and you're open enough you can int it that this direction that I'm kind of trying to nudge you in there's something deeply rewarding about it and you just have to implicitly recognize that and realize oh yeah like I need to commit to that because it's going to give me a lot of value it's actually going to help me a lot it's going to really just eliminate a lot of unnecessary suffering that I don't
have to experience so for our relationships to flourish we actually need to see them as a series of opportunities for developing greater awareness discovering deeper truth and becoming more fully human connecting with yourself at deeper and deeper levels feeling safe in the body cuz you really just want to feel connected and present you really just want to feel whole and integrated you just want to be happy that's why you're doing all the things that you do in your life you just want to be happy that's the reason why you make money you have sex you
do everything you do it because you want to be happy so beyond finding just companionship which is good right all these lower needs that I talk about you know they're great they're great right but beyond them there is more so beyond just finding companionship or sex or just approval or connection we have a deeper need to live from our fullness to engage with life fully to meet it fully to be fully awake to life to essentially to essentially engage with life as fully as you can and to end this video off I really want to
just remind you that you're going to die one day and I don't say that to scare you but I say that to wake you up to what really matters which is to live this moment fully to be fully present and conscious in this moment so that you're not missing your life cuz think about yourself on your deathbed you'll right what what will your what's your biggest regret going to be it's not going to be that you spent that extra $20 right the biggest regret is going to be that you didn't love life in every single
moment that you had you weren't fully present to it because you were too closed you're too rigid you had no vision you were too foolish you didn't have enough wisdom to see that every experience right even outside of relationships every experience could be used as a way to fully engage with life to fully open yourself up to life relationships being the best for doing exactly this so that's it for this video if you're interested in working with me one to one you can apply to do so link is in the pinned comment take it easy
