in this life as a man you have three choices when it comes to women you can either be the nice guy in which case you will fail with women and the furthest you can reach is the friend zone or you can be the bad boy making women chase you but your life will be full of breakups and every time you'll be with a new girl or you can be the half bad half nice making any woman fall deeply in love with you thinking about you day and night so let me explain to you how to
be a half bad half nice without falling into the Trap of becoming the nice guy let's play a simple game so you can understand the difference between a nice guy and a half bad half nice man tell me what do you see in this image your answer will be a white dot and if I show you this image you will say it's a black dot now I want you to reflect on these two images and focus on the first one if you try to think about it you'll realize that you ignored all the blackness in
the background and focused only on the white dot and in the second image you ignored all the whiteness and focused only on the black dot this happened because our brains naturally pay attention to exceptions but what does this have to do with our topic listen carefully now because I'm going to explain something that relates to all social relationships not just with women let's assume you have a friend whenever he asks you for something you are always there for him and you never refuse any of his requests but one day you make a mistake with him
or refuse a single request at that moment he will immediately start seeing you as a bad person he won't care about all the good things you've done for him because those good things are like the white background in our case while the small mistake you made is the black dot and every time he thinks about you he will only remember that mistake and his resentment towards you will grow the more mistakes you make the more he will focus only on those mistakes on the other hand another person who is not naturally kind but does one
good thing will suddenly be praised by everyone and seen as a great person even though he is usually unpleasant and this is not people's fault but rather human nature that we cannot change you will never gain people's Respect by simply serving them or always being kind to them instead it's better to be the black page that occasionally shows white spots rather than being the white page that occasion Ally shows black spots these are the rules of the game and you must respect them if you want to live well and earn people's appreciation but this is
not our topic today I can talk more about this in a social skills series if you want for now let's stay focused on women and how this concept applies to them if you are always nice to a woman meaning you are always white in her eyes she will never see your kindness as something special nor will she appreciate it but if you are not always nice and behave normally or even indifferently and occasionally do something nice these gestures will stand out in her eyes and will attract her to you more and this is the difference
between the nice guy and the half bad half nice man the nice guy is always white and occasionally a black dot appears on him while the half bad half nice is black and occasionally a white dot appears on him and to make the video Smooth let's call our guy the gentleman now you must have understood the general idea but before we move on to practical application let me explain how a woman's brain works when you are not naturally nice but rather behave normally or even indifferently a woman will perceive you as a high value man
because your lack of niceness towards her is interpreted as confidence and self-worth and since she now sees you as a high value man when you do something nice for her because it is an exception she will focus on it a lot she will remember it for days weeks or even her entire life this way her love for you increases and every time you do another nice thing her love for you grows even more this type of behavior makes her become more and more attracted to you so how do you do this how can you be
a high value Man without being overly nice to women yet still be a gentleman there are two fundamental points in dealing with a woman we will discuss each one and I will explain them to you thoroughly so you can understand me clearly first attention this is one of the most important points and unfortunately it is also one of the most common mistakes men make when it comes to women there is a widely spread misconception that says women love attention and they love when you give them a lot of it this statement is wrong there is
another misconception that says if you want a woman to be attracted to you you should not give her attention nor should you care about her this statement is not entirely wrong but it is half true if you are with a girl and want a short-term relationship only looking for a limited interaction with her for sex meaning a one night stand and nothing more in this case you can avoid giving her attention however if you are like me and prefer long-term relationships want to be in a healthy relationship and wish to have a stable and consistent
sexual relationship then you must modify the last part of this rule too if you want a woman to be attracted to you you should not give her attention all the time there are situations where you should give attention situations where you should not and situ situations where you should remain neutral now listen to me carefully I will explain these cases to you and show you how to deal with each one in your relationship with a woman you will experience a variety of emotions these emotions are divided into two types negative emotions and positive emotions your
decision to give a woman attention or not depends on the type of emotions involved and how they arise these emotions constantly change when interacting with any woman and new feelings will arise in every situation there are five main possibilities the first possibility the woman feels negative emotions because of you for example she sees you talking to another woman and feels jealous here you are the cause of this negative feeling and therefore you should give her attention or for instance you made a mistake with her she got angry at you or maybe even started crying here
you must also give her attention I have already explained this in the how to attract women Series so I won't go into too much detail now the second possibility you feel negative emotions because of her for example you see her talking to another guy or she posts a picture on Instagram hugging another man or she posts a picture smoking a cigarette even though she knows that you don't like women who smoke here you are the one feeling negative emotions because of her in this case you must not give her attention but at the same time
you should not show her that you are angry or affected just ignore her completely for example if she posts a picture with another guy do not message her telling her that she looks beautiful or that you miss her this is a mistake many men make when they see their girlfriend with another man they start showering her with compliments and love this shows her that you are jealous and afraid of losing her which is why you should ignore the situation completely and act as if it doesn't matter and if she messages you reply normally as if
nothing happened but do not give her extra attention the third possibility the woman feels positive emotions because of you for example you took her to a nice place or did something that made her happy in this case you should not give her too much attention either the reason is simple when a woman is happy because of you it's usually because you gave her some kind of attention that's why she felt happy and the rule here says you should never give continuous attention there must be a balance between attention attention and lack of attention this is
a rule I want you to remember for the rest of your life every time you give a woman attention you must stop giving it afterward you should never overdo it or it will lose its value for example if you take her out to a nice place and pay for an expensive dinner then when you both go home do not text her at night do not ask if she got home safely and do not tell her good night do nothing just disappear the fourth possibility you feel positive emotions because of her for example she wears an
outfit that you find attractive she does something in bed that you enjoy or she buys you a gift in this case you should give her attention and it is even necessary the fifth possibility the woman feels positive or negative emotions but not because of you for example she is in a bad mood due to work problems a family issue or something else that has nothing to do with you here you should remain neutral and not give her attention I know many men who make this mistake when they find out that their girlfriend is going through
a problem they immediately buy her flowers or take her out somewhere nice to try to cheer her up no this is a mistake these negative emotions are not related to you so why are you trying to help her and remember something important as soon as you start giving a woman attention every time she feels bad she will always turn to you whenever she has a problem and she will place you in the therapy Zone if this woman is your girlfriend then yes listen to her and talk to her kindly but do not give her excessive
attention and do not overdo helping her because women experience a wide range of emotions in their daily lives if you start chasing her every time she feels down then every single day you will have to deal with an emotionally drained woman who needs your emotional support which is unrealistic that's why when you are not responsible for her emotions do not give her attention if you start applying this pattern most of the time you will remain neutral and not give her attention and only occasionally will you give her attention this way she will be more attracted
to you this is the balance of attention simply put now let's move on to the second Point requests how to deal with a woman's requests that is when she asks you for something when should you accept and when should you refuse when it comes to requests there are two types of requests women make either she asks for something as a test to see if you're strong or if she can easily manipulate you or she makes genuine requests because she truly wants you to do something for her don't worry I will explain each case and how
to recognize it and deal with it the first case is when the request is given as a direct order for example hold this for me wait here for me take her picture give me a kiss on the cheek women often use this type of request especially in the early stages of an interaction or when getting to know someone because they want to see if you're used to being around attractive women if you are you won't immediately follow her orders without question you should never accept this type of order if the request is something that inconveniences
you or makes no sense for example if she tells you go buy me something you must refuse because there is no reason for you to be running errands for her who is she to command you like that you can simply look at her laugh and say no in a calm manner however if the request is something that doesn't bother you or makes no sense to refuse such as give me a kiss on the cheek or take our picture then there is no reason to outright refuse but at the same time you should not accept directly
either instead you must accept on your own terms in other words you take control of the request and agree but with your own conditions for example if a girl tells you take our picture you can respond with okay but I want you to give me your best silly sexy gangster face ready go instead of simply saying yes and giving her full control you change the conditions so that you also get compliance from her makes sense here's another example wait for me here cool I can wait but I'm actually going to be over there come find
me when you get back this is a very subtle change but it completely shifts the power dynamic between you and the girl and that is super important if you want her to be attracted to you so that was the first type of request when it comes as a direct order you either refuse it or you accept it but on your own terms now the second type of request which is even more important is when a request is an indirect expression of her feelings and here I want you to listen carefully sometimes while talking to your
girlfriend or a woman you're dating she might mention things she likes she might say I love the beach I love pizza I love this restaurant this is something women do all the time instead of saying I want to go to the beach she will say I love the beach or instead of saying I want you to take me to the cinema she will say I love going to the cinema this is not a problem for bad boys because they don't care about what a woman wants to do they just do whatever pleases them but not
everyone wants to be a jerk at the same time you don't want to be just another nice guy how do you overcome this dilemma how can you avoid giving into a woman's wishes and being influenced by her desires while at the same time not being unpleasant or unlikable the answer is by delaying for example during a date your woman might mention how much she loves burritos don't say anything and don't immediately take her to get a burrito instead surprise her with a burrito a few weeks later by delaying you get the best of both worlds
you show thoughtfulness proving that you are listening to her but at the same time you completely avoid coming across as an overly eager submissive weak man in addition you become unpredictable and women love that in short take note of what she likes but don't immediately act on it instead fulfill her wishes at unexpected moments show your strength and don't submit to her whims like most guys who do whatever they're told be kind but firm and make it clear that you don't have time to deal with whining over time she will learn that she only gets
what she wants when you decide to give it to her rather than when she demands it or complains so in summary requests that our expressions or feelings should always be handled by delaying and with this you have learned exactly how to be nice without losing your masculinity and this was the dark needle see you in the next video [Music]
