Fooled my cheating STBXW into thinking I was cheating, then Thermo-Nuclear Shinobi Ghosted.

Fooled my cheating soon to be ex-wife intoo thinking I was cheating then thermonuclear Shinobi ghosted and served her Christmas day I hope you've got some time and a snack because this one is going to be super long as the events that follow span from late 2019 to last week as per the rules all names are altered here in okay so here's the backstory Masson to be ex-wife is my high school sweetheart we started dating In 1992 when we were both 17 we're both 45 now and have been together ever since she's the only woman I've

ever been with my entire life we married 5 years later at 22 fresh out of college a year later we had our first of two children both boys 22 and 17 23 years I gave to her built her a house worked my ass off to give her the life she wanted sure we had rough patches but what marriage doesn't even in the worst of times we found a way to pull through and come out the Other side better which made the discovery of her Affair that much more jarring flashback to March 2020 when I first

got the Feeling something was off for a good 2 months prior we were in a funk I was on the men from reconstructive knee surgery blew out my ACL fall 2019 but still lacking in movement at the time I only had about 55% range of motion on my knee this took a toll on quite a lot in the house I was out on workers comp as I had been Injured on the job and I was unable to do my usual household duties so a lot got backed up my sons would do what they could but

tasks only I was capable of doing had to be put on the back burner or my wife had to do which she wasn't pleased with things also crawled to a standstill in the bedroom between us it had already slowed down prior to my injury but in the state I was in at the time it completely stopped during these months she we call her Sue was spending More time hanging with co-workers after work between November 2019 to March 2020 it was a regular occurrence for her naturally I thought nothing of it I've never in the 23

years I've been with her had any reason to worry or not trust her she has her friends I have mine and we have mutual I'd go hang out with my friends all the time and there was no issue it was all above board it was around January of this year that I noticed something odd Sue started Getting noticeably distant with me sure we were in a funk but she'd never deny me affection to that point the usual hugs and kisses she'd give me came to a halt her phone was attached to her hand long before

my suspicion grew but she'd always share and show me things she'd discovered on the web DIY ideas and recipes on Pinterest memes all kinds of stuff but she was now being guarded about her phone even her interactions with me became more snippy as if she Couldn't be bothered so we're now in March Co has arrived in New York City is locked down our chosen careers fall under the essential designation so neither of us have to work from home I just been recently cleared to return to work after 5 months on the shelf and I was

eager to get back after it as 5 months on my ass rehabbing my KNE and not being able to do physical stuff drove me nuts for context I enjoy physical activities I'm an avid martial Artist and I'm typically in the gym 4 days a week on top of all of the home projects I did within a week or two of the lockdown Mass to be x-wife alerts me that she's going to have to start putting in extra hours again I think nothing of this because of her field of course I was under the assumption it'

be every other day but no it was every day and not just an hour or two she'd come home three or more hours later and go straight to the shower spend a little Time with me a little time with our 17 years SL o 22-year-old lives with his GF cross down and then go to bed as I'm able to support myself on my knee better we started getting intimate again but as you'd probably guess she wasn't mentally or emotionally present for it which I noticed quickly so by early April the picture started getting clearer to

me all of the signs were pointing to the idea that she was having an affair that's when I decided I needed to find Answers so I scoured the internet on things I should be looking for signs of infidelity in one's partner and sure enough she was pretty much ticking all of the boxes on such Behavior so then my search inquiry Advanced to how do I find proof I started with her social media looking at her FB entries from months prior it's pretty much the usual pics of us and our sons picks with her and her

friends and a more than a few pics of her nights out with co-workers in these Pics it's a mixed bag of her closets friends from work and a couple folk I've never met from her work but I see one recurring thing in a number of these pics one guy in every picture he's in he's rather uncomfortably close to her his arm is around her shoulder or his hand on her lower back way to close for a guy I've never personally met needless to say that put a sour taste in my mouth but that wasn't the

the worst of it no no no the worst was the fact that Apparently this dude is a friend of hers on FB and followers are on egg so I go to look up his FB account and wouldn't you know it I'm blocked why the hell am I blocked from seeing this guy's FB account but he's friends with her on FB yep now I'm in Batman detective mode at that point I wasn't even trying to deny it I knew she was cheating on me with this guy my mission was to find out for how long and

over the course of April and May that's what I did you know I Never had any clue the depth of info you could secure from phone text and email records until then we have a family planned cell phone package and I was able to pull up quite a bit of data my stbxw data history was telling the two most frequent number she had interacted with from October 2019 to April 2020 was my own and a number I'd never seen before take a wild guess whose number it was a quick check on Google and I confirmed

it was the dude from the Photos who blocked me on FB we'll call him P cuz that's what he is again the picture becomes even clearer at this point but a lot of their messages and texts were disjointed which meant she was deleting a lot of them I knew she was cheating on me with this guy but nothing in the data could serve as a Smoking Gun I needed more evidence it's at this point that I tell my best friend does what I had found he asked me did I confront her with what I had

and I said No because I felt like it wasn't enough that's when he told me about an app that I could download to apparently spy on her Communications in real time I won't say the name as I don't know the rules on that here I got it installed sync up my data plan and waited within days of doing so I finally saw it a text string between the two of them talking about how much fun they'd had the previous night and making plans to do it again that weekend boom got punch to say I was

Completely devastating was an understatement I guess that moment counts as my D-Day and for the next 2 days after I was just broken I actively distanced myself from her those two days immediately after D-Day which she was noticeably shaking by she'd try to console me and ask me what was wrong but I'd brush it off and leave her presence I couldn't even look at her this woman who I gave 23 years of my life to who I have given everything I could and more To as a husband and she stepped outside of our marriage for

a guy just 5 years older than our eldest son by the third day I wasn't even sad anymore I was pissed I contacted oz to let him know my suspicion was confirmed and he asked me had I confronted her yet my answer was no and I told him I wanted payback I didn't want to just divorce her I wanted to destroy her I wanted to leave her life in shambles and effing gruin her it was going to take time to do so and I Devised a plan in my readings and research on infidelity I had

saw a quote that resonated with me that went the enemy of infidelity is unpredictability or something to that ilk that was going to be the basis of my plan I was going to make her life Hell on Wheels while also secretly planning my exit strategy so we're now in early June and I've still got the app in installed pretty much every night I'm gathering as much data as I can see in their back and Forth messages they're talking like it's a full-blown relationship they're in sexting lydy romantic stuff nudes the whole fing bag at that

point I had stopped looking at any of it I was just collecting info and cataloging on my private FPS server meanwhile I start doing things out of the ordinary I start going out at odd times I start coming home even later than she does in her presence I'm on my phone a lot more than usual and when she asks what are you up To I just simply say just stuff and put my phone away I'd also changed my login info on everything so she couldn't access any of my stuff mind you for our entire marriage

we'd never hit anything from each other but right around I'm assuming the start of her affair she changed her password on FB as well as on her phone stating she had to because of the security breaches in recent months yay really nice cover for hiding your Affair from your husband anyway I clud O In on my plan as well as telling my older and only sister and two more of my closest friends what was going on these are people I trust with my life and I swore them to secrecy for context Oz and I have

been friends since we were kids the other of our friends Joey and nah we've known since high school make note of nah she comes in to play Down the Road July comes and M soon to be ex- wifi in full paranoia mode she's texting and calling me a lot more frequently now Asking me if I'm going to be home when she's gets home when am I coming home while she is and I'm not asking me what am I up to the works I can see the seed planted in her head the month prior is starting

to sprout especially in her communication with pause she's confiding in him her doubt and confusion telling him that I'm getting cold and distant the effing nerve of this woman in the interim of these interactions with P She suggests that maybe they should stop Meeting up at our house because she has no idea if I'd just show up confirming that yes she's had this [ __ ] in my home thanks Sue P asks her in that specific communication was she worried about me potentially cheating on her which actually pissed her off I can't even begin to

describe the level of joy and how many laughs I got out of reading that exchange my cheating wife arguing with her Affair partner over if she's mad her husband could be cheating on her O the F and gyy now bear in mind I'm not hooking up with anyone when I leave I'm usually at Oz or Joey's Thro back some Boos watching fights and spending time with my brothers or at my big sis house hanging with her and my bill who's like an older brother to me my sis is 52 and her hubby is 58 she

had told him about my stbxw infidelity but not of my plan couldn't risk it as he's a bit of a blabber mouth we'll fast forward now to October that's when things seriously Pick up I've been in my faux Affair for 3 months now and Sue is hyper aware of the fact that I'm actively pulling away from her it's been as long as the day I enacted my plan until the day she confronted me October 20th 2020 that I'd even touched her no hugs no kisses no initiation of intimacy nothing not like she needed it she

was still at fos just at his place or at motels so that afternoon she calls me at work which wasn't rare before all this began but Certainly hadn't happened in a while and asks me to come straight home after work saying she had something important to tell me I'm not going to lie to you all I half believed she was going to come clean about her infidelity but she of course didn't instead I get home to her asking me was I unhappy with her the fing nerve she cites the fact that I've been spending way

to much time away from home I don't show her affection anymore and her intimus ey life has completely Died she tells me she's worried I'm pushing her away because I was resentful of how she treated me the months I was rehabbing my knee and then came the punchline she F in gasped if I was cheating on her folks I fell out on the floor laughing hysterically and when I say hysterically I mean Joker laughing gas hysterical on the surface it looked like to her assuming it was me laughing off the notion of being unfaithful but

it was of course actually me laughing at The sheer irony of what was happening in front of my eyes I'm tearing up pounding on the floor in complete hysterics for a good 2 minutes before I compose myself enough to answer I sit up and look her in the eyes for the first time in months shaking my head but I don't give her an answer I stand up brush myself off kiss the top of her head and go about settling in for the night later that night as I'm in my office I decide you know what

given the brevity of what Happened I wanted to see what she was telling him so I fire up the app and sure enough they're actually texting in real time she tells P I know he's cheating on me I asked him tonight and he literally laughed in my face he fell on the floor and laughed for like 5 minutes it wasn't 5 minutes obviously he doesn't even care how I feel anymore I don't know how or why but he's gone I know I've lost him this is karma I know it the smile I had on my

face reading That must have resembled the cheshier cat she was breaking P attempted to console her saying that if I cared enough for her she wouldn't have had come to him to give her what I wasn't giving her but the tone of her responses told me she was having doubt now she had the nerve to step out of our marriage because I was unable to fulfill my role as a husband due to legitimate injury and kept the affair going for at that point nearly an entire year but the idea Of her losing me to another

woman was enough to make her waver what a effing weakling now during all of this I was also exacting the second part of my plan for payback getting all of my Affairs in order financially in September I had met with a family attorney to get the ball rolling on divorce paper with a mountain of evidence I'd piled up to that point New York is an at fault state as far as divorce and the overwhelming amount of proof I'd gathered displaying Su Infidelity pretty much solidified I could nail her to the fing wall in a divorce

case my lawyer instructed me to get all of my financials in order in preparation for whatever division of assets might come as result I went one better than that secretly pulling all of my money out of our joint account and putting it in my personal account I also started shopping around for an apartment as part of phase 2 we're now in November and I've not changed my behavior in fact I've ramped it up this is where my friend Nina comes into play for context nah and Sue have never been what you call close I met

Nina freshman year of high school two years before I met Sue even way back then sue has seen nah as a threat as she's my closest female friend there's always been an implied I don't trust her from Sue regarding nah she's never addressed it directly but it's obvious to anyone who pays attention conversely Nina's never been a big fan Of Sue early in me and Sue's relationship ship Nina called to attention to me how Sue was pretty much imposing herself into our little square of friends whereas I didn't do the same with Sue set of

friends that irked nah because she knew why Sue was doing it her among Sue's Circle even now there are no male friends aside from P whereas nah is the only girl in my Square nah had been stuck overseas due to the virus and finally returned to NYC November 3rd Oz Joey and I decided we were going to celebrate her return with a night at Joey's house for dinner and drinks there was only five of us Oz Joey Joey's wife who is also Nina's sister n and myself sticking to CDC guidelines we take the Rona very

seriously nah being the evil mastermind she is comes up with an evil idea to trigger Sue she suggested we take some photos in the same vein of the photos I discovered of Sue and P months prior and post them to my FB and that's Just what we did it wasn't until the 5ifth that Sue got wind of it as I'm guessing a few friends noticed my updates and saw how uncomfortably close I was with nah this really [ __ ] her mind up because she still believed I was cheating and I can almost guarantee she

wanted to accuse nah but she knew that nah had been stuck in Europe for the majority of the year still didn't stop her from attempting to dress me down that night for being so as she said Handsy in the pics I saw this as a golden opportunity to deliver the the lead jab for my knockout blow I say so what about the pcks with you and Paws from last year he was pretty handsy in them but did you see me get bent out of shape over it dear in headlights it was the first time I

even mentioned the dude's name throughout all of this the hamster will in her head started reeling in real time as she tried to explain away those picks to that point she Hadn't even known I saw them that's little I use FB when I actually do post something it's like an event to people which is why the pics with Nina specific got so much traction among our circles and explain a way she did he's that way with everyone he's just a really friendly guy I can see how it looks but there's nothing there I'm sorry if

those PS hurt you I'll delete them no no the pics aren't what hurt me the year you've been effing dude whilst lying to me that You're working extra hours and hanging with friends is what hurt me but Vengeance as Lieutenant C Warf from Star Trek TNG so famously said is a dish best served cold from that night Sue was being extra specially clingy and attentive to me like annoyingly so she's tried to initiate affection and intimacy with me and I'd Stonewall her at every chance all the while I'm still archiving everything she's saying to P

mind you by this point I'd long since gone numb any Desire I might have had to save my marriage was dead i' checked out the day I enacted the first phase of my plan she's confiding in him that I've gotten worse that she doesn't know what to do and she feels like I absolutely hate her I do then comes the bombshell she says she can't see him anymore the guilt is too much for her and she feels like karma is suffocating her she can't risk losing me she says that she loves P deeply but she's

still in love with me And she has to save her marriage before she loses me no my dear you're about 8 months too late for that PA loses his [ __ ] saying such lovely things as he doesn't love you the way I love you and you're making a mistake you can't just throw me away like this that text chain would be the last they'd have until about 3 weeks ago throughout the remainder of November into December Sue is tuck in limbo she's trying to gauge where my heads space is and is still Unable to

tell if I'm actually being unfaithful meanwhile p is steadily blowing her phone up daily but she's not responding to him I'd see her check her phone often but quickly put it away meanwhile phase two of the plan was now officially complete the divorce papers were done I'd found me a studio apartment in Co-op City New Yorkers will know the area and signed a 2-year lease on it all of my money was in my personal account I was ready to throw my Haymaker So we're now at Thanksgiving my oldest and his GF were hosting a small

gathering of our immediate families so them oldest and his GF oldest gf's parents she's an only child myself Sue and our youngest we have a great night my oldest GF is studying to be a chef and she did all the cooking herself the girl can [ __ ] cook let me tell you as I had to keep up appearances of nothing being wrong between Sue and I I initiated affection with her several Times that evening kisses on the cheek cute little hugs wrapping my arms around her shoulders from behind the gestures didn't go unnoticed by

her as she rebeled in it bear in mind this was the first time I touched this woman since I kissed the top of her head the night she confronted me in October so just about 2 months not going to lie I felt repuls doing it but I had to I couldn't risk the plan and me being distant to her in the face of my boys my oldest GF and her Parents would set off alarms so my youngest decides he wants to stay over with his big bro for the night so Sue and I head home

on the drive home she thankss me for being so good to her and says I don't know what you're going through baby but I'm here for you I had to hold off busting out in maniacal laughter again and responded saying I know I just need time so for the first time realistically since Springtime we had into Mite hat night I figured [ __ ] It with what I'm about to do may as well get some action before I delete her from my existence I won't go into detail but it wasn't love when I was finished

she was a lump of Flesh laying there trying to figure out the direction of the truck that ran her over no cuddling or anything after I just got up showered and went to go sleep in my office to her confusion though I used a condom first time two damn decades I did she was definitely Perplexed by it but she didn't ask questions sure as hell wasn't going raw in her knowing that she'd been doing so with P for months at that point I wake up the next day and check my handy dandy spy app and

for the first time in weeks she responded to PA dude went full Nela he professed his love for her said she was wasting her her time trying to rekindle a flame in me that died that she'd been in a prison with me for 23 years and deserved to experience the Love and affection of a man who would cherish her mind you this dude is 27 [ __ ] years old 5 years older than our oldest son and he's that sprung on a 45 years/ married mother of two what a great a high quality s she

chose to blow up our marriage and destroy the home we'd Built For This dude pretty boy with a soft side ha she responded saying pretty much the same thing she said when last they talked that she loves him and enjoyed their time together but she Can't lose me I'm still the love of her life but she'll always have a place for him in her heart that they can still be friends if he chooses but the physical relationship between them is over he begged her to see him one last time that week and yep you guessed

it she said yes one more for the road right who am I to say anything that's what I did to her the previous night of course I added all of that to the archive I'd compiled December 4th is when phase 3 the Final Phase of operation Shinobi ghost started the divorce papers were in hand my new place or residence was set up now I had to slowly start moving me stuff out of the house but first I had to break the news to my boys I called my oldest to the house that Friday night had

them join me in my office and laid everything on that table not the specifics but that their mother had been cheating on me for over a year and I was going to be filing for divorce Soon my 17-year-old was especially shaken up by this because he himself had recently experienced his first taste of infidelity yep his first GF had cheated on him just four months prior seeing his heartbroken a second time at the idea that his own mother was capable of doing this hit him hard my oldest took it a lot better and suggested taking

his brother in to live with him and until this blows over to which I agreed we packed up some of his stuff and he asked Me was I going to be okay I told him yes son I'm going to be all right and so are you we're going to be all right I promise and then they were off the hardest part was now over and it was now time to arm the nukes over the next few weeks day byday Oz would help me get a little of my most sensitive stuff out of the house gave

him a list of all of the definite stuff to grab while Sue and I were at work and left him the spare key this was all stuff Su wouldn't notice Was missing unless you told her it was gone I'd also gotten a new phone and phone number and told told everyone who needed to know Oz Joey nah my boys big sis and my mother my new contact info meanwhile I'm keeping up the Rouse with Sue and she's non the wiser trickling bits and pieces of affection to her just to keep her off of the trail

whilst she's still in contact with PA not to the extent that they've been prior but there's still an emotional thing Happening the fog is faint but it's still there all the while I gather everything and I do mean everything every bit of data I've archived since I started the plan call logs texts piics emails everything and start making printouts folks I must have spent over a $1,500 on Staple supplies printer ink paper binders the works and I cataloged everything in order from the beginning of the affair until that last bit two weeks ago December 16th

in the binders 14 of them I then put each one in a box and gift wrapped each addressing them to various people my mother my father passed 7 years ago her parents her two sister her brother her HR department did I forget to mention P works for the same company and there's an expressed rule against inter company relation relationships because of the nature of what she does several of her friends POS and P's parents lugged all of those [ __ ] to the post office and shipped Them all out December 16th ETA for delivery December

22 24th perfect so we're now at Christmas Eve Sue comes home around the usual time no idea if she'd seen POS I'd stop tracking her on the app the 18th figure I'd gotten all the mileage I needed from it as per usual she showers hangs out with me a bit I blow her back out on the living room couch I know I'm F in gashole and she turns in for the night the final was upon me at long last the nuke I'd been Arming since June was finally about to launch in the middle of the

night I woke up and wrapped up one of the three remaining binders with the divorce papers taped to the inside cover and set it on my side of the bed with a note note that said Merry Christmas on it next to it I left my old phone and the business card of my lawyer I packed up the remainder of my most needed items enough to fill two backpacks and I left my home that I spent 23 years in for the Last time that my friends was one week ago T Su I am completely off the

grid gone Shadow ghosted she's blocked on FB but still hasn't blocked me for some reason so I'm keeping tabs on the Fallout it's absolutely glorious my packages have reached everyone I sent them out too and Sue is getting crucified her youngest sister completely dressed her down both of her parents have condemned her my mom absolutely destroyed her like holy [ __ ] I know my Mom has a Mean Streak but the things she called Sue are UNF [ __ ] holy she's been frantically trying to find out if anyone knows where I am but those

that do aren't saying a word all over her FB feed she's desperately trying to reach me because I'm guessing she knows I'm likely looking but I'm not saying effing word to her without my lawyer present that'll be the next time I share oxygen with her she's got no way of spinning the narrative to paint me as the bad guy Because I've exposed her to everyone who matters to her and from what a mutual friend who works in the same company as her she and POS apparently are being put on administrative leave as of tomorrow so

yay chances are she'll be going into 2021 unemployed as for the final two binders well one has been turned over to my lawyer as my final bit of evidence for my impending divorce and the last one I put in my storage unit to be burned in Joey's fire pit when the Divorce is final do I feel guilty about this no not even in the slightest 23 years I did write by this woman I gave her the home she wanted I gave her the family she wanted I gave her the life I felt we both deserved

and I loved her unconditionally never have I faltered never have I strayed never have I even entertained the notion of breaking my vows when an issue came up that I felt was affecting our marriage I came to her and told her and we sorted it out as Best we could she opted to find comfort in another man's bed rather than come to me and say she was unhappy with her intimus ey life at the time she decided to step out with a young punk who gave her the tingles so no I have no sympathy for

what I did or for her she can burn in hell for all I care the most I stand to lose is my house a car and maybe a couple hundred bucks a month in alimony but seeing as the divorce is filed under the statute of adultery in NYS is at Fault that might get waved with the insurmountable about of evidence I've provided as far as I'm concerned she's dead to me and I'm never looking back quick edit NYS is not fully at fault under certain circumstances a divorce can be filed at fault of which my

lawyer has informed me my case falls under I'll be meeting the soon to be ex-wife with her lawyer tomorrow I'm guessing I'll just update here update fooled my cheating soon to be ex-wife intoo Thinking I was cheating then thermonuclear Shinobi ghosted and served her Christmas Day Christmas day was the first full day I spent in my new apartment it's still a work in progress as I have more stuff I want to get but overall I've made at my home since I'm going to be here for 2 years at least my boys and the eldest GF

came over and spent a good portion of the day with me the GF brought over treats she'd made and also whipped up a really nice meal I Got to sit and talk with my sons in a way I hadn't done in a really long time and it was nice my big sis also came over with more goodies and hung out with us also it had been the first time she'd seen her nephews in nearly a year having all of them around did me some real good as if I were by myself I think I would

have just drank myself into a stuper everyone cleared out around 8ish and I decided I wanted to go hang out with Joey and his wife Claudia hung out with Him for a couple hours had a couple drinks and then went back home the next big development happened last week December 29th 2020 around midday I get a text from Nina asking if I was busy that night I of course wasn't so we agreed to meet up after I got off of work she shows up and we go to a diner not far from where I work

here in NYC we're doing indoor dining at 25% capacity thanks to the Rona but there's mostly no trouble getting seats because so many of Us opt not to dine out as much these days regardless so after we're seated in order or food nah pretty much lays all of her cards on the table and honestly I knew this was coming she basically confessed that she's like me all the way back since we were teenagers but never got the chance to tell me since Sue swooped in and scooped me up before she could for context I've known

nah longer than Sue by 2 years as I mentioned she's been the fourth point of my social Square of myself Oz and Joey we were the social outcasts in high school the raver kids who didn't fit into all of the other cleaks back then nah had a weight problem and was diabetic she was the heavy set goth chick who was super cool but no guy would ever give a second glance at but we always had chemistry these days nah is a personal trainer and yoga instructor she was the ugly duckling who grew into one hell

of a beautiful Swan if I must say long story Short we decided that upon the finalization of my divorce we are going to start seeing each other and yay I slept with her that night took her back to my new pad and we had a grand old time am I ashamed of sleeping with her hell no Nina's been a better friend to me than Sue ever was that's not saying Sue wasn't my best friend but through the near quarter of a century I've known nah she's always supported me even so much as a I learned

that day willingly Taking a step back from her own feelings to allow me to pursue and eventually start a life with Sue that resonated with me on a level I didn't think it would that kind of selflessness towards another person is the definition of real love I know it sounds like I'm just trying to justify in my head that sleeping with her was the right decision to me it was and I plan on exploring what's to come with Nina and I with total commitment okay onto yesterday the Day I met my wife and her lawyer

to discuss the divorce it's now been 2 weeks since I ghosted my stbxw this past Monday I got a phone call from my staking that Sue's attorney has scheduled a meeting for us to discuss the terms of divorce on January 6 2021 which was yesterday I met with him the Tuesday morning to discuss the terms I'm wanting long story short uncontested divorce under the grounds of marital neglect from sue my terms are full Division of assets and me selling my half of the house ownership to her she can have it we keep our respective vehicles

I keep my cabin in the Poconos and under the pretenses of marital neglect she gets no spousal support from me as for 17 what isle refer to my son as from here on he's free to choose who he wants to reside with following the divorce which will most likely be me so Wednesday comes and I show up to my lawyer's office dressed in my Johnny Cash best my wife and her lawyer she looks like [ __ ] barely holding it together I give the Stone Face I won't bore you with the lawyer Babble but her

lawyer presented an offer for terms of reconciliation I shot them down almost as soon as she finished listing the details of the request like I said I'll spare you the details of the meeting long story short we agreed to a legal separation leading to an uncontested divorce the only revision is that I will Pay her $653 a month of temporary spousal support to cover the cost of utilities until she's gainfully employed again yep she got fired for fingos he got canned as well up to a year after the finalization I make enough that it won't

hurt me financially even if she drags her feet finding a new job and she's got enough in her savings to live off of for quite some time once a full calendar year has passed after the finalization date of the divorce has Passed she's on her own small price to pay for being rid of her cheating ass it'll take roughly 3 months for things to go through so early April if there's no cock-ups I'll be free of her so after the meeting my lawyer gives me some final words before telling he'll be in touch to update

me on the progress of the filing back out on the street Sue chases me down and asks can we talk I figured I'd give her at least that she held it together fairly well in the Meeting but outside let the Waterworks flow saying how sorry she was and how she never meant it to go as far as it did she says she never expected to fall in love with PA but knew when she thought I was cheating how wrong it was to betray her own husband in such a way she asked could I ever find

it in my heart to forgive me and that maybe in a few years could we try to start over that she can't imagine what her life is going to be without me I tell her to Start imagining it soon because this will be the last time I ever speak to or see her I tell her that 17 is almost a man and old enough to make his own choices as to his own future I say that I gave her half of my life and every ounce of love I had unconditionally and she in her own

words fell in love with another man that there is absolutely no chance of me ever forgiving her that all of the love I had for her was slowly killed all of those months that she Confided and professed her love to pass rather than coming to me and telling me she had any form of issue with how things were going with us I told her I loved who she once was but I hate who stands before me and that if I never see her again it'll be to soon he we are on the sidewalk in Midtown

Manhattan her making a scene crying her eyes out a couple folk walked by and give side glances but at that point I didn't care I wasn't about to publicly humiliate her I pretty much already socially and professionally destroyed her but I needed to get the last bit of emotion I had for her out I finished my telling her I didn't regret the 23 years I spent being her husband I regretted that in 23 years she decided the easy way out was the better option and that and I have your lovely sons of [ __ ]

on Reddit to thank for this last one because it popped in my head just seconds before I said it for 23 years I thought she was Mine but it turned out it was just my turn put in my raycons turned around and walked the [ __ ] away later that night he father calls me and apologizes he Praises me for always being a good man to his daughter and tells me he's ashamed of her and that he raised her better than what she did not going to lie I'm going to miss the old man my

dad died years ago so he's always been my default father figure since but I can't see myself maintaining a relationship With anyone on her side of the family after that call I went on FB and symbolically changed my relationship status to divorced yay it's not final yet but in my eyes it's over and done like I said when I make a post on FB it's an event so plenty of folks started hitting me up over messenger asking question and I laid it all out that I filed for divorce with Sue earlier in the day of

course Nina called me shocked that I pulled the trigger so fast Obviously I was already in the process of it when we spoke but she had no way of knowing how far it was along I asked her if she could come over and of course she comes a running we knocked boots again but this time she stayed the night we laid in my bed and talked into the we hours of the morning and I haven't felt this level of relief and connection in really long time nah gets me and I can't get enough being around

her since the day she confided in me she's all that's Been on my mind yeah I know some folk are going to say it's [ __ ] up I'm moving on so fast but as far as I'm concerned my marriage ended the day P let Sue touches pecker so I'm about do so yay that's it that's the end my divorce is in the works and I'm moving on to start a relationship with nah I know in a comment response to someone I said I'd probably not marry ever again but that was before nah came clean

to me about how she felt towards me and I Can't deny that I feel the same we're going to take it slow and we're not announcing anything until the divorce with Sue is legal and official as for Sue I could give a flying [ __ ] what happens to her she could move P into our old home for all I care I'll be getting my money for the house over the course of 2021 four quarterly installments and aside from the $653 I will pay out directly to her savings account monthly I never have to see

or speak to her Again to all of the words of support encouragement and praise I eternally thank you all update soon to be ex-wife of 23 years just tried to un alive herself last night the hits just keep on coming I've been sitting in this for hours now didn't know where to post this so This sub seemed appropriate so if you want a bit of backstory check my post history for the details I'm not keen on how linking to other subs here works but my previous Two entries are viewable in my profile the quick version

is this I discovered my wife of 23 years 45f was having an affair with a 27 year/ o coworker we have two sons 22 and 17 I concocted a plan to completely upend her life- centered around fooling her into thinking I was having an affair myself I kept the Rouse going for over 4 and a half months while compiling evidence of her infidelity as well as securing divorce papers and planning my exit Strategy slowly moving my personal belongings from our home to a new apartment getting a new phone and number separating my half of our

shared income from our joint account Etc on December 16th 2020 I gathered every bit of proof of her Affair i' compiled printed it all out from start to that week filed it all into 14 binders packed 11 into gift wrapped boxes and mailed them all out to the most important people in her life as well as her HR department with an ETA Between 1222 December 24th 2020 on Christmas Eve while she slept I took one of the remaining three binders and did the same only this one I tap the divorce notice to the inside cover

and left it on my side of the bed which mind you she' had her L her in a number of times along with my old phone and my lawyer's business card and Shadow ghosted her over the next four days her life completely imploded her family pretty Much excommunicated her her friends the ones who didn't know of the affair ostracized and my own mother took her to task calling her the most scathing and vile things you could possibly think of her and her lover were also placed on administrative leave and eventually fired last week we had

our divorce here Ing and settled on a legal separation into uncontested divorce with a few Provisions in place for transitional income since she's now unemployed I'm to Pay out the price for the utilities $653 a month until either she finds gainful employment or upwards to one year after the date of the divorce finalization which is expected to be 3 months from now she keeps the house her car and her half of the shared assets I keep my half of the assets my vehicles car motorcycle and boat and my vacation property cabin in the Poconos after

the hearing we had one final exchange where she tried to explain away her infidelity and begged Me to give her a second chance after the divorce is finalized I of course said no gave her some Choice words and walked away from her forever this brings us to last night as only my closest friends two sons older sister and mother have my new contact info and I've completely blocked misson to be ex-wife in all social Outlets she has had no means of reaching me since I left her Christmas Eve but some our mutual friends still do

last night I'm hanging out in my Apartment and I get a voice call notification on messenger from one of said friends one of the few who hadn't abandoned her following me out in her affair she didn't waste any time when I answered and said she had went to check on sue the stbxw and found her passed out in the bedroom foaming out of the found with two bottles of empty pills next to her she's in the ICU and critical but stable condition the doctor said that she will likely pull through She's clearly not going to

be well after she begged and pleaded for me to come her parents and two of her sisters were also there at the hospital my guess is they were notified after the hospital attempted to notify me but Sue would still have my old hash as her emergency contact I simply told her no Sue is not my problem anymore and she clearly decided she wanted to take the easy way out rather than deal with the shame Agony of the 23-year marriage she blew Up I then told her friend that if Sue's family were there they can help

her sort out the pieces but as far as Sue and I are concerned there is no Sue and I anymore I then ended the call I've had a few hours to sleep on it and my sons called me this morning asking if I knew I told them yes but I also let both of them know that if they want to be there and supportive of their mother I will not hold it against them or judge them for it she is their mother after all but I myself wash my hands of her and Care little to

nothing about what she does for or to herself anymore they were both a little taken back by this but respected my St dance however now that the news has broke about her suicide attempt many of those friends who dropped her are all starting to surface again and saying I need to be there for her that even despite what she did to me I need to support her in her time of need I've also been informed that her AP Tried to visit her this morning but wasn't allowed because he's not family I'm getting dog piled on

to go see her but I feel nothing for this woman anymore I haven't for a very long time I checked out during the process of getting my payback for her betrayal and I stand by the fact that I don't care at all for what she's done in fact it makes me hate her even more she's the one who was unfaithful she's the one who though a near year long fling with a guy 5 Years older than her oldest son was worth destroying 23 years and now that she has to face the consequences of her choices

she chooses the most selfish way of deal with even now seeing as she's in all likelihood going to survive she's cultivated immediate sympathy from everyone who took her to task and I'm being made out to look like the jaded ex-husband unwilling to sympathize for her by most her family not her dad he's reached out to me over the last few Hours and said he respects my decision to stay away it's like I never even truly knew this woman 23 FM years and it comes to this yes I know they way I broke things off with

her may have put her in a poor mental state but now a whole new K of worms has been opened up because either she had a complete mental breakdown and decided to self- delete herself or she made an extremely risky and calculated move to call favor back from people who just weeks prior Condemned her for betraying me she cheated on me and now she's the effing victim sorry if this comes off as ranish but I'm here trying to wrap my brain around this I want to be perfectly clear I am not going to visit Sue

she waved her right to me caring about her well-being the day she let PA my personal nickname for her lover put his dick inside her this might come off as heartless because despite the cool calm collected way I've been throughout my Who ordeal my feelings are still very much raw but I don't give a [ __ ] about this woman haven't for a very long time I'm aware I'm going to be vilified by a number of folk here I don't much give a [ __ ] think of me however you want if you were in

my shoes you'd see her actions vastly different some of you folks are going to go look up my post history and see the story of what I did to her and you're going to draw the conclusion that her suicide attempt was my fault that me Tormenting her for all of those months fooling her into thinking I was cheating on her while she actively cheated on me then destroying her socially and professionally as result with was the Catalyst for her meltdown maybe it was maybe I am heartless sociopath but as Arthur Fleck so famously said you

get what you aing deserve I gave this woman half of my life and did absolutely everything to be the best possible husband she could ever have by her own Admission I had no bearing in her decision to step outside of our marriage she did it for her her selfishness knows no bounds and I'm glad to be rid of her if it makes me the bad guy because I will not go see her and never plan on interacting with her ever again so be it I hold true to my damn convictions she made the choice to

betray me she made the choice to put her kn above the needs of our marriage so now it's my turn to choose to me over everything else she Can rot in the darkest pit of Hell for all I care let everyone else help her fix her my obligation to ever care about her well-being ended the day we signed the separation agreement I just needed to get this off of my chest if you're going to cast judgment on me for feeling how I feel save it like I said above after 23 years and two children I

never really knew this woman after all I have no sympathy for her and I never will letter F and gr quick update I've been Informed by Sue's dad that she's been moved from the ICU to the mental health wing doctors are still monitoring her mental state she's conscious and cognitive again but obviously lethargic her father told me she asked did I come to see her and he said no and she shut down after he respectfully said any further news he'll share only if I inquire because he understands the headp space I'm in also I've scheduled

counseling for 17 the first consultation Is this coming Monday update aftermath of stbx W's unal living attempt I'm writing this here as a form of therapy a way to get my thoughts out in a pragmatic way today against everything I said in my previous posts and comments I to go see Sue she's been out of the hospital 4 days now and believe it or not it was Nina Who convinced me I need to see her she said the only way I'd let God of the contempt I feel for her is to see her one last

time in her weekend State so around 6 p.m. I called her for the first time since I served her her hello wasn't the bright and bubbly hello i' know for over two decades he voice was horse and weak the moment she heard my voice she immediately began crying took almost 3 minutes for her to regain composure enough to talk again before she could say anything I told her I was coming to see her within the by 8:00 p.m. and she agreed it's about an hour hour and a half from Co-op City where my New apartment

is to my old home so I grabbed a bite to eat from the local pizzeria and started on my way there I got there about 7: 47 p.m. and she was already at the door before I pulled into the driveway as I came near I could see the tool her actions had taken on her she was noticeably thinner the unhealthy kind of thin as a whole she looked like The Walking Dead first thing she does is try to come in for a hug and I stop her cold she got the hint that I wasn't There

to console her and backed off immediately we go inside and sit in the living room almost immediately Sue tells me wants to come clean about everything she tells me she couldn't live with the guilt of what she did to me and the boys from the day we signed the separation agreement she went into a downward spiral of guilty and Agony that lead her to her suicide attempt her friend the one that called me from the hospital had noticed her behavior and started coming Over to check in on her she said the doctors told her had

she not been found just an hour more she would have succeeded she admitted to failing me as a wife that her falling for POS was wrong as was her choice not to pull back when she knew she was getting to deep she also apologized for sharing the many intimate details of our marriage and speaking ill of me to to him that she never imagined herself being the kind of person who was capable of doing that but She was she said she believed in her head that she was doing the right thing but ultimately when she

thought I was cheating it all hit her like a ton of bricks the feeling of betrayal was suffocating and she had to get out of as soon as possible but it was obviously too late by then she then asked me at what point did I stop caring to which I said the night she confronted me with the notion of me cheating with the fervor that did knowing full well she'd Been fingos for months at that point I lost all respect for her and it stealed my resolve to enact my plan she told me that when

she woke up Christmas morning and found the gift I left she was over the moon until she opened it that when she realized what it was and how much I had known she literally went mad and hasn't set foot in our bedroom since she was frantically trying to find if anyone knew where I was but when she went on FB to ask she started getting thrashed by Friends and family about what she had done but had no idea how everyone knew so fast that's when I told her about the other binders the look of shock

on her face was priceless it all dawned her that I did this to her everything she's gone through her friends turning on her her family shaming her and yes even her losing her job was my doing she just just fell silent and shut down after that I took the time to go use the bathroom then and it was in shambles the Mirror was broken her skincare products were all over the place and the tub looked like it hadn't been clean since they took her to the hospital when I came back out to the living room

she has her face in her hands weeping and I can honestly say I felt nothing no more anger no more rage and absolutely not a shred of pity they say the opposite of Love is indifference looking at her that's all I felt she looks up at me and says I [ __ ] everything up I ruined us And I have no idea what to do I can't do this by myself self I tell her she's got her family her friend who found her and our sons but she doesn't have me she never will ever again

I tell her I came to give her closure from the ordeal she just subjected herself to but the moment I walk out that door I'm never looking back so the topic of PA comes up not long after she tells me he reached out to her 2 days ago they talked for a couple hours and it ended with her Telling him he needs to move on with his life find a younger woman and forget she exists the remainder of the convo was Sue apologizing for he betraying me and asking again was this really the end I

look her dead in the eyes with no hesitation and say yes it's been over long before I served the divorce notice on Christmas I felt it was my queue to depart no words were said because what more could be said I left her sitting on the couch closed the door behind me got In my car and drove home it's 256 a.m. as I'm typing this I needed to get this out while it's fresh in my head this is it The Saga of Sue is done 17 and I are both scheduled for counseling in the coming

weeks nah and I are still going strong and sticking to the plan of keeping things under wraps until my divorce is final I'm staying active and motivated and looking forward to a future with a woman I know well cherish and honor me because she's done so from The shadows for decades it's time for me to focus on the life ahead of me so this will probably be the last time I post for a while maybe I'll come back with an update when the divorce is official to everyone who has sent me words of encouragement and

well wishes thank you to all of those who praised me for my plan of Revenge I cap honestly say I wish it never came to it but if I had to go back and do it again I wouldn't change a single thing I did aside from Maybe doing more to P than just getting him fired and to the one guy who harassed me saying I deserved it because I raped my wife you're effing delusional and get [ __ ] you tag nut hopping my green ass on out of here update where things are where things

are going anyway it's been just over 2 months to the day I served my wife divorce papers and a month since my last update which I said was likely going to be my final one but a lot has gone down since that post and Seeing is coming back to this account and seeing hundreds of messages and responses still after my last post I'll go ahead and let everyone know what's going on but before all that I sincerely have to say thank you again for all of the support and kindness that's been sent my way over

my plight I'm as thankful for all of the love I've gotten on Reddit as I the love I've gotten from my family so first I want to start with an aspect a lot of people have been Concerned with 17 my youngest son just days after my last post he began IC I went with him his first two sessions and he's gone by himself for everyone once since he goes two times a week and it has drastically helped for the most part he's doing fine but I can say that his trust in relationships has been completely

shattered the lasting effects of his own experience with infidelity coupled with deal his mother's actions of cheating and her attempted suicide Has left a pretty big scar that I think may take decades to heal I come to find out his experience was even worse than his let on he actually caught his xgf making out with a guy he thought was a friend but it turned out was only getting buddy buddy with him to get to her he never told me this aspect of his breakup my heartbreaks for my son to have had to experience this

at such a pivotal point of his formative years you do all you can to protect your children But then life goes ahead and says no he's decided he's going to stick to IC for the long term and I have told him if ever he needs to to talk to me about anything nothing is out of bounds next up there's my IC it's safe to say if you've read the bulk of my entries I have a bit of an anger problem which is strange because I've always been a reserved controlled and man but this whole experience

evidently woke a sleeping dragon in me that's a pure fire Breather I've talked about everything with my therapist and when I say everything I mean everything when I explained to him the extent of what I did to my ex he was both impressed and appalled not the reaction I was expecting apparently I display sociopathic tendencies when provoked which doesn't surprise me at all given everything I did my sessions are not so much dramatic they're more so organizational unpacking all of the Things going on in my head regarding the implosion of my marriage and trying to

find balance now for the elephant in the room nah I have noidea idea where I'd be without this woman never did I ever expect to have such a caring empathetic nurturing Woman by my side to carry me through all of this we are still very much going strong and try as we have to keep our ongoing relationship Under Wraps it's pretty much out of the bag within our group she just gets me she Always has since we were teens and since she knows the pain of having the person you've invested your life into being with

cheat on you as well she does all she can to help me cope with my feelings we split time between staying at her place in my own the discussion has come up about moving in with each other but her 5-year-old puts a kabash on that idea my place isn't big enough for three people and I'm locked into my lease until 2022 so for now we'll keep Splitting time between when her daughter is away with her father Nina's at my place when she has her daughter I'm at hers speaking of her daughter I absolutely adore her

and she's taken a shining to me I wish I could find the words to truly put into perspective how important nah has been to me through all of this if you haven't taken the time to read my previous entries nah has secretly been in love with me since we were sophomore in high school but she Was an ugly duckling back then who thought she had no chance with me she actively Sat by and watched me chase after date and marry Masson to be ex-wife Su knowing how she felt well over 25 years she held this

secret until a week after I had my divorce hearing where we met for food and she laid everything on the table I consider myself lucky to have her in my life we constantly talk about what the future hold between us as we've both been Burned by marriage we're definitely not going that route but we have discussed a civil union we'll probably wait a little while before going that route but it's pretty much decided between the two of us that we are at for each other last but not least the soon to be ex-wife Sue what

I have to tell everyone about here is that well there's nothing to tell you after the final time I spoke to her after her attempted suicide I've gone 100% NC with I have no idea how or what She's doing and I don't care to ever know as far as I'm concerned she's dead to me that's really about it for the most part life goes on it's March 2nd as of me typing this so there's just one more month to go regarding the filing going through by this time next month I'll be a free man officially

and I'm counting down the days I can finally and truly begin the next chapter of my life edit to clear something up I made a mistake with my statement about being Clinically diagnosed as a sociopath I I assumed because my therapist said I display sociopathic tendencies when provoked that it was a clinical diagnosis it wasn't it was just his professional observation also my oldest son 22 has no true intent to do harm to PA he said what he said out of anger update the end and farewell on April 13th just one month ago Sue officially

became my ex-wife I was initially told by my lawyer that it Would go through on the 18th but doe in part to things here in NYC starting to open up with a lowering of coid cases it was pushed through a few days earlier my lawyer Jeff gave me a call on April 12th and asked me to come see him the following day when I did he handed me the finalization notice and shook my hand I couldn't just leave it at that so I went in and gave him a hug and thanked him for all he'd

done for me on my way home all I could do was just replay Mental movies of everything the last 24 years of my life all of the memories all of the history when I stepped into my apartment it finally happened I hit the floor and all the emotion that has been compressed in me came pouring out I haven't cried like that in ages but it wasn't a sad cry not by any means my soul felt like it had been set free after being held in the deepest darkest Abyss the phone call I made that night

was to 22 I kept it short and sweet Saying that it's finalized and his mother and I are no longer married as to that day he asked how I felt I'm sure he could tell in my voice I'd been crying and I told him I was fine 17 got on the phone next and we spoke for nearly 90 minutes 22 and his fiance have been doing a great job looking after him and he's still like myself going to therapy I won't go into detail about what we spoke of but I will say there's still a

lot of work to be done specifically with His view of relationship nah came to see me later that night as she always does and obviously I gave her the news she just wrapped her arms around my waist and held tight as yes I cried again once I was able to compose myself again Nina told me no matter what she will never betray me and loves me with all her heart and I know every word of it is true I might catch some Flack for saying this as I don't regret the life I build with Sue

and despite all she did give me Two strong Sons but it's clear to me now I picked the wrong woman nah in the last four and a half months has given so so much and asked nothing in return all she asks of me is to be there for her I don't want to drone on about her for to long but she truly is my hero there's also some other interesting events that came to pass following the divorce finalization case in point POS actually reached out to me yes he actually sent me a message here on

Reddit turns out he Saw the story when it blew up on YouTube and immediately recognized that it before anyone asks no I will not be revealing what his Reddit username is I think I've made the kids suffer enough the first thing he did was apologize for his hand in all of this he gave me a rundown of what the results of the binder I sent his mother did essentially he's been excommunicated from his family his mother as I learned when I was planning out my payback is a devout Catholic woman the in church 3 days

a week no me patri Spirit to Sante type of devout so her views on marriage are sacred and learning that her son just broke up a marriage that was almost a quarter Century long sent her into a rage she kicked him out that very day and within the week when his employer got the binder I sent to them he was fired as well he's been couch hopping and trying to find a new job ever since he claimed he wanted to reach out to me On social media you know all of the places he blocked me

when he was effing Sue but admits he was afraid because in his word if I was able to find him before I could find him again I admit I could have went all in on destroying this kid but I didn't I asked him when was the last time he saw Sue and he said he hadn't seen her in months the last time he had talked to her Sue told him to forget about her and move on with his life which I recall Sue saying the last Time I had spoke to her so at the very

least she wasn't lying about that I asked a few more questions and the kit was surprisingly forthcoming I guess he was looking for some kind of penance for the chaos he brought upon himself a lot of what he said mirrored info i' gleaned from text documentation I gathered I didn't do much responding I just asked and he answered convo went on for 20 or so minutes before he said again how sorry he was and that's when I hit him With this copy/paste from the convo you're a 27 years/ Oh man who has to live the

rest of your life knowing that your own mother now loathes you for breaking up a marriage that was almost as long as how long you've been breathing I know you've messaged me because karma is eating at you but I won't give you closer when I was 27 I was building a legacy right now you're a homeless jobless H wrecker if you're smart you'll learn from this lesson if You're not you'll stay a [ __ ] up until you're my age assuming you make it that far I'd wish you luck but you don't need luck you

need to get your [ __ ] in order with that I ended the convo and blocked him not the kind of closure he was looking for obviously ious ly and I could have been a lot more hostile but I think those words will haunt him enough as is the next major event is that as of May 4th 2021 nah is now ncore def frog over the last 2 months we have had long Discussion as to where we want things to go between us Nina made it abundantly clear that she has no intentions of ever being

with anyone else but me and she wants my namesake she wants to be my wife and wants me to adopt her daughter we'll call her Anna as my own as I've made mention of in the past I adore this kid she's six now birthday was last month and she idolizes me I'm the first father figure she said since her biod dad pretty much cut out on them when she Was four and Nina's made a practice of not introducing any man she's been involved with since her divorce in Anna's life unless they had staying power needless

to say I have staying power and experience raising children and speaking of Anna and 17 are like two peas in a pod the big bro /l sis dynamic between them in both stunning and adorable 17s really clung on to Anna and her rebels in it had a talk to my therapist about it and he said it's Definitely a good sign 17 sees innocence he wants to protect Ana even though his innocence has been shattered so we decided last Monday to go go to City Hall and pull the trigger took 24 hours to get the marriage

license and the reveal was the most uneventful reveal ever conceived I made mention as if no one didn't see this coming and Big Sis said now placing bets on when the now expecting post goes up we thought where we were keeping our relationship Under Wraps all these months but pretty much everyone figured it out already so yay that was kind of hilarious some people are going to say it was too soon and yes I said in past comment responses that I'm never getting married again but that was all before the true dynamic between Nina and

I manifested this woman has professed her undying unconditional love for me she has laid in my arms and cried saying how happy she is and how she never in a million years imagined she'd Ever have the chance to be with me she's gone in painstaking detail about how she's felt about me the past 25 years and how even while she was married she lamented the notion that Sue won and I honestly had no idea how deep that rabbit hole went she even went as far as saying there were times where she herself had thoughts of

having an affair with me popped into her head but she could never be that kind of person and even so through all of the years I've Know her she has given me so much and asked so little in return even the woman I married and had two children with has never shown the amount of love to me that need has I'd be a fool not to give her my name so now she has it and we're in the early stages of paperwork for me adopting Anna and finally there's Sue I've not spoken to her since

the last time I visited our marital home which is going on four months ago but mutual friends the ones that are left do send Me updates from time to time through one of those friends a realtor I know that she sold the house and he gave her a job as a clerical assistant in his firm and in doing so waved the assisted payments I had to Fork over as a result of her unemployment she now lives in a small apartment close by his office which he also helped set her up been she's functioning but a

shell of the woman she was she's barely gained weight and keeps to herself she comes in does her work And doesn't socialize with anyone but him likely because you know her socializing with people from work is where this whole thing started last update I got on her was at the end of March where I thanked him for looking out for her but told him I don't need any more updates she's no longer my problem I'm almost certain she knows about nah and I as some of those surviving mutual friends have commented about us as 17

is a year away from being A legal adult I have no reason to ever speak to her again and I won't and that's that my journey of betrayal Revenge attempted suicide and mental Agony is over I'll field questions and perhaps a few comments but ultimately after this I'm fading back into the swamp to live with my new frog wife and her little tadpole sincerely to the literal thousands of people who have given me advice well wishes and praise through all of this thank you being able To share my story and help others going through the

ordeal of infidelity has humbled and blessed me to the new friends I've actually made here on Reddit I love you all never would I ever have guessed I'd find such wonderful people in a place where admittedly not so wonderful things can be said keep it green and keep it Class E Reddit