have you ever set a goal and if you're brutally honest with yourself standing in your way wasn't the knowledge of how to do it wasn't the time to do it it was getting yourself to do it that hidden piece is called self-discipline you want to get in shape it's the discipline to get yourself in the gym not one time but consistently to see results you want to build your business and earn your freedom it's the discipline to not just start the business but push through when it's Mucky you want to get in a relationship it's
the discipline to do the our work when things get hard that my friend is what we're talking about today self-discipline and in this video I want to share with you five mindset reframes that once you apply these I think you'll get a lot more discipline because that's the missing piece between what you want and having it now you might be thinking okay what's the difference between discipline and motivation and I think this is a really really important distinction before we keep going motivation is doing things when you want to discipline is doing things when you
don't feel like doing them and doing it anyway someone who goes to the gym because they love it or when they love it is extremely motivated someone who goes to the gym because they made a commitment and they're tired but they go anyway is extremely disciplined you can probably tell why Discipline matters because who gets more results the person who does things only when they feel like it or the person who's able to even on off days push through and persevere for consistency 10 out of 10 times it's this person tip number one this is
more in line with if you procrastinate a lot I'm willing to bet it's because you look at this mountain you want to climb and it is so big you feel like you have to prepare do I have enough in the pack I got to research how much water I need how much fuel I need uh maybe I should get in shape before I climb this mountain versus if that mountain was much smaller you wouldn't feel this need to like over prepare that's a metaphor on using for you and your goals that when you have your
goals like massive okay I'm going to lose 50 pounds you feel like it has to be really extreme and you need all this discipline the muster up to do it versus if you chunk down the goal not just 50 lbs but it's losing five then 10 then 20 then 30 to get to 50 you need way less discipline to do that so this tip would be how can you take your goal that you think you need a lot of discipline for and break it down into some smaller ones people say I want my life purpose
of course you feel like you need tons of discipline and that's actually easier to procrastinate on because it's so big you're like I can just do it tomorrow within your life purpose you have fiveyear goals within that there's a one year there's a one month there's a one day and there's a Now goal tip number two this tip really helped me during the low times just think of that word like discipline we're so conditioned from an early age to have a negative connotation with it it's probably when your parents are like come here I'm going
to discipline you get the belt out right flicking you ever get a flick those things hurt man those things hurt it's always seen as a punishment the reframe here that will change everything for you discipline is nothing more than showing up for yourself in the same way if you had a friend say hey I'll be there at this time that place I'll see you then you show up there and your friend is not there when they said they were going to be would you trust that friend that would hurt your you'd be like dude what
the hell man you just ghost in me it breaks trust when that person doesn't show up when they say they would the exact same thing happens to yourself that when you say you want to do something and you keep letting yourself off the hook you're breaking trust in yourself I noticed the conversation around discipline online it has a very intense energy around it discipline is killing the inner forc yourself to do something I think what's a healthier view is that you actually don't have to do anything you're choosing to do something I don't have to
go to the gym but I'm going to because I love myself and I'm going to take care of my body I don't have to work on my business but I know it's important to me and I'm choosing to prioritize it you don't have to force yourself you get to do something start viewing discipline as the highest form of selflove tip number three maybe not the most scientific way to say it but dopamine is your motivation Center in your brain when you anticipate something you have a high dopamine buildup and then when you get it it
decreases mission accomplished here's what's very interesting about it researchers say that what messes up your dopamine regulation are rewards without effort we had a client who struggled with video game addiction and you know he knew he was supposed to work uh he had an at- home job but he would just blow it off and play video games because it was so tempting you know right there is the the video game so you can imagine this was affecting his performance this was affecting his self-confidence and what we did with him is say hey it's totally cool
for you to play the games after you do something really hard so this one tip is to earn it instead of this tension of like oh I should work but man this is really fun I really want to do this not making this thing bad bad or wrong or like no this is terrible you can never do this that's where this tension Dynamic comes in between the adult and child you have within and like you're always going to want to rebel against this so the parameters he set is look I'm allowing myself to play games
maybe one day a week I can play as many as I want after I do my work after I go to the gym after you insert the blank the real dangerous thing isn't necessarily the like high dopamine activity itself it's engaging in that without prior effort cuz there's a lot of like dopamine detox videos and you know habit breaking and it creates this like expectation that you should never do these things I believe that's completely unrealistic especially in our modern world the goal is not to eliminate everything that has dopamine or is fun in your
life the goal is to just engage with it after you put effort in tip number four here's a study that should unlock a lot of aha for you researchers took a group of three people that wanted to exercise more consistently want to get their Beach season bought it was coming up in the UK group one was the control and the only thing they were asked to do is track how much they exercised group two was called the motivation group now same thing here they were instructed to track how much they exercised they were also given
motivational materials on the benefits of exercising they even had a speaker come in and hype them up get them really motivated about exercising now group three was the Action Group they were instructed to track how much they exercised with one key difference they were asked to formulate a plan of when and where for how long they were going to exercise during next week I'll run for at least 20 minutes Monday at 2: p.m. in the park I will go to the gym next Tuesday at 400 p.m. after work could writing down when and where you're
going to do something really matter that much what happened is groups 1 and two actually exercised around the same 35% of them had at least one workout the following week compared to 91% in group three had one or more workouts a week almost triple the amount of groups 1 and two by just writing down when and where they were going to do something what is also called an implementation intention isn't this true in your life though like when you have a date and time of when you're going to do something you show up if you
buy a personal training session and you have a date and time for it you're showing up if you enroll in a class and prepaid you're showing up having a plan and a date and time for how you're going to do things I found that's an easy way to like hack your self-discipline tip number five this one is the biggest question you should ask and it's staring right in front of our face but like when I read books on discipline and the importance of it no one asks this um if you consume content about this no
one ask this question why do you have resistance there in the first place haven't you had times where you were so excited to do something you didn't need discipline I think a lot of people use well I need self-discipline as an excuse to tolerate more in their life like if you're really burnt out I don't necessarily think that's always a self-discipline deficiency it could be because you really do not like your job of course you're burnt out it has no passion behind it and in that case like yeah you could do the self-discipline tasks and
like force yourself to tolerate more and do more of what you don't want or in this way like the lack of discipline can actually be a net positive cuz it's like your soul screaming at you get a different job find something else so it's actually a good thing sometimes because that's a message behind it I know this from personal experience while ago when I was doing this YouTube channel like years and years ago there was a time where I pivoted into like business and more marketing content I think it was on some bad coaching advice
I had got stop talking about self-improvement only Tony Robbins can do it you you got to teach YouTube and marketing I was like okay the coach said so what happened is that I started creating a lot of content that my heart just wasn't in I had to like force myself to like okay the wealth pyramid all right let me oh I got to film this video and then I would just like be so exhausted like this and just be like oh my God and then Wednesday would roll arounds okay God do it again and then
off Monday Wednesday Friday for like 9 months I did that it felt soul sucking and so if I were talking to that person I actually wouldn't tell him to be more disciplined I have no interest in helping that version of me just tolerate more and push through doing things that my soul's not aligned with and so what I did is asked this question why do I have so much resistance to this and it was the topics I was talking about that I wanted to be creating content like this so don't use self-discipline to push through
and make things worse try and dig down as best as you can to get to your route of why you think you need discipline in the first place sometimes you don't need need as much discipline as you think and if that sounds interesting to you I'll link down below metamorphic where you can learn a little more about our process and even speak to someone to see if we can genuinely help you if you like this video give it a thumbs up subscribe if you're not already and I'll link up right here a video on core
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