I know you are also in love and in love with Mariah's house, but we are now sitting here having a coffee and she is sharing news here. What are you serving there Mariah? I got a box like this that, I don't know, it wasn't a dinner, I don't know when it was and I ate this thing that was in there, it looks like an Italian sweet straw, doesn't it?
But I think it's a sweet called lady's foot, I don't know what it is. Can I eat? Try it.
I'm not going to beg you. Then I ate it, I couldn't stop, you know? Delight!
So I took this here, took the package and said: where is this from? Where is this from? Where is this from?
I told everyone: look, let's find out where this is from. Do you know where it was from? From where?
Next to your house? From here in front. Hmm, I'm going to go there now to buy it.
Next to the pharmacy, a pharmacy, next to the pharmacy there is a natural foods, I don't know what, next door there is this restaurant, sweet. . .
what is it called? Sweet lady. Oh how delicious!
Look, it's like a peanut candy, with dulce de leche. Is this a good thing? There's no Italian straw at all, it's a very good thing.
It's very Brazilian. I haven't even said hi to you yet, you're a member of the channel and you're sitting here at the table with us, I'm laughing with Mariah, which is great! And I want you to keep us company here now, at this moment, Mariah And then you were scared when we arrived here talking and already showing everything and laughing?
I didn't think it would be any different. AND? No.
Yes, you had watched Gabi, you had already tuned in, right? Well, I watched it from Gabi and then as it was a very intimate thing, Gabi's house, my daughter, I thought you were included in all of this, that I already knew you, because everyone was there. We're already friends, right?
Friends, were there. So I think I was very comfortable, because I knew, I thought I knew you. You know, but we hadn't met.
Right? Yes Very cool and so I see that you have a wonderful relationship with the house, but also with its history, with its trajectory, right? All of this has become an object in your house, all the old references that you receive, from your aunt, from your grandmother, from someone, what does it feel like for you when you get home, what do you feel?
This new house, this new house that is my home, because it is the first time that I live alone, I have never lived alone. I lived in my parents' house, then I married Gabi, Ju and Pedro's father and then my second marriage was with Ernesto, it was then, it was something like that, I ended a marriage, then the children lived with me at home and then I got married again, I was never alone. When I lost Ernesto two years ago, for the first time I was alone, alone.
And it was a mixture of terrifying feelings, I'm alone and other people I'm alone! He knows? So when Gabi said: Mom, now let's change everything here, because you're going to have a new life.
She wanted to help me get out of that moment too. You will have a new life, we will leave your house, you alone for the first time. And I really enjoyed that, because it's not the aloneness of being without company, it's the aloneness of having your company, being able to think about you all the time.
Yes, and you know, I started very crazy like this, I didn't have a lunch time, I didn't have a dinner time, I didn't have a coffee time, I had a different coffee every day, a lunch every day, I don't want to eat meat anymore, now I just want to eat chicken, now I don't ever want to eat chicken again. All the experiences, because I didn't have anyone else to share it with, so I'm not thinking about anyone who likes this or likes that, I'm thinking about me. How important!
So it was funny, then I started to reduce my menu, cook less here, go back to old recipes, get my book, I wrote a recipe book. Oh how cool! Look at this!
Do you want to see? Of course! Of course I want to see it.
It was like that, it was Christmas when I compiled all the family recipes. And I gave it to my children as a gift, with a floppy disk, you see. For them to add, every time they made a new recipe, they added it and filled it with their own.
. . Perfect!
Yeah, nothing like that happened. Nothing! They didn't share anything with me, they use it more or less, I don't know, I think they use it, I don't know.
But this story is funny. Guys, look at the news here It's a super book, it has a lot of recipes! Look at this guys!
And I did it, I cataloged it. How cool! All this from 2 years to now?
From 2008. Ah from 2008! Look here, this was a gift.
How cool! I decided to select. Signed Mami.
Selecting my recipes to pass on to you, I couldn't imagine that I was also taking a journey through the different stages of our lives Yes , through the various homes of relatives, dear friends, through our holidays on the beach and on the farm, many emotions came to the surface and it was great to take this look back, inward and finally forward, as I hope you complete this notebook with the recipes of each of your families, which you are now forming and with your new experiences in cooking and life, it would be great if we could also share this new one. step. How incredible is this idea!
Guys, you who must be watching this video right now, do this. It is not? Here you can see the recipes, I'll tell you each recipe, Grandma Lourdes' crazy meat.
Grandma Zélia's shrimp cocktail. Did you remember or had you written it down? I had several books that I copied.
And everything is typed beautifully. I did. Guta gave it to me, Aninha gave it to me, Cláudia gave it to me.
Look, look at this, it's all separate. Yes, I did well. What a relic!
I did the floppy disk thing, so who has a floppy disk? Nowadays, it's gone. No floppy disk, I think it was on the CD, it wasn't a floppy disk, it was a CD.
I have the CD back here. In other words, there you were once modern, you were chic! It was already modern at that time.
Yeah, and then I took this CD and sent it to a copier so she could put it on the pen drive for me . It's updating. It's really cool, look what vision you had, of asking them to complete it too.
The book, that was really cool! Yeah, because it's cool, right? It's very cool!
I'm going to pour us some water, okay? Look how beautiful this vessel is, this vase! Did you like this deal?
No, I loved it, I loved it very much. And let me ask you a question here, this experience you had, of being able to see yourself at home alone for the first time, it came after many years, which actually turns out that you come from a generation, where there was a different way of thinking than today, of women getting married, for the young people today, who are here watching, what can you say about the experience of valuing yourself at home, with and without company, because sometimes we completely abandon ourselves. In the name of the other and when you see, we cancel ourselves out for the other, example: oh I completely cancel myself out for my children.
And then at the end you will realize that you didn't need it, you could have combined it together. One thing I have an incredible answer for you, it says: do you like this dish? I replied: my children like it a lot.
Look at this. Or: do you like such a thing? I said: my family loves it.
I couldn't answer for myself. It's not that I couldn't do it, the vision was different, we were all a group. And from some time to now, it became very clear, I even became a little too selfish, because like, if they invite me to certain things: I don't feel like it.
It's necessary to say this, right? How many times have you been unwilling, right? Almost every time, right?
So: today I'm not going. But will you come have dinner here with me? No, no, I won't go today, I'm tired, today I'll stay at home.
You know it's time to watch Doc, a series that I'm following, loving. So it's not that I'm tired, it's that I want to be alone. I'm loving it!
Doing my thing. Wonderful! And what advice can you give to these people?
I don't know, I think this is exaggerated, of course, that I'm coming out of an experience, I came out of a very painful experience . I live with all this, I'm sore and I decided to do just what I want, just what I can think of, just. .
. it's not like that either, understand? Of course, I also have a lot of pleasure being with my children, my grandchildren, I have a lot of pleasure, but today I learned that there are things that are extremely important to me and that I have to respect.
I want to be alone, I want, for example, are you going to travel? I'm going, I'm going there to Ubatuba. Are you going alone?
I'm going But are you going to be alone there? Now no one talks anymore, are you going to be alone there? I'm going, in fact I'm not alone, I'm with my dogs, then I have things to do there, there's a garden to take care of, So today I do this in a Happiness and Peace of Mind And everyone has gotten used to it, so everything is ok, understand?
We don't have this need to be there: no, only if someone goes with me. How is she going alone? Once I realized this, when I met a friend who was still at college and he had gone to the cinema alone, I was with a group of friends and he was alone, then I was horrified and said: friend, but are you alone?
He looked at me and said: yes, I came to watch a movie! This is a place where a movie is showing, why do I need to have someone by my side? I will be quiet the entire time.
I thought that was so brilliant, I said: friend, this is perfect. Who put it in our heads that it's a business where you have to buy popcorn, you have to hold hands, you have to be with someone? It has nothing to do with it.
It has nothing to do with it. There are thousands of restaurants near my house, sometimes I feel like eating raw kibbeh, I go downstairs and go. I sit alone and eat.
What's the problem? What's the problem? This was something they put in our heads and, importantly, people, this statement is very important for us to realize that the best way for us to transmit happiness to others, to teach happiness, for example, to our children or to someone we are passing by, is by being happy.
So the best way to teach is by being the best example. So, I am the best example of self-sufficiency, of socialization, of love, of care, of everything, so when you are an example, when you look at yourself and take care of yourself, that is not selfishness, that is showing the way. Take care, take care of yourself, right?
Don't suppress your desires, because then it may be too late, that's what happens, right? Your wishes must be respected. Always for you, because your body asks for things, your soul asks for things.
It's important. This example, this conversation, is very beautiful, I'm sure that a lot of people who are watching us are touched by this, because sometimes we get lost after 1, 2, 3, 20, 30 years. Don't tell me.
And we don't even know we should have taken advantage. Well guys, here's the thing, we're destroying her candy can, which you didn't see, but we ate it here right now, there's this cake, there's water and now I'm going to say goodbye to Mariah, I mean, I'm going to say goodbye to you, because I'm going to keep hugging her here a little longer Thank you guys, bye!
