Mom Chose My Step-siblings Over Me and Demanded to Share My Deceased Dad's College Fund or Move Out.

mom chose my step siblings over me and demanded to share my deceased dad's college fund or move out in a week so some backstory before I get into what happened I'm a 17-year-old girl and I live with my mother 43f my stepdad and my two step siblings I have one step brother and a younger step sister but we are not close to each other my step brother let's call him Jackson is a year older than me and my step sister Emma is 2 years younger than me all of us go to the same high school

but we don't have any friends in common and we have just been close my mother got married to their father after dating for almost 5 years the wedding was 3 years ago but our families have been living together for 6 years now and the wedding was just a formality as for my father he unfortunately passed away when I was really little and I never got to spend much time with him I barely even remember him because I was very young when he passed away my parents were never married and my dad's family didn't approve of

my mother because she was a bit of a party girl and didn't have a good reputation back then in their town so they lived together for a short time but didn't get married because then his parents would have probably cut him off he was diagnosed with leukemia in its later stages when he was just 27 and by the time they found out about it it was too late to do anything thankfully he had the time to get his Affairs in order and he managed to set up an education fund for me for after he was

gone so I would have nothing to worry about and my mother wouldn't have to push herself to work hard after he passed away I have always known about it since his lawyer told me when I was really young my dad's lawyer was the one controlling the flow of the money but after I turned 18 I would be in full control of the fund for a long time after my dad passed away it was just me and my mother and I got used to it then my stepdad came into the picture when I was around 8

years old and after dating for a while all of us moved in together my mother had moved out of the town that we used to live in because she said that it was just too painful to live in the same place that she and my dad had met I have never met my grandparents on my dad's side of the family because my dad's parents were just never interested in meeting me we do occasionally visit my mom's parents and they're nice enough but my mother's family is not really connected so when I moved in with my

stepdad and his kids I had really high hopes because I thought that I was finally going to have a big and family I had a lot of expectations when I was younger but sadly my new family didn't manage to live up to it and I don't really blame them for it but it was quite disappointing for me when I was little it wasn't as though they didn't make me feel welcome or they treated me badly but there was something really off about everybody's energy all of us left together but we never really felt like a

family and I never managed to connect with either my step or his kids we would live in the same house but they never really made an effort to make me feel comfortable or try to get to know me I tried several times but they didn't seem very enthusiastic about it so I gave up after trying for a couple of months I accepted that all of us were more like glorified roommates rather than actual family and that was it I didn't romanticize it my mother however was a different story because she was treated differently by them

that energy towards my mom was completely different and they actually treated her like a part of the family I might be way off here but I feel like part of the reason that my stepsiblings and my stepfather were happy to include my mother and play happy family with her and exclude me was because my stepdad's ex-wife had been kind of a nightmare I have never met her myself but I have heard about her and and she was a total gold digger from what I heard who left my stepdad almost penniless after the divorce he had

to build his life back from scratch and to make matters worse he also had to take care of my step siblings on his own their mother had given up custody and abandoned them to take off with her new lover shortly after the divorce meeting a woman like my mother who is the exact exact opposite of his ex-wife was probably great for all of them but I was not really required in that scenario and that's exactly how they made me feel like an afterthought I can't Define it and I can't think of any examples off the

top of my head but it was just based on Vibes and enery I always got that feeling that in spite of being part of the family I wasn't really part of the family my only consolation was the fact that I could have been overthinking things and that's what I used to tell myself whenever things would get a little too much for me it feels weird to say this but I was actually kind of jealous because it felt like my mother had finally found her people but I was still on the outside I started resenting all

of them after a few years because it was like I'd been left behind or something I never brought it up with anybody because it always just seemed Petty and meaningless so I didn't want to make a big deal out by saying anything about it that's how life was and I wasn't okay with it but I was content now coming to what happened a couple of days ago I've been looking for colleges for the past few weeks because I'm supposed to graduate in a few months and I need to start sending out applications I'm not worried

about the money because like I said my mother had always told me that there was a fun set aside for me and that's what I was going to use but then a few days ago my mother said that she needed to talk to me about something really important she told me that my stepfather hadn't been able to save money for his kids to go to college so she needed me to help my family out and let my my step siblings Ed the money from my college fund as well Jackson had taken a gap year and

was about to start college at the same time as me so that's what the conversation was really about legally my mother couldn't control the funds because in his will my father had clearly stated that only I would be able to control where I spent my money after I turned 18 and if I'm being honest I didn't want to share the money with my step siblings for starters I didn't consider them family and I'm sure that neither did they and secondly even if I didn't end up using the entire amount that my father had kept for

me I would still like to use it for myself that kind of money could really help me get a head start and be useful to me when I get my own apartment and stuff until I started earning when he was going to help me out I had already saved a lot since I went to public school instead of private and my mother didn't have to spend any money on my education so far I was also a really good student so I was hoping to get a scholarship in whichever College I decided to apply and enroll

in money had never been a matter of concern for me but now that I was getting older and I was about to turn 18 in a few months I was starting to think about saving and earning so giving away money from my funds to my St siblings didn't sound like a great idea so I told my mother that I wouldn't be sharing those funds with them because I didn't think that it was necessary if Jackson really wanted to go to college he could just do what millions of kids do anyway and get a student loan

my mother was not pleased with my answer and she said that I was being selfish but I didn't even disagree I was indeed being selfish and I didn't see anything wrong with it so instead of arguing with her I just told her that I was being selfish and it was completely fine because I didn't consider my steps siblings family that's when my mother started screaming at me because apparently she believed that what I had said was no less than a criminal offense it took me a few seconds to even process the fact that she was

losing her mind simply because I had spoken the truth and told her that I didn't think of my step siblings as family the double standards were crazy because on one hand the family had been treating me like an outsider for the past 8 years and she had never seemed to notice it or maybe she didn't notice it and she just didn't care but when it came to me I had to consider them family and treat them as such for absolutely no reason I tried to speak to her calmly and without screaming in her face but

there was no point because she was already going off on me and calling me ungrateful and whatnot so I waited for her to finish yelling at me and then I told her that she could scream at me all she wanted but I wasn't going to change my mind the only thing that screaming at me was going to accomplish was it was only going to alienate me even more and make me feel even less inclined to help them out in any capacity my mother calmed down a little after I said that and I thought that we

were finally going to have a rational discussion afterwards and I would finally be able to voice out my feelings but that was foolish of me I had forgotten that in that household my feelings absolutely didn't matter and all that mattered was if my mother my stepfather and my steps siblings were happy my happiness was not very important to any of them so after my mother calmed down she told me that I had a week to make up my mind but after that she would be forced to kick me out of the house I thought that

she was joking because it was simply ridiculous but she told me that she wasn't and since my birthday was coming up in less than a month she would soon not even be legally obliged to let me live with him because I wouldn't be a minor anymore so I would be out of the house and I would be completely on my own if I didn't agree to share the college fund that my father had specifically just for me with my my step siblings I could hardly even believe that my own mother would say such a thing

and put me in such a difficult position just for the sake of my step siblings when I was supposed to be her own flesh and blood she told me to tread carefully and think this over because this decision could cost me everything and then she left the room while I sat there and tried to process what she just said it was incredibly insulting for me to be treated that way by my own mother and that day I made up my mind that I was going to get out of this house no matter what the cost

so I started talking to my friends and told them that I needed help to find an apartment of my own because I was planning to move out for my 18th birthday I told him everything that my mother had said and explained the urgency of the situation to them I knew that once I turned 18 I would get all the money and then I would be able to control where I spent it yes I would have to stick to a budget and choose my degree in college very carefully but it was worth it because that meant

that at least now I would be able to move out and live on my own instead of putting up with my family or rather forcing them to tolerate me because after that conversation with my mother it was clearer than ever that I was not welcome in that house at all and I really was an afterthought all these years years I had not been overthinking anything in fact I might have even been underthinking things because I really had never seen this coming a couple of days passed and a friend of mine told me that she had

been able to speak to a cousin who was also applying to the same colleges that I was because we had an interest in the same field she was planning to live in an apartment because she wanted to be independent from the beginning and my friend had suggested that I get in touch with her so if we ended up going to the same College we could rent out an apartment together and live there I thought that it was a great idea and got in touch with my friend's cousin almost immediately we worked out everything and I

told them about my situation as well she seemed to be very empathetic and I could tell that she was a nice person and I would get along with her so that part was all sorted out the only thing I had to worry about was where I would live until College started since there were quite a few months to go before that but it turned out to be pretty easy for me to figure that one out because my friends told me that I could take to living with them until College finally started it was a messy

and risky plan but I was willing to go through with it because anything would be better than living with my mother and these people because the way that I was being treated after that fight with my mom was horrible and I don't mean horrible in the sense that they were speaking to me badly or torturing me or whatever but what they were doing was far more humiliating they had all ganged up on me and were acting like I was the single most disgusting creature to ever exist like if I would enter a room everybody would

instantly stop talking and go back to their own rooms they would give me the side eye all the time and refuse to even speak to me like I'd done something wrong it was humiliating and I felt like running away because it just felt so bad it took me a while to arrange something for myself but I made up my mind that as soon as my friends were ready to take me in I would leave this place so the day that my mother spoke to me again to ask me if I had changed my mind or

not I decided to tell her the truth and then leave I told her that I had not changed my mind as a matter of fact and that I would actually be leaving this place I told her that the way that she and her family had been treating me for the past week was nothing short of psychotic and I couldn't put up with it anymore I told her that I had already spoken to a couple of friends and that I would be living with them until I could start college and move away from here I said

that I never wanted to see her again so she was free to kick me out and it wouldn't make a difference to me I already had a plan in in mind so I wasn't very surprised when my mother started yelling at me once more and told me that I needed to get out of her house because this was no place for selfish ungrateful brats like me I left pretty gladly and I was happy to see the last of them but that wasn't the end of the road for my plan during the time that I had

been spending in my room all by myself i' had been thinking of ways to get back at my mother ever since she got married to my stepfather life had changed for me and not in a good way but she didn't even seem to care about it because she was happy with her new family I had tried to be happy for her and suppress my own feelings about this but now it was very obvious that she didn't care about me in general and her step kids were more important to her than me the way she had

been treating me made me feel like crap and I had made up my mind that I was not going to let this go unanswered so that's why as soon as I was out of the house I decided to spill the beans on her and let everybody know what kind of a person she really was the only reason I had even waited for a week to get out of her house and then speak about her ridiculous demands was because I didn't want her to be able to have any access to me to even tell me how

disappointed she was in me or whatever because nobody in their right mind would ever support things that she had said to me and I knew that once I had moved in with a friend I decided to go online and make a post about my mother I typed out the incident that took place and how my mother had been screaming at me just because I didn't want to contribute to my stepsiblings college fund I also mentioned none of them had ever treated me like family but my mother never seemed to have a problem with that it

was only a problem when I did the same thing to them I talked about the double standards I also mentioned how she had practically forgotten about me once she started living with her new family and I also said that I found her to be the single most selfish being on this planet because of the the way that she had been behaving with me just for saying no to something completely ridiculous any same person in my position would have said no since the money that she had been talking about had been left to me specifically by

my father it was not anybody else to use and I didn't think it was fair to demand that I share it with people who never made me feel like a part of their family I might have even considered it if my step siblings had been nice to me at any point but that was not the case here I was really frustrated and I let out all my frustration in that one post I knew that this negatively impacted my mother since I had a lot of people who followed me including my mother's friends and their kids

but at the time I just didn't care and I wanted to get back at her truth be told she had been my only source of support and happiness throughout my life because I had only one parent to count on and my grandparents weren't really in touch with me she had been my first and most important friend so when she chose my step siblings over me it felt like a huge betrayal I was really hurt and I just wanted to get it all out of my system without caring about the consequences so I made that post

and exactly what I had expected would happen is what happened I received several messages from my mother saying saying that I had ruined her life because everyone had seen that post and it had been shared numerous times my mother was pretty popular among her circle of friends there was no big surprise that people were just looking for an excuse to gossip about her and I had played right into their hands she had tried to call me several times but I didn't answer any calls and neither did I respond to any texts I was just miserable

and I had hoped that making the post would make me feel less upset but the messages that my mother sent me after that only maybe feel worse about my decision I could tell through her text that she was really torn up about this she said things like she never expected me to do something like this that she had believed that she had raised me to be kind and compassionate but I was the opposite of both those things and she couldn't even believe that I was her daughter anymore and then she pulled out the big guns

and told me that had my father been alive today to witness this vindictive and malicious side of me he would be terribly disappointed and wouldn't even want to be related to me that really got me and I felt like I was doing something horrible I started rethinking everything and that's what brought me here eventually at this point I don't even know if it was right of me to not want to share my funds with my step siblings I don't know if I should make things right with my mother and the others because I don't even

know if I can face them anymore after what I did but also this might be a very clever way of trying to manipulate me and if it is it's definitely working that's why I need you guys to help me because now that everybody has the facts I can finally come to a conclusion so I for refusing to share my college fund with my stepsiblings and then making a post against my mother update one hi so first so much for the response a lot of you sent me really kind messages and it made me feel better

about myself and what I did I guess I needed that to see things for what they truly are I was about to give my mother a chance again just because I wanted to see the good in her and I wanted to believe that she wasn't a bad person but what kind of mother says and does the things that she did she's just not a good person and it's time that I accepted it instead of trying to fight it so I blocked her to make sure that she couldn't reach out to me again I knew that

if she texted me again it would only be to manipulate me or to get that post down I don't want to take that post down I want it to stay up at least until she apologizes to me she knows where I am because my friend's mother told her that I was living with them so she knows where to reach me and in spite of knowing if she doesn't reach out to me I'll take it as a sign that neither does she care about me and not as she cares about her own reputation update too so

it's been 2 weeks since I have been living with my friend and have moved out from my stepfather's house after that post I had absolutely zero contact with everyone from my family I did go to school a couple of days and I ran into Emily a few times but she just shot me a really nasty look and pretended like I wasn't even there not surprising considering the fact that they are pretty much expert in pretending that I don't exist they have been doing it for the past 8 years they must have found it easier now

anyway my mother finally came to visit me last evening she arrived here with a black plastic bag that people generally use for trash and dumped it in the living room saying that it had all my leftover stuff in it basically everything that I had been able to pack into my duffel bag when I was leaving my house it felt a little insulting that she had used a trash bag to pack my stuff and it was way more insulting when she dumped it all on the floor of the living room leaving me to gather it my

friend and her parents who saw this all unfold were scandalized they did not appreciate my mother's Behavior one bit and actually took it upon themselves to argue with her about it they told her that considering the fact that I was her only daughter she should have some compassion for me instead of treating me so cruy they really schooled her but she didn't take it kindly she told them that they had no right to speak about her parents techniques when they were the ones harboring a delinquent like me I almost burst out laughing when she said

that because I was far from a delinquent I was literally a scholar student and she had known that I almost mentioned it myself but I didn't have two thanks to my friend friend who stood up for me she told my mother off and said that she was grateful that her parents were nothing like my mother and had a heart it turned into a bit of a cat fight after which my mother got really huffy and left I was really thankful for my friend and her parents I don't think it was really necessary for them to

stand up for me but they did and I couldn't be happier about it this is probably the first time in my life that I had somebody to fight for me on my behalf and it was just really touching but anyway I don't think my mother will be coming back anytime soon because after the welcome that she received yesterday I wouldn't dare to show up around here again and I really hope that she doesn't show up because I'm just sick of the drama now I want to move on with my life and start a new chapter

but I can't do that if she keeps showing up again and again so I pray and I hope that this is the last time that I have come across her update three hey folks so long time no see I have been MIA for quite a while now a couple of months I think but you can't blame me for it it was because I was applying to colleges and trying to get into a good one with a scholarship I had been grinding really hard and it all paid off I'm in my first choice of school now

and yes I'm sticking to the plan that I had come up with a couple of months ago my friend's cousin who was applying to the same colleges also got in here and we are going to rent an apartment and live together she's a really sweet girl and the fact that she is my friend's cousin it's just a cherry on the top because this way I get to keep in touch with everyone the last couple of months have been very difficult for me emotionally but my friends helped me get through it all and I can't tell

you guys how thankful I am to have such people in my life I know a lot of people who have terrible parents and families rely on their friends for emotional support but I have tried to avoid that so far however now that I know how far my friends are willing to go for me I feel like they are my family I'm always going to be grateful for everything that people have done for me seriously I don't think I could have made it this far without everybody's help and that includes the people here who reached out

to me through messages and said such supportive things to help me get through this it's just really strange and funny how my own mother hasn't even bothered to text me even once after I moved out she didn't even care that I had unblocked her and she could actually talk to me that's how little I mean to her but you guys and my friends told told me to have faith in myself because I could do it it's really cute how literal strangers on the internet did more for me than my mother did but anyway that's all

in the past now I'm looking forward to having a fresh start here and I'm really excited for what the future holds