if you type in the words will I ever into Google the first thing that comes up is will I ever find love the second is will I ever be enough and the third is Will I Am net worth we go from love to money real quick but behind that initial question will I ever find love is one of our deepest human fears being alone and the fear of being alone was instilled in us at an early age remember that kid who played alone in the playground they were The Loner if you had a birthday party
and the cool kids didn't show up you were considered unpopular and today even as an adult if you go to a wedding without a plus one everyone looks at you like oh poor you are you okay we're scared of being alone even when we're alone we're not alone we find a way to stay busy studies show we consume up to 34 GB of data per day one Post online said that's like reading The Hobbit every single day nearly 100,000 words per day now if you're not a hob fan it's like streaming 25 episodes of stranger
things if you're not a stranger things fan it's like playing over 15,000 hours of fortnite per day and if you don't like fortnite it's like scrolling 94 hours on Tik Tok every single day we're not alone even when we're alone philosopher Paul tillich once wrote that in the English language there are two words for being alone but we only ever use one of them lonely the sadness of being alone the pain of being alone the weakness of being alone but there's another word that we rarely use Solitude as he called it the strength of being
alone the glory of being alone the difference between loneliness and Solitude is the lens through which we see our time alone monks and sages and wisdom Keepers for thousands of years have talked about the importance of spending time in silence in Stillness alone in one study men and women were asked if they wanted to be alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes or give themselves an electric shock 27% of women chose an electric shock and 65% of men chose an electric shock because they didn't want to be alone with their thoughts being alone with our
thoughts can be scary so I want to give you three experiments to try over the next 30 days number one try and schedule at least 10 minutes every single day for the next 30 days that you spend by yourself not with your phone not with a laptop out not with an iPad not in front of the screen not even reading a book see which thoughts arise and then after it take the moment to reach out to a friend a family member or a person that you're close to in order to share what came up for
you number two take yourself out see if you can muster up the courage to go on a solo dinner date to go and watch a movie that you've really wanted to see by yourself giving yourself that experience to enjoyy your own company to sit in the discomfort of what other people might think and what might they project on you because of what you're doing I promise you that this builds resilience and confidence that discomfort is so important for self-discovery and number three sit with this question what's something that's really important to you that you've been
devaluing lately what's a priority in your life that somehow has been deprioritized sit with that question in Stillness and silence and see what comes up for you whatever comes to the top and Rises make that your focus for the next 7 days I can't wait to see what you learn from this experiment share your answers in the comments below and I'll see you on the next video [Music]
