Cómo gestionar la dependencia emocional 🤔 Conferencia Enric Corbera

Thank you. OK... Perfect. You all know what you have got yourselves into, right? Yes? Well, you asked for it. OK, today we are going to have a conference that I have been meditating on for a while, right? Because we're going to get into rugged terrain, touch on spicy issues, but not sexual ones, huh? Spicy in the sense that it stings a bit. Therefore, I wish, from all my heart, that you all feel very uncomfortable for the next two hours here, because it is a clear signal that I am hitting my intended target. It's a little

like undressing the mind... to what extent... becoming aware to what extent we are conditioned, to what extent we are hypnotised to what extent we continue projecting ourselves on the world's screen in the circumstances that surround us in the people who surround us, and we verbalise things in a way that needs to be urgently corrected. And therefore, the first commandment we are going to expose here, now, and the only one, is that, from now onwards, speaking of others is prohibited. We can only talk about ourselves in relation to the other. Not the other in relation to

me. And this is essential. This is the key to addiction. Which, throughout the length and width of these two hours here today we will try to unravel, so that you can see, so that each of you can reposition yourselves and know what you have to do in your life for things to somehow change. So then, let's start... I always like to start, you know, with reflections. And you know that I am a big fan of Carl Gustav Jung. He was ahead of his time. He said things that many of us say, including myself, and that

some, even today, in the orthodoxy, they are like... that gentleman never exist, you know? Well, this gentleman has often been crossed off as a spiritualist, and I think that science itself, in general, made a mistake. They say it was from Descartes, who has given me so much. He made the mistake of removing from the equation of life, The phenomenon of spirituality. As if this was not part of us. And, indeed, since man has been man, or since man has been a hominid, we have always believed there's something else. We used to think, when something happened,

that the sky, the stars, the sun, the moon, whatever... we have always felt, inside that there is something more. Jung was very certain about this and for him spirituality could not be removed from the equation and, somehow, in my work, what I'm doing is putting something that has never ceased to be into its place. In other words, spirituality, the metaphysical way of seeing and understanding life is part of us all. Of course there is metaphysics, this spirituality, is expressed in many different ways, because that is what the ego is there for. The ego is there

for that: to diversify, to compare and to say that mine is better than yours. For example, a lady, while I signed her book, told me: "Have you heard of this, that and the other?" I won't say what it was. "Because this, that and the other." Perfect. She stopped and said: "It seems, Enric, as though it's all the same to you." "Look, darling." I said. "If you were to say right now that dancing naked under the Moon-light heals you, what do you think I'll reply? That you should continue to dance naked under the moon of course."

Everything is OK, everything is acceptable, because it's all a lie. Everything is a lie. And the sooner we realise that everything is a lie, that no spirituality is better than the other, that being spiritual doesn't mean... Some people say to me: "I am very spiritual." And I reply: "So is my pet dog." Because we are all made from the same substance. So that's ego. The ego is always differentiating. "I am very spiritual." OK... The plants are too, everything is, the chair you're sitting in. Everything is spiritual. So when we begin to understand that we are

all the same essence, in that energy that gives us life, that sustains life and that allows us to be here, today and we have the intelligence to understand, comprehend and to change many things, this is the spiritual force. It is like faith. I have great faith and you have little faith. That's a lie. We all have the same faith. It's just that some people place it in one thing and others place it in something else. And what I am about to say now is important, because it is key. This is important. Remember this. This is

key. If you knew how much faith you have, you'd be very surprised. Moreover, you have so much faith and so many things happen that you don't understand, that the only answer is that you have a lot of faith. So you say: "In what?" I reply: "In what is happening in life." Do you follow, my darlings? Do you get it? We all have the same power. The problem is that some of us are not aware, some are quite aware and a few other are very aware. And they pay attention and are alert to what they're putting

their faith into. But let's take out the word "faith". We're going to call it "original thought". Or "promoter thought". OK? So... Reflection. From Carl Gustav Jung. I have three today. "Emotion is the chief source of all becoming-conscious. There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of Apathy into movement without emotion." Get it? I'm here, and if I didn't feel the excitement and nervousness that I always do when I'm up here... And this isn't my first one. ...it's like, it gives me, it tells me: "Great. If you're vibrant, you're in the emotion." Imagine this:

Hi. You know what you're in for, right? Get it? This nervous feeling... We can't change anything... That's fine. "We can't change anything unless we accept it first. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses." One of the things I teach, and, above all, I accompany the people who visit my clinic with, is to look at what they think is a problem in their lives from another perspective. Someone says, or said, that you only have problems because you think it is possible to have them. And pay attention to faith. You have so much faith in that problems exist

That the quantum field gives you a variety of problems to choose from. And there is another faith, which a young lady reminded me about when I was signing books. She said: "The thing is, things need time." And I asked her: "How much time do you need? Because we can ask Alcampo for more time and they'll give you all the time you need." Take a good look at the issue of time. Carl Gustav Jung says: "The unconscious has no time." And remember that the unconscious makes up between 95% and 97% of our psyche. And the conscious

only between 3% and 5%. In other words, we are robotised by the unconscious. Everything that is there in our unconscious, everything, somehow projects through our conscious and we see it around us. And Jung continues: "There are no problems of time for it. Part of our psyche is neither in time or in space. These are only illusions, time, space. And so in certain parts of our psyche time does not count for anything." Fine. But if you believe that things need time, <i>alea jacta est</i>, you will be given it. Pay attention to where you place your faith.

I would like to recommend something before proceeding. From this moment, do not believe anything I say. This is my request. I beg you. Because I can only explain my experience, my way of seeing and understanding life. What I intend from the outset is to show you that nobody is going to give you power, because you are part of this power. So, how did it all start? Very easy. Are we not all our parents' children? Right? Yes? Is there anyone here who does not have parents? We are all our parents' children. Everything begins here. Today we

are going to talk about emotional addiction, which it is one of the biggest blights existing in our minds and our societies. And when we talk of addiction, we can talk about different types of addictions. But I don't think we'll be able to touch on them all today, but that isn't important. As I know you are very intelligent, Each person will apply this lesson to their particular case, right? When we talk about addiction, we are not talking about taking heroin. This is an addiction. Nor are we referring to eating compulsively. This is another addiction. Or to

being constantly concerned with what my child is doing. This is another addiction. Are you following what I'm talking about? The story is taking shape, isn't it? Allowing people to hurt you, another addiction. Because I can hit you once, But if I do it twice you have a problem. The problem might be that I think you like and give you a third. Get it? Is the story taking shape? I see you get it, right? Very good. "All thought creates." Look, Adam and Eve, obviously this is a metaphor, they didn't sin. They... What they did was a

blessing. Because until Adam and Eve, that is, two, we had no choice. Before them, we couldn't choose. We were in paradise, everything was great. But nothing was happening. It was like a little boring. Do you understand? Hm? So, the tree of good and evil is not the tree of good and evil, it's the tree of duality. It's living the experience of not being to become conscious of what I am. Remember that too. In other words: I can't know who I am unless it's through the other. Do you follow? So, I'm never with the other. I'm

always with myself through the other. I'm going slowly so that everyone can reposition themselves. But I guess you're following me. So it's all very simple. Nor is there, in the universe, chance and causality. There is only synchronicity. Therefore, if you are here, it is because you have a frequency, you resonate frequency. And if I'm here, I'm emitting the same frequency. Otherwise, we wouldn't be here. If we are here, it is because of synchronicity. It is because there is a force that makes you do things. And this is very important, because each situation we live in

our lives, regardless of how tiny it is, of how insignificant it may seem to you, it has a purpose, it has its information, it has its vibration, it has its frequency, and, therefore that manifestation needs its universe. In other words. You, each one of us resonates at a frequency And finds itself in the same resonance. But as we are at number two at the masculine polarity and the female polarity, which is what Adam and Eve represent, the same frequency, the same information, does not manifest in the same way. And from this point, let's make one

thing very clear. No-one is guilty. I know that this is hard to internalise, because of our love for feeling guilty, or to project our guilt. For the unconscious, that lives in space and time, as we saw before, The fact that you blame yourself or that you blame someone else, doesn't mean anything. Because the unconscious does not have time, it does not live in space and the other does not exist. Everything is ego. And we project ourselves in others. OK? You can't find yourself with anyone who is not on your same frequency. Or have you not

noticed that...? "Wow, we get along so well, we are on the same wavelength." Hm? You say it so well. "What a feeling we have." "Hey, we're so in tune." And now I say "resonance" and they say: "Enric says such strange things." Fine then, we can say it using modern terms: "What a feeling we have! We are in tune. Oh my gosh, I was going to say... one, two, three. I was going to tell you. -Me too. Who's going to say it first? -OK, one, two, three. I love you. You've got a booger." These two aren't

in tune. But we are convinced that we are. This is a joke I was told about being on the same frequency. People are good at that, they say: "These two are on the same frequency." And they sent me the joke, and I just remembered it. Because... Have you ever been with someone and thought... "Jesus... What's up with you today? You just don't get it." Have you ever said to your partner, or your best friend...? "Jesus, what's wrong with you? You're not getting me today." Someone there is covering her mouth, I don't know why. Has that

ever happened to you? So you say: "What good vibes we have today." Everything is going well. You are in frequency. Have you ever arrived home and said...? "Oh, when I get hold of my wife... In the kitchen..." And then you get there, and your wife is on the phone with her mother, and you say: "Oh... She wasn't on... She isn't on my frequency." Or have you ever been thinking about someone and you run into them on the corner? Or they call you? I bet it has happened to you. What a coincidence, right? So let's ask

ourselves now, what happens when I'm in tune and what happens when I'm not? What do people do? "You're strange today." And the reply is: "You're the strange one." Do you follow? I'm just relating small every-day stories that may seem normal, but are actually very important. What we should always do is... What is the promoter thought? What is the first thought I have about something? That is important. For example... You have no job. OK? Strange thing, is it not? You have no job. We can talk about work, and we can talk about statistics. We can talk

about the stock market going up and going down, and we can talk about the price of oil which is now very low. We could talk about anything. We could talk constantly about the Government. Uuu, talking about the Government is so much fun, because it's always the government's fault. In other words, we could talk about many things, but that isn't going to solve anything, ever, it simply will strengthen our lives and our beliefs. You are unemployed. The first question you have to ask yourself is: "Do you want to work?" This is the first question. You could

say: "Well, I need to work." Right, this is where you mess it up. Why do we mess it up here? I thought you knew what this was about. Hey? I need work. And the universe gives you the need for work. So you have work, you lose it, you have it again, and you live in a precarious situation. But that precarious situation is in your mind. You might say: "OK, yes, but there is a global consciousness." True. And those who manipulate that global consciousness know they will create that reality by manipulating the way people think. As

simple as this: It's as simple as getting up and saying... I did this a long ago: "Look, boss, I'm going to make this clear for you. You have given me life. I have become conscious. I knew this before. But now I am conscience. And do you know what? Since you have given me life, who better to tell me what I have to do? OK then. Ah, I would like to travel a lot." I didn't say how much, and now I travel all the time... "And I occasionally want to have a holiday." My travelling becomes work

and holidays at the same time. Get it? Well, the boss hasn't got it all that wrong. You follow me? Now... how many of you are ready to give up, to believe that you have the solution to your lives? You only observe your lives. I've been saying for a while that all thoughts are creators. All of them. And no thought is more dangerous than original thought. That is why... when I start something, a relationship, a trip, anything I am going to do in my life, however small it is, my question is: What is the original thought?

There are millions of excuses, reasons and whys I do something. But what is the original thought? This is my job. When people come to my clinic, I take them to the original thought. And until we get to the original thought, I have to go through mountains of incredible thoughts. Some things they say are incredible. Oh, and they are completely convinced of them. And I don't listen at all. Until eventually we find the original thought. How do I know that I've found the original thought? Because you can see it. The person gets excited. They feel as

though something has happened. I can't explain it, but they feel as though something has happened. They have become conscious. And once they have become conscious of the original thought, I say: "You can change it. If you want to, you can change it." We can't change related thoughts. We have to change the original thought. Original thought was then called original sin. You get it? But remove the word "sin" because that is there to manipulate and to control. Let's call it the "original error". The original error, the first original error, is to believe that I am separate

from my source, my creator, and as I have believed this, it is called original sin. And that is why it is described as the expulsion from Paradise. Adam and Eve were not expelled from anywhere. It was us who who left when we began to think... Do you follow, my darlings? ...when we believed, when we thought that someone was angry. Someone was offended. And to this day we still think that divinity can be offended. Until today. I recommend a book, I always recommend books, that came out a while ago, but it is a book which I

don't think is very current at right now. It will be current for a long time and it isn't <i>A Course in Miracles.</i> Now. <i>Conversations with God.</i> <i>Conversations with God,</i> especially the first one. It talks a lot about these things. You get it? What am I getting at now, with you, with this preamble, this heating up, etc., etc.? I want you to think, to reflect, to begin to realise... What I want is that you become observers. This book, says that divinity observes. Observes. And that she does not create events. Her infinite parts form those events. And

as they have the ability to do so, who is universal consciousness, the observer, to say don't do it... if that is a contradiction? How can you think that I, divinity, say you can do something and, if you do it, then say: "I'm going to condemn you to the fires of hell?" What is that all about? Because I believe in sin, because I think I've offended... Do you follow? ...that forms a stain on my unconscious, so I then have to do things to be good. In other words "I have to do things to please others." Does

this sound familiar? And that translates into our lives. And what do we always do in our lives? We do things to... Yes, you can say it... to please others. Look how far back this goes. This is the first thought. If I feel separated from the source, which is not true, I am going to live a reality that is not real, and that is called a curtain, an illusion... whatever you want to call it. Yes? Well, here is where it all began. Because I feel separate, because I think that I have sinned, Or because I think

someone is angry at something I've done, I'm expelled from... Well, I'm not expelled from anywhere, I've been expelled or I've left one state of mind to enter another. A state of oneness to a state of duality. And then came Cain and Abel. Cain and Abel were inevitable here, because our divided mind decided, and listen up, decided that there were good things and bad things. And from that moment, until now, we have been duped. Of course, if there are good things and bad things, then I enter into a dynamic that is called positioning. I always have

to position myself. I have to have an opinion. In favour or against. And then if someone says: "No, it's all OK." "Oh, you don't care." No, it's all OK. Things are neither good nor bad, they are perfect. They are perfect. How can you value health? My wife's daughter, who has physically been through a very painful process, always says the same thing: "The best thing in the world is to feel well." But how can we know that? By experiencing the other polarity. Knowing how to transcend those polarities. Perfect, then... the original thought. From that moment, we

started to make replacement thoughts. Here we go. "Your thoughts about yourself. It is that you are not good enough..." Does this sound familiar? "...not wonderful enough, nor pure enough to be a part of God, to form a partnership with God. You have denied who you are for so long, that you've forgotten it." I remember someone who saw one of my conferences - obviously if he saw it, it was because he wanted to, because I swear to God that I didn't call him or say anything like: "Listen to my conference because it will help you." No.

If you are here and you don't feel well, go to a pharmacy or doctor, but to me... I haven't called you. I want to make that clear, huh? So, he bought the book <i>A Course in Miracles</i> because he had heard that it transforms your life. And he couldn't finish it. He burnt it. Very good. What he doesn't know is that he is now condemned, not to the fires of hell, but he is condemned to learn it. Because that which you resist... persists. And what you deny, you live, you experience. And when you polarise and you

position yourself and say "This is not right," you just created an original thought that will make you live what you have denied and have condemned. Right, you have been informed, that's it, it's now up to you. I have done my bit by telling you. What you give is what you get. If you give to get, you lose. If you give for the pleasure of giving, you will always have. You get it? Emotional addictions are always based on giving to get. Because I think that I need, I think I'm not good enough. I think all sorts

of things. Because we believe we are not good enough, we get all this paraphernalia called rituals, we do things to please God. What do you think of that? It's a kind of addiction, like playing the pokies. "Oh, today I haven't prayed. Lord, I'm sorry, I will pray to you today. Tomorrow I will pray three times, and, look, as a punishment, four times." That's how it is. That's how it is. Think about it. Because that's how you believe your life is. This is what Neale writes in his book <i>Conversations with God.</i> "Thought is the first level

of creation, it is forever." In a universe, everything is information, everything is energy. But physics says that, and Hawking also says that. If you've seen the film <i>Interstellar</i>... Have you have seen it? Well, if you haven't seen it, it isn't bad. The point is that Hawking says that if an astronaut falls into a black hole and you observe this, you will see how they disintegrate. And you will say: "Oh my Gosh, they have died." But if you're the astronaut, you don't disintegrate. You'll be in another consciousness. OK? Because quantum physics, the pillar of quantum physics

is the following: information that forms matter can never be lost. And now, who says that death exists? There is only the fear of death. This is the worst thought original we can have, and it comes from the fact that we think we are outside Eden. You get it? My only intention is to let you know that you are not outside Eden, you are inside Eden but asleep. Some of you sleeping very deeply. You can't wake up from a heavy, painful, suffering sleep where you must sacrifice, pray, punish, not eat and a whole lot of things.

Believing that the great energy, the universal intelligence who loves us with a pristine love, thinks: "Suffer, damn you. The more you suffer, the better I fell." Perhaps you think that God wants blood and guts. I am here to say that the energy that sustains it all and that is the reason we are here loves us very much, so much we are unable to imagine it. We are so disconnected, well, mentally, not... That we think we have to do things. And she says: "Well then. That's fine." And we think we need time. But in eternity, in

consciousness, time does not exist. And what's more, this is proven by physics: time is relative. Do you know what that can travel faster than the speed of light? It isn't a body. And do you know why? Because it has mass. A body's mass increases as it reaches the speed of light, you follow me? Therefore, Einstein said, you cannot go faster than light. But something can go faster than the speed of light, And it is thought. Thought has no mass, it is a frequency. And when you think, it resonates throughout the universe. And when your thoughts

are belief, the universe gets to work. When your belief is dual, the universe is none the wiser. When your belief is holistic, comprehensive and unified, the universe always gives you what is best for you. Without pain. Without suffering. You don't have to give anything back in return. But when you are told this, your faces are like: "Whatever, that would be great." Well then. I will continue. "First comes the word, then comes action. Actions are words in motion. Words are expressed thoughts. Ideas are energies combined. Energies are released forces. Forces are existing elements. And the elements

are particles of God, portions of the whole, that sustains everything." There is only one reason to do something in this world, and this phrase is wonderful: "Let that be a statement before the universe of who you want to be, of who you are." <i>A Course in Miracles</i> says: "Declare who you are and claim your inheritance." Many say that we are Children of God, and I ask, not you, generally: Who really feels like a Child of God? Who feels like God Himself? Because they are part of this. It is a tiny particle. I remember saying that

in a conference and a lady wrote to me saying: "I am very offended." I replied: "Well, excuse me." "I am very offended because we cannot be God." Well, fine. Is my finger Enric's? Of course it is. Now tell that finger that it's not Enric's. That would traumatise it. Don't worry, you are mine. It might now get ill because I told it wasn't mine. You get it? Fine. Let's continue. That belief in sin... Do you remember this? ...and the sins of your fathers shall be inherited to the third and the fourth generation. And if you have

read the Bible a little or the New Testament When Jesus healed someone, the apostles asked: "Lord, who has sinned, this person or their parents?" Do you remember where it all began? At the... parents. Wait, hold on, I'm going backwards. Here. It all started here. You get it? Parents are to blame. No. It all started with parents. Very good. These are some great phrases from a film called <i>Palm trees in the Snow.</i> More or less. When you watch a film and you hear phrases like this, you say: "We're doing well." And it says: "Life is circular.

Facts are repeated. In other circumstances, yes, but they are basically similar. Like nature." Another one: "God does not send diseases, because God is good. Diseases are sent to us by our ancestors because we don't do what they want, expect us to." And the dictionary of psychoanalysis says... which is proof that what we are doing and getting you up to speed on are things, that have been said, that you unconsciously know. And it said: "Transgeneration is the chain of transmission Of meanings that is passed on from generation to generation and that encompasses ideals, myths, identifying models

and discursive statements that include it. But also what is omitted because of the effects of repression, so that three statements acquire the force of commandments whose determination is unconscious." Well, you know that in orthodox dictionaries things have to say be said in a complicated manner. Do you understand? In other words, information is transmitted from parents to children. But not to ruin someone's life, right? But so that there is someone who can transcend it, And do something different from others who suffered so that in this way, if you transcend the information, others will benefit including those

who are yet to come. Am I explaining myself well? And this is called an act of love. You get it? Not like the ego. "Sure, what fault is it of mine that my parents were imbecile." Does this sound familiar? "What fault of it is mine that my father was a drunk?" Well, it wasn't your actual fault. Your soul has come for a reason, right? I always say the same thing: "I didn't chose my parents. Did you? And if you don't like them, complaints sheet please, and send it to the boss. What do you want me

to say?" The only thing I'm here to do is to tell you how you resonate. For you to understand that everything around you has a reason for being. That it is your soul's commitment. What?! It's like that joke. Two souls are in heaven, and Saint Peter says: "Well, you have unfinished business to fix. Your holidays here are over. right, get on the train and back to Earth." They take the train back to Earth. And one says: "Carriage three..." And the other says: "Look, I'm carriage three too." They get in and one says: "Look, seat four."

And the other says: "I have seat five." And the carriage is empty. And both have been seated together, right? And the train with direction Earth pulls out. The trip takes a while so they have time to speak. And one says: "Well, we haven't fallen asleep yet..." The souls know that they should talk. So one says: "What are you going back to Earth for? What are you going to do?" And the reply: "I am going to learn how to make myself respected." And the other says: "Oh look at that, I'm the one who will be disrespecting

you." So they're already together. Polarity, polarity. I've only just started, so relax, I have more. Good, let's continue. Let's get into it, now that you are all warmed up, let's get into it, into the thick of it. The source of all addiction. Let's see what's going to happen here. When God comes across Adam and Eve, Adam says: "Eva made me do it." And Eva says: "Lord, the snake made me do it." Yes? Does this sound familiar? This is the national sport. What do you think, that something was invented there? Adam and Eve began the show.

Whose fault is it? Him. It then says: "And from here the projection and evolution of the ego arose. All projections give rise to perceptions and they are always a choice." Yes? Fine. Then the mother of all addictions arrived. Judging. The ING fell off, but you pick it up and put it back. Judging. Does this sound familiar? We are stuck in judging. That's why <i>A Course in Miracles</i> says: "Do you want to heal yourself? It's really easy: stop judging." They say: "Lord, Is there anything else I can do? I if you want, I'll walk to Montserrat

five times a day." We do it so automatically that we are constantly projecting on others the blame for things that happen to me. Do you remember that I mentioned a commandment before which was "Do not to speak about others?" Well, remember it. And now think of a situation where you love to project blame and judge what is right or wrong. And don't tell me you can't think of one. A small one. And change the way of expressing it. You'll be back. Let's continue. "Judgement creates separation between you and what you are judging. The belief in

separation creates a choice." I can always choose. "Choice implies projection. And so forth, in an endless cycle." That endless cycle has resulted in a separation, the first... Do you follow me, darlings? ...the first separation, let's call it original sin, creates a second separation, which is Cain and Abel. Do you follow me? And from Cain and Abel a whole race emerged, right? And in the end, no-one knows where it all started. You follow me? We have become lost in these separations. We continue to do that. We have become increasingly fragmented. We are so fragmented that we

have forgotten who we are. When, in fact, the game is about remembering that we are playing at not being. But we have forgotten. That is why awakening, becoming conscious is like a reset. It is like "Hold on, I know how to change this." And what I have to do, is change my way of thinking. Do you follow me? If I change my way of thinking, I'm changing information. But I won't change that thought. I have been told that I have to change my way of thinking three times a day: "My husband is a good man,

my husband is a good man." And at night: "My husband is a good man, my husband is a good man. And I forgive myself and I forgive myself again, in case I haven't forgiven myself enough." At the end they say: "I've been forgiving myself for 25 years and I'm still angry." They sometimes tell me: "I've been working this forgiveness thing for 25 years." I reply: "Forgiving takes an instant." They say: "I don't which instance it was. I've been doing it for 25 years." Of course. Forgiveness, that forgiveness is dual. That is believing you have offended

me and I'm good, and that I have to forgive you. This is not an act of love. This is an act of sacrifice. Such is life. Fine. "For this Ferris wheel to keep spinning, guilt is essential." How are you going? Do you see how addictions work? If I feel guilty, if I project the blame, what is my intention in that, my purpose? Think a little. This isn't a test. I promise. I'm just asking self-reflexive questions. What is my intention? Well, I'll tell you. To manipulate the other. If I get the other to feel guilty, they

will obey me, they will do what I say. Right? Some of you are doing this... Others do this... So that their reaction can't be seen. But don't worry at all. That's the national sport here. We do it unconsciously. "Oh, I was late because of the rain." "I'm late because of the traffic," huh? I reply: "What's the traffic like?" -"It's the same every day." "Well, leave a little earlier," right? If it's the same every day, leave a little earlier. Very good. The fundamental guilt. I'm landing. I'm moving in, huh? This, as you can see, I start

off wide and I'll end up in a small core. But people get trapped in the small part and then says: "Oh, I am so miserable. -Me more." So we start again: "But you have no idea. I can't even begin to tell you. -Well, I can't either." Here we go again. Here we go again. And it all starts like this. We are stuck in our miseries. Do you follow? What I'm doing is to take you from the general whole to your particular misery. And when I get to your particular misery, give it a good kick and

that's it. You get it? So then we'll open up again, we'll do this, then this. This is the journey that I'm going to take you on. Is that clear? It's like a funnel. And when we're all like this... I'll go. Very good. What is the first projection of guilt? It's always towards our parents. Didn't you know? "If I exist, it's your fault. I didn't ask to be born." I tell them: "If only you knew you asked God 25 times to let you come down here to have some fun." Very good. "The fundamental guilt, its essence

is victim-hood." Does this sound familiar? This is the greatest existing addiction. Victim-hood. The "oh, poor me." Do you know how much energy victims use up? Dracula is nothing compared to them. Dracula is learning. The victim, the person who plays the victim through life, is like a black hole. All there like this... Making people cry. "He's been beating me for two years." -"Damn, lady, so leave him." "I can't, I love him too much." "Well, then you're going to be beaten." "No, it's just that... I don't want to hurt him." I reply: "No, don't worry, you're not.

You're hurting yourself." Always talking about the other and sourcing emotion from a very poor vibration. It's called pity. Is there anyone here who likes people to feel sorry for them? Does anyone here like that? I've never met anyone who likes that. Now, I do meet many people who deserve to be pitied. But it's funny, huh? "I feel sorry for him." And I say: "The person who should be, pitied, in any case, is you." Notice that I do not speak of the other. I only speak of experiences. Addicted, addicts. Let's continue. Special relationships. Here the whole

story begins. We return again to number two. As I feel guilty... As I don't feel good enough... You follow me? As I don't feel sufficiently worthy... You follow me? As I think that I lack things... You follow me? What do I have to do? Find someone that can fill those gaps for me. Right? So we go on the hunt for someone who can fill my existential void. Then we began a series of really amazing stories. In search of Prince Charming. A search of the better half. In search of... Everything... The ego grows larger than French

Alps. In addition, we start like this: "I'm looking for my soulmate." I swear that you already sleep with her. That I promise you. They say: "But he treats me badly." I swear he is is only expressing how badly you treat yourself and the work you're giving the universal field to send you something so that you can express and live your feelings and thoughts that you are no good, that you serve for nothing, and that you aren't worthy of anything. You have the original thought. You have the belief. And whatever else simply compliments it. Ultimately, a

day in an angel's life is... Saint Peter lines them up. And says: "Let's see, you little angel, and the other one... You are going to work the negative polarity." Not the bad one. The negative one. "And you, the positive polarity. Right, off to work." And they all run off. Some look for people who vibrate negatively to match with the one that vibrates positively. Because birds of a feather stick together. Don't look for your better half. They turn up on their own. Have you ever been somewhere and met someone? You tell your friend: "I just fell

in love." "Really? Such strange things happen to you, man. We come here to fuck." "Well I just fell in love, with this girl." And she's like... And that's it. There's been... Then people dress the story up, they give it an angel who shoots an arrow... Well, it's actually true. That's the angel. The one Saint Peter sent, and said: "You, here, take a bow and arrow and get those two there, because they are enough sparks there to start a fire." And then they come to you and say: "Hey, Enric I don't know what's wrong with me."

And I go: "What's wrong?" And he says: "I'm always find myself with the same men and women." "That's great," I say. He says: "No, I don't like them." And I reply: "What do you mean you don't like them? You're attracting that, It's what you're asking for." He says: "And when did I ask for that?" And I reply: "97% of your psyche is asking for that, is unconscious. Become conscious." "And now what do I do?" I reply: "Well, what do you have to learn? Normally, what you have to learn from the other is what you most

dislike." Such is life. Fine. Special relationships. "Need arises from victim-hood and we seek to satisfy it In certain people." Just like I am explaining. Are we good? From there interpersonal relationships arise, whose characteristics include believing that the other will give us what we need. Special love arises. "Fear always nests in what is lacking, loneliness, deception or lies." And do you know what one of the things we are condemned to live is? And obviously I quote "condemned". Our greatest fears. As Nelson Mandela would say: "Our greatest fear is not reaching. Our greatest fear is recognising who

we are." Because when we say what we are, other people mock us. When I claim that I am a child of God many people say: "Look, Enric, he says he is the son of God..." And laugh. Fine. "I am the son of God, you are too. It's just that you don't exercise it. But you are." This is how it is. But, of course, what I renounce for myself bothers me when I see it in others. Thus the more something from the other annoys you, That is what you're renouncing for yourself. For example: you renounce your

holiness. What do you do now? You look for saints. And you ask them to give you things that they can't give you because you already have them. In fact, you don't pray to anyone. You pray to yourselves through someone. You follow me? Because we are not separate. And we began to establish special relations. And what it is the first special relationship we establish? One with ourselves. We talk To ourselves. Do you follow? The only special relationship that you need to heal is the one with yourself. But as we are not conscious of this, what happens?

That life brings us, as a manifestation, that person who reflects this part of you which you do not want to recognise. You follow me? It won't change anything when you wake up. It won't change anything when you become conscious. The same people will be there, but they will no longer affect you in the same way. we always do, in a multifaceted way, the following: We make the other feel guilty, Believe they can hurt you and feel sorry for you. These are the phrases we always use: "If only my husband or my wife did so and

so..." "It's just that... that I don't want to hurt them." Or "it's just that I pity them." Polarities in every relationship. As you know, polarities exist. So, every relationship always requires the principle of polarity. In other words, what do I mean? A man, the male gender, has one type of polarity. Women have another type of polarity. So there is attraction. You follow me? OK? Couples who come together, relationships between friends or people who love each-other... Do you follow me? ...complement each-other's polarity. In other words... You're going to miss the good bit. But, go, go, going

to the toilet is important. Polarities are complementary. But they both have the same information. What happens is that one polarity manifests that information in one way and the other polarity manifests it in a different way, you follow me? OK? Never forget this. When you argue with your husband, when you argue with your wife, I swear that you are both right. You with your polarity and the other with theirs. It's wise to think: "What am I seeing that bothers me that I am projecting?" You follow me? Is it becoming clear? We are here to come together,

not to separate. Very good. Resonance is the physical, vibrational, quality that activates every relationship. It is the essential communication. When I have a way of thinking... And listen closely. When I think that things are as they are, or the other way around, it turns out that I'm living that truth. And then I say: "You see how I'm right?" You follow me? Very good, darling. That's how I like it. Fast, huh? So this vibration... this vibration that you have projected it manifests in your life and we don't even realise. You're always finding yourself. Always. That's why

<i>A Course in Miracles</i> says that, to begin with, any encounter you have in your life should be holy. That is, why I am experiencing this? What do I have to learn from this moment? What am I projecting to experience this? You follow me? OK? Let's continue. "All our relationships are resonances. Information that look to be complemented," as I have explained. "There are no casual relationships. There are relationships that complement each-other. Are we in or out of phase." What does that mean? Or we spend the whole day arguing, or we don't leave each-other's side. They called

excesses. You follow me? We are in or out of phase, but we complement each-other. OK? We are on the same wavelength, we have that feeling. "All resonance looks for stability in projection." I always seek to look good by projecting myself in the other. Waiting for the other to do that which I would like them to do. Two friends say: "Hey, did you know that the man you are going to marry, that man, bla, bla, bla..." And she says: "Don't worry, I'll change him." Yes. Yes. Very good. The second relationship, and now we are really getting

into it. The first is man and woman. Or yin or yang. Or female or male, agreed? Negative or positive polarity. Understanding that negative polarity is not bad and positive is not good. It is a polarity. That's it. Yes? Fine. "The first relationship is always that between man and woman. The one that perpetuates is the second relationship." And please, don't be offended. "The mother-son relationship, The mother-daughter relationship." Now is when people begin to... "Let's see what happens here." And where are the men? Don't worry, they're here too. That men are here too, they are. The first,

man-woman, always conditions the second. The man... What does that mean? There is the man... Adam. Eve. Cain and Abel. Relationships after this, the relationship that women have according to their partner... Do you follow? ...conditions the relationship with their children. Do you understand? Because children belong to their mother, biologically speaking and emotionally speaking too, at least for several months. Until at least three years. You follow me? OK? Obviously, that does not mean that if the father is there, The child doesn't care. But there he is. Listen to this closely, please. The male-female relationship, will condition the

mother-son, mother-daughter relationship. You get it? Breathing heaving here, huh? Have you noticed how we're moving? Can you see? We're reaching the point. This is very important. The woman, from the moment she gives birth to a being, in addition to those months of pregnancy, her relationship with the father... Do you follow me? ...will affect her relationship with the child. Do we get it or not? Do we agree with that? You don't have to be very smart. This is how it is. Luckily today men get involved and they also feel pregnant. And they speak to the child,

they caress it and the child hears their dad, hears other things... Thank God. But the relationship that the woman has with the man also affects it, do you follow me? As I am a woman I will attract a type of man who will in turn ensure that I live an experience of motherhood That conditions my children. Do you follow me, darlings? No-one is to blame here, huh? Because here is when people get out the whip. No, no, no. We are here to become conscious. To change original thoughts. OK? Yes? Fine. Let's continue. All addictive relationships

have two polarities. An emotional deprivation, which I call an excess of negative, and an emotional abundance, which I call an excess of positive. And now we are really getting into it. So, emotional deprivation is usually a mother-daughter relationship. And emotional abundance is usually a mother-son relationship. Usually. This is not mathematics, huh? But my and many other people's and collaborators' experience, and I think my psychiatrist friend who is here somewhere, with whom I speak about addictions, he confirmed that it works this way. You get it? So, that excess of negative is usually the following. In other

words. It is obviously generic. It is a high percentage of generic. But this isn't mathematics. When a woman Feels, lives the experience of not being loved, not... being protected, call it what you want, by the man, if they have a daughter, there is a rejection. And if they have a son, there is overprotection. You get it? That's fine. It has tolerance levels. When there is a great emotional deprivation, many women have certain diseases often related with eating disorders. When it comes to man, It has much to do with issues of addiction, such as alcohol, drugs,

etc. You get it? Sometimes, if a man in a family is missing, the woman projects that void by being overprotective of her daughter. Do you follow what I'm trying to say? The daughter has an excess of positive. But women, because of their polarity, manifest both the excess and defect differently from ways that the man manifest them. This is polarity. Very good. Fundamental characteristics. "The fundamental characteristic in the addictive relationship Between mother and children is absent father and a very present mother." What I have just explained. For the unconscious, an absent father doesn't mean, they are

"with other women", or "at the bar" or "dead" or "in prison" or "with us but not really there". Do you follow me? Absent father is absent father. The unconscious does not judge. Is that clear? The father can spend all his time at home, but it be as though he weren't there. Do you follow me? And another father may spend a lot of time travelling, but be very much part of the family. I don't know if I'm explaining well? It is not a matter of being or not being there. It's a matter of how it feels.

Everything is emotional. It is not a matter of: "I am always at home." And the woman feels as though he isn't. And, then there is another man who might travel a lot, but everyone always feels as though he is present. And even more today, with WhatsApp here and there... But that's how it is. But at other times it isn't like that. Today, thanks to technology, these distances seem less far. But before one might travel for weeks and the woman had to look after, and then had to sleep alone. And biologically she lacks that male part

which, although she gets along and everything is fine, as many say, the problem is the put on the children. You are all following, right? Obviously, I am explaining archetypes, generic stuff. I'm not explaining specific cases. OK? Fine. "In the absence of the alpha male, the mother projects her care on the son if there is one. In the absence of the alpha male, The female distances herself from other females, normally." Characteristics of the absence of fathers according to the unconscious. Before anything else, as I said before, the unconscious does not judge. "It simply receives emotional information

of how a mother experiences that absence." I just explained that. Do you understand? I don't want you fall into the determinism of "Because my husband always travels, my children will suffer my projection." No. It's about how you live your relationship with your husband. Maybe he is travelling and she says: "Phew-y, thank goodness." Or as the anecdote goes: "Paquita, were you aware that your husband Is always at the ladies bar?" And Paquita says: "Yes, it's because he's so macho." And she says: "As long as the credit card keeps coming my way." She'll be fine, right? And

the children will be too. So: it isn't what you do that is important, but how you live. You get it? The unconscious doesn't understand what distance is. It makes me laugh. I hear: "I can't stand my mother so I've gone to China." And I reply: "And you've taken your mother with you?" Because they'll be thinking about what their mother would think all day: "Oh my mother. Oh my mother. Oh my father. Oh my father." You follow me? This is like that. There are no distances for the unconscious. You get it? Yes? Fine. "Absence is not

justified because you're working" as I was saying. "And for the unconscious, all absence is the same deprivation" as I explained before. "Addiction is the most invisible form of violence." And now we're really getting to the essence of addiction. It is called violence. To get into this, I had to reflect for a few days. Well, a few hours. Violence. I totally agree with what Laura Gutman says. Do you know who Laura Gutman is? You don't? She is a lady, I think she's from Argentina. Has anyone here heard of her? Few people. I don't get any royalties,

OK? For mentioning Laura Gutman. When I like what someone says, I say: "They say this and that." Laura Gutman is a woman and she has published several books on, for example, how mothers project... They say: "The child projects the mother's shadow." So like, as in a joke. If your child has been fed, he's clean, had his nappies changed, and he cries, we have to ask: "Mum, why are you crying?" "All forms of violence..." and these are Laura Gutman's words. "All forms of violence are generated from the lack of maternal care. Lack of quality of care,

warmth, hugs, altruism, patience, and so forth." And I would add that excess care, protection, care, is also violence. You get it? Laura Gutman talks about active violence And passive violence, and I refer to there being excessive violence and violence by default. and frustration is the projection of an unfulfilled wish in the other." Does this sound familiar? OK? In women, polarity, let's call it negative, when they are frustrated they enter into submission. It is a characteristic. And man into action. OK? She stands still and the other acts. Sometimes it's not like that, but in principle, it

is. Very good. How are our emotional addictions expressed? And watch out, cause we're really in the middle of it now. Oh, uh oh. They're saying uh oh over here. Relax, hold on tight, fasten your seat-belts securely. "All emotional adictions are violent behaviours and they are always directed against oneself." But there are several ways to do this. One, self-destructive behaviours. Me. I mean, I destroy myself through behaviours, do you follow me? I risk my life, do you follow me, darlings? For example, by drinking too much alcohol, taking drugs, With eating disorders, and so on. I destroy

myself. That is a type of violence, which one exerts on themselves. And I will not give all the expressions because there are many. I'll keep some. Example: a woman that only thinks about eating. Mum would beat her for eating in secret. Mum never saw her father because he was always with his mother. Careful here. How many women have said to me: "I don't know if I've married my husband or my mother-in-law." So we have a mum who has a husband Who is always with his mum. You follow me? This woman is missing emotional food, and

the child receives that lack of emotional food. And how do they express it? By eating. But because mum experiences it with resentment and guilt, the child does it and feels guilty. Am I explaining it well? Do you remember: "My relationship with my husband, is the relationship I will have with my children?" Do you follow me? OK? Well, my client's grandmother had to feed several children And she forced them to eat because the father was never home. So the woman said: "Eat, I have to work very hard so you can eat." And she wouldn't let them

not leave anything on their plate. And if someone even thought about leaving something on their plate, do you know what this grandmother would do? Beat them. Here again we have a woman who has a lack of male who has to overfeed or live the need to feed her children, and the children experience the food as violence. Eating for my client, and they said this, "eating, is like being punished." Am I explaining myself? I can't go into more detail, as you can understand. This story has a background. I'm just using examples. Fine. Drugs as a way

of escape. With toxic alcoholic behaviours, there is always a... Look. If I have seen 200 people with alcohol problems, they all have the same characteristic, an overprotective mum. And an absent, absent, absent father. Everyone, and I've seen a lot. And I have cross-checked with my colleagues and several people and this is usually the case. It's like there is an emotional immaturity. I'm so overprotected, so over-looked-after, that when I have a small frustration, I have to escape. And what is one way of escaping? Drugs. "Behaviours..." Listen up, we're going to stoke the fire. "Behaviours that look

to destroy through the other." For example, by caring excessively for others. Because caring for others prevents me from living my own life. Does this sound familiar? Uh. You can't imagine how many dozens of people, almost all women, who do not live their lives because they must, they have to care for... No, they don't care for their parents. They care for "that disgusting pig my alcoholic father." Their phrases. Do you understand? The issue isn't caring for your father or your mother. Am I explaining myself? The issue is when I'm doing something I oblige myself to do,

and what's more for a fucking bastard: "Because my father, this and that, he hit me, he was an alcoholic, etc." I've heard it all. Women who don't live their life. It's another form of violence. You follow me? Example: woman whose mother is depressed, and whose father is alcoholic and her three brothers are too. Listen up closely, huh? And she had a vocation. She was a care-giver, a nurse. She cared for people... Her job was to take care of people with drug addictions, right? And... Is something ringing true for you, honey? Hm? Oh well, that's a

good sign, because things are disconnecting, darling. So you yawn away, that's fine. So, look at the situation. She is the eldest daughter. An alcoholic father, a mother with depression, three alcoholic brothers, and she would look after them all. This is another form of violence, because this isn't good. You have to live your life. No-one can condition that. And less force you to do it. But no-one is not telling you to not look after people. I don't know if I'm explaining myself. Because some people take things to literally. Understand them as black or white, but between

black and white there are a lot of nuances. But ultimately it's what I make myself do. And, for example, and I've seen this many times, woman who is caring for her father, an alcoholic who she has always hated, and her depressed mother that has always been absent... Do you follow me? ...and neglects her family. And then the husband gets angry... Do you follow me? ...and she goes to women's group for women who are victims of domestic violence and says "my husband yells at me." Very good. "How our addictions are expressed and are all governed by

the same law." "I want others to love me as I would like them to love me." Does this sound familiar? Conclusive. Very good. You can go home right now if you understood that. In fact, we do very subtly, huh? Very subtly, but we don't stop doing it. That is, when, for example, a daughter... doesn't get along with her mother. OK? Oil and water. And they're always together, but not stirred. Together. She's angry, either because her mother calls or doesn't call her. It doesn't matter why. The question is they're angry. You get it? And she agrees

to care for her mother, or to be with her mother, but she is extremely resentment towards her mother. And resentment is always the same. "I chained myself to my mother, or I feel chained by my mother because I'm waiting for my mother to do what I'm hoping she'll do." And I answer: "Your mother, darling, loves you, she does. But in her own way." You follow me? "She only knows that. She loves you, the way she knows how to." That's when they begin to understand there is an addiction there. It is a very addictive behaviour. Waiting

for the mother do that which I'm hoping she'll do, and that she loves me, or waiting for my mother to tell me she loves me, or to hug me. That was like mine. Mine never hugged me. By hypnosis I learned that she hugged me when he was 11 or 12 months old. And then never hugged me after that. But when you understand, you liberate yourself and you're grateful, because thanks to that experience, it was very important for me to transform it and be where I am now. You follow me? Understanding my mother has helped me

understand all mothers. That's why I don't believe that there are mothers who don't love their children. It is not computable. You follow me? There are mothers who have to experience painful and very traumatic Experiences, and you can't judge that. We are not here to judge, right? Because if it all started with Adam and Eve, if it all started with men and women, if we forgive our mothers, if we understand our mothers, if we put ourselves in our mother's shoes, we are liberating everything... even Adam and Eve, get it? Because information is the same. Is that

clear? Do you follow, my darlings? In fact, even as a man, I believe that being a mother is one of the most difficult roles to play. And us men should understand that. At least understand. OK? Women need very little. They want a small gift, trifles and tidbits. And men ignore that. But, well... Let's see if... Men have improved a lot recently though, right? Fine. Examples of sons and daughters who complain about their parents, but are always aware of their slightest demands. They think their parents have them trapped, But, actually, it's me. Hear me closely, please,

this is very important. I have trapped my parents because I'm unconsciously demanding that they give me what I think they have to give me. They, in their unconscious, receive that, and feel guilty, and so they do things, but they don't know what they are doing and they're doing them wrong. And the unconscious acts. And we see two addictive relationships. I know this is a lot to take in, but try to get the essence. Today we are at a conference. I guess I'm explaining myself, aren't I? Very good. Then, "everyone feeds off irrational beliefs based on

the 'I have to' and 'I should'. The emotion that sustains it is fear, absence, the feeling of loneliness, not knowing how to live without the other." Does this sound familiar? This is original thought. It is based on believing that I am separate from divinity. You get it? The belief that I am... that being alone is possible. I can feel alone, but being alone is impossible. You get it? "All emotional addiction is a vacuum of oneself." That is why when I feel empty, I become a black hole, And I swallow everything up, no matter how much

I'm given. Does this sound familiar? Are you following? It's something... That traps us. In fact, it is very tiring. Very tiring. Especially for those who are close to us. That's why you have to move away to allow the other person to feed back off themselves. Worrying about everyone, living ever-body else's life, excess care-giving, is projected with the excess of caring for others. A women... This is a case, OK? A woman who collects dogs and cats off the street and, incidentally, also takes people into her home to care for them. Yes, the story goes that a

girl who has insomnia comes for a session. And says, and I listen, because I'm a fool, that she has a mental problem. Well, who doesn't me included, have a problem up there but, well... So I listen a bit and then say: "No, the person who needs to visit the psychiatrist is your mother." So, think carefully. She doesn't sleep because she's trapped by caring for her mother. But her mother looks after cats and dogs in her house. But don't think that she has two or three in the house. No, no. At that time when we were

talking she had two dogs and eight cats. You follow me? You get it? And of course... She did not sleep because she had to care for her mother, the dogs and the cats. And, incidentally, if a homeless person was bought to the house, them too. Them too. Yes, yes. Everything had an explanation for that woman, obviously. That woman lacked a mother. There was a total vacuum. I think she died when she was very young. She went to someone's house, and she wasn't looked after. Anyway, that woman had an excess of... She needed... to be looked

after, right? Do you follow or not follow me? So she projected that need that need for care, by caring. Why am I explaining this to you? To make you aware of your excesses. Observe them. Because your excess in doing something is the projection of something lacking in your unconscious. Am I explaining myself? Whether its good or bad is a judgement. Is that clear? That's judging. I'm not saying it's either good or bad, but there's suffering here. And therefore, we have to work it. but I wanted you to see that our behaviour normally, especially when we

feel trapped... That's what we do, huh? When I feel trapped in a relationship, in care-giving obligations. Are you following what I'm explaining? We are in excess. Stop. Step back, look. Look for thought. Ask, look, understand. Yes? And liberate yourself. Because you have full permission. You get it? You are not guilty of anything. OK? Are you following me? Really, darlings? Very good. Modalities of violence. Physical and sexual abuse. Just a note that this may offend some people. But I'm here, like many people, to understand, to forgive but not to judge, OK? Is that clear? It is,

isn't it? Because society judges and condemns... It's like putting a match to a tinderbox. It lights up fast. "Sexual offenders tend to be emotionally immature. It is something that occurs in men who have an enormous lack of care from their mother." Laura Gutman also says that, and that has been my experience. I mean, they are really, really, really, immature. With biological needs that they have no idea how to channel, like a healthy person. It takes a lot of love and a lot of understanding, right? Is that clear? There are no good people and there are

no bad people, darlings. There are people who suffer and people who make others suffer, with that suffering, you follow me? But never forget that if someone makes another person Suffer, that second person is also abusing. It all comes together. That is how it is. And you might ask: and what fault does the child have? Why is it their fault? They are not at fault. But this person also carries information, a resonance of abuse from above, and is here to be liberated. So when someone respects themself and clarifies things, they allow the silences and suffering of

many generations to be expressed. Do you follow me? OK? And you have to treat it with love, with much love, Understanding and, overall, liberating them of any guilt. Because these people suffer because they feel guilty. They don't tend to blame the other, they blame themselves, OK? The emotional demands of a victimised woman to their children. That is, a woman battered by her husband demands from her children the love that her partner denies her. You follow me? And the children are trapped. These are all synthesis of cases I have had. I mean, I'm explaining generic things.

And another very subtle one. Continuously give so that the other doesn't leave. Does that sound familiar? Look, someone who once said: "My husband can do whatever he wants as long as he doesn't leave me." Bravo. Very 21st century. Yes miss, well done. Let's analyse this. No, it's as real as I'm standing here. Or the news that was in the papers the other day. Woman who was abused in all sorts of ways, for 40-odd years molested by her partner, who also abused their daughters... Laura Gutman also says this, that when a man abuses his daughters, the

woman always knows. She always knows. A woman who says that, not a man. She always knows. And this woman has a lot of experience with these sorts of stories. Many. But when the child, her son hangs himself, she kills her husband. But that went on for 40-odd years. Another excess. Let's continue with modalities of violence. Partnerships. This is another kind of violence. You suffer, I suffer, we take a break and then, we suffer some more. Do you follow me? Let's suffer. Suffering is the order of the day. So we live in the invisible violence of

"oh, poor thing, poor thing..." Do you follow me? I told you that today's conference, was going to sting, I warned you, right? He who warns is not scorned. But I'm doing it with much love and care, as you can see. I'm not talking about guilt, but of course, right now I'm talking about forgiveness, understanding, and I understand perfectly that there are people who can't understand that. You follow me? I understand. That's fine, there is no problem there. Because victim-hood is the virus that feeds the addiction. The belief that my suffering is caused by the other,

do you follow me? And that's the national sport in all countries around the world. Transmutation. Now, well, I've really put you in the thick of it. I've gone... I could dip you in a bit deeper, but that's enough. I have made you think, I have made you become conscious of things. I don't want to do anything else. We will transmute all that, right? Let's stop playing polarity. "That's fine, that's wrong, it's just that my father, my mother, my brother doesn't look after them, and I do, so, why do you do it? because if I don't,

who will?" and all those stories. That's it, it's over. Yes? Very good. "The others are always a mirror. We see our lights and our shadows in others. We look to others to feel complete. Don't forget that we live in duality, in the belief of separation. When you have overcome a situation and you have assimilated it, when you see others, you will not be indifferent." If what you experience still gives you that feeling, that. Look. Have you ever thought that there are situations that repeat in your life? And you say: "Man, I have such bad luck."

No, no, that is Saint Peter, working hard at it. Sending out occurrences, time and time and again so that you forgive that situation. You get it? <i>A Course in Miracles</i> says: "What you call a test, isn't a test, because God doesn't test us. You are sent the same occurrences to exercise forgiveness, so you can continue." In other words, what you do not forgive you will repeat again and again. The proof of this is this. "I have forgiven him, but I won't forget it, huh? And above all: "When I hear that subject, I get a feeling

in here, I become really this, and then this." You follow me? Well you haven't got over it. "You have to investigate", observe without judging, which is what I've been explaining since the beginning. And Nisargadatta Maharaj, I think that's his name, says: "Suffering is a call to research. All pain needs to be investigated." Fine. Reflections. Reflections. "Mirrors are used to see your face, the art of using it, is to see your soul." OK? "Until the unconscious becomes conscious, the subconscious will continue to lead your life and you will call it fate." Carl Gustav Jung. "Why does

everyone tell me what I have to do? No, this is my dream and I will decide how to continue." <i>Alice in Wonderland.</i> Does this sound familiar? And we go on. "Yes, there it is, I have to go through it." Referring to the mirror. "No, you're too big, impassable." "You mean impossible." -"No, impassable. Nothing is impossible." Translated for Earthlings minds... What can't get through is our mental map, you follow me? The way we see and understand life. Einstein said it: "It is easier destroy an atom that belief." And gosh the atom needs a lot of energy,

right? Disintegrate an atom. You get it? So... I have the opportunity to see myself in the mirror, but not to see myself, but to see my soul, what I have to transcend, what I have to heal. You follow me? "Nothing changes if I don't change myself." We are coming to the end. "Liberate the other from satisfying your needs." "Learn to watch yourself. Your excessive behaviours express what you're lacking." This is the summary of everything, right? "Let your demand becomes your gift." "Converts all relationships into an opportunity to know yourself. You relate to yourself through others."

"If you change, your universe will change. If you change to change the other, your problems will continue." "You will find your salvation or your perdition in the other." "Emotional addiction is like a black hole, However much you feed it, it always wants more." "Fill this hole with love and understanding towards yourself, and project it to all that around you." "Giving is how you receive, know the source of your demands." Final reflection. "Don't say I can't even as a joke, because the unconscious doesn't have a sense of humour, it will take it seriously and will remind

you of it every time you try." Facundo Cabral. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you very much. I love you. I love you. Thanks for coming and thanks for making me think of this conference, that is for you and for everyone. Thank you.