majorie question that you received this past week had to do with the subject of relationships i got a lot of questions regarding twin flames and how relationships where they should look for those of us that are into this new shift atlantic but our relationships to miss jen relationships we have to understand that without a comparative experience you couldn't perceive you couldn't focus and you couldn't come to understanding about anything in your life than anything in general the relationships are creating what we call it systems and they create the conditions necessary for expansion i've talked a lot about the fact that your external reality becomes the reflection of any of your internal vibrations you are the center of your universe your university you live in it's just a reflection of the dominant vibrations within you that being said your relationships are the loudest reflection of your own vibration we could call them the giant mir so they are the reflection of all the good and all the bad person which is why your relationships as you probably noticed or a mix of vibrations something's couldn't something's not so good everything that is until the that she was going to come to the surface in your relationships they were shot themselves through the actions and the personalities of the people who you attract into your life so the question on everybody's mind nobody seems to be is marriage the good thing to do or is that something which is fairly outdated marriage has value the reason is this like i said before your relationships especially those closest to you which is there anything more clothes pin a partner in crime increased they become be diamond by parisians which you hope you can even attracted a partner in sheer experience that doesn't match your dominant vibrations and so a marriage partner will become the reflection of everything that is unhealed about you so when you watch somebody that's standing in front of the aisle that's about to commit themselves to someone for life what they're really committed to letting everything the until about them come to the surface in cuba listings in order to make the relationship continue is what i watch quite often especially nowadays when divorces very rampant your partner does exactly what offense to they become the reflection they become the reflection of both good things and bad things about you and when that reflection comes up a lot of times you don't like what you see him so i watch a lot of people who are ending relationships just based on not liking the reflection instead of seeing maybe my partner's behaving in that way what is it me does make myself a master that condition and how can i change that thing your marriage partner can be the most dominant thing carving u the excuse to heal all these unhealed about you by even saying i'm going to promise myself to you s the same thing as saying in order for us to stay married that means that i have to correct all of these things corrected about me right out of alignment otherwise our relationship conditions are going to be incredibly uncomfortable so in that way marriage can be the same as promising yourself too the shortcut two expansion the same way that we can talk about that though we talk about these new age relationships which also have value which is that love really is not restricted to one person or when gender that love really should flow freely which is true because everything that is in existence is an extension of you meaning that if you promise yourself to just one percent you are promising to express yourself only to one aspect of u which seems odd if you are everything that you come up but i i watch quite a bit when these new asia relationships become the excuse you're using to escape what is dark but i mean when i'm talking about dara don't mean i don't mean uh. . .
that there's this dark side and that's why it's a uh. . .
when you're talking about shadow side to dark says we're talking about a slow by brazelton cities that are present within your being uh. . .
annuities relationships can be an escape to the people use from really having to commit yourself to changing the issue is if you haven't come up against an excuse to have to change this primary discordant vibrations then you keep coming up against new people who are really same face different name same actions different person type of situations where you keep running and you keeping count reiki pretty heaping capturing and whereas if you are going to commit yourself to staying with this one situation long enough to improve the vibration within you one of two things that happen either any you change that averaged about you and you're no longer a master that person and so they fade not worth the effort now struggle they just fade very smoothly out of your life or else when you change your vibration you're no longer a master that behavior in the other person and so immediately that person's behavior will no longer be a part of your experience you can see this quite often when people improve their vibration or expectation of positive focus about another human being let's say that you're in a really really good news and your partners in a really really bad mean they're about to come home from work if your expectation that you have this high high positive focus and you have a high positive focus about them you're not projecting the fact that you expect them to walk through the door angry if they're in that modality in your investment ality that are not the original message of them they're grateful to take their carl potentially breakdown before they make it to the house because you cannot share of the space with something that's not a big racial matched to you and some relationships are incredibly valuable teacher because when you are experiencing negative behavior in another person you can stop and say what is it and meet you this reflecting through this experience i want to give you a a scenario which can demonstrate what i mean by your party becomes the reflection who you attract as a partner is a reflection of your dominant vibrations let's say you're a woman who is in a very abusive relationship you keep coming up against this person who is not only controlling the life that you believe but they're also making you feel terrible about yourself if u try to look for the counterpart which is calling this type of the person into your experience you will most likely find a dominant vibration of i am unworthy by and not good enough i hate myself that type of the vibration which was present before you ever met with this particular partner is the exact condition which attracted them into your life that's what's making you a match to it so the more that you work on self-love and the more you work on developing self-worth the less you can be a match to this physical reflection which is the relationship to your incorrectly it's at this point we should talk about self-love there's a lot of talk about self-love versus selfishness self-love this is the highest vibrational fang in this universe when you're watching somebody who's in the aspect of selfishness they're actually focused on the lack to focus on the lack of what they haven't so they have this hoarding type behavior where they feel they need to keep taking for mothers and taking from others so as to fill up this tank which is always empty and there porting everything that they have that type of behavior is what you call selfishness is the opposite of self-love span narcissism you're looking at with self love it and calling self-love is not actually self-love self-love is taking the time to recognize but the only way that you can attract any kind of external experience which is positive to you is by fulfilling your own needs it's by showing yourself the kind of love that you would hope others to show you and in doing so you will see a reflection of the that is how to have this relationship that you want so intensely relationship baldwin one really which is this reflection of love in the reflection of total acceptance the way you get to that point inspite creating that vibration within you earlier i talked about the fact that vibrations work a lot like a radio dial soap to receive channel that's being broadcast to the specific frequency you need to first to new york dial to that preconceived perceive that channel so how did you receive love future in your dial which it looks like self-love so a lot of relationships go badly a lot of you might say i get into a relationship and i'm in it for a year and i totally love this person in fact i think they're perfect but after a year i start hating them we fall out of love now i just don't have those intense feelings towards somebody we've talked before about how feelings are the exact reflection of the fact that you've been thinking so what happens is in the very beginning when you meet somebody romantic sense this very strong attack attractions reconnaissance this chemical cascade throughout your body we could call them sex scandals or bonding chemicals and does chemicals force positive focus they are really the excuse that is causing you without really intentionally doing it focuses only positively on the object of your attention so you're talking about how falling out of love we're talking about is feast this rash of sexual chemical starts to dissipate and will happen is that that puts the power back in the u your own personal hams in terms of possibly focusing on so instead of your body really taking over and forcing your brain to positively focus now it's back in your hands to consciously focus positively but most of us don't instead of most of this case we focus by default meaning we pay attention to what it is most often what it is that's bothering us and then that becomes our focus and that becomes our focus it strengthens the vibration and then we see more proof to that same focus so now more on a negative snowball where the positive focus wanes and that's your front focusing negatively this very strong chemicals of passion enjoyment of the so that person startling and then we think something's gone wrong in this society today it's a bit preposterous what we expect the people it is a natural thing for those of us who come into this physical to mention to know how to love to know all of the languages of love and we get trained in untrained in terms of how it's appropriate inappropriate to show up to another person so we understand who teaches us how to write abide fickle or who teaches us how to do a rift mystic that were expected as his people in this society to just come into being in immediately no despite what we've been cultured with to love somebody else at this point i would like to talk about something which i have found incredibly transformative to have encountered there is a city man named gary chapman as a therapist for couples for years and years became incredibly fascinated with the way is the humans express love to each other working as a relationship counselor he was seen couples coming into his relationships were ending and he wanted to figure out what is the variable here and what he discovered is that among all humans on earth really isn't restricted to any culture this is a worldwide fame humans in general regardless of where you've been raised on this earth five love languages and of these five love languages everybody has at primary level language and it that primary love language isn't met than the person is unhappy in the relationship that they're in ideally you would be able to speak and receive all five love languages so let's take uh. . .
let's take a place like russia for example for many years in russia is considered volker to smile publicly kind of a family that we would we would experience public display of affection here in america where somebody's really mak ing on each other it's kind of this social put off so it was a social faux pas to express yourself you're smiling or any kind of physical affection in that country if you come into that country as a small child whose for whose love languages physical affection uh. . .
you were talking very quickly that that was not appropriate love language to express and not only that your own love language when demand so you are likely to grow very unhappy person that particular society in america we were raised most of us with the christian lancet and un-christian mindset the idea of humility sort of makes an enemy of material kiss and if you love languages gifts then you grew up in america uart it is seen as a materialistic thang and so many people who grew up in america with the kids love language not only didn't get their loveland which meant but were learned but that wasn't an appropriate way to any express bluff this culture of the mission speaking up also interest rates family seven some families it's appropriate to express your love this way and inappropriate to express your love in these other ways you'll see when a child is growing up very quickly with their primary love languages is it'll be the way they try to express love to their parents so locate who may be brings a frog and for their mother to see really expressing a couple of language enough the mother screens and tells them to take it outside as this is not conscious message to the child and that guests is not appropriate way to show up so the five love languages are physical touch words of affirmation quality time and service for any of you know that are interested in going in and looking at these five languages of loans and debt i would highly suggest that because it suggests that in order to have a a really good relationship aside from working on yourself in the way that i just talked about you can do your relationship a world of good to learn your partner's primary love language to line up eleven which is really what you find is that even your worst enemies are trying to express lefties only in the way that they understand that may not be the way did you receive it but it's the way that they understand how to express love when i first uh. . .
went through this i thought like a complete locadia it's pretty obvious to me that the person i was living with time have a service lam language which is not my love language it all he would stand up and do the dishes something else i created this just have to be done to him that was his expression of love he was projecting lovin is missing the mark over and over again the relationship was unraveling because i was in interpreting his love language and he was not speaking mine your relationships will be the sum total of your emotional police and decisions about love and about others said because everybody watching this tape to go through what their real police are about other people and what the real police are about love and find out whether they are beneficial orchestra mental because yo reality is the projection of all of your police so why not only choose beliefs that are beneficial at this point the last thing i want to address this the idea of twin flames it if it went fine is that you have a counterpoint assault counterpoint which is that before you came down here you split into two aspects in male and female aspect per se you're looking for completion and once you find this twin flame he will experience that completion of being united as a totality i know this is that idea which the spirit of community uh. . .
quite enjoys because all of us know how good it feels to meet somebody who's soul envelop shuman who you feel such a common understanding with everybody hopes that kinda sensation but the idea of a twin flames quite odd when you understand that you are everything you are the treat you are at the rock you are this person you are that person you are your worst enemy sent to you to do is to focus your love and say i will be whole wants one tiny aspect of me is reunited with the in the physical has been taught when you have that experience of the soul recognition would call a soul grupo russell means or even as twin flame when source divided into a separate streams so let's say he got sick we're gonna do this in lic let's say that sources the ocean source has separated itself into waves within itself so away with a little shin could be considered as your higher self the soul which is eternal the eternal prairie view which he's flying to and from life is a wave within the ocean is that ocean yeah so that when you get is the weight of the ocean yes it's ultimately the ocean so if you're in your physical bodies are a wave within the wave within the ocean so when you meet this other person strike such a soul connection chord with you what's occurring is uart meeting a person who ultimately when you die you will become the same wave so your one wave within the ocean that has split off into two ways saudi security and more similar migration between you which is why you feel such intense residence when you step into the room with them that being said there is no one who can complete you beat you if you were going to transition completely into this state were you expressed itself loved yourself there would be nothing to fill the rebbe no voted there'd be no desire even to experience more being with someone other than you you would not seek completeness to any other person and so this is really the best way to go about it let's say you're one of those people who wants to experience idea of being with me and life who is like a complaint we're talking about in terms of conflict if you would like to have in your life and the best way to get there is too for yourself up with this vibration self-love learn it and let it to the point where you can track somebody despite bring on that level that means the minute you step into the room with and it's gonna be like you are meeting and complete magnification of that love achievements and yourself and that is how to attract this thing which we are calling it went fine it's my opinion personally that ultimately your goal is to love every aspect of yourself not just this one other person which is the closest break off of your soul it would be too not only learn how to love yourself it's love your enemy which she won't have anymore if you love yourself by the way well here in indy love your friends love everything that is learned the project that emotion towards everything that is and realize that it is all you have reflected there is nobody who can complete your review it can be answered depressing thing to hear but that's not the same thing is condemning relationships differently fabulous if you'd like to find a soulmate there's nothing wrong finals for me but the way to get their data so that you want to experience is by first creating a circumstance where you have no need for him and no need for them in your life so fooling yourself up to the extent where you can say i really do love me it doesn't matter huang counter and who i am within who i am not with and pull and i don't lack anything regardless of who he is a reason to makes periods and that is the minute that you're going to meet that person so hope you liked my demonstration relationships cap more question about it obviously you can write me and ask till today at gmail dot com Subtitles by the Amara.
