If you are someone who would love the floodgates to open in terms of you would love more things to just manifest into your life with ease, you would love to see your income go up, you would love to see your relationships improve, you would love to unlock a whole different level of your life quantum leap in all areas. But you are also someone who has identified in the past as being someone who struggles to receive, who doesn't feel comfortable [music] accepting more. Maybe you've jokingly called yourself a control freak before.
You struggle with the idea of letting go and surrendering and allowing the universe to shower you with blessings and miracles. Then hi, I can relate. I've definitely been there too.
And I've also come through the other side of it in general in a lot of ways and have got a lot better at surrendering and allowing myself to receive in abundance. And so the other day a fabulous woman inside of my aligned community asked me a question. And today I want to share my answer to the question with you.
I think you'll find it really helpful. So let's dive straight in. So she asked me, "How do I ask the universe for help without sabotaging myself?
I mean, I'm trying to tap into the feelings of abundance, of success, of already having it, and I've got gratitude down pretty well, but should I ever ask the universe for help? " So, I thought this was a really interesting question and I asked her to expand on it a little bit more and she said, "I mean, how do I ask the universe for help while staying positive and visionary? " So, I sensed from this question that there's a belief there that there's a limiting belief that in order to ask for help, we can't be doing very well or asking for help must be a sign of weakness.
Asking for help is something that you do when you're not feeling [music] positive, when things aren't going well. And that was really eye opening for me to realize that yes, sometimes that can be a false belief, a limiting belief that maybe many of us have this idea that I can't ask for help. [music] I can't let other people help me because it's a sign of weakness.
And if perhaps you've been thinking, you know, I've heard about ask and it is given. Ask and you will receive. you know, how do I ask the universe while also maybe you feel like it's contradictory when you hear people say live from the wish fulfilled, embody the version of you who already has [music] it, etc.
So, this is how I answered her question. I said, imagine you are effortlessly hosting a dinner party all by yourself and you have everything [music] under control. The vibes are immaculate.
The music is playing, all the food is prepared, the table is laid out. Your guests arrive and they ask you, "Can I help with anything? " And even though you've got it all under control and you could do it all by yourself, you say, "Sure, why not?
I would love you to help me. Please, can you help me bring these dishes of food through to the table? That would make things even easier for me than having to do it by myself.
And we'll get to eat even quicker that way. And yes, please, could you pour everyone a drink? It's great to be supported like this and to have this extra help.
Thank you so much. I wanted to create that [music] story to give you an example of how asking for help doesn't have to only be when we are weak, when we are struggling, when we are suffering, when we are helpless, and when we can't do it ourselves. On the contrary, since you value yourself and your time and your energy, since you are so abundant and powerful, [music] since you are a master at creating this beautiful life for yourself, why the heck not make it even easier, to make it even better, and to get there even quicker, you can ask for help while being powerful, positive, while being a visionary over your own life.
And when we put this into the context of asking the universe for help, maybe also sometimes if some of us come from a background of religion, we may feel that asking a power greater than us needs to be done in a form where we are begging, where we are lonier than thou and we are, you know, meek and and mild and all those kinds of things. And so again, it might lead us to feeling like asking [music] for help comes from this low place, that it's stronger not to ask. But the truth is the most successful people, like the top percent, the top 0 something% of the population, people who have acquired and created incredible [music] success for themselves, won't have done it on their own.
They will be good at asking others for help. They will be good at delegating. They will be good at collaborating, inviting other people in so that they can rise to the top together and better.
Equally, imagine a woman or any [music] person who is loved, who is adored, who is in the most incredible relationship with the most incredible partner. If she asks for help, if she welcomes help, if she allows [music] others to bless her and support her, does that make her any less powerful? [music] Absolutely not.
Does that make her any less capable? Absolutely not. So apply that to yourself.
If you have been feeling that [music] if you were to ask it would put you on the back foot in some way or make you lose any kind of [music] power, just know that that is a lie. Asking for help from others, asking for help from the universe increases your power, increases your potency, increases the speed at which things can flow to you, increases the energy that you are summoning to help you in creating the life of your dreams. And something you can do to [music] practice embodying this new energy and to improve your ability at receiving is in the small moments of your day practicing a different response when people do offer to help you.
For example, if somebody offers to open a door for you, accept it, [music] thank them, walk through it. You are not owing them anything by letting them open the door for you. [music] If anything, there is a great power that you possess by gliding through that door because you're being treated with [music] respect.
Next time you are hosting something, organizing something, if somebody does ask you, is there anything I can do to help? [music] Instead of struggling and suffering and being stressed in the kitchen trying to organize everything yourself, find something that they can help you with. And it's okay if they don't do it as well as you might do it yourself because the growth and the purpose of this exercise is you being open to other people supporting you and helping you.
You may just find that they do it in a different way that might be wonderful or even better than how you would have done it on your own. And most importantly, whether it's better or worse, you got to share the load. You got to accept support.
You got to receive help. You got to conserve more of your energy. And that increases your power and helps to show your brain that you are a person of value [music] who deserves help and support.
Next time somebody pays you a compliment, [music] just say thank you. You don't have to brush the compliment off. You don't have to talk down about yourself and say, "Oh, no.
Really? No, not me. What are you talking about?
" Just say thank you. It may feel like a mountain to overcome, but once you just let yourself say those two magic words, you will realize that it's completely safe on the other side to [music] quite simply accept and receive the gift of the compliment. Practicing receiving in those micro moments [music] will serve you in being able to receive in the macro moments as well.
And next time you sit down to connect with the universe or to pray to your creator, to your source energy, to whoever you feel a divine connection with, practice [music] doing it from a place of divinity in yourself, from a place of power, from a place of knowing, from a place of feeling good, from a place of feeling like you are sat at an abundant [music] table in a beautiful restaurant. It's a high value place and you belong there. And you are perusing this menu and you can [music] have anything you want from that menu.
And you are asking politely with gratitude for this fabulous meal that you want to order. And you are not doing it from a place of desperation or lack or loneliness or helplessness or not feeling good enough or weakness. You're doing it because you are excited for this delicious meal.
That is the difference in energy. [music] That is how you can ask in a powerful way while simultaneously embodying the most abundant, blessed, and powerful version of you. By the way, if you feel called to join Align, [music] my signature manifestation program, the link to join the weight list is down below in the description.
You can take a look at what's involved and if you feel the call, you can join us. Also, if you're looking to dive into something straight away, I've created something incredibly powerful called the 21-day release the blocks challenge. Imagine in just 3 weeks from now, taking one baby step forwards each day with a bite-sized lesson from me, being able to rewrite the way that your subconscious is programmed so that you can get your own incredible brain to work for you instead of feeling like your brain is kind of resisting the things that you want or working against [music] you.
Imagine when your subconscious mind is working in your favor. Then your autopilot is guiding you towards the very life that you know that you deserve, that you've always wanted to create. [music] And all of a sudden, it will just open up and feel so much easier when your brain is on side.
So, if you'd like to dive into the 21day release the blocks challenge, I will also put the link down below for that, too. If you're watching on YouTube, don't forget to give this video a big thumbs up. And if you haven't done so already, make sure to hit the subscribe button and ring my bell so you never miss another video.
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