[Music] you need a family you need friends like you don't need to have all these things but you better have most of them family friends career educational goals plans for you know time outside of work attention to your mental and physical health etc you know those are that's what life is about and if you don't have any of those things well then all you've got left is misery and suffering so that's that's a bad that's a bad deal for you so number one specify your damn goals because how are you going to hit something if
you don't know what it is that isn't going to happen and often people won't specify their goals too because they don't like to specify conditions for failure so if you keep yourself all vague and foggy which is real easy because that's just a matter of not doing as well then you don't know when you fail and people might say well i really don't want to know when i fail because that's painful so i'll keep myself blind about when i fail that's fine except you'll fail all the time then you just won't know it until you've
failed so badly that you're done and that can easily happen by the time you're 40. so i would recommend that you don't let that happen so that's willful blindness right you could have known but you chose not to okay so once you get your goal structure set up you think okay if i could have this life it looks like that might be worth living despite the fact that it's going to be you know anxiety provoking and threatening and there's going to be some suffering and loss involved in all of that obviously the goal is to
to have a vision for your life such that all things considered that justifies your effort okay so then what do you do well then then you turn down to the micro routines it's like okay well this is what i'm aiming for how does that instantiate itself day to day week to week month to month and that's where something like a schedule can be unbelievably useful google calendar it's like make a damn schedule and stick to it okay so what's the rule with the schedule it's not a bloody prison that's the first thing that people do
wrong they say well i don't like to have follow a schedule it's like well what kind of schedule are you setting up well i i have to do this then i have to do this then i have to do this you know and then i just go play video games because who wants to do all these things that i have to do it's like wrong set the damn schedule up so that you have the day you want that's the trick it's like okay i've got tomorrow if i was going to set it up so it
was the best possible day i could have practically speaking what would it look like well then you schedule that and obviously there's a bit of responsibility that's going to go along with that because if you have any sense one of the things that you're going to insist upon is that at the end of the day you're not in worse shape than you were than at the beginning of the day right because that's a stupid day if you have a bunch of those in a row you just dig yourself a hole and then you bury yourself
in it's like sorry that's just not a good strategy it's a bad strategy so maybe 20 of your day has to be responsibility and obligation or maybe it's more than that depending on how far behind you are but even that you can you can ask yourself okay well i've got these responsibilities i have to schedule the damn things in what's the right ratio of responsibility to reward and you can ask yourself that just like you'd negotiate with someone who is working for you so i want you to work tomorrow and you might say okay well
what are you going to do for me that makes it likely that i'll work for you well you could ask yourself that you know maybe you do an hour of responsibility and then you play a video game for 15 minutes i don't know whatever turns your crank man but you know you have to negotiate with yourself and not tyrannize yourself like you're negotiating with someone that you care for that you would like to be productive and have a good life and and that's how you make the schedule it's like and then you look at the
day and you think well if i had that day that'd be good great you know and you you're useless and horrible so you'll probably only hit it with about 70 percent accuracy but that beats the hell out of zero right and if you hit it even with 50 accuracy another rule is well aim for 51 the next week or 50 and a half percent for god's sake because you're you're gonna hit that position where things start to loop back positively and spiral you upward so that's one way that you can work on your conscientiousness it's
a plan a life you'd like to have and and you do that partly by referring to social norms that's more or less rescuing your father from the belly of the whale but the way other way you do that is by having a little conversation with yourself about as if you don't really know who you are because you know what you like you won't do what you're told you won't do what you tell yourself to do you must have noticed that it's like you're a bad employee and a worse boss and both of those work for
you you don't know what you want to do and then when you tell yourself what to do you don't do it anyways but you know what my point is is that you have to understand that you're not your own servant so to speak you're someone that you have to negotiate with and you're someone that you want to present the opportunity of having a good life to and that's hard for people because they don't like themselves very much they're always like cracking the whip and then procrastinating and cracking the whip and then procrastinating and it's like
god it's so boring and such a pathetic way of spending your time and you know what that's like because you probably waste like six hours a day what you do now is going to multiply its effects in the future so and you need to know what your damn time is worth one of the things you should be asking yourself is when you spend an hour was that well what have i paid someone 50 bucks to have had that hour and if the answer is no it's like well maybe you should do something else with your
time and it depends on whether or not you think that your time is worthwhile but the funny thing about not assuming that is if you assume your time isn't worthwhile what happens is you don't just sit around sort of randomly in a state of responsibility let's bliss what you do is you suffer existentially and so you
