if you struggle with confidence issues and you just feel like you can never quite believe in yourself for whatever reasons right you actually want to start walking into who you're supposed to be you're going to want to stick around till the end of this video let's make it happen no more of that [ __ ] we're going to take care of it all today last time this ever happens okay all right let's get into it oh boys we're back back at it again with another video listen today is going to be probably one of my
favorite topics because it was something I struggled with for quite some time and it's funny by leaning into this thing that I'm going to share with you and I promise I'll share it with you I actually was able to you know create a life that I'm very very proud of myself for right you're probably thinking bro why can't you put a shirt on honestly I wanted to get some sun I figured I'd talk to you guys at the same time but if that's what you guys want fine fine I'll put a shirt on all right
all right I'll Tu in like a gentleman for God's sakes okay that's enough though out of you guys okay tank Top's the best I can do for you a beautiful day okay I want to get some vitamin D you know the sun does hit different out here I won't lie I think genetics make a difference anyways we're here to talk about confidence and conviction and having real belief in yourself I'm going to tell you something part of the issue is is in modern day society and I'm here to tell you like dude a lot of
the stuff isn't your fault it's a lack of understanding how things actually work the type of advice you've been taking which advice is one of the most dangerous things you can take and at least for me I was the youngest in my family and I can tell you with 100% certainty a lot of the advice that I was given made me play smaller than I was capable of playing and I always knew this instinctually and you know that too you're fighting internally especially amongst a lot of you guys that really are the outliers of life
you don't see life the way everyone else does everything is just like you look at and you're like that ain't for me this is not for me and you want to know something like then you start looking especially as the youngest like I said for me as the youngest you look out and you're like well you know they're older so they obviously know better and I've just realized time in and time out it was my fault for putting my trust into someone else to expect them to have the answers to my playbook and the problem
is is with other people and this is why it's not your fault you've been told that the gift that you actually have is a weakness this is something I see especially amongst the people that are just different you're told there's something wrong with you I can tell you for me personally I was told I'm very very extreme you know I'm a bit intense I'm all in or all out I'm one gear all of it dude but what I did not realize because people like to package it up and send it to you as a dig
kind of thing and as a weakness and you hold shame for that you hold shame over who you are and as a result you start to hate yourself that's what happens that's why a lot of the things you look at with your own person you hate it I wish I wasn't like this and I should be like this and it shouldn't be like that versus just leaning into what you are it's like anything else a gun is volatile it can be a dangerous weapon or it can be used to shoot bad guys right by the
way YouTube don't don't kick me off okay it's just a it's just a little bit of a just an explanation to explain how volatile strengths actually are because your flaws and those are your flaws the things that you hate about yourself are your flaws but the flaws are your gift you got to let that go and it's funny cuz a lot of people are like well then like you know how do I weaponize it and that's a tough thing to do because it takes you developing your own personal system but a part of the confidence
that you have is understanding that you should not hate yourself for it because that is step one step one is do not hate yourself for this thing this is you people like you change the world I'm not saying that to be kind people as a result use a driving force even a lot of the people that do break out of that thing they use self-hatred as their fuel and that's just wrong WR you know you're not saying it's wrong in terms of listen whatever you got to do to make it to where you want to
be that's the only question you to ask yourself where do I want to be or where do I think I want to be you don't have to figure it out this isn't this isn't an exam back in school there is no right or wrong answer even if you think you want a big house and a beautiful view and all the money in the world and all the chicks all of it go for it you want to know why because that's step one what is the closest thing I can do to start getting me here and
now you're in the game and guess what the goal post moves by the time you get to those things you thought you wanted you won't actually care for them but you got to hold it play with it toss it around to know that this doesn't mean a damn thing but it was necessary part of your story that's why a lot of lessons like bro dude don't do it for the girls you know don't do it for this don't do it for the big house don't do it for this don't listen if that is your urge
that is your life that's your journey don't let anyone rob you of this there's a huge difference between hey don't touch that stove it's really really hot versus what I'm talking about I can tell you this right now nobody could have convinced me of anything anything that I had to learn the hard way I'm that guy I just have to I have to learn everything on my own accord and it's because I've learned taking people's words for granted or taking them as gospel it don't work you start realizing like oh that was just wrong that
was just wrong advice and I just thought that that was just yeah I mean that's that's how it is that's what that person said the confidence comes from you leaning into who you are regardless of how it looks to anybody you have to stop thinking about everybody else's model and how they're doing it and am I doing it wrong and you're you're playing life up here you need to be playing life from your gut I would have been a lot cooler if my shirt was off and I was flexing my abs really really hard but
I had this question and it was so interesting but someone was basically telling me he's just like you know I'm tired of being mediocre like I don't want to live a mediocre life I told him I was like mediocrity disgust me for me personally for my life I've lived the mediocre life I went into Corporate America this is real by the way I worked for Corporate America after basically trying a lot of things on my own for two years and failing miserably miserably failing you want to know why because I was just using everybody else's
model this is how you know you can make x amount of dollars in three months and X Y and Z just trying to constantly shortcut work cuz I knew I wasn't that guy then or I was like do I actually have the guts to just sit in the pocket of this stuff you know so I tried that failed tried failed tried failed we'll go into individual stories of me all the things that I've tried and failed at I mean there's it's a laundry list I mean I could make I could make several I can make
a ridiculous amount of videos on this but point is it got to a timer I was like you know what screw it this clearly isn't for me I'm going to go work for Corporate America and at the time my entire family was pretty worried about me in the way that's like you know they felt like my my I was always told I had a lot of potential in my life so what they would do is they tell me I have a ton of potential and you know you're not using a lot of the tools that
you have and you're starting to dull that pissed me off a lot and so as a result when I went in there I was like you know what I'm going to have to do it bigger than anyone else ever thought you know and I'll be honest with you that's always my fuel source When someone tells me I can't do something it does bring out the best than me or when the stack you know the deck is stacked up against me rather I do my best work pressure is on I have to prove them wrong and
that's only by winning I do my best work there long story short I got a promotion uh within three months of being there two and a half technically and this wasn't like a like a startup company I've worked for startups as well but this was like a big corporate company you know they're they're multi multi multi-billion Dollar business so they do corporate and like I as funny as it sounds I had h r trying to block my promotion because it was just so out of the norm but I realized in that moment I went unconscious
all I cared about was what do I need to do to be that and it helps when you understand how to articulate yourself and you're clear about who you actually are and you don't judge yourself for it you don't ever judge yourself for it in your life because when you do that you hold shame when you hold shame you start playing life on your back heels you start hiding parts of yourself and you feel like you can't really actually be yourself it's because of that shame you're holding from people told you when you were younger
these flaws that you have that are actually your gift those are the things I love about myself those things that used to [ __ ] me and I tried to change and I was trying to move it around and you know I I need to be more like this and trying to just basically get rid of the person I was finally when I was like no this is who this is who the [ __ ] I am and you want to know something I've always been this way always been this way instead of me pretending
that that's not the case or trying to become someone entirely different I just leaned into who the hell I am and as a result I I mean it there there's a confidence and conviction there and there's a standard that people can see that is just it's alluring it's Aura that's real Aura you can tell when someone's looking at like you look at some like he knows exactly where he's going even if he does he looks like it you know you're just sure of yourself because you don't blame yourself you don't hold shame you have to
let go of the shame your confidence legitimately is all being held like it's all right here and it's trying to push through but you can't forgive yourself for the things that other people put on to you the projections they threw on to you and you took it as gospel and there is a part of me that personally said you know what [ __ ] you watch what I do you want to know something the last 3 years cuz this was in 2022 since then I haven't looked back we're just starting 2025 so three whole years
going from an absolute four-piece chicken MC nobody and I'm still let's be real I'm still a four piece chicken MCN no buy but the difference is I'm a four piece chicken MCN nobody that knows exactly what he is and where he's going it's why I can have Aesthetics and I can look you know jacked and I can have you know a good amount of money and I can have all these things but that stuff is just it's the extras I know who the [ __ ] I am without all that stuff don't matter I can
be wiped back down to zero I could be you know I could wake up fat it wouldn't matter I would still do the same exact things I'm accustomed to doing every single day and it's because I live by my heart what what other option is there on the board you've probably tried to live life up here how's that worked out for you this is why I see a lot of people in the optimal space if you even have lifters or people that are all about models and like no this has to be correct and this
and they're super like just too analytical about things way too analytical it it works don't get me wrong that's other people's Playbook if that is naturally who you are lean into it but for someone to tell you that that is the only way to do it they're wrong you want to know why they're wrong because I don't do things that way and I'm exactly where I want to be that is the only thing that is right and wrong you're right if you're doing everything the way you want to do it and you're living a life
that you're genuinely proud of you can look at the man in the mirror and be like I know exactly who the [ __ ] I am all this stuff is a bonus I'm so happy and I'm so so thankful to be here I hold that a lot in my heart but if you think that tomorrow if this was taken from me I would lose oh I don't attach myself to these things these are the bonus I was living life how I wanted to without all this stuff without the body I wanted you want to know
why because I just started leaning in I'm like you know I know something in the beginning everyone's going to look at you like an idiot but that's where the conviction is waged you can't have conviction if everybody is on your side cuz conviction is doing what you you think is right regardless of the repercussions the consequences or what the hell anybody else thinks that is how conviction is wage it's like when people say I want to be more patient then you're going to have to put yourself in a situation where patience hurts it's how it
works you want to be confident you're going to have to put yourself in situations where you don't feel confident and learning how to wrestle with that you want conviction you're going to have to learn how to die on your own sword regardless of what the entire your entire family people around you people online all of them regardless of what they say that's how this [ __ ] works and it all starts from one thing and I'm going to say it one more time because I need you to understand this let go of the shame stop
thinking that you are flaws or weaknesses those are two different things your flaws are who you are fundamentally that makes you different that's what gets your wheels turning that's the off button that you don't have I don't have an off button I don't live in a life of balance and like well I need to make sure I get my 20 minutes of sun even though I am out in the sun but it really was for the video you know thought I give you guys something nice my point is is I don't need to be like
I need to just go relax and go do this I live in chaos but it's my chaos and I like living life this way you might not you might you might be like that sounds awful don't point is is you have to Tinker with your personal system that's what it comes down to and all I do in my process and what my page is all about is helping you arrive at those conclusions because the things that I preach are principled they're not methodical when it comes to working out I teach you guys how to do
this and this because I actually do have a feeling that my style of working out is pro testosterone I have a feeling because I don't know according to these optimal lifters I don't lift optimally whatsoever but somehow not to be a dick I'm just being honest I look vastly better than how they look even though they do everything correctly and have been for a decade my point is is that's what like you can break all the rules you can break them all when you live life under your jurisdiction you let go of Shame you're like
you I know something I'm going to wear my heart on my sleeve I'm going to wear my insecurities yeah I'm insecure this is why I'm probably insecure who gives a [ __ ] how does that change anything that you want to do in your life because these are all tools Fitness is the tool for me that callouses my mind it hardens my mind to give me everything that I want makes me just it puts that real voice at the Forefront that's says you know what know something you need to be doing this and you just
do it you spring into action with speed and precision then you have other parts of your process right everybody has these things where it's like you know routine and this and that you need to find the thing that works for you forgive yourself understand you ain't going to get it right out the gate it's just not how it works that's what confidence comes from it comes from knowing that no matter what happens I'm still going to wake up and do what I need to do every single day cuz I know who I am that's character
it's compelling those things that you want the girls that you want that's what they love they can't verbalize it that's what they love like dude this guy is just like you could see it like he's just he moves under he beats to his own drum that's what people love that's where opportunities start coming in like you see like and for sure the sculpted body is a side effect of how I think I'm in vastly better shape than even a lot of steroid users and because in my head I'm principled these are the things I want
to do and like even the way I think of working out like well there's you know there's three different muscles in your shoulder there's the rear delt there's the side there's the front I want to make sure I'm getting stronger I need to make sure that I'm touching up every single muscle in my body it's a fun puzzle piece for me to put together you get what I mean in my head I'm like well I want to make sure my rear delts are stronger but also getting enough stimulus to grow okay you know I know
something I'm going to do my super set framework real ones you guys know about the superet framework we won't get into that into this video you'll have to hop on the other ones but point is is this is a part of my process this is how I came up on the style of lifting this is how I came up on my philosophy of life you know I'm tinkering I constantly want I want everything I want to be undeniable right now that is the only pursuit in my mind is to become so damn good I have
to be the best in my field I've been that way since I was five and versus being like Ramy why are you like this you shouldn't be like that you shouldn't put so much pressure on yourself you know you shouldn't be that competitive like why do you care so much cuz I care and a lot of times like we go into our mind like you know why why do I care and you start going into this just mental gymnastics of things that you come out with and you're like even if I did know this where
does it take me I can tell you for me I I went introspective for a very long time in my life and I'm happy that I did don't get me wrong because I understand other people a lot better because then you start realizing we're all the [ __ ] same you know obviously there's some people that just have certain things where it's like for me obviously I know I'm inherently different from the average person but at the end of the day we all want the same stuff dude unconditional love we want to feel like we're
good enough that's it and the thing is is someone else telling you you're good enough you know this it's not real because you'll need the other person and the next person the next person continuously tell you that to give you your your your dopamine hit that makes you feel good enough you constantly need a new supplier these games aren't worth winning but when you can look at yourself and feel that way it won't matter it won't matter if everyone told you you're a piece of [ __ ] or obviously everyone's telling you your piece of
[ __ ] maybe you actually are you know but the point is is you have to listen to yourself you just have to listen to yourself you have to scratch certain urges man man you all know something I want to try that but I'm worried we all die man we all go to the grave and honestly I think my grandfather passing who was I can honestly say you know one of my heroes him dying at a young age made me realize that it's like time waits for nobody man it waits for nobody why do you
care what Jo Mo thinks of you just because that person said that about you does not make it true I'm the hardest I've ever been on myself you want to know why because it's my standard it's who I am as a person I refuse in my life to let anybody dictate how I feel about things that's the problem everybody looks to everybody else for the answer key how to feel am I doing okay am I doing this right what about you you're the one living in your body start living in first person this is how
I feel about this because this is I'm here what else can I do I can't be in that person's body you want to know something you wake up every single day and you're like dude I wouldn't switch places with anybody in the world and you might think that that's not true I am telling you this I would not switch places with anybody on Earth because I know exactly where I'm going and it's because of the things I do every single day and I do them because I know that instinct wise I'm listening and it's my
job to spring into action so regardless let go of Shame start forgiving yourself and allow yourself the feeling of confidence allow yourself to feel unsure of yourself to get through the only way out is through just push through and I'm telling you this right now the more you go through these feelings of like dude I don't know how this is going to end and you come out on the other end and you're still alive and you did exactly and honestly if you win when you win after feeling that over and over and over again that's
the conviction you're looking for that's the confidence that you want because you know that you know something I look back in my resume and I'm happy with what I did and then you want to only continuously move that forward and get better and better and better but it all starts from step one and you got to let go of the shame and understand that those flaws are what make you different and you should love yourself for it anyways little bit of a weird video I don't even know um I feel like I was just blabbering
to be honest with you um not blabbering but I came with the idea of what I wanted to do this video and then sometimes I listen to something else see I just follow I I beat to My Own Drum you know even if it gets you know three views whatever you know that's how it works but regardless all joking aside man I appreciate you being here thank you for watching this video if you made it till the end as always guys you guys know this drop it down in the comments tell me what you think
about this this is you know laid out chillax talk even though it wasn't very chill seemed a little bit intense but it's what you get on this channel anyways I love you guys very much to the Natural Crusader from Uncle Ramy out peace boys yeah all right that didn't work
