Haven I am confident when presenting to an audience but I struggle with online behind a camera with no audience what is the key skill to helping me overcome this brain fog first of all I just want to say Anonymous that this is hard for all of us this is hard for everyone because the ability to in a way perform for the camera is a very different ability when compared to performing on stage for one fundamental reason the one fundamental reason why it's different is because when you're on stage when you give energy to an audience
and you do it well you're also getting energy back in return whereas all of a sudden if you think about it while I'm recording this Q Anda there's actually no audience there's no one here actually giving me any energy in return which then makes it a really unfair exchange if you think about it whereas for a lot of times when you're presenting in person you presenting in person it energizes you whereas here when I'm doing a video like this it actually depletes me so again it goes back to the importance of having different things that
you can do to rejuvenate yourself that's really important so I just wanted to start with that by saying we we all are not as good on camera as we are when we're in person it's a very different skill set they're two very different skill sets another big key to being better on camera and presenting virtually online is energy the moment someone sits in front of a camera their energy levels drop significantly right because it's not natural to have such high levels of energy when you're just talking to a camera I mean there's nobody in the
office and I'm talking as if there's people here if someone was watching me to the side they'll be like oh man Vin there's no one actually there you're not even talking to anyone you're being so weird it's a new way of communicating that many people are not learning and they're not mastering this particular skill set which means there's a huge Advantage for those of us who are willing to put in the work to become better in this particular medium if you notice as well I want to not only have more vocal presence in this particular
Arena because by increasing volume playing with my vocal foundations changing between archetypes I'm now able to be vocally Dynamic and I have to amp it up an extra level now not only do I have to do that auditorily I also have to do that visually so if you notice I'm trying to take up the entire screen here that I have access to because the more of the screen that I take up the more vibrant I come across visually and that's what they call virtual presence there's such thing as virtual presence and there's such thing as
physical presence and both of them are based around the same thing how much space are you taking up in person how much space are you taking up with the box that you've been given if you enhance these two areas you're going to come across much more influential when it comes to Virtual communication next question we got here from Anonymous Vin what's a great small talk technique there are many but I'll sh with you one there's something I call 321 and 321 essentially is three steps to two types of and the one thing I'll explain so
let's say all my my friends are talking and and I wanted to join in on the small talk and let's say for example they're all talking about giving gifts okay they're saying giving gifts they're talking about oh you know people don't really know how to give gifts really well and you want to get involved in on that small talk well then you can just have a framework in your own mind to think well there are three steps to giving a gift there are two types of gift giving and there's one thing you all have to
know when it comes to gift giving and you can just pick one of those things to be able to contribute to the conversation so let's say for example you pick the three steps to you could in that moment have that framework and if it's your turn to talk you can say oh I love that we're talking about gift giving you know when I think about giving gifts I think about there are three critical steps number one is you have to do your research you have to do your research on the pro on on the person
the number two is you want to use Google as your friend so once You' kind of done the research you know what they want use Google as a really important tool to be a to find reviews on what you're going to get that person and then number three I think the most important step once you got the gift is the gift wrapping and the card I think that is where it's at that's just me improvising so that's one way you can engage in on the conversation it just gives you a framework and then maybe it's
two types and then you think okay it's your turn to talk maybe you didn't choose the three steps you chose the two types you can simply say something like this you can say oh you know well if you're asking me I think there are two types of gifts there are material gifts and then there are gifts that are experiences and I got to tell you I love receiving giving gifts that are experiences and that's why I love giving gifts that are experiences so all of a sudden it gives you a framework to be able to
take all of these thoughts you have on a particular topic and it allows you to put it through a framework to be able to engage in some small talk or you can say the one thing right so again remember 3 2 1 three steps two two types of and the one thing you can say the one thing for me with gifts that's really important is it needs to be thoughtful it can't just be expensive it needs to be thoughtful and and when I get a gift where I know that person spent time thinking about what's
important to me and that that to me means everything and sometimes it has no real material value but the emotional value is super important right that is a wonderful Small Talk framework that I use when I'm out and about with my friends when I'm out and about communicating with new people and I want to jump in and talk about something that they're already talking about I use the 321 framework hey Carlos with the next question what's a good daily routine you recommend for someone who wants to communicate in a more articulate and energetic way I
think in order to become more articulate you need to engage in all of your facial expressions when communicating the facial exercises are a fantastic daily routine to get into it's making your face big and small big and small big and small 30 seconds after that moving your draw from side to side side to side 30 seconds after that it's about moving your eyebrows up and down up and down up and up and up up and down 30 seconds after that you also want to pretend your chewing a really big piece of gum 30 seconds and
then after that you want to do lip trills 30 seconds and I would even add into that do the siren technique the siren technique grab a book turn to a random page and then you start reading with a low pitch in China in the early 16th century BC the kingdom of wo began a war with the neighboring Northern provinces of the Middle Kingdom don't be afraid to go really high and then you come back down for centuries the Chinese culture by defeating the Middle Kingdom the king of woo would instantly raise his status so when
you're doing this there's going to be lots of breaks everywhere you notice yourself going right now I'm going to go and the reason those breaks happen is because you're trying to transition between Notes too quickly so all you have to do to try to smooth out those notes a little is you want to be able to move between the different notes slowly and one of the reasons why I do the siren technique is because it wakes up your voice and if you did all of this and it would take you my goodness it take you
3 to 4 minutes this would this would just wake all of your articulators up when I get up in the morning you know you wake up and you're like oh oh is it morning already what the hell your voice hasn't woken up your face hasn't woken up your body language hasn't worken up you do all of this all of a sudden it's a gear shift It's a Wonderful gear shift these are wonderful little ways just to wake your voice up wake your face up and help you be more articulate more expressive more energetic I also
believe mindset has a lot to do with it and when I think about making these videos this is the mindset that I have I just think to myself Vin you have an opportunity here to serve hundreds of people and if you don't do these q&as in the right way if you're not generous with your energy then even if you say the right thing the person on the other end of this Vin they may not be inpired to take action and Vin if you truly want to create change something you say in this video could radically
change someone's life but if you don't say it in the right way that is a missed opportunity and now they're not going to take action and you will not change anyone's life so then is an absolute honor to have the ability to change somebody's life take it seriously don't take it lightly you change the world by changing one person's world at a time and and I kind of have that mindset and and by having that mindset sorry I booger but having that mindset really inspires me to give you the best version of me I possibly
can and you've got to understand too that Carlos when you're communicating anytime you're talking to anyone you have the opportunity to change their life I know so I know it sounds like hyperbole I know it sounds like oh Vin that's so dramatic but it's true it's true I I still remember when I when I first did one of my first Keynotes ever I remember walking off stage and the CEO of the company walked up to me and he said these words to me he said have you done this before and his word choice and the
way he said it ruined my entire week because I just went oh man I suck I absolutely suck I shouldn't be a keynote speaker I shouldn't do this maybe I just go back to being a magician and it just destroyed my week and then after a week I got a call from him and on that call he said hey Vin I thought about what I said I apologize I I I only said that because you know we paid you a lot of money and and you didn't do that great of a job and and I
I I could have been more elegant in the way I went about it what I've done is I want to set up a call for us 30 minutes I'm going to walk you through how you can improve and on that 30-minute call he reinspection he really turned it around I mean he did use it to punch me in the face metaphorically speaking but then he after that he came along and gave me a hug which was a very confusing experience but it just goes to show that a conversation you have with someone if you do
it in the right way use your voice in the right way your selection of words has been chosen carefully you use the right archetypes that talk or that conversation for someone could be life-changing
