12 ways a wife can show respect to her husband. Now if you didn't watch my previous video - 20 ways a husband can show love to his wife. Make sure you watch it right here.
Now let's get into it. Number one, listen without interrupting. 1 Peter 3:1 it says, "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives".
Wives, you can win your husband with your conduct without condemning. Women have the power to influence men with words. We can either build a man up with our words or destroy him.
Eve influenced Adam to sin. Abigail influenced David away from committing sin with her respectable words. Abigail, she didn't lecture, nagged, quarreled with David.
She emphasized his calling, destiny and integrity. She didn't do it by being negative, focusing on how stupid and wrong d David was and David experienced the power of being forgiven of sin but this time when he encountered Abigail, he experienced being kept from sin. As you know the story, David was about to go to wipe out this whole family unit because they hurt him, offended him, etc and so there is this power that every wife has and that is to be able to listen to her husband without interrupting.
The second thing that a wife can do to show respect to her husband is avoid belittling him and being sarcastic. Proverbs 12:4 it says, "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. " See a wife is either a crown or a cancer.
That's according to Proverbs. A wife can be a cancer meaning, criticism, constantly making fun of him, comparing him to other men, disrespecting your husband publicly, belittling him in front of the the kids, shaming him from not being spiritual enough, always lecturing and nagging at him, always complaining and being negative, controlling, manipulating with tears, withholding sex to make him feel humiliated on the inside. Number three a wife can do to show respect to her husband.
Affirm him verbally for his work. Men as you know they're more drawn to work. There's probably a Biblical reason for that because we came from the ground.
God created guys from dirt and he made women out of the rib. So man seem to be drawn to dirt, work and doing that stuff and to some degree, it's sort of their identity. They get drawn to that and if they're not careful, they can find their identity in work instead of God but men have this pool to provide, to work with his hands, to work, to build something and we have to be careful as husbands that we don't make work into an idol and ignore a family but a wife can really show respect to her husband by affirming him verbally and especially for his work.
That's huge for man. It builds his self-esteem. You know every time that I preach and my wife compliments me, it's huge.
I can have a thousand people compliment me, you know and those compliments are like a gum. I chew it and I have to spit it out. I can't let it go inside of me.
I can't let it go into my head but when my wife compliments me, that's like an affirmation. That is not a gum, it's more like peace of bread because it builds my self-esteem. It builds my self-worth and no, I'm not relying on my wife for my identity but it makes a big deal when the woman that knows me well, trusts in me, loves me and affirms me verbally for the work that God called me to do.
Number four, support his goals and aspirations. The Bible says in book of Genesis that God created a wife to be a helpmate. Now today for people who drink the Kool-Aid from the cultural woke propaganda, this idea that a woman is to be a helpmate to her husband drives people crazy.
How dare does the Bible say. It belittles women. Absolutely not.
The word help there is the same word that's used for God. When God helps us, does that belittle Him? Does He stop being God?
Absolutely not. Men and women are equal but a woman has this power that a lot of women do not realize and that is to be able to support her husband and his operations. I heard this story one time when a wife was driving with her husband and he was a multi-millionaire and as they were driving by, they saw this person and he was working at the gas station and the husband looked at the wife and he says, aren't you glad you're not married to him and she said, no.
And the husband says, what do you mean? Look, I'm a multi-millionaire and you're blessed to be married to me. She said, not really.
She said, if I would have been married to him, he would have been a multi-millionaire as well. A woman that knows her value, her worth and her power and that is to encourage her husband, his goals and aspirations. Number five, a wife can show respect to her husband by taking care of her appearance.
Now men are more visual than women and their eyes usually are the ones that could wander. This is not in any way to excuse husband's lust by now putting the pressure on his wife to be someone she could never be but at the same time, every wife must understand that she needs to take care of her appearance because that shows to her husband, respect and a wife usually did that when they were dating. Of course, children come, you know our bodies change, we grow older but we're still beautiful in God's eyes and I think when every wife begins to feel beautiful on the inside and then she expresses that by taking care of her appearance, it communicates huge respect to her husband.
You don't have to be some Hollywood model or you don't have to be like a girl like some somebody else, just be the best version of yourself and your husband will take notice that you are doing your best to take care of your appearance because number one, you're a reflection of God's glory and number two is because you want to stay attractive to your husband and in his mind, you're supposed to be the only standard of beauty out there. Number six, prioritize sex. Sex is a superglue in marriage.
It's reserved for married couples. There's something about it that it brings unity, it brings connection. In fact, the first reference of sex in the Bible.
It says, Adam knew his wife and it implies sexual relationship and so there is a knowing that happens, there's a connection that happens. For a husband many times, he feels most connected to his wife through the physical sex. There's emotions that are released.
For a wife, she gets more connected emotionally. Man usually get more connected physically and so a lot of times you know wives can make excuses. Sometimes, they're legitimate ones and husbands need to do their best to make their life easier and better but at the same time, wives can also help to show respect to their husband because when a wife constantly rejects her husband from having a sexual relationship with her, she humiliates him.
He feels humiliated. He feels not good enough and a lot of times, if that is done constantly and then there's a lot of belittling, constantly calling names and everything, it pushes that man and then the devil presents a temptation on the side, Hey just go watch porn. Hey go masturbate and go do all of these things while these sins could never be excused or blamed on the wife.
Temptations could be made easier for a men to overcome if they have a healthy physical intimacy life. It's kind of like this. You are not probably going to be distracted by a fast food restaurant if you have a good meal at home.
Number seven, yield to his leadership. Again, slightly controversial topic in our culture but I'm going to stick with the scriptures. In the Bible, 1 Peter 3:1 it says, "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives," as I mentioned that earlier.
Ephesians 5:22-24 " Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands.
" Submission in marriage is like a yield sign on the road. Failure to yield results in disobedience and marital problems. So think of an 18 wheeler that has to yield to a Kia.
Road rules help us to be safe. Now some of us don't like the rules, we shouldn't be on the road. The Bible gives us rules for the relationships.
Now, some women are type A you know entrepreneurs, powerful, dynamic leaders and a lot of times you read these verses, you're like no way. I'm going to be submitting to that guy. He is a Kia and I'm an 18-wheeler but imagine if you will take this philosophy on the road and let's say, you're driving an 18 wheeler.
You're looking at the yield sign and you say, I'm not going to be yielding. I'm an 18 wheeler. I'm just going to do whatever I want.
I don't care about the rules. Rules discriminate. You will have an accident.
You will have a ticket and you will lose your license. God from heaven created rules for relationships in the church and in the family, specifically in the family. God said, Husband is to be the head of the wife and the wife is to submit to his leadership.
This does not mean that you as a wife are less than because if that would mean that you're less than because you're submitting to your husband's leadership then Jesus Christ is less than the Father. Jesus submitted to the Father yet they're equal. The Holy Spirit puts all the glory, all the attention on Jesus yet they're equal.
So God shows from His unity relationship within the Trinity for us humans, how we should live in our relationships. The whole idea of submitting and the whole idea of yielding has nothing to do with inequality or being less than. Otherwise in the Trinity, God the Father would be greater than the Son and the Son will be greater than the Holy Spirit but the Bible says, they're equal.
So get rid of this cultural propaganda that somehow as a wife if you're submitting to your husband, it makes you less and that. . .
stop drinking from the cultural woke feminism and believe in the word of God. I can tell you one thing, God's word works. How do I know that?
Look at the Trinity. Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. Do you see the unity there?
Same unity and blessing will be in your marriage if you follow the godhead in your family and submit to God's rules on of the road. Less accidents, less headaches and God's blessing. Number eight, one of the ways a wife can show respect to her husband is to give him space.
A lot of times when men get overwhelmed, especially things get tense, they seem to need space. Sometimes literally a space for an hour and just breathe, collect their thoughts and then they can come back and giving him space doesn't mean that he's going to leave you, doesn't mean that he's rejecting you. He just needs space to breathe and then he can come back and work on whatever that you have.
Number nine, stay loyal, be faithful. Number ten, show interest in his activities and do them together. One of the ways that men open up and become involved with their wife's life is when a wife shows interest and does an activity together.
For a man, it's a lot more difficult to connect and communicate just sitting across and eating. Typically men love doing something, some kind of a physical activity that just opens up. First there's like this quietness.
I know some men who would go with their wife you know and doing some kind of a sport and they wouldn't say a word for an hour and then you ask them and they feel so connected to their wife for some weird, bizarre reasons but that's how men are. They feel a lot more connected through an activity than through talking. Number eleven, support his family.
Don't bash on his mom and his dad because they're also your family. Support that family. Number twelve, don't gossip about your marriage struggles to others.
There's nothing wrong with having mentors in your life. There's nothing wrong with seeking sometimes help but it's totally different if you're bashing your husband or constantly revealing secret struggles of your marriage to people who don't need to know that. They cannot help you.
They don't care about you and they just spread rumors and then it gets to your husband and the problem gets resolved and people already talking about it and it really makes him feel ashamed and so we should go get help but at the same time, talking to everybody about it or gossiping about it, is not getting help and bonus, don't be close friends with your single ladies or divorced friends. Nothing wrong with being friends but if your closest friends are single ladies and the ones who been divorced, it's one of the red flags that your marriage is headed into a disaster. The Bible says, Bad company corrupts good morals.
If you're married, get some married friends who can help you, cheer you on and help with your marriage. There's nothing wrong with having single friends. People who got divorced, nothing wrong with that but if that's all the friends you have, you might be having problems.
I sometimes tell married people who only have single friends. I tell them that in a matter of time, you'll be single as well because your top friends greatly affect your future. So the Bible says to husbands, love your wives.
The scripture says to wives, respect your husbands because man's greatest need is not to feel loved, it's to know that he is respected and these are some of the ways that a man will know he's being respected. Now if you really want to know if this is helpful to your husband. Ask your husband.
Do you feel respected by me and then wait for him to answer. It takes two to tangle. It takes two to make marriage work.
Make God bless your marriage. Now, let me know in the comments below what stood out to you and that I missed something and if you were a husband watching this video, did what I share connect with you? Did I miss something?
Let me know that in the comments below. I pray God's blessings on your marriage and your future, until next time.
