Ex-Wife Invited Me To Her Wedding And Humiliate Me There. Everyone Is Blaming Me

ex-wife invited me to her wedding and humiliate me there everyone is blaming me so I did this I'm Martell 32m and I'm about to tell you how I somehow managed to ruin my ex-wife's Wedding by wait for it actually showing up when invited I know I know the audacity right it's the year 2016 and I'm a fresh-faced 24-year-old intern still trying to figure out which end of the coffee maker to pour the beans into that's when I meet marjerie she's 23 gorgeous and has this laugh that could make even the most Soul crushing Monday bearable

we're both interning at this soul sucking corporate hell ape that promised us valuable experience margerie and I start hanging out swapping stories about our incompetent bosses and daydreaming about the day we'd actually get paid for our work one thing leads to another and before you know it we're dating it was great you know we were young broke and thought we had it all figured out fast forward 2 years and marjerie starts dropping hints about marriage and when I say hints I mean she was about as subtle as a neon sign in Time Square at first

it was just casual comments about how cute old couples were then she started accidentally leaving Bridal magazines around our apartment now here's where I made my first mistake instead of having an adult conversation about our future I did what any panicked 26-year-old guy would do I proposed why because nothing says I'm ready for a lifelong commitment like sheer Terror and peer pressure am I right somehow I turned into a freshly minted husband at the ripe old age of 26 thinking I had just leveled up in the game of life you know how they say the

first year of marriage is the hardest well whoever they are they're full of it our first year was a breeze compared to the storm that was brewing and then margerie began talking about kids and by talking I mean she brought it up every chance she got over breakfast kids during movie night kids while I'm brushing my teeth you guessed it kids I like kids they're great when they belong to someone else and I can give them back after a few hours but the idea of being responsible for a tiny human when I could barely keep

my house plants alive that was terrifying I tried explaining to marjerie that we weren't ready financially we were about as stable as a Jenga Tower in an earthquake I had just started my career and was bringing in enough for us to live comfortably emphasis on us as in two adults who don't need diapers or college funds margerie on the other hand was let's say exploring her options and by that I mean she was job hopping more frequently than a frog on a hot sidewalk she'd get a job decide it wasn't her passion and quit before

the ink on her contract was dry her resume looked like a game of corporate musical chairs but according to marjerie none of that mattered we could just figure it out as we went along oh and if we ran into financial troubles no worries we could just borrow money from our parents because nothing says responsible adults ready for Parenthood like asking mom and dad for an allowance right Marjorie had it all planned out she was ready to be a mother and didn't want to wait until her late 20s according to her we were at the peak

of our youth and childbearing years I didn't realize fertility worked like cell phone plans with Peak and off peak hours I explained that I wasn't mentally prepared to be a father that maybe we should wait until we were more stable both financially and in our careers that having a kid is a huge responsibility and not something to rush into but trying to reason with marjerie was like trying to nail Jello to a wall she was convinced that having a baby would magically solve all our problems because sleep deprivation constant worry and financial strain are the

secret ingredients to a happy marriage apparent L this led to fights so many fights what started as disagreements about our future turned into full-blown arguments about everything the way I loaded the dishwasher suddenly became a federal offense my socks on the floor clearly a sign that I didn't respect her it was like walking through a Minefield except the mines were margery's everchanging moods and expectations after almost 2 years of this I had reached my breaking point I realized that we wanted fundamentally different things in life margorie wanted kids yesterday and I well I wanted to

be able to eat something other than ramen noodles for dinner it all came to a head one night during a particularly nasty fight marjerie in all her Fury yelled that she wished she had never married me and you know what I wished the same thing it was like a light bulb moment except instead of a light bulb it was more like a neon sign flashing get out in big bold letters so I did what any rational person would do I filed for divorce was it an easy decision about as easy as performing open heart surgery

with a spoon but I knew it was necessary we were making each other miserable and staying together would only lead to more resentment when margerie was served the divorce papers all hell broke loose she went from I wish I never married you to how could you do this to me faster than you can say bipolar she called me sobbing for hours begging me to take her back and cancel the proceedings I'll admit it was tough but I knew if I gave in I'd be right back where I started miserable and stuck in a marriage that

was dead than my dreams of being a rock star the divorce itself margorie and her lawyer came at me like I was the love child of Satan and Voldemort they painted me as the villain in our story conveniently forgetting all the times margerie had pushed me to my limits you know how they say there are three sides to every story Yours Mine and the truth well according to marjerie and her lawyer there was only one side I was a heartless monster who cruy abandoned his poor innocent wife never mind the fact that said innocent wife

had spent the last two years trying to pressure me into fatherhood and financial ruin thankfully I didn't lose much in the divorce settlement except maybe a few years off my life from the stress but what I did lose was any remaining fondness I had for Marjorie watching her try to destroy me during the proceedings turned whatever love was left into something that tasted a lot like hate after the dust settled and the divorce was finalized I did what any s person would do I blocked margerie on every platform known to man I told our mutual

friends that I never wanted to hear from or about margerie again some understood some thought I was being dramatic but at that point I was fresh out of to give about anyone's opinion on my life choices and that my friends is how I spent my late 20s while my college buddies were posting pictures of their exotic vacations and new promotions I was navigating the wonderful world of divorce courts and alimony payments nothing says living your best life quite like legal fees and emotional trauma am I right for the next few years life went on I

focused on my career picked up a few hobbies and generally tried to piece my life back together I went on a few dates here and there but nothing serious after the margerie debacle I was about as eager to jump into another relationship as I was to stick my hand in a blender I was finally starting to feel like myself again the Margery shaped hole in my life had scabbed over and I was cautiously optimistic about the future I should have known it was too good to last because just when I thought I was out life

decided to pull me back in in the form of a wedding invitation from Marjorie talk about a plot twist huh just when I thought I had successfully exced excised Margery from my life the universe decided to pull a fast one on me it was a regular Tuesday afternoon and I was sorting through my mail when I saw it a cream colored envelope with fancy calligraphy that screamed wedding invitation my first thought was great which one of my friends has lost their mind and decided to tie the knot but as I flipped it over I felt

my stomach drop faster than a sky diver with a faulty parachute the return address bore a name I thought I'd never see again margerie Carter for a solid minute I just stood there staring at the envelope like it was a ticking Time Bomb I wanted to toss it straight into the trash maybe set it on on fire for good measure but curiosity got the better of me it always does doesn't it so with the caution of someone disarming an explosive I opened it it was in all its gold embossed Glory an invitation to margery's wedding

to another man apparently a wedding invitation wasn't enough of a shocker Marjorie decided to follow it up with an email it popped up in my inbox a few days later margerie waxed poetic about how she'd love to have me at her wedding to reconcile because she regretted the way we ended things she went on about how she had resented me for a long time after our divorce but now that she had finally moved on she wanted to make amends according to her email she knew the divorce had been particularly hard on me what with her

and her lawyer going for my jugular and all but now she wanted to make things right by reconnecting with me at her wedding because nothing says I'm over you quite like inviting your ex to watch you marry someone else right I'll admit my first instinct was to reply with a gif of someone laughing hysterically but I resisted the urge and instead did nothing I figured if I ignored it long enough it would go away like a bad rash or my student loans but marjerie wasn't about to let it go that easily a few weeks later

another email landed in my inbox this time she really turned up the emotional manipulation dial to 11 she talked about wanting to meet me and make everything right because she didn't want this on her conscience anymore she even played the Friendship card reminding me that before we got married we were good friends now here's where things get a bit more complicated while all this was going on with margerie I had actually started seeing someone new let's call her Tiffany Tiffany was everything margorie wasn't laid-back career-driven and most importantly not trying to rush into marriage and

kids we had been dating for a few months and things were going great when I told about margery's invitation she was understandably wary are you sure this is a good idea she asked her brow furrowed with concern I assured her it was just closure nothing more but I could tell she wasn't convinced I should have listened to her Tiffany's intuition was spot-on as usual so I agreed to attend her wedding I unblocked her on social media and we started talking again it was surprisingly not terrible we kept things light mostly chat about mutual friends and

reminiscing about the good old days when our biggest worry was passing our College finals as the wedding day approached I found myself actually looking forward to it maybe this was our chance to bury the hatchet once and for all maybe we could even be friends again the week before the wedding Tiffany and I had a big fight about my decision to attend she couldn't understand why I needed to go and honestly I was having trouble explaining it myself it's like you're holding on to something she said I'm not sure there's room for me if you're

still carrying all this baggage her words stung Because deep down I knew she might be right the day of the wedding arrived and I showed up at the venue but as I walked in I felt like I had stepped into a time machine the decorations the flowers even the music it was all eerily similar to our wedding for for a moment I thought I had accidentally crashed a very elaborate reenactment of my own nuptials I tried to shake off the feeling of DJ Vu and took my seat that's when I noticed the looks you know

the kind surprise confusion and what the hell is he doing here it was then that I realized most of the guests including the groom had no idea I was invited awkward doesn't even begin to cover it I sat there feeling increasingly out of place I noticed a familiar face a few rows ahead it was JN one of our mutual friends from college he caught my eye and gave me a look that was part surprise part we need to talk I had a sink feeling that this wasn't going to be a friendly catchup during a lull

before the ceremony Jon made his way over to me Martell what are you doing here he hissed keeping his voice low does Jason know you're here Jason I assumed was the groom I explained that margerie had invited me but Jon didn't seem convinced look he said his voice tight I don't know what game you and margerie are playing but this isn't going to end well for anyone before I could respond he was gone leaving me with an even worse feeling about this whole situation as the ceremony started and Marjorie began her walk down the aisle

I couldn't help but feel a twin of something not regret exactly but a sort of wistful Nostalgia for what could have been if things had been different but I quickly squashed that feeling I was here as a supportive X nothing more then came the vows the groom went first and I have to hand it to the guy his words were beautiful he clearly loved margorie and I felt genuinely happy for her she deserved someone who loved her that much but then oh God then it was margery's turn have you ever witnessed a train wreck in

slow motion that's what marjorie's vows were like she started off normally enough but then she took a sharp left turn into Crazy Town suddenly she was talking about about me about our marriage about how terrible it had been I sat there Frozen in shock as marjerie proceeded to air our dirty laundry in front of everyone she talked about how thrilled she was that her second marriage wasn't going to be as bad as her first because she was with a much better man now and just in case anyone had missed the subtle dig she pointed at

me and waved like she was hosting some Twisted game show the entire room went silent you could have heard a pin drop or in this case the sound of the groom's heartbreaking because yes while marjerie was busy rehashing our failed marriage her soon Tobe husband was standing there what happened next was like a scene from a bad romcom the groom decided he'd had enough he said and I quote I've seen enough it's clear you haven't moved on and then he did what any self-respecting man would do in that situation he walked out marjerie seemingly snapping

out of whatever trance she was in started chasing after her fleeing groom it was quite a sight a woman in a massive wedding dress trying to run as if things weren't dramatic enough that's when I noticed Jason's mother stand up she pointed at me and shouted this is all your fault you ruined everything and just like that every eye in the place was on me again I sat there sh shocked trying to process what had just happened had marjerie really just torpedoed her own wedding because of me it was like being the star of a

reality show I never auditioned for realizing that sticking around probably wasn't the best idea I made a beline for the exit I almost made it to my car too before I was cornered by my ex-in-laws they demanded to know why I had shown up when I explained that margerie had invited me begged me even to come they weren't having it according to them I should have known better I showed them the emails margerie had sent me thinking it would clear things up instead of realizing that their daughter might be the one with issues they doubled

down they accused me of always knowing that margerie had feelings for me even during the divorce according to them by responding to her invitation and talking to her again I had distracted her from her relationship right because margerie is clearly an easily distracted golden retriever not a grown woman capable of making her own decisions my bad just when I thought things couldn't get any worse I spotted Jason storming towards us his face a thundercloud of anger you he spat pointing at me who the hell do you think you are showing up here before I could

even open my mouth to explain he was in my face looking like he was about to throw a punch that's when John my old College buddy stepped in Jason man calm down he said putting himself between us this isn't Martell's fault margorie invited him Jason turned his glare on Jon you knew about this he demanded Jon nodded looking uncomfortable I found out just before the ceremony I tried to warn Martell that this was a bad idea while they were arguing I took the opportunity to make my Escape I got in my car and high tailed

it out of there faster than you can say I don't I drove home and my phone was blowing up with messages and calls from mutual friends all wanting to know what had happened the full story came out apparently marjerie hadn't even told her fiance that she had invited me the poor guy had been completely blindsided when he saw me sitting there after he walked out their families got into a huge argument his parents were Furious believing that margerie was clearly not over me and had been forcing the wedding to make me jealous but here's where

it gets even Messier remember Tiffany the girl I had been dating well someone at the wedding had posted about the drama on social media Tiffany saw it before I had a chance to explain let's just say she wasn't thrilled to find out about my ex-wife's meltdown from Facebook when I finally got home home that night Tiffany was waiting for me her bags packed I knew this was a bad idea she said I told you something like this would happen but you didn't listen you never listen when it comes to her before I could even begin

to explain she was gone leaving me alone with the aftermath of a disaster I never saw coming Marjorie tried to defend herself she claimed that she only made that speech because she saw me sitting there and her plan was to humiliate me and then move on to talking about how great she had it with her new man because nothing says I'm over you quite like dedicating half your wedding vows to your ex right but everyone was blaming me our mutual friends margery's family even some of my own family members who had heard about the disaster

they all seemed to think that I should have known better than to show up that I should have rejected her invitation and blocked her again apparently I was supposed to have some sort of psychic ability to know that margerie wasn't over me never mind the fact that she was the one getting married never mind that she had sent me multiple emails insisting that she wanted to make peace nope this was all my fault because I what existed accepted an invitation believed that maybe just maybe people can be mature adults and move on I'm pretty sure

I'm now going to be known as that guy who ruined margery's wedding in our Social Circle and to make matters worse I've probably lost any chance with Tiffany all because I tried to be the bigger person and accept an olive branch somehow I've become the villain in a story where I did nothing but show up to a wedding I was invited to I'm being blamed for ruining a marriage that wasn't even mine and I've likely torpedoed my own chance at a happy relationship in the process tell me am I the here because from where I'm

standing it seems like I'm surrounded by crazy people who think attending a wedding is some sort of cardinal sin but maybe I'm missing something maybe there's some secret exp spouse code that I didn't get get the memo about either way I think it's safe to say that the next time I get a wedding invitation I'm moving to Antarctica at least the Penguins won't blame me for their relationship problems update it's been a month since the wedding Fiasco and I'm still trying to wrap my head around everything that happened I've spent countless nights replaying the events

in my mind wondering if there was anything I could have done differently but the more I think about it the more I realize that this train wreck was inevitable with or without my presence despite my best efforts to put the whole mess behind me I found myself growing increasingly curious about margery's situation it's like picking at a SC you know you shouldn't do it but you can't help yourself I tried to resist the urge to ask around but eventually my curiosity got the better of me I reached out to JN my old College buddy who

was at the wedding he was hesitant at first probably worried about getting dragged into more drama but eventually agreed to meet me for a coffee as we sat in a quiet corner of a local cafe Jon filled me in on the aftermath of the wedding disaster apparently marjerie had been on a mission to salvage her relationship with Jason she'd been bombarding him with calls texts and even showed up at his workplace a few times it was a complete roll reversal from our divorce where she had been the one to cut all ties John described it

as watching a desperate game of emotional chess with marjerie trying every move in the book to win Jason back but Jason wasn't having any of it according to JN he'd moved out of their shared apartment the day after the wedding and was staying with a friend he'd even changed his phone number to avoid margery's constant attempts at communication it seemed that Jason had more backbone than I'd given him credit for as for our mutual friends Jon didn't sugarcoat it the blame game was still going strong and unfortunately I was still the primary target some friends

had taken marger side buying into her narrative that I had somehow orchestrated this whole situation others were more neutral but still felt that I should have known better than to attend the wedding it was frustrating to hear but not entirely surprising what did surprise me was when JN mentioned that Jason had been asking about me apparently he wanted to talk to hear my side of the story I was hesitant at first hadn't there been enough drama already but Jon insisted that it might be good for both of us to clear the air after mulling it

over for a few days I decided to bite the bullet and reach out to Jason when I saw Jason approaching I braced myself for anger maybe even confrontation as he sat down on the bench next to me I could see the toll the past month had taken on him we sat in awkward silence for a moment before Jason finally spoke he started by apologizing for his behavior at the wedding admitting that he had been out of line and blaming me I hadn't expected an apology but it was a welcome change from the constant blame I'd

been facing then Jason confessed that he had never known the real reason behind my divorce from margerie According to him margerie had painted a very different picture of our split in her version I was the villain a commitment phobe who had strung her along for years before cruy abandoning her when she wanted to start a family it was like listening to a twisted fairy tale where I was cast as the big bad wolf as much as it hurt to hear it also explained a lot about why everyone had been so quick to blame me for

the wedding disaster taking a deep breath I decided to tell Jason the truth I told him about the pressure to get married before I was ready about margery's obsession with having children when we were barely making ends meet about the constant fights and emotional manipulation I even showed him some old text messages I had saved concrete evidence of the turmoil our relationship had been in I could see the realization Dawning on Jason's face he had been fed a lie for so long that the truth was almost too much to process when I finished he sat

there in silence for a long moment just staring at the ground finally Jason looked up at me and said something I never expected to hear thank you he explained that knowing the truth as painful as it was gave him the closure he needed it confirmed his decision to end things with marjerie and helped him understand that her behavior at the wedding wasn't just about me we talked for hours swapping stories and realizing just how much margerie had Twisted The Narrative to suit her needs it was cathartic in a way to finally have someone understand my

side of the story by the time we parted ways there was a sense of mutual respect between us we weren't friends exactly but we had a shared experience that bonded us in a strange way however my conversation with Jason didn't stay private for long within days Marjorie found out that I had told him everything she called me leaving a voicemail that accused me of ruining her life of turning Jason against her but margerie didn't stop at angry phone calls she started reaching out to mutual friends to my co-workers even to my family spinning new lies

about how I had sabotaged her wedding out of jealousy it was exhausting and infuriating but I refused to engage I had learned my lesson about getting pulled into margery's drama the whole situation made me realize that as long as I stayed in this city in this Social Circle I would always be entangled in margery's web of manipulation I started looking into job opportunities in other states the idea of a fresh start away from all this drama was incredibly appealing I found myself excited about the possibility of building a new life somewhere else where I wouldn't

be known as marjorie's ex or the guy who ruined the wedding I couldn't help but think about Tiffany she had been right all along about attending the wedding being a bad idea I I had tried to reach out to her in the weeks following the incident hoping to explain everything but she had made it clear she didn't want to hear from me I couldn't blame her really from her perspective I had chosen my ex-wife's drama over our relationship it hurt to think about Tiffany about the potential we had but I also knew that sometimes the

kindest thing you can do for someone is to respect their wishes and let them go so as much as it pained me I decided not to include Tiffany in my plans for a fresh start she deserved better than to be dragged into my mess again and to marjerie if you're somehow reading this I wish you the best but I'm done being your escapegoat it's time for both of us to move on for real this time the next time you hear from me it'll be from a new city with a new job and hopefully a drama-free

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