I've seen a lot of parents say, I'm going to give my son all the love I didn't have, I'm tired of hearing that, oh, it's true, you're betting on the failure of this human being, betting on failure, if you love your child, never give everything, never, everything, it's one thing, love, it's another thing, everything I'm talking about is material, because when they say that, I'm going to give everything I didn't have, OK, Ger, no, you said love, right ? Giving material things exactly I understood what Bia really said like when the guy when his father says I'm going to give everything I didn't have camera of you comes love plus a load of material things As if that was a representation of love like when I give a gift to a person it's an act of love like so the more gift I give then I 'm loving that person the more but I also think the same thing I saw the more you in quotes For example a study was done that the father conditioned traveling and giving a gift to his son Uhum And then the parents started, especially the male father who is more absent every time he arrived, my son is here and he said, daddy is coming, the child would stand at the door of the house and jump on him but to get the gift he didn't even want to know and he said he didn't even want to know I said try to get 100 this happened to a patient of mine, no, Bia, but I'm going to frustrate you, don't try, he says look, the child didn't throw a tantrum, he said, you induced me to make my son suffer, I said, I didn't induce you, see where you're taking your love, that's not love, that's one thing it's you arriving, look, daddy is coming, we're going to take a shower, read a story and we're going to sleep together, that's love, that 's protection, cuz I'm I'm that's the vibe that happens to my son, right? as soon as he thinks he makes a mistake, for example, he had a ruder attitude, he goes there and buys a gift, so I took it, no, I came to him and said, let's talk, we can't, we live in a bubble today because I came from Pavuna, right, North Zone, you also came from the North Zone, we took the bus to Caraca to graduate , we had to go through the turnstile together, we've been robbed on the street, you understand, right?
Anyway, we weren't raised in a bubble, today we live in the bubble, but we weren't raised in the bubble. We know, you know what was outside. We know what's actually there, right, so, but Lucas, not Lucas, he's raised inside the bubble, right, he's not going to catch a bus now, he's not going to know that, he wasn't raised there where we were raised and you're like, I said, you're ruining our son, we started having horrible fights because of that .
for him to overcome that and then I thought it was wonderful, wonderful because I went there to resolve the school issue and the psychologist caught him but finished him off and said how do you do this how do you You make a mistake in this like you feel guilty you give a gift you are teaching your child completely wrong you know that everything has a price right it is that everything has a price love has a price n demonstration of love has a price there was no box at home for example I receive a lot of box, right I did I don't know what he was like, where is it? my present I'm here who doesn't know me and I'm like that I'm already more at this point I'm more but certainly your son believes in you more as a reference of love now he loved me before starting the program your son called, right ? Go ask someone to sleep, did you see?
There was a day when he slept a lot and I was like that, people, no. I believe he slept alone but why Because he's developing his self-reference how old is he two two He's going to be three now it's well advanced because this is starting to happen good it's bad ISS no that's good it starts until around 4 years of age the child has an inability to lie because he thinks that what you see is what he sees So it's that time when they call and then you're in the bathroom pooping Then you say, Mommy, you're there, you're pooping, so you say No, Lucas doesn't say that, but yeah because for him, he is you, grandmother, everyone who lives with him, he thinks that what he sees he is not an individual, he is the group, so when he says I'm going to sleep alone, he already has an idea of him as a reference, he's well advanced, I'm not serious, it's the process of subjectification, which is this process of you getting the idea that you are you and the others don't, they don't read your thoughts, right, they can't see, he already has when he speaks, I'm going to sleep alone, wonderful people and I just know that, like, it hurts him, you know, it hurts.
