[Music] life doesn't always turn out the way we plan when I was younger I dreamed of a future filled with stability love and personal success my parents had raised me to Value hard work and honesty so I pursued my education and career with those principles in mind I wasn't extraordinary but I was determined to make a life that mattered meeting Jennifer was like discovering a missing Piece of my puzzle she wasn't the loudest or most glamorous person in the room but she had a quiet strength that Drew me in over time our connection deepened and
I thought I'd found my partner for life together we imagined a future built on shared dreams unshakable trust and mutual respect for years we worked side by side to create that future from the early days of struggling to make ends meet to the gradual improvements in our careers and Finances we faced everything together or so I thought by the time I realized that cracks were forming in the foundation of our marriage it was almost too late to fix them I was deeply engrossed in reviewing files on my laptop when she entered the room her late
nights at work had become routine but there was something unusual about this evening the kids had finished their meals and homework long ago and they'd already been asleep for nearly an Hour without mentioning their mom this pattern once easy to overlook now gwed at me in ways I couldn't ignore I I'd spent the past hour going through our finances over the past 2 years things had worsened our income had dropped significantly but my wife hadn't seemed to notice she continued spending as if nothing had changed I just paid the bills but I knew we wouldn't
last much longer doubts about my choices started creeping in had I made a huge mistake For 2 years I had been waiting for the inevitable collapse it felt like a ticking Time Bomb but now I wasn't so sure I had noticed her standing there watching me when I finally saw her she crossed her arms and said Michael I want a divorce I didn't know how to respond my mind was a mess uncertain self-loathing and oddly numb it wasn't funny but I almost laughed 17 years together and now she was telling me it was over everything
we built was ending Somehow that realization felt oddly relieving I stared at her trying to relive the good times but the weight of the moment hit me I wasn't a great manager though I was an excellent programmer the promotion to senior product development manager had felt like a victory but it was just a fancy title that trapped me in meetings I missed Hands-On programming and watching younger developers Excel only made me feel more disconnected being the boss Wasn't as fulfilling as I'd imagined in hindsight getting fired from Chicago Technology Solutions wasn't surprising I barely showed
up to meetings missed deadlines and didn't try to improve I wasn't trying to get fired but I wasn't trying to keep my job either I'd been depressed for a long time it took almost 3 months to start making progress and another month to find a path that felt right if not for the kids and their routine school homework meals bed I Might have lost my mind that routine gave me purpose and slowly helped me get back on track I threw myself into being a stay-at-home dad the kids seemed to appreciate my presence which made me
feel valued but if my wife noticed the shift she never said a word I met Jennifer r at a fraternity party I almost didn't go as I joined for the post-graduation connections not the social life I was just another average guy average looks average grades average Personality my name Michael was one of the most common in the country nothing remarkable about me but then I met Jennifer she wasn't strikingly different yet I found her captivating quiet and reserved she intrigued me we started talking then studying together and soon began dating seriously those 15 years were
the happiest of my life we married moved to Chicago and struggled financially but we were rich in each other's company we shared so much family Histories Hobbies goals and complimented each other perfectly I handled the finances and she managed our social life and the kids schedules we made a great team over time we both advanced in our careers bought a home and traveled together everything felt perfect when our son Jacob was born followed by Emily we settled into a Suburban home with a dog two cars and what seemed like the ideal life but then I
was promoted to manager and everything changed the new Salary was great and we upgraded our lifestyle I felt more confident and Jennifer always beautiful to me seemed even more stunning our life already good seemed to improve even more we traveled spent quality time with the kids and saved aggressively for retirement when Emily started Elementary School Jennifer decided to return to work part-time she found a job at a marketing startup with flexible hours that fit around the kids schedules which seemed like the perfect Addition to our life we didn't need the extra income so we saved
it by the time the kids were nearing College I felt confident we'd retire comfortably but just 3 months before our 15th anniversary I discovered Jennifer had been having an affair I found the evidence on my birthday though I had suspected something for a few days the truth didn't fully hit me until that moment processing it took weeks I hadn't considered how Jennifer's longer work Hours would affect our home life I handled the kids and housework while she worked late initially I didn't think much of it but over time I noticed her becoming distant when I
asked she said it was work stress and I believed her I began taking on more tasks to ease her load eventually we had a conversation she said she didn't need fun the way she once did things seemed to improve briefly but it didn't last I kept my concerns to myself not wanting to push Her then one day while sorting laundry I found a gift hidden behind some boxes a pink box tied with a white ribbon and a postcard card that read beloved I hesitated before deciding to wait until my birthday to open it 2 days
before my birthday I went all out treating Jennifer with flowers a foot rub and her favorite dinner but her response felt distant she seemed to just go through the motions on my birthday I made sure the kids finished their homework early Hoping everything would go smoothly but when Jennifer came home late I was thrown off I suggested we go out for pizza and the kids agreed at the restaurant our son Micha even chatted with the waitress when we left the staff wished me a happy birthday Jennifer seemed surprised but quickly hit it I'll give you
your present later Michael she said with a forced smile the drive home was tense and I nearly got into a car accident the evening felt off but when The kids finally went to bed I thought things might settle however Jennifer came back late from a quick trip to buy milk when I walked into the bedroom Jennifer wasn't there she appeared a few minutes later wearing a night gown and looking casually I was getting impatient where was my present she handed me a small box wrapped in the same paper we used for Michael's birthday happy birthday
darling she said before turning over and Falling asleep I was too stunned to open the gift the next day I felt a wave of sadness replaying the night and wondering what went wrong for the next two weeks I sank into a deep depression feeling the gift was a cruel reminder of my failure I had heard the cliches the husband's always the last to know but never beli them the idea of Jennifer cheating never crossed my mind but when she called 13 days later to say she'd be late for Alen's 30th birthday office celebration I felt
something shift walking toward the closet I glanced at the empty space where my gift had been the realization hit me like a punch to the chest I staggered toward the bathroom convinced I might be having a heart attack for a brief moment I almost wished I was the thought of facing the truth seemed unbearable Alan Henderson Jennifer's boss was younger than us slick and Charming in a way I didn't trust I'd met Him once and immediately disliked him there was something fake about him like his speech was rehearsed but it wasn't until my daughter Emily
snapped me out of my haze that I realized I was spiraling are you okay Daddy she asked her voice full of concern it took me a moment to snap back to reality and when I looked at her I saw her eyes starting to tear up I'm fine sweetie I said forcing a smile just ate something bad I'll be okay go on I'll be out in a Minute somehow I pulled myself together though I don't remember much after that the next morning a pounding headache told me I'd drunk way too much Jennifer was home by then
going through the motions as if nothing had changed but when she sat down to eat I saw it the faintest flicker of discomfort on her face it was barely noticeable but it felt like a slap that moment shattered whatever was left of my feelings for her I wish I Could say I confronted her but I didn't I was crushed numb like a zombie for weeks I watched her go on as if everything was fine while I sank deeper into misery it wasn't until our 15th anniversary that I snapped out of it or at least tried
to Jennifer told me she'd be at a work conference that day completely ignoring the significance of the date that hurt more than anything after getting blackout drunk that night I woke up Furious I called a lawyer Ready to move on but when I walked into the office I quickly realized how unprepared I was I had no hard evidence of her Affair and even if I did she'd still get half of everything I had no case and with no proof of her being a bad mother joint custody was my best bet I would likely be paying
alimony and Jennifer would probably keep the house and the kids I felt like a fool my world was falling apart and I had no idea how it happened Jennifer didn't make it Easier weeks later she asked if something was wrong you don't look so good Michael she said is everything okay no honey I replied too numb to tell her the truth I was just going through the motions then I lost my job something that turned out to be a blessing in disguise one night while watching the news a story about a major company collapsing caught
my attention the employees were scrambling for their paychecks but the financial expert said The money's gone that gave me an idea if we had nothing Jennifer couldn't take anything I decided to drain our savings and not look for another job it was Reckless I knew that but it was something I could control 2 years of living like this felt like an eternity I realized I was alone Jennifer had been the heart of our social life I had no real friendships to fall back on I was an only child and both of my parents were gone
for those two years my Kids were the only bright spot in my life I had never spent much money on anything extra I still kept receipts for everything but I quickly realized we weren't burning through cash fast enough to make it worthwhile apparently I was much better at saving than spending so I kicked it up a notch I enrolled in an expensive local Executive MBA program nearly $120,000 I bought a new luxury SUV dropping $60,000 I put $260,000 into the kids education accounts I spent thousands on a new closet and withdrew more cash than ever
twice a week I'd dro the kids off at school hit the bank and head to the lak shore to kill time I wasn't gambling away everything but I'd take small amounts here and there to enjoy a little fun even if it meant just going to the casino to eat and hang around the majority of the money was stashed away In a wall safe in the garage my personal War chest in case the divorce went South one of my larger expenditures surveillance on Jennifer and her lover I requested everything photos videos and a daily log of
their activities I won't say how much it cost but I can tell you it was more than I'm comfortable admitting you might wonder if Jennifer noticed any of this spending I'd say Yes except for the gambling I had to tell her about the money I'd transferred to The kids accounts because I needed her signature on them she saw the new car but never commented she probably thought I was still working and that everything was fine she spent money too but I didn't say a word I've often wondered if her lingerie purchases were for me or
someone else we didn't talk about it though we were cordial communicated when necessary but that was it it felt like we were just roommates who tolerated each other our bed life had long gone Stale and I'd rather not think about it what brought me joy was spending time with my kids we did everything together homework games Parks biking movies since I had taken over cooking they seemed excited to help I found simple recipes and let them join in Jennifer would show up every so often but I didn't force her into family activities if she was
around and wanted to join she just did there were no words between us about it meanwhile I got weekly reports on her Activities at first I thought she was just having fun with her boss but soon it was clear she was seeing several guys from her office eventually the company's client started showing up on her schedule too was I hurt not really by then I already saw her as someone who was unfaithful now I just had the proof to back it up the reports weren't all that shocking I suppose I was relieved in a way
though it didn't change much alen Henderson her boss wasn't much of a Lover but he managed to spread his attention around to a few women that was a bit surprising though I had assumed he and Jennifer had something more serious but it seemed they were just two people enjoying each other's company the other men were much the same but one client stood out a geeky guy with glasses and a pocket protector I couldn't tell from the photos and videos if Jennifer enjoyed it but it sure looked painful between classes time with the kids and Occasional
trips to the casino I had a lot of free time on my hands so I decided to focus on my post-marriage life even though it felt like it was still a long way off I started working out nothing extreme but I made good progress with strength training and running I'd always thought that muscles and looks were mostly genetic and I wasn't blessed in either area still I felt great about the changes in my body I started paying attention to the latest News in my old industry knowing that sooner or later I'd need to find a
job again a year of being away from everything had left me behind and I could sense it every day I spent hours catching up on new technologies and software developments my old company CTS seemed stagnant they weren't losing ground but they weren't growing either in the tech World standing still is just as bad as falling behind alongside this I dedicated a good chunk of my time to Studying divorce I knew I'd need to understand it better but not just from a legal standpoint I wanted to learn how divorce affects children because that would be the
hardest part for me I'd already dealt with most of the pain but I wanted to make sure I was prepared for what would come next some of the advice I came across seemed useless but I kept digging 8 months into this phase Panic started to creep in Jennifer was coming home at regular times again making small Talk asking how my day had been I gave short dismissive answers but she didn't seem to mind she started dressing more provocatively at night as if trying to reignite the closeness we once had a few weeks later things escalated
after a year and a half of being distant she began complaining about our lack of communication and talking about trying to fix our Mar marriage that's when I went completely silent her attempts to reconnect didn't Stop for her birthday I left her gift on the dining room table the wrapping paper was the same I'd used for the last gift she'd given me the contents weren't a surprise either 6 months had passed since she gave me my birthday gift a cheap digital watch I had found it in the impulse buy section of a convenience store for
$9.95 and I was Furious but when I saw a matching women's version I calmed down and bought both watches waiting 18 Months to give her the one I had I'll never know her reaction to it because I wasn't there when she opened it the kids and I had an impromptu movie night and came home late by the time we woke up the next morning Jennifer was gone and just like that things went back to their usual Rhythm she began spending more time at the office and when she was home we barely exchanged words a few
days later she told me she wanted a divorce I was hoping she'd make it quick but it Took nearly a week for me to get the papers when I find finally saw them I couldn't help but laugh she wanted spousal and child support an uneven property split in her favor and emotional misuse listed as grounds I waited until the following Monday to take the kids camping I didn't want them anywhere near when I decided to take action when we returned 6 days later Jennifer was waiting for us she was sitting in the living room looking
Unwell and not in a good way I had already filed for divorce citing infidelity and asked for full custody of the kids and in the house I was unemployed but I was also the primary caregiver for 2 years I filed lawsuits for a parental alienation against her seven lovers though I knew they'd likely go nowhere but Illinois Law allowed me to file them so I did I also filed civil suits against her employer and the companies of the three clients who had Been involved with her again I didn't expect to win but the publicity might
work in my favor as a final touch I sent a DVD of her exploits to her parents and best friend so they'd know I wasn't hiding anything I wanted Jennifer to understand that I wasn't afraid to use everything I had against her all of it was in my counter suit but I wasn't about to take any chances the kids grabbed a snack and went upstairs to get ready for bed they didn't acknowledge Their mother she didn't make any move to talk to them I grabbed a beer from the fridge and sat down across from her
she didn't look at me right away I took my time with the beer letting the silence hang between us she looked like she was on the verge of tears finally she whispered her voice barely Audible you're going to ruin me I paused letting the words sink in when she finally looked up I met her gaze without hesitation God I hope so I had expected This moment to be more intense but when a single tear rolled down her cheek I felt nothing do you hate me that much she asked her voice trembling no Jennifer I replied
my tone flat and detached I don't hate you hating takes effort and I haven't put any effort into you all my energy goes into taking care of myself and my kids but I'm your wife she said her voice almost pleading stop I interrupted coldly I'm not going to let you tarnish the memory of my real Wife the woman who was loving caring and the mother of my children she's gone you're just the one who's taken over her body don't talk like you're anything to me she didn't say anything for a while and I could tell
she was trying to process it all eventually she asked what am I supposed to do now is that a rhetorical question or do you want my advice I didn't let her answer well here's what I think you could run away start over somewhere new that's what I'd Do I'll never let you be a real part of my kids lives so that shouldn't affect your decision or you could stick around here keep your head down but who knows who'll find out about your little escapades or who'll want to hire someone like you maybe you'll find some
loser who doesn't care that you're a hoe but what kind of loser would that be or you could just end it all I paused letting my words settle I really hope you don't pick that option I'd hate to miss Watching you suffer like the witch you are but then again I'm not sure my opinion matters to you it didn't when you decided to play around with your boss I had been planning this moment for months rehearsing my words imagining how satisfying it would feel to watch her crumble but when the time came instead of satisfaction
I felt an overwhelming emptiness the aftermath of the divorce was murky to say the least things went better than I expected with the lawsuits I ended up up securing over a million dollars from three companies whose employees had been involved with my wife I'd been warned by my lawyer not to get my hopes up but after working through Discovery motions depositions and media leaks we exposed enough to do serious damage I also took matters into my own hands discreetly contacting their clients and warning them about the Scandal it took time but eventually their business dried
up and they were Forced to file for bankruptcy Alan Henderson my ex-wife's boss lost his position and fled the city in disgrace the money I received wasn't the most rewarding but watching their downfall felt like a victory in the process I was affected too I occasionally ran into people who knew about my situation and the taunts and mockery took a toll for a while but I didn't care anymore I had already accepted my own failure and their words didn't Sting the kids were Affected for a bit but recovered quickly the real Victory came when I
returned to CTS as VP of design and development programming became my Escape over the next 2 years I developed a software add-on that allowed CTS to integrate with two major competitors soon after I sold the company and my software for $1 million along with an attractive compensation package from CTS retirement was on my mind but with no social life to speak of I feared I'd become a Recluse if I didn't keep myself busy the New Wealth allowed me to hire a housekeeper and babysitter Mrs marleene Jensen an older woman who moved into an apartment above
the garage after after a year she became a grandmother figure to my children kind yet firm and her wisdom helped me navigate decisions though I did my best to be a loving father I couldn't escape my bitterness Mrs Jensen became my anchor as the years passed the kids grew up and The distance between us grew too I never resented them I just didn't want my bitterness to affect their lives Mrs Jenson stayed with us until they went off to college then retired but I offered her a room and board as a for her years of
service she tried to get me to open up to the idea of moving on but I never did when she passed I was left with nothing but a deep sense of loneliness I never sought help I just let the years pass my life remained Empty and distant money allowed me to keep a revolving door of call girls I paid them well but there was only one I really connected with candy though I later learned her real name was Mary Beth we shared something more than just a business Arrangement but when I sensed her becoming too
attached I ended it I couldn't risk letting anyone close as for Jennifer her life was far from Easy she tried to contact me for almost a year after the divorce but I didn't Entertain it I couldn't fathom why she bothered maybe she hoped for reconciliation or perhaps wanted to reconnect with the kids I followed her for a while making sure her new employers and boyfriends knew everything about her past I didn't care if they still chose to be with her I just didn't want her rewriting the story her Relentless attempts to reach me were met
with silence I didn't block her emails or change my number I wanted her to Suffer at least for a while I could have done something to end the misery earlier but I didn't the situation became uncontrollable at one point I sent her a gift with a note I bought lingerie from her favorite store and wrapped it with a white ribbon the note inside was simple but sharp which I hope she understood one day a man who was apparent one of Jennifer's new suitors showed up at my door he was drunk and when I answered he
shoved me back and knocked me down it Was his mistake I wasn't a fighter but my anger got the better of me and while I defended myself the situation escalated into a physical altercation that left us both injured he was charged with misdemeanor attack but I think the physical toll of his surgeries stuck with him longer than the legal consequences Jennifer eventually gave up trying to contact me I stopped following her after she took a job cleaning rooms at a hotel in Virginia the next time I Saw her was 16 years later at my daughter's
wedding my children had reconnected with her years after college but I hadn't tried to stop them by then she had aged terribly her face was worn and the years had clearly not been kind yet there was still a glimpse of the woman I had once loved I felt nothing for her but I noticed her sitting alone at the wedding she exchanged a few words with my daughter but didn't approach me we kept our distance the entire evening When I saw her outside waiting for a cab I saw a small gold ring on her finger I
smiled maybe she had found someone and maybe he treated her better than I ever did I walked over looked at her ring for a moment then met her eyes the sadness in her gaze was unmistakable by the way you ruined my life I said I glanced at her hand then back to her eyes I'm glad you found someone I hope he makes you happy without waiting for response I walked Away my driver was waiting and we left the scene as I climbed into the car the driver greeted me good evening Mr Smith did the evening
go well I settled into the seat and replied it went as well as I could have hoped Jonathan letun go home he nodded As You Wish sir I avoided looking back as we drove away but I caught a glimpse of her one last time years have passed since that night at the wedding the memory of seeing Jennifer again still lingered Not with anger or regret but with a strange sense of closure life hasn't been perfect but it's been mine shaped by my choices my failures and my victories the kids are thriving now building their own
lives I see them often though I give them space to live without the shadow of my past hovering over them I've stepped back from work and spend most of my time quietly a mix of hobbies volunteering and traveling to places I once thought I'd visit with Someone by my side less still visits me but it's an old Companion now less cruel than it once was I think back on everything the mistakes the betrayals the bitter victories and I wonder if I could have done things differently maybe but dwelling on the past doesn't change it some
nights I dream of Jennifer as she was in our early years vibrant hopeful full of love I wake up knowing she's a memory now and I let the dream fade the Life I've built isn't what I imagined but it's real and in its imperfection it's enough I grew up in a quaint Suburban neighborhood surrounded by the constant Buzz of well-meaning neighbors and friends from an early age my life felt like it was on a conveyor belt moving steadily toward a future mapped out by tradition and expectations my parents loving and supportive wanted the best for
me though their vision for my life often felt suffocating every Decision from what I wore to whom I befriended was carefully scrutinized yet I never rebelled I simply blended into the role of the obedient daughter when I entered College I thought I was stepping into a new chapter where I could redefine myself instead I fell into the same patterns joining a sorority seemed like the perfect way to escape my mundane past but it only emphasized how out of place I felt my sisters glamorous and Confident embodied the Collegiate dream I was trying to emulate but
couldn't quite grasp I told myself I didn't care yet the loneliness gnawed at me nights were filled with loud laughter and clinking glasses but I often felt like a shadow on the periphery the night I met Michael Smith was a low point for me it was a Friday and the campus was alive with energy I had attended a fraternity party with my sorority sisters only to find myself abandoned amid a crowd of Strangers the room felt stifling the air thick with booze and Desperation for hours I dodged learing stairs and drunken attempts at conversation when
I finally made my way outside for some air I leaned against a lamp post silently wishing the night would end and then there he was Michael wasn't striking or particularly memorable at first glance but he had an aura of quiet confidence he approached me with a kind smile introducing himself with an ease that Immediately put me at ease we exchanged pleasantries and for the first time that night I felt seen little did I know that unassuming meeting would alter the trajectory of my life Michael Smith didn't stand out immediately his appearance was plain almost forgettable
yet there was something warm and genuine about him that Drew people in over time his Charisma wasn't loud or showy it was subtle built on intelligence sincerity and approachability his true uniqueness Revealed itself gradually like in back layers to discover a gem hidden beneath our first meeting was during what was probably the worst night of my college life my sorority sisters had promised to stick together at a fraternity party but they ditched me for the popular crowd I spent 2 hours alone fending off drunken advances until Michael approached me he introduced himself politely started a
casual conversation and after a while smiled and said it was nice talking to You Jennifer I'd love to grab coffee some time here's my number if you're interested that Brief Encounter stuck with me I almost didn't call him but after a week of hesitation I did when we met for coffee I realized what made him stand out he wasn't flashy but incredibly intelligent he could talk about anything with ease and his interest in me was clear we talked about my struggles with ancient philosophy and he offered to study together 3 days Later we met again
it wasn't so much studying as it was a master class in philosophy he patiently explained the concepts I struggled with never making me feel inadequate he didn't take credit when I passed my exam saying that spending time with me was the best part for him what truly set Michael apart was how different he was from the typical college guy no parties no distractions just focused on his studies at first it frustrated me but I grew to admire his Discipline we didn't go on traditional dates but he'd call me every day check in and leave little
notes our time together was mostly coffee or Library study sessions he was always open and honest with me one day I asked him what he was afraid of expecting some Macho response instead he paused then quietly said I'm afraid I won't be a good father I never had a good role model and I'm scared I'll mess it up when I start my own family I could see the vulnerability In his eyes and it made me admire him even more not too much I reassured him just enough about a month into our relationship Michael asked if
I was free on Saturday he wouldn't tell me what he had planned but my sorority sisters acted oddly whispering and smiling at me when he showed up dressed in maroon and sky blue with his friends and matching clothes and carrying a cooler of food I was puzzled he took me on a tour of the Sorority house and when we rounded the corner I was stunned the entire room was decorated in West Ham colors and his friends started chanting Michael had organized a surprise for me he knew I'd missed a trip to England to see my
cousin play for West Ham he had recorded the game learned the chance and even cooked fish and chips to make it feel authentic when my cousin scored his first Premier League goal Michael asked everyone to quiet down it was the most Thoughtful thing anyone had ever done for me for the next few weeks our routine continued phone calls notes and coffee then one day as we sat sipping lattes Michael seemed uneasy is something wrong I asked he stammered I was wondering if you're free this Friday night would you want to have dinner with me like
a date of course I said smiling his face lit up with relief and he grinned all the way through finishing his coffee even as he walked To class he was still smiling after that moment everything seemed to fall into place my life became a whirlwind of love joy and new friendships I thrived in school enjoyed life more than I ever thought possible and grew more confident people treated me differently and I wasn't just that girl anymore I was the girl the one Michael adored it was clear others noticed and I stood a little taller being
with Michael boosted my Self-esteem he openly praised me and I could tell he wasn't just being polite Michael was attracted fit and had a charm that made him easy to like though he was reserved around strangers he was brilliant probably the smartest person in the room but never flaunted it he preferred to stay out of the spotlight focusing on us he always claimed he was just an average guy who got lucky meeting me but I knew better he was extraordinary before meeting him I saw Myself as pretty though my friends and family called me cute
I felt insecure next to the stunning women around me but with Michael I began to feel valued and even beautiful the longer we were together the more I felt worthy of love and attention when prom came around I finally participated in a sorority tradition the potential husband game where each sister shared stories about her boyfriend Michael received glowing praise from every sister a first in the Events 29y year history I couldn't tell him directly but it was a proud moment 3 days later I found a way to show my appreciation after graduation Michael drove me
back to Chicago we spent the day talking holding hands and kissing when we arrived at my childhood home he Charmed my parents I was stunned when he asked my dad for a beer but my dad was thrilled they left together and I was left with my mom who smiled with tears in her eyes oh Jennifer she said softly This one's a keeper I know Mom I replied my heart full 2 hours later Michael returned casually mentioning that he'd asked my dad for permission to marry me the moment felt surreal and I'll treasure it forever later
that night after a romantic dinner he proposed at Willis Tower Under The Starry Sky the city lights reflecting the joy in my heart that night was everything I had dreamed of as a college student I had always felt out of place as one of the Few maids in my sorority but with Michael that night wasn't just physical it was a precious gift we shared he was tender and patient making it perfect later I jokingly asked him how he had become such a great lover modest as always he whispered with a grin I read a lot
our life together felt like a fairy tale Michael landed a great job right after graduation and quickly Rose through the ranks we were on cloud n and I couldn't have been happier our first Decade was filled with love and joy starting a family only deepened that happiness though I don't talk much about those years the details are irrelevant to how things eventually unraveled I know exactly where I went wrong I made mistakes and I know why things fell apart it comes down to one thing I didn't trust Michael enough what made him so remarkable was
his openness he shared his vulnerabilities fears and doubts with me our relationship was Built on mutual respect with him always seeking my input and approval it made me feel speci special but over time it also made me feel inadequate like I wasn't doing enough I kept that feeling to myself if I had been honest with him I never would have lost everything he would have helped me I know he would have but that small insecurity grew and as the years passed especially once the kids were in school I started to feel lost I convinced myself
I needed Something more something outside the life we had built I wasn't looking for another man but something about the routine started to feel flat it wasn't his fault it was mine I felt restless and disconnected and I couldn't shake the feeling that something was missing I knew my husband was interested in trying new things but I didn't think it was necessary I liked our life as it was why complicate it no what I really wanted was to feel like an Equal not just be treated as one so I made a decision I found a
job and told Michael that I had accepted the offer I was ready to defend my choice prepared to explain why it was important for me the argument lasted all of 4 seconds that sounds great Jennifer whatever makes you happy Michael said it worked I had solved my problem on my own without needing anyone's help looking back I cringe at how self-righteous I felt in those early months but at the time it Was thrilling I felt like I was stepping into the world as an independent Confident Woman the the atmosphere at work could be described as
flirtatious at best or a den of Mischief at worst my co-workers were young bold and full of energy there were a few casual office flings but no one seemed to take it seriously my boss Alan Henderson was the worst offender Allan wasn't my type handsome yes but not the kind of guy I'd usually be interested in he was Notorious for his failed relationships with everyone teasing him about his endless string of short-lived Affairs I wasn't the type to jump into bed with the first guy who paid attention to me and I dismissed him pretty firmly
at first but as time went on I began to wonder if there was something my life with Michael was lacking our group of friends was conservative compared to the easy casual relationships I saw at work the office Had a different energy a constant Buzz of flirtation and attraction especially after our company Christmas party the real shift came when I introduced Allan to Michael I could tell they didn't like each other even though they pretended to be cordial after that night I stopped sharing anything about my job with Michael and I didn't mention Allan at all
it was clear my work was starting to bother him and I didn't want to make things worse at the office Allan began Paying more attention to me he'd publicly praise my work ask how I was doing and suggest we have lunch together we'd often discuss our projects in depth and before long our conversations started drifting into more personal territory he complimented me on my looks and while I tried to brush it off part of me was flattered looking back I see that Allan was slowly working his way in and I was too caught up in
the excitement to notice he was Charming Smooth and made me feel desirable in ways I hadn't felt in a long time I can't pinpoint the exact moment it all changed but I regret that it did I allowed myself to get swept up in the thrill of attention feeling emotions that I thought I had lost Allan knew exactly how to push my buttons and before I knew it I was Tangled in an affair years later I realized how deep the Betrayal was the truth was I didn't feel desired by Michael because I wasn't Giving him anything
to desire I had become complacent I knew Michael would never do anything that made me uncomfortable he saw me as his partner his lover not just someone to pass the time with but he was also perceptive he could tell when something was off and I never gave him the chance to ask looking back on my marriage I see that Michael was trying in his own way to bring some excitement back into our lives but I ignored him I'm ashamed to admit how far I fell for Allan I became nothing more than an object for his
Amusement I gave him what he wanted for his birthday and the contrast between him and Michael Hit me hard Allan didn't love me and I realized I had made a terrible mistake the next day I tried to end things but Allan didn't take it well he laughed at off and shoved me out of his office only to leave a package on my desk when I returned from lunch inside was a set of photos that would bind me To him for the next year and a half photos that became my chains the reality of my situation
hit me like a ton of bricks for the next 18 months I became nothing more than a pawn in Allen's Twisted game he was my pimp and and I hated him just as much as I hated myself for getting to that point I tried to escape but every attempt failed it wasn't until I reached a breaking point when I was asked to entertain a man in a conference room full of people That I Finally Found the courage to say no I walked into Allen's office and told him I was done I didn't care who he
showed the pictures to anymore he just laughed that was the end of it I felt like the biggest fool when I finally woke up from that nightmare I was shocked by the of our home Michael and the kids were doing just fine without me I had expected them to be struggling but instead it was clear that Michael had everything under control he had a new Car new clothes and looked like a man who had moved on I was horrified when I realized how long I had neglected them that day I decided I was going to
rededicate myself to my family and try to make amends for my betrayal but things had changed Michael had distanced himself from me in a way I hadn't anticipated he never yelled never fought with me but he treated me like an intruder in our home it was as if I no longer belonged I tried to win him back I made an effort to seduce him to get things back to how they were but nothing worked months passed and I saw the state of our marriage for what it was no closeness no communication I couldn't live like
that I suggested marriage counseling but Michael stopped talking to me altogether he didn't stop trusting me he just stopped speaking for weeks he said nothing I was on edge waiting for something to change then my birthday Came I thought maybe just maybe he wouldn't ignore me on my special day how wrong I was when I walked through the door after work eager to see what surprises my family had in store for my birthday the house was eerily quiet there was no celebration no laughter the only thing waiting for me on the dining table was a
small neatly wrapped box I knew immediately what it was before even touching it a few years earlier I had made the mistake of forgetting Michael's Birthday in a panic I grabbed a cheap watch from a local store I promised myself I'd make up for it but I never did the watch I gave him was an afterthought but the gift I now had in my hands that was intentional by the time I went to bed that night I was livid keeping keeping the kids away from me on my birthday felt like a deliberate punishment and the
gift itself it made everything worse I should have realized sooner that something was deeply wrong The symbolism of it all was right in front of me but I couldn't see it Michael wasn't a bad person he was in fact the kindest and most considerate person I'd ever met but in that moment clouded by frustration over the gift I lost sight of everything if I had been clear-headed enough I might have salvaged what was left of my marriage instead I decided to divorce him I didn't even try to work through the issues anymore I was done
it didn't take Long to find an attorney and start the process I told her everything how Michael had pulled away from me how he'd stopped communicating how he refused to go to counseling and how he ignored me completely my lawyer latched onto my words assuring me I'd come out on top we went over the divorce settlement and I felt like I was finally doing what was necessary to move on with my life the hardest part of course was telling Michael I stood in the doorway of the Room we once shared staring at the man who
used to be my partner the person I thought I would grow old with he was still physically there but somehow he felt like a stranger I had reached my Breaking Point Michael I want a divorce there was a long pause he didn't react the way I had expected there were were no tears no shouting no begging he just stared at me in silence for a moment then quietly said okay and that Was it the following Friday he was served with the divorce papers that weekend I noticed a shift in his mood like he had decided
to make an effort but it was too little too late on Monday as I left for work he said goodbye to me at the door almost like he was trying to make amends but I wasn't in the mood for reconciliation that morning at work something felt off though I couldn't quite put my finger on it my boss the president and the company's lawyer were In the conference room arguing in a way that felt almost theatrical papers were flying everywhere and the tension was palpable distracted by the chaos I didn't notice the man standing by my
desk until he spoke Jennifer Smith I turned toward him confused yes you've been served he handed me a thick envelope snapped a photo and then walked away before I could even sit down the HR manager and a security guard appeared in Front of me Mrs Smith the HR manager said his tone flat you are being suspended pending an investigation into inappropriate behavior in the workplace please collect your things and leave the building immediately I felt my heart sink it was beyond humiliating to pack my things while my co-workers stared at me being escorted out of
the building only made it worse I had no clue what was going going on I barely made it out of the parking lot when my phone rang it Was my lawyer before I could even greet her she tore into me for not keeping her informed it was a blur of insults I didn't even register much of what she said I drove home numb when I got there the house was empty again it wasn't until I sat down that I remembered the envelope Michael's counter petition was devastating almost every Affair I had was documented the worst
part there was no money left Michael had drained all of our savings and the word that hit me Hardest infidelity I couldn't believe what I was reading I tried calling my parents hoping for some support but my father called me a hoe and hung up no explanation was needed I already knew what I had done the next week felt like a complete descent into isolation but looking back I would later think of those days as the quiet before the storm Michael had left a note saying he was taking the kids camping for the weekend and
would be back Sunday that first Night my friend Rebeca called she told me Michael had sent her a DVD warning me that I didn't want to know what was on it as the days dragged on my lawyer made it clear that my situation was hopeless I was about to be fired for misconduct and my company along with several clients and partners Was preparing to sue me I was going to lose my job my reputation and possibly custody of my children everything was falling apart in my desperation I was willing to do Anything to stop Michael's
legal Onslaught but nothing worked when he came back from camping I was a wreck I tried to hold myself together but when I saw him walk in beer in hand barely acknowledging me I couldn't keep it together you're going to ruin me I managed to say through tears his response was cold almost venomous God I hope so he said and just like that I realized how far things had gone the man I once knew was now a stranger and I Was responsible for it all when I attempted to address the wreckage of our marriage Michael
didn't let me finish I wasn't even talking to him directly I was just speaking my thoughts aloud but he didn't care instead he erupted in a torrent of insults each word hit me like a physical blow it stunned me I didn't even know how to respond somehow I forced myself to keep it together for a moment but the emotional weight was overwhelming then he just got Up and walked out of the room leaving me in stunned silence I want to say I gave up on trying but that wouldn't be true I kept making attempts to
fix things with Michael but he refused to engage with me it was as if I had become invisible to him I couldn't stop worrying about how he and the kids were coping without any financial support but somehow they seemed fine sometimes I'd watch from a distance as he dropped them off or picked them up from school I couldn't Get a job and was surviving on unemployment benefits my family had completely cut me off I had nowhere to go and no one to turn to so I ended up couch surfing with friends mostly divorced men it
never lasted long I'd move in and then almost overnight they'd want me out on the advice of my lawyer I started seeing a therapist she believed that sh knowing I was trying to fix myself might look good in court but I had little hope I reluctantly worked Through some issues some of which I've shared with you but what stuck with me most was her final piece of advice run as far as you can I can't pinpoint what exactly made Michael decide to reach out maybe it was a phone call an email or one of the
letters I sent him whatever it was I came home one day to find a package waiting for me it was a standard gift box from a store I recognized and the card had a tone that left no doubt about his feelings he knew everything The weight of that realization was crushing I was staying at a friend's place Robert a decent guy though I could tell he was hoping for something more than just a roommate situation when he saw the package he exploded he ran out of the apartment before I could stop him a few hours
later Robert still hadn't returned I was getting worried when I finally heard from him at the hospital the nurses weren't forthcoming but it didn't take much to piece it together Robert had gone to confront Michael and Michael nearly knock him to pass away his face was unrecognizable he had a concussion several internal injuries and his hip was shattered I was terrified my actions were now causing damage to the people around me at my next therapy session I told the story my therapist asked a lot of questions about Michael I told her everything I knew he
was an only child orphaned as a teenager and had always been kind and devoted to me And the kids I told her about the years of loyalty he'd shown despite my infidelity when I finished her face paled and she looked horrified you need to leave she said her voice shaking leave him leave everything do not contact him do not call write or let him know where you are there is no chance for reconciliation do you understand if you push him he will liquidate you you've broken a man who was already fragile he's suffered Disappointments his
whole life he will never forgive you he will never forget just leave run so I ran I left everything behind my life my family the dream I'd built and moved to a small town in Virginia far from everything familiar I found a terrible job that barely paid the bills a few years later I met a man who tolerated my presence we didn't love each other there was no passion no deep connection we simply coexisted but that in a Strange way felt like punishment enough for me when my children were older they reached out they didn't
ask to see me just checked in to make sure I was alive Michael it seemed was thriving without me I followed his success quietly he became a big name in the tech world with Millions to show for it his personal life a mystery the last time I saw Michael was at my daughter's wedding to my surprise I was invited he looked incred Like the man I had fallen in love with the man I had destroyed he was everything I had ever wanted and it hit me like a wave of guilt he came up to me
afterward and I knew this would be the moment he'd deliver his final judgment for the record he said his voice cold you ruined my life he glanced at my wedding ring which I hadn't bothered to wear much I could see the contempt in his eyes but also something else a sort of finality I'm glad you found someone I Hope he makes you happy and with that he walked away leaving me standing there knowing I had lost everything that had once mattered life in my small Virginia Town isn't what I envisioned for myself but I've learned
to live with the choices that brought me here each day feels like Penance a quiet atonement for the love I squandered and the trust I shattered my husband if I can even call him that has been kind enough to share this lifeless partnership though I know He sees it as a a convenience more than a connection occasionally I catch glimpses of Michael's life through our children they've built their own worlds beautiful and vibrant a testament to the father who raised them I take pride in their accomplishments even if my role in their success feels like
a distant memory but the weight of my mistakes is always there it lives in the Silence of my home the absent Touch of real love and the memories of a man who once Looked at me as if I were his entire universe I sometimes wonder if forgiveness will ever come not from Michael but from myself as I watch the sun dip below the Horizon painting the sky with Hues of Amber and gold I like to imagine a version of my life where I made better choices a life where Michael and I grew old together holding
hands through every storm unshaken by the Temptations of the world but fantasies are all I have now in the end I can only Walk forward step by step carrying the lessons of my past as both a burden and a guide [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]