most men are bad at sex but it's not primarily for the reason you may think it's not primarily about what you are physically doing with a girl during sex although most guys do suck at that the biggest thing guys up when it comes to sex is everything that occurs before the actual sex you see the sexual experience for a woman is not a purely physical one it's a highly emotional Journey there are times when I've had sex with a girl when she literally comes the second I go inside of her because there's been so much
arousal so much foreplay so much buildup that she's just that ready that dripping wet before the sex even begins so in this video I'm going to give you my top five sex tips and these will make you better at the physical sex but they will make you dramatically better at getting the girl ready and into the sex and increasing her pleasure in that way here we go sex tip number one sex has a genre not all sex is the same sex with girl a will be different than sex with girl B sex with girl a
on Sunday will be different than sex with girl a on Valentine's Day or on Christmas or on Tuesday every single sexual experience is a little bit unique and now obviously if you're having sex with the same partner over and over again you're going to get a good idea of what she likes over time but it does change from experience to experience if you run in out of a rainstorm throw up against a wall and have like sex right there in the [ __ ] cloak room that's different than slow sensual sex on the bed after
watching a movie together and snuggling up okay every single experience is different and in any experience whether it's the first time or the 16th time you're having sex with a girl you should be paying attention to what she is responding to if she is responding to you pulling her hair maybe she's down for more of a rough sex experience that day if she is responding to you pulling away and being a little coish maybe she wants to really be teased and she wants a slow buildup that particular day if a girl starts moaning when you
start giving her a massage maybe she wants a very physically relaxing experience leading up very slowly to the sex the point is girls are going to tell you what they want on any particular day so what I recommend is you should have kind of an arsenal of sex moves or sex techniques and you should sort of try them and see what's working for example one is like Kiss the Girl and then pull away if that's working she probably wants to be teased a little bit pulling the hair like I said indicates more roughness if she
it's down for a hairpull she might be down for spanking she might be down for sex that's a little more Fast and Furious and not so much sensual and lovey-dovey if the girl moans when you kiss her neck she'll probably moan even more when you kiss her inner thighs also from girl to girl different things are more or less arousing some girls are incredibly aroused by you kissing and licking their nipples some girls it does almost nothing for some girls you can give an orgasm that way some girls don't even bad an eyelash also when
it comes down to physical sex some girls are incredibly [ __ ] focused and that's the best way to give an orgasm whereas other girls want you to go hard and deep and they'll respond when you you know put a finger deep inside of them or when your penis goes deep inside of them the point is to give a girl a sample of the genre if she's into it go with it if she doesn't seem to be so into it drop it and try a different approach again sex can be different with each individual girl
and they will let you know by the noises they make how they respond when they loosen up when they tense up when they reciprocate when they jump on top of you pay attention they will tell you how they want to be [ __ ] sex tip number two move forward slower than you think is necessary and then even slower than that you see for men our arousal is pretty binary we see a woman and we're like I would have sex with this girl yes or no like a light switch on or off women are not
quite the same women if they are aroused by you a bit or they would have sex with you it's like the light switch is on but it's a dimmer switch and then over time it ramps up and up and up and up and up until it becomes glaringly bright and they're extremely turned on but if you rush it the woman hasn't had time to get fully turned on fully aroused fully wet yet so take your time I promise you this as long as you are appreciably moving closer to sex the girl is not going to
get bored in the process she's just going to get wetter and wetter and wetter and wetter but if you rush things forward you're risking her not being fully aroused yet and what you you really want what's going to make the best sexual experience is when it's not a case of her sitting there and accepting you moving forward sexually on her but when she's actually an active participant you want her to get to the point where she has wanted sex with you at least 10 or 15 minutes before you're doing it and actually not even that
she has wanted to kiss you 10 or 15 minutes before you kissed her and then she wanted you to start taking her clothes off 15 or 20 minutes before you started taking her clothes off and you want her to have wanted you to touch her most sensitive an intimate areas way before you started doing that as well and how will you know when this is happening when she starts doing it on you when she starts taking your clothes off when she starts reaching down and grabbing your dick when she starts kissing your neck and pulling
your hair and jumping on top of you if you take it slow you're not going to be the one escalating sexually on her while she sits there as a recipient she's going to become an active participant and that's what you want so what am I suggesting do a ton of foreplay more for play than you think is necessary and then even more beyond that it's very difficult to do too much foreplay the only time you're going to end up doing too much foreplay is if the foreplay becomes static if you get stuck on one forplay
move and just do it and do it and do it with no progression ever that can get boring right if you just sit there kissing the girl and kissing the girl and kissing the girl and never going further that can definitely get boring but as long as you're appreciably moving forward it is very very hard to go too slowly and it's very easy to go too fast for this next tip we are going to to be overtly physical and my tip here is know what you're working with in general and also know what you're working
with relative to the girl what is your physical anatomy and her physical Anatomy I have had sex with a range of women I've had sex with women from 4' 8 to 6'3 okay so a very very big range and the way the physical body works when the girls are very small and the girls very big are very very different I've also had sex with girls that were incredibly tight and Tiny girls that were less tight and Tiny and if you want to please them you have to kind of know what you're working with relative to
what they're working with I have a pretty average size white man penis so with that with certain girls I'm absolutely enormous with other girls I am not quite so large but my dick is not my only asset in terms of pleasing woman I have my fingers I have my tongue and I also have different positions there are some positions that allow you relatively to feel bigger and go deeper and there are some that do the Opposites and when I did my go deeper position with some of the smallest girls I've ever been with it was
painful for them and we had to stop but with some of the taller girls I've been with there were other restrictions for example I have found that when the girl is taller than you doing doggy style doesn't work particularly well because you can't get high enough to get the proper angle and so you might want to avoid that or you might want to set it up so that you're on top of something you know you're you're kneeling on something higher up or whatever so you need to figure out what your physically dealing with for the
particular girl and also be aware that you have a lot of tools besides just your penis and in general if you ever are unsatisfying with your penis for whatever reason whether it's because you're small relative to the girl or whether it's because you come too fast or whatever or you have trouble getting hard a particular time you have other options for pleasing her as long as she gets aroused has an orgasm and has you inside of her at some point during the experience it will be a positive experience for her even if when you're inside
of her that's not the highest point of the experience and even if you're a little disappointing in that way also if you do happen to have trouble getting hard or if you do come too fast being able to work well with your tongue with your fingers buys you time to then recover and get hard again or gives you time to jerk yourself off while going down on her so that you can get hard and can perform okay so realize that you have a lot of tools at your disposal your penis is only one of them
and you also have a lot of positions available to you my next tip is in some ways an extension of the tip about foreplay but it's much more specific and it's also incredibly applicable to the first few times you have sex with a new girl and this is what I call the 80% rule basically it goes like this whatever she is okay with you doing you should do about 80% of it or let's say for example she's fully okay with you fingering her that doesn't mean you should finger her just yet maybe you run your
fingers right next to and over the sensitive areas but not quite touching it hint at it and get her wanting it even more or for example a lot of times instead of you making a physical move on her maybe make the same physical move on yourself instead of you trying to touch her chest put her hand on your chest the idea here is that she's comfortable up to this level you go 80% of the level she's going to be enjoying that 80% she's also be wondering why didn't he escalate that last 20% and it's going
to make her comfortable it's going to make her feel like you're not Taking Liberties and it's also going to make her kind of more okay with extending it so that 100% becomes 120 now you go to what was previously 90 but is now like you know I don't know what the ratio is but it's now around 80% of what the current escalation kind of cap would be by constantly escalating 80% instead of 100 she's going to be very down she's going to be very aroused she's going to be wondering why you're not doing the rest
she may even fill in that Gap and start escalating on you and very importantly you're never going to over escalate and interestingly enough you will probably escalate to sex by default faster that way than if you did escalate 100% if she said you can do this right not literally said but if she's indicating you could do this level and you do right at this level she's going to be nervous like oh God is he going to step one step too far or God forbid you do step one two one step too far she says no
that really slows things down that really dampens the mood and it really you know it puts a negative emotion a negative feeling into the whole experience whereas again if you just go that 80% and then it expands you go 80% and it expands you're going to escalate very fast it's going to be very rousing for it's going to be very very good so try and keep in mind this idea of going 80 rather than 100 my final tip for this video is going to be a little bit counterintuitive cuz throughout this video what we're mainly
talking about at his core is how to please the woman but what I'm going to encourage you to do in this tip is to be okay with being a little bit selfish as well at least for a lot of guys I hear so many guys so many of my clients they talk to me about they're trying so hard to please the woman and then they end up causing themselves to underperform as a result they're so worried about her experience they get out of the mood themselves they aren't getting roused and then they don't get hard
and then they fundamentally give her a less good experience than they would have if they'd been a little bit selfish or for example they're so worried about how it feels for her they stop enjoying it and thinking about how it feels for them and then they have trouble coming so understand that part of her experience especially towards the back end of the sexual experience is going to be you getting off as well so if she's already had an orgasm she's already felt really good but then you can't get hard she might worry about that that
might lessen the experience for her or if you know you're going and going and you can't come at the end she might feel like she's not enough and that might be not as emotionally good for her so at a certain point in the sexual experience once you know you've done a good job don't worry quite so much about her you've kind of already taken care of her and focus on you focus on really feeling every delicious inch of her as you go in and out focus on looking at her in objectifying her and thinking about
what's hot about her and getting yourself uniquely aroused because that's going to have an effect on you that she's going to feel if you're more turned on she can tell you're more turned on if you're harder she can feel that you're harder both emotionally and physically so it's okay to be a little bit selfish it's also okay if you need some help along the way to take a moment and ask for that help right so if you're having trouble getting hard you can take a minute go down on her and just jerk herself off you
can also ask her to kiss you in various places you can ask her to go down on you you can ask her to help you don't ask it in that way but be baby be really hot if you did this or I want you to kiss me here you can ask for what you need and you can give yourself the time and give yourself the lack of pressure to have a positive experience for yourself as well because a good sexual experience shouldn't just be all about her it should be mutual and at least to some
extent you having a good time will make her have a better time so don't be so unselfish that you end up underperforming also if you do have a history of having performance issues um whether physically or psychologically there are Medical Solutions for that and it's not a terrible idea there are very few side effects so if having a Viagra in your back pocket either helps you physically or gives you the confidence to know that it's there just in case so you're not in your head as much that can be very very useful especially the first
few times you have sex with a girl and especially I know a lot of times early on in a relationship you're having sex with a condom it's harder to perform later on once you've been tested your intimate maybe without a condom you performed just fine but the point is those Medical Solutions do exist the consequences are pretty low so that is another resource that's available to you if you want to take it there's no shame in it you can totally be a sexually healthy 25-year-old and use a Viagra there's nothing wrong with that so those
are my tips if you have specific questions put them in the comments below and we'll try and get to them thanks take care
