why do you think your dreams and your goals are delusional we always throw out this dulu word like it's a bad thing but in all actuality anyone who's successful is highly highly delusional and just to prove this I'm going to insert some iconic clips of celebrities being delusional I got fired today either way I'm going to be straight I put my heart and my soul into this mixtape I Beed my life I went through so much I dedicated myself to sobriety and God told me that I would be rewarded and that he would show me
just how good it can get I think tomorrow I'm just going to go to a whole bunch of like Studios record label companies like I'm just going to go in and ask who gives a like this I have nothing to lose I literally have nothing to lose I have no place I have no job I have no children I have who gives a who cares who cares I'm just going to do it you are exactly who you need to be to be right where you are and I am a testimony I was 18 telling everyone
around me I'm going to be a superstar and everybody's going yeah whatever she's an egomaniac and then haha I'mma need you to bring out your Journal Bessie bring it out okay because today I'm going to be going over the 3 m to a quick but highly effective glow up in 30 days the mindset the method and the madness the madness I'm just going to be talking about how being delusional is actually a good thing and you can use it to your advantage so long as you actually take action first things first is the mindset of
a glow up we already talked about Reinventing yourself this is not Reinventing yourself this is literally just leveling up to the highest version of yourself and often times people get confused babe you don't need to reinvent yourself in order to level up got it yes some eras of your life do call for a reinvention but other times you just want to have a little spice to your life and there's nothing wrong with that so go ahead and subscribe but this video is sponsored by me girl because I actually made you guys a $10 ebook that
you guys can go grab go grab it it's in my free gety together Community I'm not going to ramble on too long about that we're just going to get straight into the tips I feel sad to admit this but sometimes I don't feel like that girl okay I go through periods of my life where I'm just not feeling like myself I feel super out of touch with myself so how do you get back into the mindset of leveling up when you're getting into that stagnant period where you don't feel like yourself let me tell you
it's actually very normal to not go through periods where you always feel confident about yourself confidence is marketed as this thing where it's either you have it or you don't you can have confidence and still be a little bit insecure that's okay I believe in identifying the root problem so explore that insecurity this need and desire to level up can often be confused as this repression of who you actually are do a self- audit pay attention to certain people in your life how they make you feel any repeating thought patterns throughout the day because there's
some thoughts that we think of more than others the tasks that you typically avoid and then whatever other small that you're just like I want to improve it but I don't know how to improve it I'm going to call you out you're not in a lazy girl era you're choosing to be lazy take personal responsibility for that because it's not going anywhere your choice to just sit around and be lazy is affecting future you's opinion of who you are now future you is going to blame oh I just wasn't that motivated in the past you
know I could have done this but you know excuses excuses excuses future you is blaming you now ask yourself what the version of yourself you're trying to become is and act like her this is not fake it till you make it this is embodying the version of yourself that you've been trying to become because the more you do things that confirm the reality you want the closer you get to timeline jumping and what do I mean by a timeline jump there are certain days of your life where you know something just shifted you just know
it you don't know how you don't know why but something within you stops going back to those old patterns but until then you got to fight off that demon that lazy demon that's you that's you babe this is the mindset of a successful person stop giving yourself excuses and be grateful for where you're at I'm not saying this to be mean I'm saying this to be realistic now on the other hand you need to look at those limiting beliefs right you're insecure why what are you thinking what are you feeling ask yourself throughout the day
what am I thinking what am I feeling for example let's say you're a student and you're walking around campus and that particular day you felt really insecure about your body as you're walking around any person you make eye contact with you automatically think they're giving you a dirty look some of the things you think aren't valid your thoughts shouldn't control every single thing you do a person who is solely controlled by what they think is a weak-minded person you think you should text your ex so you do you think that person's judging you so you
run to the bathroom and cry you think that nobody will accept you if you go to that event you see how you're limiting yourself because you don't know you're just taking that thought as fact but what if instead you just question that thought you just went okay where is this coming from why do I feel like that person looking at me was because they think I look ugly or they think this no that's not what they think you're just assuming that that's what they think because you are already hypercritical of yourself from the jump this
is a very hard pilled swallow but it's something that I had to realize myself I was giving myself excuses not to level up and not to go to certain things because I feared judgment so heavily that I believe that what other people thought about me was true not everything everyone thinks about you is true most of us that sounds really obvious but in the moment when we're fearing judgment from people what we're really doing is assuming what they're thinking question your negative thought patterns and insecurities because the only way you can get to the root
of why you don't change your life and why you don't level up is by looking at the way you act and asking yourself if it's building you a better life this is a different mindset but it's a mind set necessary in order to push through resistance because in this 30 days when you go into this level up Journey you're going to have resistance to certain things why the old beliefs that you've held about yourself are going to be questioned because wait I am capable I am strong I am going to the gym I am that
girl you see what I mean here is the level up method number one choose an area of your life to focus on it can be two areas of your life or it can be one trying to focus on everything gets you nothing often times the reason why people get discouraged when they try to level up their life in 30 days or try these different New Year's challenges which I bet you're at that point right now where you're burnt out you tried to challenge it didn't work or it might it might have worked but this is
why people start to get really discouraged around this time of the year the glitter wore off Life starts to feel dull you stop believing in yourself because you've had a couple of cheat days whatever the case is you need to hold yourself accountable when you fail because in the moments you fail are actually the most essential to leveling up the reason we Retreat back to bad habits is not a conscious reason it's very subconscious because we're craving Comfort sometimes we do it and we literally know we're doing it but we still do it anyways and
then we guilt ourself for it but you need to hold yourself accountable through the form of rewards I've talked about this in other videos okay I have talked about this in other videos but we're going to talk about it again because it's important there's extrinsic motivation intrinsic motivation intrinsic makes you feel good from the inside and all fuzzy extrinsic motivation is I look like a baddie you get the point right extrinsic motivation comes from outside sources intrinsic motivation comes from what's inside of you extrinsically you can be motivated by a lot of things most of
the time people are motivated by other people acknowledging them it is okay to do something for external validation so long as it's not the only motivator you have extrinsic motivations are like quick fuel whereas intrinsic motivations are long-term energy it's like having a meal versus having candy have a motivator that's based in reality for example you can go get your nails done you can go do something nice for yourself you can go buy that thing you've been wanting whatever the case is give yourself a reward and write it down and bring it back at the
Forefront of your mind when you think about going back to that bad habit very important step next thing you got to do is you got to think about who you want to become because that's going to be your intrinsic motiv motivation a lot of people when they want to level up their life they do so for the wrong reasons and not that those motivators can't push you to a point at first for example if you're going to the gym because you want your revenge body that's completely fine I don't think that's a negative thing at
all to be honest yes it can get to the point where it's negative but in my personal opinion whatever energy you're currently in whether that's anger sadness fear you work with what you have because you need to transmute it it's better to acknowledge the emotion you're feeling than to suppress it and act like you're leveling up your life in love and light when you're at a point where you don't believe in anything you don't trust anyone and you literally are not okay it is not the time to be like love and light I love myself
like yes it's important to love yourself but how do you show you love yourself I know I would rather crash out and break windows and dishes but instead I'm going to go to the gym because I know all of this anger I have needs to be directed towards something and My Future Self will thank me but your intention does matter to an extent for example if you are solely going to the gym because someone stared at you and you felt really insecure about it you're not leveling up your body for them you're leveling it up
for you and the second that you start to think that it's for other people that's when you need to bring yourself back to that intrinsic motivation which is extremely important write down extrinsic intrinsic motivations the next method is the alter ego method when you feel this lazy version of yourself coming out you need to activate your new version of yourself and this is how you do it close your eyes and visualize this new version of yourself what does he or she do every day what does he or she look like how does he or she
carry themselves how does he or she talk open your eyes write this stuff down write down the details of who you would be if you had no limitations on who you are what would you do for work if you were a Pinterest board what would your Pinterest board look like this is silly but it's painting a picture of how you're going to level up your life and this doesn't have to be in some crazy way this can literally just be I'm going to start waking up and doing some meal prep instead you know I spend
way too much time in the morning making breakfast I just want to have something meal pre that way I can wake up and have enough time to do what I'm doing right and this is where we get into the madness part you need to talk to yourself like you need to do affirmations every single day and I'm going to tell you why because when you're repeating to yourself oh my God I'm so lazy I'm so tired your words have meaning back to what I said at the beginning of the video what are you thinking what
are you feeling sometimes we have repeating thoughts about ourselves that constantly come up I'm so clumsy I'm so awkward I'm so messy what are those things that you know are bad traits of yourself that you just don't like and you want to change but you feel stuck in your ways what are those competing thoughts and what do they make you feel saying that you're messy makes you feel powerless but saying that you're choosing to be messy makes you feel embarrassed and that's not a bad thing that's a good thing sometimes our feelings are meant to
reveal parts of ourselves that we want to change feeling embarrassed and making a change to do better is the best way to go about that negative emotion of embarrassed the worst emotions I've been through have transformed me I've had the most insane realizations not at the highest points of my life but at the lowest points of my life where I didn't think I was going to make it out and I didn't understand why this was going on because it taught me about my resilience and it taught me how to be strong it taught me how
to believe in myself repeat in the mirror I believe in myself I got this like truly believe like when you truly believe that you're that girl what would that girl do nobody is forcing you to become the version of yourself that you want to be nobody is coming to save you there is not someone who's going to do that work for you you got to be able to look at yourself in the eyes and be like I'm that girl I don't care that I fell back on this habit I'm Still That Girl and I'm still
going to get up and try again because why future me is not about to blame me for her failure with that being said besties go ahead and check out the gety together Community I just launched my 30-day level up ebook but I revamped it I gave you guys worksheets to fill out that way it's more interactive for you and your level up journey I also still have the 21-day devoted challenge over on my community as well that's guided videos and worksheets every single day so go ahead and check that out but please let me know
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