[hard breathing] [coughing] [phone ringing] you How's the run? well I'm lying on the ground so what do you think I think you're doing it wrong You're doing it wrong. What?
I can't believe you made me do this. this is all your fault Ok you remember asking me for my advice right You remember begging me to help you take your mind off dating or whatever You remember that happening Running is how I take my mind off stuff Yea, well, it doesn't work it just reminds me of dating because it hurts Ok, well good luck Oh no no no you have to help me 'cus now that I'm done with guys I just suddenly have all this free time and I need something to do and there's just like an endless amount of time all the days and hours and so many days you owe me what why do I you made me run Ben okay fine I will help you let's talk about it over lunch lunch ok yay lets do Bravo I'm gonna get a vegetable slice oh and um and some curly fries and maybe like a garden salad oh and California roll. Ben?
hey Jacobs hey is David here here? No I wish I'm here meeting Kayla oh yeah how's that going? she's so cute okay here's the hot Goss we've been hanging out for two weeks on the reg and it's going pretty well but she feels like every time we hang out it's always with like all my friends so we're gonna meet here for a little like one-on-one thing.
oh okay I'm totally gone what no don't worry about it hey hey Noa Hi you smell better than the last time I saw you you. What? Shh Noa You had just got back from a run you were sweating sorry don't apologize some women pretend that they smell perfect all the time like they don't ever sweat or fart or need to shower it's so antiquated really you should be proud to show that you're a functioning human being he's right anyway your tables a little tight see what no no no there's plenty of room No Z you really don't have to He's bringing chairs there's room we'll sit here we're just gonna be here for a minute Jacob's taking me to an art gallery I'm not taking you we're going together you're not my property art gallery yeah that sounds good I'll come too what about Kayla yeah Kayla I mean she'll come also that's where we were gonna go anyway sounds fun [phone ringing] Hey Ben are you almost here?
I've been Grouponing all morning and I have a full day of activities planned that may or may not be my next full-time passion also I got you spicy fries but you're gonna have to eat them quickly because we have yoga in half an hour Yea, I can't do today what? I'm really sorry I just got a call from work I have to do a thing today this is so not fair what who works on a Sunday I'm sorry I will make it up to you I prom-- so who wants to spend a really fun day figuring out my new hobby Noa Z hey and look everyone else is here how nice I'm so happy to see all of you well we've gotta go finish up yeah that's us too but we're going just eat on the way we're going to mini golf? art gallery art gallery are we settled on art gallery okay okay yeah bye guys have so much fun on your dates hope you all break up What did you get me?
all right I thought about this a lot it took you a very long time I know I know I I thought about your personality and your sense of humor and your creativity and I chose something that I think represents you it's different it's it's out of the box it's unexpected and I think you're really gonna like it. Wow when I said surprise me I didn't mean all that but close your eyes close your eyes ugh oh no What is that It's pistachio and I uh I had them put in raisins no good? I trusted you I know I'm sorry but uh here take mine it's chocolate Ooo you sure yeah yeah absolutely Mmmmm so good I love chocolate its delicious I'm gonna be right back Sarah?
Hey. Hi Joey so good to see you this is David David this is Joey my brother Joey hi it's so nice to meet you it's Joe only she calls me Joey and this is Chana, Chana this is my sister Sarah hi nice to meet you I'm so excited to be meeting you yeah what are the chances well we were actually just about to go boating in the park I don't know if you wanna join us-- I'm sure they've got something else going on no we were actually just wandering around looking for something fun to do yeah see they're busy. Yeah boating sounds fun to me Sure great great it's this way are you ok?
yeah yeah yeah. Ok Just finishing this chapter I'm like four lines Can you believe Ben just ditched me like that? Totally.
Who's Ben? God I mean like who works on a Sunday who's got you scrambling I've been texting this guy and he's finally going to ask me out today I think I hope maybe? how long have you been talking since middle school are you kidding girl that is like five lifetimes in guy years you have got to move on I've tried there's no one else out there what are you talking about there are so many guys out there trust me I dated all of them here Oh what are you doing don't touch ok laugh like you're having fun.
He he that is your new profile pic for J-swipe oh no no no I don't do dating apps oh okay then just keep pining away for your middle school crush forever is that what you want? it's the biggest Jewish dating app in the world literally all the guys you want are right here I never know what to say for that little bio hmm tell me something fun about yourself Um I like to write poems sometimes about the pigeons outside my window and my roommate says they're really good I'm a critically acclaimed poet and lover of nature take me on an adventure there uggggh now can we please refocus back to what this day is really about right the first adventure of two new best friends/finding my new passion I really hope it's this I look so good in yoga clothes what do you think I feel so alive something in her expressions just she has secrets I want to know what she's thinking about and joy is so palpable what do you see Pain. Lots and lots of pain I see why you saw that You're so sweet it's a great surface read but you see these harsh lines here not a lot of people see it at first oftentimes things that seem pleasing to the eye can actually have sinister undertones try to look deeper at the next one okay I will Z there's my favorite one sorry excuse me do you know anything about this painting oh yes I do actually so you see the way that that woman is looking to the heavens that's because it's inspired by a popular 90s hit backstreet's back I don't think so I see it everybody yeah rock your body yeah cool I see it to everybody yeah yeah do do do Ok I have an idea for the next time totally oh you you guys want some?
thanks just take it off you you dork not gonna do it oh are you not a good swimmer? yeah it's not that there's a sign back there He's a rules follower Oh I guess uh I guess that makes us rule breakers it's so new for me Joey want another carrot? No thanks If you want I'm happy to row by the way not gonna happen Ow excuse you what?
I'm good no really I'm happy to you shouldn't have to do all the work. Really I'm good I skipped the gym this morning but thanks I'm gonna have to daven Mincha later maybe then Sure Do you have any more carrots? Sarah Hmm?
are there any more carrots? No but I made some cupcakes oh I'm okay Chana's gluten-free. Oh are you allergic?
No it's not an allergy it's just a sensitivity but she gets all bloated and smear about her--thank you long have you two been together Who me and Joe? [coughs] no we're You ok? Mmhmm We're friends [clears throat] Ok [music playing] now reach your branches out and let your roots ground you What branches oh woah This looks way easier on TV Shh now let's move into an eagle pose and let your wings guide you I got a bunch of messages heh duh Bupapapa don't answer yet make them think you're too busy having fun That shouldn't be too hard okay now let's move into a warrior three pose okay yeah this is stupid come on Talia let's go now breathe into your left knee cap oh my garsh are you yes shhhh wait who are you uh she's the artist she painted this yes I painted rabbi conga line but please I don't want anyone to know that I'm here it's an honor to meet you I love it.
Thank you thank you shhhh Aliza! I just met the artist that painted this I just met Isaac Muli? The muted tones suggest a conflictedness, which I think stems from the artists ambivalence about being left-handed Mhmm that's really interesting I see it you're so good at-- 'course this is a female artist so you should really think for yourself and not just defer my interpretation I mean you're a feminist right?
As a woman you can connect with her on a much deeper level than I can as a privileged white male isn't he kind of like whlaaah? I'm glad he's not my date right? that's what I was thinking same page you and me.
so I was thinking-- be right back hey Noah can you help me find something I seem to have misplaced my lunch box I'll just be a minute I made that all up I didn't even bring my lunch box whats up um do you see what we all see about Jacob? when you're with him is he because Kayla and I were talking are you it looks like you're just I'm all smiles right? Ah my cheeks hurt after we hang out it's not that he's funny no it's definitely not that it's just that he he makes me happy and I wasn't even looking for someone but Jacob is just so smart and progressive and our values are like I'm really glad you said something because I mean was afraid things to be awkward between us because you had a thing for me but now you're with Kayla and she's awesome and I'm with Jacob and it just feels good right okay I'm gonna get back there good talk I was uh but I was actually I was actually on a date with a different Sarah and um it was uh well you know it might not seem like it but it was it was funny yeah I can see that very funny right?
Mhmm [laughs] Can I have some? Mmmm um so what are you up to after this? Oh we're going to hear a speaker at JQY uh Is there a place for us in orthodoxy?
Oh cool where was that? JQY it's how Joe and I know each other I don't know JQY Really? JQY Jewish Queer Youth it's the organization that supports LGBTQ youth from Orthodox communities we've been going to their drop-in center like every Thursday since high school honestly it was life-saving I used to think that I was completely alone and now I have this entire community, right Joe?
So you're you're both uh gay or uh BTQ? Yea we're gay queer LGBTQ wait you didn't know that? He does now He's dating your sister I assumed he knew That's what I was telling you not to tell him I thought you were telling me not to tell him that you peed because you laughed so hard at the Lego Movie Oh come on which I thought was weird honestly because you had told him about my bathroom issues when I eat wheat That is not the same thing Is it not Oh um Mincha David?
Uh I, I davened already No you said you'd row Uh right right um why don't we Uh actually can we all just stay sitting Woah ok hold on hold on ohhh everyone please sit oh I think East is that way could you, Joe could you switch with me? uh ok umm wahh woah woah woah ok Joe you move first you ok? You ok?
and um oh oh [whimper] [screams] [traffic noises] [music] this is hopeless looks nothing like a stupid freaking sunset Oh were you trying to paint a sunset? oh no now I see it really good Oh [giggles] What? So this really cute doctor guy has been messaging me he just wrote "what are you up to" - ooh what did you say?
Oh-- Nothing much you nothing much you ughhh What? I was playing it cool People want to be with fun people 'mkay? sorry can't talk having a girls day with my bestie there he doesn't need to know we're not besties Painting is yummy.
Yea [music] so so what are you ashamed that Joe is gay is that why you wanted to hide it? No I love Joey I'm proud of him and I loved him-- so its me. so you just didn't want me to know.
Why why what why why I don't understand did you think that I'd I don't even know. No! I panicked all of a sudden you were meeting him and I grew up in a place where you hid that stuff where my family the ones who knew we're afraid of being shun by the community.
You don't live there anymore but my Ima does we talk every day and she's so scared of how the community would react and nobody wanting to marry into the family if they knew So what so you looked at me and thought that I would what, walk away from you? I looked at you and I saw a really nice guy who's a rabbi and and being nice to a gay person on the street is different then maybe deciding wanting him to be a part of your family no it isnt come on David, Rabbi, yes it is Don't Rabbi me like it ike it's an insult like it dictates how I feel about this okay you're right this fear is so deeply ingrained in me and I hate that I fall into it even now and I hate that he's had to lie for us I tell myself that I'm protecting him but I know it just hurts him more I should have told you I'm sorry David I should have told you you know what I don't even really care that you didn't tell me I care that you don't trust me it's hard for me because I love you and and you don't even seem to know me I didn't trust you which was stupid because I I do know you I know you and I know how you treat people and I shouldn't have been afraid I'm sorry and I'll tell you all the family secrets from now on like my Aunt Baila who makes people disappear for the Mafia she lives around here what no I'm kidding totally kidding she lives in Brooklyn [laughs] we okay? yeah well we're okay but maybe you should Hey everything good?
yeah look Joey, I'm sorry about today. I know I get it Ima's in your head it's okay No it's not I never want you or anyone to doubt that I'm so proud of you every part of you and I want you to be proud of you too I want to be there for you and I wasn't today I failed you and I'm sorry Thank you. Joe was telling me about your family stuff, I've been there.
Do you know about Eshel? Eshel yes they're the organization that you were you go you you were doing it anyway. Thank you.
They have programs for Orthodox parents with LGBTQ children they have retreats and Shabbatons I already told her you know Ima would never go for it. What are you talking about you loved the national retreat you said it set your soul free You said that? Yes That's poetic But Ima's different Sarah I'm right right?
So you think my parents wanted to go the day after I came out it took time they started with the anonymous support call that they have and that eased them in I'll talk to her Sarah she's never gonna go for it I think she will What makes you think Because she needs this too Eshel came to my school once that's how I knew about them Cool Not running not yoga not painting not candle making not metal detecting I thought that one was fun not whittling oh I have a date I have a date look look look look look I have a date ta da oh my God thank you thank you I have a date you are so good at guys oh no I'm just really good at getting first dates that's the hardest part my friends would do like anything to get wait wait wait people have a hard time getting dates yeah that's so sad I couldn't have gotten this one without you you're so good at it I'm amazing at it. I'm amazing at it and I really liked how you just complimented me just now would your friends do that also uhhh [phone ringing] okay I'm still at work but I was thinking about it and I figured out what your next passion's gonna be uhuh really and uh what's that Ultimate Frisbee I know this great group of guys that meet up every Sund-- Do you think your friends would pay like a hundred Oh my God She was inside of me the whole time wow [music] Z look how cute these postcards are awww so cute how about this one that one too but I think this one's much better what do you think Yeah much better Do you want to go out with me? What like now I thought were already out aren't we?
No like do you want to be going out with me because I like you a lot but I don't need this if you're not into it what do you mean you spent half our date staring at Noa oh that no I just want her to be happy because Jacob said dingleberry and and she's well she's with Jacob and I'm with Kayla, you, and your awesome I do want to be going out with you I really do I want to believe you because I like you so can I believe you? Yeah, I like you too you want to get dinner? A date yeah a dinner date just the two of us?
Yes ah okay [giggles] great I'm gonna text David and see if he wants to double uh okay you don't need to say anything really but I did say I love you before for the first time and you didn't actually say how you feel isn't is obvious okay okay okay I know what you probably meant but just so that I don't I love you too okay that's all I needed Do you know how to get out of the park? No I think I broke my phone. You?
Oh I think mine's at the bottom of the lake We could be wandering for hours yea park it's like a different direction foreseen by you and I'm very excited hey thanks for watching the new episode I fell in a lake for this one you did and in just a few minutes we're gonna see an extended look at that cold cold scene but first we were thrilled to partner with jqi and a shell to bring this episode to life I don't know jqi really take you I do ask where you do is dedicated to empowering community their doors are open to all lesbian gay bisexual transgender and queer youth with a focus on those from Orthodox communities their goal is for these individuals to know you are a valued member of the Jewish community and you are not alone check out their website and JQ used duct work there's a link in the description below and by now you've heard about a show a show yes you're the organization that you were you go community educational programming and active chapters across North America shall provide the future and a connection for those LGBTQ people and their families who feel they're on the margins of Orthodoxy call their warm line or visit their website to join a shell in opening doors and saving lives next up Jason it's the biggest Jewish dating app in the world with over a million users no matter who you're looking for you can find them on Jay just like tyanna dr.
