- My big thing is that people's fears are predicated other people. You're allowing other people's opinions to dictate your life. (soft music) Letting somebody else dictate your life is immediate unhappiness.
You're not in control. There is nothing, nothing, more difficult than navigating your life based on somebody else's opinion. You actually care about what your dad or mom or grandma or husband or wife or daughter or son is gonna say about you if you do this thing.
It doesn't matter what they think. When you're fuckin' 92 and you're sitting there you're not gonna give a shit about what punkman96 had to say. Or even what your aunt had to say, who's miserable 'cause she never got hers so she's trying to keep you down.
Negative people latch on to positive people and try to seclude them from the world because that's their energy. In work I see it everyday. In life I see it everyday.
It's just what it is. I hate how many people judge other people without having all the context. Every time you fuckin' judge you make yourself vulnerable.
99. 9% of the people that you judge or have opinions on you have no idea what the fuck is actually happening in their lives. Like you don't fucking know what's going on in somebody's fuckin' home.
Everybody sucks at something, right? We all have shortcomings. And for me it's like why don't we just audit that?
Why don't we just look at it that way? And be like, I'm good at this, but I'm not good at that. Everybody's so absolute.
Are you really really really not gonna live your life based on somebody's anonymous fuckin' icon feedback that you suck, they fuckin' suck. Go do your thing, don't listen to anybody but what's in your fuckin' mind and the fuckin' heart. And not living a life where you allow other people's judgment to dictate your behavior.
You're letting your homie or your aunt or somebody else shit on you. It's going in your head and now you think you're shitting on yourself. You're valuing somebody else's opinion too much.
So many of you are gonna be resentful and blame somebody else besides yourself, it's your fault that you're not doing your thing and so the reason I think it's happening is the judgment of others, it's the same shit from fourth and fifth grade that we develop. This is very complicated, but unbelievably simple. You're worried about what other people think.
You give up on that shit and you're clean. And you can go and all of a sudden it's not how much money you have or how much time you have, you just see that you can do it. Money ain't, time ain't shit of holding you back compared to your worry about other people's opinions.
Do you know what it's like to be in your own head and nothing else matters? Do you know what it feels like to give a shit so much about what everybody thinks yet not care at all? Do you know that when I leave here I'm gonna look at every single tweet about this talk and if somebody says, nah, I'm gonna be devastated like I fuckin' died, yet equally don't give a fuck?
When you can get to that place, amazing shit happens. You know why? 'Cause you stop being scared.
And I want that for every fuckin' person because let me tell you something, it fucking is the best. You only have one life. And it's much better to live it for yourself than somebody else.
- Four hundred trillion to one. - That's it, baby.
