If you struggle to get yourself to take action whether that be in your career or your business or your health with exercising or losing weight or your relationships or any other area of your life and you feel like you're sometimes stuck in fear and struggling to move forward and you feel inept and like you're not good enough or smart enough and that there's something wrong with you then what i'm going to Share with you on this podcast is essential for you to understand because i'm not only going to discuss what it is that's going on
what's going on in the brain and the body i'm also going to share with you step by step what you can do to finally move through the fear and get yourself to take action [Music] today on the podcast we're talking about how to get ourselves to move forward and take action despite the fear so this is Super important if you want to move your life forward in any area of your life whether you want to grow a business or move your career forward or improve your health your relationships or just be more confident in life
and be more happy and fulfilled it is super important to understand how you can actually move yourself forward despite the fear because the reality is is that we all have fear when we want to move forward we're afraid of what other people might Think or say or we're afraid of failure or afraid of success there's so many fears and stresses and anxiety about how to move ourselves forward and so we're going to talk today about exactly what's going on in the brain and the body and why is it that we can sometimes feel like we
desperately want to move forward but we just feel so stuck so trapped by fear by anxiety by overwhelmed by so many different things we're going to talk about that and we're going to go Step by step on how you can actually move your life forward and yes of course we're going to do some tapping today super important great tool technique that we can use to lower that fear that anxiety all that fun stuff so um so i want to start off today by talking a little bit about what really holds us back and it's really
important to start with understanding that you can't wait for the fear to disappear Before you take action remember that the title today is how to get yourself to take action despite the fear because so often people feel like well i can't i'm too scared i'm not gonna i can't move forward and they're waiting for the fear to disappear and the reality is is that most often the fear either doesn't disappear or doesn't disappear entirely until you start taking action and so we're going to talk a little bit today i'm going to start with a framework
That i'm going to share with you on how it is that we actually measure it's called the action gauge how how does we measure whether or not we're going to take action on something and what we can do to either move ourselves uh to where we can actually or more willing to take action despite the discomfort despite the fear or what we can do to actually lower the fear there's two things we can do lower the fear or actually move ourselves in a Direction where we're more willing to take action despite the fear for example
somebody who is comfortable with you know skydiving or bungee jumping might have a much higher level of tolerance of fear in that particular area of their life or they might just have a high level of fear and they're just willing to or low level fear with that particular action so we're going to talk about how we actually measure this really really important I also want to share something with you important to understand and that is that courage is not the absence of fear it is the strength and determination to take action despite the fear let
me say that again courage is not the absence of fear it is the strength and determination to take action despite the fear again so often we feel like we can't move forward until we release the fear or the anxiety or the worry whatever may be when really what we need to do is to raise our Comfort level with discomfort and the more you stretch that muscle the more you practice pushing yourself forwards and and making yourself uncomfortable at times the more comfortable you'll get with it so we'll share a little bit about that today i'm
going to share a bunch of different notes today if you want to be able to get a pdf download with all this because you know for me it's really important that you not only learn these strategies and techniques But you have something you can take with you and actually implement to get yourself to take action so if you want to do that just go to thetappingsolution.com forward slash take action all together one one not one word two words but put together no spaces no dashes so again that's the tapping solution.com forward slash take action so
uh let me start off here by talking about the action gauge i'm going to um Share that with you now if you're watching this on youtube i'll share a little uh paper here that i actually wrote out that i drew out just before we started to record this if you're listening just to the podcast just visualize this with you i'll try to explain as best i can and if you hear the crinkling of the paper on the audio just cause i'm holding up the audio here so if you can see that there on the screen
or or if you are just imagining It because you're listening to the podcast i want you to imagine just a sheet of paper with a line right down the middle now this is going to be the action gauge imagine it's a thermostat and on that line it's broken up and there are different numbers going all the way from zero to ten so little markers going zero one two three four five six seven eight nine ten and on the right side of that line is fear Now if you've done tapping before you're you're you already know
how we measure whatever we're feeling whether it be the fear the anxiety the sadness the guilt the overwhelm whatever emotion we're feeling we measure it on a scale of zero to ten now with the action gauge we measure what that fear level is on a zero to ten so imagine that you're thinking about a particular action let's say it's speaking on states right the number one fear in life is people Speaking they'd rather rather as they say number two is fear of death they say people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy
right because that's the number one fear so imagine that your fear of speaking out at some event or speaking in front of your colleague is that a level eight and your action limit is a level two now your action limit this is the left side of this diagram here your action limit is how comfortable you are with discomfort Now it can be it's a it's a has a variety of things that go into this so this can also be measured by your determination this is something you're really determined and motivated and pushing forward to do
you know you might be able to raise that to a higher number if it's something that you don't care about that much and you're like ah you know i'm willing to take action at a level two of fear i'm not going to do it if i'm other than That i don't want to be that uncomfortable with this particular action now if you look at this and use this action gage with anything that you want in your life let's say again it might be speaking in front of others it might be um you know getting yourself
to exercise at the gym it might be asking somebody out on a date whatever it might be and you ask yourself what level from 0 to 10 is Or how strong is that fear for you and if that's at a level 8 for example in this example but your action limit is at a level 2 you're not likely to take action on that particular thing now there's two things we can do here right there's two things number one is we can either lower the fear and of course tapping is a great uh technique and resource
to do that we can lower the fear and we can raise our action limit so we can raise Our particular motivation or or how determined we are or just our comfort level with discomfort on this particular action now you can do either right so let's imagine that your fear was level eight when it came to speaking in front of others and you lowered it to a four it went all the way from an eight to a four so you cut your level of fear in half but your action limit is still a two You're still
not going to be willing to take action on that particular thing now if you move your action limit up to a five whether that be because you really focus on how it's going to feel afterwards or you just realize that how it can bring you forward and you just build up your determination or you just start to practice in front of other people and get a little bit more comfortable being uncomfortable and you raise your action Limit to a level five all of a sudden your action limit is out of five and your fear let's
say i gave an example was a four on this diagram it's actually a three here for those of you watching on youtube and so there you have a gap either way whether that fear is a four or three also you have a gap where your action limit is a five and your fear is a three or four whatever it might be and if there you have a gap you are then willing to take action so really what We're looking to do when it comes to getting ourselves to take action is to create that gap to
create the gap where the fear is lower than our action limit our willingness to take action despite the fear now that might be getting your fear from an eight to of you know a four or three or it might be going you know what this particular thing i'm doing i'm scared at a level eight of this but i am so determined i'm So motivated i'm so willing to take this action that i'm going to take action at a level nine that's your action limit right so it doesn't matter whether it's getting your fear way down
or getting your action limit way up all that matters is that you create that gap where you are willing to push forward despite the fear hope that makes sense this is really important to understand because a lot of times people feel like they all they Have to do is get rid of the fear and then it'll go away and the truth is that nothing really gets rid of the fear in taking on big tasks and until you get to a point where you are comfortable with it you've done it more times whatever the case may
be and you're used to doing it so with whatever it is that you're thinking about where you're where you're thinking you know i really want to grow my business or maybe it's uh i want to Start doing videos for instagram or tiktok or it's in in your work that you want to be able to ask for a raise or speak up in a meeting or with your health you want to feel comfortable going to the gym and exercising around other people whatever area of life it is if you can measure yourself on that action gauge
where you measure the fear the fear that you have of actually taking that action and your action limit of how willing are you to Do this particular action despite the fear you'll then get a measurement of where you stand and what you need to do to actually get yourself to take action so hopefully that is helpful there for those of you on on youtube you got the visualization if not hopefully that was clear in what i shared here just with the audio but i want to have that as a framework to understand basically how we
measure where we are in getting ourselves to take action of course if You want to grow in bigger ways the the big thing you're going to have to do is to raise that action limit right and that's going to depend on a lot of different factors in life if you um just haven't pushed yourself in a long time you know i mean i give you know one example of this is is for those of you that are mothers out there and you've taken 10 years off of from the work World because to take care of
your kids and you haven't been working all sudden your you know things that you did 10 years ago when you were working 10 years later when you stopped working you're trying to re-enter the workforce you're not going to feel as comfortable with right you're going to be nervous about it or scared about it because you haven't stretched that muscle you haven't pushed that muscle to grow and so when we're going to push ourselves in Any area we really want to focus on how we can grow that action limit so that regardless of what we're doing
no matter how strong the fear is we're willing to get ourselves to take action and push ourselves forward because we are so determined and so focused on what we want to accomplish and how it will feel to actually accomplish those big things that we want to do so again hopefully that's helpful and i want you to keep that in mind as we move forward And going through what we're gonna talk about today with um how to lower our fear how to raise our action limit and how to get ourselves to take action despite the fear
so i'm gonna break this down i'm gonna go through eight different points here then we're gonna get into some tapping of course so i'm gonna break this down into eight areas but those eight areas really fall into three categories which are preparation action And motivation and particularly in that order i know it can feel like it's a little bit out order because preparation of course makes sense but then action and then motivation so the reason i have motivation as last is that motivation is actually something that we often times have to focus on when we
are struggling to take action oftentimes it can be easy to take some initial action but then we get thrown off course or all of a sudden that fear comes up or all sudden we get Bored of it whatever the case may be and so so often i mean an example of this is we can all get ourselves to go exercise one time right but how do you create that consistency how do you create the consistency and the motivation that's going to be really important we're going to talk about some some strategies that you can use
today to actually build and do that again i'm going to mention to you make sure to go to Thetappingsolution.com forward slash take action because i want you to have these tools in these resources these principles that you can use at any time to remind yourself when you're struggling to get motivated and you're procrastinating you're going i just i want to get myself take action and i can't i want you to have those resources so please go ahead and do that again tapping solution.com forward slash take action all just some free stuff that i Put together
that's just going to be basically the notes on what we're talking about here on the podcast today so number one is preparation so really important is you need to consistently focus on what you want so often so often people do not take action on their dreams and goals an example of this is how at the beginning of the year every year people set goals of what they want for the new year and They and they think about them some people write them down which of course i always recommend for those who have my tap institution
planner i always recommend that you actually write down your goals but then beyond that they don't stay focused on them they don't keep looking at them it doesn't become their focal point of how they wanna what they wanna move towards and if you don't make it your focal point to actually be focused on what you wanna move towards It's gonna get pushed aside life is gonna interrupt you're gonna have you know challenges with your business your work with your family with your kids with your with just life right life gets in the way and you
have to constantly redirect yourself to what you want and for those of you on my planner you know i do this daily this is why every day i look at my key objectives i look at the things that i'm working towards Because if not i know how easy it is to get distracted so so often people don't take action on things because they're just not keeping it front of mind so really important that you consistently focus on what you want that you review what you want your goals on a daily basis right on a daily
basis you actually focus on what you want so that's number one consistently focus on what you want write it down figure it out and then focus on it and keep Looking at every day number two break the tasks down into smaller chunks and then focus on getting one thing done at a time right so if we look at the action gauge if i kind of bring this back up if you think about it in your mind if you are thinking about a particular task right let's say that task is the example i get before is
speaking on stage and you've just made the decision to speak in front of other people somewhere and your fear is at a Level 10 right i still remember uh the first time i was going to speak on a big stage of about three to five thousand i figured the number was and man was i like petrified i was like oh my god i've never spoken in front of more than a couple hundred people i was gonna speak in front of literally thousands of people now initially that fear is because you are taking in all of
it you're imagining all of it everything going on and what you Have to do and that can be overwhelming to do but when we can actually break it down into smaller tasks to say hey you know what i'm not going to worry about that right now what i'm going to worry about is i've got three months to prepare and i'm going to start off with just going you know what i bet you i'd feel more comfortable if i just had it really well prepared as to what i was going to talk about right and so
then you think about You go to the action gauge and you go if i think about the task of just preparing what i'm going to talk about how afraid am i on a level zero to ten and all of a sudden you go well that's not that bad that's that's that's like the one i'm not worried about preparing it that's not a big deal and so we're able to move ourselves forward in taking action by breaking down the steps and then focusing on getting one thing at a time okay one thing done at a Time
because one of the biggest challenges we all struggle with is overwhelm with so many tasks going on so much stuff going on in life in our super busy world and with all the distractions we have of social media and the news and all that stuff and so it's really important that we then focus on getting that one thing done right one step at a time we're not great multitaskers in general as people we are much more effective when we can focus on a Particular task so again number two here in that preparation is to break
down the tasks into smaller chunks and then focus on one thing at a time to move yourself forward because that's going to allow you to lower the fear and raise the action limit on that particular task and once you start to do that you start to build momentum right so number three tap to release the fear of what others will think or say this one is really really important It's my belief that the biggest thing that holds us back in life and actually pushing forward is the fear of what other people will think or say
about being judged or or having people you know criticize us whether that be criticizing us online or in person whether it be a family member saying who do you think you are well you know why are you doing that or a friend it's all that criticism that you get because i think that's just ingrained in who we Are as humans right we are we you know you think about it thousands of years ago we're a tribal species we we grew up in groups our safety was in numbers and so anything that that uh can put
us into a fear state of thinking that we're no longer going to be a part of the tribe feels like life or death and the reality is is that criticism is never life or death nowadays right you're never going to be Rejected from society all altogether to the point where you can't you know be a part of it and survive right it's no longer a life-threatening situation to have one person or multiple people reject you the truth is we live on such a massive scale with the online world nowadays that you can have thousands if
not millions of people love you and thousands if not millions of people dislike you so it's okay to be disliked by number by groups of people But of course that is not something that necessarily comes instinctively and so we need to use tapping to release the fear of what others will think or say so that we can move forward it's under it's really important here to understand how the amygdala works right so the amygdala is that almond shaped part of the brain that when we are afraid of something it triggers it triggers that fight-or-flight response
and when that happens when the amygdala is triggered All sudden the front part of our brain the prefrontal cortex we're not able to access it as well and that prefrontal cortex is where all our uh you know decision making comes from us where we can look at the future and decide what the outcomes will be based on what we want to do and so when we're thinking about taking action on something and we're thinking about you know oh if i take action on this again go back to the example of speaking on stage If i
take act take action on this i'll i'll get more exposure i'll be able to help people with my knowledge and experience i'll be able to do all these great things we can see that with our prefrontal cortex but when that amygdala is firing we're not able to access that and not to mention that if that amygdala is firing at such a high level that you can't control it when you're speaking on stage you're also not going to remember it right i think all of us have had that Experience at one point in our life especially
in school growing up where all of a sudden the teacher calls on you when you're not expecting it and you just freeze and you you the question that they asked was probably at any other moment if the teacher asked you 101 you'd have been able to answer it but because you are in front of other people and you're scared and worried your amygdala triggers and you're not able to access that prefrontal cortex And actually access the information that you know and so it is super important that we actually use tapping to release the fear of
what others will say or think and we're going to do that in a little bit when we get to the tapping part but again i want to share these different strategies and you'll if you go to that that site the tappingtradition.com take action you'll have notes on all these so you don't have to necessarily have to take Notes right now if you don't want to right so number four choose your identity and who you are this is really important so often people feel like they just are who they are right though i am who i
am based on my past based on my life experiences based on my childhood i'm just i just am who i am right and when you allow yourself to not take when you allow yourself to be Your your identity to be dictated by your past only you're going to always be stuck in your past you're going to always be stuck in who you were back then and what meaning you gave to life and who you believe you are now because of that or what meaning or judgment other people have given you what they said to you
who they said you were or they said that you're not good enough or smart enough or or who do you think you are doing that whatever the case may be But it's important to understand that you actually have choice over your identity it doesn't mean you're going to become a totally different person altogether but all of us have the ability to become better versions of ourselves right that's why we do personal growth that's why we do tapping so we do things to improve our lives because we want to become better versions of ourselves right and
so in that it's important that we actually Choose our identity and who we are because we will do anything and everything possible to be in line with our identity and who we believe ourselves to be we'll say things like well i'm not the type of person who does that right so we need to choose and we do that by saying you know i'm a person who what right whatever may be again going back to the example of speaking on stage important to go and to choose you know and to go i am a person who
speaks On stage i'm a person who has the courage to share my wisdom i'm the person who has the courage to help others and to teach them from my experience right but we have to consciously choose those things we have to consciously choose who we are and how we show up in the world you know you can say i'm a person who has confidence i'm a person who is growing every day even if you don't fully believe it so sometimes i like to use the language of If you don't feel confident i'm a person who
is growing in confidence every day i'm a person who is getting stronger and stronger every day i'm a person who is challenging myself to grow every day but we have to choose that identity consciously so we can grow into that and become and step into that more every day it's not going to happen overnight all the time we can make big shifts but we want to day after day grow into that better version of who we choose to be in The world again on this on this same line of thinking you want to think about
what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with right if you think about your identity what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with that that are you know i'm sure you've heard it before that you are uh the equivalent or you you are you will act in the way that the five people around you are right you you will If you've got five if your five closest people around you are not pushing themselves to grow and and they don't exercise and they're not kind people then you're going to show up
like that in the world and so you want to surround yourself with good people and and to add to that i also want you to think about when you think about what kind of people you want to surround yourself with how will it feel when you feel confident and comfortable around those people Right because i know initially when i started to challenge myself to be around people that i wanted to be more like that i didn't necessarily feel confident and comfortable around them and so i want you to imagine if you imagine you're the best
version of yourself i want you to also imagine that best version of yourselves with yourself with the five people around you that you want to be surrounded with and have it be that you feel confident and Comfortable around them that they feel excited to be around you too that that you've got things to offer to them that you're not just happen to be there but that you're somebody who they're excited to be around because you've got similarities in in who you are and how you show up in the world and who you want to be
so again imagine what kind of people you want to surround yourself with and imagine yourself being Being confident and comfortable around those people that's again a part of choosing your identity and who you are right so that was step number four in that preparation process preparation process again to go over that quickly number one consistently focus on what you want if you see me looking down here for those of you watching on youtube just looking at my notes here right i Just like to make sure i'm looking and not missing anything here so number one
consistently focus on what you want number two break the tasks down into smaller chunks and then focus on getting one thing done number three tap to release the fear of what others will think or say right understand the amygdala and how it works and to know that you just have to calm that fear down just like we talked about with the action gauge you want to Calm down that fear you want to build up your courage number four choose your identity in who you are again you want to do all these things ahead of time
in the preparation to take action on those big things you want to push yourself forward towards all right so that's preparation we're going to move over to action number five we want to create consistency of action regardless of how big or small the action is Right consistency of action is what creates confidence it's what allows us to lower the fear right when we break things down in smaller chunks and we start to take action all sudden the fear goes down the fear goes down for example again going back to speaking on stage if you start
to if you have a big fear of speaking on stage you start speaking in you know in front of smaller groups you speak you speak in front of a group of 10 people And then 20 people and then another one of 20 then one of 50 and 100 you start to consistently take action and even those those things don't feel as big as it would speaking in front of thousands of people it builds up your confidence and it creates a habit you're creating a habit by consistently taking action it's not important that you take big
action it's that you create consistency of action another example when it comes to This is exercise i remember years ago probably 20 years ago when i was in college i remember going through the p90x programs and i remember the original programs were like 60 minutes long i mean i loved the programs but it was a lot it was a lot and i remember we a lot of us guys at the time would go through the same thing we're trying to lift and and get into better shape and we'd do one of those 60-minute workouts And
then we'd be so sore and so our body would be so destroyed from it that we wouldn't exercise for like a week or so but and later on people realize that they really need to cut down the amount of time and p90x actually has shorter programs and you know 21 day fix programs and all sorts of different exercise programs that are shorter that are shorter in what what really matters is creating the consistency right so if you're trying to Get yourself to exercise better that you start with consistently exercising for five minutes a day then
to push yourself for 16 minutes and be exhausted and overwhelmed when you create that habit it then becomes a part of your identity and you start to do it more and more and more so create that consistency of action regardless of how big or small the action actually is right so small wins are really important for the brain also because of dopamine right because When we have a win it triggers in our brain that dopamine and then we get a we gotta fix right it's like a dopamine is a drug in the brain and so
we get that fix of going oh i did this and it felt good now i want to do it again all right so we want to create that consistency and really important that you don't focus on success or failure but rather that you focus on consistency right i tell my kids this i got three kids 9 11 And 13 as i'm recording this and i always i'm really big into growth mindset with them i'm always telling them don't focus on whether you succeed or you fail just focus on consistency focus on your efforts focus on
doing your best you know i've had my kids come home and tell me and i remember my middle son once came home and said you know dad you know my my friends are jealous because i tell them that you don't care what my grades are you just Care that i do my best because a lot of them have parents who are you know pushing hard on them about their grades and i tell them like look i don't i don't care what your grades are i do care if you don't do well because you didn't put
effort into it right but if you did your best if you put the effort into it if you put consistent effort into it and you succeeded or failed doesn't matter it's about the process because that is a life skill that Matters a powerful life skill is learning how to consistently move forward in taking actions regardless of whether you succeed or fail because life is about the journey it's about the process not about the result so again that number five was to create consistency of action regardless of how big or small that action is really really
powerful in getting ourselves to actually move forward despite the fear right Number six focus on enjoying the process actually talk about this a little bit focus on enjoying the process not the result really really powerful focus on the process be present with life stop worrying so much about um again what other people are going to think or saying just be present with life enjoy the process enjoy the process nothing feels better than when you are present with life i'm sure you've had experiences you know my favorite Examples are always when you're you're having an evening
with a good group of friends you know maybe sharing a bottle of wine um and you just feel present with life right it feels so good to be present with life and not be held back by the past not be anxious about the future so do what you can to be focused on enjoying the process and not the results right enjoy the growth it's okay if you fail that's okay it's a part of life so Focus on enjoying that process so number seven we're going to move to motivation now really important that we get ourselves
to be motivated on a consistent basis if we want to be able to take action so number seven is be aware of what dopamine triggers you have in life this is something that i've really realized in my own life is that when i am consistently watching netflix or peacock Or paramount or one of those apps when i'm consistently watching tv or playing video games with my kids which i don't play much in terms of video games with my kids but they want me to play more often but i notice this with them for example fortnite
uh the game was super popular it's an example of a game that has a such a powerful dopamine hit i mean if you've ever played the game or seen the Game you know the you start off the game landing and you have to get you know open trunks and it's like opening a present and you find out what weapon you're gonna get to play the game and it's an immediate dopamine hit it's it's incredibly brilliantly done in terms of how the game is made but when we get dopamine hits off of things that are not
as good for us with consistently being on devices with consistently being Watching movies you'll you have a tougher time doing the things that require more stillness whether it's reading writing being focused on one task because the body is so used to these dopamine hits that come from the tv shows from these shows that are nowadays so brilliantly crafted to keep you on edge to keep you wanting the next episode in the next episode to be binging and so important to think about If you struggle to be still if you struggle to meditate if you struggle
to focus just be aware of what the dopamine triggers are that you have in life um instagram reels tick tock videos right now those are brilliant with how they're done because every time you watch one of these for five ten seconds you have a little dopamine hit right you get a little laugh or enjoyment you flick your You flick on to the next one and you get another one you flick onto the next one you get another one brilliantly done with the brain to have that dopamine trigger but when you can remove yourself from those
to a certain degree be on social media less watch you know netflix less you will have an easier time being still in doing skills or taking action on things that you want to take action on but that Oftentimes you feel almost anxious or nervous doing those things because your body is looking for that dopamine net so again when it comes to motivation be aware of what your dopamine triggers are and be in control of those just you get to choose what those things are and if you want to be more still you want to you
want to be able to control those things and have it be the thing that you control right so number eight have a Motivation strategy i don't know many people who do this uh it's something that i do that's really important is that you want to have a motivation strategy so that when you are struggling to get yourself motivated that you don't just go man what do i do what's wrong with me what's going on here but you actually have a strategy of things that you can try and implement this is why i suggested print out
those the pdfs that I shared at thetappingsolution.com forward slash take action because i want you to have an action strategy i want you to have all of these things all the notes from this to be able to look at to have a motivation strategy to get yourself moved forward when you're stuck and feeling like you just can't move yourself forward so some examples of this use tapping to eliminate stress and anxiety right so you want to eliminate That stress anxiety to eliminate the fear so that's not holding you back from moving forward eliminate worry about
what others will think or say right you want to be able to notice what those things are that are holding you back be present with what you're feeling so that you can release those things and move forward you also want to choose what fear you focus on right fear is incredibly powerful one thing that i Think i i didn't realize for a long time and i think it can be easy to be like oh no i just want to focus on what i want and the positive and all that kind of stuff and it is
great to focus on that and fear is extremely motivating for us we are more likely to do things to avoid pain than to gain pleasure right so choose your fear if you are afraid of taking a particular action what fear could you focus on that would drive you to take that action right So an example going back to that speaking on stage if you are afraid to speak on stage you can also focus on the fears of not speaking on stage right well what if i i don't speak on stage on stage i'm going to
be so disappointed in myself if i don't do this i'm going to not push myself forward i'm not going to grow my business isn't going to grow i'm going to feel like i'm not enough i'm going to Feel like a failure again you can focus on some of these fears if they're motivating for you right really important to understand that that if you can use fear to drive you forward it can be really powerful but you want to make sure that you're focusing on fears that drive you to move forward not ones that are going
to hold you back from taking action in the first place but again choose what fear you focus on one of the powerful things you can think about is Just forwarding yourself down the timeline of your life and thinking about what will it be like if you get to the end of your life and you haven't done these things that you want to do what's that going to feel like right i know whenever i stop and think about that i go ah man you know i just don't want to get to the end of my life
and not have shown up fully in life not have done the things i wanted to do not of not having been Present with people not of being a present father to my kids not being present with my wife like these these things that motivate me the fear of getting to the end of my life and not showing up in the way that i wanted to in the moment motivates me to move forward and actually take action on things so again fear can hold us back or fear can move us forward it depends on which fear
you're focusing on Another thing with motivation strategy is movement right important sometimes we can feel stuck we'll move your body get yourself to exercise so many amazing studies about the benefits of exercising at the beginning of the day as opposed to later in the day because of what it does to the brain and getting it going getting moving um really great for kids to exercise in the morning before school so use movement right even If that's getting up you know if you're i was gonna sit down and record a podcast like this and i felt
stuck and stagnant and didn't know what to do i'd get up and move my body and jump around and maybe do some jumping jacks or some push-ups whatever it might be to get my body movement right act to create action movement creates action so another thing here think about how it will feel to get the things done that you want to get done right we talked About using fear to move us forward and we can also use pleasure in terms of what we want to move us forward and to move us forward and to take
action so some things we can focus on there is how will you feel about yourself right how would you feel about yourself going back to the example speaking on stage what's it going to feel like when i when i get off the stage and i feel like i did a great job and i did it and i'm Proud of myself and i got great reaction right so you can forward pace yourself and go how is it going to feel how am i going to feel about myself when they actually accomplish this action another thing you
can do is how will people praise you or congratulate you right so often we're afraid of what people will think or say so rather than guessing in our mind because we're always assuming or guessing as to what people are going to think or say we Don't generally it's not generally people don't say much negative it's what we think that they're thinking that's negative about us right so what can you do to think about how they will praise you or congratulate you or think positively of you right so if you took that action that people will
think oh wow you know like they did this and good for them and they had such great information to share whatever the case may be right how will they praise you or Congratulate you right so those are just some examples of a motivation strategy you can write down lots of different things in a motivation strategy of things that will help you to get motivated and sometimes one thing will work sometimes another thing will work but what you don't want to do is be stuck in procrastination and self-sabotage in fear and not moving yourself forward and
not have a motivation strategy so you want to have A motivation strategy so hopefully all those things were helpful there we're going to get to doing some tapping right love doing tapping tapping is so powerful to actually get ourselves to remove the fear and to become more present with ourselves so we can take the action we want to do so some things we're going to tap on today number one is going to be calming it down right the first thing for those of you who follow what we do Um in our work whether you have
our tapping solution app or you're a member of our tapping insiders club you know that one of the first things that we always recommend is that you calm it down right what we're doing when we calm it down and and is just lowering the fear lowering the anxiety lowering the overwhelm and just creating some stillness with our emotions with our energy system so that we can get our Amygdala calm down and we can get our prefrontal cortex up and running or access our prefrontal cortex right so that we can make better decisions i know if
you've done tapping before what so often happens is we just focus on calming it down first and then all of a sudden these new ideas pop in our brain or new ways of looking at something pop into our brain because all of the sudden we are literally accessing our prefrontal cortex and we're able to Think about things differently and see things from a different perspective so we're going to do some tapping right now on calming it down right off the bat again again this whole podcast is how do you get yourself to take action despite
the fear so we start off by doing some tapping and calming it down in our nervousness so let's go ahead and take a deep breath in all together take a deep breath in and breathe out And just move your body around a little bit notice what you're feeling in your body take another deep breath in and breathe out let's go ahead and start tapping on the karate chop point the side of the hand and just repeat after me if you're new to tapping don't worry about it it's not like you have to do it right
or tap on the points exactly or say things perfectly right it's a very forgiving technique and again if you don't yet go Download don't have it yet go download our tapping solution app really helpful for actually guiding you through the tab and showing you exactly how to do it so we're going to start tapping on the karate chop point but actually before we do that let's go ahead and calibrate exactly how strong the intensity is of whatever we're feeling so again thinking about that action gauge we want to measure on that level of 0-10 how
strong the fear is or the anxiety or the Overwhelm or the uh stress whatever emotion we're feeling around the action that we want to take we want to measure that on a level of zero to ten so we actually can see the progress right it's one of the great things about measuring with tapping is that you can actually see and feel the progression when you measure beforehand and then afterwards so go ahead and think about an action that you want to take Whether it be around your business your career relationship health whatever action it is
that you want to take that you just haven't been taking you just have not been pushing yourself forward in the direction you want there's something that you want to do that you know you just keep not doing and you desperately want to take action on that thing i want you to just notice that feel that in your body and then measure on a 0-10 level don't second-guess Whatever comes up initially from 0-10 where 10 is that it's really really intense so tend to be really really intense fear and zero would be no fear at all
zero to ten just notice that for yourself and then let's go ahead and start tapping on the karate chop point side of the hand remember we're going to start just by calming it all down right just by calming it all down and it doesn't have to be just about this particular Fear we can just calm down whatever's going on in life right now so tapping on the side of the hands just repeat after me even though i'm feeling all this stress and anxiety in my body i acknowledge and accept what i'm feeling right now [Music]
even though i'm feeling all this stress and anxiety and overwhelm in my body because of all the stuff going on in my Life right now acknowledge and accept what i'm feeling right now [Music] and one more time on the side of the hand even though i'm feeling all this fear in my body i want to find a way to release it and calm my body down and move into the eyebrow point again continue repeating after me all this stress and anxiety in my body Side of the eye all this fear and overwhelm [Music] under the
eye i've got so much going on in my life under the nose it feels like there's always so much running through my mind [Music] chin point and i just want to take a moment to be present and allow my body to relax [Music] Moving to the collarbone point all this stress and anxiety in my body under the arm all this overwhelm with what's going on in life top of the head i choose to just notice it in this moment eyebrow point i choose to acknowledge that there's a lot going on side of the eye all
of these emotions going on in my body under the eye i choose to just breathe and be present with all of it Under the nose and to know that i am safe right now chin point it's safe to be present in this moment common point i choose to breathe a little deeper in this moment [Music] under the arm and to just let it go with deep breaths top of the head i choose to calm it all down right now eyebrow point with every breath that i Take side of the eye all is well under the
eye i am safe under the nose i can be present in this moment [Music] gen point i don't need to solve all of my problems in this moment [Music] problem point i don't need to take any action in this moment [Music] Under the arm this is a moment to be present and still top of the head to know that everything is okay [Music] so just stop there and take a deep breath in breathe out notice what you're feeling in your body right now it was just a simple little tapping process to say hey you know
what i'm just gonna be still in this moment Right now so much going on in life all the time and it's important for us to just stop and be present and go hey i've got a lot going on i'm stressed about things i'm overwhelmed about things and that's okay but in this moment i choose to just breathe i don't need to solve any problems i don't need to take any action i don't need to do anything other than to be still and to be present and to acknowledge that i'm safe And that everything is okay
right so important is just allowing our body and brain to relax and allowing that amygdala to relax right allowing that fight-or-flight response to come down and to allow our brain to more to more fully come online right so just notice go ahead whatever we measured at the beginning if it was if you're focused on your fear or your stress or anxiety just notice right now how strong that is from zero to ten Hopefully that's gone down from you a little bit always great if you can let me know in the comments um if you're on
youtube or if you're watching this on our blog let me know in the comments how things are shifting for you i'm just no but if not just notice for yourself you know did you move from an eight to a six or an eight to a seven or you go from eight to a three because you just all of a sudden stopped and Allowed yourself to breathe right that's always step one we calm it down we allow ourselves to be present so let's think again about what that action is that we want to take and i
want you to think about how worrying about or thinking about what other people will think or say is holding you back i said it earlier in the podcast how often our fears of rejection of judgment of what other people will think or say How often it holds us back from actually taking action and moving our lives forward and the more you can push it move yourself into a space where you do what you want to do because it's what you love and what you want to do in life without worrying about what other people are
going to say or think or or or caring less about their opinions or judgments the more you can move yourself into that space the more You're going to do the things you want to do the more you're going to take action regardless of failure regardless of success regardless of what other people say you're going to become more focused on the process and feeling good in that process and knowing that you're doing what you want to do that you're pushing yourself forward that you're growing that you're learning that whatever you're doing you know if you're building
a new skill that You're not going to be the best at it right i always say that so often we hold ourselves back from taking an action because we are afraid of sucking at something right and we have to be willing to suck at something to be really bad at something when we first started because it's new it's like you know when a baby first starts to learn to walk they're not good at it they can't run their brand new to it right if i gave you a new sport to play or a new Activity
to do and you were brand new you wouldn't know how to do it so whatever action it is in life that you want to take you're not going to be great at it at first so just recognize that that's okay that it's okay so the more comfortable you can become in doing the things you want to do regardless of what other people think or say the more you're going to be able to push yourself forward doing it sometimes you know just like with all the eight things that i Listed you can focus on things like
taking consistent action or or changing what you're focusing on and or focusing on a fear that motivates you rather one that doesn't motivate you and really having a motivation strategy to keep you on track moving forward so we're going to do some tapping so if you have when you think about that action you want to take i want you to think about and go if you were to take this action Who is it that would judge you or or think something badly about you or say something badly about you or that you just think is
going to judge you in some way that might be somebody you know a family member a friend or it might be somebody online you say oh if i put myself out there i'm going to be judged or you might not even know you might just go oh it's just not safe if i do this it's not safe i don't even know why i Just feel it that it's not safe for me to take this action right because somehow it's dangerous and somehow i'll be hurt by somebody else right especially you've had a lot of childhood
trauma there's a lot of oftentimes unconscious fears that we have so i want you to notice that for yourself and just notice what it would be like to actually take action on the thing that you want to take action on Right so remember with that action gauge we're working to remove the fears that we have so that we can actually take action and move ourselves forward we want to create that gap so that our action limit our comfort with discomfort is higher than the fear the stress or the anxiety whatever's holding us back from taking
action so let's go ahead and notice that again that might bring up some of that stress or anxiety again we were just lowering It we're like oh no it's going in the other direction that's okay we want to bring it up and acknowledge it and tap on it so we can release it move forward so again tapping on the side of the hand repeating after me even though i'm worried about what others will think or say if i take this action to move my life forward [Music] i acknowledge and accept that i feel This way
again on the side of hand even though i'm worried about what others will think or say if i try to move my life forward and take this action i choose to stop and acknowledge that i'm safe right now even though i have all this fear about what others will think or say and how i'll be judged i want to find a way to release this and Move forward we're going to move to the eyebrow point remember you can always do one side the other side both sides together whatever you prefer i tend to do one
side simply because i'm filming this at the same time recording it that way you can see me better if you're watching on youtube so on the eyebrow point all this fear in my body side of the eye i'm so worried i'll be judged Under the eye and it feels so unsafe [Music] under the nose sometimes it feels silly that it feels so unsafe chin point but i know it feels unsafe in every cell of my body right now problem point i wish i could not care about what other people think or say under the arm
but i do in this moment right now [Music] top of the head but i choose to remind Myself that i'm safe i brought point in that even judgment and rejection from others won't kill me side of the eye even though it can feel that way at times under the eye i choose to breathe and be present in my body right now under the eye and acknowledge that i am safe in this moment gen point i'm tired of worrying about what others will think or say problem point i'm holding myself back From taking the action i
want to take [Music] under the arm i'm tired of living my life on other people's terms [Music] top of the head i've felt judgment and fear from others my whole life [Music] i brought point from parents and peers at school [Music] side of the eye but it's time to let Some of that go [Music] under the eye it's time to choose how i show up in the world under the nose i want to take my power back chain point from all the people that made me feel like i'm not enough [Music] problem point because i
am enough just as i am under the arm i don't want to be trapped By other people's opinions top of the head i want to feel comfortable in my own skin eyebrow point i wonder what it would be like to feel comfortable in my own skin side of the eye not worrying about other people's judgments [Music] under the eye i choose to take my power back in this moment under the nose i am safe taking this action Pinpoint i choose to raise my action limit problem point i want to take action despite what others say
[Music] under the arm this is my life and i'm gonna live it on my terms top of the head i will no longer allow judgment to hold me back eyebrow point i choose to take action and move forward [Music] We're going to continue in this process to move forward to step into that identity of who we want to become so i want you to think about that as we continue to tap society who do i choose to be [Music] under the eye who am i really under the nose who could i be without the fear
and the judgment chin point i know i'm capable of so much more Cap on point i know i have so much more to give in life under the arm it would feel so good to accomplish these actions top of the head i would i would feel so proud to do these things eyebrow points so i'm choosing to step up in bigger and bigger ways side of the eye to lower the fear of failure in other people's judgment under the eye to lower my own self-criticism and self-judgment Under the nose to raise my action limit and
become more determined chin point i've got this i know i can do it problem points so i choose to show up as my best self today under the arm i know i can take this action top of the head i commit to consistently focusing on what i want every day [Music] eyebrow point i choose to break down the Tasks into smaller chunks side of the eye i choose to focus on getting one thing done at a time and moving my life forward [Music] under the eye i choose to remember to tap on all the fears
that i have when they come up under the nose i choose to choose who i am every day chin point and to remember that i am enough just as i am Problem point i choose to create consistency of action on a daily basis under the arm i choose to move my life forward with big or small steps [Music] tap the head to create consistency of action every day [Music] eyebrow point i choose to focus on the process not the result side of the eye and be more present with life every day Under the eye because
life is meant to be enjoyed under the nose i've got this i can do this chin point because i am enough just as i am commonplace so i choose to lower my fear [Music] under the arm to raise my action limit top of the head and step into the best version of me possible eyebrow point i am enough just as i am Side of the eye i choose to move my life forward under the eye i choose to take action on these tasks under the nose i've got this chin point nobody will hold me back
come on point because i choose to step into who i am under the arm and i am enough just as i am [Music] top of the head one last time i've got This [Music] stop there and take a deep breath in and breathe out just notice what you feel in your body notice remember that you are enough just as you are that you don't need to worry about everyone else's judgments that that inner critic you have inside of you doesn't have to hold you back that you can lower that fear on that Action gage and
you can raise that action limit by having a motivation strategy by stepping into who you are by choosing who you are every day and choosing to consistently show up i know that whatever you want to achieve in life is possible for you so i hope you enjoyed this tapping solution podcast i hope this helped you to be able to take action despite the fear right there are there's so many strategies that i shared there of things You can do to take action despite the fear to lower the fear to raise that action limit to stay
focused on the things that you want in life i wish nothing but everything that you want in your life i want you to achieve everything that you possibly could want but it takes one day at a time it takes creating that consistency it takes stepping into the full version of you and recognizing that you are a force for good in this world and that you are Capable of so much more than you could have ever imagined so i hope you enjoyed this and remember until next time keep tapping [Music]
