These are some things that you should never tell anybody. And I will say most of these I have learned the hard way. Number one is your exact net worth, your savings, your income.
I will say with 99% of my friends, I try to never share any specifics. There's one or two people that I feel comfortable enough to do that with. But it's actually caused problems before.
If you don't have a lot of money, sometimes people can unadvertently make you feel bad. They can judge you for things. Or on the other hand, if you have a lot of money, I think it's even worse because then you can get some of the things like, "Oh, it must be nice to be able to do that.
" Or, "Oh, you've got money. Why not just buy it? " Like people treat you differently no matter what you tell them specifically about your finances.
Especially since like we've been programmed to think that people, especially who are doing well with money, are bad. In every movie that you can probably think of, the bad guy is like a really rich person, right? >> When did it become a crime to succeed in this country?
And so if you're doing good with your finances, people just assume that you should give your money away to people or that you're a bad person or something. So whether you're doing bad with your finances or doing great, don't share it with like almost anybody that you know. Maybe there's one or two people, but everybody else doesn't need to know.
It's just going to cause problems in some way. >> Money wins. >> This next one is kind of different than the rest of the list, but it's something that I learned as a kid, actually, and it really changed like the trajectory of my life, I think.
And it's a Bible verse that says, "Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise. When he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent. " Now, as a high school dropout, I have realized that when I don't talk, people just assume that I'm smarter than I am.
And it's really weird. And even though I've become smarter, I've read a bunch of books. I've, you know, studied a lot of stuff.
Now, I still keep that thing where I want to talk as little as possible because I don't need to prove myself. I don't need to share my opinions with everybody else. They don't need to know what I think about every single subject.
And I've realized that generally the people who talk the most are not generally the most intelligent. And the people who are quieter are more intelligent. And I don't know if it's just because that verse, that 2,000-year-old verse that literally quiet people are just assume that they're smarter, but I know for a fact that a lot of loud people I know should not be talking as much as they are.
So if you want to just instantly have everybody think you're smarter in in a small way, stop sharing as much. Stop talking about everything that comes to your mind because whoever restrains his words has knowledge, your next financial moves or just your goals in general. This is something that I've realized over the past like 10 years that whenever I say a goal, whenever I say like, "Oh, I'm going to start this business.
Oh, I want to, you know, save up this amount of money. Oh, I'm going to get in shape. " Whenever I start telling people about things that I'm going to do, I don't end up doing them as much.
And I've actually looked into this a lot. And it's because you get this like sense of accomplishment. you get this dopamine of just talking about the things you're going to do.
That's why you probably know that person who's always talking about this business that they're going to start. They're always talking about all the money they're going to make. They're always talking about their diet that they're part of.
But generally, you don't see the people who actually have a business. You don't see the people who are actually in shape doing the same amount of talking. They do.
You tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it. Psychologists have found that it's called a social reality. The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.
And then because you felt that satisfaction, you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary. >> So if you really want to get in shape this year or you really want to get this side hustle making $1,000 a month, whatever it is, don't talk about it. Try to tell nobody about it.
Just shut up and do the work until you have proof of the thing that you're doing. And then you can share it if you want to. But you don't have to tell people about your side project, about your diet, about whatever.
Just do the thing quietly and get the dopamine the oldfashioned way by actually doing the thing. and you're going to be much more likely to actually achieve the goal. And that's why if there's really important goals that I have, which I have a few right now, I'm not telling anybody.
I don't tell my friends, my family, I tell my wife, and that's about it of like this direction we want to go. But nobody else gets to know because this is too important. Now, one goal or habit, whatever you want to call it, that I do use is the 5h hour rule.
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One of the aspects of a good relationship is proximity. So, when you're around people all the time, sometimes you think that you're actually friends with them when you're not. And I've seen so many times where people will share things because they're hanging around with people.
They share personal stuff. They share financial stuff. They share relational stuff with their co-workers.
And then they end up destroying relationships. They think they're friends with their boss. They think they're friends with their co-workers.
And then you get fired and you never hear from any of those people ever again. Or you're in the lunchroom one day and you hear people gossiping behind your back cuz everybody's just bored. They just want to talk about drama.
There crazy stats that people spend I think it's like 40 or 60% of their day like not working. So they just like scrolling social media and gossiping about people. So while I'm sure you can make some friends at work, just don't assume that every single person there actually has your best interest in heart long term.
You don't need to share all your personal stuff with your work people. Keep the personal stuff personal. Also, as long as we're going along with that, don't put it online.
I see a strange amount of people posting stuff that should not be posted. whether it's them out drinking, venting about friends or family, extremist political views online. And it has real world implications where they will lose friends.
They'll probably lose job opportunities and people lose a lot of respect for them when they are posting them being wild and stuff. We don't need to know that you're getting drunk every Friday night. We don't need to know that your friend backstabbed you and they're a terrible person now.
We don't need to know about that. your why. If you're getting into minimalism, you start taking cold showers, start waking up at 5:00 a.
m. , you don't need to tell everybody about that. Now, I tell people about that because that's what I do.
I experiment on how to better myself. I figure out what actually works and then I share what works with other people. So, if you're interested in learning that type of stuff, like subscribe and all that.
Closing in on 750. Absolutely crazy. I'm so blessed to have you guys.
Thank you. But you don't need to share this with everybody. If it wasn't that this was my job, I never share this with anybody that I actually know because I'm doing the hard things to make me a better person.
I'm doing these for myself. And I don't need to brag about it. I don't need other people to recognize that you're waking up at 5:00 a.
m. to make yourself a better person. Again, just stay quiet and do the work.
But then, of course, we have giving. Again, the Bible says, don't let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. When it comes to tithing, to donating, to helping people with your money, this can be another one of those things where you should just really not talk about it.
Don't brag about it. Don't make a show about it. This is between you and God.
And I can say from personal experience, which again, now I'm talking about here. I need to find a new job. But like when you're able to help somebody and they have no idea that you help them and you expect nothing back, that is by far even like totally selfishly for you the best feeling as opposed to when people know about it.
And it also makes sure that you're doing it for the right reasons. your diagnosises. Pretty much everybody has some type of mental thing.
I've had a lot of them as well dealing with depression. There's ADHD, autism, all the stuff that pretty much everybody has nowadays. And I will say personally, I may or may not have some of those things, but I look at them as a huge superpower.
And one thing that really I have seen hold a lot of people back is talking about their different diagnosises, talking about things that they're going through and using it as an excuse to not do something. While there are real issues, most of them, if you use them correctly, can be a blessing. You can use your obsession about stuff in a good way.
You can use that you get distracted all the time in a good way. You can use your quirkiness in in a good way. But if you start having your depression as part of your personality, it's going to be much harder to beat it because now it's it's something that you're attached to.
If you start using autism as part of your personality, a lot of times people will change how they look at you. They'll change how they treat you. And a lot of times your own personality will change from what it naturally was because you're learning about some of the stuff and and not like learning about it.
It's not bad. But I've seen people really get crippled when they start tying up their identity and talking all the time about their different mental disorders or whatever. And so again, 99% of people don't need to know about that.
Everybody's probably got a little bit of the tism. It's an amazing thing. It's not a bad thing.
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