let me tell you a story that's really important to me one that showed me what I believe to be the most important thing in the world I'll show you how I think you can get it and how it change the direction of probably the rest of my life for the better oh lord it's good to be here with you Mr O it's about 1:00 p.m. and I'm stepping inside a church I don't normally go to church I'm a bit anxious it's kind of cold but the sun is pretty warm so I'm warm I'm good as
I walk into that Hall that Hall that carries every single sound across its stained glass windows and wooden walls I see someone I recognize I stand beside him and I notice that he's there with some others that I know quite well he greets me I greet the rest we do a minute of catching up and ask him how he's going he says good and not 5 minutes after we get in there we're asked to leave to get out of the church what but why did we get asked to leave and what does that have to
do with what I think is the most important thing in the world we're all convinced that there are things in our life that can make us happy that can add value to our lives maybe it's how many people like us or what they think of us perhaps it's the house we own the car we have the money we make it could be places we've been or the things we've done but it never works and I can't really blame anyone for filling a hole like that I find myself doing that all the time it's a sign
on top of that hole that just says happiness it's basic human nature to want to be happy but it's hard to understand how happiness isn't about getting what you want it's about wanting what you have I'm sure many people could agree with that but is it the most important thing in the world I don't think so it's very hard to obtain and if we tried to be happy all the time it probably ruin our lives chasing that Joy let's get back to the story as we left the church building we made our way to the
back following one of the church volunteers it was quiet but you could faintly hear the service beginning in the main building as we sat in front of a TV which is live streaming the service from inside a little sub building we were watching a funeral and there were so many people inside the church that we had to leave into a different room not 20 people not 50 not 100 I dare say nearly 200 maybe even more attended this service and it wasn't until I sat down beside my friends on that row of chairs in front
of that small TV of like 20 odd people did I realize why there was nearly 200 people there you might be thinking whoa Jay you knew a celebrity no by all means this was a fairly regular per person in terms of Fame so you might be wondering why were there so many people at this funeral each and everyone who got up to speak about this person spoke about them so greatly you wouldn't even think they were real but I met this person and every single one that talked about them would damn right everything they said
about them I'd believe it this wasn't because they were Ultra rich or super Charming they weren't as charismatic as Tom Cruz or Oprah Winfrey this person just knew something that I wish I knew earlier and I'm so grateful that I know it now it's the importance of belonging Community love to us humans at least I think that's the most important thing in the world everyone wants to be a part of something they want to be a part of people Everyone yearns for that but not everyone truly understands the value of it and that they can
make it happen in their own life this person did and it really showed the way these people described this person was they were kind they loved others they were welcoming they put in more effort they didn't judge they were there to talk it sounded simple after that day I thought about it fairly often I've been to quite a few funerals before but this one just hit different and I realized that I have to take action now there's no point waiting nothing's going to come to me and from the action I've taken so far it's given
me so much more than just a sense of belonging I would even go as far as to say I felt so much happier as a result I felt so much more connected I remember what it was like now to have real true connections with people that I care for and love people that help me become the best me as I help them become the best them people that ask me how I going I asked how they're going people that show up I show up for and that hasn't just helped me gain confidence it's helped me
gain confidence in life too in the future and for the first time in a long time I felt truly not lonely so what am I doing right now about it and what's some mindset changes and some actionable stuff you can do right now to make change to do this first I think I had to wrap my brain around two really important subjects and that is gratitude and the actual value of a relationship being much better than I thought it was before I started this there are plenty of guides that you can find on bettering your
gratitude but realizing the value of a relationship is just something else it really does feel silly that I'm saying this but other people want connection too and when you properly and genuinely try to develop that amazing things happen way better than I ever would have thought before I tried it I think the best way to fully understand this idea is to see it happen for yourself something you can try right now is messaging people that you care about a little bit more often asking them how they're doing telling them good morning seeing what they're doing
next week that kind of stuff this does I think two major things in my life and one of the big ones is obviously keeping in touch with people just making sure every now and then hey are you dead no [Music] awesome when was the last do you even know this also keeps the floodgates of communication wide open people are much more inclined to invite you to something or tell you that they're having dark thoughts if the last message they received from you was today saying good morning instead of 3 weeks ago saying where the hell
are you it's just about keeping myself present in other people's lives I've had friends tell me that when they wake up and they see my good morning message that makes them happy I'm making them happy by just typing good morning it's that easy it's that easy to put in a little bit more extra effort and I wish I realized that sooner now that I think about it I think I always knew what I had to do to develop my relationships further you probably do too I just didn't have the push to do it and this
is your push so what are you going to do about it right [Music] now if you want more ways you can help develop a relationship I actually have a few videos on that so there you go you can watch them if you click somewhere on this screen I think I hope this video helped you realize the importance of belonging and how you can find that in other people in connections and relationships okay I'm finished now bye-bye
