how many times have you heard this either directed at you or directed at somebody next to you how many times have you heard this refrain you can't handle a real woman how many times have you heard that refrain and how many times have you actually sort of like semi believed it okay i'm here to tell you if you actually believe that [ __ ] you're a [ __ ] idiot simple as that okay when a woman says you can't handle a real woman she is gaslighting you she is bullshitting you why because she wants to
feel better about herself about her own failure yeah because when is a woman going to pull this uh you can't handle a real woman [ __ ] huh when you basically reject her you're basically saying no no thank you you know i'm good i'm not gonna deal with you right and and for whatever reason yeah she's ugly she's stupid she's annoying she's this that the other you are rejecting her and so of course you know what do people do when they are rejected uh they attack of course because nobody likes it of course not okay
so some woman uh says to you you know you can't handle a real woman it means that she realizes that you don't want anything to do with her and she's upset about it she's pissed off about it because she thought that she could have you that you were going to be easy prey but by you rejecting her by you saying uh uh no thank you not today lord not today satan well by you saying that you're basically proving to her that you are a um a higher value guy than she realized or more to the
point you're a guy that she can't get and that pisses her off and the same is true in all kinds of other areas by the way see the the refrain you know you can't handle a real woman it happens like in academia oh you don't understand it because you know you're not smart enough or you don't have the education or words to the effect it's usually when somebody senses that they are not winning the argument that they're not making the sale huh it happens all the time and perhaps you've done it you know perhaps you
have have gone out of your way to say something nasty to somebody who's sort of like slipping out of your grasp huh perhaps you were trying to make the sale in some business and and and you know they're not really interested in buying your product and you just out of frustration you say to them oh well your business is going bankrupt anyway it doesn't matter or some [ __ ] like that what is it it's sour grapes for crying out loud that's what's going on and it happens all the time sour grapes happens because it
actually works yeah i mean come on see this kind of gas lighting do you think it would actually happen if people didn't fall for it okay i say to you you know you can't handle a real woman right and you listen to me a guy right a fat middle-aged guy you know with zero sex appeal right and you you say to me oh [ __ ] off right but in the back of your head you're thinking to yourself you know can i not handle a real woman you think about it yeah of course you do
we all do huh because see we're all very attuned to what other people say about us we all pay attention to what other people say about us even if it's completely absurd huh me a guy crp telling you you who are watching this video whom i have not met huh and i tell you you can't handle a real woman you're gonna a little bit believe it even though it's obviously not true because that's how we are because we are so attuned to what other people in our immediate environment tell us and this video that i'm
doing i'm far away physically from you but the video gives the illusion that i'm near you and the very fact that i tell you such an absurd thing you can't handle a real woman and you kind of believe it proves my point and this is why it's so dangerous and you have to guard against this kind of gaslighting [ __ ] because like i said it happens in all kinds of contexts and so important that you get over this [ __ ] it's so important that you discount what other people say to you about you
not all the time a lot of times like for instance your friends the people who are close to you they might say something that's very true a lot of times the people who love you the most in moments of anger with you they'll tell you the truth that happens all the time and to tell you the truth it's uh the hardest time the hardest thing rather when somebody whom you love and whom you know loves you but you guys get into a fight and you get into an argument what not and that person says something
about you which is really true well that's when you have to like listen to them and pay attention to them that that is a real criticism but when some random slit who means nothing to you says you can't handle a real woman you gotta laugh in her face for crying out loud and this goes for everything else every other kind of gas lighting because gaslighting is going on all the time in our contemporary culture and why is it going on all the time well because what's happened is that since roughly the 1960s in the west
we've fallen into this idiotic notion that truth is relative no no truth is not relative appreciations of the truth are relative yes of course because we have a limited perspective depending on where we are when we observe a truth but the truth in and of itself is objective just our perceptions of it are relative but we have confused that notion and come to the conclusion the erroneous conclusion that all truth is relative and everybody's truth quote unquote is equally valid which is absurd it's completely absurd but yet we've internalized this mistaken notion and because of
it when somebody says you know you can't handle a real woman or says something like you don't understand it because you're not educated enough or smart enough or this not the other and of course you are smart enough you are educated enough and you know that what they're saying is [ __ ] and that's why they're throwing this gas like [ __ ] at you well we get very nervous because we can't appeal to some some institution or someplace that has the objective truth because over the last 50 60 years we've gone out of our
way to destroy all such institutions or relativize them academia today is just a load of [ __ ] it's completely all it's ridiculous anybody in academia knows what i'm talking about anybody who's gone through universities in the united states or uh the uk or or many of the other western countries will recognize that universities just filled with [ __ ] that piles up so god damn high you know piled higher and deeper you know the old saying yeah so the point i'm trying to make is that see we in our contemporary culture don't have a
place where we can hang our hat in so far as objective truth is concerned and that opens up this this weak spot of ours are actually believing when some imbecile says you can't handle a real woman or you don't you're not smart enough to understand this or blah blah blah you see my point you see how dangerous it is and so here comes the tricky part see on the one hand you have to realize when somebody's attacking you this way that they're just trying to gaslight you you have to realize it but on the other
hand you have to be sensitive as to whether everything that they're saying is [ __ ] or there might be a kernel of truth and this is the hard part because sort of like you don't want to fall into feeling completely insecure and yet on the other hand you don't want to completely dismiss what somebody says because like i said before a lot of times in the heat of anger people will say things that are actually true they'll say things that are very very true about you and issues that you ought to correct and don't
give me this [ __ ] that oh it's a disorder no [ __ ] that i'll do another video about disorders i've done videos about disorders there's no such [ __ ] thing as a disorder there are defects that you should fix or ameliorate somehow no disorders [ __ ] that but anyway getting back to the point the point is see a lot of times in anger people will say things that are very true about you so you have to you know how can i put it on the one hand guard yourself against the gaslighting
but at the same time be open enough to listen to what they say in anger towards you and see if any of it is true and if it is true then try to fix it so that somebody can't hit you with that spot a soft spot in the future i mean like for instance this uh you know you can't handle a real woman [ __ ] yeah i've gotten that tons of times i mean come on my [ __ ] channel come on man of course right so i laugh my [ __ ] ass off
whenever they pull that [ __ ] on me you know you get it the real woman oh wha what the [ __ ] that i've been banging for the last 40 odd years huh uh the wife and kids how the [ __ ] did that happen but anyway the point the point i'm trying to make is that see when somebody flings that [ __ ] at me i just blow it off because i know it's [ __ ] but when somebody flings some other [ __ ] i'm always paying attention to it mm-hmm and especially
when it hurts me especially when i get a knee-jerk reaction when when some comment some statement elicits a knee-jerk reaction it sort of makes me like whoa what the [ __ ] was that makes me sit up that's when i know that what they just said is kind of accurate and that's when i pay attention when somebody says something it's just colossal [ __ ] like you can't handle a real woman you're not smart enough to figure this out some [ __ ] like that and just blow them off but when they say something that
makes me just like sit up like makes me like script my teeth you know then i know that they're on to something true about me and that's what i focus on and that's what you should be paying attention to somebody says that you can't handle a real woman or some cliche phrase like that you know it's [ __ ] but if they're saying something about you that stings then you got to focus on that you got to focus on it and try to fix it okay because like i said you know see the beauty of
life is that you can fix yourself you don't have to just accept the fact that you have certain deficiencies and defects you can fix yourself some defects or deficiencies are insurmountable but you can ameliorate them you can make it structure your life so that they don't dominate your life you can be a man without arms and legs and lead a full and fulfilling life i've seen people do it huh years ago there was some individual i met who had been a thalidomide baby holy [ __ ] [ __ ] it was horrifying he led a
very interesting life very full he couldn't do a lot of things but that didn't prevent him from enjoying life and and that's the point i want to make say you want to discover what those defects are and listen to the [ __ ] people fling at you so that you can figure out if it's true or not if it's just absurd throw it away but if it stings pay attention to it and fix it so that you can become a better man thanks very much for watching my video i hope you enjoyed it and if
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