[Music] my name is Emma and the love of my life is Oliver we've been friends for nearly 7 years and in love for over four Oliver is my dream partner kind attractive and financially stable with a good income from his job he's been a dedicated worker since the age of 15 and has no regrets about it he's a real man who enjoys working hard to provide for a family he grew up by the Sea whereas I come from the capital city We Got Married 2 years after meeting just 1 month after experiencing our first love
at the age of 19 my parents were supportive but his family initially wasn't thrilled about our Arrangement they accused me of trapping him into marriage even though I was a virgin and had no children it's hard to understand how they could see it as trapping I've also been working diligently starting at a hotel reception when I was 17 on the other hand Oliver had a previous relationship maybe two but he only admits to one it's a mystery why they blamed me for anything despite the initial blame and some early animosity they eventually embraced me as
family and we all found happiness in each other's company and Trust Oliver and I have been in love and married for almost four years and we are all very content I take care of the cooking and cleaning for him and am eager to fulfill any of his Desires in our intimate moments I never refuse and we both find immense happiness in each other he is my ultimate desire in every way and I wouldn't ask for anything more now this is where complications enter the picture I've been working alongside a man named Doran at the hotel
since the very beginning Doran who is 32 handles maintenance and janitorial tasks for the hotel let me make this crystal clear right now for everyone out there I have absolutely no romantic desires or attraction towards Doran Doran is simply a kind-hearted person who has gone through a difficult time he has a wife who cheated on him and left taking his son with her through a paternity blood test it was revealed that the son is not biologically his exposing the affair and implicating another man as the father Doran who is not just my friend but also
beloved by all our colleagues at the hotel was in deep despair after this heart-wrenching episode he didn't want to go on with life and even took days off work something he had never done in his 13 years at the hotel never missing a single day until this ordeal I was extremely concerned about my friend and co-worker to boost his confidence I began talking to him at work and insisted that we have lunch together every day along with other co-workers in the break room or outside at tables to chat in the fresh air and sunlight Doran
feels like he's lost his masculinity because of what his estranged wife did to him he believes no woman will ever want him again again causing him immense anguish I told Doran that this isn't true at all I firmly believe any woman would be fortunate to have him as her partner he is kind gentle a good provider and a loving father to his son I'll share more about that part of the story later on having conversations with Doran over these weeks gave me an idea I thought I could help him regain his sense of masculinity and
at the same time explore a relationship with a different man something I had never done before except with my beloved Oliver this would help me Resolve that lingering question in my mind I then planned when to approach Oliver with my solution and seek his approval after we finished dinner and cleaned up I sat down with Oliver for our discussion I shared my thoughts and suggestions with him his response was to burst into laughter and give me a crazy incredulous smile he thought I was joking about all of this I assured him that I wasn't joking
and explained why I believed this could be an ideal solution for both Doran and me I emphasized that he had nothing to worry about concerning Doran because I had no desire or attraction for him Oliver became quite upset and stormed away slamming the bedroom door however he didn't lock the door and I knew what he wanted to show my love and commitment I removed all my clothing and entered the bedroom he can never resist me just as I can never resist him even after four long years I gave him everything he loves and we fell
asleep together in love and happiness just as we always are I waited for a day before bringing up my suggestion to Oliver again I asked him if he had thought about it and whether he'd give his Blessing once more he firmly stated that he wouldn't and warned that if I went through with it he would file for divorce and have no further communication or friendliness with me I acknowledged his stance with an okay and sat beside him to watch a movie eventually I offered him a treat and we spent the night together on the couch
still deeply in love with each other during this time I observed that Oliver was distant and preoccupied with something other than our intimate moments or the delicious meals I prepared he frequently talked on the phone outside our apartment or in a hushed tone in the spare room my suspicions were raised but there was nothing obvious days passed and it was now Sunday after attending religious Services Oliver was planning to drive to the Sea for a 4-day trip with his family they had a yearly tradition of fishing during this time which I had no issue with
I understood that he needed his male bonding time to maintain his masculine qualities and strength before he left for his trip I brought up my suggestion once more Oliver seemed frustrated but responded Emma you're an adult and I can't force you on any matter if you want to be with another man I can't stop you I've already expressed my feelings about this I hugged kissed and thanked him for his understanding but he looked at me strangely before getting in his car and driving away before Oliver left he advised me to remember what he had told
me I expressed my love for him and continued to send affectionate messages and texts that night the next day during lunch I met with Doran and shared my suggestion with him he was completely surprised and hadn't anticipated this at all he initially declined stating that he couldn't engage in a relationship with a married woman I explained that my husband didn't agree but allowed it and this was what I wanted Doran pondered my suggestion throughout Monday night unable to sleep when we met on Tuesday he agreed to it on the condition that both my husband and
I were comfortable with it emphasizing that there would be no emotional involvement only the physical act I assured him that I had no desire for him whatsoever he was a nice man but not someone I found attractive in anyway so on Tuesday night I went to doran's place it was a cozy little home and we had the encounter using protection and there was no kissing or intimate gestures just some physical contact in the act itself it seemed to satisfy Doran quickly for me it was merely about putting an end to my curiosity it wasn't a
memorable experience and held no significance for me other than checking off a box that evening I sent a text message to my beloved Oliver informing him that everything had gone smoothly I assured him that doran's self-esteem had been restored and I had found the answer to my question I emphasized that I would never be with another man only him my love Oliver it's crucial to understand that this was a purely physical encounter with the use of protection devoid of any emotional connection or love unlike the intimate moments I share with Oliver let me clarify this
for everyone out there I chose to text Oliver because I was concerned about his reaction and he didn't respond that night I spent a sleepless night filled with worry thankfully the next morning he texted back saying he would be returning home on Saturday instead of Friday while I didn't like the idea of him being away for two additional days I appreciated his understanding regarding the suggested encounter and was grateful to have his love the following day Doran and I had lunch together and he expressed his gratitude for the session and for helping him regain his
confidence and sense of self he also shared that he had been granted 50% custody of his son through the court despite not being the biological father I celebrated this news with him and explained that now that our purpose had been fulfilled we didn't need to continue meeting individually for lunch or other Gatherings he thanked me under understood and assured me that he wasn't a deceitful person during this time I continued to send loving texts and intimate photos of myself to my dear Oliver however his boat had poor service so his responses were infrequent and he
mainly expressed his anticipation of seeing me on Saturday I was filled with excitement and love eagerly awaiting his return but unfortunately this story takes a painful turn on Friday after a long day at work and shopping for Oliver's favorite foods I returned home to a shocking site my apartment was empty and divorce papers were placed on the counter accompanied by a note the note stated I thank you and wish you good luck and success with Doran signed by my beloved husband Oliver I was overwhelmed with tears and disbelief knowing that this decision was not his
own but influenced by his family's disapproval of me Oliver would never willingly do something like this he had taken away all the furniture silverware cups glasses and linens leaving only a single set our king-sized bed was replaced with a small twin bed seemingly from his nephew's room he left me with a small TV and a chair additionally he took all the kitchen appliances but left me with just a saucepan and a frying pan he even provided paper plates plastic utensils paper cups and basic necessities like toilet paper and paper towels my sole possessions left were
my clothing toiletries and makeup I attempted to call Oliver but I discovered that he had blocked my number when I reached out to his mom and sister I found that they had blocked me as well this was the case with his dad and brother too it became apparent that Oliver had been Consulting with an attorney during those times when he was away or in the spare room it seemed like he had initiated this process shortly after I shared my suggestion which felt like a deceitful move I can't believe what's happening I then read the letter
included in the divorce agreement which instructed me to direct all correspondents and conversations through the attorney with no direct contact with my husband this brought me to tears at the end of the day I decided to call the attorney to understand what was happening and how I would survive I explained that I couldn't afford to pay for this apartment on my own the attorney informed me that Oliver had covered the lease payment including basic utilities for the remaining 3 months on our lease however I would need to manage expenses for video service internet and sell
phone on my own the attorney also mentioned that when the lease expires Oliver had terminated it if I wanted to stay I would need to renew it with the landlord I'm left wondering how I can manage to stay when I can barely afford it is this how a man treats the love of his life and a woman who gave him everything from Love in various forms to cooking cleaning and running all errands Oliver always had to ask and he would get whatever he wanted now I'm on the I couldn't sleep that night and the following
day I decided to visit Oliver at his job site I was informed that he had taken on a job by the shore and specifically requested to work in that area he's a skilled concrete worker one of the best especially for someone so young I asked the foreman to let him know I was there and that I loved him and he said he would pass on the message I'm overwhelmed with grief it's truly unbearable like experiencing a death and loss I confided in a friend and cooworker about everything and she couldn't believe my actions what she's
the one who initially suggested the idea when I questioned her about it she said yes I mentioned it but I never thought you'd actually go through with it it was just crazy girl talk the following day I took a bus to the sea port since I don't drive I went to my in-laws home and although I wasn't exactly welcomed they allowed me inside and prepared a meal and coffee for me I explained the misunderstanding and how I love Oliver deeply and eternally they were kind but Oliver's mother told me that he doesn't want to see
me again and suggested it would be best if I never contacted him I expressed my inability to do that because he is my entire world Oliver was working 100 km away and his family didn't welcome me to stay with them so I had to take the bus back to my Empty Apartment I cried the entire journey and continued crying all night I even had to take some time off from work the next day to collect myself now I need your help with my question how can I regain my husband's love and mend this misunderstanding please
I'm not looking for judgment or criticism as I've already received plenty of that in a previous post without any helpful suggestions or actions all I'm seeking are practical steps to win back my man the love of my life because I can't continue like this your assistance is greatly appreciated update one let me address some questions from this group yes I believe in God and the sanctity of marriage do you no I was not unfaithful to my loving husband and I would never engage in such Behavior it's quite audacious to even suggest that yes I do
consider myself a good girl how many 2 4-year-old women do you know who have only been with one man and had just one other latex session I can answer that for you none unless they nuns no I have no intention of having any kind of relationship with Doran Beyond being co-workers there's no attraction or desire there what I did for him came from the kindness of my heart I take pride in helping him and it's ultimately up to God to judge me not any of you no I will never be with another man in the
future perhaps you should ask these questions to your own significant other why not because you don't want to hear the truth no I didn't diminish or disrespect Oliver you haven't met my husband so you can't judge his masculinity I know he's more of a man than anyone here no I haven't disclose the situation to my parents or other family members but I'm confident they would be proud of their daughter for doing what's right and selflessly helping people no I have no interest in engaging in latex sessions with any other individuals in this group many of
you seem to have bitter attitudes update two well I have to provide another update and it's quite an unfortunate situation it's been a whole month since I've been without my husband and I feel utterly empty and heartbroken I've made every effort to contact him but there's been no response I've even resorted to calling him from other people's phones and leaving heartfelt messages but it seems he's screening his calls and has never returned any of them despite my pouring my heart out to him I went as far as having Doran call Oliver and leave him a
message expressing gratitude for his act of kindness and how it saved Doran from a life of misery Doran told Oliver that he sees him as a great man and will forever be indebted to him for his actions emphasizing that there's no love or interest between me and Emma we're just colleagues however Oliver hasn't responded to any of this I decided to confide my parents and brother about my divorce but their reaction was far from what I anticipated they're very angry with me and can't see the good deed I did only focusing on the perceived infidelity
no matter how much I try to convince them that it wasn't cheating but a selfless act they remain unconvinced and express disgust towards me they've even suggested I go to confession every day for the next year I believe that in the end it's up to God to judge me not the people on this Earth including my own family final update okay I wasn't planning on returning to this Troublesome post but some kind-hearted people have asked for an update so here it is I really wish I could block all those bitter individuals in the comments anyway
let me fill you in on my current situation I'm now living at our community hostel because my lease expired and I don't have the financial means to afford rent in the capital city it's a decent place but it's only a temporary solution I could have stayed with my parents but I chose not to since they don't understand my perspective now about the divorce it's official it might just be the quickest divorce in our country's history which seems to be my luck but at least I have faith in God to support me the judge appeared to
be quite traditional and didn't seem to have much regard for women in today's world he viewed my suggestion as nothing more than cheating and disregarded the fact that I had helped Doran regain his life he simply stated you can call it whatever you want but it's cheating and a breach of your marriage I tried to explain that my husband had given me permission but when he asked my husband and his attorney they both denied it saying no your honor he did not what Oliver told Emma was you're a grown woman and I can't prevent you
from doing anything he then added that he had previously warned Emma that he would divorce her if she went through with it the judge turned to me and I conferred with my legal representative who confirmed yes Oliver did tell Emma this and it's a truthful statement the judge proceeded to ask so why did you proceed with your Affair knowing this I and my legal representative were caught off guard and didn't respond the judge then said that we didn't have to answer the question because it was irrelevant to the outcome he then granted Oliver the divorce
officially ending the marriage as part of the rule in he awarded me the equivalent of €6,000 about $7,000 which Oliver was required to pay within 90 days can you believe all of this just €6,000 for four years of various forms of intimacy cooking cleaning running errands and taking care of this man when he was Ill if I had worked these jobs instead it would have amounted to over 200,000 do I believe I should have received €200,000 from Oliver no I do not however receiving only €6,000 come on people why aren't women valued more for their
valuable contributions to marriage can the individuals in the comments section answer me that question this is my last post here because I won't continue arguing with the unkind individuals in the comments section I'm simply drained and you all are unpleasant people instead I'm going to invest all my time in energy into winning Oliver back over the next year I left him a message on his phone letting him know I won't go on any dates for at least a year maybe even indefinitely as I'll be patiently waiting for him to return I told him he's welcome
to come to my new apartment any time for any type of affection and provided him with my new address I believe that one day I'll hear a knock on my door and there will be my Dreamboat Oliver standing there ready to embrace me with kisses we'll then live our lives happily ever after possibly with many children and daily affection Merry Christmas to everyone out there and I extend God's best wishes to all even those who dislike me and themselves all right that was a fun story now let's move on to another exciting one stay tuned
and let's dive in this incident occurred more than 5 years ago and I still haven't completely healed emotionally back then I John was 31 years old and my girlfriend Lisa was 29 we had been in a loving monogamous relationship for 3 years or at least I thought so we crossed paths at a cocktail reception held at a local Art Museum Ironically neither of us was a fan of Modern Art but we were both there with friends and we hit it off right away we started dating casually and soon decided to exclusively commit to each other
because our connection was undeniable around a year into our relationship Lisa brought up the idea of moving in together as she was eager to take our relationship to the next level I initially hesitated expressing that I wasn't quite ready for that step so we continued to live separately but spent at least six nights a week together and our love for each other continued to deepen over the following Year Lisa continued to gently nudge me towards taking that next step eventually on our second anniversary I reluctantly agreed and we moved in together everything seemed to be
going wonderfully and despite being together for over 2 years by that point our Intimacy in the bedroom was still vibrant and adventurous with our relationship going smoothly Lisa began dropping hints about marriage and started St in a family I let her know that I could Envision that future with her but wanted us to use this time living together to evaluate if we were truly ready to take that next step around 3 months into our cohabitation I received quite a shock Lisa called me at work to tell me that she had missed her period and might
be pregnant this caught me by surprise since she had been on birth control pills she assured me that she hadn't missed a single dose so I attributed it to the small chance of contraceptive failure which is around 9% after ending the call with Lisa I went through a whirlwind of emotions ranging from Fear to excitement however the more I thought about it the more joy I felt about the idea of becoming a father driving home that night I was overjoyed and upon arriving home I embraced and kissed Lisa expressing my excitement which made her equally
happy as the weeks passed Lisa started inquiring about our marriage plans I told her that I wasn't ready for that at the moment but suggested we consider it after the baby's arrival she understood but continued to bring up the topic several times a week emphasizing how much she wanted to be my wife and spend her life with me over the next few months we dedicated our time to preparing for our child transforming our spare bedroom into a top-notch nursery I spared no expense on the furniture and fixtures ensuring we were fully prepared for our impending
arrival our lives were going so smoothly that during Lisa's 7th month of pregnancy I took the opportunity to propose with a heartfelt proposal I got down on one knee and Lisa joyfully exclaimed yes yes yes I will marry you John we were both Overjoyed I suggested we have a civil ceremony at the mayor's office the following month followed by a reception after the baby's birth and she enthusiastically agreed we had a wedding date set but just a few days before the ceremony our baby had different plans and Lisa went into labor we rushed to the
hospital at 4:00 a.m. and by 9:00 a.m. Lisa had given birth to a healthy baby boy I was by Lisa's side in the delivery room assisting with the birth although the delivery went relatively smoothly I couldn't help but notice immediately that the baby didn't resemble me he had jet black hair a deep Brown complexion and appeared to be of Hispanic descent both Lisa and I along with our extended families have northern European backgrounds with light hair and fair skin tones no one in either of our families has Hispanic heritage when the baby was placed into
Lisa's arms I glanced at her face and despite her efforts to appear composed I could sense her shock at the baby's appearance my heart was racing but I managed to maintain my composure pretending that everything was normal Lisa wanted me to hold the baby which I did and tears welled up in my eyes I cradled the infant and felt an overwhelming sadness knowing he wasn't biologically mine despite my emotions I handed him back to Lisa and mentioned that I was going out to inform our parents of the exciting news I went out to the waiting
room room and shared the news with them they all went inside to see Lisa and the baby while I explained that I needed a short walk to calm my nerves after all the excitement I headed over to a small Park area by a stream that flowed through the hospital grounds and there I completely broke down in tears my world felt like it had crumbled around me I knew that today I would lose both my future wife and the baby I had so dearly hoped for I spent about 30 minutes crying my heart out and then
my phone rang and it was my mother she inquired about my well-being and I replied I think so she then saidon I understand why you left I confided mom the baby isn't mine her response was comforting son I know and I'll stand by you no matter what decision you make with that Assurance I regained my composure went to the restroom to freshen up and returned to the room upon re-entering the room only Lisa her parents and my mom remained the baby had been taken to the nursery and Lisa was understandably exhausted from the child birth
I suggested that we all give Lisa some much needed time to rest as we left the room Lisa asked if I could stay with her but I gently replied babe it's best for you to rest without talking we all headed to the cafeteria and spent a few hours there while Lisa got some rest Upon returning upstairs I allowed her parents to check on her first after spending about half an hour with her they relayed that Lisa wanted me to be with her so I went in to comfort her Lisa began talking expressing her happiness and
asked if I was happy too I reassured her that I was thrilled that both she and the baby were healthy concerned she observed you seem distant is something wrong I replied we need to talk she inquired talk about what to which I responded the baby perplexed she asked what about the baby that's when I disclosed Lisa the baby is clearly not mine she reacted defensively stating it is your baby who else would it be I challenged her saying you tell me her response was tearful sobbing and I allowed her to cry for what felt like
an eternity but was actually closer to 10 minutes after she composed herself I pressed further asking about the father of the child through her tears she confessed you are the father I didn't accept that and insisted Lisa please don't lie to me she fell into a silent d staring Straight Ahead eventually she broke the silence saying I'm so sorry John I was unfaithful but I want you to be the baby's father I disregarded her plea and repeated my question who is the father reluctantly she admitted that her ex who she had been with for over
5 years had come to town 8 months ago and they had a brief encounter at our apartment I stood up and walked over to the window gazing down at the traffic below Lisa anxiously asked if our relationship was over I conveyed that it was as I couldn't fathom trusting her again she burst into tears begging for another chance but I firmly asserted that it was not possible I insisted that she needed to inform our parents about this situation immediately Lisa begged me not to disclose it to them firmly I told her Lisa you must do
this now because you won't be returning to our apartment when you and the baby are discharged tomorrow tearfully she pleaded with me again but I simply repeated No and went outside to fetch our parents as we entered the room Lisa's father noticed her tear stained face and inquired about what was wrong I asked everyone to take a seat which they did then I instructed Lisa saying tell them what we just discussed overwhelmed with emotion she burst into tears and couldn't speak I proceeded to explain the situation to our parents and all three of them began
crying with Lisa's parents crying uncontrollably I informed Lisa's parents that when she was discharged the next day she would be going home with them and I would arrange to have all her personal belongings and the nursery we had prepared move to their house throughout this conversation Lisa continued to cry uncontrollably then I turned to my mom and said Mom letun go in response Lisa screamed John please don't leave me I love you and I'm so sorry with that we walked out the door leaving her parents to console her while we were driving away from the
hospital Lisa called and pleaded please John don't end our relationship like this I replied Lisa I didn't end our relationship you did I continued the trust we had is forever broken and the person I knew and loved is gone despite her continued please I remained silent eventually telling her that there was nothing more to say before hanging up the following morning her father came over with his his van and we loaded all of Lisa's belongings and the nursery into the back I accompanied him to their house helped with unloading and set up the nursery in
one of their spare bedrooms I was devastated Lisa's mom inquired if there was any possibility I would reconsider and give her daughter another chance politely I explained that it was not possible because I could never trust Lisa again and I would never be able to love the child that was conceived by another man with this her father drove me back home where I spent the next day crying my eyes out over the course of the next week Lisa reached out to me relentlessly making over 100 calls and sending numerous texts she professed her love and
asked for another chance initially she understood my reluctance to marry her and become a father to her child instead she suggested that we continue dating as we were before I chose not to respond and eventually the messages ceased undoubtedly this has been the most challenging period of my life although I have no intention of being a part of Lisa or her son's life I do entertain the thought of meeting him for a beer when he turns 21 I'd like to express my gratitude for his early arrival which prevented me from marrying his mother and further
complicating my life my parting advice to all men out there is to consider obtaining a pre-birth paternity test with every pregnancy it can save you a lot of wasted time and heartache in the long [Music] run [Music]
