Transform Your Life in 2 Weeks with THIS Self-Care Secret | Louise Hay & Cheryl Richardson

Just let it all go let it all go let's breathe in and breathe out breathe in and breathe out Breathe In Breathe Out Place one hand on your heart heart and one hand on your tummy and just Comfort yourself ease yourself Down start to talk to yourself in very soft loving ways I love you darling you are so precious to me we will be together for the rest of our lives all is well everything's working out for our highest good and out of this experience today only the greatest good is coming and we are Safe

I love love you darling I will take care of you forever and now let us enter this Arena way to go woman damn [Laughter] right I could listen to your voice all day I just want to say could you just listen to that voice yes yes yes and how lucky was I to be able to listen to that voice almost every day For about a year when we were working on the book together um I learned a lot about the power of how you say affirmations in addition to what you say because if you notice

what I would notice over and over again with Louise is every time she would talk about uh what you say to yourself or she would talk about about mirror work I would listen to this she just sounded like such a loving mother to herself and I thought how many of Us could really use to hear that loving mother or that loving father voice in our head more often I mean for a lot of us when you listen to The Voice I don't know about all of you but when I listen to the voice in my

head sometimes I think okay I would not pick a friend like me to hang out with you know who is that talking so we're here to talk about holding steady during times of Change and God knows these are times of change wouldn't you say yeah how many people feel like the pace of your life the pace of your internal life is accelerated in some way or is accelerated yes how many of you feel as though you're really being challenged to grow almost on a daily basis yeah and how many of you are enjoying that process

yes only at a hay housee event would most of the audience raise their Hands for that one which is such an important point because you know it's when we open to and embrace change that it actually feels easier it's when we resist it that we cause ourselves a lot of undue stress let's just ask how many people are here for this the first time at a Hay House Event oh all right you're in for a treat wow so I'm assuming everybody else has been to Hay House Events before and you know some of what we

do yes okay great yeah yeah we make you feel [Laughter] good well you know why you're here yes but when you go home because that's when you're with yourself and if we can teach you to help yourself feel good all the time it's amazing you can do anything in life because it's only our fears that hold us Back when Louise and I were working on our book together which was such an extraordinary opportunity for me um when Reed Tracy the president of hey house asked me if I'd be interested in writing a book with Louise

you know I had to do my best to remain professional when everything inside of me was like what are you an idiot of course I would do over of course I didn't know anything about this and she Didn't that was one of my first questions I said well does have you asked Louise and he said no he said I figured I'd ask you first because I'd like you to write it and if you said okay then I would talk to her about it and uh so I said absolutely it would be an honor for me

to work on a book with Louise and then I waited with baited breath wondering if she was going to say yes I thought oh what Fun look at those legs is that not like oh what fun when I hit my 80th birthday I decided it was going to be the best decade of my life and it has been it has been I'm 85 and I am very alive right now there are people in the audience looking at one another going did she really just say what I think she said but it sort of slipped out

it wasn't Planned well that's what's great about being 85 you just don't give a right what can you do I know it's one of the advantages I know I know make me leave the stage go to your room right now young lady no no no that's where you go I love you Louise I really really love you no um so when we were working on the book together one of the things I wanted to do is I wanted to talk to Louise about Um her life from a spiritual perspective I wanted to look at her

life through the lens of a spiritual journey and um as we talked about it and as I wrote about it it was really clear to me that there were certain principles that Louise lived by and some of them were very similar to the principles that I lived by some of them were principles I needed to incorporate more into my own life life and um when we were planning the talk today I said to her you know the Principles that you and I both use in our lives are really the principles that support us as we

go through change as we grow and evolve because you know we're always growing you're either growing or you're dead really I mean as human beings we're always in some way shape or form and in involved with the growth process whether you like it or not or aware of it or not and emotionally and spiritually we're always being called to grow and I find in my work over the Years as a coach and especially in the last two years I'm finding and I'm curious if you all have seen this in your own life that more and

more of the people who have not gotten on the path of growth or have really just kind of remained in an unconscious place for whatever reason are really being challenged in a big way right now like and the way I see that show up is you know sometimes people will call my radio show on hey House Radio they'll say oh my God my husband wants a divorce I lost my job and um you know I uh my child my adult child is now leaving the house I feel like the rug's been pulled out from under

me and a lot of times I think that happens for people change comes in one Fell Swoop in a huge way when we haven't been awake when we haven't been paying attention years ago my very first coach who I loved Thomas Leonard was his name said to me Cheryl life will always give You messages and if you hear the message you'll start to take some kind of action to grow but if you don't hear the message then life will give you a lesson and it's your opportunity to take that lesson and do something with it

because if you don't then life hands you a problem and you better solve that problem because if not then you get a full-blown crisis life hands you a Crisis so he said to me I would recommend that you stay awake and pay attention in your life because if you do you'll hear the messages early on and you can avoid the problems and the crises and you know what he's right and he has been right and my number one commitment is to embrace change and remain on the path of being conscious and uh growing and evolving

making that my number one priority and that's really what you've Done you know when we looked at your whole life you you have such a thirst for learning anyways it's clearly a high value yes the week that I leave the planet I will be enrolled in some new class I know that something more to learn and she does the coolest things remember the art class you were taking in bboa park yes last summer yes tell them how old the classmates were seven and eight so I fit right in So she said to me I'm taking

this art class at bboa Park I said great really like what kind of art class she goes it's a kids art class there's seven and eighty olds and I figure you know I'll have a lot to learn now here's the unbelievable thing you see this painting over here on the right that's done by Louise H that it was a year of Joy putting this together with my beloved art teacher Linda bounds we had a great deal of fun Doing that I've brought that to show you I call this the blessing Buddha ask and ye shall

receive I don't know if anybody would like to share that with me or have that this is not the original but this is the print the print is available for $300 but there's also a very small 8 by10 downstairs on The Book Table it is like $35 so that painting didn't come from The art class with the kids no okay took aerid it's the big kids the big kids but I call that the blessing Buddha just asking you she'll receive just gives and gives you know the Buddha never stops giving it's a part of me

I remember when you were working on it I remember when I remember I saw it when you just first started it mhm but a lifelong learner you know and that's what we need to commit to in order to be able to deal With change in order to be able to thrive with change really so we have some principles we want to talk about in the very first one is about self-love it's really about making your relationship with yourself your number one priority a loving relationship with yourself your number one priority now I remember when you

and I were working on the book and I came to Visit you at your home Louise invited me to her home and um all right so I just have to tell you that so I get to her place and I'm taking the elevator up to her home which which is in the top floor of this building and you know I've never been there before and I'm thinking and I'm going to be staying for a few days and I'm thinking oh my God I can't believe I'm going to Louise Hayes house and I'm going to stay

there how cool is that because really you know I won't get Into the whole story but the reality was 25 years later as a volunteer for an organization that was putting on events much like this I actually was chosen to go to the airport to pick Louise up when she was coming to give a talk so so 25 years ago I had read her first book it had put me on the path and here I was driving to the airport to pick her up and literally in the lobby of her Building 25 years later as

I'm going up in the elevator I'm thinking This is what they call a full circle moment people right and so I get up in the elevator and the elevator doors open to this beautiful like soft chanting music and there's a statue of of the Buddha and I mean I felt like I literally entered a completely different world and I walked in I'm looking around like I'm expecting there's going to be monks in the ceiling chanting something and I knocked on the door and Louise answered this big bright smile and I went in and we spent

time together and I remember the next day Louise said to me come I'll take you to my office which is on the second floor of her home so we came up to the second floor and she's got this beautiful desk that sort of goes like this and there was an a l lamp like an accordion lamp and attached to the lamp was around makeup mirror like you would have I thought it was a makeup mirror so I said To her in my complete innocence wow is this where you put your makeup on in the morning

you kidding I know and she looked at me like and this is what she said why would I put my makeup on at my desk she said that's for mirror work and I said really she saides it's so I can have lovely conversations with myself all day long while I'm working I mean isn't that surprising to some of you right how many of you would Have thought it was a makeup miror raise your hand okay thank you people I have a real makeup mirror in the other room I know I know so we started then

to talk about mirror work the importance of speaking kindly to yourself and I love remember you say tell them some of the things you say to yourself during the day like when you're on the phone having hi Cutie you know it doesn't matter so much what you say it's how you say it you can go I love you and that's not going to work but you can say You're really funky you know but say it in a loving way and that will connect with you yes it's the tone of voice it's how you are saying

things and that's see one of the things or many of the things that we want to bring to your attention is to more increase your awareness because most of us stumble Through the days we hav a clue what we're doing we don't know what we're saying we don't know what we're thinking we just do and then we wonder why things aren't working but if you can bring more awareness to every moment of your life and ask yourself the simple little questions like how do I feel right now am I making myself feel good well if

not why what could I do right now to make myself feel better it's awareness because most of us We when you start to realize what you are doing then you can change then it's very easy but if you don't know what you're doing then it's impossible so doing the mirror work you know so she started to give me examples of what she would say to herself now I remember thinking it didn't even occur to me to put a mirror on my desk wouldn't have even occurred to me and when I left that trip and flew

back home The very first thing I did the next day was I went out to a local HomeGoods store one of my favorite little stores I don't know do you have them here on the West Coast yes okay I love HomeGoods and I went there and I found this beautiful makeup mirror round makeup mirror with a pretty stand and I brought it home and I put it on my desk and sure enough I'd be on the phone maybe you know on a conference call or and I would wink at Myself that's how I would start

I'd be like and then there were a couple of times where I went while I'm listening to someone talk I'm like and then there were other times where I wouldn't be on the phone I'd be sitting at my desk and something would happen and I would be really upset about it and I would immediately pull that mirror in front of me and I'd say hey kid I got your Back I'm here with you I love you we're going to get through this we'll get through it it's okay we'll get through it yep it's okay do

you remember that really became a mantra for us one of the things we noticed that as we were working on the book really began to change our own lives and one of the things we would say whenever we came up against anything individually and collectively it's okay it's okay it's okay yep working on the book together Was wonderful because we kept bringing things to each other's awareness yes and so because we were writing about it and working we were practicing even more yes and so nice little shifts would happen in our lives you know nobody

ever knows it all we're all on the pathway we're all learning we're all in the process of taking that next step whatever it may be and we're doing the best we can we're never bad people we just don't Have the awareness at the moment like I remember when we were talking about so again if we look at the principle of self-love first and foremost it's about how do you treat yourself how do you speak to yourself you know when I wrote The Art of extreme self-care which was was the book before this one I wrote

that because you know many people call me the self-care Queen I've been teaching self-care for many many years and then my husband became Seriously ill in the middle of a busy time in my career a book deadline and the building of a house okay that's like a recipe for Insanity people and I was on the edge of that insanity and um and I talk about tension yes constant inner tension constant inner tension and pressure like you know like a pressure Co and um and I remember one of the things I did to take care of

myself was something that I never wanted to do as a Writer and that was call my publisher call Reed and say you know what I can't I can't write this book right now I can't make my book deadline there's too much going on and I'm going to explode and I shared with him you know what was going on with my husband Michael and his being sick and readed you know in his most loving way said to me listen forget about the book that's not important what do you need what can I do to support you

I'll never forget that that was really So loving and so kind of him and um and I put that book on hold and when I came back to it to write it I realized that you know when we embrace the change that's in front of us and respond to it in a self-loving way then you allow life to bring you the bigger better plan it has for you and I can tell you that by the time I began writing that book I had taken self-care to a whole other level I mean a master pH HD

level then you could really teach it then I could teach it in A whole new way and suddenly instead of you know writing about some of the basic principles of self-care I was challenging you know there's a chapter in that book called let me disappoint you because here's what I learned in order to live a soul directed Life a life that really honors your greatest priorities you must Master the art of disappointing people hurting their feelings and pissing them off and be okay with it and be okay with it Learn to be okay with it

you can't take care of yourself you can't build a loving relationship with yourself without saying no without hurting people's feelings sometimes it's not like it's a malicious thing that you do but you just decide you know what I need to take care of myself first and of course that became the most popular chapter in the book next to you're so sensitive Which was another CH I mean again another whole level of extreme self-care because I realized you know I am a sensitive being we both are very sensitive beings and in order in order to really

allow your sens you know your sensitivity is what has you smile at a child your sensitivity is what has you um want to protect animals your sensitivity is what allows you to care about nature and the state of the planet to feel lovingly toward the Person sitting next to you to reach out to stranger to a stranger when they're in need our sensitivity gives us the rich experience of life and too many of us try to pound it out of ourselves instead of embrace it and see it as a gift and that whole experience of

taking selfcare to a hold other level really taught me to see my sensitivity as a gift and to be Fearless about protecting it fearless and Relentless you know these are just some Of the things you know how do do you talk to yourself how do you treat yourself do you give yourself permission to make your needs a number one priority or are you still putting other people's needs before your own I loved it one day I remember I was talking to you and I was having kind of a bad day and I said something mean

to myself and Louise said to me you know you will be with you for the rest of your life what kind of a relationship would You like to have isn't that great my own personal Yoda that's what you are my own personal Yoda and I thought to myself I mean think about that people just think about that for a minute you will be with you longer than anyone else on the planet and you will be with you the most intimately the most intimately think of all the things you do with yourself all right don't think

about those things right Now they can't think of anything [Laughter] else all right think about it it's fine it's all self-care people but really you will be with you the for the rest of your life make it a good relationship that's what you said to me how about you make it a good relationship I'm always with very simple things but I found that the simp simple things we do make the most powerful Changes you know I've been talking for years about doing mirror work simple little thing go to the mirror in the morning first thing

in the morning last thing at night look in your eyes and say I love you I really really love you sounds if you've never done it sounds simple it sounds stupid and couldn't have anything to do with anything but it does a little simple habit like that within two or three weeks weeks you begin to notice some big Changes I had someone just say to me recently two weeks you know and he I I feel softer I feel softer inside and those things make it easier for you to live life so the little changes are

very important especially if you do them lovingly it's the second principle Simplicity when life gets challenging when we're going through periods of Change it's so easy to get caught up in the drama it's so easy to get caught up in the complexity of a situation going through a divorce it's so easy to focus on all the horrible things that are going on around that or dealing with financial stress maybe losing your home it's easy to just get overwhelmed by the complexity of that and those are the times where we need to Turn back to the

simple little steps that make all the difference in the world like the mirror work like just affirming picking one affirmation you know sometimes I'll get an email from people who will say can you tell me what are the best affirmations here's the 10 I use every day I'm going through a really difficult time and how best should I use them and instead I tell them pick one pick one that really speaks to you at this time in your life And just focus on that flood yourself with that affirmation that one affirmation and you can do

very practical things like I'm a ve very visual woman I love if I'm going to be working with affirmations I'll do things like I'll write it out several times in my journal several days in a row I take dry eraser markers and I write on my windows and mirrors at home and my friends have gotten used to it because you know if they see on my Window I love you I really really love you I mean they might think it's a little weird but who's going to complain about that right so creating so the dry

eraser markers are wonderful because you can write on glass and just erase it with a paper towel it's very easy great for children give markers to children and give them permission to write positive statements in their bedrooms on their mirrors or on their Windows one time when Louise and I were really looking at how you start your day early on I said to Louise you know what's the first thing you say to yourself in the morning when you wake up and you said Thank You bed for a really good night's sleep she did she said

I snuggle into my bed and I say thank you that one simple action really changed the mornings for Me I mean I would invite all of you to try that one simple step waking up and thanking your bed in the morning even you God cuz it is a guy thing too yes we all have that little boy in us so I remember we were talking about um you know looking at the daily habits we all engage in waking up making breakfast getting dress brushing your teeth putting on makeup shaving combing your hair whatever it might

be and Looking at the thought patterns associated with those daily activities that's how you become conscious of how you're speaking to yourself on a daily basis because how you speak to yourself is what you're affirming for your future always and so I started to become aware and one morning I was in the shower and as I was taking a shower I found myself thinking about a couple of invitations that I Needed to decline and I knew the people were going to be upset about it I started thinking about a problem that we had in the

office that I needed to figure out a way to handle I started ruminating about a conversation I had had with somebody that was upsetting to me and I thought to myself myself wait a minute I wonder if this is why I'm not a morning shower person really stay with me for this this is interesting I had always been my Husband's the kind of person he gets up the first thing he wants to do is take a shower how many people are like that yeah me I never wanted to take a shower first I and I

used to say that the hot water just made me sleepy and I wanted to go back to bed but as I started to become aware of the thought patterns attached to the Daily Hab habits what I discovered was I had created this pattern in the shower of ruminating about what was wrong in my life Completely has anybody else ever noticed that they do that okay great so here's what you do so the minute I noticed the pattern I just became aware I didn't judge it that first day I went wow look what you're doing couple

of days later in the shower I noticed oh you're doing it again look at you you're focused on something you're upset about honey what's going on here few days later same thing and I went okay that's it Because I am a takech charge kind of get done woman so I went and I created a giant affirmation that said I am showered with good thoughts all day long and then I had it laminated and then I hung it in the shower transformed my shower experience all of a sudden I'd be in the shower I'd catch myself

I'd look up and I'd start thinking I love you you are so cute and I began to just change that one Pattern and I know we kept you I remember one time you said to me you know I really notice that I'm more aware of what I'm thinking and how I'm speaking to myself during the day as a result of it I love the story you told about being in the car remember when you were driving to work mhm yes yes well I got in the car one morning and there was a lot of stuff

going on in my mind and I think missing this and I've got to do That and know that I have to solve that problem and and I stopped and I just said stop stop stop stop stop this is no way to drive I just took a nice deep breath calmed myself down two three deep breaths breath in breath out and I said okay this is a absolutely wonderful day we're going to drive smoothly and easily and effortlessly I send love to every single car on the road I know that all things will work out by

themselves they'll just be easy Everything will be easy today and I turned the radio on and there was this sweeping beautiful beautiful music it was just gorgeous I said ah I've changed the energy and then I took off and went to the day and when I got to the office the first thing that happened when I walked in somebody says I love you Louise I said well that's nice good good good and then I went to my office and somebody uh had put an orchid In there on my desk and then it turned out that

uh the thing that I was going to thought was going to be the biggest problem had been solved yesterday and I didn't have to deal with it at all I thought yeah life loves me yeah life loves me I use that one a lot and when you have in your dire straights life loves me life loves me life loves me I say that a great deal yeah and then Nice things happen and I say see life loves me and if it doesn't you know things don't work out I know life loves me so this is

just one little incident and it'll pass you get over it it's called breaking the spell you know when you catch yourself going down a path how many of you you ever had the experience of you get up in the morning you're getting ready for work you drop your keys and you think H you pick them Up and then you stub your toe a few minutes later and you're like oh for crying out loud and you get out to the car and you realize I forgot my bag the bag that I needed and you run back

in the house and some part of you says oh this is going to be a really doozy of a day has anyone ever had that experience yeah I mean here's what we want you to remember when that happens and this is really important you are a powerful creative machine Your mind and the thoughts you think creates a vibration around you this used to be considered woooo by people who didn't understand but now science understands that we are constantly giving off electrical currents we are constantly giving and receiving energy when you start to think that way

there's a reason you go from the dropped keys to the stub toe to the forgetting the files to the getting in the car and hitting traffic and you know when you catch Yourself going see I knew it you did you knew it because you created it on some level the energy that you are generating influences what happens in your life that's a really big responsibility and a big opportunity I love Louise when you were telling me how that story about getting into the car you kept affirming you are surrounded by good drivers you said yes

I always say that always I'm always Surrounded by good drivers I'd rather have a good driver that going too fast than a poor driver that's getting in the [Laughter] way that's very cute yes it's true I mean just noticing the energy that you put out out into the world influences what happens so the other day right I'm going I can tell you all this because you know you're from the United States when I was in London last week they didn't totally get this Until I explained what the registry of motor vehicles is how many people

love the registry of motor vehicles yeah two people um so my birthday was last November and my license expired and I didn't realize it you know when it happened it had been 5 years my license had expired and someone had said to me you can just go online and renew it and I thought yeah but I really should get a new photo done and you know it's been five years might As well do that so I kept putting it off and putting it off because I thought oh God I don't want to go to the

registry of motor vehicles you've got to be kidding me so I forgot all about it and two weeks ago my husband and I now my husband every now and then would say to me honey you really need to renew your license I mean you travel all the time I'm like yeah but I have my passport no you need you're driving you need to Renew your license I know I know I keep forgetting so two weeks ago you see I didn't listen to the message people and when the hubby starts reminding you I didn't get the

lesson so two weeks ago we're coming back from a lovely dinner together and I'm driving and all of a sudden there are blue lights behind me and I think what was I doing I wasn't speeding that's weird and I pull over and suddenly as the cop is walking to The car I think to myself cuz now I have both the cop and my husband on either side of me and he will never let her forgive oh my God I am so screwed that's what I was thinking so I mean oh I can even feel it

in my body when I say it again you see that's how powerful your thoughts are so the police officer comes up and he says to me uh license and registration Michael hands me a Registration and I say I hand him my license and the police officer says man did you know your license was expired and I swear to God I heard Michael go and I shot him a look see he's wrong now yeah right oh we are so wonderful we so I said to him I know I'm really sorry I keep forgetting so he was

lovely this police Officer was l lovely he said to me listen ma'am you know I would just really recommend that tomorrow you go to the registry of motor vehicles and get your license renewed I'm not going to give you a ticket you know that's because you're so pretty I would like to think it was my savviness and my positive energy but my husband said the same thing she goes nuts when I agree oh don't even get me Started with that okay do not get me started with that that's a story that I will tell at

some point this morning Miss make everything better in two seconds after it's taken me years and it didn't work remind me I'll tell you that story later on so anyway I go home you know Michael God bless him because he is a he's a better man than I I'm a woman uh oh my God and that's like a whole other story Sor But so you know Michael says Michael said to me I'm not going to say anything I said thank you we get home the next morning I get up here's the point of the story

I get up to go to the registry of motor vehicles and this is what I'm thinking this is going to suck it's going to take me forever it should take five minutes damn it and it's going to take me all day the people at the registry of motor vehicles are overworked and underpaid And miserable and they're going to hate me wow where did you get she had to dig deep for that you got all this good stuff on the top I know right so I guess when I got to the point that I was convinced

I was going to fail the eye exam I was really D digging deep right I'm thinking all these thoughts in my head I get in my car as I pull out of the driveway this is what I say to myself out loud uh Cheryl you wrote a book called you can Create an exceptional life with Louise Hay duh I mean look at what you're creating for yourself right so I completely started to turn it around same thing in the car I started saying you know what Cheryl this is going to be a great experience the

lines are going to move quickly people are going to treat you lovingly and you're going to smile at everyone you see you're going to have a fantastic experience you're going to be met by Somebody who works at the registry who's really fun to talk to and everything will go exactly the way it needs to to go so I started to feel better I drive to the registry I pull in I park my car I'm in a good mood and I've decided to just surrender the rest so I walk in and there's about 30 people in

line and I take my number and I get in line and this very adorable elderly couple comes up this this little old man comes up to me and he and I focused on how cute he Is I wanted to pinch his little cheeks he was so cute and he's standing next to me and then we all sit down and I'm waiting and I'm thinking it is what it is but you know I'm just smiling at people the whole time within 5 minutes they call my number what I discover is the licens renewal line is a

separate line and most of these people were waiting for registration issues I go up to the license renewal and there's this I'm not I'm not happy Jolly Jolly woman Sitting behind the desk and says to me hi how can I help you and I'm like I'm like trying to catch my breath oh ye of little facei I know right I know so we go we do our business she even says to me make sure you like the picture because if you want we can take it over right I mean come on so we get it

all done and I'm like thank you so much and she's like thank you and I turn to walk away and then I remember you know I have the self-care cards and the Grace cards and the affirmation cards which I love I always keep stacks of them with me so I had a stack of self-care cards in my pocketbook because I leave them everywhere I put them in thank you cards and birthday cards I give them to the bank tellers I leave them in restaurants with tips I just I I feel like I'm spreading self-care and

Grace and love around so I reach into my bag and I pull out this this bunch of loose self-care cards and I say to her Life has a message for you and I fan the cards out in front of her and I say pick a card she looks at me like a kid on Christmas morning she goes really really and I said yes and she goes okay and she reaches in and she picks the passion card that says resurrected childhood dream and she says to me thank you so much I really appreciate it and she

goes to hand it back and I said oh no no no no that's your message you get To keep the card and she goes really really and I give her the card and I walk away smiling she walks away smiling and I think I have just transformed my experience with the registry of motor vehicles right that wasn't so hard no but this is the point think about it how many of us have negative associations with going to the doctors with going to the dentist with going to work with coming home I don't know you Never

know whatever your thing is that you don't like that's right your thinking keeps those negative experiences in place locked in place and changing how you approach them simple steps makes all the difference in the world you can be going through hell right now and if you change how you think about it at the very least your experience will feel better that's a guarantee that's Not like touchy Fey woo woo kind of stuff people that's a guarantee you know you you can program things that are about to happen and when you don't even know what they

are if I have an interview I always say oh this is going to be the most fun interview we are going to laugh and laugh and laugh and it's going to be easy and effortless and every question that's asked is easily answered we're both going to have a good time that is how I approach an Interview I didn't always do that but I do now and 99% of the time it'll be almost everything that I've said yeah what other the kinds of things do you program like do do you program your day you do a

lot of programming for the day yes yes just well I start out by knowing it's a wonderful day and I'll have Adventures I've never had before and it's uh you know it it everything will smell be smooth and easy and effortless I say that a Lot I also love your affirmation I use this all the time only good lies before me yes only good lies before me big one write that down only good lies before me I've been doing that for a long time it's because I and you know I think of that as the

future too only good lies before me so I don't have to get worried about life it'll be good whatever it is it'll be good so you can use that even when you're disappointed by something you Know when things don't turn out the way you want or they don't turn out as quickly you know something doesn't happen as quickly as you want only good Li lies before me I remember Louise we were talking about something one time and you said might have been work uh work related issues in the book but I remember you said you

know you have to trust that life will find a solution oh yes yes you know we get so we think About the problem too much rather than being open to the solution and then we say oh it can't be done because our little human mind can't figure it out but life is there and life loves you and life knows so much more than your little tiny peab brain knows or my little tiny PE brain knows and knows how to i' like to think of this big Checker Board of life and there's a move here and

here and here and here and here and all of a sudden there it is and that's your Dream but you don't know how it's being put together so if you know that life loves you and only good lies before you and that all is well in your world you can relax and just be with life takes a little practice till you trust it but that's okay you know you've got time you've got a lifetime time you don't have to do it today and life loves you that's a good one for mirror Work you have your

mirror oh my God people you just never know what Louise Haye has in her bra can I tell you where's my little mirror here oops oh there we are life loves you darling life loves you [Applause] all right what else do you got in there no well what do you want I know but wait a minute all right so let me just tell you this funny story so Louise and I are in London last fall and we were teaching This two-day workshop together called trust life so no wait a minute so so I I bring

up something about mirror work and she reaches into her bra and she pulls out a mirror and I'm like what the hell is that you know I'm prepared at all time so she says to me I mean I wish I could recreate a few so she says to me oh you know I just I keep a mirror with me and I'm like really cuz I'm thinking okay now I got to try and like get get a Mirror in here now cuz I put one on my desk so I said to her this is this is

great so we we laugh about it and I say to her what the hell else do you have in there and she reaches in she pulls out her hotel room key and she said I keep my hotel room key and I'm like really she reaches I swear this is true people she reaches in and she pulls out a little mini bottle of soy sauce like oh what the I'm like What sa and then the next thing she said to me was I do you have an umbrella in there and I didn't but I found one

the next day and the next time no so yeah because I couldn't find the umbrella this morning I I haven't told you this though but when we were in Las Vegas there was a woman in the audience who was seeing me do this and she immediately called her friend who owns a bra company and It's called her Secret bra her secret bra.com and they she makes a bra that has a pocket in it so you well you probably thought in the mail I get three bras with pockets well could you call him back and tell

them I need one now jeez no but wait a minute so she's got soy sauce in her BR I I go what the hell are you doing with soy sauce in your brush she said well today when we went out to lunch they had these cute Little what the hell is that almond butter almond butter give me [Applause] that a oh what is that approv oh my God how about a cup of tea and of course the key to my room anybody want the key to my room my God you are too funny so this

is [Applause] Become I'm mint that's it oh my God oh my God but she might be hungry you see oh yeah I'm so hungry right now uhhuh okay um I had a line M will take care of everybody big mama takes care of big mama yeah yeah oh my God so she had the soy sauce on her bra cuz she good throat spray here too was that in your bra no okay all right a Little big first of all I had no idea that almond butter came in little packages like this and I'm really excited

about that it comes in Boulder this is great they wonderful if your blood sugar is going down I always keep that and I keep humus in my car in my my handbag because you never know when the blood sugar goes down and you need some food I don't want candy what's great about this ladies is for those of you who are a little underendowed it adds a Little padding carry your lunch some of [Applause] now this is all advancing your spiritual growth it really is it is it so is I mean really you know but

isn't this the way to approach life I know don't you learn more took me 85 years to get this I will say you know in all the time that we've been writing and working together One of the really valuable lessons I have received is you know when you're on the path and things get hard it's critical to incorporate laughter and fun into your life to make it a priority I mean you feel the energy release right doesn't it feel good you know it gets the endorphins flowing the blood pumping I never know what the hell

she's going to pull out of her bra it's become this very fun little game between us cuz yeah that day in London when she was getting I said to her if you pull an umbrella out of that thing I'm going to faint right here on the floor so the next event we were at months later what does she do she gets one of those little cocktail umbrellas puts it in her bra and pulls that out so smart this one way do you see what's going to be in my bra in the next okay yeah I'm

waiting okay I mean we've been playing this game for some time you Don't have anything in your bra yet nothing to surprise me I know I'm feeling really inadequate right now Louise jeez thank you thank you for loving me thank you for loving me in my inadequacy because I have nothing but boobs in my bra right now oh my God that's a lot thank you very much oh my God don't get me started people Because like I will start a whole Saturday Night Live skit here for the rest of the talk I will and you

are like the most fantastic sidekick that we will just keep going and going girl no we must teach deep truth oh yes that's right deep truth okay so let's get back to the Deep truth okay let me tell you the story about Louise visiting my house and having dinner with my husband okay so look I'm going to be totally honest With all of you and tell you I've been with my husband for 18 years and I am thank you yes and um I am absolutely the kind of loving attentive don't laugh let me get it

all out first loving attentive patient wife who has tried like like hell to change him fix him and get him on the affirmation path and all of that stuff and you know fortunately I married a man who will lovingly say Things to me like I'm your husband not your son stop being my mother you know or you know he'll say something and I'll say honey that's an affirmation honey shut up you know so we would go back and forth and you know I mean listen my first coach said to me Cheryl you love your family

and friends you don't coach them and it's really hard not to coach your spouse you you live with them all the time right and so I was forever I Mean Michael has his own path and he's very much into this work he's also Greek he's what oh he's Greek yes he is wait till agapy gets her hands on him agapy if you're here I may never let you meet my husband because he may never come home those hips girl let me tell you I know I'm sorry you had to be here yesterday to understand but

anyway so Louise comes to visit and she's going we're going to be doing an event in Boston and she's going to be staying at my house now we're working on the book together we're working on the book together and one of the things I knew I really wanted to do with this book was to provide a road map for people who are brand new to this path in addition to people who have been on it which is an interesting feat and it I have to say I feel like it worked out beautifully it really deepens

the work that you're already doing but it's a very Non-threatening way of introducing the fact that how you think every day is influencing your life and you can change it for the better so as I was um every now and then I'd be talking to Michael and I would say to him you know I would think I want somebody to be able to give this as a gift to somebody you know without keeping their mouth shut because every time Michael would say to me stop trying to get me to do it your way I have

my Own way so I'm like yeah I know and he and of course I'm The Optimist in the family he's the pessimist right opposites always seem to come together we have a lot to learn from each other so I had been Michael and I had been going back and forth so Louise comes to dinner one night and now I have to be really on my best behavior because I don't want to her to hear me saying anything to I'm look I'm Being honest I don't want her to hear me saying anything to Michael about you

know and I slipped up a few times where I'd be like Michael that's an affirmation Michael be like Cheryl mind your own business so we're having true love yes it's true so Louise and Michael are sitting at the dining room table having dessert together while I'm in the kitchen doing something and I don't know what Michael Said and I don't know what Louise said I know it was a minute maybe two minutes at the most but my husband was changed forever as a result because late that evening when we went to bed we got into

bed together and I said something like oh God I'm so tired he said that's an [Laughter] affirmation I don't know what I said and I looked at him and I said excuse Me and he said well I'm just saying you know what you what you think about influences your body and you I go [Laughter] okay Mr hay it carried on from there it it is but it's a it's a good thing it carried on from there I mean really I can't tell you how many times since that dinner and it I don't even think it

was what you said it's those eyes right now the way you're looking at me that's what it Was those like zooming eyes it's like she doesn't have to say anything she just goes and that's it so basically ladies if you're really trying to change the guy in your life just invite Louise for dinner and get it over with all right here's the thing you can't change other people you can invite them on the path you can give them a gift you can give them a gift of the Book and say here happy Mother's Day Happy

Father's Day not such a bad thing for the moms and dads of the World by the way especially you know as we get older if you don't have good in place you end up really suffering what am I exhausting you here no I had a little tickle okay let's talk about another principle how about the principle of trust well definitely I went into the Principle of trust when I was had cancer because it was a long time ago and I remember being terrified like anybody else would be when you get that diagnosis and I called

my teacher immediately and said Eric they they have cancer and he said who's who said that and I said the doctors and he said Louise you could not have done all this work you've done on yourself to die of cancer now let's take a positive approach and I remember I Glommed on to that sentence and I thought yes yes and I took a deep breath and pulled back and realized that I had been teaching people for some time how to deal with cancer and that life had really given me an opportunity to prove to myself

that what I was teaching worked so I had to go for it and I did and it's the moment I put my foot on the pathway of getting healed I can't say I healed myself but Everything came to me that I needed I needed the perfect nutritionist came to me this would come to me this would come to me this would come to me I found the perfect therapist I did a lot of forgiveness work I remember beating pillows and screaming and doing things to start getting that stuff out of my body because I knew

that one thing I didn't know was that cancer is very often resentment that has been e eating away at the body for a very long time so I had to do a lot of things including forgiveness and I I that seemed to be the big thing for me I tried to get back into my parents' childhood and figure out how they could have gone from being a little tiny beautiful baby as we all are when we're born and to the people that mistreated me so much so I started delving into their childhoods to the best

of my ability and that's when I be began to be Able to do forgiveness and everything together the the therapy the this of that the I even had a foot reflexologist come to me I off whenever I go to a lecture I always sat in the front row and this night I sat in the back row and two seconds later this man comes and sits next to me and he's a foot reflexologist and he come makes home visits and that was part of what I needed at that time was one more little thing that fit

in The niche and 6 months later I was able to get the medical profession to agree with what I knew inside was that I no longer had it but it's it's [Applause] not but it's not you know that you do just one thing that you just do affirmations or you just drink green juice or you do it's a combination of all these things and and a lot of it is Changing the way you think about yourself and about life but that's like everyday life really it's just you're concentrating on one subject that was trust well

and I think you know the what I really loved about that story which I wrote about in the book as well because I think it's important is that the feeling of the cancer wasn't just think good thoughts and cure your cancer a lot of times the media likes to pick up on that and it's Easy for anybody in this room who has some kind of an illness to think oh did I think my way here and of course blaming oneself is the last thing you want to do when you're not well right but it was

a combination of things it was about giving the body good nutrition it was about doing the physical healing work reflexology which I'm a huge fan of as well clearing toxins out of the body doing the emotional healing work the cathartic mov moving the the stuff up And out of the body was also an important piece the Forgiveness work and the way that you think about your healing your body your illness the path that you're on all of that is very much it's like you said it really is life you know because even in it's how

we live our lives feeding your body good food move moving your body paying attention feeding your mind good thoughts that's really what we're talking about and you know there was one Point in the beginning of our work together I remember Louise said to me something that sounds so simple and is so profound and it stays with me and and as a matter of fact a majority of the emails that we get related to from people who have read the book say ultimately this same thing she said to me you know Cheryl I'm speaking for you

now she said you know sh most of us live our lives and we think oh if I could just get the right job then I'd feel Good if I could just find the right relationship then I would feel good you know if I could just lose 20 pounds then I'd feel good but the reality is that if we just made feeling good the goal everything else would take care of itself now think about that for a minute the number one way you start to feel good is by thinking good thoughts any emotion thought precedes emotion

so remember this this morning When Louise started and she said you know how am I feeling you check in with how you feel if you're not feeling well my next question is what am I thinking cuz my thinking got me here that's what's going to get me out the use of my mind and the more you do that the more you feed yourself good thoughts you feed yourself good food you surround yourself with good people you put yourself in an environment that's healthy and Feelgood Oriented the more you just get on the path that life

has in store for you and you work in Divine cooperation with life capital l and the way that we build trust is by acting without knowing the end result knowing that we can trust ourselves to return to a state of feeling good and as we build that sense of trust by getting evidence in life that wow what I think about actually influences what's going on here you Start to get the evidence and before you know it it becomes habit you're in a bad mood you go up what am I thinking need to change my thinking

oh something isn't going the way I want it okay need to change my thinking need to change the way I'm approaching this situation having a hard time finding a job notice you know optimism is another one of the principles Louise is extremely optimistic and so many times she has Said to me what you worry about what you complain about you're just keeping in place I remember when we were in London together last fall I received a text at 11:30 at night London time from my sister saying my mother mother had just been rushed to the

hospital by ambulance and they needed me to call home now I knew my mother my mother does not like hospitals does not want to be in a hospital and I knew that if she had been put in an ambulance she had to have Been very sick I spoke to my sister yes in fact she was very sick they had no idea what was going on my sister let me know she'd be in touch with me as soon as they found out what was happening so I laid down in bed it's 11:30 at night right that's

like the last time you want to get I mean you don't want to get a message like that anyway but I'm on the other side of the pond it's 11:30 at night and I lay in bed and I start thinking I mother must be so scared she Must have been really sick and instantly I went stop it that's not going to serve your mother worry doesn't work you see in Western culture we actually convince ourselves we believe the seduction that if you worry about something enough if you just mentally masturbate enough you'll find a solution

but you don't you just keep the problem in place so I laid down and this is what I started to do my mother is happy Healthy and strong every hand that touches her is a Healing Hand she feels at peace she's comfortable my family is rallied around her they're sending her love they all feel at peace they all feel comfortable the doctors know exactly what's going on the resolution is quick and easy and painless my mother's home in no time feeling even better than before she got sick and I kept repeating it over and over

and over again I kept affirming it I Kept seeing her healthy and strong I kept seeing smiling faces around her and sure enough within an hour I received a call saying they've discovered what the problem is they're giving her antibiotics and she's going to be heading home in just about an hour now did my experience create that reality I honestly don't know but I know it influenced it and I know it made me feel better and I know that thinking in that way is the greatest gift I could Have given to my mother and you

all know it too right so optimism pay attention to what you complain about I loved you remember what you say about complaining you said to me something about um if you the minute you start complaining to other people you've already been complaining to yourself yes you know we go over and over and over at it the problem whatever it is you know then we finally get it out But it's been going on forever yeah and The More We complain about things the more things we have to complain about you know there's some people that just

live in a world of complaints yes life it goes from one complaint to another to another and they just manifest more things to complain about right right everything is working out it's all being solved the solution is here being taken care of life is taking care of it Easy easy effortless life loves me life loves me so optimism maintaining as best you can a positive attitude now this does not mean that you deny how you feel because to me feelings are the most powerful communication tool we have but it does mean you don't dwell there

you don't live in that place you notice how you feel and you ow your feelings to inform you to let you know What needs to be healed here what needs to be addressed what need needs to be met as a matter of fact I would recommend um I used to always have my clients put signs on their desk at work drama free zone that means no complaining no worrying and no gossiping sometimes I'd have them put gossip free zone depending on what was going on and you know what you don't have to say say pretty

much anything to anybody When they see drama free zone They know exactly what you're talking about my corporate motto you know my company for years I've lived by this motto work smart have fun no drama every decision I make in my company is based against that motto that rule am I working smart am I having fun is this this situation going to create drama if it is is I want nothing to do with it nothing at all you could bring me the best opportunity in the world you Could offer me a million dollars and if

it feels like there's drama are attached I am going in the other direction because your peace of mind is the most valuable thing you own and in times of change the more you can return to a state of Peace the more effective you're going to be in living a high quality life and sometimes the quickest way to bring your yourself together is to just get really in the now just start Noticing what's around you notice everything notice that you're breathing if I can stop myself and just be here right now and nowhere else I shift

everything and I find often that especially if I'm outside I see something that I haven't seen before even though I may like walk the same pathway or drive the same way once the moment I start looking around there's something there I say oh I never Saw that before never saw that before we're beaming love to you right now doing the same to you thank you I can feel it yes I can feel it you feel it sure silence and quiet is another important principle during times of change being willing to sit in the zone of

in between when you don't know what's going to happen and you pull back from worrying Or complain compling and you just allow yourself to be present with what is how about taking action yes it's exactly what I was thinking go ahead okay yeah I've got an action story it amazed me when I would look through the list and I said action and this came to me immediately I thought wow I haven't thought about that one for a long time uh this is when I was very little and did small workshops and and I remember I

was going someplace to uh do a workshop There were 35 five people or something like that in it and it was it was a room that was next door to the coffee shop in a small hotel so I went to the people at the coffee shop and said I need to get the key to the room there so I can you know open it up I have people coming to for a workshop and they said oh we're too busy right now it's rush hour we can't take care of you just go you know sort of

irrit and I thought oh what can I do got to do something I've got to get that thing open the people are coming I have to take care of them so I said okay and I stood there and I shrieked three times I shrieked at the top of my lungs and when I stopped they were right in front of me and I said now will you listen to me I love that and I and I said to them what I said before I've got people coming I have to have this thing open at 9:00 I

have to be ready for the and I Need the key and I know it's in your desk oh okay all right all right sometimes we take action that is just so not what we normally do yeah you mean you're not always walking around shrieking when you need [Laughter] something oh my God that's too funny yeah it is that's the one time I took that kind of action yes yeah give us an action story of yours oh my well you Know I feel like my whole career has been built around action teaching people to take action

because you know as a coach the truth is most of us at this point in our lives know what it is we need to do to feel better and to to uh improve the quality of our lives in some way it's doing it that's often the problem and I um whether that's going in or out okay everybody's got me I'm I mean you know The first action story that comes to mind okay you look like you're enjoying that a little too much oh my goodness I'm trying to be discreet okay discreet is not a word

I necessarily associate with you lulu come on now okay all right anybody want some alond butter tea oh and here's your prune back you need prunes for TR everybody knows That This Woman's going to have a heart attack right here keep breathing really no that's an affirmation I ex that out I'm kidding so the first action that comes to mind I mean that just yeah that just came to mind and I'll just say it because it came to mind and I'm so I'm assuming someone in this room needs to hear it was um 18 years

ago when I met my husband and I was I had been living alone for the first time ever in my life Which was one of the smartest things I ever did the first two months were horrible and scary and lonely and then it was like wow this ain't so bad after all to be living alone and doing my own thing was wonderful and about a year into it I just I realized you know what I'm starting to feel lonely and I'm the kind of person who was really made to be married I just had that

sense and I had been in and out of relationships and had done a lot of therapy and a lot of work And so I sat down and I made a list of my ideal partner everything what he would look like what how you know um qualities of character intellectually interests I mean you name it I just really tried to create the ideal mate on paper not that I expected that every single thing would happen but I thought you know you know the old saying most of us spend more time play planning vacations than our lives

well I thought you know a spouse you know a partner can Make or break one's life and I'm not going to just go to some bar looking for one I mean first of all I didn't drink and I didn't want to go to bars and secondly this is too important a decision to leave up to that so I made a list and two weeks later I had a girlfriend at my house who was an actress and she was reading personal ads from a local Magazine with different accents we were sort of joking around and she

handed me the magazine and she Said here you try read with accents and I'm like nah I'm not good at that she said come on so I look down and I pull I I look at this one ad and I read the ad and I think oh my God this is a really good ad and she said to me call it I said absolutely not I'm not calling a personal ad this is before internet dating people remember the old days I said I'm not going to call it she said I dare you to call it

I said Absolutely not I'm not desperate all right why are you laughing what do you know that I didn't know yet so she leaves and every day for the next 4 days I read that ad and I remember there's there's a couple of things that that ad said strong morals serious and intense yet playful and silly high level of integrity and I thought you know those integrity was an important thing to me I knew I was very Serious and I needed to be more playful and silly I've come a long way and um so on

the fourth day the action I took and I remember where I was standing in front of my little bookcase I picked up the phone phone I dialed the number and I said I left on this I I said out loud Dear Universe I'm taking this step as a proclamation that I'm ready to meet somebody and whether this person calls back or not I'm just taking the action I'm moving the energy out into the world I'm not going to just because you know my girlfriends had heard me complaining for months complaining about oh I really want

to meet someone there's no good place to meet people nobody ever asked me out I never you know all of this stuff and I thought but I'm going to be proactive and I'm going to take this step so I you know I hear the answering machine remember those days hear the beep and I say hi my name is Cheryl Richardson I'm 5 foot6 I have dark hair And blue eyes and I'm a professional speaker then I'd be like that sounds ridiculous and I would erase it and then I would you know do by the end

of it I just said something like pretty lame and hung up well two days later Michael calls and I remember thinking I love the name Michael and he sounded so sweet on the phone and we set up a phone conversation and I'll just tell you this part and then so the action was picking up the phone we set up a phone Conversation and I think all right you know listen I'm very happy in my life being single really I just assume stay home and read a good book then go out in a date with somebody

who's just not my type or is going to you know depress me or disappoint me or whatever so I need to find a few things out first before I agree to have a date with this person so Michael I get on the phone and we have this lovely conversation and Michael says to me um so you know tell me a Little bit about what you're looking for and I say okay well could I ask you some questions and he said yes and I said great how do you feel about marriage I'm thinking let me just

get this right out of the way because if you're interested in just playing around that ain't me and there's no point he said actually I love the idea of marriage I was married once before and went through a divorce but I really love being married and I'd like to get Married great how do you feel about children well you know I'm kind of on the fence blah blah blah I asked several questions and he gave me all the right answers so then he said to me well may I ask you a few questions get ready

people buckle up can I ask you a few questions before you know we continue and I said sure and he goes when you look back over the pattern the history of your relationships what patterns or themes do You see that have prevented them from working I'm telling you you I thought I died and went to [Music] heaven and that was just the beginning he starts asking me these series of questions and at the end he said to me I really like you I'd love to meet meet you for dinner and I thought I would love

to meet you for dinner and I went that action I showed up for dinner and I am you know I might be on stage but I'm Pretty shy and I remember feeling so nervous going to meet him sitting in the lounge of this restaurant like a 5-year-old you know waiting for him to show up and then I remember I remember him walking through the door and I remember thinking please God let that be him please because if I could have designed my ideal man that is the man I chose and he walked up to me

and he had oops I had sent in my photo he had my photo in the inside pocket of his coat And guys listen up because if you're single use this line and he walked over to me and he looked at me and he pulled out my photo and he said to me oh you're so much more beautiful than your photo and I looked up at him like a 5-year-old and I went thank you and that was that was the beginning I mean that night that action that declaration to the universe that I'm not going to

just keep wishing and wanting And hoping and you know I am going to actually do something I'm going to make the list I'm going to craft what I want I'm going to hold that in mind and then I'm going to actually take physical action in the world set off a partnership that I know if it hadn't been in place I wouldn't be here doing what I do today because that's what we do for one another you know we love and support one another and in the best possible way when we take a hold of our

Own lives we attract to us people who do the same thing and we become beautiful Shepherds for one another through this journey called life so how many women needed to hear that story oh good okay great so that's why that came up thank you Cheryl and I had great fun writing this book together and it's just full of interesting bits lots of little steps that you can take from the first thing you wake up in the Morning until you leave the planet not only but morning toight but morning to yes and just different ways of

looking at life I like to say uh you know make a cup of tea and sit down and join Cheryl and I in the conversation yes that's what it is really we're just talking about life and love and how to improve the quality how to create an exceptional life and that's what we all want we want it to be better but we don't know the Steps to take and we we've certainly learned that worrying doesn't help it doesn't create a wonderful life so we've got to know what to do and this is just full of

little bits and pieces and I read it periodically just because I enjoy it it's so it's well you did a fabulous Jobing thank you thank you really thank you and you know Louise is right the last chapter of the book is called the end of the movie where we had A very touching and poignant conversation about dying and a conscious way to approach the end your life it's my favorite chapter in the book I have to say and it's the one everybody writes like I always know when I when I walk in and people are

reading the book and they're crying I know they're reading the last chapter because I cried through the whole thing too but it really does look at I mean Louise is right we're we we're really offering a process that will allow you to feel good from the moment you wake up to the moment you close your eyes to go to sleep but all the way through the end of your life with lots of really juicy affirmations so with that said your thinking is either taking you down the right path or The Not So Right Path your

thinking is either making you feel good or making you feel not so Good thank you for coming and sharing this time with us we've enjoyed it in en