[Music] hi there welcome back to the Lisa nichels show where we have candid conversations transparent conversations we're sharing the tools with you and what you need to really achieve the life that you want defined by you and no one else where you can press reset a thousand times where you get to design the life that you want to live and more importantly you get to write the story that you want told about who you were who you are who you've been you want your legacy to be bigger than anything else you know so many times
we um we we validate Who We Are by what we're doing for other people you know we uh who we are as what we do what we give how we love and what I'm very clear on is that you are giving the world an example of how they get to love you and treat you based on the way you love and treat yourself and it's and and I had to learn this this was so big for me I had to learn that I'm the first example of how the world gets to treat me and it's
my job it's your job to give the world the best example possible of how you want to be loved that your love for me and my love for you it should be an extension of our love for ourselves so my first job is to love me what does loving me look like what does loving you look like does loving you look like exercising a very healthy the yes even with knees knocking and teeth chattering say yes say yes to that opportunity say yes to that relationship say yes to that second chance say yes to that
that that that thing that makes you nervous makes your stomach churn but it's also loving yourself is also understanding how and when to say a healthy no no is a complete sentence my grandma says I don't need to give any explanation sometimes it's just knowing a period and sometimes it's just knowing explanation point but a healthy no too loving myself loving yourself looks like recognizing that some of your biggest lessons came wrapped in sandpaper some of your best blessings came wrapped in what felt like nails and and and and and and things that hurt prickly
things it came wrapped in a in a in a moment where you needed to forgive someone but you got the lesson in the moment where you needed to release someone but you got the blessing loving yourself is recog recognizing that you don't fail without the opportunity to fail forward that every single time you fallen there was a part of your character your essence your your being that had to be developed and built at a greater level in order for you to get up so you didn't get up the same person loving yourself is reminding yourself
that you get to be in healthy relationships that you get to be in healthy exchanges I'm G stop right there cuz I got excited and I forgot your question I wanted to do the lesson but then I want to bring it back around how do I love myself more when I'm constantly serving everyone else okay great not feel guilty about that was the last part okay loving yourself more loving yourself more looks like asking me what do I love what do I want how do I define success by my own definition not by my mothers
my my fathers my husband my wife my girlfriends my home girls my home boys not by anyone's but by my definition how do I not get caught up in the Joneses and who are the Joneses anyway like what's I'm I'm my Joneses what do I love what means most to me loving myself more looks like giving myself a chance giving yourself a chance giving yourself a chance at that thing you've been thinking about that don't nobody else know about that you're wondering if it will work it's giving yourself a chance to fly even at the
chance that you might fall and if you fall loving yourself is getting back up you might not spring up you might I've wobbled up a few times I didn't spring up I got up slow I got the air knocked out of me my heart was hurting my elbows were bruised but it wasn't about getting up fast it was about just getting back up loving yourself is being willing to do that and to do it first for you before you do it for anyone else if you can cheerly for yourself the way you cheer leave for
them if you can dance and show up for yourself the way you show up for them you already know what loving heart looks like just do all that to you and see what that looks like it took me a long time to get there I'm not speaking to something that that I arrived at I couldn't Google download self- Lov you can't Google download selflove you got to you got to try it on you got to stop and breathe you got to listen to your internal GPS system more than you listening to chat or you listening
to Facebook you got to listen to what's in your soul and then got to hear it and listen and be in action like you heard and when you fall get up to fall again another day or to fly again another day hey now I would love to hear from you remember this isn't a monologue me just talking to you this is a dialogue we're in a conversation together I want to hear from you what's the the biggest aha moment that you got from this conversation what's that thing that you needed to hear like oh my
God that was oxygen right there I needed to hear it right now you may have heard it before but today right now it landed a little differently so when you watch this video I want you to focus on your life where you are and then I want you to leave a comment below be sure to share share with me share with others subscribe to this channel so we can keep having this exchange stay inside this relationship and look out for more what I hope to be amazing content for you content that contributes to you your
life your future because when you get Great Value you'll turn around and give it to other people and after all we're all here to be change agents I'm super excited to be here with you I'm your sister in prosperity and in possibility and I will always say I believe in you and I love you because I do see you next time [Music]
