God Is Saying: You've Been Asking Me If This Person is “The One” And I Have Answered You

Everyone called to marriage who has come of age looks forward to that day when they meet that special someone God has approved for them to marry we look forward to that day when we can start a journey with someone that will begin a fulfilling future of love and happiness together believe me when I say that God himself looks forward to that for you too do I mean this oh yes in fact if you take a good look at scripture you will Notice how God was the one who took up the responsibility to find Adam a

wife Adam never asked God for one the Bible did not record that Adam told God about his loneliness as a problem however God being the father that he is took it upon himself to get Adam a partner the same thing happened between Isaac and Rebecca his father Abraham put it upon himself to find a wife for his son scripture does not record that Isaac discussed it with his father as a problem if you read The story in Genesis you can see how Abraham was very detailed with his servant on how he was to go about

the task he wanted the best fit for Isaac because this wasn't going to be just another marriage this was a union that would carry on the Covenant between God and Abraham into another generation throughout scripture the lives of God's people were influenced both positively and negatively because of the kind of people they married Because of this God is more concerned about your marriage life than you probably know but the truth is that it is not so easy to meet someone and confirm that they are the one approved for you sometimes the person you think is

the one may not be the one and the one you least think about may be the one approved for you as you travel down this path of Christian dating one thing you must not joke about is God's guidance More more than your gut seek for and Trust the leadership of the Holy Spirit your future well-being depends on it being led by the spirit is something I have noticed many Christians are genuinely in the dark about some depend on their gut for guidance some depend on feelings some would go as far as even trusting psychics but

a Christian should not follow or be led by any of these and by the way no Christian should seek a palm re or psychic it is a sin in God's Sight he has given us his Spirit we must settle down and surrender to be led by him I said that to say this as you get closer to getting married God will place some signs for you to identify and confirm the person chosen as your partner once you notice these signs you will know in your spirit that they are the one for you regardless of other

contrad predicting elements the first sign of confirmation that God is bringing someone chosen as Your partner into your life is that you are developing a more selfless sense of responsibility what does this mean when God is about to bring someone approved for you into your life he begins his work with you you are his first project he makes sure that he has led you to the point in your life where your views about marriage are not all about yourself anymore this is a selfless sense of responsibility for another at this point you are not thinking

about What they would do for you but what you could bring into their lives one biblical person I respect so much is Rebecca she gives us a picture of this quality for instance when the servant of Abraham met with her for the first time she didn't serve him in his camel's water because she was trying to impress him she was doing that from her character this was who she was the Bible records in Genesis 24 how when the servant arrived at the well in Rebecca's Town he didn't know where to turn so he prayed to

God and asked that when the young ladies came to fetch water from the well that evening if he asked any for water the one who said I will give you some to drink and some for your camels would be the one approved by God to be Isaac's wife after he made that prayer Rebecca showed up and he proceeded to ask her for a drink from the well not only did she serve him water but she also said she'd serve the Camels which she did all by herself this must have been a difficult task but she

did it without complaining she may not have known it but she had come to that place where she was not thinking about herself or her Pride but how to serve others and thus the servant knew she was God's approved person for Isaac God wants us to have a servant likee attitude as his children Jesus laid that example down for us when he washed the feet of his disciples he Commanded that we must do the same for others remember that we are talking about confirmations that God is bringing someone into your life God is not going

to bring anyone who is selfish into someone's life because that person would end up hurting them instead of helping them become all that God wants them to be as a confirmation this is not telling you something you will not already know or sense in your own Spirit the purpose of confirmations is not to tell you Strange or unknown things rather it is proving that what you heard saw or sensed is valid in summary of this first sign a relationship with someone who is coming into your life and is chosen by God can be again if

you and the individual have come to that point where you are thinking about serving the other person the second confirmation that God is bringing someone chosen as your partner your way is that he will fill your heart with peace and contentment Regarding marriage desperation in marriage or a false and unrealistic fantasy of marriage will frustrate the whole essence of the relationship and ruin it before it even begins to confirm that the person coming to you is chosen by God for you God will fill your heart with peace about the person when they come and give

you a contentment in him than in the individual you won't be anxious over What you might do or not do that will ruin your relationship you will rather be at rest secure in God's rather than in the relationship you see God wants us to be secure in him one sign that a Christian is outside of God's will for them is that they lose their peace and keep stumbling on the contrary if you are in the will of God you will have peace and you will not be afraid even When Storms arise your Assurance will come

from God Rather than from the individual some people need someone to constantly assure them that they won't leave but that still won't stop them from being scared about it this is a sign of desperation fear jealousy Y and insecurity but a sign that confirms you are ready for the person God is bringing as your partner is peace and contentment towards God the third confirmation that God is bringing someone chosen as your partner Is that the person will compliment and motivate your ministry you know at the end of the day we must remember that Beyond emotional

attachment the butterflies the children and the responsibilities of marriage our callings are the top priority before God whomever he brings you must compliment and motivate you for your Divine assignment in life God will never give you someone who is going to distract discourage or abandon you in the Assignment that he is giving you you see this is one of the benefits of Christian dating it gives you the opportunity to serve together as well as serve each other this way you can benefit from being in a partnership with an active and diligent child of God instead

of experiencing the burden of being with a negligent individual with whom you may not have a future together Amos 3:3 says do two walk together unless they have agreed to do So a confirmation that this is God's approved person for you is that you can see how they compliment and motivate your calling either while you are dating or before you even start one more confirmation that God is bringing someone chosen as your partner is that he complicates your relationships with others we can never emphasize this enough it is unacceptable for a child of God to

be unequally yoked with an unbeliever however if you are already Married to one the Bible doesn't tell you to divorce the person if they still want to be with you as long as your partner wants to be at peace and a union with you the Bible tells us it is okay to stay married because you can bring sanctification to both that person and your children in the marriage 1 Corinthians 7: 12-16 to the rest I say this I not the Lord if any brother has a wife who is not a Believer and she is willing

to Live with him he must not divorce her and if a woman has a husband who is not a Believer and he is willing to live with her she must not divorce him for the unbelieving husband has been Sanctified through his wife and the unbelieving wife has been Sanctified through her believing husband otherwise your children would be unclean but as it is they are holy but if the unbeliever leaves let it be so the brother or the sister is not bound in such Circumstances God has called us to live in peace how do you know

wife whether you will save your husband or how do you know husband whether you will save your wife still as you pray for the right person to come one confirmation that the person who is coming will be God's choice is that anyone before or after them will not be able to have a chance with you somehow even if you stubbornly try to work it out you will struggle until the relationship falls Apart sometimes God can even allow you to get into a relationship that appears safe just for you to gain some experience regarding your personal

growth your dealings with others and your understanding of God's dealings with you this is another benefit of Christian dating it allows you an opportunity to grow even if the relationship doesn't end in marriage you do not become enemies but still consider yourself Brothers and Sisters in Christ One you notice that no matter how much you pray and seek God over someone and it just seems to be going nowhere know that he is about to bring someone else for you you need to separate yourself from that relationship to prepare for the relationship God will bring you

it is therefore necessary to always ask God for confirmation you have every right to do so to tell him father I feel attracted to this person but I don't want to to just go out based on feelings Or a dream please send me confirmation that will help me establish that this is the one you have approved for me this is the humble prayer of one who understands that marriage is too important to be rushed into and your efficiency as a follower of Christ will be influenced by the person you are in a romantic relationship with

and by your romantic history so you cannot afford to miss the right person God may use other confirmations for you and as his child You can and should follow according to whatever he says you will have an experience that is worth emulating let me Begin by saying that getting married is not a Biblical command for all Christians it's a Biblical option for any child of God who desires to be married Mark the word desire I'm saying this as I've always done in previous videos on our Channel maybe you're beginning to think you'd be Better off

and happier in a single life than in marriage well you might be right but you may also be wrong you see you can't really conclude on your marital Destiny if you've never had a serious relationship or if you've never succeeded in any relationship before I've said this before and I'll say it again one of the clearest signs that you'll soon meet someone whom God wants you to marry is the desire for companionship one way God often awakens Your desire to be married is to bring that specific person into your life that makes you feel that

life would be better with them rather than without them sometimes you won't even know if God's calling you to a life of singleness or a life of marriage until you actually meet the person God wants you to marry now having said that what are some signs that God's prepar caring someone to fall in love with you maybe there's Someone in your life right now and you can't tell whether you'll have a future together here are some ways God may be telling you that you and that person are about to fall in love one God is

causing them to spend quality time with you to know and connect with you more permit me to say that as a child of God your primary source of instruction is the word of God and the holy spirit in you all the signs I'll be sharing With you here must align with God's word and whatever the Holy Spirit speaks to your heart why did I have to say that you see when you become obsessed with signs you may easily become deceived by the devil this isn't that signs are bad but they can be manipulated by the

enemy and if you're not sensitive you can get carried away a sign such as this develop vs with time you can't just begin to look around your life for the next person who's Always spending time with you even a predator will spend some time with its prey if that's what it takes to groom it before it devours it Love at First Sight isn't sustainable feelings are not reliable because they depend on temporary factors however this doesn't mean that God cannot use these signs it means that when God is behind it it'll take some time for

you and the person involved to grow together as you connect with each Other over time there won't be any rush or hastiness in your relationship with each other so when God's preparing someone to fall in love with you he makes that person want to spend time with you to know you support you and connect with you as a person while maintaining Purity and Order God won't be responsible for the person who wants to get close to you simply because they want to take Advantage of your body or in with you rather God will send his

son or daughter to you one with whom time spent will not only draw you closer to each other but ultimately closer to God two God causes the person to believe in you and accept you for who you are where you are right now rather than trying to make you what they think you should be I love how the word of God has answers for the Practical issues of life We deal with for instance it tells us that God demonstrated his love for us by sending Christ to die for us even while we were still sinners

now when God's preparing someone to fall in love with you and accept you for who you are it does not mean that he'll bring someone into your life to love you for things that do not honor God God brings someone into your life with whom you'll feel more accepted and wanted without pressure to be what they Want I don't mean that love will Overlook issues and pretend they aren't there I also don't mean that God shows his love by accepting us in our sin rather God shows his love for us by paying the penalty for

our sin and transferring the righteousness of Christ onto us when we put our faith in him this is where the power of love comes in if this happens love has the power to change you for the better instead of for the Worse perhaps one of the most underrated traits of Love is acceptance you see the love of God doesn't just accept us and invite us to come the way we are it receives us the way we are and empowers us to grow in him the gospel invites you to come as you are but then it

promises to change you transform you into a new creation and to give you the power to live differently than when you were living by your own Strength but again I believe and I agree that we all must first be free to come as we are this is how it also works in a loving relationship between a man and a woman one of the signs that someone is truly in love with you is that they love you for who you are right now and not who they think you could be one day this again does not

mean that you should accept just about anything in the Name of Love It means we should not tie Conditions to the love we give true love always changes us but for it to change us we must first accept each other for who we are right now and love one another despite all our bad mixed in with all our good if someone can't accept you for who you are and is always judging you for who you're not this will never result in true love you will change together over the years but only if the both of

you learn to love one another in the midst Of imperfection 1 Corinthians 13:7 says love bears all things regardless of what comes believes all things looking for the best in each one hopes all things remaining steadfast during difficult times endures all things without weakening if this is absent it's a sign that this person is not in love with [Music] you three they find their security in your commitment to Them some of the strongest proof that someone knows you love them is if they feel secure in your commitment you could take a poll among young people

today and you'd be surprised that many who claim to love each other do not really feel secure in their partner's commitment to them this in itself is proof that there's no love in the relationship yes it's true no one's perfect and people can fail it's true That no one can love you as perfectly as God does you'll never find someone who will love and commit to you like Jesus however when we love something dearly we commit to it and when God's getting someone to fall in love with you that person will sense the love commitment

from you and then they can open themselves up to you the truth is that many people are afraid to commit to anyone because of past experiences or stories of distrust so everyone is wary Of one another and are afraid of being hurt therefore no one will open their heart to you unless they sense that you're willing to open your heart to them hence there must be a mutual commitment between the two of you yes one may need to take a risk first but eventually each person must feel that the commitment is mutual when they sense

that you're willing to commit and you're willing to risk as much as they are willing to risk true love can then Grow you can rest assured that God is giving you someone that truly loves you when they feel secure in your commitment to them both now and for the long haul this commitment gives birth to the ability to hope for a future together this brings us to the last sign four this person sees that your presence in their life will enhance their future you see once you meet the person God does have for you you'll

realize your life would be enhanced through this Union and it'll become clear that God's calling you to pursue marriage with this person so it's a sign that God's preparing someone to truly love you when they're beginning to see that their Ministry their Christian Journey their social life and their emotional well-being as well as other areas of their life will be enhanced by sharing it all with you at the end of the day the purpose of uniting you both is for a marital future together and not just for The moment when this person begins to see

and Factor you into their development and plans in the future they're actually holding you in high esteem and God is placing you in their hearts to love and build a life with you just like I said in the beginning of this video the spirit and the word of God are the tools he uses to guide us he may use these signs for you but even if you don't see them trust him to guide You appropriately you are his child and that's your guarantee that you will hear when he speaks and he will continue to insist

until you get it right do your part by trusting and waiting on him and when he says to take a step don't hold back then you'll be glad you obeyed have you ever felt close to resenting the Lord for the situation he put you in or have you ever felt that Nothing made sense at all you might have once wondered when will this end why me out of all the people who could be suffering did I do anything to deserve any of this there's a story of two campers journeying to an unfamiliar territory they wanted

to go to a hotspot destination with all the beautiful elements of nature you could think of waterfalls trees butterflies and more along the way they encountered a ravine There was no other way to get to the destination unless they figured out how to get to the other side the first camper was agitated because of his fear of heights the second camper told him that he was afraid too but to the first Camper's surprise he suddenly jumped and got across the gap the first camper shouted at him asking him why did he do that when they

were both scared the camper replied yes I'm afraid as well afraid of missing out in life We're afraid of a number of things the only question that matters is is this fear greater than your desire to be better will you let your fear hold you back from being in a greater place we need to understand the concept of fear better in order to overcome the temptation of dwelling in it let me tell you why we often find ourselves on the verge of giving up the challenges we face hurt us in ways we can't Anticipate it

takes a toll on us physically mentally emotionally and spiritually each struggle is slightly different and harder than the ones you've experienced before we normally enter a state of panic and our minds are in chaos it's so frustrating when we're Clueless I want you to know that while you're feeling this way the devil capitalizes on your situation he wants us to be paralyzed by Helplessness so he can take us away from God the devil Creeps in through your fear in fact he makes it stronger this is not on you you're not at fault for immediately feeling

worry or doubt however it becomes a problem when you stay in this state because it means that you're letting the enemy reside hiden your thoughts 1 Peter 58 tells us be sober minded Be watchful your adversary the devil prows around like a roaring lion Seeking someone to Devour the moment we let ourselves drowned in anxiety we invite the devil to take control of us scripture says that the enemy targets those who are facing adversity the reason behind this is when we focus on the situation we're in we become become less aware of the thoughts that

we let in the things that we say and the actions we do our minds become so busy that our hearts are left unguarded with this we ask if God knows That the Devil comes for us in times of trouble why would he even Place Us in this position in the first place in 1 Peter 510 after you've suffered for a little while the God of all Grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ will himself perfect confirm strengthen and establish you and there we have it this is the most straightforward answer you'll get

from the Bible he wants to and I quote perfect confirm strengthen and establish you just because you AR on ideal footing doesn't mean that he's punishing you it doesn't mean that he loves you less it also certainly doesn't imply that he's not caring for you though the whole point of suffering is that it's his way of proving his love for you God wants you to be the best you can ever be as Christians we need to know this by heart if we don't acknowledge That a time of difficulty is when we can feel God's love

the most we will easily surrender to defeat we tend to recognize God's love easier when he grants our wishes in heart's desires but when we're struggling we feel like he doesn't hear us but if you feel like he doesn't hear you then you need to know God more because the Bible will tell you he does hear for example Jeremiah 9:7 tells us therefore thus saith the Lord of Hosts behold I will melt them and try them for how shall I do for the daughter of my people the only thing God asks of us is to

reciprocate his unyielding Love by persevering through these challenges Our Father expresses his love to you in this way and you reject it if you allow fear to consume you if we fail to remain faithful we're only delaying our journey to Perfection we are a work in progress a Master peace contined to be perfected life is the medium in which he's refining us therefore we must allow both successes and failures in our lives the experience of all sorts of things good and bad is what makes life worth living in James 1 2:4 God says consider it

all joy my brethren when you encounter various trials knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance and let endurance have its perfect result so that you may be Perfect and complete lacking in nothing he sees us our potential and our worth believe me he listens to what you're telling him when he gives you trial else it's his way of redirecting you to where you need to be he will bring you to where you'll Excel a place where you'll be complete and satisfied let God take the wheel and trust him with all your heart he

will take you to a place far greater than what you have in Mind now that you have this information you're asked to Bear these responsibilities in order to grow in endurance earnestly reach out to God a American Minister David Platt once commented do we really think Jesus needs our acceptance don't we need him Jesus is no longer one to be accepted or invited in but one who is infinitely worth our immediate and total surrender to accept is not enough we need to call him earnestly because he Deserves that we must learn to go and surrender

everything he needs to know that we're capable of surrendering to his grace because this is the one way we can express our love spend your time seeking the Lord instead of worrying your situation can change in a split second a human cannot perfectly prepare for anything but if you take the time to fully depend on God he will then equip you with the mental capacity to be Flexible and think critically as you power through the trials when Daniel was thrown into a Den of Lions did he spend his time devising a plan to escape the

den or did he devote his time to praying to God our difficulties are no different than being in a den full of lions we will always feel weak and little when in front of beasts by God's wisdom Daniel was fully aware of this which is why he refused to Face the Lions and placed his attention on God instead nothing comes close to God's power so why would we concentrate on anything other than him I promise that he wants to listen all you must do is voice your prayer in return God will provide you with everything

that you need the book of Isaiah says when you pass through the waters I will be with you and through the rivers they will not overflow you when you walk through the fire you will Not be scorched nor will the flame burn you our God is a generous God he showers us with Grace and wisdom whenever we ask the problem is that such generosity can go unnoticed there are times when he's already shown you the way but you're way too distracted to recognize it let us strive to open our hearts to God's message it can

be through Reading scripture or by paying close attention to the environment you're in the Lord is Always eager to help us become the best versions of ourselves and you must respond to this by eagerly listening to him I'm telling you the more attention you give to your surroundings the quicker you can see the Wonders God's working on do you know how we take Delight in what we call blessings in Disguise if we really learn to discern God's response these blessings won't have to stay in Disguise it will save you from the impatience and frustration The

devil wants you to suffer faith in action will get you through a famous story goes like like this there was a man who went to the beach and to his surprise the sand was full of starfish washed up by the Sea there was barely any area to walk on he then saw a young boy throwing starfish one by one into the sea the boy said he wanted to put the starfish where they belong which was in the water the skeptical man laughed and told the boy It would be impossible to accomplish this Mission as there

were just too many of them the boy picked up a starfish and threw it as far as he could and said it made a difference to that one in a place of hardship God wants us to put our faith in him and follow up with our own diligence God will not single-handedly return all the starfish Back to the Sea but he will bless you with the strength in order to do so he will not spoon feed Us but rather he will allow us to realize the power of perseverance when done in the name of the

Lord let us reject the presence of the devil and stay strong to our commitment with God the devil is entertained when he sees that we don't trust God a way we can push the enemy away is by indulging in the Lord's love during times of weakness we should not be afraid of being weak Paul declared in the book of Corinthians if I must boast I will boast Of the things that show my weakness this apostle was imprisoned beaten assaulted and almost killed several times during his life however he took all these sufferings and treated these

as Metals signifying God's love for him he was not ashamed of the difficulties he faced because the fact that he conquered each of them spoke volumes about God's faithfulness to him we have a chance to follow Paul's footsteps and defy the devil's Wicked Intentions suffering or not let us stand proud as God always delivers us from evil I want you to be excited for what God has prepared for you remain joyful in Hope despite the physical mental or emotional strain seek God's kingdom and everything will perfectly work out for your own good The Best Is

Yet To Come God is directing you to the right path you need to always remember that Marriage is a glorious institution in God's eyes a blessing he instituted from the beginning of time for a man and a woman to enjoy the rest of their lives that's why the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 he who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord and it says how marriage is and should be in Genesis 2:24 that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is United to his wife and They

become one flesh in marriage two people people with different identities backgrounds callings and destinies find a point of unity where everything about them fuses into one it is such a beautiful Miracle to behold something we rarely see today because the whole meaning of the marital Union has been lost in modern society for you to have the experience of a god-ordained marriage you have to Understand and operate by the principles of God in your marital Journey you see God has a purpose for Mar marriage between his children and also has a purpose within their marriage because

most people don't understand this today the common trend of broken and failing marriages continues to rise and Rain however if you open up and submit to God's order then you can prepare for a marriage that'll last the test of Time don't forget that God's plan for you is good he is very much aware of the struggles and disappointments you may have faced to get to this point sometimes our experiences leave us doubting our worth and trying to quench our reason for living however you must believe in and discover the treasures that God has placed inside

you remember the Bible says that God knew each of us before we were even conceived in the Womb it also tells us that God took his Eternal Treasures and placed them inside vessels made from the earth that is our bodies made from clay 2 Corinthians 4 4 7 but we have this treasure in Jars of Clay to show that this all surpassing power is from God and not from us God knows everything about you and the potential within you don't forget that he put you on Earth this must mean that he has a plan and

certainly that plan is for good and Not for evil sometimes the process may be hard and complicated but you must never forget that his intentions are for you to arrive at a place of peace and rest Psalm 66:12 you let people ride over our heads we went through fire and water but you brought us to a place of abundance this works like a woman in labor at first she's in pain as she pushes to get the baby out she cries and pushes herself to her limit sometimes She contemplates giving up but the joy of bringing

life into the world gives her strength to push time and time again then the moment the baby's born the pains are overshadowed by the presence of the child she finds rest in that feeling of success you have the responsibility to seek God from here in faith and complete trust in his will for you it's left for you to find out what he wants you to do next and how to go about It many times we think that we know what's best for us that we know what marriage is who exact ly to marry or the

perfect time to be married but the undeniable truth is that the idea in your mind is greatly influenced by the world's definitions of marriage and its pressures on you to walk after that system some people who think they know what God's idea of marriage is are sadly only thinking about sexual experiences romantic movie influences public Displays of affection for likes on social media and other trivial ideas these things are far from God's Own idea and intention for marriage in general and may have little to nothing to do with his purpose for your partner who's about

to show up in your life that's why you need to look to God and find out what he's saying about your marriage or who he wants you to marry before you take any step that would end in Regret the Bible tells us not to lean on our own understanding but to trust God to guide us in all things as we commit them into his hands proverbs 3 5-6 trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight

one of the greatest risks you can take with your life is to trust your instinct for something you have no idea About there are more chances of failing and getting lost than there are in getting it right and Jesus told us that he'll give us a comforter and a guide who is the holy spirit with the help of the Holy Spirit you the child of God have the greater Edge than the one without the Holy Spirit Jesus said that the holy spirit will guide you in all truth he will shine his light on your ways

and help you make the right decisions as well as Empower you to see Them through to the end with the Holy Spirit you will overcome confusion and fear instead he'll give you Clarity concerning the will of God for your marriage and spouse whom God is bringing your way you need to know this and accept it God's not far from you if you're trusting God over your marital life and asking God to send you the right person according to his will it's time you start paying Attention this is a wakeup call and Confirmation to you God

has heard you and he is telling you that this person is coming you need to prepare yourself to meet them and not miss them you need to prepare yourself in the spirit so that you can recognize them and not not lump them in with others because they don't look like how you expect it's time for you to pay attention to the voice and guidance of God sometimes God can be speaking but you're not listening marriage is something you're going to have to go into for the rest of your life so you must be very careful

about who you choose to marry because your fulfillment or regret depends on it you want to ensure that the person you choose is God's will for your life God has used everything so so far to equip and prepare you for the great things ahead of you giving up on him Because of delays difficulties and challenges will rob you of seeing him work in your life however when you are sure and believe that God has something in store for you you will not give up easily and how do you show that you trust God to confirm

what he's saying through this video these are two signs which confirm you trust God to fulfill his promise as well as signs that God will do what he's promised to give You one the consistency of your prayer life consistency takes discipline discipline is possible through focus on a goal I stumbled on a video on social media where the speaker said that everyone doesn't have a problem with discipline as much as they do choosing what they give their discipline to for instance he said most people don't have a problem maintaining their Netflix subscription for years they

don't have a problem meeting Up with friends every week at the same time consistently they don't have a problem with following their favorite football club's business and so on this is the same with prayer consistency the hard truth is that you're committed to anything that gives you satisfaction if you care about something deeply enough you will give yourself to it if you enjoy the entertainment pleasure something gives you you won't Need so much inspiration to continue when you truly believe that God is your source and without him you will fail and not survive the wicked

plans of the enemy for you you will pray more this is what prayer does it tells God that you need him it tells God that you admit you don't know what to do and need his direction or else you'll fail what most of us don't know or realize yet is that each time we pray we become more spiritually sensitive and in Tune with God so that it's easier to identify the will of God for us you see we're moved by outward appearances and the things we hear God on the other hand sees the hearts thoughts

and intentions of everyone he knows who's right for you and who isn't through prayer you open yourself up to be led by God when you begin to pray about the person God will give you as a partner you're showing God that you're getting ready for them when God also places more marriage related prayers in your heart know that he's bringing someone your way your prayerfulness is confirmation along with it comes a huge wave of Peace When you pray more you'll fear less When you pray more you grow more confident in the ability of God that

is your faith becomes stronger two patience with God another very important sign of your trust in God to confirm his word to you is the Increase in your patience Hebrews 6:12 says we do not want you to become lazy but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised one of the things required in our walk with God as well as to build and sustain any kind of relationship especially marriage relationships is patience patience is one of the fruits of the spirit you see God will never lead you in a hurry

so you must never be In a hurry to make drastic decisions in your life like I said earlier one of the signs that you're on the same page with God In Prayer is peace one of the things peace does is to keep you at rest as you patiently wait for God to fulfill his word you may not know this but all the NOS you've had to endure have been God's way of teaching you to be patient until you stop being Hasty at the beginning you were always quick to make conclusions based on your feelings Impressions

and thoughts however this kept exploding in your face until you learned to wait a little longer to see how things turned out that was God using what you went through to mature you patience with god with yourself and with others is a sign that you're ready for God to bring the right person your way it's also a sign that you trust him to do it it means you won't see and jump at the next exciting thing that takes place in your Life this is an encouragement for you that God is by your side in everything

you do every day of your life so you should not be afraid to make choices and that will include choosing a partner if you're patient to hear the voice of God in other areas of life it will not be difficult for you to hear what God has to say about your relationship and marriage don't worry soon you will be glad you waited and trusted God because The right person will come and God will give you more peace than you ever imagined it will indeed be like the rest that comes after the pain of Labor very

fulfilling when God begins to allow your heart to care so much about someone in a special way there may be a special reason why it is your responsibility as a follower of Jesus to uncover this reason and follow through on it the Bible says in Proverbs 25:2 it is the glory of God to conceal a matter to search out A matter is the Glory of Kings remember that the Bible calls us Kings and Priests unto God in other words one of the most amazing things about being a child of God a child of the light

is your ability to uncover God's Mysteries Jesus said in Luke 8:10 he said the knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of God has been Given to you but to others I speak in Parables so that though seeing they may not see though hearing they may not understand today I share some answers to the question of why God is allowing you to care so much about someone even though you are not in a relationship with them right now this applies to you whether you were once in a relationship with that person or are in a

relationship with them now or are not and have never been in a relationship With them because you are God's child he will use any means possible by the spirit to communicate what he needs you to do as you listen to this message pay attention to your spirit the spirit of God in you will give you the conviction as to which applies to you and what you should do next this way you aren't acting because I said anything but because you are convinced that God uses these words to speak to you so here are a few

reasons To consider why God allowed you to care so much about someone the first reason is to reflect on his Divine Life in you and glorify himself you see the Bible says that God made us for his glory and for his pleasure he made all things for his pleasure the purpose for our existence is the glory of God everything that God created on the Earth was created to give him glory does this mean that each of the Things God directs your heart to do will be convenient no God does not promise US con venience and

obedience what he promises however is rest what is the difference rest is like peace it is the state of enjoying Tranquility in the midst of inconveniences and Chaos it is a steady advancement based on a solid conviction in the heart God could place someone in your heart and cause you to love them deeply so that he would Glorify himself through your relationship the thing about God's glory in a situation is that it draws those involved closer to him and helps us grow in so many other ways one of the reasons this does not always appeal

to us in thoughts about relationship is that it is not always emotionally favorable what do I mean to glorify God means to Bear His Image to reflect him and to live like him this means that you Despite what you may want are willing to Bear the image of of Christ while you follow him his path will cause you to love people who may not love you back to the same degree when God causes you to be in such a situation giving love may be the goal instead of finding love just like how God gives love

to everyone on the Earth every day don't let this scare you though because as you keep going down this path you will meet that person whom God has for you and who will be the Perfect fit they will satisfy you and love you back don't forget that marriage is meant to represent the relationship of Christ and his bride the church therefore do not give up when it doesn't feel so good to feel attached to this person in an unconventional way God has a plan and if you stick with him he will glorify both himself and

you as well the second reason is that God wants you tooo to end up together in marriage I believe that one of the Reasons God allows you to develop such strong feelings for someone is because there is a possibility that one day you will come back together in a marital Union even if that takes a while I have watched people become close and then fall apart for a period of time go through different life experiences and then come back together in marriage when asked how they felt while they were apart their answer was always similar

they still strongly cared For this person some even dated while they were apart but they just couldn't get this person off their mind that is a strong indication that you and that person may have a marital future together you shouldn't fight it even if the person doesn't look like someone you would marry today never look down on anyone God is working on rather trust God as long as a person is on the same page with Christ God can make them into an Enviable entity no matter how long it takes does this mean that every strong

feeling for someone means you are bound to end up together no however it is a possibility that should be taken into consideration as a child of God after all you cannot marry someone you don't feel any attraction to love is a fundamental aspect for building a marital Rel relationship one final reason I believe God allowed you to care so much about This person is so that he can use you to shine his light on them some people will tell you that a special person in their life is like a light in the darkness through this

person they have navigated through life's darkest moments and become better people there is a possibility that God will allow you to care about and be attracted to someone to be a light to them the Bible calls every child of God light and salt Matthew 5:116 in the same way let your light shine before others that they may see your good deeds and glorify Your Father in heaven now let me quickly say that it is not advisable and it is biblically forbidden to enter a romantic relationship with an unbeliever so that you can save them if

a person is Desiring to find Salvation or experence erence God he could send you into their life to help them find their way this is God sending you into someone's life not For marriage but for their salvation now although there is a possibility that after the person has found salvation and their footing in the faith something romantic may happen from there however do not let that be the goal like I said earlier you need to learn to see things through the eyes of the spirit of God when you see things through the eyes of God's

spirit you will know how to walk at the same Pace as God not far behind or far ahead I Have seen people who never believed in love maybe because of past experiences or their upbringing changed their minds when they met someone and their hearts experienced the truth you may be that person God wants to use to help someone find their way it may be a long-term thing that would eventually lead to marriage or a short-term experience that is meant to end without becoming romantic do not force it if it's not there it's not there if

it's not meant To be then it is not remember that in all these things you must put the Lord at the center placing God at the center means that you find your completeness in him this means that by his grace you are willing to accept your singleness and your wholeness in Christ this is the path to a life of fulfillment in and outside of marriage why because marriage though a blessing is not a cure for all ills it will fill some vacuums in your Life but only Christ fills everything having too many expectations for marriage

places you in a position to be hurt and disappointed because nobody exists to meet all your expectations however when you go with God you will know what to do and will find your fulfillment in being with the person God has destined you for do not seek someone to make you whole but follow the lord and when that special person does show up you want to live With them as companions and not like you are nothing without them it is very important for you to learn the signs God will use to identify ify your person and

connect you with them your person is that individual God has set aside to connect with you in a special way this will lead to your journey together as husband and wife serving his purpose here on Earth this same person can come from anywhere and through any situation God Considers best sometimes the conditions surrounding your connection would not be as exciting or colorful as you imagined they would be however through a mature spirit and understanding of God's guidance you will know that God is using these things to reveal that this is your person one of the

uncomfortable things God will use to reveal your person to you is that regardless of your feelings Toward this person your connection with them will enjoy God's blessings more than any other possible partner you may meet what do I mean honestly I have learned that sometimes God will not use emotional attraction as the Bedrock for confirming a relationship he is bringing into your life you may not really be attracted at first sight to the person God wants you to be with yet they are the right person for you the one you may feel attraction towards may

be the one You can't seem to find any peace with hence you need to be led by God rather than by your feelings remember the Bible says in 1st Samuel 16 6 and 7 when they arrived Samuel saw elab and thought surely the Lord's anointed stands here before the Lord but the Lord said to Samuel do not consider his appearance or his height for I have rejected him the Lord does not look at the things people look at people look at the outward appearance But the Lord looks at the heart you may notice that other

relationships and attractions are not making any Headway and are lacking in God's blessings then you meet the person God wants you to be with this is a sign God is using to reveal that this is the person for you you do not have to conclude that you have not been called to marriage or you are never going to meet the person for you because past efforts to connect with others did not Have God's blessing if you have been following the past videos here you might have heard us explain that if God puts a contentment in

your heart to be with someone then you are not called to a life of singleness you should not let past disappointments tell you what God is not saying if you are called to a life of singleness but you will find your complete satisfaction in God alone you will be quite uncomfortable to venture Into a relationship after relationship without finding peace or God's blessing however these may just be a sign that God is reserving you for the right person he prepared for you once you meet meet the right one you will see God's hand of blessing

on the relationship another uncomfortable thing that God will use to reveal your person to you is that he will use both your flaws to shatter your immature expectations of true love in a marital Relationship usually we all grow up with a perception of what true love is that makes us feel excited about finding and experiencing it with someone someday the truth is that as you make progress with God he will use the reality of your own imperfections and the imperfections of the right person to shatter those fantasies you see expectations especially unrealistic ones are the

mother of disappointment you are bound to go from Unhappiness to unhappiness and heartbreak to heartbreak as long as you hold on to immature and unrealistic expectations of love the Bible shows us the character of true love in first Corin thians 13 4-7 love is patient love is kind it does not envy it does not boast it is not proud it does not dishonor others it is not self-seeking it is not easily angered it keeps no record of wrongs it does not Delight in evil but rejoices With the truth it always protects always trusts always hopes

always perseveres it may be uncomfortable having to break free from those immature expectations of love and to deal with the reality of your differences in personalities and individual imperfections in the relationship however this will help you to become more mature open to God's peace and embrace his will a more committed relationship is produced when Even after seeing your ugly Parts this person still chooses to be with you a relationship with not have the foundation to last if you have to hide your flaws in the fear that they will no longer love you if they find

out God will reveal your ugly parts to this person and use their commitment in spite of those flaws to shatter your expectations true love and god-ordained marriages are not built on emotions or trending stories you may find on social Media you may not have butterflies in your stomach or sleepless nights thinking about this person you may not experience glowing skin however you will find the peace that comes with the unity of your desires with God's desire when God is connecting you with your person it will calm the turmoil in your soul that you would experience

with someone else this is easier said than done but it will beat your imagination in a positive way Because the love produced will be genuine and everlasting find finally an uncomfortable thing God will use to reveal your person to you is that he will use the really hard things in your life to bring you two closer together usually conflicts and hardship break people apart however when this is the person for you God will cause both your insecurities and the hard things you go through to establish your Connection now of course this does not always happen

but if God is involved in bringing someone into your life the things meant to keep you apart will actually strengthen your bond together furthermore in complimenting each other he will always give you someone whose life and insecurities challenge yours in such a way that it leads both of you to a common ground in God thus sanctifying your relationship more and more and building it upon the foundation of Divinity why does God do all this he does this is to give you conditions where your eyes can always turn to him and where your faith can grow

whatever does not challenge you will not mature you hence he will give you a relationship where you will grow to find your complete Security in God first and foremost rather than in the person he is giving you God allows imperfect conditions to help us grow in faith similarly he will give you an Imperfect person to help you grow in your dependence on him he will use them to teach you to learn Divine love and seek to walk in Grace as you see your partner's imperfections and yours conflicting and herein lies our hope if it is

ordained by God and involves Divine organization it will Thrive Psalm 133 1-3 tells us about the blessing that will rest on us when there is Harmony in our relationship with each other how good and pleasant it is when God's people live together in unity it is like Precious oil poured on the head running down on the beard running down on Aaron's beard down on the collar of his robe it is as if the de of Mount Herman were falling on Mount Zion for there the Lord bestows his Blessing even life forever more for example if

you have experienced certain hardships in life God will give you someone who will challenge you to stop nursing your wounds and embrace God's healing this will be quite uncomfortable because we like people who tell us it's okay to nurse our wounds but the truth is that you will not be better with such people thus God gives you someone whose own hardships have helped them grow so that they will challenge you to be better you will both have an understanding and love for each other as you grow through these conflicts it's a bumpy road but it

is a path to Peace satisfaction and fulfillment blessed by God in marriage having strong passionate feelings for someone is not enough hear me out on this one the most common misconception is that love is a single emotion that can overpower every other feeling in the world what many do not realize is this love is a package of choices and processes it is a combination of many other emotions when you claim to be in love With someone you must know that love alone cannot bring your relationship to its Highest Potential you will have to feel a

roller coaster of emotions and exhibit fundamental values instead of just experiencing the high of it so no love is not really all that you need for a relationship to work it is an emotional process coupled with actions based on values meaning God would not Destin you to be with someone who you won't feel The extremities of love with he wants you to experience it to the highest degree just like his great love for us in life we meet people that we click with and as social beings we invest in an environment where we will get

closer to each other when we meet new friends we add them to our social media accounts we try to create plans and we attempt to build a closer relationship with them especially when you are interested in this person you make an effort to bond With them and take a closer look at how being with them feels the tricky part though is that sometimes we cannot identify if the connection is purely by our choice or if God is the one behind the curtains perhaps you're not interested in a commitment yet but you're always exposed to this

person you may ask what is God's purpose for bringing them into my life why is our connection gradually becoming stronger we know that love comes when we least Expect it because of this we may be unprepared or hostile to the idea you may be confused if God is allowing this to happen love that is orchestrated by God is nothing short of greatness this relationship will fulfill the both of you while serving as an example of his love when you sense the following feelings it means that God is pairing you closer together number one you will

feel happiness and Contentment Psalm 144:15 says happy are the people whose God is the Lord we were taught that the moon does not actually shine on its own it merely reflects the light coming from the Sun in the same manner our Creator is the only one who can bring us the most genuine joy we can ever feel because of this he wants you to be with a person who can embody such happiness and Influence you with it the Lord won't send you someone who cannot make you happy for how would the two of you obey

his word and Delight in his presence together they say that happiness is a choice and so the person God sent for you will make it easier for you to make this Choice every day in his own words a troubled mind breaks the spirit if you do not feel true happiness when you are with someone God is Not facilitating the connection between the two of you do you Know who might be behind it the devil he wants to see you suffer in an attempt to provoke God he will bring you closer to a person who may

satisfy your needs but cannot make you happy Matthew 6 19-21 tells us do not store up for yourselves Treasures on Earth where moths and Vermin destroy and where thieves break in and steal but store up for yourselves Treasures in Heaven where moths and Vermin do not destroy and where thieves do not break In and steal for where your treasure is there your heart will be also this is the issue when people use love for the sake of transactions remember remember that there is a fine line between someone who can make you happy and someone who

can provide things that make you happy do you know how in shows and books there is a popular plot that involves choosing a less financially secure man over a rich one it's mostly because the First one can actually make the woman happy the problem with the world today is that gold diggers seem to be accepted and normalized proverbs 10:22 reads the blessing of the Lord makes rich and he adds no sorrow with it when God blesses you with a budding relationship with someone there will be no long-term sorrow in James 1 verse1 17 every good

and perfect gift is from Above coming down from the father of the Heavenly lights who does not change like shifting Shadows happiness is not necessarily a product or a service you get from this person it most often comes from within even when they're not around you feel happy just to know that you play a role in each other's life this is why happiness and contentment must go together these two feelings cannot be bought but rather are effortlessly found In the person God is pairing you with number two another emotion you will passionately feel is re

respect respect is such a broad term but let me make it simple for you this is when you feel empowered by the freedom both of you have there is no sign of power IM balance between the two of you your discussions and activities reflect kindness and gentleness respect is usually conveyed in the way you communicate with each Other have you ever shared a conversation with someone and you instantly felt as if you had known each other for years this light feeling is typically a product of the amount of respect enveloped in that conversation it feels

so liberating and it's like you can talk about anything under the sun without being judged or dismissed there is a rising number of relationships where abuse takes place Physically verbally or emotionally the thing about this is that you see how there is an overall lack of respect for oneself and for other partners you feel respected and you have respect for this person these are telling signs that God is putting the two of you together when Sarah and Abraham could not conceive a child Sarah offered to use Hagar their slave as a surrogate to be clear

surrogacy is a painful decision for Everyone Sarah was consenting that her husband have a child with another woman just to have Offspring however she respected the need for an heir she respected the love she shared with Abraham so she suggested to proceed with surrogacy the same goes with Samson and Delilah if Delila truly respected Samson even without the bribe she would not have forced Samson to disclose his secret as imperfect beings we will have shortcomings but respect is a vital Element that is required in order for us to make compromises and see through these flaws

you cannot fully love someone you do not respect God will pair you with someone who respects you for who you are because you are his beloved [Music] creation number three lastly you will feel absolute trust in this person now I'm not sure if you had this experience as a child but there used to Be an activity for building trust called the trustfall one must turn their back on the other player and let themselves fall without reservations in order for the other player to catch them most of the time the players cannot fully commit to Falling

because of their fear of not being caught which is totally normal however I ask you this will you be able to trust this person to never abandon you when all else fails for example you're stuck in debt Or you get diagnosed with a disease do you trust them not to leave your side Galatians 6:2 2 says carry each other's burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ God does not want us to rely on ourselves you know that it is a grave sin to think that you can go through times of

adversity alone therefore he is constantly blessing us with people who are showered with his wisdom to be our support system trust is the foundation Of a healthy relationship because it Foster teamwork it will be you and your partner Against All Odds in the Bible even the way Jesus led the disciples preached the importance of relying on one another the book of nehemia includes a story about rebuilding the Wall in Jerusalem the people needed to repair the wall while keeping their defenses up because they were being attacked by enemies to achieve both goals simultaneously half of

the population Built the wall and half served as guards because of this teamwork they were able to rebuild the wall without being conquered God wants you with someone who will keep you protected while you are occupied with something else and vice versa this person must be trustworthy someone who would not bad an eye even if you are at your most vulnerable Point as they say love cannot live where there is no trust God's commandment to us is to learn how to carry each other's burdens A duty that is strongly needed in a loving relationship the

very essence of commitment is being each other's stronghold for when God tests you your partner is responsible for guiding you in times when you are too involved to discern your actions carefully you direct each other on the right path did you notice how Samson lied to Delilah a few times to keep his secret at first deep down through God's wisdom he felt that Delilah was not a trustworthy Person think of about this do you see yourself entrusting your deepest darkest secret to this person it does not have to be right now but in the future

do you think this would be possible if you cannot trust this person with your life then God has no interest in matching the two of you when you feel all these signs then God is allowing this connection to grow God would not want you to miss any of these feelings because everything I mentioned is needed For a healthy relationship God communicates with us through the holy spirit that is within us so these feelings will guide you to the path he wants you to take surrender every emotion to God and he will give you direct instructions

on how to go about this relationship indulge in the fact that you are having these deep feelings because it suggests that love is right at your doorstep however when you miss one of Them then it can be a learning opportunity perhaps this person needs you to call them out on their shortcomings or you need to just let go Deuteronomy 282 proclaims and all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you if you obey the voice of the Lord your God the Lord is Blessing You by bringing you closer together let him be in control

and Delight in his blessed relationship Are you tired of wondering why your soulmate hasn't come into your life yet you know there may be some things blocking and holding you back from finding your soulmate first and foremost let's address the elephant in the room God is not a foolish God he's not going to send you your soulmate if you're surrounded by distractions and temptations and let me tell you if you're out there fornicating and leaving The Way of the World God is not going to Bring someone else's spouse is your soulmate so let's not blame

God for our own mistakes and bad decisions I know some of you may be thinking but what if I fall in love with a married man or woman God understands right wrong God clearly says in his word do not commit adultery so let's not twist his words and try to justify our actions God is not going to come down and change his Commandments just because you distracted by that boy or girl that's not how it Works I cannot stress enough God is never going to give you another person's husband or wife period it doesn't matter

how in love you think you are or how much you want that person getting God's blessing to take someone else's spouse is never going to happen you cannot have your cake and eat it too God is not going to tolerate your bad behavior I mean let's be real here how many women and men have come to me and said they're falling in love with Married individuals and that God understands their situation it's absurd God is not going to support your sinful actions no matter how much you try to justify them so if you're serious about

finding your soulmate you need to remove these blocking things let go of the distractions and temptations that are preventing you from finding true love focus on your relationship ship with God and trust that he will bring the right Person into your life at the right time remember God is not a foolish God and he has a plan for your life trust in him and watch as he works wonders in your love life Satan makes your partner seem emotionally distant now one of the biggest roadblocks to finding your soulmate is when Satan decides to get involved

and make your part partner emotionally distant yep you heard me right it's not Just physical distance that we have to worry about but emotional distance as well you might feel like your partner is there physically but mentally and emotionally they're miles away it's like trying to have a conversation with a brick wall it's like you're on your own and your partner isn't even trying to understand where you're coming from that intimate connection that used to be so magical well it's gone and all that's left is tension and stress it's like There's a force trying to

keep you apart and you know what it's not even your fault it's not your partner's fault either it's just the devil trying to keep you apart it's easy to get confused and not know what to do when you feel like this but the key is to never give up you need to pray communicate and try and find a way to connect with your partner emotionally again so don't give up on your partner don't let the devil win keep fighting for your relationship And soon enough your soulmate will come right to you remember when someone understands

you emotionally they get you forever and when you understand someone emotionally you get them forever both of you cannot COPE in hard times have you ever been in a relationship where your partner just can't seem to handle difficult situations you know like when the going gets tough they just get going it can be pretty Frustrating when you're trying to build a life with someone but they just can't seem to cope with the hardships that come with it it's especially tough in the world we're living in right now with all the chaos and uncertainty we need

someone who can be our Rock when everything else feels like it's falling apart but if your partner keeps running away every time things get a little tough it might be a sign that someone's not quite right maybe they have some Issues they're dealing with or maybe there's some blocking around both of you that's causing these problems either way it's important to be observant and notice when things start to feel off because here's the thing if they truly meant to be your soulmate they'll stay with you through thick and thin sure there may be times when

it's tough and you both feel like giving up but if you can get through those times together your relationship will be stronger for It on the other hand if your partner keeps running away every time things get a little hard it might be time to re-evaluate the situation are they really the right person for you or are they just holding you back from finding someone who can truly be your rock when you need it most it's important to remember that we all have our struggles but the right person will be there to help us through

them so don't settle for someone who runs away at the the first Sign of trouble keep your eyes open stay strong and remember that your soulmate is out there somewhere waiting for you to remove those blocking things that are holding you back Satan tries to divide the both of you now let me tell you Satan is a sneaky one we all know he'll use anything and everything to get in between you and your partner but don't worry Jesus warned us about this he said no City or house divided against itself Will stand that means if

Satan can divide you and your spouse then he can conquer your marriage taking away your Effectiveness for God and let me tell you the devil is out here trying to destroy marriages left and right that's why we see so much divorce even in the church but what exactly does division look like in a relationship it starts with all those little disagree M ments that seem insignificant at first bickering arguing lack of communication Misplaced priorities UNM expectations and unnecessary pressure are all signs of division and before you know it you're so focused on yourself in your

own needs that you forget about your partner that's where humility comes in if you want to combat division you need to lay aside your pride and focus on being reconciled with your partner this means being willing to apologize communicate and make time for each other if you do this you'll be reunited and Your Effectiveness for God will remain but remember Satan doesn't give up that easily he'll keep trying to get in between you and your partner that's why it's important to be prayerful and seek God's guidance if you keep steadfast in your worship God will

surely come to your Aid and help you find the perfect person for you so let's make sure Satan doesn't get the best of us remove those blocking things and find your soulmate today Lies one of the biggest blockers in any relationship is lies yep you heard me right lies it's crazy to think that lying has become second nature to us humans we lie cheat steal and destroy and that's just part of who we are but when it comes to relationships we need to be honest enough up front with each other I mean come on Who

Wants to be in a relationship filled with lies that's a recipe for disaster we all have those little lies that we tell ourselves or Our partners thinking that it's no big deal but those little lies can pile up and create a mountain of distrust in your relationship and that's where the Devil comes in he whispers those lies into our hearts and Minds making us doubt ourselves and our partners but how can you spot those Lies when they seem so convincing well it's simple test everything replace those lies with the truth that's in God's word and

Meditate on it know what God says about you and your partner and believe it that way when those doubts and insecurities start creeping in you'll be able to recognize them for what they really are lies ask yourself what lies have you been believing about yourself or your partner and how does knowing the truth guard your Effectiveness for God lies are the devil's way of breaking you and your partner apart so if you're In a relationship filled with lies it's time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your partner that's why trust is so important

in any relationship when you have trust it becomes difficult for the devil to come in between you and your spouse so let's kick those lies to the curb and build a foundation of honesty and trust in our relationships because your soulmate is out there waiting for you to remove those blocking things and find Them don't you just love the idea of meeting that special someone who comes into your life like a dream with whom you can share all your dreams and spiritual journey with until the end it's the deepest desire of a child of God

who's come of age to meet the one that God has sent and approved as a partner for them to live the rest of their lives with it isn't one of the easiest things to do though because you have to resist the emotional pull and Mental influence of your flesh tempting you to accept just about anyone into your life don't get me wrong your emotions are not devilish they can however be manipulated by the devil as they're connected to your flesh to be driven by emotion to accept or reject things in your life will keep you

in the place of limitation and instability why because emotions are inconsistent however to be led by the spirit and word of God is to place Yourself on Solid Ground where your choices and decisions are driven by divine inspiration and foresight which will save you from future regret and damage dear friend you may not know this but just like Adam in Genesis 2:18 God does not want you to live alone without the help of the right partner this means he wants you to be happily married fulfilling your destiny with the spouse he gives you Genesis 2:18

the Lord God said it is not good For the man to be alone I will make a helper suitable for him now God's not going to allow you to just marry anyone you meet on the street or some Social Hub God does not want you and the destiny he's prepared for you to be damaged by allowing you to marry just anyone rather as Christians there's a way to know who the right one is and who we shouldn't be with let me quickly Share three things that will happen when you meet someone who's sent and approved

By God as your spouse one there will be confirmations when someone who's approved to be your spouse comes into your life God will give you confirmations listen because God's not the author of confusion he doesn't work just one party rather he'll put confirmations of his will in both of you the Bible says that in the mouth of two or three Witnesses a word is established 2 Corinthians 13:1 this will be my third visit to you every matter must be established by the testimony of two or three Witnesses Matthew 1816 but if they will not listen

take one or two others along so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three Witnesses with confirmation you have a reason to believe and hold on to God more than by how you feel but by what you believe he Said one of the things my pastor taught me about this is that when you meet that someone you may feel as the one for you as a child of God you have the right to ask for confirmation this is different from putting out fleece like Gideon did this would be like saying

Lord if he or she is the one let them put on a blue shirt or a red scarf today a fleece may be manipulated by the devil devil and you may be ens snared however the confirmations from God are usually three-fold a internal confirmations B external confirmations and C Eternal confirmations with internal confirmations your peace will be intact your emotions will gradually align and you will have a strong conviction that this is the one for you this also involves a sense of satisfaction with them because they'll meet your desire as a partner to a large

extent external confirmations are Twofold one will come from the person's own actions and reactions to you this will not contradict what you are already sensing inside yourself but rather confirm it even without you two talking about it they may not be the one if their actions aren't saying anything to prove that they want to be with you as a spouse secondly God may use third parties which may involve other spiritual people or leaders as well as events God will not send someone into Your life so that the two of you have to sneak around God

loves to put his signature on what he approves and sometimes he uses events and other people to confirm it so don't be surpris when someone close to you or a complete stranger comes to say something to you regarding that someone and it agrees with everything God's already showing you please note that confirmations are not strange directions just like its name it's meant to establish what God's Already telling or showing you not something you don't know then Eternal confirmations on the other hand refer to the spiritual activities that will occur to prove that this is God's

work this may involve prophecies dreams and visions of the two of you together as spouses They may involve sharing similar spiritual and eternal values I'll talk more about this in the next points but these are the three three-fold Confirmations you must see happening to prove that someone is approved and sent by God to be your spouse two God's word the Holy Spirit and the circumstances surrounding your relationship all align what does God's word say about your marital future it says marriage is Honorable and the bed undefiled it says that when the Holy Spirit comes he

will guide you into all truth he will teach you what to do and How to go about it now when God sends someone into your life as your spouse your relationship will not contradict the Bible for example since the Bible says that we aren't to marry unbelievers you cannot claim that someone is God sent when they're not even born again the holy spirit will not ask you to marry an unbeliever because that would mean he'd be going against the word of God which is impossible Jesus said in John 1613 To15 but when he the Spirit

of truth comes he will guide you into all the truth he will not speak on his own he will speak only what he hears and he will tell you what is Yet to Come he will glorify me because it is from me that he will receive what he will make known to you all that belongs to the father is mine that is why I said the spirit will receive from me what he will make known to you so when the word of God the Holy Spirit and the surrounding circumstances around you or the relationship or

conflicting just know that God is not approving your union now concerning surrounding circumstances unless God makes a way for you two to be together he won't send you someone who's living in a place you can't go he won't give you someone who will become a burden to you in your destiny you should marry someone who you can see and be with who you can watch And know more about and who can also see and know more about you you should not marry someone who lives in a far away country you most likely don't even know

who they are what they like what they do and how they live again I say regarding surrounding circumstances they will align with God's word and the Holy Spirit and they will not leave you an uncertainty nor be a burden to you three there will be spiritual practical and emotional alignment Between you two this agrees with and is similar to the first point about confirmation however this is the Practical side of the confirmations what do I mean when God sends someone into your life to be your spouse there will be spiritual practical and emotional alignment this

is what's referred to as compatibility spiritually you'll both be able to connect on the same frequency being saved or unsaved is out of the Picture now as I believe I'm talking with Christians the Bible says not to be unequally yolked this means that whomever God approves for you will be a partner working side by side with you not a project that you'll have to be working on while pursuing your destiny when the person you're meant to marry becomes a project you're working on it defeats the purpose of the Union as they aren't your partner does

this mean you Must be equal no instead it means that both of you share a spiritual compatibility your strengths complement their weaknesses and their strengths yours you don't need a partner that you have to force or pray for them to go to church read their Bible or live as a Christian should practically your relationship answers the question of partnership and possibilities do their lifestyle and choices agree with what God's showing you about your life will They be useful or helpful in your ministry are they mature mentally socially emotionally and responsibly to be with you when

God sends someone to be your spouse they'll check these boxes or be on their way to checking them lastly emotional alignment you'll admit to the connection you both share emotionally you have to like the person you'll marry and have to grow in that love if they're approved by God for you you'll notice that your personalities And temperaments align your feelings will be mutual they'll be as passionate about you as you are about them there will be no question about assurance because there's alignment these are very important elements that will confirm the person God is sending

and approving as your partner I encourage you to take them to heart and prayerfully trust God to work it out concerning you and whomever he sends your Way the holy spirit is pleased when we pray and seek Him to guide us in the issues of life one big disadvantage you can give yourself is to shut him out of the important things The crucial Det details of your life the Bible says in Romans 8:14 that for those who are led by the spirit of God are the children of God you will avoid many pitfalls if you

learn to trust the holy spirit to guide you especially in matters as important As marriage and romantic relationships who is the Holy Spirit in simple terms the holy spirit is God living in us God exists and reveals himself and through three distinct forms yet he's the same one God he's father son and spirit if you read the first book of the Bible Genesis you'll see that from the beginning the holy spirit is mentioned Genesis 1 1:2 in the beginning God created the Heavens and the earth now the Earth was formless and empty Darkness was over

the surface of the deep and the spirit of God was hovering over the waters thus the Holy Spirit was with the father God at creation as the second of the godhead in the same place we also see the sun present the Bible tells us that Jesus is the word of God personified and in the beginning that word was present with God as John tells us when God said let there be light he was sending the Word the Holy Spirit activated the word of God and that resulted in the creation of everything thus the Bible talking

about Jesus in John 1 2:3 says he was with God in the beginning through him all things were made without him nothing was made that has been made you see that the spirit of God is not a pushover he's God living inside everyone who's put their faith in and received Jesus as Lord in their lives One of the works of the holy spirit is to guide you into all truth this means that if you're not walking in the fullness of God's perfect will for your life you either do not have the holy spirit to guide

you or are not letting him guide you if you're born again you have the Holy Spirit living inside you Jesus said to be born again means to be born of the spirit a person born again doesn't live by their own mental prowess but by the Supernatural guidance and empowerment of the spirit of God John 35-8 Jesus answered very truly I tell you no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water in the spirit flesh gives birth to flesh but the spirit gives birth to Spirit you should not be surprised at

my saying You must be born again the wind blows wherever it pleases you hear its sound but you cannot tell where it comes from Or where it's going so it is with everyone born of the spirit obeying the inst instructions of the Holy Spirit brings in beautiful results in life's decisions and the word of God is full of testimonies that prove this therefore when it comes to choosing your partner for a romantic or marital relationship you the child of God need to let the holy spirit guide you to find the right person the Bible tells

us he who finds a Wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord if the word find is used then it must be the result of looking for something you can't say you found something if you weren't looking for it in the first place this is the state of each person whom God has called to be with someone in a marital relationship he puts a longing in your heart for a special person with whom he wants you to continue your life Journey then you begin to search for Relationships and interactions until you find

them however the way he wants you to find them is not only by following your human into itions but by depending on him if you call the person God gives you in a relationship a gift then you must believe that they have to come from God this doesn't mean that they'll literally fall down from heaven it doesn't mean that they'll just appear out of nowhere it simply means that you both will be Brought together through God's Guidance the Bible tells us that the steps of the righteous are ordered by the Lord when you follow God's

instructions by listening to the holy spirit and obeying him God will show you who's right for you and tell you how to go about developing a relationship one of the biggest mistakes single Christians make is that we're very quick to run after someone because of how they look on the outside how they Treat us what they have and who they are socially if you follow our videos you'll notice that we share some of the signs for recognizing if someone is God's will for you or not we also teach you how you can use event around

you to confirm God's approval in your relationships however the greatest Advantage you have in all of these things is the holy spirit I've had the opportunity to Mentor many young people and from time To time I get to speak with them about some of these things on one of these occasions as I was speaking with this young lady she told me that she easily settles anywhere she feels love and affection if someone's kind and accommodating she doesn't like to stay away from such a person and soon she might become too fond of them I told

her that in itself that's not a bad thing but because not everyone who treats you Kindly truly has good intentions for you it's important to be led by the spirit of God in relationships remember the Bible says that we only look at the outward appearances but God looks at and knows the intentions and thoughts of the heart therefore who would you rather trust to know the right person to have a romantic relationship with it would have to be the one who knows them better than you do many young ladies became single Mothers because they felt

safe with a young man who brought gifts and spoke kind words to them the gifts kept them from taking the time to check if this person's motives were Pure or selfish and before they realized it they've been taken advantage of child of God your heavenly father does not want you to finally get it right by trial and error you do not not have to make mistakes upon mistakes in order to get it right this is why he Gave you the holy spirit in the first place by the Holy Spirit you will not only receive the

strength to seek God's face in prayer you will also receive the ability to understand when he answers you as well as the strength to act on what God says you should do Philippians 2:13 for it is God who works in you to Will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose how does God do this in You by his power The Holy Spirit working in you it doesn't matter where you are right now maybe you're about to enter into a relationship or perhaps you're just coming out of a long chain of failed relationships

and aren't sure what lies ahead or perhaps there's someone around you who seems to meet your needs at this time and you feel they may be the one whatever the situation you're in if you let the holy spirit guide you You can never go wrong the success or failure of your marital life greatly depends on how well you let the Holy Spirit teach you and lead you this will not only prove useful in finding the one it'll also prove useful in demonstrating wisdom that sustains the relationship when reality strikes many Christian relationships don't last because

either one or both of those involved were not following the Holy Spirit hence the relationship was Built on an emotional experience of butterflies in the stomach and a mental picture formed through personal expectations these things often fade when reality reveals itself and both are left stranded not knowing what to do as the relationship dies however when you let the holy spirit guide you you'll find that you won't be stranded like this take time before you move further with anyone or before you open yourself To any romantic relationship make up your mind to let God lead

you make up your mind that you aren't going anywhere with anyone unless the Holy Spirit tells you to tell yourself that you're going to keep your emotions in check and will wait on the Lord pray constantly fast so that your spirit can hear God when he speaks stick with the word of God it will help you understand the voice of God through the Holy Spirit More and more you're less likely to miss it if you practice these three things consistently new relationships can be exciting at the beginning when it seems like all our fantasies are

coming true right before our very eyes but then again after a while things may happen that cause you to end the relationship or the relationship seems to have lost its fire when this happens one prayer Christian Singles pray is for God to help them move on from the person Or relationship in question yes some people are in a relationship while asking God to help them move on from the person they're with they still feel emotionally attached to this person and don't know what to do or how to move on from them when you're in a

relationship or you've ended one but still feel this way it might be a sign that God does not want you to move on from that person shortly I'll share a few signs that confirm that God's not Leading you to move on from someone either one you're in a relationship with or or one you're not with but are struggling to let go of but first let me say that as a child of God you need to believe that just like God said in Jeremiah 29:11 his thoughts of you are thoughts of good and not evil and

he wants to give you a future in a hope also no matter in what situation you find yourself as long as you are in him and are seeking his counsel for your Life all things are bound to work together for your good in the end therefore you need to know that if God allowed someone into your life he has a purpose for that sometimes for example single Believers make the mistake of entering into a relationship with someone whom God sent to help make a specific contribution to their development they put this person in a position

that God didn't put them in while the person Continues to try and play the part that God assigned for them the person may be making progress but you may feel unfulfilled and confused about the situation unable to understand why they can't do the things you expect a partner to do it's because maybe God sent them into your life for a different reason than just being a partner is this always the case no it isn't this is however a point to help you understand that God does not allow people into your life Except those he wants

to use to bring some value to you when God brings a brother or sister in Christ into your life whether in a relationship or as a friend or colleague and you want to move on from them but find you're unable to do so you have to ask yourself if God has a plan to execute by that Association you see there are things God will do by himself in a supernatural and spiritual way but there are things that he will use people to do if you walk Away from such people you may miss the impact they

were sent to make and the opportunities involved therefore one of your greatest blessings is to master or at least grow in your understanding of God's guidance in your life if you're unable to follow God's guidance you're going to keep allowing your emotions to deny you the diverse opportunities he presents through those he brings into your life so what are the signs that he's leading You not to move on from someone one when the person you're trying to run away from is a Believer and challenges you to be the person you know God has called you

to be it's a sign that he's leading you not to move on from them each of us is a work in progress and God is constantly working on ways for us to move from where we are to become someone better also because of his purpose for us God has made each of us uniquely different and his dealings With us are unique to us the Bible says in Proverbs 27:17 as iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another this means that God's not going to come to do the sharpening himself instead the person in your life

may be the tool God's using to do it instead of moving on you need to sit back and ask yourself am I seeking to move on because I don't want to accept or yield to the sharpening process God's working through This person the truth is the process of sharpening is challenging and painful it challenges some long-standing values habits or Comforts bits and pieces of your ego will need to be cut off this is usually challenging when it comes from someone with may be attracted to and because our flesh loves to remain at the same level

or lower our thoughts may just be to move on from them what you need is to stay with them and let God Use them to break and remold you into the person he wants you to be you may not even marry this person tomorrow however if you let God use them to make you better your marriage Journey will be glorious that a person is invested in pushing you into God's best for you is a sign that you should stay connected and not move move on from them they are valuable assets especially in our world today

where people are afraid to challenge one another for fear of Offending them do check and make sure you're hearing the voice of God and not your rebellious flesh two you want to move on because of your fears and not because of their faults another sign that God's not leading you to move on from someone especially when you share or have shared a relationship with them as when you're tempted to run away because of your own deep fears most singles fall under this Category they pray for the right person in their lives and when the right

person comes they run away because of their fears some fear that this person's too good to be true others fear that they're not good enough for this person and might be replaced later others are afraid that this person will act like the monster in their imagination based on their background or past experiences these are just a few of the fears that plague most young people and keep them Single it might surprise you but most young people act out and are single because of their fears which keep them from committing to anyone even when they meet

the perfect person you need to know that if God brings someone into your life that seems to be more than you expected it's his way of saying that his gifts are based on his love and not your state and if you let him he can build and make you better sometimes the person God gives you may reflect the potential Within you for example if you have an issue with telling lies and God gives you a partner who stands for truth it's God saying that you can overcome that lying spirit and he wants to use that

partner to inspire and challenge you running away from a healthy relationship with someone because of what someone else did to you is not always going to solve the problem your fears of repeating history may work for people with impure motives but not for everyone So once you confirm that this is your fear speaking then know that God is leading you in the opposite direction because that's how fear works it takes you in the wrong direction for God's will for you please note that you travel the marriage Journey not by potential but by present observations measured

according to the standard of God in his word if your fears are about marrying someone outside God's Will and the person represents things contrary to God's standard by the word it's valid to move on because you're seeking God's interest in your life this isn't calling us to judge people but rather to weigh the spirits working around us so that we don't give the enemy room in our lives three when your connection with someone seems confusing yet you still have an unexplainably genuine connection to them it may be a sign God is leading you not to

move on from Them I must make this clear that there are times in your life when God's guidance will appear confusing including in your marital relationships there will always come seasons and romantic relationships when one party doesn't feel as excited as they did when they began the journey it doesn't mean God is done or has left you both and it also doesn't mean he hasn't however you have to learn like I pointed out earlier in the beginning of this video to decode What God is saying and where he's leading don't be Hasty to move on

from someone simply because you're tired of having them in the gray area whether it's a brother in Christ yet to process his love or a sister in Christ yet to give you an answer to your proposal as long as God is involved give it time and don't be Hasty everything will fall into place the fact that you don't know what to do about this person now may be the Sign for you to stay a little while longer stay true to yourself and to your faith don't compromise or drive yourself out of God's will there are

many things to learn while you wait on God let the signs play out and hand them all to Him to guide you and just as he promised he will not leave you stranded where you aren't meant to be