one of the darkest moments of my life began 7 years ago when I discovered that my ex-wife had cheated on me with a married man I still carry the scars of this betrayal and every moment lingers in my mind the challenges we faced while sharing custody of our daughter the truth behind the Betrayal and the unexpected events we encountered during this process completely changed my life that night a called and my phone changed everything my daughter's mother apologizing for her past mistakes and offering to establish a healthy relationship for our daughter's future reopened Old Wounds
a battle began within me to make the right decision for my daughter's welfare could I truly forgive before dive into my story share your thoughts about the shocking truths I've experienced in the comments and please show your support by liking my video also don't forget to subscribe to my channel for real shocking cheating Stories We Share every day now let's dive into my story my ex-wife cheated on me S years ago I found out she had a four-month affair with a married man we are managing joint custody of our 16-year-old daughter and we communicate only
through my sister or by email I learned about this affair through all the Unfaithful photos and videos the man's wife sent me the most painful part of this betrayal for me was that my wife engaged in extreme behaviors with her lover that she never did with me she had told me that these actions were demeaning to a woman when I gave her a chance to confess she psychologically manipulated me and swore on our daughter's life claiming I was making insane accusations when I presented the evidence she had to confront it and broke down telling me
she had made a big mistake and knew I would never forgive her for her betrayal I told her that from now on she should only contact me in emergencies related to our daughter's health or life we divorced shortly after 6 years later last month my daughter asked if I would attend a dinner she prepared for a cooking competition of course I agreed but importantly my ex-wife would also be there my daughter knows why we divorced and accepts that I do not communicate with her mother I hadn't seen or spoken to my ex-wife in six years
at the dinner my former in-laws my ex-wife my sister and I were present my daughter's meal was delicious and everything went smoothly a week later I received a call from my ex-wife thinking it was about our daughter I answered our daughter was fine but my ex-wife sincerely wanted to apologize for her past mistakes she mentioned that our daughter was afraid to see us together and stated that our current situation was unhealthy for her she asked if we could coexist healthily for our daughter's future events I listened to her and at the end of her talk
I said no and hung up the phone I need advice here my sister says that my ex-wife is genuinely remorseful and sad and she just wants to create a healthy environment for our daughter she reminded me to consider our daughter's mental health and what value I would have have in her life if I'm not happy my ex-wife won't make me happy so I need Fair opinions should I forgive my ex-wife for my daughter move forward and build a better co-parenting relationship I talked with my daughter yesterday and her words were enlightening she told me she
loves me and knows I would do anything for her so she doesn't want me to do things I wouldn't do because of her she said her mother is sometimes sad and keeps saying that her father will never forgive her which is why people can't stop judging her for her past she told me her mother has very few friends and has lost childhood friends because the spouses of the friends we grew up with didn't want them hanging out with her after the divorce other spouses also excluded her from the group to save their own marriages my
daughter misses our family being together but understands that both her mother and I love her she asked me questions about forgiveness and unforgivable things I explained that it depends on her own values and moral standards I said sometimes you might dislike Behavior but love the person and sometimes you can't separate the behavior from the person I gave an example by saying that her mother is a person and I can't separate her behavior from her this doesn't mean she's a bad mother just that I can't make our relationship like it used to be I told her
that an apology doesn't mean everything will be fixed and sometimes behaviors have consequences I said her mother's behavior is a part of her after the divorce I decided to consult two therapists specializing in marriage and family counseling I had five sessions with each over five months I discussed all my issues the Dynamics with my ex-wife and my current situation during the therapies I showed both therapists this submission and really wanted unbiased opinions the advice I received from both therapists provided me with the necessary contrast to make the needed changes first I invited my ex-wife to
attend three planed therapy sessions the purpose of these sessions was to give my ex-wife the opportunity to discuss our issues with a professional not to forgive but to provide closure and to create a plan for raising our daughter and managing our joint living events she accepted my invitation the first session was spent sharing our views about our current life situation and our expectations for our daughter I shared that I am satisfied with my life my career and personal life are balanced and I have reached happiness and success I stated that I want my daughter to
grow up to be a happy loved and self-respecting individual I emphasize the importance of understanding the difference between right and wrong and acting accordingly my ex-wife as an interior and exterior designer spoke passionately about her career how her past relationships ended badly and how this increased her fear of commitment she stated that she wanted our daughter to be happy loved and hardworking I told her I was afraid that our daughter would resemble her seven years ago my ex-wife admitted that her Pride was hurt but she had been in therapy for years and acknowledged that her
past behaviors Justified these fears in the second session my ex-wife asked many questions I answered her questions honestly and openly she asked three main questions one how I healed from the harm she caused and what advice I could give her two how she could replace what she destroyed three how she could be friends with me again I answered the questions and we reached two main agreements in the last session I told my ex-wife that I would allow her to contact me outside of emergencies if she wanted to talk about our daughter I also agreed to
consult once a year until our daughter graduates for the past three months I have been doing what's most urgent for our child and I know now that she is a 16-year-old teenager I'm doing everything I can for my daughter's happiness
