yo yo yo welcome back about what you've been looking for for this entire time we're going to talk about flirting guys and the reason why i wanted to make content on flirting and over the course of this month we'll make content on love and romance on relationships and on all these different things is because i'm sick of the many philosophies that come about that ask you to abscond on sex that ask you to dump sex and keep it in a corner and exactly for that purpose you're making great content on flirting we're making great content
on love and romance and everything about relationships during the course of this month so if you like this and if you want to see more of this thing like share subscribe like see you on the other side these are the 12 rules for flirting foreign knowing how to flirt like you just do not have an idea as to how to go about it and usually people who do not have an idea as to how to go about flirting will make an attempt and of jordan b peterson let's do 12 rules for flirting okay before we
get on down to understanding flirting there's a few things i need to mention just to set the context for the video flirting is the thing again like i said conversation overall any kind of interaction social communication overall is an instinctive skill muscle memory but eventually practice how do you practice everything we mentioned in the art of conversation if you want more than what just this video provides you can always check that out there is a discount code in the description my love to you right the second thing is because this is instinctive because it is
best always to use an example and the example we will use in this case is russell brand russell brand is one of my favorite people on the planet he's entertaining he's smart he's driven he's funny he's all these different things and he's beautiful to look at on a screen like watching russell brand heartwarming i love it but there is a few things that i have to mention before we start checking that out one of the things interviews footage is most likely were applicable there is at least two factors that change the geography of your flirting
landscape okay the first thing is aqua cultural context russell brand is from the uk he spends most of his time in america there's a few interviews from australia and everywhere else in the world as well the western world the white world the world where sexuality has been liberated to a point where you can speak of sex without it appearing as a social taboo up india vertical cross the principles remain directly applicable but after cultural context cultural soil subjects the way russell brand sexualizes the conversation you probably cannot do in india my experience is that if
you're trying to flirt you have to be subtle with whatever sexual hints or romantic hints you throw too large and too big becomes a problem um you have to understand particularly because this is a video that's going to be talking about how men flirt with women women in our country are very afraid of making wrong sexual choices ache and therefore sexualizing immediately and too strong can be a problem so you have to sort of learn how to subtly do it the good news is that that sort of goes along with your attitude you most likely
are also shy of sexualizing a conversation so you can take baby steps in that direction the second thing with russell brand is personal courage and what i mean by that is you can be very calm subtle receptive and still flirt however the principles we'll see in action from russell band apply one is to one no matter where you are no matter what you're doing these these are the [ __ ] secrets of flirting guys the other thing i want you to understand before we go into this video is that the list of rules that we're
going to talk about will affect you or is intended to affect you on two levels the first level is the mindset level and what that means is up mindset when you're going about trying to meet people in a romantic sexual setting and the second thing is techniques which is up individually casey would technique supply custody so we'll talk about both these things this is it so without further beautiful ado let us begin our discussion rule number one do not be afraid to show yourself i'll show you a few clips and you'll notice how russell brand
in very public settings interviews pay where there is more than one host involved upset of on looking people are around him and then the world is watching him is not even remotely afraid of showing himself and this is a problem most men do when they're trying to well quote an attractive female in a group in a public setting in a college school outside your workplace in a bar in a club is that afraid they don't even appear they don't even let themselves be the center of attention in any way at all and if you're not
going to be the center of attention in at least one or two instances how are you going to get noticed let's see how russell brand does that and then you have to sort of get this level in your head on jaba when you're trying to code somebody you have to be visible let's see it come deal i know i'm told this i'm not very pop cultured i'm sorry comedian movie star author and host of the show brand x russell brand this summer he's embarking on his first ever worldwide comedy tour the messiah complex katy kay
and brian schachtman are here as well and he already told brian that he might want to disrobe i'm just ignoring i just thought maybe i could loosen up a little show a little more chest hair and he said maybe i only think russell can do that you look fantastic that is a very kind compliment you also look beautiful brian you are free to wear whatever you want this is one of your freedoms that is afforded to you i appreciate that you look very attractive evo he's again being thrown in the center of attention handles it
very calmly he's like thank you also you are very beautiful also by the way dude wear whatever you want he is so comfortable oh my god sentimental to disrespect your program okay no no no no i didn't and then he's sensible enough to be like comfortable um you cannot throw [ __ ] at me he's not doing this consciously by the way but this is what gets communicated i'm comfortable with this and so i'll respect you like fellow english women and we do oblige talked about kinky boots recently yes fantastic show you have to go
okay roswell ooh about that he's just last respected the table um it's like your desk is a puzzle it is i'm sorry about that what is the solution i think we we could try and put it back in be careful attention he makes a mistake live on tv in front of a whole set with three hosts on there three of these hosts all three of them eventually turn out to make slightly weird remarks we'll see in the course of the video you can always check these videos out in the description as well but notice how
he when he even makes a mistake he just plays along he's like oh your table looks like a jenga oh what is the solution he smiles he's so comfortable making a mistake being the center of the attention and because he is so comfortable doing that and that problem needs to be solved the host gets up and tries to solve that problem this is something most people do not understand about interactions is that there is no fixed rules it is the way people behave compensate tabitha you have these toxic relationships where there is quote unquote [
__ ] and then the other person is this toxic giver just go sarah time denis had to feel validated so on and so forth right people behave in the way the other person moves and he's just so comfortable making a mistake somebody else is trying to fix it for him that is what i mean by the idea that do not be afraid to be the center of attention well brand can do it in an amplified way all you've got to do is when you're in social settings say your piece be yourself say the things crack
the jokes do the [ __ ] that you're supposed to do that's it if you are called upon to be the center of attention do not hide if you're going to hide nobody's going to notice and if you're if you're going to get unnoticed dude how are you going to get where you want to get how are you going to get the attention of the other person now very natural you need to get her attention you don't need to have it forever just need to get her attention she needs to know that you exist it's
as simple as that that's rule one rule number two is taking the lead and you'll find rule number one and two are kind of related but taking the lead is slightly different than just having attention if attention's thrown at you you handle it taking the lead is kind of an assertion activity on some level a group may to stand out and appear valuable you have to take a lead and then others have to kind of follow it and how do you do that longer discussion we will also address some parts of it within this discussion
also massively available on art of conversation i'm not i don't want to plug it too often you get the idea but notice how within the context of russell brand social interaction has russell does this whole different level you don't have to do it at that level at all you could just be as simple as to college my hangout the girl that's as simple as that so the first step is be noticed the second step is take people somewhere make people do something be alive and attentive in a way where people are alive and attentive to
you that's as simple as that it's a establishing personality getting happy personality strength established oh let's watch you know it's it's funny though because i i travel a lot and these people are at work [Music] look how the conversation suddenly gone somewhere entirely else now he's talking about bloody pornography and facebooking about the employees who work in an office he doesn't even belong in that is the level of lead he has on people because orbeez right how he does that we come back to it but you get the point watching my website i don't know
the conversation is completely moved away from the last guy's question now we are talking about something entirely different i don't know but they're allowed to look at if they wanted to they can tweet they can facebook yeah they have to that's part of it they're probably tweeting right now they're tweeting themselves senseless back there yeah lovely that's to create the atmosphere if we're a hotbed of your working newsletter yeah they're actually actors they're very fully qualified how much they're playing with this joke just because he led them somewhere and he added fun to it look
at how much they're playing with him that communicates strength of personality that's what that is about now in this segment you'll see russell level they offer him the lead they're like hey so do you want to throw the segment out for us and look at how well he assumes that lead just watch how well he assumes that lead well that you might be able to throw to our international news segment would you be okay today yes i'm precisely the right person to throw to an international news segment thank you carrie it's time to see what's
making the news now around the globe with a quick peek at an international news package take it away he takes the lead and then take it away that is all the residual point is as far as taking the lead is concerned what that is about is moving the conversation from one place to another moving the group of people you individually from one place to another it is just going forward in time and you taking the lead for it and escape purpose is to communicate strength of personality for men particularly and in those moments and in
the moments where there is no leader you becoming the leader you taking the conversation the interaction forward is seen as strength of personality those are the first two rules now let's look at rule number three rule number three is about setting up personality in fact rule number three and rule number four are about setting a personality and there are two broad components to setting up personality right as far as flirting is concerned the first thing you need to communicate is your personality is romantic or sexual see the point is romantic sexual is more than that
there is playfulness involved there is humor involved there is comfort involved there's all these other things involved and unless you mention the sexual and romantic parts of you unless you communicate the sexual and romantic parts of you nobody is ever going to know then you blame the girl and you're like hamilton you never let her know how do you expect that to be the case of course there is there is malevolent women and there are stupid men and there is all varieties of people there's no to doubt but this is the most common reason why
people have a misunderstanding between a blossoming friendship the guy suddenly is like i like you and the girls like i never saw that and the guys like you are a bad person for never seeing it and that's the end of it so rule number three is about setting up your personality in a romantic and sexual way and we'll see that with russell again what you have to remember is russell does that on an extremely sexual level and he can do that because of his cultural context and personal courage in india you want to tone it
down and in india this is my tip you know the way i set it up at this age in my life is i use very often the metaphor of arranged marriages already a context preset card we understand deep like metaphors around that so it becomes extremely easy in a romantic sexual context to sort of communicate your vibe without doing too much using this metaphor for whatever reason you can go in a lot more sexual or a lot more romantic but it is always best to baby step it because up initially you are learning your chops
you're trying to make this a memory a muscle memory of your own don't go too hard you might creep her out you might wear yourself out you might get scared don't do that baby step your way through but set up your personality by mentioning sex by mentioning romance in fact one of the most interesting things i ever heard about hookup culture lalala sex hooks whatever is dan bilzeran talking about how he gets so many women in whatever way he gets women and i'm not using him as an ideal but as an example and he said
keep pass or feminism is it is roughly the same thing so all in all what you've got to manage to do is somehow communicate that you're a sexual being and you're interested in a romantic relationship early on and not just in a one is to one communication but overall as a personality thing now let's watch a few examples from russell brand because for me all things must come from a center of truth whether you're doing this interview here on the project or doing stand-up comedy or making love to a fine looking woman in hope of
a second child see he's talking about something so serious pure personality communication like you see the flirting [ __ ] directly happy because he's just talking about his [ __ ] and suddenly he has an idea where he throws in something sexual now the people watching it the reason why russell brand became a sex symbol why there is a shagger of the year award in the uk named after russell brand is exactly because of this because his personality is oozing sexuality that's it he made something that was about something entirely different something extremely serious about
sex in a second and a half that's all that's all it takes to communicate that you're a sexual creature it's a joke pointed at no one in particular that involves sex or romance in you that is true from the place that in you is real in some it's from some ideologies you would call it god or allah or vishnu or whatever but for me is that essence behind your personal identity we are connected to greatness all of us feel it in silence the quiet voice of wonder present in us all you can use that in
comedy you can use it anyway even great athletes use it who's that see how he got back to being serious immediately right after personality show curry seriously as well as i'm sexual and then he just went on talking about what he was talking about you were knee-deep in hollywood a few years ago you had you know see matlab up because a already existing frame of sexuality established hair the guy is just asking him bro to hollywood me you were like so involved you were so needy but he's like not knee deep and people already know
that they have to laugh about the sexual joke hidden there they don't think of it as anything else they don't think you go mystery it's a sexual joke that's as clear as that like though he has effectively set up his personality to be a sexually alive creature now if he goes and talks to somebody and sort of helps them out if sort of plays around with them jokes around with them the likelihood of that person to think that he's flirting is a lot more than than to think he is sort of it's as simple as
that watch [Applause] you're in hollywood when you stop at the knee you've misread the instructions go the full rest of the length or whatever whatever again you have to understand that india is a very varied cultural context right horizontally we're very very different people in all parts the cultural context changes rapidly hum log homogeneous i can imagine some places in bombay and delhi where cracking a joke something similar to this might be all right but i can also imagine places where you just cannot say something like this and so for that what you have to
make sure is that your personality specific purpose literature biologically speaking what was the word on a biological level humor is a signal of it quick thinking being quick on your feet accessible on another level the purpose of humor is to allow people to feel that they can take his other stuff in a humorous way too sympathetically interpreted and again humor muscle memory you have to continuously act it out to get there but the point is humor is also a part of setting up your personality because what humor lets you do is allow people to understand
that you do not have to take my stuff in a non-healthy way it's all healthy fun and games that's about it right so we look at a few examples where russell uses this and try and understand how humor can be used to diffuse situations and at the same time signal to people that you can take the rest of my stuff in a healthy way as well come let's watch i don't like that bit although i like your one in your parliament they've got swivel chairs like that's amazing no you're out of order mate it's so
so informal a swivel chair you would not get that in my parliament in england or older like it's more grown up you're part of people like hey [ __ ] here this is my language sorry australia see he almost said something he was not supposed to say on tv but it's cyclical circuitous arguments and so i want to i'm discovering something new and profound and i'm just learning how to communicate it so as i don't embarrass anybody or anyone your fans your fans are very dedicated what's it they better be and so the people in
my coffee shops they're unreliable what do you mean you took too many drugs to bake a cake i'm sorry boss okay the cake's full of drugs put ten percent on any drug-filled cake halloween's not cheap what's wrong with these kids is there any is there any backlash when you when you take a break see that's what i meant and that's what happens when you set up your personality for humor setting up your personality for romance and sex communicates intent and we'll talk about how you establish intent further along but setting up your personality for humor
allows you to buy insurance against your own mistakes against your own slips of mouth slips of tongue against your own embarrassments and that is the brilliant part so up until now let's go over the singular rules to get an understanding of whether we have what we want the first step is do not be afraid of being seen second is take the lead the third is set up your personality for romance and sexuality the fourth is set up your personality for humor now you are kind of ready now we can begin taking this to a more
interpersonal level as far as the pro changeable ideas go home rule number six same interviews beautiful techniques on how he takes himself now let's talk about rule seven you can test that hypothesis with almost any woman you know or you know seven through line establishes [Music] if you have a hard time putting your thoughts into words if you think i do that well enough well again go check out the art of conversation i've created a proper structure for you to figure out how to communicate yourself properly i think you'd like that
