I'm Dr Orion terban and this is psyx Better Living Through psychology and the topic of today's short talk is a PhD in men ladies this is an episode for you if you are single and you don't want to be it is time to go back to school now I don't mean enrolling in a graduate program in most cases that's actually not a very good idea what I mean is that you might have to invest some time energy and money into learning about men like how they operate and what makes them tick now you might hear
that and think Orion why should I have to do this like do men make an effort to learn about women and I would say yeah yeah they do obviously not all men but I guarantee you there is a non insignificant portion of the male population who hold a PhD in women there are men who have made it their second job to try and figure out what women want how they operate and what makes them tick and they do this not out of the goodness of their heart but out of a self-interested motivation namely the desire
to get more of what they want from women one class of men who do this who make it their vocation to study and understand women are known as pickup artists now that term by itself already grosses some women out like some women really don't like the idea of these men but what is pickup Artistry fundamentally it is applied behavioral psychology men go out and over hundreds or thousands of iterations allow outcomes to teach them what words what tones what actions what behaviors work in order to increase the likelihood that women will be interested in sleeping
with them and that ultimately is what tends to creep women out the idea that these men are manipulating women into having sex and that's probably true at least to some extent like some manipulation is definitely taking place but what's the alternative women aren't handing out sex on the street corner and female desire is much more reactive than male desire reactive in the sense that it responds to stimulation a woman might feel spontaneous sexual attraction for say Henry caval but if you're an average guy probably not so if you're an average guy and you want to
have sex you have to kind of go out and make it happen and you do this successfully by learning what stimuli women actually respond to not what you think they should respond to not what you want them to respond to but what they actually respond to and this takes practice these guys take courses spend thousands of dollars on coaching change their appearance and suffer an incredible amount of rejection they read books and listen to podcasts and watch YouTube videos they make it their job to learn how to get what they want from women and on
some level regardless of how you feel about pickup artists you got to kind of respect that like they definitely put in the time and that's the other reason why women generally don't like pickup Artistry it works obviously not all the time but game absolutely makes it much more likely that you will get laid as a man if these things didn't work I don't think that women would be so upset they don't like the idea that men can learn to do things that will increase the chances that women will sleep with them because it kind of
makes them feel like suckers for falling for their tricks but on some level that's fair like if you put in the time energy and expense then you should see some positive results and women might bulk well why can't men put in the time energy and expense into giving us commitment and being loyal and I would respond because that's what you want that's not what men want if men are going to go through the trouble and expense they're going to do so to get what they want make sense if you appreciate apprciate the insights on this
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are in the description now let's look at it from the other side I don't know a single woman who has gotten a PhD in men indeed the idea that women might have to learn some skills and acquire some knowledge and change their behavior in order to get what they want from men is ludicrous if not offensive to the majority of Western women and to be fair women probably don't have to earn a PhD in men mostly because men are far less complicated than women are men are often oversimplified like it actually takes more than sex
and a sandwich to win us over but they are far far simpler than women so women wouldn't need to devote several years of study to understand men but you know they could get a certificate in men like an associates degree in men that's that's reasonable like some period of dedicated study would probably be helpful even if it's significantly shorter than men's equivalent course and why is this study required because just like the pickup artists women can learn what words what tones what actions what behaviors work in order to increase the likelihood that men will be
interested in giving them what they want and just like pickup Artistry this will generally require at least some degree of manipulation but what's the alternative men at least the men that women wanted from aren't handing out commitment on the street corner a man might feel spontaneous desire to commit to a fabulously beautiful woman but if you're an average woman probably not so if you're an average woman and you want to get commitment you have to kind of go out and make it happen and you do this successfully by learning what stimuli Men actually respond to
not what you think they should respond to not what you want them to respond to but what they actually respond to and unpopular truth if you aren't willing to put in the effort to learn those things then why should men give you what you want that would be like a guy who won't make an effort to be attract rative to women just expecting that he should get sex from them I mean that feels really creepy and entitled right ladies well from our perspective it also feels kind of creepy and entitled when you insist that you
shouldn't have to make an effort to be attractive to men in order to get commitment from them just like men some of you might need to invest some time energy and money into learning how to get what you want and if you do your success will be Fair like if you put in the effort then you should see some positive results because in the absence of this training in the absence of evidence or outcomes or strategy or system what are you left with a bunch of cliches that aren't true if it's meant to be then
it will be as if you can just sit tight and wait for your meat cute if he loved me he would try harder as if his level of effort has nothing to do with you a real man knows the value of a woman and will treat her like a princess and put a ring on it like all those things have to do with men where do you factor into getting what you want wake up it is your responsibility to get what you want it is not men's responsibility to give you what you want you are
not entitled to a goddamn thing no one is most men are not walking around thinking wow I sure hope I can find a woman today to protect and provision it's extremely rare for a man to like spontaneously desire to offer a woman a lifelong commitment it's inside of most men but you have to kind of Bring It Out Of Us by the same token most women aren't walking around thinking wow I sure hope I get absolutely ravished in a nasty disrespectful way today it's pretty rare for a woman to like spontaneously offer that super freaky
milk to a man it's inside most of you but we kind of have to bring it out of you and those who learn how to do those things tend to get what they want so if you're a woman and you're single and you don't want to be then it might be time to do something that you haven't done before pick up a book take a class get some coaching put your pride aside and go out and get what you want I know you can do it what do you think does this fit with your own
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