oh my God you will not believe what Riyadh did this weekend what did you do this weekend stop whether you want to build it and whether she needs to know that you spent the entire weekend binge watching friends again nothing much here I'ma get back to work hello you wonderful humans I'm Aditi or am I Mimi my real name is and this entire time I have been lying to you just kidding or maybe not but this highlights an important point that despite the fact that I am a content creator and I create content publicly there
is very little that you actually know about me and the reason for that is super intentional privacy is extremely important to my mental well-being and in this video we are going to talk about why it's probably a good idea for you to become a more private person as well when you tell people everything about your business it creates a lot of space for negativity judgment and a lot of unwanted opinions and it also gives the impression that you don't have good enough boundaries and that people can walk all over you I have always been a
private person I absolutely don't like unsolicited advice from anyone ever kind of ironic given the fact that I give a lot of unsolicited advice on the internet but a few times in life I have made the mistake of telling everyone around me everything about everything that is going on in my life my work my relationships my family problems and the results were not very fun once this flatmate of mine that I had opened up to quite a bit ganged up with my other flatmates and then all of them bullied me into leaving my flat because
of the information that I had shared with her that she used against me not a fun experience see how I told you that story without revealing the names of anyone involved or giving you any details about my personal life that tells you that being private does not mean that you have to be anti-social or that you have to be rude it just means that you tell people only what they need to know and not everyone in your life needs to know everything about every aspect of your life like you're acquaintances or your flatmates probably don't
need to know about your family drama or your relationship problems similarly your colleagues don't need to know about the fight that you had with your boyfriend or what your best friend said about your other best friend whenever you're confused about sharing information ask yourself these two questions is it benefiting the person who is listening to them or is it just giving them material for gossip and second is it benefiting me in any way if I share this information or am I just doing this to seek validation because I feel that in most cases when we
over share or when we are giving out a lot of information that the other person probably doesn't need to hear and that we probably don't need to share it is a means of seeking validation when we gossip about somebody or when we say this person did that or even influences on social media when they share very nitty-gritty tiny details about their entire existence it's a means of validating that hey what I'm thinking is right and if you think it's right then yeah I feel good but once you get validation from over sharing you continue to
overshare to continue to get that validation and that doesn't always happen because nobody on the planet is going to agree with what you say a hundred percent of the times you know I was traveling to the UK and I did post quite a few stories Etc about that place but I was in this one place called Inverness for two days and I don't think I posted a single story about it it was the most beautiful place on my entire trip and I had an absolutely lovely time there cooking meals having wine all of that but
when I was in the moment I did not feel like sharing stuff on the internet I did tell my friends about it I tell my close friends about it I did tell my family about it and that was that I didn't need to post online to validate my experience of having visited the place and see how I'm telling you right now and I'm not sharing anything on screen because I don't need to you don't have to tell everyone about everything for it to be a valid experience I recently came across this very very toxic subreddit
where about 70 000 people in that group come together and discuss and gossip about Instagram celebrities or people who are famous on Instagram and oh my God the toxicity on that place and I cannot imagine that if any of these influencers were being talked about are aware of this group and are looking at that group that reading all of that information can actually be good for their Mental Health it is so important to realize that not everybody wants to see you win and while most people in life are not bad people or don't have bad
intentions there are plenty of people who are jealous who are insecure who are competitive and that is why even if they are not consciously trying to sabotage your growth or your journey or your relationship if that is what you put online they might be doing that unintentionally or subconsciously and if you do happen to come across their comments if you do happen to interact with them what they think how they judge the situation can massively impact how you think about it their words their actions their opinions can influence your judgment and that can completely change
the course of your decision making I remember when I was wanting to start YouTube I really spoke to this person who was extremely close to me and I told them that I wanted to create videos and I think this is a good career option and they were so extremely critical of this uh they told me that this is not good it's probably not going to be a success it is a waste of time waste of money waste of effort blah blah blah and that's how that conversation went and as a result I gave up on
that dream all together for five six years as a result of which I'm starting YouTube now but the mental thing aside it is also quite dangerous and this is in context to sharing information publicly on social media for your physical self there are so many new stories about how stalkers exes found out information about people because of the stories that they posted online and that is extremely scary I no longer do that I no longer update my stuff in real time so if I do have to share a story if I do have to post
something uh it will be once I am completely safe in the sanctity of my own home or I am at a place which I'm not revealing to the public and then I upload that event story or that lunch custodial that Branch custodian uh that ways I know that I'm safe and I'm not giving away information very very publicly but it also helps me to be in the moment while I'm there instead of constantly being on social media so that's also a great point if you are somebody who really updates every single aspect of their life
online please consider your safety and your well-being before you do so but with all of that being said it is important to remember that keeping things private does not mean that you can't share them with anyone or that you can't seek advice if you're going through a problem in life firstly different people in your life are fit for different kinds of information right I wouldn't necessarily talk about my dreams and my goals with uh extended members of my family but I would share that with my partner similarly I wouldn't talk about my relationship online or
publicly where everybody's opinion can influence my judgment about it but I will talk to my close friends my close family about it and seek their advice and their opinions now with all of that information in mind here are four things that I think everyone should consider keeping private number one is your relationships yes we live in the age of social media but a relationship is between two people and the moment that it gets too public like you share it with other people you are now at the risk of being influenced by I the opinions judgment
words actions of those people as well so it's no longer this dynamic between two people it's between you two and everybody else as well number two is your dreams and goals when you tell other people about your dreams and goals especially if you haven't taken action on them people can be extremely opinionated about it they can be coming from their own experience perspective Etc and if you are even the slightest bit unsure about anything their opinions their judgments their perspective in life can so heavily influence yours and it might confuse you it might derail you
from the path altogether we do absolutely make it a point to tell after you've achieved that goal or after you fulfilled that dream and that's a lot more rewarding as well number three is other people's secrets and I am so amazed that this needs to be told because of the gossip culture that we live in but if somebody has told you something in confidence you should keep it if you are telling other people about it gossiping to other people about it that raises a red flag in you because it tells me that one you can't
keep a secret two you've broken that person's trust and three you are now choosing who else can have power over them especially if it's an important secret and for your own Mental Health doesn't mean that you shouldn't talk to a therapist or close friends or people who understand you it just means that it does not need to be a topic of public discussion because when you are mentally going through something whether it's depression anxiety or if it's some other mental health disorder you're already dealing with so much stuff why do you want to include the
added pressure of telling other people and then have to listen to their opinions their judgments throughout that process keep it private till you know that you can handle the repercussions of making it public remember my friends that privacy is power and people cannot ruin what they don't know about it well then I'm gonna go do stuff in my private life and I will see you for the next video bye
