courage is the willingness to do something despite the fear pain and difficulty involved in the doing of it Courage is something that each and every one of us will have to have at specific times in our life experience and some people struggle with this more than others in today's episode I'm going to outline 11 powerful tips which will help you to be [Music] courageous one people often erroneously think that courage is some kind of personal quality that they have to do something to get or that they have to develop somehow or that it's just something
that some people are born with and other people are not but the reality is courage really boils down to a willingness it is the willingness to face and lean into pain and fear it's a choosing of discomfort and sometimes pain for the sake of what matters to you to the degree that a person has committed to security Comfort feeling good and ease they will lack courage for this reason courage is a choice it is a choice to feel fear and pain and difficulty for the sake of what is important to you and that is a
choice that nobody can make for you the difference between a courageous person and someone who lacks courage is that the courageous person faces challenges headon is willing to experience pain and moves forward with their fear and the person who lacks courage spends their time in life avoiding pain fear and challenging es two one of the biggest misconceptions about courage is that people who are courageous don't feel fear or pain in a situation where most people would because of this misconception people who lack courage spend a great deal of time looking for some way to make
it so that they aren't afraid anymore or looking for some way to make a thing not painful so they can do it and this approach will never ever work it's a complete dead end because to do something that holds no fear and no pain requires absolutely no courage people who are courageous often feel incredible fear and also incredible pain but they choose to tolerate that fear and pain in order to face something or to take action the correct approach is not to bulldo through fear and pain nor is it to let your fear and pain
mean that you shouldn't do something so what is it it's to recognize work with and caretake your own fear and pain while taking action towards what matters to you even though the fear and pain is there three fear and pain are not bad they do not feel good but they are not bad both serve a purpose both are information very important information in fact when we feel pain or fear we often interpret that as a message to stop and not do something but guess what stop and don't do something is only one tiny sliver of
what fear or pain could potenti potentially mean otherwise no one would ever leave a relationship that isn't good for them or become physically fit or go through a pregnancy which is painful right all of those things nobody would ever take a risk to get what they want or to be authentic or honest or to make a change to their life that brings them into the unknown which is terrifying and no one would ever achieve something which is often both terrifying and painful to Have Courage we need to be in a much more Dynamic and positive
relationship with emo and Sensations that do not feel good this implies seeing the positive value in fear and in pain embracing and caretaking your vulnerability rather than bulldozing it or allowing it to stop you from doing what matters and being willing to experience them and hear the information including the why it is there carried within them for this reason it would benefit you to do the emotional experiencing process you can learn how to do this process in my video that is quite literally titled how to do the emotional experiencing process four find your good enough
why courage arises when you find a good enough reason to be courageous in the situation you are in look for the reason that is compelling enough that it makes you willing to lean into fear and pain and remember that reason it will act like a North star even when things get really really hard five when we're in a situation we're facing something or doing something evokes fear or pain we tend to imagine potential negative scenarios that that could come as a result of facing that thing or of doing that thing what we don't do is
to directly look at the potential consequences of not facing that thing or not doing that thing it's a massive mistake to think that avoidance even though it may feel comfortable in the immediate moment does not come with consequences every single thing we decide every single thing we do and don't do comes with contrast and therefore consequences so something that can really help with consequences is to deliberately play out the worst thing that could happen if you don't lean into fear or the pain in the specific scenario that you are in that is requiring you to
be courageous to help you more with this point you can watch two of my videos the first being why you should consciously choose consequences and the second being the biggest lie that the spiritual SL self-help industry sells you six become aware of and lean on your strengths when we are experiencing fear or pain we don't feel very strong as a result we're more acutely aware of our weaknesses and our shortcomings it is tempting to feel underneath the situation we're facing because of this confidence which greatly helps us to be able to lean into fear and
pain can be drawn upon by being aware of what you are good at knowing what your strengths accomplishments aptitudes gifts talents and skills are we can lean on those strengths as powerful resources when we lean into a situation where we we need courage seven remember the person you want to be the one you can live with and the one you can feel good about the price of not being courageous is low self-esteem and that is a price that is simply not worth it in whatever situation you find yourself in really consider what the best version
of yourself or perhaps your ideal future self would want you to do now in order to become them when we become aware of what decision or action we would have to make and take in order to be able to live with our elves feel good about ourselves live up to our potential and be the person we want to be it actually gets easier to be willing to lean into fear and pain and do the courageous thing do what you need to do to embody the person that you want to look at in the mirror every
day eight like anything the more we do something the more we Master it the more accustomed we become to it and also the more familiar that it becomes many people like to compare courage to a muscle that can be built for this reason courage is not something that has to be built up though because any person can decide in a situation to lean into fear and pain right this is obvious when people find themselves in very extreme situations and it doesn't matter if they've developed courage they have to lean into what's difficult that being said
you can train yourself into being a person who is good at doing so in general the way you can do this is by deliberately practicing choosing to do things that are out of your comfort zone this means make choices throughout your day-to-day life that that make you uncomfortable for the sake of what you want or what's important you can start with little things and make yourself work up to the bigger things little things like going up and talking to someone or making yourself try a new activity and graduate from there to things that require courage
where the stakes are bigger you're going to be surprised how much of your time was spent trying to stay comfortable when you do this you can develop the habit of Courage which will turn into a virtue by being courageous again and again when faced with the choice to do so or to not do so nine don't be conditional about courage according to the results you get embrace the potential for failure and use failure constructively when it happens and I mean when not if just because you're courageous does not mean you will get the results or
the outcome you want true success is so much about how you handle things going terribly to succeed you need to not be conditional about the courageous things you do so many people on this Earth are conditional I mean wildly conditional when it comes to things this includes being courageous they decide that the courageous things they did and even being courageous in general isn't worth it if they don't get the outcome they want if they fail rather than succeed this is a recipe to try out being courageous only to give it up when it doesn't go
perfectly to plan which believe me it's not going to it's a recipe for a life that isn't truly lived again this conditionality implies an unwillingness to experience pain pain only this time the pains that come with failure one of the fears and pains you will have to lean into when you are going towards what is important to you is failure failure is painful but it's also an opportunity I know that sounds so obnoxious but it is it's an opportunity to grow to learn something new to re-evaluate to try a new approach and to change it's
a key part of expansion and Improvement no matter how much it sucks 10 think about your life within the context of death courage is harder when we forget that life is temporary it's all too easy to get sucked into our day-to-day experience and forget that we don't live forever that our time here is limited and that to truly live we need to make the very most of our time here all that's going to happen if you live your life for comfort and safety is that you will arrive at death safely and most likely with a
lot of regret about the risks that you didn't take a great way to have a willingness to lean into what scares you is to think about how you might feel on your deathbed about what decisions you should make and what you should do if you were to look back on the situation that you are in right now doing this tends to reveal what is truly important and what really matters and when we live according to values in that deep of a way we feel the ability to take on fear pain and difficulty if you aren't
courageous today you are going to one day find that you have run out of tomorrow's 11 spend time with courageous people and with people who support you to be courageous courageous behavior is absolutely infectious if you are surrounded by people who don't take risks and who are ruled by their avoidance of fear and pain you are going to adopt that way of being and your well-being is going to suffer because of it and you're going to squander your life there is a difference between being smart by evaluating risks and being avoidant of risk in general
when you put yourself around courageous people and keep them as company you will feel a greater willingness to make a decision for what matters even if that means having to be courageous and take a risk the feeling of being around people who are courageous and watching their life will make you feel like you are not really living by comparison and this will inspire you to choose discomfort for the sake of what matters more to you than feeling comfortable courage is a crucial aspect of success it broadens your experiences it gives you the power to live
life according to what's most important to you and courage reveals what you are capable of by doing so it grows your self-esteem the people who live the very most fulfilling lives choose courage and they choose it again and again and again have a good week [Music]
