what's the best decision I've ever made and how has it help me are you talking about quit paying attention to external influences yes what led you to to start looking internally instead of externally so I have a subscription account on patreon that's they have been here since the beginning they're top supporters and so I give them an opportunity to ask every guest possible question mhm and so here is a question from Stephen Casey what is the best decision that you've ever made and how has that helped you that's the first question yeah that's a that's
a deep one wow what's the best decision I've ever made and how do it help me stop caring so much much that's probably been the best decision stop caring so much about the outside and care more about care more so about what's on the inside meaning what's going on in my life observing that how I'm feeling emotionally the the the issues that I've had acknowledging that taking care of that even if you're not I wasn't taking care of it you know when I first started to acknowledge it it was are you are you talking about
quit paying attention to external influences yes yes man that's crazy I was just on a podcast yesterday and that's I said the exact same thing really that's crazy hey man I was remote viewing and I heard you say that that's what happened but that's that's like the best thing or best advice that I've taken from myself was so yeah stop caring so much about the external forces and and things that are out of my control I can't control what other people think what they believe what they you know want to believe about me or anything
I can't control that only thing I can control is is is myself so not worrying so much about the outside you know just more so about taking care of me like when we die we're all going to go in that casket by ourselves you know and I think that that is my biggest takeaway knowing that at the end of the day it's just going to be me anyways so I I shouldn't have to care about the outside forces and and other things that I can't control you know I have to stand before the judge by
myself at at the end so yeah you know that's uh man that's great I'm glad you said that what led you to to start looking internally instead of externally and and how did that I mean affect your daily life maybe your business life any anything I would say the birth of my son so long story I've always wanted a family like a kid I wanted two originally I still want two just the way things are I don't have control over that but I knew before I turned 30 I said before I turned 30 my 30th
birthday I want to have my first child fast forward my 30th birthday on the date my son pops out being there and and witnessing that seeing that and the the the struggle that he had to go through he was born with like a weird heart condition this you know it's healed up thankfully now but it was uh it was hard to to watch and not have to feel so much power of wanting to D I'm going to already choke up dude but yeah having no control of that circumstance and realizing like I guess what how
important life really is you know it all came in that moment and that's when the switch went on of you know like nothing nothing really matters and I wanted to be there for him in the long run so that's when the the switch definitely changed was yeah I wanted to stick around for him how did it how did it uh affect your life oh man drastically I I I I was too caught up [Music] in outside circumstances outside forces that I had no control over I was too caught up in the outside world and having
having that Center Point that Center focus being my son and like everything I guess one away if you want to yeah all the the issues that I had not issues but my perspective of what was important in life changed and what was important for me would be able to to raise my son and and be there for him so it definitely helped out as far as ignoring what everybody else thought I wanted my son to think you know my dad is the you know coolest I can go to my dad at any time no matter
what I'm going to be you know I'm I'm always going to be his dad I don't I can't always be what some guy on the Internet or some family member wants me to be I can't be that I can't be all those things at once but what I can be is better for my son so yeah man thanks for sharing that I appreciate it but um before we get in man we we already starting to get deep here but uh but before we get into your life story and that's what I want to do we're
going to start the childhood go into your military career go into your transition civilian career businesses that you run and uh but before we do that everybody gets a gift what do we got man everybody gets a gift we just talked about this that we we did the gummies man we did now those are made in the USA and uh are legal in all 50 states they are legal yeah fortunately or unfortunately I don't know I can make it work man I can make it work dude my wife used to send me pounds of these
overseas pounds I ate in one sitting a full pound of gummy bears and by the time it came out I had one large Gummy Bear in the toilet no matter where you're watching Shan Ryan Show from if you get anything out of this please like comment subscribe and most importantly share this everywhere you possibly can and if you're feeling extra generous please leave us review on Apple and Spotify podcasts
