"Alpha male" comes from ethology. The first time this term ever appeared was in a book called "Chimpanzee Politics," which was written by a Dutch primatologist whose name is Frans de Waal. His book became increasingly recommended for reading in business-oriented universities, where, for instance, professors would encourage their students to read this book in order to gain a better understanding of the social dynamics that exist in the world of business and companies.
The word "Alpha" began to appear more frequently within the general population, where it has been completely overused and often misunderstood. So, what's an "Alpha male"? Well, it's not complicated.
There's a group, a social hierarchy, and at the top of that hierarchy, there is only one Alpha. In order to become the Alpha male, either you're aggressive or intimidating, demonstrating to the group that you're strong, simply crushing your adversaries. Alternatively, and both can be complementary, you can display social intelligence in a political sense by becoming friends with the right individuals and keeping them happy.
And that's a sentence from Frans de Waal that I like a lot, which you can find on YouTube. He explains, I quote: "The smallest male of the group can become the Alpha as long as he has the right friends and can make them happy. " You don't necessarily have to use force to attain the highest social rank among the chimpanzees.
I find it very interesting because that's where we understand that the term "Alpha male" is originally something political. Hence why the title of the book is "Chimpanzee Politics. " The Alpha male, if he holds such a rank, does so because he serves a purpose within the group.
He has responsibilities toward other members of the group, and the main one is to keep the group safe. It is he who protects each member of the group from external conflicts and enemies, even if he has to die for it. The Alpha male will sacrifice himself for others if he has to.
He surely protects the members from external dangers, but also from internal ones. It is he who maintains peace, deals with internal fights, looks to appease conflicts, and maintains unity within the group. He is even going to give solace to some members after a clash or a fight, and what I find really incredible, as Frans de Waal explained, is that the more an Alpha male behaves as a comforter to other members, the more they'll appreciate him.
The more he's capable of maintaining peace within the group, the more they'll appreciate him for it. You can have Alpha males that come to power by being aggressive and violent and who maintain power through such means, but it isn't them who last longer in the long term, nor are the other members the most loyal to them. It goes even further; he explains to us in most of his conferences, which I recommend you watch on YouTube because they're fascinating, that females bring more comforting behaviors toward others than males, but that the Alpha male brings more comforting behaviors toward others than females do, regardless of their social ranks.
But beyond that, the main objective of the Alpha male is also to maintain his rank, to detect attempts from others to try to seize power, to break up enemy alliances, to befriend the right people, to make friends happy, and to distribute food among everybody. Essentially, it's real politics. And I laugh when I see men saying, "How to become an Alpha: do not care for others; especially don't give a f*ck about what they think of you," "love, blablabla, do not seek people's approval or the group's approval.
" But, in fact, there isn't anything more important for an Alpha male than to gain the group's approval. Without the love and approval of the group, the Alpha male doesn't exist; he'll get wrecked and replaced. The number one priority for the Alpha male is to content the group and protect it.
The Alpha male is at the group's service. That's his number one issue: "How do I please the group? " If Gandhi were in front of me, asking for a fight, I'd lift him off the ground, slap him on his cheeks, and he'd be out of order.
Does that make Gandhi a "Beta male"? When people think of "Alpha male," they often think of "masculine/masculinity. " They confuse "Alpha male" with "masculine/masculinity.
" Now, to be an Alpha male doesn't mean to be masculine. And to be masculine isn't a "conditio sine qua non" to be an Alpha male. Mahatma Gandhi is a thousand times more of an "Alpha male" than David Gandy, who is nothing more than a pretty man—perhaps filled with testosterone, if you will—but that does not make him an "Alpha male.
" And Gandhi isn't necessarily a "Beta male" because he's frail and as tall as 5'4" (1. 64 m). Also, the term "masculine" isn't correct; it's not rigorous.
It is not a scientific term. However, to simplify things, I'll just use the term "masculine. " To be "masculine" isn't something hard, lads.
Everybody can become more athletic, more muscular. Everybody can have a deeper voice. By doing some exercise, everybody can become more confident—even grow more facial hair, etc.
Now, in order to become an Alpha male, that isn't going to require just a few things; it's much harder than simply being masculine. The chosen ones are quite rare. Jesus, the idea that we have of Him, isn't the most masculine thing there is—He had long hair and is considered to be peaceful, a rather gentle figure—and yes, some will say: "Jesus wasn't such.
. . " "A peaceful man because he drove the Pharisees out of the temple.
" Well, yes, there is a violent scene there, but in any case, I haven't seen a lot of violent scenes in the New Testament; instead, I have seen more love scenes. Jesus, was he a "Beta male"? No, there isn't anyone more "Alpha" than Jesus.
If the "Alpha male" can exist among humans, then there isn't anybody who's more "Alpha" than Jesus Christ. So, when we say to people, "See, you're an Alpha or a Beta. .
. " people, as we saw earlier, refer to "Alpha" as meaning "masculine/masculinity," but the problem is that even if we replace the term "Alpha male" with "masculine," it still remains a term that isn't appropriate. Why?
Because this means that you're either an "Alpha male" or a "Beta male," just like animals, like the chimpanzees. Okay, that works for animals, but they are referring to "masculine/masculinity. " Now, you can't just be either "masculine" or "non-masculine.
" There aren't just two types of individuals in the world: masculine ones and pussies. You see, in this world, there are two kinds of people, my friend. We can be more or less masculine on the continuum of masculinity, if it had to be represented by a certain rate of testosterone, a rate of testosterone that varies from one extreme to the other extreme.
The concept of "Alpha male," as it is really defined in ethology when we study animals, cannot be applied to humans because, in the animal kingdom, you only belong to one group. It is much simpler. There is one group, one hierarchy.
With humans, it is much more complex; you belong to multiple groups: the group of your family, your friends, your colleagues at work, sports, politics, religion for some, and it then creates an infinite number of groups; hence, multiple hierarchies. So, the concept of "Alpha male," if it existed with humans, would have to be contextualized. You cannot just learn to be an "Alpha male" daily, normally.
You would have to be an "Alpha male" in a specific group, which means escalating a social hierarchy in that specific group only. You can be the "Alpha male" at the gym on Saturdays when you're boxing everyone's head in one round and be treated like shit by your boss on Monday mornings. So, how do you become an "Alpha"?
Again, if we suppose that it actually exists, the first question to ask yourself is: Do you want to become an "Alpha male" or be more "masculine"? Once you've decided to be an "Alpha male," you must find a group. Bring value to this group.
Instead of asking yourself, "How can I become an Alpha male? What do I have to do in order to shine and sleep with many girls? " that isn't the real question.
It is about what YOU can bring to this group! So, going to the gym is very good; it is a good thing if you want to be more muscular, but that's not how you're going to become an "Alpha male. " The "Alpha male" of your gym, in which you train every day, isn't the most muscular-looking one; it's the one who owns the gym: the boss.
Climb the social hierarchy, develop your empathy, because empathy is important in politics, eliminate any form of opposition, and become number one. If you want to go further on this matter, then I invite you to check out what Frans de Waal is doing on chimpanzees and their political structure. Fascinating.
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