have you heard of a term called neuroplasticity or it's also called brain plasticity literally brothers and sisters the brain that you and I have you and I have control over changing it in the way we want it's not an easy task but we can and you can teach your children that they are able to change their brains just give them the example of Legos you can build the Legos dismantle the Legos rebuild them in a different way change parts of it here like Legos like blocks of Legos our brain is right inside there are little
tiny channels all right neurons connect to other neurons Allah 30 billion 300 billion I don't know many billions of neurons they connect and they make highways and and Roads and they grow like these little Roots they grow and they make new Bridges and connections when you develop habits these channels grow develop other habits these channels grow you stop certain habits the channels get less other channels grow your brain gets rewired every time it's a beautiful study and Allah he tells us that in the Quran he tells us that we are responsible for what our brains
decide but the ones we're responsible for is the one right at the front of our brain not the rest of our brain does anyone know at what age the child 's brain is almost fully complete close to adulthood at what age do you think it's almost fully complete modern studies tell us about six could be seven around that age it's true that means the way the child grow up with their parents and their environment and their experiences there are those channels in the brain have already been set at 6 or seven years old after that
the brain starts develop in a different way and when you reach puberty guess what starts to develop in your brain the front part part of your brain prefrontal cortex that keeps growing until about 25 years old that's the place responsible for judgment decision- making fears and so on and so forth rationale all that making decisions through it Allah says in the Quran nay if he does not desist from his oppressive and wrong actions he talking about Abu Jah but in general to all of us the human who oppresses and does wrong we shall take him
by his for loock on the day of judgment a lying sinful for loock for loock here is the frontal cortex responsible for decisions Allah called it lying and sinful because we have control over that now what affects that our brain development now when you understand this brothers and sisters you have a bit more empathy on yourself you say to yourself Subhan Allah my upbringing was a little bit like this and like that can I change it yes inshallah you can writes in his book he mentions how habits develop good and bad habits so he used
the example of sins he says every bad habit every sinful habit begins with a thought a what a thought whisper comes and goes if you catch that thought and hold on to it it turns into an idea if you hold on to the idea and don't repel it it turns into a plan if you hold on to the plan and you don't repel it it turns into an action if you repeat the action the less you feel sensitive towards it and the more normalized it becomes then it turns into a habit and what do habits
turn into if you don't deal with them addictions now the reversal is the same way come up with a thought to counter it then get an idea plan it do an action get into the opposite habit again and again and inshallah it will go away example a young person reaches puberty and the hormones begin to ignite sexual hormones a friend at school says there are websites you can look at to satisfy your desire he goes and thinks my parents watch me everywhere they've got this then he gets he goes how am I going to do
I got a thought a thought I want to look how am I going to do I'll get an idea the idea is use some kind of software or some way ask my friends then a plan I'll choose the right time this is where I'm going to look then the action happens they didn't get caught so they remember the pleasure next time again and again and again and again then it becomes a habit then it becomes an addiction how to reverse that number one you need willpower you need to make that decision make pray two and
say oh Allah I have made the decision to work on myself assist me and help me with your support so you got to make the decision then move forward think you got the thought what's the idea reverse it well when does it normally happen it happens that night at this time through what through my device okay get rid of my VPN whatever it is that I'm using put a you know an app that stops these websites from coming up and put your phone outside in the lounge when you go to sleep and sleep the first
time it's very hard but as you go forward inshallah sometimes you need support sometimes you need to talk to a friend or somebody and you can reverse it it's not easy but you can and the rewiring in your brain changes and that's how you find the willpower afterwards one brother he said to me brother I want to pray at the Masjid every I said it's a big task he said how can I do I said start with a thought then get an idea then plan it then do it he said my thought is to pray
in the Masjid every F what's the idea he said I'm going to sleep a little bit early because my problem is that if I don't sleep early I can't wake up next I'm not going to drink coffee I'm not going to eat late my my last meal will be 8 8:00 p.m. for example whatever he did he knew himself he planned for it then he woke up first time was out second time was that now I played with his brain as well studying neuroplasticity you got to help him a bit so I said to him
I just gave him a number I just gave him any number I said it will take you 40 days maybe it's right maybe it's wrong I just said 40 days the brother after 40 days went to give a talk in Sydney and when I say after 40 days meaning like 2 months later or 3 months later I went there but it was then he comes up he says brother W it worked W he at 40 days I couldn't turn back anymore till now I'm doing it I said maybe I should have set him 20 days
maybe something like but the point is brother and sisters he reversed it and it became a habit it became easy but you can't expect everything to happen straight away it happens slowly inshallah neuroplasticity your body all reacts to it everything childhood traumas start with the parents and the way they talk to their children especially children who have something called ADHD it's a problem with attention attention disorder and what happens is that we don't understand that we don't read a lot we tend to make it worse this this child truly is born with a slight delay
at their same age they're just not as attentive as others their age no child experiences the same upbringing as the other as their sibling a brother who is the oldest does not have the same experience as the brother who is second or the youngest or the middle child or the girl it's like each one had their own family literally if you have five children you they had five different families the older child is is treated different to the youngest one the youngest one is spoiled everything is cute the older one is a bit more responsibility
that's and the middle one is usually neglected and then we come to treat each one of them with the same consequence and the same words it's very hard to parent and Allah forgives us for our shortcoming but we do need to read more about parenting and these new names so you have a child for example who is diag noosed with ADHD now before I say something one thing I tell my young brothers and sisters my dear my dear and I'm old enough to be your father for some of you my dear son my dear daughter
my dear brother my dear sister never ever ever remember this never ever self diagnose don't diagnose yourself as if you're your psychologist just because you had a bit of anxiety or a bit of depression or bit of your chest was a little bit constricted does not mean you are sick
