sex Droid hormones testosterone and estrogen of course are involved in reproductive biology but they are both vitally important provided there in the proper ratios for motivational biology and for the following reason the steroid hormones are are so-called lipophilic and they can cross from the outside of a cell through the cell membrane to actually into the nucleus of a cell and control gene expression so when we achieve winds repeatedly and again this doesn't matter if you're male or female you achieve wins it repeatedly testosterone is the molecule that eventually accesses not just cells to control their
immediate physiology but goes into the nucleus of those cells and controls their gene expression and what it translates so so does that mean okay so does that mean that demotivated men are producing less testosterone we can say that that the data show that repeated failures yeah take testosterone levels lower than they would be otherwise that is not to say that people with low testosterone will always fail those with higher testosterone but just to be clear because I don't know you are correct but just people sometimes get hitched on this causal part but indeed one of
the quickest ways to boost someone's testosterone is to have them achieve a win of some sort now the win is translated well one of the things you do one of the things you do in behavior therapy constantly is you help people calibrate the zone of proximal development so imagine that that's the godsky's term right and so if you're in the zone of proximal development you're pushing your skill development one increment forward and it's one that you can actually manage and so if you see people who are entirely stymied we're sort of back to the cup
of coffee or the coffee cup example you want to find something they can do locally this week that would constitute at least a micro wind and you just keep and if if you talk to someone you say well why don't you try cleaning up your room because it's a complete catastrophic nightmare it's a good place to start this is often the case with people who are really demoralized and whose life is utterly chaotic and maybe they come back later and say well you know like I had one client he uh he just had a child
eh and he didn't want to mess up this child but he was living at home he was like 35 years old he had a child out of wedlock by accident but he didn't want to be a useless father and he was very afraid he was going to be and he had good reason to like he still lived at home he lived in his high school bedroom and it was a complete bloody mess he was living like a 12 year old you know a bad 12 year old and so I said well when was the last
time that your carpet was vacuumed and he said well sometimes my mother does it but it's probably been months I said why don't you just bring the vacuum cleaner into the room and uh just vacuum your carpet that'll be your task for this week you know and I knew that was a bigger task than you might think because he'd been in that room for like 18 years and it was a mess and so cleaning it up at all was a big deal he told me that he dragged that Bloody vacuum cleaner into the doorway and
left it 45 degrees across the doorway and then stepped over it for the whole week without actually using my goodness yeah resistance say from that was resistance from a psychoanalytic perspective because he he saw the monster and was paralyzed and so what we did was we reduced the task I said look you've got some drawers in your in your Bureau they're probably a mess do you have a sock drawer yes it says like clean up one half of the sock drawer this week that's it just organize it so you just keep cutting the tasks down
week by week until you find the threshold for positive movement forward and then it's what's cool about that too is there's a Pareto Principle issue associated with it so if you can find out where the person can start it isn't linear progress It's exponential progress forward and so even if they have to start at a micro level it doesn't really matter because they get much better at it very very rapidly as they accrue successes maybe that's because they're learning in the way that you described okay so back to the gene regulation it increases testosterone the
winds and yeah so testosterones are associated winds do winners tend to be able to win more there's some um Etc but you know if we want to bring this into the the common world you know a few years back when I started doing some public-facing education I started getting a lot of questions especially on YouTube from young males um about porn pornography and masturbation and and this becomes very relevant here we have to remember that this dopaminergic system had is generalizable to many different behaviors right academic Pursuits uh Sports Pursuits relationship Pursuits but fundamentally it
was again I wasn't a consultant of the design phase but fundamentally it's tacked into the the Adaptive survival behaviors in every species including ours has at least two major um motivations which is uh to protect its young and to make more of itself to make more young at some level people can opt out of that but one of the the absolutely pathologic situations for any animal or human is to be able to access repeated dopamine surges without effort or any Pursuit that's self-directed and or that's directed I should say so for instance cocaine a drug
which potently increases dopamine or Methamphetamine which potently increases methamphetamine but doesn't require any sort of um adaptive action Pursuit except to acquire the drug and spend money on no sacrifice No sacrifice so what essentially what ends up happening is the circuit that gets rewarded is only the drug-seeking behavior and no other Behavior will give the kind of potent dopamine release that cocaine or Methamphetamine will which is why they are so pernicious now likewise I'm not well plus plus they have that powerful reinforcing effect right so not only do you get that kick but what's reinforced
by the dopamine release is the behaviors that were right prior particularly break prior to the ingestion and if it all that is is the drug taking Behavior that's all that develops that's right you build that monster inside your head that's right can see where you're going on the pornography