[Full Story] I Discovered My Fiancé Was Sleeping With His Coworkers & Buying Them Designer Gifts...

I discovered my fiance was sleeping with his co-workers and buying them designer gifts with stolen money now he's in jail and his mom blames me for abandoning him I 27f am posting this from a throwaway account because I am too embarrassed to use my main my regular account has all our wedding planning posts and photos and I can't even look at those right now without feeling sick I need advice because I honestly don't know if I can trust my own judgment anymore let me start from the beginning I met Peter 27m during our final year

of University through my roommate Kelly 27f Kelly was dating Peter's roommate at the time and we all hung out in the same group Peter and I clicked instantly he was funny charming and seemed so genuine we started dating a few months before graduation and moved to the same city to start our careers the first three years were amazing Peter got a job as a junior sales rep at a tech company and quickly moved up to sales manager I became a nurse at the local hospital we supported each other through the tough early years of our

careers when I had rough nights at the hospital he would wait up for me with takea when he had big presentations I helped him practice we were a team his family welcomed me like I was their own daughter his mom Sarah 55f lost her daughter to cancer 10 years ago so she was overjoyed to have me in her life we would have weekly dinners at their house and she taught me all her family recipes his dad James 57m is quieter but always treated me with respect and kindness my family loved Peter too my brother Mike

30m and Peter became Inseparable they go fishing together every month and play in the same basketball league my parents already consider him their son 2 years ago we bought our first house together it needed work but we were excited to make it our own we adopted two rescue dogs Max and Luna Peter proposed last year during a trip to the beach it was perfect he had our families hiding nearby to surprised me after I said yes we set the wedding date for this December and have been planning everything together at least that's what I thought

last Friday changed everything we went out for drinks with Peter's College friends Tom 28m and Lisa 27f Tom has known Peter since freshman year and they're still close we were having a great time until Tom mentioned someone named Rachel he was pretty drunk and started talking about the sales conference in Vegas last year he kept saying how Peter and Rachel were always together having private dinners and going to each other's rooms to practice their presentations I felt my stomach drop Peter told me nothing about Rachel when he came back from that conference he said he

mostly attended sessions alone and networked at group events when I looked at Peter his face had gone white he quickly changed the subject but the damage was done that night at home I asked him about Rachel he got defensive immediately saying Tom was drunk and making things up but his reaction told me everything while he was in the shower next morning I did something I've never done before I checked his phone my hands were shaking as I opened it what I found made me physically sick there were deleted messages with Rachel that I managed to

recover through the backup they weren't just friendly messages they had been sleeping together the entire conference week there were explicit photos messages about sneaking to each other's rooms and plans for future meetups but that wasn't even the worst part I found similar message threads with two other women Jenny from his office who he claimed was just a work friend he occasionally had lunch with they had been having an affair for over a year and Sarah from his gym who we met last summer he was seeing her during his supposed late night workout sessions when I

confronted him with the evidence he didn't even try to deny it he broke down crying saying he messed up and the other women meant nothing he claimed he only cheated because he was stressed about work and our relationship was too comfortable he begged me not to throw away 5 years over his mistakes said he would go to counseling change jobs anything to keep me but how can I ever trust him again every memory of the past 5 years feels tainted now Al the work trips late meetings and gym sessions was he with them how many

other women were there that I don't know about he was planning our wedding while sleeping with other women he let me spend months picking out venues and dresses while lying to my face I packed some clothes and went to stay with my best friend Amy 27f she's the only person who knows everything right now I haven't told my family because they adore Peter my brother still hangs out with him regularly completely unaware Peter's mom keeps calling and texting asking why I moved out temporarily she thinks we just had a small fight the wedding is in

6 months and we've already paid for most things our families have booked flights and hotels we have a house and dogs together our lives are completely intertwined do I blow everything up by telling the truth do I try to forgive him and move forward even if I wanted to try how do I walk down the AL knowing he betrayed me with multiple women how do I trust that he won't do it again part of me wants to reach out to Rachel Jenny and Sarah I want to know their side of the story did he tell

them about me were there others but another part of me is scared to learn more what if finding out more details makes it impossible to ever move past this I feel lost and broken the man I thought I knew never existed the future I planned is gone I'm 27 and have to start over after spending my entire adult life with someone who repeatedly betrayed me I haven't slept properly in days I can barely eat the thought of seeing our families and telling them everything makes me physically ill I needed objective advice am I crazy for

even considering forgiveness should I contact the other women how do I even begin to unravel our intertwined lives has anyone been through something similar and come out okay on the other side update one first I want to thank everyone who commented on my original post your support and advice helped me find the strength to dig deeper instead of Burying my head in the sand a lot has happened in the past two weeks and none of it is good after reading comments suggesting I contact the other women I decided to reach out to Rachel through LinkedIn

I sent her a simple message introducing myself as Peter's fiance and asking if we could talk her response came within minutes and it shattered what little was left of my world Rachel was completely shocked to learn I existed Peter had told her and everyone at his company that he was single he said he owned his house alone and lived with his two dogs the engagement ring I wore with pride he told people it was just a family heirloom I like wearing Rachel felt terrible and immediately offered to tell me everything we met for coffee last

week end she brought screenshots photos and even hotel receipts their Affair wasn't just during the Vegas conference like I initially thought they had been seeing each other for eight months Peter would fly to her City claiming he had client meetings she came to our city several times and he put her up in hotels using his company card they went on actual dates to restaurants and shows while I was working night shifts at the hospital he was playing house with another woman the most painful part Rachel said Peter often complained about being lonely and to settle

down he even talked about wanting kids soon all while I was at home planning our wedding and dreaming of our future family when I confronted Peter with this new information his reaction shocked me instead of being apologetic he got angry he yelled at me for going behind his back and contacting Rachel said I had no right to involve other people in our private business then he dropped another bombshell that made me question my entire reality Jenny from his office wasn't just another affair she had gotten pregnant 6 months ago Peter paid for her abortion and

never told me Jenny had wanted to keep the baby but Peter threatened to deny paternity if she did he finally admitted this only because Jenny had been messaging him lately threatening to tell me everything I spent that night crying in my car parked outside our house the man I loved had gotten another woman pregnant while planning our wedding he had pressured her into an abortion to keep his secret who was this monster I had spent 5 years with the next morning I finally broke down and told my family everything my mom cried my dad couldn't

even speak he was so angry my brother Mike's reaction was the worst he and Peter had gone fishing just last weekend when Mike learned the truth he drove straight to Peter's office and punched him in the parking lot they had to be separated by security now Mike is facing potential assault charges because my cheating fiance pressed charges against him Peter's family found out too his mom Sarah showed up at Amy's house where I was staying she was crying saying Peter was just going through a difficult phase she said all men make mistakes and I should

be more understanding when I brought up Jenny's pregnancy she said I should be grateful Peter handled it so it wouldn't embarrass me I couldn't believe what I was hearing they were more worried about appearances than the fact that her son had destroyed multiple lives the final blow came yesterday Jenny found me on Facebook and sent me a long message with screenshots of her conversations with Peter in them Peter was cruel and dismissive about me he called me controlling and boring said I was bad in bed and he only proposed because his family kept pressuring him

about marriage he told Jenny he was planning to keep me around for stability while continuing to see other women after marriage that was my Breaking Point while Peter was at work today I went to our house with my brother and some friends we packed all my stuff and the dogs things I left my engagement ring on the kitchen counter with a note that said we're done I blocked his number and all his social media the aftermath has been chaos Peter's Mom is calling everyone in my family begging them to talk sense into me his dad

even offered to pay for Coupes counseling Peter showed up at the hospital during my shift causing such a scene that security had to remove him he's been sending endless emails from different addresses since I blocked his number I've contacted a lawyer about the house and other joint assets I also reached out to Peter's company's HR department with proof he used company funds for his Affairs I know it sounds vindictive but he used our joint savings to pay for hotels with other women I want him to face consequences for once in his life tonight I'm staying

at my parent house cuddled up with Max and Luna I have no idea what tomorrow brings but I know I made the right choice the wedding is officially cancelled I'll deal with a financial Fallout later right now I just need to focus on healing I'll update again when there are more developments thanks again for all the support it really helped me find the strength to walk away instead of accepting his lies update to I wish I could say things have gotten better since my last update but the situation has only gotten Messier the past 2

months have been a roller coaster of Revelations harassment and shocking discoveries about who Peter really is after I moved out and canceled the wedding Peter went into overdrive trying to get me back he shows up at the hospital almost daily with flowers or gifts despite the restraining order I filed last week security had to remove him again when he tried to follow me to my car after my shift his mom Sarah still calls me from different numbers since I blocked her she even showed up at my parents house twice crying about how I'm destroying her

son's life yesterday I finally found out why they're so desperate for me to come back one of Peter's co-workers reached out to me through Linkedin turns out Peter wasn't just using his company card for hotel rooms with Rachel and Jenny he had been embezzling money from his company for over a year he created fake client accounts and expense reports to funnel money into his personal account he used this money to buy expensive gifts for his girlfriends designer bags jewelry even a car for Rachel the company discovered the theft during a routine audit they fired him

immediately are pressing criminal charges the amount he stole is over $100,000 when they investigated his company email they found evidence of him pursuing and harassing multiple female employees three women have filed sexual harassment complaints against him this explains why he's so desperate to keep me around without his job he can't afford the mortgage payments on our house his credit cards are maxed out from spending on his Affairs his mom can't help because she co-signed his car loan last year and his recent unemployment means those payments are falling behind too to they want me to come

back so I can help pay his debts and possibly testify as a character witness if this goes to court the absolute audacity of these people astounds me Peter cheated on me for years with multiple women spent our joint savings on his Affairs stole from his company harassed his co-workers and now wants me to bail him out his mom had the nerve to suggest I take out a loan to help pay his legal fees because that's what family does I contacted my lawyer immediately with this new information we're fighting to get my name off the mortgage

and another joint account accounts Peter already rid our joint savings before I could freeze the account he claims he needed it for legal fees but his mom let slip that he used it to pay back Rachel for some designer stuff she returned the extent of his lies is still unfolding remember how he claimed Jenny had a miscarriage another lie she reached out again to tell me she never was pregnant Peter made up that story when I found their messages to gain sympathy and make me feel bad for her Jenny apologized for not telling me the

truth sooner but said Peter had threatened to reveal compromising photos of her if she contacted me his friend Tom finally came clean too Peter had been cheating since the first year of our relationship the only reason Tom mentioned Rachel at the bar that night was because he thought Peter had finally told me everything apparently Peter used to brag about how easy it was to fool me because I worked nights and trusted him completely I'm working with my lawyer to protect myself financially the house will probably go into foreclosure since Peter can't make payments my lawyer

is trying to ensure my credit doesn't get ruined in the process I've started therapy to deal with all this trauma some days I still can't believe how thoroughly he deceived everyone my brother Mike's assault charges were dropped after Peter's company Shenanigans came to light Peter had bigger legal problems to worry about Mike still wants to in his words finish what he started but I've convinced him to let Karma handle it right now I'm focusing on rebuilding my life I'm looking for a new job in a different city I need a fresh start away from all

this drama Max and Luna are doing well and keeping me safe through all this at least I got the dogs in this mess I'll update again if anything major happens but I think this story is reaching its natural conclusion Peter made his bed now he can lie in it alone update 3 I almost forgot about this account until someone messaged me asking for an update a lot has changed in the past 6 months mostly for the better first the house situation finally resolved itself Peter couldn't make the payments so it went into foreclosure my lawyer

managed to protect my credit score and get my name off all joint accounts I lost some money in the process but I consider it the price of Freedom the dogs and I moved to Boston for a fresh start I got a better paying job at a major hospital here and bought a small condo that I love Peter's life on the other hand has completely Fallen apart the company pressed charges for the embezzlement he took a plea deal last month two years in prison and has to pay back everything he stole his fancy car got repossessed

and he had to move back in with his parents the irony Rachel is is now dating his best friend Tom apparently they got close when she was helping the company build their case against Peter his mom still tries to contact me through mutual friends claiming Peter needs my support now more than ever I blocked everyone who tries to pass on her messages some interesting Revelations came out during the legal proceedings Peter had been stealing from the company almost since he started working there the total amount was closer to $200,000 not $100,000 like initially thought he

spent most of it on his various girlfriends and gambling remember Jenny from his office turns out she wasn't the only cooworker he harassed five women in total came forward with complaints two of them had recordings of him threatening their jobs if they didn't sleep with him my brother Mike and I are closer than ever now he helped me move to Boston and visits often he apologized countless times for ever being friends with Peter but I told him Peter fooled everyone Mike is getting married next year to his longtime girlfriend and I'm his best woman a

much better wedding to look forward to I ran into Sarah Peter's mom at the grocery store when I went home for Thanksgiving she tried to Corner me and show me letters Peter wrote from jail I just walked away the next day she left a long voicemail about how I abandoned her son when he needed me most and how could I be so heartless I sent the recording to my lawyer who reminded her about the no contact order as for me I'm doing better than I ever expected moving to a new city was exactly what I

needed I've made new friends through work and a local dog park group Max and to love our new place especially since it's right next to a big Park I'm casually dating someone I met through work but I'm taking things very slowly my therapist says that's healthy looking back finding out about Peter's cheating was the best thing that could have happened to me yes I lost 5 years and some money but I gained something much more valuable my self-respect and a chance at a genuine honest relationship in the future to everyone who supported me through this

journey thank you to anyone going through something similar it gets better sometimes the worst endings lead to the best Beginnings this will be my final update this chapter of my life is closed and I'm looking forward to writing new ones Max Luna and I are going to be just fine