to so today is a very special day it's a yud is the 10th day of the month ofet it's a day that was decided by our sages that will become a fast day and unfortunately some days of the year are very ignored and they're not really taught about it I mean if you ask now an average Jew what's a it they they don't know and I'm notom saying it in a in a in a way Toom hurt anyone but it's just the the day like seems to be completely ignored and even though a lot of
people fast on the day they don't know why the actual fasting why we're fasting and what really happen on that day and why is it such a special day so today will talk a little bit about what's the con cept of today why is that such an asici day and what can be achieved on this day and the story says that in the first bet mikdash in the first temple a certain individual called was the king of Babel he came and he sieged yush I know if that's the right word but he put a Siege
around Y and that happened on which from that Siege three and a half years later they finally broke the siege and they attack yush and they they destroyed the beta mikdash the First Holy Temple so the simple explanation of what happened on that day is that that's the day that the siege started and three and a half years later when they destroyed the beta mikdash so therefore this is the day that it all started so we fast for that so this is a very uh on the surface explanation of what happened that day but we
want to talk a little bit more in depth what happened on that day and why our sages decided to do a fast on that day cuz we have a few fasts throughout the year the famous one of course is y Kip and that's a fast that was instructed by the Torah to fast but after that we have a few more fasts we have the fast what's called Galia and that's 2 days after y and then we have the 10th ofet and then we have the fast of Esther on the 13th day of and we have
another fast on and we have of course another famous fast which issh these are the fasts that we fast throughout the year and they they they have different meanings to them because the fasts ofalia the 10th of and are fasts that happen something in the past something bad in the past but for example the past fast of yum Kip is is a good fast it's a fast that our our soul our sins as a result will be removed that's something positive it's not something negative and it's also fasting for something that can happen in the
future the fast of Esther is kind of in in in between because it's something that happened in the past but something positive that happened so we're not going to concentrate on that fast right now since Pim is approaching we will start learning a lot about puim like we did the last three weeks before kanuka that we had a lot of class about kanuka in a month will start learning a lot about puim so at the time we'll learn about the fast of Esther but all the other fasts are something bad happened in the past and
we're commemorating that bad situation that happened in the past and of course we don't want it to repeat but if we compare the other fasts to the main one which is y kipur y kipur is a is a positive fast and we want to fast because it cleans us it cleanses our our our soul we get forgiven and then we fast for something that will happen in the future now there are two types of fasts in one group so fasts in that they're not more powerful than Shabbat meaning that if or any other of the
fast besides yam kipur if they fall on Shabbat then the fast gets pushed and that's including the fast of Esther if yam kipur falls on Shabbat we fast on Shabbat we're not allowed to fast on Shabbat but if yam kipur happens to fall on Shabbat then we fast and all the rest of the fasts besides y kipur and it today if they fall on Shabbat then the terminology is that the fast it means it's not more powerful than Shabbat and the fast has to be delayed if you remember a few months ago on the fast
of tshav then the fast tab fell on Shabbat so we fasted on on the 10th of and it was Sunday that's what happened a few months ago which means that Shabbat is more powerful and the fast has to be delayed the only time when we don't delay the fast is Yip also the fast of today it does not push Shabbat Away really yeah oh if it was on Shabbat you would fast the miracle is that never falls on Shabbat it never happened but if should be that fall Shabbat then we would fast on Shabbat and
so we're going to talk about it but there's another fast that also is fasted on Shabbat and this is called if somebody Shalom had a very bad dream then he can fast and the power of the fast can actually anol the the the negativity of the dream cuz ifom I had a dream that has a very negative message somebody died something very bad happened then I'm allowed to fast and with the power of the fast it will break this bad dream so to say this is called fasting after a dreaming to that if I had
a a very bad dream Friday morning I mean I slept between Thursday and Friday and I woke up Friday morning and I had a very bad ER dream I'm allowed to fast on Shabbat now Shabbat you're not allowed to fast Shabbat is a is a an asp specious time Shabbat is a time that we celebrate we we we eat we we we gather all the family together it's not time for fasting but in this particular case I'm allowed to fast on Shabbat now comes a big question on I understand because I'm fasting for something that
will happen in the future that can cancel something bad so to say same thing with t I'm allowed to fast on Shabbat because it's so to say canceling something bad that can happen that potential to happen all the other fast all these fasts is something that happened in the past cannot be changed it happened already then you're not allowed to fast on Shabbat today if it would fall on Shabbat we would have to fast on Shabbat but see seemingly it's something that happened in the past how come now there's another time that was a very
similar situation about a certain individual his name was n he was the king of Egypt that he also Siege he didn't make a fast out of that and there was many other situations there were just as bad and they didn't make a fast out of that so just from that we learn that on on the 10th ofet is a very special day yes The Siege started that resulted later on in a destruction of the first beta mikdash this is a serious thing but we learn from that that it's a very supicious time now on something
happened is the 10th of it's today something special happened that was different than many other of the times on the Heavenly Court they gathered together and they wanted to see and to give a an opportunity so to say for the Jews to do cha and they said let's see what happens nothing happened on there wasn't any any War there wasn't any killing there one wasn't any destruction just the Army showed up they woke up in the morning they opened the window what to see an army surrounding yush on that day the Heavenly Court gathered together
a cabinet meeting and they say okay let's see what they're going to do let's see if they're going to do chuva and if they're going to do Chua then The Siege will be removed and if they don't do Chua let's see what's going to happen onab now tab was already a bad day for the Jews way before the time of the Holy Temple I mean the first time in tab is when the the the the tablets were broken the golden calf many other things happened on TSH way before the building of the BET mikdash of
course we know the first temple and the second temple both got destroyed on is is we known as a very bad day that day belongs to the Sam he has control over that day that's why many many bad things happened to the Jews on that day but on the day of of the 10 of tet the Heavenly Court sat together and they're like okay let's see let's see what's going to happen let's give them an opportunity and if they do Chua then The Siege and the decree will be an olded and if they Shalom don't
do Chua then we'll see what's going to happen and they went through three years like that because the The Siege was three and a half years the first year the Court got together and they're like okay let's see what they're going to do they waited waited waited okay they said okay you know what let's give them another year chance and in that year there was a Siege came the next and they're like okay let's see if today they're going to do Chua after three years that they gave them the opportunity to do Chua they did
not do Chua and then they said okay now has to come the destruction that's why on the First Holy Temple was destroyed by the king of B he came and he destroyed the walls entered in y and burned the BET mikdash down which just in itself it's a day of mour because we lost the Holy Temple we don't even know what it means to us to lose the Holy Temple cuz we never saw it if we would see the Holy Temple and then to lose it then we would really have some type of a feeling
what does it mean now the difference between all the other pass and this specifically day is that every year on a the Heavenly Court gathers again together to see if we did Chua or not now of course the second beta mikdash already was destroyed now we don't have a holy Temple but every year on the 10th ofet there's a cabinet meeting the lot like the United United Nations they're all gathered together here the Heavenly court is gathered together to see if we will do CH if we did CH and what's going to happen on the
coming TSH is the holy Temple will stay destroyed or if it's going to get rebuilt this is the day that is decided in sham what's going to happen for the next coming year so it seems like in the last hundreds of years more to be exact almost 2,000 years every time on we did not do the appropriate CH that the Heavenly Court decided that the temple will stay destroyed and we're not going to be redeemed and then a whole year goes back again and GAP again and back again every year that's what happens on this
day so not only we were commemorating the siege that happened that later on resulted in the destruction of the temple rather today as we speak there's a meeting in shamim in the heavens if if our cha is good enough for us to receive the Redemption which means that today we have the opportunity to change something in the heavens that this coming year in tshav it says that the days will become days of now every in the last couple hundred years close to 2,000 years obviously the decision was that the the situation will stay the same
that we don't have bet mikdash and is remaining a day of morning but today we have the ability with our fasts with our prayers with our chuva with our actions sorry to to influence so to say the Heavenly court that this coming TSH will be a day of sim when exactly they don't tell us but that's the day that could be done that's how supicious this day is to a point that if that if not if the 10th of would fall on Shabbat we would fast on Shabbat because we're fasting on something that can happen
in the future not something that happened in the past and that's how powerful this day is and it's so powerful that the makes it that everybody's like okay okay it's just another day to a point that on ifom a person is sick he still has to fast fast only if a person is in a life danger situation he's allowed to stop the fast on yum kip but on Yip if a person just has a sore throat or a fever he has to fast and on the other holidays if a person has a sickness but he's
not in life dangering sickness he's exempt from the past from the fast a woman that that is pregnant a woman that is breastfeeding a woman that just gave birth is exempt from the past from the fast on these fasts because there's no life danger so people tend to be like okay you know it's not such an important fast let me just skip it but the truth is that the tenth of theet is equivalent so to say in the power of yum kipur of what can be achieved in the future not in the past not to
forgive my sins but I can now influence the the decision of the Heavenly Court if this year we're going to have bet mdash or not and that's how powerful this day is this is the day that one needs to do CH this is the day that we need to reflect and not to look necessarily in my domain if I what what do I need to do Chua for we spoke about it now just the class before that I have to do Chua today is a very special Chua that I have to do because the first
beta mikdash was destroyed from three sins idol worship Bloodshed and forbidden relations that's where the the the the the bet mikdash the holyo was destroyed since the sin was revealed then the length of the Exile was revealed when they went out to Exile the prophet told them you're going to be in exile for 70 years and sure enough 67 years later happened the story with puim 3 years later they came back to El isra the the Exile finished the second bet mikash was destroyed from one sin that's called hating somebody for no reason since the
sin is not revealed then the length of the Exile is not revealed and a lot of people question what does it mean the sin is not revealed so if Shalom I do now idol worship or I do blooded or I I I I have forbidden relation it's out in the obvious I mean you don't have it in the street but it's an obvious act hating somebody for no reason it's in the depth of my heart nobody can see it I cannot smile to you and be your best friend and compliment you and you wow and
and in my heart hate you hate you to a point that I can't stand you this is for no reason and even if I have a good reason I still am not obligated in hating you I'm obligated not to hate you we spoke about it last week in the in the class about the you're not allowed to hate a person you have to forgive that person doesn't matter what they did because it came from the K not from that person that person is a is an emissary if I'm hating a certain individual cuz he did
something to me I'm now sinning this is a severe sin I'm not allowed to to hate that person it's me now now going against the kadh I do not believe that it's a kadh that sent me that person to do that thing to me and I'm hating that individual the when you're thinking of it so the CH that I need to do today and I have to do it every day but today is the day is the chu for and this is why we're still in Exile you asked before I mean I gave you my
theory I believe that we are in Exile only because of and in and and to take it to more of a personal note in my personal near-death experience when I was revealed many many things in sh What was the most obvious why we're not in we're not redeemed it is only because it's it's like as if I saw the damage in sham because our problems in this world and they say when there is a separation in the world below there's there going to be a separation in a world world above and I saw in my
experience how the per the separation in the world below is causing the separation in the world above and that's the only thing that causes sorrow to the Kosh it doesn't cause sorrow to the Kosh when I don't pray in a minion or if I lie or if I cheat he knows he sends the what causes Sadness and Sorrow to the Kosh is that I hate another person because he did something to me or even even worse if he didn't do anything to me yeah or whatever has many branches is not just me hating you for
whatever reason is a trunk and from the trunk has many many branches is many many different categories but the point is that this is my personal belief why we're still in Exile because we did not correct the of there's not enough there's not enough of it even there's a lot of Charity going on and a lot of movement and awareness and it's not enough because each one of us has to do their own and each and every one of us if they find one dust of to another Jew then he's holding responsibility and this is
the Chua we need to do not today we're not doing chuva if I stole if I didn't steal or if I lied or if I didn't do a certain Mitzvah today the Chua I need to focus on is how much I have towards another person how many people am I hating how many people I really am not liking or I dislike because they said something because they did something or whatever and our sages say who is a who is a rich person who's happy in his portion but there are the more right way to analyze
it who is the right the the rich person who's the one who's happy in the portion of his friend not his own portion that's one level but the real level that I need to strive for is the level that I'm happy with the portion of my friend not to be jealous of my friend cuz he has a nicer home than me and not to be jealous of my friend cuz his wife is more pretty or to be jealous of another individual cuz he's more successful or he's more wiser than me and I'm learning in Yesa
for 10 years and I don't know nothing and this guy came and after 1 month he knows the Torah inside out and there are so many ways so many examples I'm giving a few out of many the reality is that most people they hate another individual not right now because he did something to them cuz he's better he's more successful he's more attractive he's more whatever this jealousy this jealousy that people cannot handle and it says it's like the jealousy makes your bones rot and this is the is is a there's one category of that
a person did something to me and I hate him even if I have a good reason to hate him that person really hurt me then we talked about it last week and if you weren't here watch the video of last week's para where I'm talking about that hem sent that person we have no right to be upset at that person and if I'm holding Grudge to a certain individual because he did something to me then I'm fooling myself and I'm going completely against hem not believing that Hashem sent that person the fact that that person
was chosen to be the shal that's a whole different thing I have to forgive that person 100% because that person was just used as a as a as a has a stick to to hit me when I'm going to get upset with the stick I have to get upset with the one who hits with the stick that's one type of sinam the real that we unfortunately all suffer from is that I hate somebody cuz he's better than me in either he's better than me in business either he's more successful than me in anything that he
does he's more wiser than me he's more learned than me people more people like him than me me whatever this is this boils down to this jealousy that that person is better than me and that's the root of the and that's why I want to take the advice of my sages that says that I'm happy I'm happy that you have a lot of money you should have even more money and I'm happy your wife is beautiful and I'm happy you're smart and I'm happy you're successful the fact that I'm not happy for somebody because they
do something better than me this is the and unfortunately we meet it every day and I have to come to my own realization if I'm possessing possessing this sin and you know I'm going to go a little bit to a more personal level and and we have here a beautiful Center that with blood and tears and sweats took to bring this place people think that we just came and found a piece of real estate this is eight years of hard work that people think that they deserve some credit to it's whatever whoever deserves credit there
are a lot of people who are involved and whoever deserves credit gets the credit but people see a very external thing they see somebody coming and up opening a place and with that and I already told my wife wait wait till we open the doors and you'll see who's your real who's your real friends and who's who's a happy for you and who's a there's a word in Hebrew it's called I don't even know how you say it in English is to to to envious excuse me envious no le again is to to be really
happy for somebody and to tell him I'm very happy for your success but honestly and I told my wife just wait for the day this door is going to be open and you really going to see the true colors of everybody who's happy for you and who's jealous of you and who's upset of you and who's and sure enough the day came that the right people showed everybody showed the right colors who was really happy who was angry who was upset who was jealous who went against and you see here a group of individuals that
coming to do something good something to help the community with hard work this is not something that just came from Sham this years of hard work years of planning and unfortunately you see people that are that that they have inside in the depth of their n this jealousy that why did they come and do something that I would wanted to do how come somebody else is more successful than me why is this working out like this and like that and I don't want to get into too much of it because I don't like emphasizing negative
things but it's a time to give an example of you see how a person can be successful himself and have still hate to another person that did not do anything toward them just because it's you know I didn't do nothing here I'm not taking any credit it's only the I'm the axe the the a in the hand of the wood wood Chopper I don't do anything I follow instructions from above I do what wants me to do and that's it and the success is theh failures of theh and success of the I don't attribute any
of any success to myself I just do what I need to do and I do it for the sake of the K but unfortunately and I'm just giving one example a man I'm this an example CU you all hear local and and and it's no to us that you see that people that have this sting like a coats like how do you say a coats like a thorn stuck in the depth of the sh they cannot stand to see somebody else doing something good and go figure out why and that's not that I came and
I did something to you that's I can somehow even understand you have a reason but unfortunately we experience in many situations I'm giving my example I bet you that each and every one of you can now raise their hand and give their own example how they didn't didn't do anything and they just did what they're supposed to do and somebody else came and I don't like it why you why you and that's the and that's why the temple was destroyed because even the sages that were in such a high level they also had at the
time of the students of RAB AKA what they will have their was like why did you come with the K and not me I'm very learned how could I not figure out this unbelievable depth in the Toran and you had to do it and unfortunately we all have it we all have it in some type of way I have to recognize it in myself and if I don't recognize it in myself then I'm failing I'm taking part of it and it's very easy to say no no no I like everybody and I accept everybody and
I'm every I'm good with everybody it's very easy to say that but you have to do your own that's why we fast now fast is because I'm sort to say torturing myself I'm not comfortable right now I'm hungry I want to drink a cup of coffee I'm starving I need nothing from the morning it's 1:00 already I'm hungry so I'm not a comfortable place this is not to torture me this is to come make me realize wait a minute I I have to now look in the depth of Mya and take responsibility and not to
be selfish and not to be self-centered and not to be superficial and not to be like oh the whole world owes me something no world doesn't owe you anything and the point is that I need to be honest with myself and I have to be true to myself that's what the is looking at that's right now the Heavenly Court are sitting down up there and looking down and they want to see if we're really true to ourselves if we deserve to get the BET mikdash and this year we're not going to be deserving that if
we're going to get another without mikdash our situation is not going to be that great so it means that each and every one of us has to look in me and to see do I have this hate or resentment to somebody because they're very better than me so what if they're better than me I'm good in what I'm doing I have this talent and everybody else has a different talent and the world was created was created in a way that everybody has their own thing their own I have to concentrate on my in the world
and I read an very interesting letter from thebe of a certain individ a certain family and it was a very long letter I'm not going to get into all the details but it was asking the the family had a special need child and and they were asking the the rabbi If the child should you know how to to to behave with a child and the rabi was very firm saying even though the child is challenged in the mental way he still has to do mitv he still has to givea even if it's hard for then
hold the hand and make him put the Saka he still has to wear he still has to keep kosher he still have to keep Shabbat so what if the child is is different and he has some type of a challenge that does not exempt him from to do the yeah of course according maybe to is considered a or whatever we're not going to get into that but why take it away from the Nisha so what if he can't handle it by himself and and what what I found interesting about this certain letter is that the
the the was referring whether it was the mother or the father and saying that's your in the world you have to take care of that Hashem gave you this Nish that's your don't looking go looking around for new adventures hasem gave you this to take care of you take care of this Nish now you make sure that this Nish gets Co of food and keeps Shabbat and and and hears Torah and wears SE and does everything and what I took from that is that we all have a in this world every one of us came
down to the world to do some type of a is a Emissary is is a mission now when I'm looking at the the mission of my friend and I'm jealous because he has a better Mission so to say or he seems like he's doing it better I'm not focusing on my mission if I'm looking now at my other neighbors actions I'm not focusing on myself cuz I'm busy now looking at that person and that person and that person and so I'm beating the point I'm missing the point I came to the world with my mission
I have a talent we all have talents there's no such a thing that an individual was brought down to the world and doesn't have a talent one is a musician one is an artist one is a brilliant mind one is is is has unbelievable patient everyone has talents and that Talent was given to me to utilize it to and if I don't do that I'm I'm I'm wasting my time and if I'm now looking outside to my neighbor's Courtyard to see what he's doing that I'm not doing my part and this is the that I'm
looking at somebody else this is k k is jealousy why jealous you're not happy with what hasm gave you that's our sag say who's real rich person I'm happy with what I have so what if my child is a little bit wild so what if I have problems witha I'm I have to be happy with what hasm gave me and if I'm looking out died oh it's not fair this is what I hear the most it's not fair this world is not based on Fair this my kids tell me it's not fair not looking for
being fair here don't look for fair there's no something fair in this world I have to look inside me and our sages explained that when we left out of MIT the first thing that hasem told usem says you build me a sanctuary and I will dwell in you amazingly there's two words that is mentioning here mishkan and mikdash it's two different things mishan is a temporary Tabernacle that's what they had in the desert mikdash is a permanent that's the difference between mikdash and mishan but our sages teach us that I have to build a mikdash
for the kadosh and only when I build a mikdash a sanctuary a holy place that's when is going to dwell in me so if I'm busy looking outside what what am how am I building my own mikdash how am I going to build my own holy Tabernacle in me that Hashem will dwell in me if I'm busy looking at everybody else and and and running criticism so today is the day that we have the opportunity to change the decree in the Heavenly court that they will decide that this year we're going to celebrate the shab
with mdash is a very specious day the day that's the day mashia was born so right now is in the control of the Sam of the of the devil the Satan he's holding possession of the day that's why all these bad things can happen on that day but we want to take it out we want to get that day back that's why it says in the future this day will turn to a celebration in the future going to be a very supicious day we're going to have a big party and today is the day that
I can change the Heavenly Court's mind this is a a very special and supicious day and I do it by doing Chua but not Chua right now for if I stole something or if I lied or if I owe somebody money that I have to do regardless I have to do CH am I holding any in me am I hating another Jew or another individual for no reason so first of all if I do have a reason okay so a person has to forgive because that person did not do anything somebody comes down and hurts
me I should be only upset at myself that I aroused this dog to come and bite me and that per particular person was chosen by a God to be sent to me to sting me I have no right to be upset at that person right now I have to completely forgive that person and my issue right now is between me and theh if the has an issue with me so he's sending somebody to poke me but in a more deeper level I have to do my right if I'm really 100% happy for everybody around me
my friend now gets married I should be happy for him my friend now was was able to save money to buy a house I should be genuinely happy for my friend that he was able to buy a home unfortunately in most cases I'm not happy for my friend that they did something better than me they were more successful than me I'm learning every day a page of I didn't finish the sh yet I have a friend who finishes a tractate every three months what I'm going to be envied him now no so he has a
good mind he's remembering it good he's able to to go through it 12 years I'm learning I didn't finish the whole well is that for me now a reasonable to be upset at somebody that does it sits across to me in the yesima so he's more smarter than me I should be genuinely happy that he's able to achieve his and my neighbor now builds a bigger home than me what is this that's all nonsense cuz somebody has a nicer car or he has a better job it's it's really all nonsense this is the that I
canot stand the success of my neighbor or my fellow person and then is the and this is the CH that I have to do today and as long as we don't correct it is going to remain the day that we mourn the destruction of the BET mikdash and we're going to still stay in Exile we're going to still fight and battle this Exile and it's just going to go worse and worse and worse and I have to go out of my out of my limitation and jump out of my body and say listen we all
want mashia we all want bet mdash it's good for everybody I have to go above my limitations and not to be what's called to have is like this not happy for somebody else basically no evil eyes is that now you see our neighbors here they're building wow building a fancy building you know a fancy is going to look I'm happy now they're making the whole neighborhood look better that neighbor is upset suing them you're building high you're blocking my air you this is a why are you jealous cuz he has money and he's building a
nice house let him enjoy let him enjoy it he's making the neighborhood the value of the homes are going now higher because he's building a nice home this is this is a narrow eye that I see see is somebody driving with a nice car everybody's like it's probably stolen he stole the money he he cheap in business why are you so so upset why are you so jealous and I'm giving one example out of thousands thousands how many neighbors fight all day long for nonsense cuz your child is more brighter than my child and so
much nonsense and this is the don't try to look for a different definition this is the and this is why we don't have bet mikdash because when I'm praying in sh I know that the guy next to me thinks in his mind oh I'm more hoier than him cuz I came 2 minutes before him and I just saw him do like this and like that you can feel the energy for people around you why do you think you're more holier than me cuz you came 5 minutes before me to the synagogue why why you even
why are you even projecting such a a feeling and sometimes you go to I mean you don't feel it maybe sometimes I go to different synagogues I feel like the hate because I look a certain way why you hate me because I'm dressed a certain way way cuz I I attach myself to a certain group cuz I follow a certain Rabbi then you hate me because you don't like that group this is how stupid excuse my language this is how to what level it comes to a point that some individual are rejected from certain congregation
because they belong to a different group and their cult is a little bit longer and they pronounce the word a little bit different and people hate you for that that's how ridiculous the goes to so there's no point of giving more examples the point is to take from that that we all carry that it's some type of a negative poison that belongs to the s to the devil that he puts it inside of me that I cannot find 100% happiness in somebody else and that's the PO of the poison that kills me it eats me
alive jealousy is the worst worst attribute a character trait a person have it it'ss the person from inside that's why it says that it makes the bones rot is this jealousy and in a very refined way you don't believe in the kadh you I'm not saying you I'm saying you as a as an individual if you have jealousy you really I'm sorry to tell you you have a very big lack of belief in a kadh cuz you think that you deserve more than that person and if that person has something better than you that's the
will of the k it's not the will of anybody else doesn't mean that he's better that's what the Kosh wants he wants him to have more money or a nice how or more kids or more success and if somebody has more success I have to respect that person because it means that in the eyes of the sees good in him then he gives me more more money and more success and more wisdom then I have to have somewhat of respect oh means that AEM has seem favorably the ramban says in the that if you see
a person that is with you have to respect him because hem decided to give him money the point to take from that is to be happy with what I have to take the advice of our sages who is the rich person the one who's happy with what he has but not means his part but can also be read your friends part your part that do doesn't belong to you and this calls in Hebrew it's called leenen means to I don't know it must be a word in English that I really I'm happy for my friend
and I come and I tell him I'm happy for you I'm happy that your your your your hard work came to fruition I'm happy that sees good in in his eyes and he's blessing you with a wife and kids Anda but the point is to really be happy and not to carry this anger and this jealousy why him and not me this is is going against the because basically saying I'm not happy with what you're giving me you gave him more money than me which is and it all boils down to one thing that this
is what causes us to be in Exile because if I'm in if I'm in my personal Exile I can not go out of my limitation means that I'm limited means that I'm in Exile so I'm reflecting this Exile this galute to the rest of the world and that's why we're all in Exile and we are in our personal Exile and we as a result from that we are in a in a in a what's called G it's everybody we know everybody's in in in this Exile and today I still have another 5 hours to pray
and to do chuva and to cleans this to get it out of me get rid of this get rid of this of this negativity and this this disease just get rid of it and that's the time to arouse the Heavenly coure to say we want we want the G we want mashah enough is enough we can't stand this anymore nobody stands this anymore and the thing is that when you hate another person when you're jealous of another person it eats you from inside eats you like acid from inside who needs this headache it's the opposite
of what the Kos wants and it just births negative ity and anger and animosity and jealousy and hate and and all these bad things who needs all this headache and then they're looking up in sh they're saying I'm going to send you the bet mikdash for you what for you to hate each other even more you know there's a a parable a story that there was once a king and he had one son and he created for him this unbelievable garment he went to the best tailor he bought the best fabric everything was the best
and he tailored to his son this unbelievable suit the son was a little boy he went outside and played ruined the suit completely ripped it to Pieces got dirty and smashed and completely ruined this garment okay the king says okay it's a little kid he doesn't understand I'll make him another one this time I'm going to make it even twice better and he bought even more expensive Fabric and better tailor and he made an unbelievable garment gives it to the kid and the same thing the kid goes out and plays and ruins it and rips
it and tears it and completely destroys it the father says okay you know it's a little child now I'm going to give him I'm going to create another garment and this time is going to be 100 times better than the second and the first it's going to be from unbelievable materials and it's going to have the best best tailor work on it and he creates this unbelievable garment and then he comes to his son he says you see this garments I'm not giving it to you this time I'm hanging it here and when you learn
to behave and you're going to be mature and you're not going to go outside and destroy it then I'll give it back to you then it's when you're going to gain it and this is the parable of our Three Holy temples the first temple was beautiful Hashem gave us the temple we went and destroyed it says okay they're children they don't know what they're doing build a nice second man what was nicer that was destroyed too now hasm says okay I understand I got the point and hasm built the third bet mikdash the Third Temple
was built in sham and he's showing it to us on certain days he's saying he see you see but I'm not giving it to you now you're going to really really you have to work on yourself and when you work on yourself I'll give you the BET mikdash and today we have the opportunity of actually getting it back to and nying the decree to convincing the Heavenly Court by saying we're worthy we want it we really want it please this time we're going to do it we have the opportunity to convince the kadh and mainly
the Heavenly Court to receive the whole the third B of mdash but it all depends on us and it has nothing to do with anything else but this hate and jealousy and animosity and Grudge that I'm holding against another person because it seems like he's better than me smarter than me more successful than me and why do I not deserve that and that's what kills everybody is what I why him and not me so today is the day to De to diminish myself and to understand that I'm also great in something I might not be
smart like you and I I might not be rich like you and I might not be an amazing speaker like you but I have something amazing in me that's my that's what I have to focus on if we focus on what we need to do we will change the opinions of the Heavenly court that this will turn to days of Happiness even before this fast is over we're going to get to see mdash and have in the Holy Temple with mashia just for our own sake and happiness is just learn to to not to just
to accept things how they are and be happy for everybody and be happy for everybody around me my kids my parents my my sometimes it goes into families siblings are jealous from each other I sometimes you see parents they're upset the child is more successful it goes to to to disgusting places and really what it creates it creates separations and hate and anger who needs it we don't need it so B today we will reach that day that we can overpower this this darkness and go out of our imitations and this will be a day
of happiness and we should Merit to see the coming of the third bet mikdash the coming of Mia and we should only know good
